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- 0:01Nicole Laino: Welcome to Unshakeable with Human Design, the show dedicated
- 0:05to helping entrepreneurs use human design to shift from hustle to
- 0:09flow without sacrificing results.
- 0:11Come here to become an unshakeable human and build an unshakeable business
- 0:15according to your human design.
- 0:17I'm your host, Nicole Laino.
- 0:22Hello and welcome to Unshakeable With Human Design, everybody.
- 0:25I'm your host, Nicole Ano, and we're here for another episode in our profile series.
- 0:31For the first time on the show, we are diving into each of the 12
- 0:34profiles, not just the lines, and we've gotten such great feedback for it.
- 0:39I've had so much fun diving into these.
- 0:41It's always fun for me to prepare these episodes and just sort of be like, yeah,
- 0:45what do I wanna say about this profile?
- 0:47What have I noticed?
- 0:49Working with all the people who had this profile, whether it be through
- 0:53readings or through coaching clients, what have I noticed or people in my
- 0:57life, I tend to run everybody's chart.
- 0:59If I know you well enough, I'll ask you for your birth date and your birth time
- 1:03and I'll be running charts all over the place for your kids and for you.
- 1:06So now we are halfway through the series.
- 1:08Okay?
- 1:09We are getting there.
- 1:10Where we're at right now in the process is we have gone through
- 1:14all the ones with personality ones.
- 1:16So 1, 3, 1 4.
- 1:18We've gone through the twos, the 2, 4, 2 5.
- 1:21Now we did the three five in the last episode, and today
- 1:24we are hitting the three six.
- 1:26So we are in the sixth episode of the 12 episode series.
- 1:30So we are at the halfway point.
- 1:32This is still a personal destiny, so this is still, and I'm
- 1:36gonna put a little caveat here.
- 1:38So with a three in the front, you get a personal destiny,
- 1:41meaning that your purpose.
- 1:44Gets fulfilled through your own process.
- 1:46It's less dependent on other people, unlike the transpersonal
- 1:51profiles that we have.
- 1:52And we also have the juxtaposition profile, which is there's
- 1:55only one of them, the four one, and it stands on its own.
- 1:57And we'll talk about that when we get to that particular episode.
- 2:00'cause they're different.
- 2:02They're different than the rest of us.
- 2:03They have a different path.
- 2:04Very fixed.
- 2:05Personal destiny is about the work that you do.
- 2:08It is about your personal process.
- 2:10And while technically the four six still has a personal destiny, it's a different
- 2:16expression than a three six, because the four is connected to other people.
- 2:23The four, we're getting to that second floor of the hexagram.
- 2:26We have the one, two, and the three kind of sitting on
- 2:28the first floor of the house.
- 2:29And then the second floor of the house is the 4, 5, 6.
- 2:32When we get to the four six, we're in upper house stuff, so
- 2:36it's a different expression.
- 2:37It's a different way.
- 2:38Even though the destiny is still personal, there's a lot more to do with other people
- 2:42in a four six profile than a three six.
- 2:44The three six is that personality.
- 2:47Three is driving a lot of that, of how this shows up, and the three is very
- 2:52much about itself and its own process.
- 2:56And it needs to follow its own process or it doesn't get to live out its purpose.
- 3:01So why are we having this series?
- 3:03Why is profile so important?
- 3:06Profile is important.
- 3:07I always say it's the role that you're here to play in
- 3:10this movie called Your Life.
- 3:12It's like kind of your character description.
- 3:14What is this person gonna be like?
- 3:17What kind of behavior is gonna feel right for this character
- 3:21versus behavior that would feel really out of character for them?
- 3:25What is important about this person's journey?
- 3:28Your profile tells you all of that.
- 3:30And when we're talking about now the relation to the incarnation cross.
- 3:36So our incarnation cross is the purpose.
- 3:38This is purpose theme that we all get.
- 3:40It's the theme that we're born under.
