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Scotty's EPIC Wingman FAIL · Scotty and Abby UNFILTERED

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  Speaker 1: Tampa Bay's best music is Maine.
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  Speaker 2: Welcome to another episode of Magic Unfiltered or Scottie and
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  Speaker 2: Abby Unfiltered, depending on where you're listening.
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  Speaker 1: Now.
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  Speaker 2: I do want to jump right into this because I
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  Speaker 2: feel like I have completely screwed up when Abby and
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  Speaker 2: I have gone out socially and we were talking about
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  Speaker 2: this a little bit on Instagram, and so I wanted
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  Speaker 2: to just dive deeper into this conversation because this is
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  Speaker 2: how we evolve our friendship as a show, and honestly,
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  Speaker 2: I think this is going to be the game changer
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  Speaker 2: for our dating lives. And it's because I screwed up
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  Speaker 2: how to wing woman for Abby over the weekend and
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  Speaker 2: we're talking about this potentially spicy romance that happened over
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  Speaker 2: the weekend.
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  Speaker 1: Remember Tan dan Well.
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  Speaker 2: I realized this morning as I was thinking about that,
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  Speaker 2: because I think about you guys often, I was like, dang,
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  Speaker 2: and I think I screwed up by, you know, pitching
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  Speaker 2: you too hard.
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  Speaker 1: And we talked about it on Instagram and you agreed.
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  Speaker 3: Well, I don't think you screwed up. I don't think
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  Speaker 3: you did anything wrong. I just think me and you
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  Speaker 3: have different wingman love languages that part because I'm a
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  Speaker 3: lot like you in the sense that I am very direct.
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  Speaker 3: But when it comes to my love life, I do
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  Speaker 3: like for things to progress naturally and not be too
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  Speaker 3: hey what somebody like you, because that's never worked for
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  Speaker 3: me in the past, so I like for things to
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  Speaker 3: be a little bit more of a slow burn.
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  Speaker 2: Well that's a good point, And actually I was thinking, like,
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  Speaker 2: because we always joke that you've been single for so long.
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  Speaker 3: So long is literally most my life?
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  Speaker 1: That's okay?
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  Speaker 2: Well in that case, like, would it be worth it
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  Speaker 2: just changing it up completely?
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  Speaker 3: But I'm typically very blunt, whereas all of the relationships
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  Speaker 3: that have worked out for me in any capacity, whether
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  Speaker 3: it's just like a situationship or something that maybe got
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  Speaker 3: close to turning into a relationship, it's always been a
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  Speaker 3: little bit of a slow burn.
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  Speaker 2: So you like it to be something that just takes
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  Speaker 2: its natural time. So let's just go back to Tan Dan.
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  Speaker 2: Because what I did.
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  Speaker 3: Do I forget the hot it's hot.
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  Speaker 1: I know he's not just tan, he's also hot hot
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  Speaker 1: Tan Dan.
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  Speaker 2: Well, what I did that day is I saw this man,
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  Speaker 2: he approached us, started having conversations, made sure that the
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  Speaker 2: conversation always led to Abby somehow tried to find a
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  Speaker 2: way that these two could have a conversation that would
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  Speaker 2: He's like, yeah.
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  Speaker 3: I just drove in the other day and you're like, oh,
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  Speaker 3: happy has a car. That's so funny. Abby also drives well.
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  Speaker 2: Actually, one of the dumbest things I think now that
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  Speaker 2: I look back on it, I was like, okay, well
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  Speaker 2: you've been.
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  Speaker 1: Here for a couple of years, Abby just moved here,
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  Speaker 1: like what are the places that you recommend?
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  Speaker 2: And it was like it just didn't go the way
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  Speaker 2: I thought it would. It like simmered quick. It was
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  Speaker 2: like when you try to start a fire and the
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  Speaker 2: fire just dies out immediately.
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  Speaker 3: He is this, maybe we just actually have zero chemistry
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  Speaker 3: that honestly we're trying to make it work, and it's
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  Speaker 3: just like not there.
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  Speaker 2: You know what I was actually thinking of as I'm
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  Speaker 2: like stepping back into conversations like should.
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  Speaker 1: It be that easy or like should it be a
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  Speaker 1: little bit.
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  Speaker 2: Of work in the beginning, because I'm trying to remember
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  Speaker 2: back in my previous relationships, and I think it is
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  Speaker 2: a natural, just immediately great flow. But then if I
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  Speaker 2: say that out loud, I think I'm kicking myself. I like,
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  Speaker 2: maybe it is supposed to be a little uncomfortable as
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  Speaker 2: you're finding your footing, but like, my dream relationship is
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  Speaker 2: that that's why you watch too many movies, Like you
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  Speaker 2: meet somebody and it's just automatic. You're flowing so intense
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  Speaker 2: that it's like, oh my gosh, you guys couldn't stop
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  Speaker 2: talking for six hours, and I'm like, yeah, we just
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  Speaker 2: have that natural chemistry.
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  Speaker 1: Is that real?
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  Speaker 3: That's where my OCD kicks in a little bit to
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  Speaker 3: where I am thinking, oh my gosh, we didn't really
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  Speaker 3: hit it off, so it's probably not. So I'm probably
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  Speaker 3: forcing something just because I like the way that he looks.
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  Speaker 2: But I would like a second opportunity because it's like
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  Speaker 2: you said, if there was too loud of an environment,
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  Speaker 2: there wasn't the right setting to get to know each other,
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  Speaker 2: I would That's my methodology right now is everyone deserves
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  Speaker 2: two dates, two chances to prove yourself. The first one
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  Speaker 2: you get the nerves out. It's a little awkward, let's
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  Speaker 2: just sit in that awkwardness for a little bit. The
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  Speaker 2: second one kind of decides do we have anything here
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  Speaker 2: and if we do, let's pursue. If we don't, if
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  Speaker 2: you go and talk to hot Tandan and it still
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  Speaker 2: just falls flat.
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  Speaker 1: Well, then I would say this is a lost cause,
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  Speaker 1: let's leave it.
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  Speaker 3: That's where I think i'm at. I've given so many
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  Speaker 3: weird losers a second chance that I'm like, I need
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  Speaker 3: to give hot Tandan a second, third, and fourth chance.
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  Speaker 3: I'm forcing this square peg into the round hole.
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  Speaker 2: Oh boy, I don't you know what. We're not going
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  Speaker 2: to go down that rabbit hole. But I'm curious how many? Okay,
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  Speaker 2: because this is something I've heard recently. You know what,
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  Speaker 2: it's the Unfiltered podcast. Is there at a certain amount
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  Speaker 2: of dates before even like you kiss somebody on a
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  Speaker 2: date that you have in your head.
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  Speaker 3: I think it just depends on the chemistry. I again,
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  Speaker 3: like a little bit of a slow burn. I'm not
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  Speaker 3: a proponent for kissing on the first date. I like
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  Speaker 3: to leave a little bit of mystery, like for there
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  Speaker 3: to be yearning and building intension. And I think when
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  Speaker 3: you jump into soon it changes the pace of the relationship.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, because that's what I'm hearing more of. It's like, Okay,
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  Speaker 2: we don't want to just jump in bed. Want to
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  Speaker 2: make sure that we actually have a connection. You're not
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  Speaker 2: just going to like you know, bleat me and leave,
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  Speaker 2: which I'm like, completely understandable.
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  Speaker 3: It's like having ice cream for breakfast. Ice Cream is
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  Speaker 3: my favorite food. I could eat ice cream all day,
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  Speaker 3: but at the end of the day, the ice cream
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  Speaker 3: tastes better when I have it after I've consumed all
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  Speaker 3: my protein, I've worked out for the day, I sit down,
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  Speaker 3: I have my sweet treat, and I'm like, yes.
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  Speaker 1: You've earned it, earned it.
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  Speaker 3: So that's why I want him. I want the relationship
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  Speaker 3: physicality to feel earned.
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  Speaker 2: So instead of like, oh, I'm just I'm so hungry
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  Speaker 2: right now, let me go ahead and just devour.
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  Speaker 1: That's what's impressive.
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  Speaker 2: And again I'm not saying that like all men are
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  Speaker 2: like this, but our male brains are usually like, I'm.
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  Speaker 1: Hungry, let me eat ice cream for breakfast. I want
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  Speaker 1: ice cream all the time.
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  Speaker 2: And luckily for you know, if it's a guy going
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  Speaker 2: after a girl, it's more like, hey, hungry man, like,
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  Speaker 2: let's just chill out for a second, so we could
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  Speaker 2: let this appetite truly build and so when you get it,
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  Speaker 2: you fully appreciate it.
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  Speaker 1: And it's also it's a trust thing, is it not.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, for sure, we're in the sense when he when
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  Speaker 3: we were at the rooftop bar and he said, oh,
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  Speaker 3: do you want to go what or he didn't ask me.
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  Speaker 3: He said, oh, I'm gonna go watch the sunset. I
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  Speaker 3: was like, ice cream, But my friends are having ice
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  Speaker 3: cream at the room next door for the for the
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  Speaker 3: happy hour. I'm like, you don't want to go have
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  Speaker 3: ice cream with this next story he's like, He's like, well,
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  Speaker 3: I'm going to go have ice cream by myself watching
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  Speaker 3: the sunset. That's what it sounded like to me. I'm like,
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  Speaker 3: but but we all need to have ice cream together first.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, you don't want to be alone eating ice cream
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  Speaker 2: when you don't know how somebody eats ice cream.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know how this person eats ice cream, do
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  Speaker 3: I what if we don't like the same flavor? You
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  Speaker 3: know what I mean. I'm looking, you look great on
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  Speaker 3: the shelf. The ice cream looks really good. But no,
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  Speaker 3: that's not even Sorry this metaphor, this metaphor is going
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  Speaker 3: there the wrong direction. I was trying to make a
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  Speaker 3: metaphor out of this. It's not working. But yeah, he
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  Speaker 3: was like. I was like, it might be I don't
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  Speaker 3: know that I want to eat ice cream with you
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  Speaker 3: right now. I know that I want to eat ice
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  Speaker 3: cream in my friends have ice cream with me and
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  Speaker 3: my friend.
