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Should You Tell Your Partner What to Wear? (Ep. 46) · Arguing Ever After

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Hello and welcome to Arguing Ever After.
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I am Luke and this is my smoking hot wife Amber.
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by one of you. Boom.
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And here we are, episode 46. 46. We're around in a corner.
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I feel like we're getting real close to a year are.
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We over the hill. Yeah, yeah, I think so.
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I mean, what is over the hill? Is it more than halfway?
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More than halfway. So I think that I think we're
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doing we're. Just getting started.
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I think we are just getting started, but like I think of our
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podcast in different segments of time and I think like the one
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year like that's there's huge accolades for hitting one year.
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Is that our baby phase? Yeah, yeah.
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It's where we've figured out everything.
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And by then, that's one year it'll be the best it'll.
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Possibly get you said we've figured out everything.
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Everything it's as good as it'll get.
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Well, well, maybe not. That's fine.
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Hopefully we'll have learned more, or we'll continue to learn
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things and get some new. Our audio quality has gotten
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remarkably better. It has, yes.
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It really has. Microphones are useful.
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Yeah. So I think that's pretty
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awesome. Who knows what else we'll come
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up with. Maybe in some time we'll have
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enough of, I don't know, a podcast to like, get an actual
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editor and not the current editor in chief.
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She's great. Thank you.
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Thank you. I mean it.
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Yeah, yeah. You know what else?
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Is I'm the chief technology officer.
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Are you are? We have some pretty big titles,
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big roles to fit in to here. So, and we're just learning it
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as we go. But as we've done in many
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episodes when we've been able to, we've decided that we want
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to say hello to any new countries, and I'm really
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excited about this one. Me too.
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Because Luke has no idea, I have told him he knows how to say
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hello in this country's language.
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Well, that is a small list, so. Well, or if I've done it.
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Before. Or you've done it before.
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So I might need to remember something great.
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I wrote. I mean, like, OK, so here we go
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for your clues. This country holds an Intangible
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Cultural Heritage award from UNESCO for their pride in
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falconry. Did you know that Falcons even
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get their own passport here? What?
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Falconry, where they fly the birds.
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And then I know what falconry is.
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I wanted to be a Falconer when I saw an episode of About
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Falconing on, I don't know, probably Discovery Channel, back
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when it was cool and it was about animals.
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I know. Well, when I saw this, I
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thought, this is completely a fact for Luke, because like,
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that's something you're really interested in.
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Hold on, I'm not the only one who doesn't want a Falcon.
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This is why I'm saying this. Seriously, people listening, I
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really mean, I mean this. Go into the comments and tell me
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whether I'm a crazy person and whether you too would also like
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to own a pet Falcon that did stuff for you that was super
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sweet. They have animal hospitals there
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that help over 11,000 birds every year.
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Falcons. Siberia.
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OK, so then, then now the next answer or.
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Tibetan. Or clue is this country is home
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to people. It's it's ends with a Stan or a
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Jan. OK, keep going.
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This country is home to people from over 200 nationalities.
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Does that help you? No.
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What? OK.
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The country. I'm sorry, the country.
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The country, yes. 200 Nationals. 200 yes, yes.
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Well, that's a lot. It is a lot.
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This last clue that I have prepared might get you there and
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if not, I have one more that. I even know Will.
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Get you there. OK, so the world.
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Azerbaijan. OK, Are you ready?
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The world. Turkmenistan.
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Are you ready? You just keep shouting places.
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OK, but Are you ready now? Did I get it yet?
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The world's largest. You've told me not to tell you
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if you got it or not. So.
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Suspense is killing me. So the world's largest man made
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island is there, with over 120 million cubic meters of sand to
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construct. That's the that's the the United
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Arab Emirates. You're right.
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What? Yes they have.
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They're the the best at Falcons. They are the best at falconry.
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They have the most Falcon winning, yes.
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I had no idea. Yes, yes.
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So I promised that you know how to say hello there and I wrote
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it down. No, don't.
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I'm gonna. This is another part of the
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quiz. OK, how do you say hello there?
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Assalamu Alaikum. You are right.
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Oh my gosh, all the winning on this.
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One that was great. Let's do that again.
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It felt good. I bet it really did.
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It feels good to win and but I I promise you all, Luke had no
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knowledge of that beforehand. They're the most balcony place.
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Yes, my final. The most balcony place.
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I mean, I don't know, it's a big place.
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But my final clue, if you wouldn't have gotten the man
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made island. Well, I didn't write it down.
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Oh, OK. I was that they have the world's
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tallest building and I knew you would have gotten it then.
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Yeah, so, but it's called. The Borge.
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Yeah, I don't like that. I don't know, but in.
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Dubai. Yes it is.
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Yes it is. And you know what else is great
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about Dubai? Tell me.
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Dubai Chocolate. You know what else is a fact
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about Dubai? What?
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We have a very, very close friend whose brother lives
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there. We do.
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Yes. Yes.
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And his family. That's very true.
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Yeah. It's also one of the safest
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places in the world. I've learned all sorts of things
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about it. But.
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I have other comments. OK.
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Well, all right. Safe for who?
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Well, OK, so but welcome and we're so glad that you're
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listening. Welcome and we hope you this is
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clearly at least your second time listening, but you know,
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maybe go back to some of our other old episodes and see what
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else we have to offer. Yeah, let's get the take on a
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lot of the episodes of what your opinion is.
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Yeah, yeah. They're in the UAB, Yeah, with
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your giant fancy water slides in your indoor winter Wonderland.
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Did you know that? It said.
