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Why does it seem like there are so many narcissists? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  So why are there so many Dang on narcissists today?
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  That's the question, isn't it? If you're new here, My name is
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  Lee Hammock. I'm a clinically diagnosed
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  narcissist and welcome to another episode of The
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  Narcissist Code. So welcome back, Welcome back,
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  Welcome back folks. Yes, yes, yes.
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  Why are there so many dank owned narcissists?
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  So before we hop into today's episode, y'all, my first mini
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  well. Check it out.
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  Like I said, but yes, why are there so many dango narcissists
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  out there today? So a lot of people.
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  So this is going, yeah, this is going to sound weird, but a lot
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  of people think that narcissism is just blown out of proportion
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  nowadays. Like, narcissists is this new
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  buzzword that's just taking the world by storm and whatnot.
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  But it's not. Narcissists have been around
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  toxic people, Narcissistic people have been around since
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  biblical times. There are narcissistic people in
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  the Bible. There are toxic people in the
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  Bible. There are toxic people all
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  throughout history. You know, they might not have
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  been clinically diagnosed narcissists, but there are a lot
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  of people who write books and literature nowadays trying to
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  die, going back and looking at the signs and symptoms and
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  trying to diagnose people from back in the day.
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  Because, you know, I don't think Mr., Mr. Adolph was a person of
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  saying saying sound mind and body so to speak.
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  You know, I don't think he would just the the most non, he was
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  not a non-toxic person. You know, I think we can all
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  agree on it. Well most of us can agree
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  there's some some people out there, but yeah, narcissists
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  have been around for a long time.
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  Y'all. But now the spotlight is on.
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  Now the spotlight is on narcissistic people.
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  Now narcissistic people are being lit up now it's been the
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  light has been shined on narcissists all around the
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  world, all throughout the world and whatnot.
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  The light has been shined on all of us.
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  Like, I'm a diagnosed narcissist.
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  I have narcissistic personality disorder, and without the light
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  being shined on it, I wouldn't know who I am.
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  I wouldn't know what I had going on.
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  Yes, my wife called me a narcissist, but where did she
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  learn that word from where did she learn narcissist from Her
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  aunt told her that her aunt said, hey, I think my ex-husband
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  was a narcissist. You might need to check in on
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  Lee because Lee said sounded like he's kind of like Lee, you
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  know. And that's what led to my wife
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  calling me a narcissist, you know, and that's crazy, man,
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  that that my story is it is crazy.
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  I I appreciate her aunt so much now, you know, I've talked to
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  her aunt, you know, that's why I just tell people like sidebar I
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  yeah, people ask me, have you apologized to people in your
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  past about the stuff you've done?
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  I apologize to all the people I've hurt that I still am in
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  contact with. You know, like her aunt.
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  Like I embarrassed myself in front of her aunt.
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  So I literally have apologized to her aunt and just say, hey,
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  look, I have a personality disorder and I only know about
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  it because you told your niece about it, you know, And I'm
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  grateful that you told her. And I'm just very, very sorry
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  for how I treated her and, you know, making her use that word
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  and all the other good stuff. And I promise my behaviours from
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  this point, O will be better. And I've been better seven years
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  of psychotherapy, but I've done that before.
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  But that's how the light got shined on me.
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  You know, the word is being like it's yeah, is it used too much
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  nowadays? I would say it's used too much.
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  I know everybody's not a clinically diagnosed narcissist,
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  but there are a lot of narcissistic toxic gas people
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  out there right now. And the crazy thing about it is
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  why are there so many narcissists?
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  Y'all narcissism right now in today's society is rewarded.
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  You get rewarded for being narcissistic.
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  You get rewarded for being toxic as hell.
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  You get rewarded for being petty and causing drama and stirring
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  things up. You get rewarded for being toxic
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  and narcissistic nowadays, you know, and I think a lot of
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  people see that and don't understand that that's that's
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  the way it goes and whatnot. Like narcissistic people are all
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  around. And like I said, there's a
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  prize. It's like a prize at the end of
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  the the it's like the the, the pot of gold at the end of the
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  toxic rainbow, rewarded for your narcissism, for your
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  selfishness. Because, like, I can.