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  Speaker 2: I think I took ice cream in the wrong way. Yeah, okay,
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  Speaker 2: so I guess in summary. Okay, okay, so next time,
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  Speaker 2: I don't really even need to serve you up. I
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  Speaker 2: just need to you just were together in an environment. Yes,
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  Speaker 2: that does enough. You don't need an introduction, you don't
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  Speaker 2: need any pivot.
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  Speaker 1: You're good.
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  Speaker 3: You put it this way, so you know how we
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  Speaker 3: were talking about. I can't remember what the conversation was,
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  Speaker 3: but you said something along the lines of I want
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  Speaker 3: to be invited to feel like I have permission to
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  Speaker 3: be there.
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  Speaker 1: Does that make sense? Yes, for me to.
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  Speaker 3: Feel comfortable in a social setting, sometimes you just need
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  Speaker 3: the invite. And you talking to another guy and me
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  Speaker 3: and you being friends is the equivalent of me feeling
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  Speaker 3: like I got the invite. Oh, you two are having
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  Speaker 3: a party. I don't want to crash your party because
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  Speaker 3: I don't want if this guy is not interested in
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  Speaker 3: having me at the party, I don't want to feel
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  Speaker 3: like I'm crashing it. But if I'm at the party
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  Speaker 3: and me and him are both having fun at the party,
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  Speaker 3: then I feel as if things can naturally progress.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, that makes sense. I like that because that is
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  Speaker 2: going to be the next setting when we go out.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know the next time we're going out, but oh, tomorrow, we're.
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  Speaker 3: Going to Tomorrow. We're gonna see Hot Tadam. Wait, did
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  Speaker 3: we figure out where Hot tan Dan lives?
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  Speaker 1: I have no idea. I think he lives writ in
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  Speaker 1: downtown Saint Pete. He does, actually I have his exact assress. No,
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  Speaker 1: absolutely not, and I don't know that would be insane.
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  Speaker 2: But we're going out tomorrow because we're doing like a
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  Speaker 2: whole Radiothon event. And then afterwards we're going back to
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  Speaker 2: the Moxie where all this took place.
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  Speaker 3: We need to invite him out tomorrow. I need to
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  Speaker 3: get this off my mental plate.
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  Speaker 2: I have no connection to him. If I did, I
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  Speaker 2: probably would have served too hard. So yeah, I have nothing.
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  Speaker 2: Alexia has everything. She's the key. You can get her
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  Speaker 2: to reach out and set something up that seems professional,
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  Speaker 2: but we all know here it's not.
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  Speaker 3: We're having a business meeting at the Moxie tomorrow.
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  Speaker 1: Gosh. I just maybe.
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  Speaker 2: See I'm just somebody I like answers, and maybe that's
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  Speaker 2: what's gotten me in trouble in the past of like
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  Speaker 2: even just dming people home.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, because you have to play the social game of
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  Speaker 3: it all, because, like you said, you want how do
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  Speaker 3: you want your love story to go? Do you want
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  Speaker 3: it to be like, hey, you do you want to
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  Speaker 3: date me or not? That's not you know, you gotta
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  Speaker 3: have to like let this the You have to let
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  Speaker 3: things build.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, but I think it's at a certain point too.
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  Speaker 2: You also got to like make the move. You're playing chess.
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  Speaker 2: How long are you don't to think about that move before
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  Speaker 2: you decide I'm gonna go ahead and make the move.
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  Speaker 1: I like how we're using so many metaphors ice cream
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  Speaker 1: and beaches.
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  Speaker 3: We're being too cryptic. Well, I think him making the
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  Speaker 3: move by asking me to go, not even asking by.
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  Speaker 1: That's what I want to He didn't ask. He just
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  Speaker 1: said that he's.
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  Speaker 3: Going to the h He just said what are you
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  Speaker 3: doing after this? And I know when when I vocalize
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  Speaker 3: it out loud, it sounds as if he's asking me out.
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  Speaker 3: But we had What I'm trying to convey is that
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  Speaker 3: we were really not having a full on conversation to
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  Speaker 3: where it sounded like he was asking me, well, what
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  Speaker 3: are you doing after this? It didn't sound like.
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  Speaker 1: That he was just check it in on you.
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  Speaker 3: It sounded literally as if he just goes, what are
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  Speaker 3: you doing after this? That's all? Yeah, that's that was
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  Speaker 3: more of the inflection to where it kind of caught
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  Speaker 3: me off guard because we went from just kind of
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  Speaker 3: having this weird on a off conversation of where are
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  Speaker 3: you from, what.
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  Speaker 1: Do you do?
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  Speaker 3: We're not even really in a conversation. We're just sort
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  Speaker 3: of in and out of this of this of this chat,
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  Speaker 3: if that makes sense, and then all of a sudden
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  Speaker 3: it was, well, I'm going to the sunset. It just
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  Speaker 3: wasn't an It wasn't a clean pivot. It wasn't avens
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  Speaker 3: if we were vibing and he he said to me,
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  Speaker 3: let's let's go to the sunset.
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  Speaker 1: Now, would you rather go to the sunset with me?
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  Speaker 1: Would that have worked?
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  Speaker 2: No?
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  Speaker 3: We well, no, I'm trying to think of what I
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  Speaker 3: would have wanted to do. And he had been drinking
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  Speaker 3: and he might have been a little nervous. I think
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  Speaker 3: at the end of the day, I'm having a hard
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  Speaker 3: time figuring out where his head was at. I'm like,
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  Speaker 3: was he just coming to find someone to hook up
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  Speaker 3: with and he was just willing to take anybody because
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  Speaker 3: he was mingling with a lot of girls.
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  Speaker 2: I think he's mingling that he was mingling with me,
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  Speaker 2: he's mingling with married women. Like it's just everybody I know.
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  Speaker 3: So when he asked me to go to the sunset,
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  Speaker 3: I it sounded to me because it was such a
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  Speaker 3: hard pivot. It was it felt as if he wanted
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  Speaker 3: to go have ice cream with me on the beach.
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  Speaker 1: Oh you know what I mean.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, if we're talking about the same ice cream now,
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  Speaker 2: now I'm lost.
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  Speaker 1: That's ice cream.
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  Speaker 3: That's when it's like to me because it was such
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  Speaker 3: a hard pivot.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I was like, okay, cool.
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  Speaker 3: Like I wish alone he should have just been like, hey,
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  Speaker 3: do you do you need a drink? Do you want
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  Speaker 3: to go grab a drink at the bar? That would
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  Speaker 3: have been an easier serve for him.
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  Speaker 2: Curious okay, because now I got it. Now I have
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  Speaker 2: it with you, like okay, yeah, yeah, sweet, next time
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  Speaker 2: we go out in settings like I'm just gonna let
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  Speaker 2: Abby fly.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, Aby's got it.
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  Speaker 3: I just need to be in the environment. Yeah, I
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  Speaker 3: need to have environment, have permission to be in the environment.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, And let it naturally just do its thing. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: got it, love it. I'm still happy I did it
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  Speaker 2: at the time because I think it's still funny. But
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  Speaker 2: now going forward, there's gonna be a lot more mens
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  Speaker 2: events that were going to and there's gonna be a
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  Speaker 2: lot more opportunity.
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  Speaker 3: And I don't think you throwing out something that sounds
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  Speaker 3: natural to the conversation that points out that I'm single,
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  Speaker 3: because I think we did at one point come up
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  Speaker 3: with a wayist to bring up relationships into the conversation. Yes,
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  Speaker 3: me and you were standing there, We're in a little
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  Speaker 3: dance circle, and how did it come up?
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  Speaker 2: Well, people either think I'm I'm either with you or
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  Speaker 2: I'm gay.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's how that setting felt. So I was like
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  Speaker 1: trying to make it very like organic, like, hey, by
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  Speaker 1: the way, I'm single, Damn.
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  Speaker 3: Damn, you said something along the lines of your single.
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  Speaker 3: And then I added I was like, oh, yeah, this
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  Speaker 3: is how I threw in that I was single. I
• 12:09
  Speaker 3: told him, yeah, I'm teaching Scotty how to be single
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  Speaker 3: for the first time. He's never single, and I think
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  Speaker 3: you asked him about his relationship.
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  Speaker 1: I did, I know.
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  Speaker 2: See, I told you. I think we did it on
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  Speaker 2: another part, I like a deep question. So I was like,
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  Speaker 2: I didn't mind not I didn't either, but it felt
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  Speaker 2: like he did.
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  Speaker 1: It felt like he was.
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  Speaker 3: Like, well, he did just get out of a relationship.
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  Speaker 3: He's like, yeah, actually my ext girl friend was horrible.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, And I didn't know if it was joking about
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  Speaker 2: what happened. I was like, durmn, I did not know
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  Speaker 2: was going there.
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  Speaker 3: It did get really dark really fast.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, and it's like there's literally music and he's like
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  Speaker 1: it was the worst time in my life.
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  Speaker 3: It was like it was like record scratch.
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  Speaker 1: What he said. DJ stopped the music and you're like.
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  Speaker 3: Look, I don't know how to pivot from here.
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  Speaker 1: You're like, all right, well, at least you can go
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  Speaker 1: find somebody better.