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UAB. Is it UAB or UAE CYE?
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Oh, you're right. Sorry, United Arab Emirates.
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Oh, look at that. I knew.
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It's been a long week. OK, now did you know I have a
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trivia for you? No, it's not a trivia.
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It's just a fact. OK, did.
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You know that they have in Dubai an indoor Winter Park where they
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have it super, super cold and they have like an indoor ski
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slope and you can go skiing and maybe other snow or ice related
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activities. Don't they have like some huge
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indoor snorkeling thing where you can?
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No idea. So.
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They have the ocean. No, no, I know.
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I know, I know. Maybe they do I, I don't know.
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We really love Amazing Race a lot, that's true, and they've
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been there before. Shout out Amazing Race.
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Yeah. Phil, if you're listening, hit
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us up buddy. We're.
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Ready. Hit Luke up, not me.
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Not you, because you won't be able to talk.
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No. Well, Oh my God, I would die.
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Yeah, I meant I meant to be on The Amazing Race.
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I couldn't. I couldn't do it.
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I mean, there's some things I could do, but the second they're
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like do something. Hi.
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I'd be like, there is my chance it's gone.
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I know I got to go on it one time.
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Yeah, yeah, I just got to get the right insane person who
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wants to take a few months out of their lives and.
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Any listeners? Are you good competitors, Luke?
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Luke is looking for? Can you jump out of an airplane?
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Yeah, that's that is. Important question number one
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Can you solve puzzles? Question number 2 Will you crack
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under pressure? Question #3.
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You know how they have their tags of like, you know, you
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know, married couple or firefighters.
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It could be podcaster and listener.
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Boom. Right there.
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I mean, who doesn't want to be the listener?
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No offense, I don't know that I want to go with a totally random
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person, but that could be kind of a fun adventure.
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That that'd be really fun, yeah. Oh, that might be fun.
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Yeah, so you know, anyone who's listening to like, man, I'd love
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to be on that show. Has to be a guy though.
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Oh, does it? Cause girls are gross.
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You know, over half of our audience, probably like 80% of
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our audience is girls, so. Girls have cooties.
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I'm. Just it's actually way more than
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probably that even right now. But that's OK.
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That's what Luke thinks of you. So next time you vote.
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Wow, like as if you need the help.
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I mean. Like what?
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The rinks might be closing, but that's neither here nor there.
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That's definitely here. I'm just, I'm just thinking that
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maybe anyhow, so any, any good competitors, you know, if you're
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feeling it, if you feel like you might want to, you know, race,
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I'd love to race around the world.
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I just, a lot of those challenges are just not made
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for, not made for me. You're not.
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You're not even ready for a ladder.
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I mean, I don't really like. I mean, yeah, yeah.
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Remember when you had to help me?
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I did and did. Did I not help you with the
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Christmas lights? I feel like you went 1/2 to 3/4
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of the way up the ladder to one level of our roof and we're
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done. I mean, also, let's just talk
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about the fact that it was Christmas lights, you know?
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Wow. If our if like there was
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something. On Halloween lights you would
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have been way more helpful. No, because I don't put them up
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there, but and she's. Like no.
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The answer to that is no. OK, if there was a cat stuck on
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top of our roof, I maybe I'd go up there like if there was like
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a good like this is, you know? A good cat, not a not a bad cat.
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What if there was a bad cat stuck?
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I'd still go up there, but also I feel like a cat wouldn't get
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stuck on our roof because it's not.
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It's not. Likely.
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But you know, I mean, I would, I would contemplate it for sure.
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Speaking of things on roofs, the other day you saw a duck on the
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roof at our neighbor's house and you were really fascinated by
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that. It was just sitting there on the
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top of the roof looking off into the distance.
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Yeah, kind of like that was crazy.
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Looks kind of like a rooster perched up there, you know?
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Or like a Falcon. Or a Falcon?
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No, they're taller. Yeah, and their their shape is a
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lot different. Oh, I didn't mean it looked like
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a Falcon. Well, because it did.
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It looked. Very much like a duck, because
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it was duck. Yes, well, and so there you go.
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There you go. As a matter of fact, duck
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talking about ducks, which has nothing to do with anything.
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The other day I was at a a garden supply store with my mom
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shopping for plants for Mother's Day.
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Shout out to the moms. Yeah, which is a little late,
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but you know what? It can be Mother's Day every day
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we're. Still in a lot Mother's Day.
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It can't be Mother's Day every day.
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Well, anyhow, so we were there and there was this woman who was
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shopping for plants and she had like a little tote to clear tote
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and she had a duck in her tote. And you know, we were all
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sitting there like, well, you know, why?
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Why is this duck in her tote? You know, and someone said, oh,
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maybe it's an emotional support duck, but we, I, my opinion is
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that she probably was just buying the duck because they
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also had a farm there. But she told me that wait.
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They sell ducks there. I I don't think they do as like
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a general practice, but maybe if you were in it's.
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A far VIP. It's a farm as well, so like.
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She was AVIP. Yeah, I don't know, but she was
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trying to talk me into getting ducks, and she told me that
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ducks, just like dogs, get the zoomies, and she has ducks and
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dogs, and so they'll get the zoomies around her yard.
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That's fantastic. Yeah, she told me that, you
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know, as long as you have three or less, they're really easy to
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take care of. And I.
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What happens when you get more? Do they gang up?
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They're really messy apparently, so it's just a lot more work,
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but I decided after the research that although I've wanted a duck
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for a long time, I should not get a duck.
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I've always been hard set against a duck.
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They're so cute. Not happening.
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Not happening. You're really, really, really
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true. Definitely not happening.
