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Calm in Chaos, Tigers and Strawberries · Lavender Mind

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  Welcome to Lavender Mine podcast,
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  a podcast to help anyone remember
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  how to live only in this moment
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  because it's the only 1 we have.
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  There's this cool story that I heard in
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  1 of my mindfulness classes, and it's about
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  a man. Of course, it's fictional.
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  It's about a man that is being chased
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  by a tiger, and he
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  doesn't know where to go. So he looks
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  up and he
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  sees a cliff, so he climbs to get
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  away from or try to get away from
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  the tiger.
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  And when he
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  is
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  climbing up,
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  he... There was actually a rope, he climbs
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  up the rope. And
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  when he gets to the top and actually
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  is able to get away from the tiger.
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  He looks up, and there's this little mouse
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  chewing on his rope.
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  And
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  he notices that
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  the rope is about to go. So he's
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  looking at death
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  up and down, looking at it from the
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  little mouse chewing his rope, what a bummer
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  and then looking down and there is a
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  tiger that's gonna eat him. So in this
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  moment, he is about to die. And so
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  he
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  looks
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  right in front of his face and there
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  are some strawberries. And so
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  he chooses to
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  not completely freak out, which I don't even
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  know how. Of course, is a story
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  and take the berry and just enjoy the
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  moment that he's in, and this is such
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  a great reminder that
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  even on our worst days,
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  we can just take each moment by moment
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  and try to enjoy it or
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  live at the best that we can. Sometimes
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  that's really hard depending on what you have
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  going on, but I love of the story
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  because it just really drives home, but at
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  this
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  man's
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  death. He remembered to just really live in
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  the moment and enjoy the delicious strawberry right
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  in front of his eyes.
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  And sometimes we have
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  so much beauty and love right around us,
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  and we miss it because
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  or caught in her heads
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  worrying about something that's coming up in the
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  future or
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  really stuck about something that happened yesterday or
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  a year ago or 5 years ago.
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  This is just a reminder that it is
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  possible to have that e
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  that
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  calm state in the middle of chaos,
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  and so
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  that's a great story to just keep
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  in your mind when you're having 1 of
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  those days.
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  Feeling calm in the middle of chaos can
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  be really really difficult.
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  I know I love the idea of the
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  word e,
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  which means just just stay calm and stable
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  and difficult
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  situations, and I really do believe that mindfulness
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  techniques and just
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  a few of the tips that I'll share
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  today really do help when
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  you are having, like, a crazy day. You
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  know, some days are just
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  off the chart with all the things that
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  come your way, like, your roof is leaking,
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  the coffee pot breaks, you get a flat
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  sometimes it's just unbearable when they're back to
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  back in 1 day, you know, the timing
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  is just so close together that you're, like,
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  what the heck?
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  There is this possibility to tap into a
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  quiet stillness inside when these things come our
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  way because as humans, we know that they
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  just come our way, whether we want them
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  or not, you have to deal with it.
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  Right.
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  So
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  this quiet stillness, you know, what is that
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  all about and how do we cultivate it?
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  I'd love to know how you cultivate it
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  for yourself and
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  what personally brings you calm, what calms you
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  down? Maybe it's...
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  I don't know a cat video, I know
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  right now, as I speak, I have 14
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  teenagers on my couch. Watching animal planet, and
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  I had to stop myself because I was,
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  like, in this calm tran,
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  watching these
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  moms and their cubs just
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  bond in China. It was like some,
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  pandas, so beautiful the footage. That's a very
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  calming
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  technique. If if you're not aware of animal
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  planet wow, you could really release sit there
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  for hours and just really calm down. If
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  you don't have hours to watch animal planet.
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  There are some other ideas that I'm gonna
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  share today.
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  You probably have someone on board for yourself,
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  Maybe it's prayer, reading the bible.
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  Positive podcasts,
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  pictures.
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  I know my animals bring me a lot
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  of calm, except for the mess that they
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  make, of course. Just like my teenagers. They
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  cause a little bit of mess, but I
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  love them. Some ideas around how we can
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  not lose our mind and stay centered during
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  those days that are just really be tough.
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  Some ideas are to get outside and to
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  change our state.
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  Anytime we're in nature, it changes our state
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  and helps us to
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  ground and center ourself. That's a grounding technique.
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  Reminding ourselves that, you know, we've dealt with
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  crummy days before and we've survived and
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  All these things make us stronger, if that
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  fails watching a funny cat video, You know,
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  that always helps me too. Also,
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  mindfulness, just staying aware of what's happening in
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  the moment,
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  remembering that we cannot control
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  our future. We don't have to stress over
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  it because we don't even know what it's
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  gonna look like. We can always make a
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  plan, but not to stress over the future.
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  And not to rum over the past because
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  all we have is this moment and gratitude
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  is another always helpful to shift our focus
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  from what we're missing to what we have,
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  and then breath work, you know, notice in
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  your body,
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  where you're holding that stress during that difficult
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  day. I carry a bunch of stress in
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  my shoulders. It's like, I have, like, a
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  backpack on of stress. And so I can...
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  And the way to deal with us is
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  to
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  find the location in your body that you're
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  holding on to that and just mentally
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  release it and just take some deep breaths
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  to try and let that go.
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  And just again, remembering all you have is
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  now. The feature might be different from your
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  thoughts
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  about it, and the past is over, all
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  we can do is learn from it. This
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  thought pattern alone doesn't really help us to
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  find that e that we're looking for in
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  our life.
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  I hope this helps. I hope together we
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  can plant some seeds of resilience, and joy,
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  have an amazing day.