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What’s Next? · Ok But Are You Good?

• 0:04
  SPEAKER_00: Hi there.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm your host, Corinne, and this is OkayBit Are You Good?
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  SPEAKER_00: Where we check in ourselves on a weekly basis to see how we're doing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Are we living our best lives or are we just trying to get by?
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  SPEAKER_00: Another solid week, no complaints.
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  SPEAKER_00: It really does feel like living the dream, and it's still so surreal.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it's good.
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  SPEAKER_00: I hope you guys are also having a great week.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if not, I hope it gets better.
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  SPEAKER_00: So let's get into it, shall we?
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  SPEAKER_00: Last week we talked about how much has changed, where we've landed in these last five years.
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  SPEAKER_00: And after recording that episode, I really was thinking like, what is the next five years of my life gonna be?
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  SPEAKER_00: I feel like I've gotten to where I want to be.
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  SPEAKER_00: I've got a good hands-level on my mental and my physical health and my routine and schedule.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's kind of like I feel like I've accomplished what I've needed to accomplish.
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  SPEAKER_00: And, you know, I'm I'm living a normal, boring adult life.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I couldn't ask for anything more because a couple of years ago, this is what I wanted.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I feel good.
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  SPEAKER_00: But what is to come in these next couple years?
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  SPEAKER_00: I've always known what I've wanted, or I've been told what to do.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, go to school, graduate, get a job, get married, get a house, move somewhere.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's always something to focus on, and another goal to accomplish for my future.
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  SPEAKER_00: But now I'm at a new chapter in my life that I'm 30.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm I'm still young, but getting older.
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  SPEAKER_00: And there's a lot of real life decisions I have to make.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's for once, it feels like it's all up to me.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not pressure to go to school and graduate and get a job.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's just like, okay, you've hit all these milestones.
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  SPEAKER_00: What's next?
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  SPEAKER_00: And honestly, I have no idea, but that's what we're gonna talk about today.
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  SPEAKER_00: I've hit that point in adulthood where I don't know my next goals.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, that checklist of mine, it's getting shorter.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's not because like life is over, I've accomplished everything.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's just like the world is very much my oyster right now, and I don't know what I want to do with it because I can't predict the future.
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  SPEAKER_00: I can't decide which way to go, left or right, go backwards, you know, forwards.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's totally up to me.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's really exciting and fascinating, but it's also like really terrifying because are we gonna start our own family?
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  SPEAKER_00: When's the right time to do that?
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  SPEAKER_00: Should we move?
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  SPEAKER_00: Do we switch career goals?
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  SPEAKER_00: Do we pick up new hobbies?
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  SPEAKER_00: Do we just like make these drastic changes?
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  SPEAKER_00: Or do we like settle and just continue to live the life we're living?
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  SPEAKER_00: And these aren't really decisions that I think you should be like Googling and asking other people.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like you can, you can still search it up and you can still like observe and look at like what's working for other people, what's not.
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  SPEAKER_00: But the the decision of the unknown is terrifying and exciting.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's just a mix of emotions, and I don't know where life is gonna take me right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I don't think I've ever been in this position.
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  SPEAKER_00: I I think I've always just had my checklist and knowing where what I gotta do and how I'll feel successful in my life.
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  SPEAKER_00: And lately, I think it's just because I've been around so many of my cousins and my friends that have had kids.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's like, oh, like, okay, like, is this the route we want to take?
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  SPEAKER_00: Do we want to start a family?
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  SPEAKER_00: Do we still have time?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because I feel like my ideal window is getting shorter.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's like, am I even happy where I'm living?
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  SPEAKER_00: I always talk about I want to move to New York.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it's like, is that actually a reality of mine?
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  SPEAKER_00: Or am I just like saying stuff to say it?
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  SPEAKER_00: Probably a mix of both.
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  SPEAKER_00: And just even simpler, like, what do I want my everyday life to look like?
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  SPEAKER_00: Is am I gonna keep my same routines and schedule?
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  SPEAKER_00: It'd be too easy if that was what could happen.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think with age and time, things do have to shift, and what works and what doesn't work, you figure it out as you go.
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  SPEAKER_00: Obviously, brush your teeth every day.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, and I'm like, where do I see myself in five years?
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  SPEAKER_00: I really don't know.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't think I want to be exactly where I am right now, and I think that's important.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think something will shift.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't know what.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's not really goals with deadlines.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's this is my real life of figuring it out on my own.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because the beauty of being an adult is no one can really tell you what to do, or they shouldn't be, depending on the situation.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's up to me and what I want in these next five years.
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  SPEAKER_00: 10, 20, you know, just the rest of my life.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, what's gonna happen?
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  SPEAKER_00: I definitely think since I turned 30, I've been going through like a crisis.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's just the number, but it really is like, okay, like you're not in your 20s anymore.
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  SPEAKER_00: Life is looking different.
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  SPEAKER_00: You actually have to make real life decisions.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can't just like completely be going out and having fun and not worrying about like what the next month, few months brings because you know you already knew what you want to accomplish.