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  Speaker 2: And then it like I was waiting for him to
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  Speaker 2: just do like a I guess may maybe it was
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  Speaker 2: really rough and that sucks, that really sucks.
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  Speaker 1: But I was waiting for him to like drop like oh,
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  Speaker 1: I'm just kidding.
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  Speaker 2: It was just didn't work out because maybe he just
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  Speaker 2: thought hopefully he just had dark humor, and I don't
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  Speaker 2: think it was dark.
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  Speaker 3: He was very he was very matter of fact. Because
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  Speaker 3: remember I tried to make the joke about him jumping
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  Speaker 3: in the pool, and he was like, well, I actually
• 13:08
  Speaker 3: have a back industry.
• 13:09
  Speaker 1: You know what, maybe this is just a nice little
• 13:13
  Speaker 1: uh story.
• 13:14
  Speaker 3: You're so true, this is I'm really trying to make
• 13:16
  Speaker 3: this work just because I think he's hot.
• 13:18
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but I think that luckily, there's so many men
• 13:20
  Speaker 2: that look just like him that it's like, I know, but.
• 13:23
  Speaker 3: I never get attention from those guys. I think that's
• 13:25
  Speaker 3: why I'm trying to make it work where I just
• 13:27
  Speaker 3: I couldn't wrap my mind around the fact that this
• 13:28
  Speaker 3: guy might be interested in me, other.
• 13:30
  Speaker 2: Than to say, yet, haven't gotten attracted from those guys yet?
• 13:34
  Speaker 2: I know, because I think guys in Tampa and Saint
• 13:36
  Speaker 2: Peter are taller than they are in Atlanta.
• 13:38
  Speaker 3: They might be.
• 13:39
  Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm just making up random as statistics.
• 13:41
  Speaker 3: Right, Statistically the men are two inches taller in Tampa, tanner, taller, slimmer,
• 13:45
  Speaker 3: and you know, a little more nonchalant, very nonchalant, very
• 13:49
  Speaker 3: much more John Krazinski, I love it looking, motherfucker gosh.
• 13:53
  Speaker 2: Okay, So the more environments, the better I'll get at this.
• 13:56
  Speaker 2: I don't I think if I don't know how I
• 13:58
  Speaker 2: like to be wing man because I usually like to
• 14:00
  Speaker 2: be in the environment, but I also like to I
• 14:04
  Speaker 2: like to have like a heads up because what I've said,
• 14:07
  Speaker 2: and we said it a little bit earlier, is I'm
• 14:08
  Speaker 2: not the best at reading a situation. But what I've
• 14:11
  Speaker 2: always found is women are so much quicker to be like,
• 14:13
  Speaker 2: oh my god, yeah.
• 14:14
  Speaker 1: She's into you, and I'm like, duh, what she is?
• 14:18
  Speaker 3: What signs help you understand that a woman's interested in you? Like,
• 14:22
  Speaker 3: what signs do women need to give off for you.
• 14:24
  Speaker 1: To go oh?
• 14:26
  Speaker 2: I think it's literally a look in the face of Like,
• 14:28
  Speaker 2: if I'm looking at you and I can tell that
• 14:29
  Speaker 2: you're intensely looking at me, you're making eye contact, you're
• 14:33
  Speaker 2: very invested in what I'm saying, I'm like, oh, okay.
• 14:36
  Speaker 3: What if she's just a good listener.
• 14:37
  Speaker 1: Gosh, dang it.
• 14:38
  Speaker 2: See that's what my head goes to immediately, and I'm like, great,
• 14:40
  Speaker 2: maybe she's just being friendly and she doesn't know how
• 14:42
  Speaker 2: to get out of a situation. That's immediately my thoughts.
• 14:45
  Speaker 3: That's what I mean. I think it's more intuition. You
• 14:47
  Speaker 3: just kind of get a vibe. You just you can
• 14:50
  Speaker 3: sense there's a little bit of static in the air
• 14:52
  Speaker 3: where when you two look at each other you can
• 14:54
  Speaker 3: tell that you're you're both going, oh, I know.
• 14:59
  Speaker 1: What, I have a moment in a while. So it's
• 15:02
  Speaker 1: kind of like you got to remind yourself of what
• 15:04
  Speaker 1: that moment is.
• 15:05
  Speaker 2: Like I had a good couple of moments recently where
• 15:08
  Speaker 2: I was like, oh, that's it, But it still took me,
• 15:13
  Speaker 2: gosh a long time to be like all right, Scott,
• 15:16
  Speaker 2: I think you got the go ahead.
• 15:17
  Speaker 1: It was like hours and I.
• 15:18
  Speaker 2: Was like, oh, okay, let me go ahead and take
• 15:21
  Speaker 2: a step and let's see where this step takes me
• 15:23
  Speaker 2: because of what I don't want to do is take
• 15:24
  Speaker 2: the step and there's no stairs and they just go
• 15:26
  Speaker 2: tumbling down, Like gosh, that would suck. But another thing
• 15:29
  Speaker 2: is I look for, like like physical touch, Like if
• 15:32
  Speaker 2: I've just noticed that if a woman is constantly like
• 15:35
  Speaker 2: put in her hand on my arm or her hand
• 15:36
  Speaker 2: on my arm or some weight of just finding like
• 15:39
  Speaker 2: a touch that seems to be like a way and
• 15:41
  Speaker 2: of like, Okay, she's comfortable.
• 15:43
  Speaker 3: That's a good side. I would say, if a woman
• 15:45
  Speaker 3: is going out of her way to touch you could
• 15:48
  Speaker 3: with consent obviously above the belt. Yeah, that's a good sign.
• 15:54
  Speaker 2: That'd definitely be horrible. She just walked by Davis.
• 16:00
  Speaker 3: I just want one of the kids, just wanted to
• 16:04
  Speaker 3: let you know I'm interested.
• 16:05
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's when I actually run away. That's actually when
• 16:08
  Speaker 1: the scary part happens, which has happened though, like you
• 16:10
  Speaker 1: go out, it does happen.
• 16:11
  Speaker 3: I wish we were more like animals in this sense
• 16:14
  Speaker 3: that there was no no, no, But you know how
• 16:18
  Speaker 3: if you watch Animal Planet or something and there's a
• 16:21
  Speaker 3: there's there's like a like a spray that butterflies give off.
• 16:25
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, you're like, oh, of course they're attracted me.
• 16:27
  Speaker 1: They let that butt spray out. Yea yeah.
• 16:29
  Speaker 3: Whereas I feel as if humans are the exact opposite.
• 16:33
  Speaker 3: Where if I don't give up, if I do not
• 16:36
  Speaker 3: care what how you feel about me, I will be
• 16:39
  Speaker 3: so enthusiastic and flirtatious and just easy breezy, Whereas if
• 16:45
  Speaker 3: I like you, I feel as if I will treat
• 16:47
  Speaker 3: you as though you were my worst enemy. I shut
• 16:51
  Speaker 3: down emotionally frustrated. But it takes you a second to
• 16:55
  Speaker 3: get out of that. You have to kind of establish
• 16:57
  Speaker 3: that this person we're this person is do they just
• 17:00
  Speaker 3: like you as a person, because if I if I
• 17:02
  Speaker 3: feel like you like me as a person, I'll kind
• 17:04
  Speaker 3: of start throwing some flirtations jobs out there. But I
• 17:07
  Speaker 3: don't like to jump straight into flirtation mode because I
• 17:09
  Speaker 3: don't really know what I'm flirting into. Are you what's
• 17:13
  Speaker 3: the status to you of other girls? Are you the
• 17:14
  Speaker 3: kind of guy that just wants to hook up because
• 17:17
  Speaker 3: you're a month out of a relationship? You know what
• 17:19
  Speaker 3: I mean?
• 17:20
  Speaker 1: What were the signs that you were giving hot tan Dan?
• 17:22
  Speaker 3: I don't think I was giving him signs.
• 17:24
  Speaker 1: See, that's I think the problem.
• 17:25
  Speaker 3: I think I think I was acting interested in him.
• 17:28
  Speaker 3: I was consistently starting the conversation. I don't think he
• 17:31
  Speaker 3: was really asking me questions, which is why I didn't
• 17:34
  Speaker 3: really know what was happening. But he kept standing next
• 17:36
  Speaker 3: to me. So because he kept standing next to me,
• 17:38
  Speaker 3: I'm thinking, this guy's obviously interested. And we did have
• 17:43
  Speaker 3: eye contact across the pool a couple times.
• 17:45
  Speaker 2: You're like, okay, we keep locking eyes. Yeah, there might
• 17:47
  Speaker 2: be like, you know, three chance and nothing.
• 17:49
  Speaker 3: And so I kept talking to him, So I guess
• 17:51
  Speaker 3: that's the sign that I'm like, I would like to
• 17:53
  Speaker 3: talk to you. But it wasn't necessarily necessarily a flirtatious interaction.
• 17:59
  Speaker 2: We were talking earlier about you know, Weathering Heights and
• 18:02
  Speaker 2: the book Talk World, and before I get into like
• 18:05
  Speaker 2: the Wuthering Heights stuff, because I haven't watched it yet,
• 18:07
  Speaker 2: but you are somebody that reads a lot of those
• 18:10
  Speaker 2: romance novels.
• 18:10
  Speaker 1: Is that correct?
• 18:11
  Speaker 2: I do?
• 18:11
  Speaker 3: And it's funny that you bring up Wuthering Heights because
• 18:13
  Speaker 3: I was watching the film yesterday and thinking, oh my god,
• 18:16
  Speaker 3: this is what two avoidant attachment styles people do, because
• 18:19
  Speaker 3: I have an avoidant attachment style. I don't know if
• 18:21
  Speaker 3: you're a big on attachment theory. Have you heard about
• 18:23
  Speaker 3: attachment theory?