- 3:42It's led by our conscious sun that is the one that leads the light
- 3:47that is shining in your personality.
- 3:49There's potential in that.
- 3:51Now we have the four gates of your incarnation cross, or your conscious sun,
- 3:55your conscious earth, your unconscious sun, and your unconscious earth.
- 4:00Now each of those gates, we all know the gates, right?
- 4:04Each of those gates has a line expression that tells you a little bit about what
- 4:10the flavor of that gate will be like.
- 4:13A gate 22.
- 4:14So if you are a cross of rulership, there are four of those.
- 4:18That's a right angle cross.
- 4:21It's made of the 22, the 47th gate, the 26th gate, and the 45th gate.
- 4:26Now, depending on when you're born, during the year.
- 4:29Are you a March birthday cross of rulership person where
- 4:33you've got that 22 leading you?
- 4:35Are you a December birthday cross of rulership person where
- 4:39the 26 is the conscious son?
- 4:41It's a very different expression, but then we also get, do you have the 22 and
- 4:46your conscious son leading the cross?
- 4:49You are a one line 22.1 is what it would look like on your chart.
- 4:53That's gonna give us more flavor as to who you are versus somebody
- 4:58who's a 22 6, very different expression, very different person.
- 5:04So incarnation cross is known as like 70% of your chart and
- 5:08led by that conscious son.
- 5:10So it's very important.
- 5:11It's going to be probably more important than you think in your life.
- 5:16It's gonna tell you a lot of what goes right for you and why, and
- 5:20what goes wrong with you and why.
- 5:22And you can look back through your life, certainly through profile, and you
- 5:27can say, where was I not being myself?
- 5:30And if you're not being in alignment with the gifts of your cross
- 5:34and the gifts of your profile, then life will probably feel.
- 5:38Difficult.
- 5:38And when we get into the expression of the incarnation cross, a lot of people trip
- 5:42up because it's a little bit more complex.
- 5:45It can be esoteric to understand what your purpose theme means, and I never
- 5:49really recommend starting there.
- 5:51I'll talk about it with people, but I don't necessarily say like, now go be
- 5:55in alignment with your cross, because that's not really how it shows up.
- 5:57You live in alignment with your type.
- 6:00You live in alignment with your profile, not with what your mind is telling you to
- 6:05do, but actually letting your body lead you and your cross starts to show up.
- 6:10Your cross just starts to become who you are.
- 6:13It starts to work through you.
- 6:15It's a different process, but profile is how I get people there in a lot of ways.
- 6:20I mean, there are other aspects to it, but I'm always coming
- 6:23back to you are a three line.
- 6:25You are a three six.
- 6:26You are this and I guide you differently based on what that profile is because
- 6:31it's so important for your journey for you to be playing the role that
- 6:36you were really born to play and not trying to be somebody else.
- 6:40Profile is like the real core of that being who you're meant to be.
- 6:44Okay, so let's talk a little bit about this three six profile.
- 6:48This is the first time we're seeing the six line.
- 6:50This is the intro to the six.
- 6:52We haven't seen the six line come up yet.
- 6:55This is come up in a harmonic profile.
- 6:58Now Harmonic, this is one of those profiles again,
- 7:01that is like a step between.
- 7:03There are a lot more three fives and a lot more four sixes
- 7:06than there are three sixes.
- 7:08This is that short period of time that you need to be born
- 7:11in, in order to be a three, six.
- 7:13Otherwise, you're gonna end up a three five.
- 7:15You'll end up a different profile.
- 7:17So this is harmonic, meaning that the three and the six are
- 7:21the top of both of the floors.
- 7:23So we have the 1, 2, 3 on the first floor.
- 7:25The three is like the top stack on that first floor.
- 7:28If we use our house analogy.
- 7:30And then the four or five and six on the second floor.
- 7:33The six is the top, the roof of the house, so to speak.
- 7:36So we have two tops, right?
- 7:38We have two top pieces.
- 7:40So they vibe together.
- 7:42They're also very different.