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No. Nobody wants a duck, so any is.
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Their farmer. I mean, I think lots of people
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want decks, but you know, I just, it's not, it's not for us.
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It's not for our city living here.
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That's right. But you know, we're pretty
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cosmopolitan here. I don't know if we could handle
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like, you know, all those, those farming creatures, but also it
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would be really unfair for it with our dogs.
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I like how you call them farming creatures.
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Farming creatures. They're not so cute though.
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I don't know. But so that was that was them.
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The other thing we had done which kind of got the oh, what
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is that? So recently a lot of people know
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that the Devil Wears Prada 2 came out.
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Oh. It did.
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And we, our daughter, had never seen it before.
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Or one, never seen two. But she had never seen one
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before. Wait, we didn't watch 2?
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We didn't watch. Two.
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We watched one. Correct.
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Yeah. So we had her watch one because
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my mother, who I'd just been talking about, thought it was
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absurd that our daughter hadn't seen it.
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It's pretty absurd. She said I was a bad mom,
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essentially. We've been bad parents in a lot
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of the movie arenas, like things that she hasn't seen that she
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really ought to. Well, I mean we've.
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Been trying to catch up but we don't have a lot of I'm.
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Not gonna lie, I I and this this might get me cancelled right
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here right now. I it's not my favorite movie, so
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you know. That's definitely cancelled
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material given the current I situation that the two number
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two just came out. I know, I know.
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It doesn't have to be your favorite movie.
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And, and it is, that's OK. It isn't.
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I mean, like when I was watching it with her, you know, some of
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the things that were really kind of sticking out to me, maybe
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they were the reasons I didn't care then.
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But it was a lot about fashion and stuff like that and so much
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about fitting into molds that I was just like, gosh, I don't
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know. I mean, and the thing like,
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while he's funny, whatever, what is his name?
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Stanley Tucci. Yes, while he's funny, you know,
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like there's certainly in the modeling world, you know,
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standards that people just think are OK or are correct, you know,
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but he would make fun of this super teeny tiny, whatever her
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name is, Anne Hathaway, you know, for being like a size 6
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instead of a size 4 or whatever, you know.
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So I was hearing those messages which, you know, obviously I
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don't think that that's what the book of the movie was about, but
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it was, it was interesting and brought up a lot of fashion
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stuff and a lot of stuff I just don't care about.
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Sure. You know.
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That was a lot of information. I'm glad you shared it with
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everyone. I thought the one guy was gross,
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can't remember his name, but the guy that was way too old for
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what's her name? And then was like, I'm a big
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shot fashion guy. You should be into me because
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I'm a big shot fashion guy. Ohh, remember?
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And then she was like drunk and she was like, I think I'm too
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drunk. And he was like, let's, let's
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hook up. Was he a fashion guy?
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I. Think so.
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I don't know, I feel like I'm misremembering a movie that I.
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Just ohh, no, no. He was like a writer, maybe, or
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a publisher, yeah. But.
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Anyway, it was gross. But of course, you know, I got I
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got me thinking about what could the sequel possibly be about and
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is it really necessary? So you know, I would love to is
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it? Necessary.
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I would love to know. I mean, I love Meryl Streep, so
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don't get me wrong. Like I, I it's nothing I.
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Think it's done well at the box office?
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Well, so anyone who's seen it, let us know if it's worthwhile,
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you know, like is it a is it same as level as the first one
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or is it better than? They're almost never as good.
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Well, what if? It is, except Star Wars.
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What if it's Wait and Lord of the Rings?
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Oh my gosh. And Harry Potter.
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OK, I OK Harry Potter I I agree with, but the others are kind of
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all the same. No, but no I would.
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What? That's how you get cancelled.
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Right there. No, no, no.
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But I do think that Harry Potter was definitely better.
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I don't know but that that's kind of what we had done over
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that weekend and we are still not done with all of the May
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celebrations, May the big month for for both of us.
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Both my parents had a birthday. Happy birthday mom and dad.
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Yes, yes. And what did they turn?
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80. That's pretty amazing.
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It's. Wild.
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It is very, very. It's a lot.
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It's a lot of years, yeah, yeah. It's something that people don't
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always have the opportunity opportunity to make it to.
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That is true. Gosh, I can't even like thinking
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of 80 when I was younger, that just was that's the, you know,
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the. Impossible future, right?
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That doesn't exist. Right, right and agreed.
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And I can't think myself to 80. I mean, but you know, gosh,
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we're closer to 80 than we are to 10.
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Well. No.
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No math. No, we're not.
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We're not. We're not.
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Did you know that math was hard? I meant zero born.
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I don't. There you go.
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I don't know. There you go.
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You're right. I mean because being 24, it's
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super. OK.
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Yeah, it is a long ways away. Yeah, I believe you.
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But there were a lot of things, though, back to that movie that
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had really kind of dated to like, do you remember they had
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like, this weird phone thing, and they were talking about, oh,
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this exclusive phone that's $1000, you know, and they're
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like, who would ever spend that much on a phone?
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Right. Yeah.
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Everybody. There were a lot of things that
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made no sense. I know when you think about.
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That when you've seen what's happened in the last 20.
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Years, yeah. You would have never, I would
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have never guessed that people would spend $1000 on a cellular
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phone back whatever that was 20 years ago.
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I mean, probably only very wealthy people.
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Right. And now I think it's common.
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You tell me it's common that people do that.
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Well, yes, I don't know how how often people are plumbing down
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$1000 in cash. That's to get a phone.
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I think most people are doing the payment plans now.