• 18:24
  Speaker 1: I have, But remind me, there is the.
• 18:26
  Speaker 3: Anxious attachment style, which is like, you really really want
• 18:29
  Speaker 3: to be with somebody, so you have an anxious attachment style.
• 18:31
  Speaker 3: You have an avoidant attachment style, which is me, which
• 18:34
  Speaker 3: is I'm scared of rejection, so I kind of avoid
• 18:36
  Speaker 3: because that's easier. Yeah, And then there's disorganized where I
• 18:39
  Speaker 3: think it's a mix of the two. Wuthering Heights is
• 18:42
  Speaker 3: literally two people with an avoidant attachment style because they're
• 18:45
  Speaker 3: scared of what it would mean to be in a
• 18:47
  Speaker 3: relationship with this person, so they both just keep avoiding
• 18:50
  Speaker 3: it in different ways. I think maybe Jacobalordi's character is
• 18:56
  Speaker 3: a little bit more secure, whereas I think Kathy is
• 18:59
  Speaker 3: an avoidant.
• 19:00
  Speaker 2: That's okay, I've done a lot of thinking about this.
• 19:02
  Speaker 2: This is going to take a tangent, but like, cause
• 19:04
  Speaker 2: there's I've dated women in the past that like this
• 19:08
  Speaker 2: sounds so weird, But like, I guess it is that
• 19:10
  Speaker 2: avoidant attraction style of I don't want a relationship. I
• 19:16
  Speaker 2: don't want to ruin what we have. I don't want
• 19:17
  Speaker 2: to take that risk. I'm scared to step back in.
• 19:20
  Speaker 2: And I remember in the times being like, why don't
• 19:24
  Speaker 2: we just see what happens? Like, we're obviously attracted to
• 19:27
  Speaker 2: each other, we obviously like each other. Why don't we
• 19:30
  Speaker 2: just take a step into that world? But now there's
• 19:34
  Speaker 2: two thoughts. Was that avoidance or was that trying to
• 19:37
  Speaker 2: let me down gently? Where I'm like, huh wait a second,
• 19:41
  Speaker 2: were you?
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: Well?
• 19:42
  Speaker 2: I guess now looking back, is probably just avoidant because
• 19:45
  Speaker 2: relationships went for extremely long periods of time, so hopefully
• 19:48
  Speaker 2: at some point they would have ended it quicker than that.
• 19:51
  Speaker 2: But there's also that thought of like, wait, maybe they
• 19:54
  Speaker 2: were just scared of being in a relationship. Maybe it
• 19:55
  Speaker 2: wasn't me, but I have thought recently I was like, Wow,
• 19:57
  Speaker 2: did I force them into a relationship that they didn't
• 20:00
  Speaker 2: want to be in?
• 20:00
  Speaker 3: No, I don't think so. I think I think somebody
• 20:04
  Speaker 3: with an avoidant attachment style does have a hard time
• 20:06
  Speaker 3: fully getting secure in the relationship. But I don't think. Yeah,
• 20:10
  Speaker 3: I guess it's a fine line between whether or not
• 20:11
  Speaker 3: this person is just trying to be like, oh, I
• 20:12
  Speaker 3: just don't want to date you and they don't want
• 20:14
  Speaker 3: to hurt your feelings. Yeah, they're trying to blame it
• 20:15
  Speaker 3: on them, But I think if you're in the relationship
• 20:18
  Speaker 3: with them, it's probably not like a you thing with
• 20:20
  Speaker 3: them trying to break things off.
• 20:21
  Speaker 2: Well, it would be like months of talking and months
• 20:23
  Speaker 2: of getting close and it's like finally, like should we
• 20:26
  Speaker 2: and they're like.
• 20:26
  Speaker 3: Ah, I don't know.
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't want to. I don't want
• 20:30
  Speaker 1: to end a friendship. I don't want to. I'm scared
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: of what's gonna happen.
• 20:34
  Speaker 2: I'm like, I mean, I'd rather, like my whole theory
• 20:37
  Speaker 2: is I'd rather try and fail and be a heartbroken
• 20:41
  Speaker 2: and just distraught.
• 20:43
  Speaker 1: As it happened.
• 20:44
  Speaker 2: Yeah, then to wonder, huh, we got something really good here,
• 20:48
  Speaker 2: let's see and then never find out.
• 20:50
  Speaker 3: That's so funny because I think I'm the exact opposite
• 20:53
  Speaker 3: of that.
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: Really, you rather just wonder what would have been.
• 20:56
  Speaker 3: I admire your bravery. I think it takes a lot
• 20:58
  Speaker 3: of bravery to get into a mess relationship that is doomed.
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: Well at the time and it knows dude.
• 21:04
  Speaker 3: Well, you don't know. That's the scary part is you
• 21:06
  Speaker 3: don't realize it's doomed. You go in with all these
• 21:08
  Speaker 3: hopes and dreams and all these fluttery feelings and it
• 21:12
  Speaker 3: ends up leading you to really difficult heartbreak and messy
• 21:17
  Speaker 3: feelings that you then have to work through that if
• 21:19
  Speaker 3: you just didn't get into that relationship, you wouldn't have
• 21:21
  Speaker 3: to work through.
• 21:21
  Speaker 4: But it's like that quote, it's like, it's better to
• 21:23
  Speaker 4: have love than I never loved it all I know,
• 21:25
  Speaker 4: Socrates or whatever, I know, but that's I think it's
• 21:27
  Speaker 4: better to be more selective then, Like I think now
• 21:29
  Speaker 4: going forward, yeah, I will be way more conscious of
• 21:32
  Speaker 4: and quicker too.
• 21:33
  Speaker 2: I think in the past what I've done is I've
• 21:36
  Speaker 2: let little things just kind of sit there and I'm like, ah,
• 21:38
  Speaker 2: I could look past it, or maybe I like this,
• 21:40
  Speaker 2: maybe I don't. And then I think, now in the dating,
• 21:43
  Speaker 2: as soon as it's like, okay, I know we're not
• 21:46
  Speaker 2: going to work out, just being the brave part would
• 21:50
  Speaker 2: be having the conversation. Then like I have gone just
• 21:53
  Speaker 2: on dates and people in the past, and it's like, well,
• 21:55
  Speaker 2: I mean, I mean we're three dates and I still
• 21:57
  Speaker 2: don't feel it, but I guess we'll keep going. And
• 22:00
  Speaker 2: I'm like, that doesn't seem fair to anybody.
• 22:02
  Speaker 3: I'm trying to talk you out of that right now?
• 22:04
  Speaker 2: Well, I ah, it's yeah, it's a messy situation.
• 22:10
  Speaker 3: Because you do have to be selective with who handles
• 22:13
  Speaker 3: your heart. And I think maybe that's why I haven't
• 22:14
  Speaker 3: gotten into a long term relationship, is that there are
• 22:17
  Speaker 3: very few people that I would trust to actually handle
• 22:20
  Speaker 3: it with care.
• 22:22
  Speaker 2: Woo.
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: Indeed, that is so deep.
• 22:24
  Speaker 3: I just don't trust men.
• 22:25
  Speaker 2: I guess.
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: I guess what.
• 22:26
  Speaker 2: It's coming down to is it's none of the problem
• 22:29
  Speaker 2: here obviously not me. From the like the book world
• 22:33
  Speaker 2: and the movie world. What are the things that you've
• 22:35
  Speaker 2: seen that you'd actually like to implement in a relationship,
• 22:39
  Speaker 2: Like what aer the things and the styles and this
• 22:41
  Speaker 2: could be from anything. It doesn't have to be from
• 22:43
  Speaker 2: weathering heights. But like if you've read something like a
• 22:45
  Speaker 2: guide and you're like, man, I really want my future
• 22:49
  Speaker 2: man to do that.
• 22:50
  Speaker 3: For me, it's not well, if we're talking about the
• 22:52
  Speaker 3: books that I've read.
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: We need to go on a.
• 22:54
  Speaker 3: Quest and there needs to be an inn and there's
• 22:56
  Speaker 3: only one bed. Oh, and you have crusty bread and cheese.
• 22:58
  Speaker 2: At one point, that's like, yeah, that's the fantasy really
• 23:00
  Speaker 2: starts to take a really big turn.
• 23:02
  Speaker 3: All the fantasy girls will know exactly what tropes I'm
• 23:04
  Speaker 3: talking about, But for me, it's less about what he does.
• 23:07
  Speaker 3: I think guys tend to really get hung up on
• 23:10
  Speaker 3: what can I do for her to make her like
• 23:12
  Speaker 3: me yes, whereas women are so intuitive that we're just
• 23:17
  Speaker 3: looking for someone that feels right to us and then
• 23:20
  Speaker 3: everything else is just his cherry on top. Because I've
• 23:23
  Speaker 3: been on dates where I've sat there thinking, if this
• 23:26
  Speaker 3: guy was the right guy for me, this would literally
• 23:28
  Speaker 3: be a dream date.
• 23:29
  Speaker 2: This would be so fun, Like they're doing everything right,
• 23:31
  Speaker 2: it just doesn't feel right.
• 23:32
  Speaker 3: Whereas you could just be laying on the couch with
• 23:35
  Speaker 3: some dude that you really have great chemistry with, just
• 23:37
  Speaker 3: hanging out watching vine compilations, and it feels like the
• 23:41
  Speaker 3: most fun in the world because that person is more
• 23:44
  Speaker 3: compatible with you or you have more chemistry with them.
• 23:46
  Speaker 1: Mm see.