- 7:44So just because we have harmony in the line doesn't necessarily mean that it
- 7:48will be easy for these people because quite honestly, everything in human design
- 7:54has some sort of tension or pull to it.
- 7:57But when we understand what that tension or pull is, it tells us what our lessons
- 8:01are and how we can create balance.
- 8:03We can actually find a process for creating balance when we
- 8:07look at it and we say these two things, and for a three, six.
- 8:11I'm a three who needs to have experiences, who has a trial and error process, who
- 8:19needs to be comfortable letting things go, who needs to be comfortable with failure
- 8:25and to see failure as a stepping stone.
- 8:28So I have to be comfortable with all of those things.
- 8:31I'm also a six where I'm gonna need my alone time.
- 8:35I am maybe going to be a bit of a perfectionist.
- 8:38So that three line messy process, the six can have a little
- 8:43bit of a problem with that.
- 8:44So they pull at each other.
- 8:45But when we know these things.
- 8:47Now we know what to look out for.
- 8:49Now we know how to nurture ourselves so that we can be in harmony and
- 8:53alignment with both of these things.
- 8:55When we do that, we become who we were always meant to be.
- 8:59We're living our potential finally, right?
- 9:02And nothing feels better than that.
- 9:05Rather than looking around in all sorts of vague or impersonal places, human design
- 9:11gives us the ability to look at this and say, this is what's most important for
- 9:15me, and that's what makes it so powerful.
- 9:16So let's talk about this particular profile.
- 9:19'cause it's pretty fascinating.
- 9:20So we have this six showing up for the first time.
- 9:23So we're seeing that three stage life process show up for the first time.
- 9:29So for those of you who are unfamiliar with the six line process, I'm
- 9:33gonna explain it briefly here.
- 9:35The six goes through three stages of life.
- 9:38A six is born and they are born a three from birth to age 30.
- 9:44The first Saturn return, they are a three line.
- 9:47So technically these people, when they're born and for the first 30
- 9:51years of life, they're a three.
- 9:53Three.
- 9:54I'm not gonna lie, this might get messy.
- 9:57I don't think it's necessarily, well, I shouldn't say it isn't.
- 10:01I'll say it really depends on your upbringing and your mindset, what
- 10:07it's like to be a 24-year-old or a 16-year-old, or an 11-year-old.
- 10:13Three six.
- 10:14And the reason I say that is because both your personality
- 10:19and your unconscious side.
- 10:20Are trial and erroring through life bumping into life, and
- 10:25life is bumping into you.
- 10:27I have seen three sixes who goes for a lot of six lines, but
- 10:32three sixes who have embraced.
- 10:36The rebellious fun.
- 10:40There can be like a devil may care kind of attitude with three
- 10:43six, or certainly six threes too.
- 10:44It's the same profile, flipped a very different expression
- 10:47because the destiny is different.
- 10:48We'll talk about that when we talk about the six three in their own episode, but
- 10:53what I see with all of these people who have this phenomenon of that three, three
- 10:56lifestyle for the first part of their life is that they can have on the high end.
- 11:02They can have a screw it.
- 11:04Let's do it.
- 11:05Attitude life is meant to be experienced.
- 11:09I never fail.
- 11:10I only learn.
- 11:12They can either learn that really early on and have a whole lot of fun.
- 11:17And I don't whole varying spectrum on the outcome of that, but a lot of them
- 11:23will have a lot of fun and they'll talk about it like, yeah, you know, I was
- 11:26just like out there like I lived life.
- 11:29Right.
- 11:29So you have that particular experience.
- 11:32Then you have the other experience where the three six, so that six line that's
- 11:37going through that first third of life as a three, that six is different.
- 11:42It knows it's different than the personality, a personality
- 11:46three or a true three line.
- 11:48Is just either in the shadow and feeling like a failure and being
- 11:52told that they're a failure.
- 11:53So like not living their destiny, not living what's right for them.