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Yeah, but that's still like I remember you could buy a phone
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at Target for like 30 bucks that plugged.
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Into your wall, you know. Oh, well, maybe you could do
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that. I don't.
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Know, I don't even know if you can find those types of phones
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in the. I'm sure you can.
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At the regular store, you know, like I remember you'd walk
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through and there'd be all these different types of phones.
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Like they'd have a Garfield phone and the Clear phone and
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all. Like I remember walking through,
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you know, and looking at that. And clear.
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Yes, yes, yes. I promise you there are people
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listening right now who are like I know and actually I have have
20:15
a sister who had the clear phone that she saved up money to buy.
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Where? You could see all the circuits
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and stuff. Well, and of course they had
20:23
them in like neon colors because that's what they probably all
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had on the inside. No, but that's kind of a blast
20:31
from the past. And now, you know, couldn't even
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couldn't even tell you where to find a phone like that today.
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So that's interesting. Every once in awhile I'll see
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wall jacks around her house for phones and I'm like, do you get
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rid of it? It just seems so.
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Well, you won't, because you've probably got a fantasy in your
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head that someday you're going to have a wall phone.
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That's true. That's true.
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Yeah. Well, there's something nice
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about something that won't just, I don't know, go out.
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Like today our Internet went out, but, you know, that's true.
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Phone. Lines never went out except for
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on 9/11. I'm sure they did, just maybe by
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the time we were around they just weren't doing.
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That anymore? No, no.
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Yeah, yeah. So Yep.
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So that's kind of the things I've been thinking about or
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doing. How about you?
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What have you been up to? Anything different?
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Anything fun you wanna talk about?
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The new edition that you hadn't been expecting.
21:29
Wow, I wasn't pregnant. No.
21:32
I don't know that I'm mentally currently capable of.
21:35
What are you talking about? Your vehicle that showed up.
21:38
Oh. Oh my gosh, what were you
21:41
thinking? I was talking.
21:42
About I had no idea. I was like, did we get another?
21:45
Another dog did. We get something that I don't
21:47
know about well. This is not really exciting news
21:51
for the podcast listeners. I got another Jeep, except this
21:54
time I was smart and got an older one because it was
21:56
cheaper. I think that is exciting for
21:58
people who know you. It's really like lame because I
22:01
like new stuff and I'm in the car world, but it made sense so.
22:06
Yes and actually when I said did you get anything new, the Amazon
22:10
keeps showing up because people have cheap.
22:13
It's so customizable, but you know, I just.
22:16
Get stuff and just keep showing up.
22:18
I actually had something show up that I forgot I ordered.
22:21
Yeah, I'm not even opening boxes.
22:22
That's how much it is because I'm like I know it's I know this
22:25
is for the the new vehicle. It's.
22:27
For the it's for the podcast, chief technology officer.
22:31
OK. OK.
22:33
That's great. I'm glad that you have that.
22:36
Well, I wish it was something we could write off our expenses of
22:40
business, but we don't make any money.
22:42
No, we don't. We don't.
22:44
But you know when we do, when someone decides that they want
22:48
to like what is that word? Sponsor us, That's the word.
22:52
Maybe then we'll start like wrapping our vehicles and you
22:55
know, and then have that advertisement or whatever be a
22:59
write off because I think you can do that.
23:01
You would wrap your bright green situation.
23:04
Well, I mean, no, probably not. Probably not probably.
23:08
Well, I put a lot of stickers because I feel like there's a
23:11
certain percentage of your vehicle that needs to be covered
23:14
to write it off. Huh.
23:16
I could be wrong and that could be old rules because they change
23:19
that stuff all the time, so I. Don't got to be got to be big
23:23
enough. You know what I thought was
23:27
cool? You're just going to go back to
23:28
The Devil Wears Prada for one second?
23:30
Thank you. I well, because.
23:31
Because you were done with it and.
23:33
I no, I was done. And then I just remembered that
23:35
like the, I don't know if it's really a monologue.
23:37
It's technically a monologue that Meryl Streep had about
23:39
colors. Yeah.
23:41
And like the the intern was like, well, it's just, I don't
23:46
know green what I don't. Know it was blue blue, the blue
23:48
sweater. And Meryl Streep looks at her
23:50
like this is not blue. And then she said it's cerulean
23:56
or some name of a thing, and then talked about how the colors
24:00
of the fashion world affected the everything.
24:04
Yeah. And I even was like, whoa, yeah.
24:07
I wonder if that's actually true.
24:09
And is it still true? Yes, yes, As a matter of fact,
24:14
today I was reading an article as one does, OK, and they were
24:20
talking about color choices and fashion and things like that.
24:24
And one thing I found really interesting, it's just a little,
24:27
just a little fact for anyone who's a server out there.
24:31
OK, if you're a server and you wear a red top.
24:35
Red top. You will earn more tips from men
24:40
than if you wear a different color top, but women it will not
24:45
make a difference. At least in the US you'll make
24:48
substantially more tips. So so women who are servers who
24:52
are listening or I. Probably wear red.
24:55
Get that check. Yeah, Yeah, it's facts.
24:57
I mean, this is this was a study done by, I don't know, some,
25:01
some college, but there was actually it was.
25:04
So anyhow, that's color and I don't know if AT shirts fashion,
25:09
but it was just interesting to to note that.
25:12
So the color you wear can affect the money you make.
25:16
Yes, in that scenario, yes. Very interesting.
25:20
But it also depends on the gender, which is sort of
25:23
interest, not interesting, but also interesting as to whether
25:29
that type of a thing will. Matter.