• 23:47
  Speaker 2: I think that's actually where the silence speaks louder. It's
• 23:50
  Speaker 2: like if you could sit comfortably with somebody and it's
• 23:51
  Speaker 2: not awkward, nobody has to fill in a space.
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: You could just sit in each other's arm, like.
• 23:57
  Speaker 3: Ah, that's what I'm looking for. And I think I
• 24:01
  Speaker 3: have a hard time wondering because I have OCD. I
• 24:04
  Speaker 3: sometimes wonder if I'm holding out for this thing that
• 24:07
  Speaker 3: everyone talks about where you have that calm sense of knowing,
• 24:11
  Speaker 3: of intuition of being like, Oh, I think I think
• 24:14
  Speaker 3: this is I really sent something here or am I
• 24:18
  Speaker 3: so caught up in my OCD that I'm waiting for
• 24:20
  Speaker 3: something that doesn't really exist.
• 24:21
  Speaker 2: I think it exists, like as the optimist in me,
• 24:24
  Speaker 2: And I think that is why that feeling is there.
• 24:26
  Speaker 2: Because I have you ever been in love, like truly
• 24:30
  Speaker 2: in love?
• 24:31
  Speaker 3: No, I mean like I think I've been infatuated. I
• 24:33
  Speaker 3: think I've been stuck in Limerens before, but I've never
• 24:36
  Speaker 3: been in love with someone. I think that requires you
• 24:40
  Speaker 3: truly knowing somebody.
• 24:41
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it takes a lot of time, it takes a
• 24:43
  Speaker 2: lot of effort, but then when that feeling happens.
• 24:46
  Speaker 1: I was just talking to a friend about this of like.
• 24:49
  Speaker 2: When you have that feeling, you then know that it's like,
• 24:51
  Speaker 2: oh my god, it is there, and then anything that
• 24:53
  Speaker 2: doesn't live up to it, you're like, well, no, I
• 24:56
  Speaker 2: know that feeling's there, so I'm going after that. And
• 24:59
  Speaker 2: for me me, the way my mind works is like, Okay,
• 25:01
  Speaker 2: if I've had love before and that didn't work out, well,
• 25:04
  Speaker 2: that means then there's something even better out there, like
• 25:07
  Speaker 2: the universe when it's set me up to settle for less,
• 25:09
  Speaker 2: I don't know.
• 25:10
  Speaker 3: The universe is pretty fucked up, it is it though.
• 25:12
  Speaker 2: But again I'm always looking at it as like, what
• 25:14
  Speaker 2: is a guiding me too? If I've already lost let's say,
• 25:18
  Speaker 2: an amazing love, maybe it wasn't lost. It was learning
• 25:22
  Speaker 2: because I could learn what it actually feels like when
• 25:24
  Speaker 2: I get that again, and the goal is that it's
• 25:26
  Speaker 2: even better. And that's why that one relationship failed. That's
• 25:30
  Speaker 2: honestly how the optimist mind works.
• 25:31
  Speaker 3: This is what it's like to live when you're not depressed.
• 25:33
  Speaker 2: Yeah, well exactly, like this is just what I focus
• 25:35
  Speaker 2: on because or also it gets really dark. It's like, well, damn,
• 25:38
  Speaker 2: that didn't work out. That was the one time I
• 25:40
  Speaker 2: felt loved. I guess it will never happen again.
• 25:42
  Speaker 3: I know that that's terrified is to wonder, did you
• 25:45
  Speaker 3: This is one of my favorite Tailor swift lyrics of
• 25:47
  Speaker 3: all time. I'm wondering if I dodged a bullet or
• 25:50
  Speaker 3: lost the love of my life. Isn't that so validating?
• 25:53
  Speaker 3: It is? Was this? Was this the relationship? And sometimes
• 25:57
  Speaker 3: somehow like that fell apart? Or did I act dodge
• 26:00
  Speaker 3: a bullet? But it's just masked by the connection that
• 26:04
  Speaker 3: we had.
• 26:05
  Speaker 1: See.
• 26:05
  Speaker 2: I always believe if it was gonna work, it would
• 26:07
  Speaker 2: have worked. If it was supposed to be, it would
• 26:09
  Speaker 2: have been and we wouldn't have had the problems, or
• 26:12
  Speaker 2: it would have brought back together even if we broke up,
• 26:15
  Speaker 2: even if we split, we would have found a way
• 26:17
  Speaker 2: to come back in each other's lives.
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: Yeah, like there was somebody in my past.
• 26:20
  Speaker 2: I was like, who knows, maybe, And then I saw
• 26:22
  Speaker 2: they got married and I was like, I guess.
• 26:23
  Speaker 3: Not, I know, why does it take someone to get
• 26:26
  Speaker 3: married for me to go well, as if they can't
• 26:28
  Speaker 3: get divorced.
• 26:28
  Speaker 2: That's true, and as you know, the statistics show that
• 26:31
  Speaker 2: a lot will.
• 26:32
  Speaker 1: And I'm not saying that's what I'm waiting for.
• 26:34
  Speaker 3: We're each other, me and you have second husband and
• 26:37
  Speaker 3: wife material.
• 26:37
  Speaker 1: No, we just waited out.
• 26:39
  Speaker 2: We're not even in our thirties yet, Like we're just
• 26:41
  Speaker 2: waiting to see what happens, and honestly just throwing yourselves
• 26:44
  Speaker 2: in better environments. And I think that's what's so wild
• 26:48
  Speaker 2: is I had a great friend and for so many
• 26:51
  Speaker 2: years he used to get down on himself because nothing
• 26:54
  Speaker 2: ever worked. He would be on the apps and it
• 26:56
  Speaker 2: would just fall flat. He would go to a bar
• 26:58
  Speaker 2: and it would just fall flat. I remember telling him,
• 27:00
  Speaker 2: I was like, dude, I think you're just going into
• 27:03
  Speaker 2: the environments where you won't truly fit in. You're looking
• 27:07
  Speaker 2: for something that you don't really want to find in
• 27:09
  Speaker 2: a place that you're never going to find it. And
• 27:11
  Speaker 2: he literally moved states, he moved environments, he started doing
• 27:16
  Speaker 2: different activities that were more hymn that man's in the
• 27:19
  Speaker 2: first relationship that he's like literally saying to us, He's like, yep,
• 27:22
  Speaker 2: I'm pretty sure that this is the one wow, which
• 27:25
  Speaker 2: is crazy, and this is somebody that used to be
• 27:27
  Speaker 2: very like just it's never gonna happen. It's not for me,
• 27:30
  Speaker 2: it's not in my cards. And I was like, I
• 27:31
  Speaker 2: don't think so. I think we're just looking at the
• 27:33
  Speaker 2: wrong place.
• 27:34
  Speaker 3: Where did he find her?
• 27:35
  Speaker 1: Well, I think it was in a.
• 27:40
  Speaker 3: I'm like pulling out my math. I'm like, give me coordinates.
• 27:43
  Speaker 2: Well, it's nowhere here in Tampa, but it was across
• 27:45
  Speaker 2: he moved another state, and so he started doing like
• 27:47
  Speaker 2: a bunch of wreck activities and started doing a bunch
• 27:49
  Speaker 2: of like like friendship meetups where they would hike or
• 27:52
  Speaker 2: something like that. And those were his things that he
• 27:54
  Speaker 2: naturally loved. Oh, somebody else comes along, natural friend group,
• 27:59
  Speaker 2: natural friends in, natural conversation, and somebody that's interested in
• 28:02
  Speaker 2: something that you're interested in.
• 28:04
  Speaker 1: Oh, it kind of worked out.
• 28:07
  Speaker 2: So they saw that they had each other's interest in mind,
• 28:10
  Speaker 2: and I think that's where the natural conversation happened.
• 28:12
  Speaker 3: That's what I mean is I feel like when you
• 28:13
  Speaker 3: have to force it it, force it, force it, that's usually.
• 28:18
  Speaker 2: Your sign yeah, well, that's why I don't want to
• 28:19
  Speaker 2: look in bars, because I'm like, I don't know if
• 28:21
  Speaker 2: that's going to be the best thing, because I rarely
• 28:24
  Speaker 2: go to bars rarely.
• 28:25
  Speaker 3: I hate that logic bars have such a negative connotation,
• 28:29
  Speaker 3: as if anybody that goes in and has a beverage,
• 28:32
  Speaker 3: it's some degenerate, like you're not going to find your
• 28:34
  Speaker 3: wife or your husband in a bar. Bars are one
• 28:37
  Speaker 3: of the only third spaces we have in America where
• 28:40
  Speaker 3: people can go and mingle and not be at work
• 28:43
  Speaker 3: or at the gym. It is a place where people
• 28:45
  Speaker 3: can be social and ultimately you need social interaction to
• 28:48
  Speaker 3: find somebody.
• 28:49
  Speaker 2: That is true, you need to put yourself in the
• 28:51
  Speaker 2: environment too, And so maybe that's probably why I'm closing
• 28:53
  Speaker 2: off potential life material by not even putting in myself
• 28:57
  Speaker 2: to all the environments, by reducing one, reducing the odds,
• 29:05
  Speaker 2: because my whole logic was I'll just go and hopefully
• 29:07
  Speaker 2: find somebody at.
• 29:08
  Speaker 1: Like a yoga retreat.
• 29:09
  Speaker 2: I mean, to be fair, I'm not breaking the yoga,
• 29:11
  Speaker 2: by the way, but if I did, Yeah, okay, you're earthy.
• 29:14
  Speaker 3: So you're looking for someone who's very fitness conscious, very
• 29:20
  Speaker 3: wellness oriented. Those people can be found in bars.
• 29:23
  Speaker 1: Absolutely.