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  I need to hoard all my. I need to hoard all my coins.
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  I need to hoard all my, you know, I get supply and
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  validation for being narcissistic, for looking the
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  best, for being the best. You know, for treating people
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  horribly. Yeah, people do.
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  Yep, Yep, Yep. And Lee Lee, who gets rewarded
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  for treating people horribly. Yeah, there are people that are
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  famous right now that are just famous because they treat people
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  badly and they publicize it. You know, they write blogs about
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  it. You know, they write attack ads
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  on people. That's all they do is write.
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  All they do is cause drama and stir up drama because they want
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  to be the centre of attention. They take attention from other
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  people by by pointing out negativity or just making light
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  of other people. You know, narcissism is you get
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  rewarded for nowadays. And I know, I know, y'all
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  understand what I'm saying. You know me, I know people are
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  just you can look at me as an example right here.
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  This is a different level of being rewarded for narcissism
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  because I use mine for good, you know I use myself awareness for
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  good. I use myself awareness to help
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  people. I use I use myself awareness to
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  be there for people. I use myself awareness to help
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  people grow and to bring people together right.
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  That's what I use myself awareness for.
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  But there are a lot of narcissistic toxic gas people
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  who use their self-awareness for bad.
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  You know, but they still get rewarded for there are some
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  other self award narcissists online right now that you know
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  that do this do do something similar to what I do but they
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  have I'll intent you know they're not trying to actually
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  help people. They're actually trying to make
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  paint themselves as victims and just like hey feel sorry for me
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  because I'm a narcissist. This is why I'm a narcissist.
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  You used to feel bad for me feel bad for the narcissist in your
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  life. You know get that narcissist
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  another shit. There's some people out there
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  who preach their message and now leave.
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  Why don't you just name them. You know I will tell you who is
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  not is not Ben Taylor in raw motivation is not Leon Walker.
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  You know it's not. I can just say it's at least not
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  those two. You know, there's some other
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  ones that are pretty decent as well, but like, you know, yeah,
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  I digress. Just be careful who you follow.
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  But like I said, narcissism is rewarded nowadays.
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  Like you you the light gets shine or you like any.
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  Like for some narcissist and talks to people, any attention
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  is good attention. Any attention is supply.
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  Even if it's negative attention. You know, people get like if you
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  are narcissistic enough, you can build a damn cult.
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  You have a cult, like following people that do your bidding.
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  You know, you don't have to fight your own battles anymore.
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  That's a benefit to be narcissistic.
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  Like if I if I'm a narcissist, right, and I build my platform,
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  I build my my image out there or my reputation big enough, I can
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  have people fight my battles. For me, that's the most.
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  Yeah, that's that. That is like craziness right
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  there, you know, that is so powerful and so insane.
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  It's so insane right there that you can build it up like that,
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  You know? There's a power to it.
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  There's a there's a dynamic to it.
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  Like if I get my platform big enough and I have so many people
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  on my side that they will fight my battles for me, I can get my
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  own flying monkeys. Why wouldn't I be a narcissist?
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  You see Why? Why wouldn't I be narcissistic?
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  Because being narcissistic is a way of getting your needs met.
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  So everybody in the world has narcissistic qualities, right?
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  But not everybody is pathologically narcissistic.
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  You know what I mean? That's when you, when you were
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  pathological, you get your needs met by hurting other people.
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  You know your your needs get met by hurting other people.
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  And you use other people to your advantage.
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  You manipulate situations to your advantage to the to the
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  negative effect of other people. You know, not everybody does
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  that. So Lee Lee, you just saw
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  everybody in the word narcissist.
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  No, I didn't. As everybody else.
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  Everybody in the world is on a spectrum of narcissism.
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  It's like you might be 0 from zero to 10 if you 0.
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  If you have zero to three, you are just a normal person, 456.
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  You might sort of slide up this scale of being toxic.
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  You know, you might slide, slide up this scale, you know what I
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  mean? Because like I said, they're
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  like, you just look into your own life right here, regardless
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  of whatever age you are. Because most of my people who
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  follow me, I looked at it the other day, are between the ages
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  of like 24 and like 50 something.