25:30
I mean, I would imagine you could make a similar comparison,
25:32
although it might be hard to get the test pulled off like if you
25:35
wore a low cut top versus or a long sleeves versus short
25:40
sleeves or what I like, I'm sure that those would be.
25:43
They were testing T-shirts. Sure.
25:47
Yes, of course. And I'm certain there's
25:50
certainly places where the outfit makes a difference too,
25:55
but those places are kind of closing down so.
25:59
Well, you know what? What?
26:02
Amber, I have a question for you.
26:04
OK, right. And this corner we have Luke,
26:10
who is sporting black on black on Gray on black.
26:14
On a polo shirt because I wanted to be fancy for today.
26:17
Weighing in at 100 and claiming claiming to weigh in at 185 lbs.
26:25
He is coming in today with a total of nine ties.
26:29
Yep, I have way more than 9 ties. 17 wins and 18 losses.
26:39
What I was pretty sure that I don't know if something.
26:43
Nope. Nope.
26:45
OK. Nope.
26:48
So that's. Really pretty good.
26:51
I'm feeling pretty good. Let's get up to a tie and see
26:53
what happens. Yeah, yeah, OK.
26:56
OK. And in this corner we have my
27:00
smoking hot wife, Amber, who today is sporting what I would
27:04
call a dusty sage green OK from Salem, the Witch City.
27:12
Yeah, yeah. When you said dusty, I thought
27:15
you were meaning like crusty dusty.
27:16
Oh no, I was trying to put names to the colors that was more than
27:19
just green. Oh, yeah, yeah, I would.
27:22
Yeah, OK. #Meryl Streep.
27:24
Yes, yes. Well, so my question then today
27:28
for you is this and this was submitted by a listener.
27:31
This was submitted. OK.
27:35
I'm ready. Is it OK to tell your spouse
27:41
that they have to change their outfit based on where you're
27:45
going if you don't think they've chosen correctly?
27:49
OK. This is a great question And we
27:51
had been doing a little bit of discussing about fashion and
27:53
things like that to lead up to this.
27:55
Of course, as we do, we like to. I didn't really pick up what you
27:58
were laying. Down I know I have.
28:00
Really. For a while.
28:00
And then I was like, oh. Yeah.
28:03
But we did watch the movie and it was fun.
28:05
Yes, the both things. That's true.
28:07
Both things are true. Is that how segues were?
28:10
You talk about real life and then you weave it into the Yeah.
28:14
46 episodes in, we're. Gonna have to watch that one
28:18
episode again where I tried like 5 times.
28:20
I know, I know, that's OK. So anyhow.
28:24
Progress, not perfection. Right.
28:26
And I I'm wondering I actually have a little bit more
28:30
information I can share than I can feel like found upon during
28:33
my my answer. Sound and expand as you as.
28:38
You found a. Word.
28:39
Yeah, yeah. OK, great.
28:40
And you used it correctly. Did I use it correctly?
28:42
Look at me. Nicely done Latty.
28:44
Duh. I don't know if I'm just gonna
28:46
briefly comment to the video listeners.
28:48
I don't know if you're picking this up but I've been switching
28:50
drinks today cuz I'm feeling a little feel a little variety.
28:54
OK, keep going. OK, so I my answer to that is a
28:58
hard no. It is not OK to tell your
29:03
significant other that they need to change their outfit for
29:07
whatever event it is they're going to I'm.
29:09
Certain you have told me to change.
29:12
I'm certain I have not because here's the thing, 30 years.
29:16
Yeah, OK, here's the thing. That's right.
29:19
So while I was doing a little bit of research for this
29:21
question, because again I like to have some kind of segues.
29:25
Research I didn't. I do.
29:26
I do research. This is what we have.
29:29
I wanted to understand, you know, like what are clothing?
29:35
You know, like is there meaning in clothing for folks?
29:38
And the answer, obviously I knew the answer is yes, but it really
29:41
is yes. It really is about
29:43
self-expression and what people want to put out into the world
29:47
and where things matter and don't matter as well.
29:52
So one of the things that I was looking at me on my other device
29:59
is busy. But anyhow, one of the things I
30:01
was looking at had to do with actually the difference between
30:05
genders and how important we see clothes.
30:09
And that clothing can matter at different stages of your life as
30:14
to what you're what, the amount of effort or thought you have
30:18
into it, and what you're trying to present.
30:21
This makes sense. And I'll tell you, I was maybe
30:25
not, I was a little surprised the amount of articles that were
30:28
talking about research about fashion that were actually
30:32
through the male point of view. Because, you know, after just
30:37
watching The Devil Wears Prada, you know, and all of the model
30:40
stuff, you know, for some reason I was thinking, you know, a lot
30:43
of it's going to be coming through for females.
30:45
Also, my feeds in life are very female focused.
30:50
But it was talking a lot more about like the importance of
30:53
clothing for men and what it symbolized.
30:57
And immediately they're like think of Peacocks and how men,
31:01
how the males are in the Peacock world and how being bright and
31:06
showy and vibrant. Yes, it could be to scare off,
31:10
but also is super important. And if you look actually at kind
31:13
of a lot of the animal Kingdom, probably most.
31:15
Scarier thing in the Peacock is they're terrifying whale it is
31:19
call. It's a call.
31:20
It's a call anyhow, but they were talking about that because
31:23
it like how you are seen matters so much, right and one of the
31:29
things that they talked about that I found interesting and I
31:32
don't think about which is weird I'd.
31:35
Love to contribute, you have some questions?
31:38
OK, so that for men a sign of masculinity is to wear tighter
31:46
clothing? No.