• 29:23
  Speaker 3: But I understand what you're saying is if you're here's
• 29:27
  Speaker 3: a good analogy. Oh boy, let me just make it
• 29:29
  Speaker 3: even more convoluted.
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: Oh boy.
• 29:31
  Speaker 3: If you are looking for a specific brand of yogurt,
• 29:36
  Speaker 3: sometimes you have to go to a certain supermarket to
• 29:38
  Speaker 3: find it.
• 29:39
  Speaker 1: That's so specific you're.
• 29:40
  Speaker 3: Not going to find If you're looking for chow Body,
• 29:44
  Speaker 3: you're not going to find it at Trader Joe's. You're
• 29:46
  Speaker 3: not gonna find it at all. The you have to
• 29:48
  Speaker 3: go up public, So you have to go to public
• 29:50
  Speaker 3: to see if it's in stock.
• 29:51
  Speaker 2: M I at least should look. I gotta see if
• 29:54
  Speaker 2: it's in stock.
• 29:55
  Speaker 3: So what I'm saying is you're not wrong for wanting
• 29:58
  Speaker 3: to go to certain places to find it that specific item.
• 30:01
  Speaker 3: But who knows, maybe Trader Joe's does have Chilaney in
• 30:03
  Speaker 3: stock one day. Maybe it's like a specialty Trader dose.
• 30:06
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and you're just giving it the option of having
• 30:07
  Speaker 2: it there. Like my buddy wanted us to go check
• 30:10
  Speaker 2: out the Tampa edition yesterday. Oh we went through Andrea Bocelli,
• 30:14
  Speaker 2: which was, oh my god. Never did I ever a
• 30:17
  Speaker 2: sign that I know I'm getting older. I think I
• 30:19
  Speaker 2: was going to appreciate it like an opera, and it
• 30:22
  Speaker 2: was incredible, transformational.
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: Wow.
• 30:26
  Speaker 2: And afterwards my roommate was like, well, there's gonna be
• 30:29
  Speaker 2: a lot of traffic. We're right by the Tampa Edition.
• 30:31
  Speaker 2: He loves checking out a new scene. I mean, he's
• 30:33
  Speaker 2: been there before, but he loves checking out the bar.
• 30:35
  Speaker 2: He loves talking to people. He's like, let's just go
• 30:36
  Speaker 2: step in there for a second. Let the traffic die down,
• 30:38
  Speaker 2: Let's just go step in. And I said, absolutely not.
• 30:42
  Speaker 2: And he's like, what if your wife is in there?
• 30:44
  Speaker 2: And that point almost got me because I was like,
• 30:47
  Speaker 2: am I closing off an opportunity to meeting wife?
• 30:50
  Speaker 3: Like? Your wife is not at the Tampa Edition. Maybe
• 30:53
  Speaker 3: she is that I know for certain she's.
• 30:54
  Speaker 2: Sitting there at the bar, sipping a martini. She's in
• 30:56
  Speaker 2: a beautiful, elegant dress, her hair is past her shoulders,
• 31:00
  Speaker 2: and she's just sitting there thinking about when am I
• 31:04
  Speaker 2: going to find that one? And I walk in and
• 31:07
  Speaker 2: I notice this beautiful woman sitting at the bar, and
• 31:11
  Speaker 2: I think to myself, she's absolutely gorgeous.
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: How in the world she alone? And I say to myself,
• 31:18
  Speaker 1: you know what, Scott You said you're gonna take more risks.
• 31:20
  Speaker 1: He said you were going to start more conversations. You said.
• 31:24
  Speaker 2: You were going to push forward even when fear percented itself.
• 31:28
  Speaker 2: And I say, roommate, just wait a second. I think
• 31:31
  Speaker 2: there's somebody I need to meet. And I walk up
• 31:36
  Speaker 2: and I asked her.
• 31:39
  Speaker 1: Did you just come back from the andre but Chelly? Oh?
• 31:44
  Speaker 3: Did you love the bar where he went? Oh, if
• 31:46
  Speaker 3: you love that guy, you really need to narrate audiobooks.
• 31:51
  Speaker 1: I mean it's like that would be the romance.
• 31:52
  Speaker 2: Now.
• 31:53
  Speaker 1: I'm kicking myself for not going. But I also don't
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: think you're a real world I would do that.
• 31:57
  Speaker 3: As a realist. Let me tell you what you're gonna
• 31:59
  Speaker 3: find in the Tampa and Scotty, you're gonna walk into
• 32:01
  Speaker 3: the Tampa edition. You're gonna see four guys who just
• 32:04
  Speaker 3: moved here three months ago from New Jersey. They're all
• 32:07
  Speaker 3: sitting there wondering if they should go to five eleven
• 32:09
  Speaker 3: or Ginjoint. Oh my god, they've just spent four hundred
• 32:13
  Speaker 3: dollars on Martini's on their parents' credit card.
• 32:15
  Speaker 1: Oh wow.
• 32:16
  Speaker 3: And one of them is talking about this girl that
• 32:18
  Speaker 3: he hooked up with last night. But doesn't plan on
• 32:20
  Speaker 3: calling Oh my god, that's who you're That's what you're
• 32:22
  Speaker 3: gonna find at the Tampa edition. It's just a buch
• 32:24
  Speaker 3: of influencer wanna be d bag types. So there's not
• 32:28
  Speaker 3: not not saying that you can't find lovely people at
• 32:31
  Speaker 3: the Tampa Edition. I'm just saying, in my experience, that's
• 32:34
  Speaker 3: kind of the crowd.
• 32:35
  Speaker 2: You know what it is going to be the adventure
• 32:37
  Speaker 2: of just seeing I think it's just throwing darts at
• 32:40
  Speaker 2: the wall and just checking out all those spots, because,
• 32:42
  Speaker 2: like I said, like my thing is finding the new spots,
• 32:45
  Speaker 2: opening my mind, opening my heart, opening the soul to
• 32:48
  Speaker 2: what's out there. And if that means going out late
• 32:50
  Speaker 2: on a bar night, I think what gets me more is.
• 32:54
  Speaker 1: Like the sleep.
• 32:55
  Speaker 2: That's god, dang, it's so late, But I'm open to it.
• 32:58
  Speaker 2: If that means going to a drum circle, I'm.
• 33:00
  Speaker 3: I'm taking you to Bulan. What if your wife is
• 33:02
  Speaker 3: at Bulan?
• 33:03
  Speaker 1: That'd be really nice.
• 33:04
  Speaker 3: What if I introduce you to your wife, as you
• 33:06
  Speaker 3: imagine she's gonna leave her husband for you.
• 33:09
  Speaker 2: That would well, maybe her boyfriend. I think i'd be work.
• 33:13
  Speaker 2: I don't know if I want to ruin a marriage,
• 33:14
  Speaker 2: but I'd ruin a Relationshi.
• 33:15
  Speaker 3: I'm just thinking about the Thursday Night Boulon crowd. I'm
• 33:17
  Speaker 3: like some woman who's like, I'm sick of this man
• 33:19
  Speaker 3: in finance?
• 33:20
  Speaker 1: What if No?
• 33:21
  Speaker 2: I can't know. No, that's the them journey. I do
• 33:23
  Speaker 2: not want to get bracked up in that. I'm done
• 33:25
  Speaker 2: with jealous boyfriends. Can't be all up in those circles.
• 33:30
  Speaker 2: Absolutely not. What is the thing that you would be
• 33:33
  Speaker 2: pushing yourself out of to try if it meant meeting someone?
• 33:36
  Speaker 3: Well, I mean, I've never been opposed to run club,
• 33:39
  Speaker 3: but I've never been to a run club, so I
• 33:41
  Speaker 3: guess that's a little bit outside my comfort zone. But
• 33:44
  Speaker 3: all in all, I'm somebody who really has put themselves
• 33:46
  Speaker 3: out there a lot to find a relationship. I mean
• 33:48
  Speaker 3: I literally flew to Indiana to see if a relationship
• 33:52
  Speaker 3: would work out.
• 33:53
  Speaker 1: Can we talk about the guy that hits you up
• 33:55
  Speaker 1: once you got here?
• 33:56
  Speaker 2: Oh?
• 33:56
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I did. I talked about this a little bit
• 33:57
  Speaker 3: on my sub stack. I think I put it in
• 33:59
  Speaker 3: the paid poor because it's hot gossip.
• 34:01
  Speaker 1: Oh hot gossip.
• 34:03
  Speaker 2: Still, you know, it was jobless for a little bit,
• 34:06
  Speaker 2: so you know, you know, I gotta put the tea somewhere.
• 34:08
  Speaker 1: I put that tea somewhere to pay for tea, you
• 34:10
  Speaker 1: gotta pay for tea.
• 34:10
  Speaker 3: So anyway, this is in my paid portion of my
• 34:12
  Speaker 3: sub stack already, but it's been out long enough that
• 34:15
  Speaker 3: I think I can maybe talk about it.
• 34:16
  Speaker 1: I was like, maybe just catch me up just to
• 34:17
  Speaker 1: what you before you reveal.
• 34:19
  Speaker 3: Yeah, let me give you the tea. So a listener
• 34:22
  Speaker 3: of The Birch Show, which is the show that I
• 34:24
  Speaker 3: just came from, she invited the whole cast to come
• 34:28
  Speaker 3: to her wedding. And it's literally in Indiana, but like
• 34:31
  Speaker 3: two hours outside Indianapolis. It's in like rural Indiana, and
• 34:35
  Speaker 3: so we're all like, we literally can't go because that's
• 34:37
  Speaker 3: really far and also very expensive. And I guess they
• 34:40
  Speaker 3: knew that the show was ending, so they're like, where's
• 34:41
  Speaker 3: the money gonna come from? Anyway, she hits us up,
• 34:45
  Speaker 3: but then one of my costs was or no, I guess.