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  So I'm 38 years old. I'm right in the middle of that,
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  right. I still wait, no, I wouldn't say
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  like, that's like my grandparents, but I don't have
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  any more grandparents. That sucks.
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  I don't have any more grandparents and it sucks.
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  But if you still blessed enough to have your grandparents
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  around, some of our grandparents could have been toxic,
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  narcissistic people. Some of our grandparents could
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  have had mental health issues and things of that nature.
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  Like just because we there, there wasn't a light shine on it
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  back in the day, you know, it doesn't mean that there wasn't
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  narcissists and toxic people and people who had mental health
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  issues. My own grandfather, yeah, was a
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  My therapist said my my own grandfather was possibly
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  undiagnosed schizophrenic, and he woke up one day and went in
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  the bathroom. He went into the bathroom one
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  day and decided that he didn't want to be here anymore at 5:30
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  in the morning. Maybe the voices got too loud
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  for him. He decided that he didn't want
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  to be there anymore, right. He literally 5:30 AM, he got up
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  and went ahead and and put a, you know, put a pee pee to his
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  head and ended his own life. Matter of fact, I found it on
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  ancestry.com. It says time of injury, it's
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  March. Well damn.
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  Oh it's like March. It says March 4th, March 3rd
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  1974 5:45 AM self-inflicted, self-inflicted wound to the
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  head. Yep unalized himself in the
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  morning time March 4th 1974. So it's almost exactly 50 years
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  ago to this day when he did it, right?
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  It's a week, a little a week, a little week over a week ago.
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  So he had mental health issues. You see there, it's always been
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  around. It's just like society and
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  technology has been shining a brighter light on it.
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  They've always been around some of our grandparents.
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  Some of your grandparents are narcissistic.
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  Some of your grandparents are toxic.
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  Some of your grandparents might have schizophrenia or ADHD or
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  BPD or ASPD, you know what I mean?
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  You just don't know that. So they, we narcissists have
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  always been around, even in biblical times, even the times
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  before, like, you know, just back in the day, narcissistic
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  people got exposed in the newspaper.
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  Who who made how many people? How many people get the
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  newspaper? You know what I mean?
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  the National Newspaper, You know what I mean?
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  Narcissistic abuse wasn't talking about like magic skips
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  him to your door, somebody driving by and ride a box of
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  horse and buggy, you know what I mean?
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  Spreading the word about narcissistic abuse like ya in
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  front of your house, like throw a newspaper, hit your door, you
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  know, you open it up. Narcissistic abuse takes the
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  nation by storm. You don't like it's a newspaper.
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  You know fake news. This is, this is fake.
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  It could be fake news. Sorry y'all.
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  I know it sounds silly, but couldn't the newspapers have
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  been the first fake news back there?
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  What's not? Hey, honey, they talk about
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  narcissistic abuse. This sounds like you, honey.
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  Baby, That's the fake news media right there.
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  It's the newspaper, right? There you go.
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  Trust the newspaper. The first guy slightly, you know
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  what I mean? But that's how it goes right
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  there. That's part of it.
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  I just want people to understand that narcissists have always
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  been around. They really, really have.
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  Right? And it just sucks that people
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  are finding out about it right now.
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  And like I said, I I really would want to say that this is
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  where it goes right here. This is the dynamic.
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  This is the space that it goes into.
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  So I really want y'all to be safe.
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  I really want y'all to be empowered.
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  And I really, really want y'all to just understand that.
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  That's why there are so many narcissists today.
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  That is the is the number going to go down?
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  No. Unless the Internet goes away,
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  the narcissist will still increase in value, not in value.
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  They will still increase in number.
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  You know, the Internet is creating more narcissistic
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  people. It's not creating more
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  pathological narcissists. Well, maybe because you know,
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  narcissistic. If you get shamed online, maybe
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  you can some trauma and stuff like that.
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  Maybe. But I hope this video butches
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  some understanding that narcissists have always been
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  around. That's why it just seems like
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  they're more now because the light is shining on them.
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  You know, just like the cockroaches, you know, you can
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  hear them, you can hear them when the lights are off, you can
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  hear them, crawl them around and stuff like that.
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  But when the lights come on, you can see them scatter.
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  You know, you see. You really see how many are in
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