31:49
Yes. According to the.
31:51
Studies. And probably only if you're not
31:59
like very out of shape because you wouldn't just want to wear
32:04
tight clothes to wear tight clothes.
32:06
Well, OK, so and it did say that men who were wearing tighter
32:11
clothes, especially in the workflow place or more fitted,
32:16
were seen as more powerful than men who would wear baggy
32:20
clothes. I should get tighter clothes for
32:22
work. I mean, I don't know, Do you
32:23
need to be more powerful? Yeah.
32:25
OK, Well then maybe you do I. Mean you're proving yourself
32:29
right. So.
32:30
I don't know. The Peacock must fan the
32:33
feathers, I'm just saying. It was just.
32:35
Really. I'm going to immediately order
32:37
some new shirts for work. No, you're not.
32:40
Because the other thing is that I've also noticed with a lot of
32:44
the men that I know in our lives, the fashion definitely
32:49
seems to be a much more important thing for the men,
32:51
right? Like in our life, we know a lot
32:54
of people who are sitting there much like you have been in most
32:56
of your life. I have to match my hat to my
32:58
shirt, to my shoes and like all of this like, oh sure.
33:01
Like I've never once thought about does my hat, which I don't
33:06
wear, match my shirt, which matches my shoes?
33:09
I say, does it? Is it OK together?
33:12
Oh, I mean, I think everyone knows.
33:14
What I don't? That you never once thought.
33:18
Gee, I wonder if this matches. Right, because I don't care.
33:21
I don't care really. I'm more about the comfort and.
33:25
Kidding, by the way. No, it's I'm actually.
33:27
If we're going out, you put yourself together very nicely.
33:30
I but at the. And you do too.
33:32
Think about your shoes. I see it.
33:34
OK, so you know how I think about my shoes.
33:36
When you used to wear them tall boots, you were definitely
33:39
matching stuff all the time. You had like 30 pairs of those
33:42
tall heel boots. Well, it was just OK, so, but
33:44
what that had to do with more was the height of my pants or
33:48
length of my pants and the height of the shoe so that I
33:51
didn't have too long of a. Oh yes, I remember you having
33:55
said this. Yes, especially if it.
33:57
Was winter because of the snow and the salt and the.
34:00
Well, it just kind of looks really weird if you're wearing.
34:03
I don't know. Anyhow, so like that, yes, I
34:06
definitely have obsessed about that.
34:09
But as a general concept, when I look at another woman and I see
34:14
how they're dressed, I'm not necessarily thinking powerful or
34:17
anything like that. Like that doesn't even come to
34:19
mind. I might think a woman is dressed
34:21
sharply, sure, or I will think that, but it doesn't necessarily
34:25
shape my opinion of her as like a adversary or friend, right?
34:32
OK. You know now when I look at
34:35
women and what they're wearing. Like does the research suggest
34:39
that? This is facts.
34:41
Men are picking out adversaries. Well, that no, they're trying to
34:45
puff up their chest and be better than those around them.
34:48
Yeah, exactly, Exactly. And I think about when I'm
34:52
looking at my friends, a lot of times I'm looking at their
34:54
clothes. If I if I'm looking at their
34:56
clothes, something that'll be like, oh, that looks so soft or
34:59
that looks so comfortable. Now do you ever sit there and
35:02
think, huh, that looks so soft? Or I have actually said that. 2.
35:07
Male friends of mine I was like, that looks super soft can I
35:10
touch? It yeah.
35:11
Oh, that's nice of you asking. I usually be like, oh, that's so
35:14
soft, you know, as I'm rubbing somebody's.
35:16
Arm. Well, it depends on the person.
35:18
Oh, OK, OK. Well, anyhow, so so that's, I
35:23
mean, I don't really care. And at this stage in my life,
35:26
when I was younger, I was told how I had to teach.
35:29
Him. Hold on, you said you were 24.
35:32
OK, when I was a child, when I was a child, I was told how I
35:37
had to dress. So the second I was no longer
35:39
told how I had to dress and I had jobs who would tell me how I
35:42
had to dress like all of these things.
35:45
As soon as that was no longer a problem, I decided I'm going to
35:50
dress for me what I'm comfortable in.
35:54
I don't think my mom ever told me what to wear.
35:57
A great lucky for you, that was not my world.
36:00
Wait, are you answering your question?
36:02
Yes, I'm answering. Your question, OK, I got a
36:04
little lost there, sorry. Because.
36:06
You're doing a great job. My point, yeah, See, OK, OK, so,
36:10
but my point is that like what I choose to wear is purposeful,
36:15
whether or not it seems that way in the moment to the outside.
36:19
I've chosen what makes me feel good in whatever way.
36:23
So if you were to say to me, me, Amber, you need to change your
36:27
clothes because you don't look, here's what I would hear good
36:31
enough, then I would feel bad about the choice I made, about
36:39
how I present myself and my own comfort.
36:42
So I think that's a really sticky territory.
36:44
As a matter of fact, I'm going to also say we used to whenever
36:49
we would go to certain events like weddings, you'd be like
36:52
Amber, you have to wear a dress. You, this is you.
36:55
And don't even act like you never.
36:57
I'm just waiting for my turn, good Lord.
36:59
You'll get it, you'll get it. OK, monologue.
37:02
Well, that's fine. You can is it I mean, yeah, OK.
37:06
You would say Amber, you have to wear a dress and I would just be
37:08
like, I don't want to wear a dress and I feel like this
37:11
freaking 8 year old screaming at my mom on Sunday morning.
37:14
I don't want a weird dress because it's.