- 11:56So it's a shadow or they're like, screw it, let's do it.
- 11:59And they always have it right?
- 12:01They always have that kind of attitude.
- 12:03But when you have a six in that first third of life, they know they're a
- 12:07six, they know they're not a three.
- 12:09They know on some level that they're preparing to be a role model.
- 12:14They can be a perfectionist.
- 12:16They can have really high standards for themselves, and it can be an unconscious
- 12:20thing where they beat themselves up so much more than just a regular three
- 12:25would for the failure for not getting it right, for the relationships that
- 12:30truly aren't really right for them.
- 12:33They are meant to be let go, but they'll tell themselves,
- 12:35I should have made it work.
- 12:36That wasn't the person and I really wanted it to be the person.
- 12:40Why can't I just settle down?
- 12:41The six is like wanting that stability, and the three is
- 12:45saying God no anything but that.
- 12:48The three wants to break things and the six wants to put 'em back together.
- 12:52That's what we get here.
- 12:53Now, the three can also say everything breaks and it can be a pessimist, and the
- 12:58six in its highest expression is saying.
- 13:02We're building a new future, we're gonna need to know what works and what doesn't.
- 13:06So do you see how these might pull at each other that the six is saying like,
- 13:10calm down kid, let's just settle down now, particularly when we're gonna
- 13:15talk about that second stage of life.
- 13:17So in that first stage, that six, it's in its three line stage, and it can resist
- 13:22it and it can beat itself up for the mistakes that it made, rather than really
- 13:26seeing them as experiences that were necessary for its growth and evolution.
- 13:31So I've seen both.
- 13:32I have seen.
- 13:34The three, three phenomenon of that first 30 years where people were like,
- 13:37that was the most fun I ever had.
- 13:39Like my twenties were just so cool, so fun.
- 13:43And then I've had other people where they were like, I've never
- 13:45forgiven myself for this thing that happened when I was 22 years old.
- 13:50And it's a shadow.
- 13:52We're moving now.
- 13:53Something that's held them back ever since then.
- 13:56'cause they have been holding themselves.
- 13:58They've been looking at it and saying, I should have been better.
- 14:00And that's the shadow we have to work through.
- 14:03This is the shadow of that six.
- 14:05Right?
- 14:05So that's the first stage of life.
- 14:06Zero to 30, there are three.
- 14:08Three.
- 14:09That six is a three.
- 14:11Then at 30 shifts over.
- 14:13It goes onto the up on the roof, as we call it, where now it retreats
- 14:18from day-to-day life a little bit.
- 14:20It retreats from some of that trial and error.
- 14:22Now it's an observer.
- 14:24So from 30 to 50, the six becomes a six, but it's not a role model yet.
- 14:29Truly not in the sense of what it will be when it gets to that third phase.
- 14:34But now it's sitting up on that roof and it's watching and it's
- 14:37reflecting, and it's processing that crazy first third of life.
- 14:44Now, it might feel crazy no matter what six, you are a four, six, a
- 14:47three, six, a six three, but it's probably more chaotic for the three
- 14:51sixes in the six threes probably definitely feels more chaotic to them.
- 14:55Okay.
- 14:56So how do we go about this?
- 14:58Right?
- 14:59So this second stage of life, it's meant for reflection.
- 15:03It's meant to feel like a pause.
- 15:05But for those people who were loving that three, three lifestyle of the first 30
- 15:10years, they're like, what's wrong with me?
- 15:12Sometimes?
- 15:13Why did life just like come to a screeching halt?
- 15:15But for those people who actually take that time.
- 15:18And go inward and learn how to connect with their intuition and learn how to
- 15:22process and really think about what they did and what experiences they
- 15:27had and what relationships they had.
- 15:31They start to develop something that is a really profound wisdom, and that's
- 15:36what the 30 to 50 phase is about.
- 15:39It is about nurturing the wisdom that's within, and we can't
- 15:42find wisdom if we don't reflect.
- 15:44So you got 20 years to do it.