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  SPEAKER_00: In early 20s, I feel like my life was just really focused on achieving my goals, working hard, making it to the point in in life that I am now.
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  SPEAKER_00: And now where I'm at, I'm like, okay, growth looks different.
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  SPEAKER_00: These goals look different because I don't even know what my goals are.
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  SPEAKER_00: I will figure my goals out.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, I just they have to be more intentional.
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  SPEAKER_00: They need to be like held a little bit closer to my chest.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's like something I don't need to share with everyone because it's my business, the kind of relationships I want to invest in, the kind of traditions I want to create in my life, and just the kind of person I want to be every day moving forward.
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  SPEAKER_00: I've like put a lot of thought into this and also not because I don't even know what I want, but I'm slowly learning.
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  SPEAKER_00: Life isn't just all about reaching milestones anymore.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's about building the life that I want for the next 50 years.
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  SPEAKER_00: And as someone that likes to know what's going on, what they gotta work towards, you know, I'm a big type A planner, scheduler.
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  SPEAKER_00: So this is new territory, not knowing what's to come and that it's all up to me because I like to know what's what I have to work towards.
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  SPEAKER_00: I like being told it's actually crazy because I don't like anyone telling me what to do, but like I also like it at the same time of like, okay, you gotta do this and do that and work on this goal.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, school is very good for me, but there's no one guiding me.
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  SPEAKER_00: I am my director in this life.
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  SPEAKER_00: I am I am the tour guide in this life of mine.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I think just right now, it's like it's just up to the unknown and figuring it out as I go and focusing on what I can control, what I want in my life, what brings me happiness.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I want to keep showing up for my loved ones.
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  SPEAKER_00: I want to keep showing up for myself.
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  SPEAKER_00: I want to keep up my workout routine.
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  SPEAKER_00: I want to keep doing this podcast, I want to keep challenging myself challenging myself and experiencing new things and like getting out of my comfort zone, whatever that looks like.
• 7:35
  SPEAKER_00: And it's it's like just going with the flow and being in the moment and being present and putting so much effort into.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because I know I don't need all the answers right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't have them, so I just have to accept that it will work itself out and I'll figure it out and I'll put my energy towards things that work for me and matter.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when the time comes that I have to make these big life changes, I will make them because I have no other choice.
• 8:02
  SPEAKER_00: So it's kind of just like really being being present and just enjoying where I'm at right now and like remembering that.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is my reminder.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm telling myself that right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I have to like remind myself, be excited that you have this opportunity to just keep living your best life.
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  SPEAKER_00: You figured it out this far, and you just have to run with it and hope that it all works out because it has to, because why else am I doing what I'm doing to be living my best life?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because it's not so much about what I want to accomplish, like all these long-term goals right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's more just like, what am I gonna do to feel happy that day?
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  SPEAKER_00: What kind of just like life I want to wake up to?
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, I think it's that simple.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the rest will follow.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, like I have to like maintain that mindset or else I'll go crazy.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's so, it's so surreal to be at this point in my life where like, I don't know what's gonna happen next.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I just have to trust that it's all gonna work out because everyone has different goals now.
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  SPEAKER_00: People are still, you're gonna have people so focused on their careers, maybe they're going back to school, maybe they're getting married, maybe they're not getting married, and or you have people starting families, or you have people moving across the country.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's why it's so important you can't compare what other people are doing because that's their journey.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your journey will look completely different.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe there's some aspects that are the same, but I think I just want to take this day by day and figure it out as I go.
• 9:34
  SPEAKER_00: And if you're if you've been feeling similar, a little bit lost, like you're not alone.
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  SPEAKER_00: We don't have to have every decision figured out right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: I like, I just know I don't.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm not gonna stress out about it.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I'll be good.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because sometimes the most important thing isn't having it all planned out to T.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's just trusting your gut that you'll make the right decision when the time comes of what your future is gonna look like in the next five years.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you feel like you're not where you want to be, then that's when you know, like, okay, I need to get up, make some life decisions and go down a certain path.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this episode like feels unfamiliar to me because like it's just like admitting, like, I don't know what's next.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I am, I have accepted that and I am looking forward to figuring it out as it goes.
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  SPEAKER_00: And like maybe I'll get some inspiration and it will it'll help me make certain decisions as the time comes.
• 10:34
  SPEAKER_00: Because I think as I've gotten older, it's just like accepting that I don't have all the answers.
• 10:41
  SPEAKER_00: I think a lot of people just fake it till we make it, and I think I'm really just honing in on that.
• 10:47
  SPEAKER_00: Like, it will all work out, it is what it is, and maybe I just gotta ask better questions to other people and myself to help me figure out what I want in this life.
• 10:59
  SPEAKER_00: So here's your reminder that you're not alone if you don't have it figured out, but we'll figure it out together, I guess.
• 11:07
  SPEAKER_00: And we'll see what's next, right?
• 11:11
  SPEAKER_00: So thank you so much for listening in.
• 11:13
  SPEAKER_00: Don't forget to ask yourself, okay, but are you good?
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'll catch you all next week and make sure to like and subscribe.
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  SPEAKER_00: Bye.