37:16
Because you got issues. I've never said that these
37:19
aren't my problems. OK, keep going.
37:21
My point is what I'm doing is choosing to wear something
37:24
comfortable. And a while back I remember a
37:28
wedding that was coming up and you said I had to get a dress.
37:31
And I said I refuse, just simply refuse.
37:35
I am old enough at this point in my life that I can decide what I
37:38
want to wear for myself. And I said, as a matter of fact,
37:42
I'm going to get a jumpsuit. And you said he's looking at the
37:45
time clock. Check.
37:47
For those. Done that to you.
37:49
It's fine. We're fine for time also.
37:52
So anyhow, I said I'm getting a jumpsuit and you said that's
37:55
going to be terrible. I pick out the jumpsuit, it
37:58
comes home, I get it. And you said that looks really
38:02
good. I did.
38:04
And you know, I got compliment after compliment after
38:07
compliment. I never would get compliments on
38:10
dresses. That's.
38:11
Fair. And it was from women.
38:13
When was the last time you wore one?
38:15
OK, keep. Going because I'm not going to.
38:17
So anyhow, my answer is no, because I know what feels good
38:23
for me. And my turn.
38:29
And I would never want you to feel like I have said you look
38:34
out of place. Now if you ask me your opinion
38:38
or my opinion, I maybe would give it to you.
38:41
But I purposefully don't ask. Should I change my clothes?
38:44
And now Luke, what do you think? Well, I don't know why I'm even
38:47
here today. So.
38:50
Oh. Come on.
38:51
OK, I'll take way less time. First of all, you have
38:56
absolutely told me or suggested that I needed to change
39:02
something about what I had worn based on what we were doing 100%
39:07
not even a question. Now you probably haven't had to
39:10
do that at things that are obvious like I'm going to wear a
39:13
suit if we go to a wedding, a funeral, something like that
39:17
because I always dress up. So you don't have to tell me
39:22
that I need to wear something more appropriate.
39:24
I think that typically the issue is like if you're under dressed
39:28
for something nice. Now, I haven't said anything for
39:33
a long, long time about a dress. I'll throw it out there every
39:36
once in a while. By the way, it's a compliment.
39:38
You look fantastic in a dress. I don't feel fantastic.
39:42
Fine, but take the compliment. Get off your soapbox for a
39:47
second. You look fantastic in a dress.
39:51
Thank you. You also look fantastic in a
39:53
jumper, so that's fine too. Anyway, a long, long time ago I
40:00
had living grandparents. And there were events that were
40:03
family related. I also had there was living
40:05
grandparents on my step family side.
40:08
And these are old fashioned people and like certain things,
40:11
you just wore a dress to certain things.
40:14
So I don't think it's that weird because we both grew up with
40:18
that sort of teaching, which was if you're going to a wedding, a
40:22
funeral, church, I don't know, pick a thing, right?
40:25
You wore a dress if you were a lady and you wore a suit if you
40:30
were a fella. So I mean, that's not that
40:34
weird. It's part of it's still part of
40:37
culture today. So it's not like I was asking
40:40
you to like show up inappropriately to something.
40:44
It was uncomfortable for you, yes, but that doesn't mean that
40:47
it was incorrect for the for the event.
40:50
Now, we have also grown, and both of us now agree that we
40:55
should feel more comfortable. Yeah.
40:56
So like where before when we used to go to, like, a Broadway
41:00
musical, not Broadway 'cause we don't live in New York, but and
41:03
off, whatever you call it, not even off Broadway.
41:06
A touring, A touring. There you go.
41:08
That would show up here in Minneapolis or in Saint Paul, or
41:12
we would go to like a concert or we would go to a play and we
41:16
were going to go see Shakespeare at the Guthrie.
41:18
Or like, we both dressed up a lot nicer back in the day,
41:22
probably because we were younger, probably because we
41:25
were closer to that upbringing. And now we're further away from
41:28
it and in our own right, We have our own sets of rules that we
41:33
sort of abide by, which is let's be comfortable but also look OK.
41:36
And so a lot of times for me, that even means, well, I'm going
41:39
to wear jeans and maybe maybe tennis shoes and maybe a polo
41:42
shirt like I'm wearing today. And you also dress nicely, but
41:46
also comfortably. And I don't try to change your
41:48
mind about that stuff anymore because we've both grown.
41:51
Now. If we were gonna go to a play
41:54
and you wanted to wear a hoodie, I'd be like, no, thank you.
42:00
We're going to a fancy event. We're going to be around a bunch
42:02
of fancy people, some of whom are still old fashioned.
42:05
We're potentially bringing our child.
42:08
I want her to feel like this is a special event.
42:10
I want you to feel like it's a special event.
42:12
And clothing, like, does something like when you change
42:15
an outfit that is you go from like casual to formal in your
42:20
own mind, it changes things. Like that's a fact.
42:24
That's one of the reasons I think people, not just men, but
42:27
women, dress differently for different occasions.
42:30
It's because it makes them feel a certain way.
42:32
It's the same reason somebody buys a certain type of car,
42:35
because it makes them feel a certain way.
42:37
So if you're going to go to a fancy event and you're going to
42:39
dress like you are going to your couch, you're comfortable,
42:44
great, but you're probably doing it wrong.
42:46
Like enjoy the fanciness of the event.
42:48
They're fancy for a reason and most people dress up for a
42:52
reason. There are still things that have
42:53
dress codes, like not a lot. That's sort of gone for the most
42:57
part. Like, I mean, most times you
42:59
don't. Find me there.