• 34:48
  Speaker 3: She then DMed one of my co hosts and said,
• 34:50
  Speaker 3: you know, can you at least let Abby go because
• 34:52
  Speaker 3: of the best man I think is a really good
• 34:54
  Speaker 3: fit for her. He lives in Tampa, which is where
• 34:57
  Speaker 3: her family is from.
• 34:58
  Speaker 1: Here we are, he's.
• 34:59
  Speaker 3: Tall, we in finance, the whole thing, and he was
• 35:02
  Speaker 3: gonna go on The Bachelor at some point or something.
• 35:04
  Speaker 3: I was like, Okay, this is like definitely I'm interested.
• 35:07
  Speaker 3: So I fly it for the wedding. It's a great time.
• 35:09
  Speaker 3: We have a lovely evening. We went on a second
• 35:11
  Speaker 3: date in Tampa and it just kind it wasn't how
• 35:15
  Speaker 3: do I phrase this, because people are like, well, you
• 35:17
  Speaker 3: never told us how it ended. I'm like, it didn't
• 35:18
  Speaker 3: really need a story. I was just kind of like,
• 35:20
  Speaker 3: I don't think you're my boyfriend. I don't think i'm
• 35:22
  Speaker 3: your girlfriend. I think we should just part ways. Well,
• 35:25
  Speaker 3: you know, it's not.
• 35:26
  Speaker 2: When you got there, did you guys dance together, drink together.
• 35:30
  Speaker 3: It was tough because I was by myself for a
• 35:32
  Speaker 3: lot of the wedding, and then slowly towards the end,
• 35:37
  Speaker 3: I think I told the bride at one point I
• 35:39
  Speaker 3: was like, I don't think he likes me, and I
• 35:41
  Speaker 3: think she said something to him. So maybe that's why
• 35:43
  Speaker 3: I try and give people the benefit of the doubt
• 35:45
  Speaker 3: in terms of maybe they're just nervous, because we all
• 35:48
  Speaker 3: act weird when we're worried about getting rejected or so
• 35:51
  Speaker 3: I didn't really take it personally, and we had a
• 35:53
  Speaker 3: great time. The rest of the night came very good friends,
• 35:55
  Speaker 3: and I was interested enough that I was like, I'll
• 35:57
  Speaker 3: go out with him a second time. And so we
• 35:59
  Speaker 3: went on a second time, and I was just kind
• 36:00
  Speaker 3: of like, yeah, I just don't know, like I like him,
• 36:02
  Speaker 3: but I just don't know that he's I just don't
• 36:03
  Speaker 3: feel like this is the kind I just don't think
• 36:07
  Speaker 3: we're each other's people.
• 36:08
  Speaker 2: I think it was also his effort, sounds like you
• 36:10
  Speaker 2: were trying to but it didn't seem like he was interested.
• 36:12
  Speaker 3: No what No, No, he was interested.
• 36:13
  Speaker 1: I was. I don't mean that like he wanted me because.
• 36:16
  Speaker 3: I was interested too, Like I think we were both
• 36:19
  Speaker 3: equally interested, but we were both kind of like, this
• 36:21
  Speaker 3: is a very high pressure situation. We're both at a wedding.
• 36:23
  Speaker 3: Everybody knows, everybody at the wedding knows that I'm here
• 36:26
  Speaker 3: for this first date, and then the second date, I
• 36:30
  Speaker 3: just I just didn't feel it, and I think I
• 36:33
  Speaker 3: had done all I needed to do to just feel
• 36:35
  Speaker 3: whether or not there's going to be something there.
• 36:36
  Speaker 1: Did you kiss him?
• 36:38
  Speaker 2: Yeah, obviously, I don't remember.
• 36:43
  Speaker 3: I he kissed me, or if I kissed him, I
• 36:44
  Speaker 3: can't remember how it went down.
• 36:45
  Speaker 1: You have to remember how that went down.
• 36:47
  Speaker 3: Well, I think we kissed multiple times. If there's something
• 36:51
  Speaker 3: one of the times, I definitely kissed him, I can't
• 36:54
  Speaker 3: remember who initiated it. First second.
• 36:58
  Speaker 2: Good for you, that's awesome. Yeah, but was it like okay,
• 37:03
  Speaker 2: second date?
• 37:04
  Speaker 3: Second date was just fine.
• 37:05
  Speaker 1: I just think, what did you kiss on the second
• 37:07
  Speaker 1: date or was it.
• 37:08
  Speaker 3: Did we kiss?
• 37:09
  Speaker 1: Why did you kiss the first date of the second date?
• 37:10
  Speaker 3: I don't think we kissed on the second date.
• 37:12
  Speaker 1: You kissed on the first date.
• 37:14
  Speaker 3: We kissed on the first was at a wedding and
• 37:16
  Speaker 3: we were drinking and dancing, and you know, it was
• 37:18
  Speaker 3: just kind of vibe.
• 37:18
  Speaker 1: So that's what I was, That's what I was wondering.
• 37:20
  Speaker 2: I was like, so there's enough of a vibe because
• 37:22
  Speaker 2: I'm kissing you on the first date, like we're vibing.
• 37:25
  Speaker 3: Yeah, we I mean, after eight tequila shots, you're gonna
• 37:28
  Speaker 3: vibe with a brick wall. Not that I'm calling him
• 37:30
  Speaker 3: boring or a brick wall. I'm just saying, like, like,
• 37:33
  Speaker 3: obviously we're at a wedding, we were drinking, you know,
• 37:36
  Speaker 3: it was a good time. I think I might have
• 37:38
  Speaker 3: kissed him. I can't believe I had so much tequila
• 37:44
  Speaker 3: and I was so sentient, like normally when you drink
• 37:47
  Speaker 3: too much, I'm like, oh, yeah, I had way too
• 37:48
  Speaker 3: much to drink, but I had a lot of tequila,
• 37:49
  Speaker 3: and I was like I consented.
• 37:51
  Speaker 1: Yeah, like I say, yeah, yeah, I'm vibing. I'm down
• 37:53
  Speaker 1: for it.
• 37:54
  Speaker 3: I'm down for it. But I don't think I kissed
• 37:55
  Speaker 3: him on the second date. I think by then I
• 37:57
  Speaker 3: kind of knew. I was like, yeah, I don't think
• 38:01
  Speaker 3: this is it.
• 38:02
  Speaker 1: You tried.
• 38:03
  Speaker 3: I'm really talking too much.
• 38:04
  Speaker 2: I think no, I think it worked. I think it's
• 38:06
  Speaker 2: exactly what needed to be said. So that was it.
• 38:10
  Speaker 1: Second date, so.
• 38:11
  Speaker 3: I said, And I was really trying to give it
• 38:13
  Speaker 3: a chance because he really was such a nice guy. Yeah,
• 38:17
  Speaker 3: but I just didn't feel how I want to feel
• 38:20
  Speaker 3: when I meet that person.
• 38:21
  Speaker 2: Absolutely, And that's what we're talking about, Like, is it
• 38:24
  Speaker 2: going to be like a I only want to talk
• 38:27
  Speaker 2: to you, I look forward to talking to you, I
• 38:28
  Speaker 2: look forward to hanging out with you. And if you're
• 38:29
  Speaker 2: not having that drive, yeah, I think two dates is
• 38:32
  Speaker 2: enough to feel that.
• 38:33
  Speaker 3: I want to feel a little infatuated. I want to
• 38:35
  Speaker 3: feel a little infatuated. And what sucks about expressing that
• 38:40
  Speaker 3: out loud is that it makes it sound like there's
• 38:42
  Speaker 3: something wrong with that person.
• 38:43
  Speaker 1: No, I think it's just two chemistries that don't work.
• 38:45
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I just think there's so there's not a lot
• 38:48
  Speaker 3: of people that you're going to feel that with, and
• 38:50
  Speaker 3: it's not something you can explain. And that's why you go.
• 38:52
  Speaker 3: That's why you fly to Indiana because it's worth taking
• 38:55
  Speaker 3: that risk to see if you're going to feel like
• 38:57
  Speaker 3: that there. And I think if you give it enough
• 38:59
  Speaker 3: of a chance to see if there's even a chance,
• 39:02
  Speaker 3: then you've done your due diligence. And I think I'd
• 39:04
  Speaker 3: done my due diligence. And I was like, I don't
• 39:06
  Speaker 3: think the little bit of friction I want to feel
• 39:10
  Speaker 3: is in this relationship. But he he will be that
• 39:13
  Speaker 3: for somebody, And if I keep dating this person, he
• 39:17
  Speaker 3: will not find that and I'm not going to find that.
• 39:19
  Speaker 3: And at the end of the day, that's not feared
• 39:20
  Speaker 3: to either of us.
• 39:20
  Speaker 2: Yeah, And I think that's the respectful thing is to
• 39:22
  Speaker 2: at least give it two shots, to say, let's see,
• 39:25
  Speaker 2: because the first one doesn't really count. You're getting all
• 39:26
  Speaker 2: those nerves out. The second one is like, Okay, this
• 39:28
  Speaker 2: is a true vibe check. Yeah, And you got to
• 39:30
  Speaker 2: check in with yourself afterwards, like how do I feel
• 39:32
  Speaker 2: about this?
• 39:32
  Speaker 1: Is this actually gonna be something?
• 39:34
  Speaker 3: Is it?
• 39:35
  Speaker 2: Am I thinking about them? It's nothing about them, It's
• 39:37
  Speaker 2: it's literally a feeling. I'm attractive to somebody, but I'm
• 39:40
  Speaker 2: looking for a partner, and that all comes down to
• 39:43
  Speaker 2: vibes like.
