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We Should Get Together Sometime · The Seed Project

• 0:01
  Hey, friend.
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  Welcome to Sunday Seed.
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  I'm Charlotte Edwards, and I believe small seeds create big impact.
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  Each week, we'll plant one.
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  Let's dig in I have three friends from nursing school, and I'm almost embarrassed to admit how long we've been trying to get together.
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  I think we're coming up on a year and a half.
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  Honestly, it could be a little bit longer.
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  It's challenging.
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  We're four adult women with four different work schedules, and we're in different phases of life.
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  We'll start throwing dates around, and inevitably one of us can't make it.
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  Then somebody suggests another date, and that one doesn't work either.
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  Eventually, the conversation trails off, and a few months will go by and somebody brings it up again and we start the whole process over.
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  Adult friendship, sometimes it feels like can require the scheduling skills of maybe an air traffic controller.
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  When we were in nursing school, we didn't have to make plans to see each other.
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  We were there all the time.
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  Life did that part for us.
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  And that's how a lot of friendships begin.
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  You're in the same place at the same time, doing life alongside each other.
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  Staying connected doesn't require much effort because you're just there, until you're not.
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  Life changes, and one day you realize you don't naturally cross paths anymore, and nobody tells you that part.
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  There's no moment when someone says,"Okay, you know this person.
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  You get to see him all the time, and, oh, by the way, it's gonna take a minor miracle to get your calendars together again." It just changes, but the friendship doesn't necessarily change with it.
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  There are people in my life I don't see nearly as much as I once did, but when we're finally sitting across from each other again, we're right back at it.
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  We're talking, laughing, catching up.
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  Before long, it just feels like old times again, and I love that about old friendships.
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  But familiar doesn't mean automatic.
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  My nursing school friends and I don't need to prove anything by finally getting dinner on the calendar.
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  The fact that it's been hard to find a date doesn't say anything about how much we care for each other, but I do wanna see them, and I think that's an important distinction.
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  Nothing happened between us.
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  We didn't have a falling out.
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  We didn't decide the friendship wasn't important anymore.
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  Life just stopped putting us in the same room all the time.
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  That happens to so many relationships as we get older.
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  People who were once naturally woven into our everyday lives aren't there in the same way anymore.
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  The friendship can still be there, but the automatic connection isn't.
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  And when life stops creating the connection for us, sometimes we have to create it for ourselves, not because the friendship is in trouble, because it's worth keeping.
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  So yes, my nursing friends and I are gonna have to find a date, and at this point, I don't even care if we have to schedule it for 2027.
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  They're worth putting on the calendar That's your seed.
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  Now go plant something good