43:01
Well, neither of us really like we've literally both of us never
43:04
gone to the Lexington. No offense to the Lexington if
43:08
you're on there and listening, but like they, I think they
43:10
still have a dress code. They had one back in the day.
43:12
It was literally suit and tie for a guy I think dress for a
43:16
lady. They would not say you have to
43:17
wear a dress. OK, whatever.
43:19
Anyway, they had a dress code and it was like, well, this is
43:21
dumb. I don't want to like go where
43:22
you're forcing me to. Like they'll hand you a a coat
43:25
if you're a guy and you didn't bring a dress coat.
43:27
So, you know, like, I don't know.
43:30
So I think it's absolutely OK. We both have told our child who
43:35
does like to dress up. So props to her for that.
43:38
We've both told her maybe this maybe that, you know, try these
43:42
other shoes or and we all still do that to each other as we're
43:46
getting ready to go to something.
43:48
So I'm putting the truth to the lie a little bit like you have
43:51
told me to change. You still care about what you
43:55
wear and will ask others opinions before you go out
43:59
because it doesn't mean you just want to wear a hoodie.
44:02
No, I clear. When you're going to like see
44:05
something at the Orpheum or you're going to like a fancy
44:08
steak dinner, like you dress well because I think we're
44:11
conditioned at this point and we're more comfortable and it's
44:15
my time. Oh my goodness, you 11 minute
44:20
runner. I'm on like 6 anyway, so I'm not
44:24
going to try to match you. I'm just saying like so, so I
44:27
think that it's absolutely OK. The answer to the question is
44:30
it's absolutely OK for a spouse or even a, you know, maybe not a
44:37
new fresh relationship, but like a deep significant other, a
44:40
fiance, somebody you've been with for years and years and
44:42
years that you live together, whatever.
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Because you should both feel like you're able to enjoy the
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event. And if I'm going to go to
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something and the whole time you're dressed so casually that
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I'm going to be like, second guessing, like, why am I all
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dressed up? If she's not?
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Are people gonna think that like, she doesn't want to be
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here or she doesn't care or like, that would absolutely tell
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you to change. And I think you should do the
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same thing. And I think everyone in the
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world should do the same thing. You should both feel like you're
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doing what you're doing. So pay respect to the event
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itself and pay respect to the person you're in a relationship
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with. I think, oddly, that this would
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probably go more the other direction gender like, I think I
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think it would be more common for a guy to maybe not like
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dress up and for his wife to say like, Hey, honey, maybe you want
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to throw a tie on or some dress shoes or, you know, I think that
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would be more common. Our our submitted question was
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from that direction was, you know, because he'll think a
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button up T-shirt is dressing up.
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Sure. And she's thinking, well, maybe
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you want to have sleeves that go all the way down your arms.
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Yeah, honey. And hey, this is a Broadway
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musical. Maybe you ought to wear a tie.
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Or this is going to be a couple of $100 steak dinner for our
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anniversary and I'm wearing a dress.
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You better look the part. I'm not saying that that is not
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necessarily more popular opinion with our audience.
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I'm just. Saying I don't well here it's
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that's absolutely incorrect, totally totally not cool.
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And if and if your spouse says I don't want to wear that, maybe
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you want to ask some more important questions like do you
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even want to go? Why?
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Why would you do that? Because.
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Because you're not paying respect to the event.
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What? OK.
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Or the person. I I don't think anyone is going
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to ask someone to be inappropriate.
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I'm just saying like. I'm just oh, OK, keep going
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because this is still your 11 minutes.
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Keep going. Yeah, you got 5 minutes to wait.
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Anyway, that actually wraps it up for me and I don't need a lot
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of rebuttal. I just, I feel like it's OK.
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I don't feel like it's cool to be mean about it.
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The way you said that it was mean.
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No, it's not mean about it. No, it really is like, well, do
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you really want to go like what? No.
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Well. Maybe you don't want to ask it
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in that way. I don't.
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Know well it's just the. Same.
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We don't have to do that like you and I like.
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We're far past a point. We both know how to look the
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part. We both know how to do that
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while also being comfortable in what way suits us.
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You're fantastic at it. Yeah, the jumpsuit jumper thing.
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Super awesome. I think you should wear more
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often. And I wanna go to more fancy
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stuff with you. So my argument is you should be
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able to tell your spouse if they need to class it up a little
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bit. And you know, there are probably
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times maybe you need to class it down a little bit.
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Maybe you come out of the come out of the the room and you're
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like dressed to the nines and you're going to, I don't know,
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Applebee's. Maybe you got to calm down and
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like, hey, maybe toss a hoodie on and some jeans because you're
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going to be a just sticking out like a sore thumb.
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So anyway, I mean, it's OK, you disagree with me.
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Yep, Yep, that's that's, that's the debate.
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And I disagree. And it's just like, why just let
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let you do your thing? Because you want to look good.
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Right, but I already do. OK, so you are wrong.
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So there you go, there you go, that's the debate for #46. 46.
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Vote on Spotify Comment yes I'm. Asked a few questions, feel free
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to let us know what's going on in your head.
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I'm certain I'm going to lose, but I'm OK with that.
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If anyone wants to fly us out to Dubai, we probably would
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partake. Yeah, that would be interesting.
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I'd be interesting. Little desert, little ocean.
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Like, comment, share, and if this is this is your
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relationship, send it off to the person.
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Yeah, let's get a. Bunch of people going.
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I would, I would love to hear, I'd love to hear more opinions
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on this. And if I I mean I don't know so
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but vote, follow, share, great. Perfect.
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TuneIn next time. See you there.
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Bye.