• 39:43
  Speaker 3: Yeah, it's just thinking about you. You can't explain it.
• 39:45
  Speaker 3: It's either there or it isn't. And I don't think
• 39:48
  Speaker 3: you can manufacture it.
• 39:50
  Speaker 1: You did say they're in Tampa. What you did say
• 39:52
  Speaker 1: they're in Tampa?
• 39:53
  Speaker 2: Oh?
• 39:53
  Speaker 4: Yeah?
• 39:53
  Speaker 3: Anyway, So I got a text that I wasn't expecting
• 39:55
  Speaker 3: to text from them because I was the one that
• 39:57
  Speaker 3: broke things off. I was like, yeah, I just don't
• 39:58
  Speaker 3: think this is a good That makes it sound like
• 40:01
  Speaker 3: there's a chance. I just like, I was just like,
• 40:02
  Speaker 3: I don't think this is it for either us. I'm
• 40:04
  Speaker 3: just gonna I'm gonna say it. I think guys have
• 40:07
  Speaker 3: a harder time seeing that because if they haven't slept
• 40:10
  Speaker 3: with you, I think their caveman brain goes. But I
• 40:13
  Speaker 3: think there could be something, but I think whereas I
• 40:14
  Speaker 3: think women no sooner absolutely, And I was like, we
• 40:18
  Speaker 3: don't need to get to that point for for either
• 40:21
  Speaker 3: of us, because then it just gets messy and then
• 40:23
  Speaker 3: there's a whole listener component and it's just I was like,
• 40:26
  Speaker 3: let's just be friends. And so I parted ways being
• 40:28
  Speaker 3: like we're gonna be friends. But I wasn't sure if
• 40:30
  Speaker 3: he felt that way. And so when he texted me,
• 40:33
  Speaker 3: I was like, oh, thank god, he's not mad at me.
• 40:35
  Speaker 2: Yeah, which understandable. Yeah, I get that. So he texted
• 40:39
  Speaker 2: you when you got here.
• 40:40
  Speaker 3: So he texted me, He's like, hey, I heard you're
• 40:42
  Speaker 3: in Tampa. I heard you move to Tampa. He's like,
• 40:44
  Speaker 3: my family still follows you. Like, why did your family
• 40:46
  Speaker 3: still follow me? Because if I if my parents were
• 40:49
  Speaker 3: in that position, I think they would have unfollowed him.
• 40:50
  Speaker 2: I literally have family members that still follow my exes
• 40:53
  Speaker 2: that I have literally gotten married.
• 40:56
  Speaker 3: Yeah, but I wasn't his ex, Like we went on
• 40:58
  Speaker 3: two dates.
• 40:59
  Speaker 2: I know, But I'm saying, like your family, once they
• 41:01
  Speaker 2: follow somebody, they will just continue to follow them. It's
• 41:03
  Speaker 2: like it doesn't compute to them, Like maybe I should
• 41:05
  Speaker 2: unfollow nope.
• 41:06
  Speaker 3: I was a little self conscious. I'm like, how closely
• 41:08
  Speaker 3: are they following me?
• 41:09
  Speaker 2: Not that closely probably, But I think it's somebody that's
• 41:12
  Speaker 2: fun to check in on because you were literally invited.
• 41:14
  Speaker 1: This person was a listener. Correct, Yeah, yeah, Okay.
• 41:16
  Speaker 2: They're definitely the automatically they like you, so I don't
• 41:19
  Speaker 2: think it would be ever something that they're mad at
• 41:21
  Speaker 2: you for. They're like, sometimes you just gotta throw you'll
• 41:23
  Speaker 2: fishing rod in the water and see if there's a catch.
• 41:26
  Speaker 1: And there wasn't a catch. I know, cool connection, great story.
• 41:28
  Speaker 1: Love that I know.
• 41:29
  Speaker 3: I mean i literally look back on my life a
• 41:32
  Speaker 3: year ago, I'm like, what that's so crazy? Like for work,
• 41:34
  Speaker 3: I literally just fluted.
• 41:35
  Speaker 2: I think it's insane, Like I think that's a wild
• 41:38
  Speaker 2: thing to do, especially as a single woman, to go
• 41:41
  Speaker 2: to another state tour.
• 41:42
  Speaker 1: Fine yeah, but also impressive.
• 41:44
  Speaker 3: But it was actually everything you wanted it to be,
• 41:46
  Speaker 3: like if you were going to write a Hallmark movie,
• 41:48
  Speaker 3: other than the whole no happy ending thing, it very
• 41:52
  Speaker 3: much was exactly what it should have been. You show up,
• 41:54
  Speaker 3: you're in the middle of nowhere, you're by yourself, you
• 41:57
  Speaker 3: meet this very charming dude.
• 41:59
  Speaker 1: Young lady, you want to come over here to a
• 42:01
  Speaker 1: wed and you're like, well, I'm just so lost. I
• 42:03
  Speaker 1: don't know what to do.
• 42:04
  Speaker 3: You have a great evening. We went to like a
• 42:05
  Speaker 3: dive bar. It was very much those vibes.
• 42:07
  Speaker 1: That's fun.
• 42:09
  Speaker 3: Yeah, it was a great experience. I didn't get murdered
• 42:12
  Speaker 3: or assaulted, so it was great.
• 42:13
  Speaker 1: There you go. So all in all is a win.
• 42:15
  Speaker 1: And at least you gave it a chance.
• 42:17
  Speaker 3: I gave it a chance.
• 42:18
  Speaker 1: That's what I want to do more of.
• 42:20
  Speaker 2: And I think it's you know, being open to Okay,
• 42:22
  Speaker 2: let's take the random adventures you.
• 42:24
  Speaker 3: Need to do more of you You're doing plenty of it.
• 42:26
  Speaker 2: Oh well, I mean there's been people that have hit
• 42:28
  Speaker 2: me up in the past that I've definitely just been like, ah,
• 42:30
  Speaker 2: it's too far of a driver. I don't know if
• 42:32
  Speaker 2: I'm necessarily vibing with it where I'm like, Scott, this
• 42:35
  Speaker 2: is your time to try to find a vibe.
• 42:36
  Speaker 3: This is your time.
• 42:37
  Speaker 1: This is the time to fly.
• 42:38
  Speaker 3: Is there our years, Scotty.
• 42:39
  Speaker 2: That it can't get any younger than where we are
• 42:41
  Speaker 2: right now. You gotta utilize the moment, utilize the moment.
• 42:46
  Speaker 2: So quick review on Weathering Heights.
• 42:48
  Speaker 1: What are your thoughts?
• 42:49
  Speaker 3: This is a hard pivot. I thought it was good. Also,
• 42:52
  Speaker 3: I have to leave in a little bit because I
• 42:53
  Speaker 3: have to go to a salaid.
• 42:54
  Speaker 1: Course a course, so they give us a little taste
• 42:56
  Speaker 1: of it.
• 42:56
  Speaker 3: Or you want to push it, Yeah, we'll push it
• 42:58
  Speaker 3: until tomorrow.
• 42:59
  Speaker 2: Actually, let's push it so we can't do it tomorrow.
• 43:01
  Speaker 2: We're doing a radio throm Well, maybe we'll see if
• 43:03
  Speaker 2: there's time.
• 43:03
  Speaker 3: I mean, I don't have anything.
• 43:05
  Speaker 2: Let me watch it then I'll get back to you. Yes,
• 43:07
  Speaker 2: you didn't want you didn't read the book. You don't
• 43:09
  Speaker 2: need to for this, as what I'm saying, So I
• 43:11
  Speaker 2: just could go into it blind too and just be like, Okay, yeah,
• 43:13
  Speaker 2: I'm gonna watch it as just a movie enthusiast.
• 43:15
  Speaker 3: It's very long. There are enjoyable. I don't think you're
• 43:19
  Speaker 3: gonna enjoy it.
• 43:20
  Speaker 1: I don't think you're a slow romance.
• 43:22
  Speaker 3: I like, I think the only parts that I thoroughly
• 43:25
  Speaker 3: enjoyed where I was like, oh I it was worth
• 43:27
  Speaker 3: seeing was Jacob Alordi is really good in this movie.
• 43:31
  Speaker 3: He's really good in this movie. And I think being
• 43:34
  Speaker 3: a self insert girly, I think it is enjoyable to
• 43:40
  Speaker 3: watch because you're like, oh, I want Jacob Alordi to
• 43:43
  Speaker 3: be that upsess with me.
• 43:44
  Speaker 1: Ah okay, and maybe we'll not get that same vibe.
• 43:48
  Speaker 3: So I think you're gonna hate it.
• 43:49
  Speaker 2: I'm probably gonna find time either this weekend to watch it,
• 43:52
  Speaker 2: so we'll have to push it for a little bit.
• 43:53
  Speaker 2: But we are doing a radio thon tomorrow, so if
• 43:55
  Speaker 2: you're hearing this now on Wednesday the eighteenth, well then
• 43:58
  Speaker 2: hopefully see all the stuff we posted out for the
• 44:00
  Speaker 2: radio thon and if you want to help out, and
• 44:02
  Speaker 2: you can obviously start donating for Johns Hopkins All Children's Hospital.
• 44:05
  Speaker 2: That's going to be all over the Magic ninety four
• 44:08
  Speaker 2: nine Instagram as well.
• 44:09
  Speaker 3: Abby, what is your Instagram at the Abby Murphy.
• 44:11
  Speaker 2: And mine is at Scott Tavlan s C O T
• 44:14
  Speaker 2: T T A V L I N Abby go have
• 44:16
  Speaker 2: a great class.
• 44:17
  Speaker 3: Okay, Hey, we all