- 15:46So this is a necessary period but can sometimes feel like they're in a
- 15:52holding pattern and they don't like it.
- 15:55Most of them are not okay with that and some of them can fall.
- 15:59So you have that three that's saying, come on, let's go experience life.
- 16:01'cause it's still there and it's their personality.
- 16:04In this case, there's that three that's saying like, let me out of this cage.
- 16:08And the six is saying, we just gotta like take a break for a bit.
- 16:11We just have to come up here.
- 16:12I have to reflect which one's right.
- 16:15Both.
- 16:15They're both right.
- 16:16There needs to be balance here.
- 16:18You need to be nurturing yourself, and you do need to still be going out and
- 16:22breaking stuff and being free enough to have something not be perfect.
- 16:27And this is the big lesson for them.
- 16:29So they don't get to have that third phase of life, which is I. 50 plus,
- 16:34then they get to 50, they come down off that roof with real wisdom.
- 16:37They come down off that roof as a role model.
- 16:41And what that potential we're always nurturing really becomes is we get that
- 16:46pessimist that maybe had everything break in that three line in the front.
- 16:52Met with this optimistic visionary in the back that the sixth line says,
- 16:58I think I know where we can go now.
- 16:59I see something that I don't know if anybody's ever seen before.
- 17:03That's the potential of the six, and that's the potential of a three six.
- 17:07A three six is going to have a really rich life experience and
- 17:11they're going to continue to have it.
- 17:13It's not like a four six where that devil may care attitude might
- 17:17go away or definitely dissipate, and they become more of a 6 3, 6.
- 17:23It's still gonna get their hands dirty is still gonna be in there in the mix.
- 17:27It's part of their destiny, it's part of their process till the day they die.
- 17:32So we have to nurture both of these sides.
- 17:34We have to say, I have to figure out how both of these coexist, right?
- 17:40And that's the potential with this.
- 17:42So some famous three sixes are, I have a list of them here.
- 17:46I had to go dig some of them out because there aren't many that like we know
- 17:51or that I knew off the top of my head.
- 17:52So I went and I dug around and there are some really cool ones.
- 17:55So be Arthur 'cause I'm a Golden Girls fan.
- 17:58I love the Golden Girls.
- 17:59Be Arthur was from the Golden Girls, was a three six.
- 18:02Tina Fey.
- 18:03I think she's a really great example of a three six.
- 18:06She's an emotional generator, but somebody who has that, like, she definitely has
- 18:11this like leadership quality, right?
- 18:13Which is what the six is about.
- 18:15Leadership quality.
- 18:16There's something about her.
- 18:17People follow her.
- 18:19Her cast, her people, she's very well respected, and Lauren
- 18:25Michaels put a lot of trust in her.
- 18:27She was head writer.
- 18:28I think he's probably considers her the closest to his, who he would hand the
- 18:34baton to, to have that level of trust.
- 18:37She has that leadership.
- 18:38People trust sixes.
- 18:40I should say that a role model isn't just about being a role
- 18:43model as like a figurehead.
- 18:45A six is a leader, they're the future leaders where they have a less selfish,
- 18:52I don't mean to make the five sound selfish, but we have more of like a power,
- 18:55a little bit more traditional leadership in the five and the six is kind of that
- 18:59quiet leader, the leader that just people gravitate toward for their wisdom, not
- 19:05for their brute force or their power.
- 19:07Tina Fey has also tried a lot of things.
- 19:10I think it's interesting.
- 19:11She comes from an improv background.
- 19:13I think threes or improv is a wonderful playground for
- 19:17threes to go and exercise that.
- 19:19Why?
- 19:20'cause you can't think and you have to be willing to fail.
- 19:24And quite honestly, sometimes the best stuff comes from your failure
- 19:28on stage in the moment, and it teaches you to be in the moment.
- 19:31And threes are in the moment of just that.
- 19:33Like, let's do it.
- 19:34Let's have fun.
- 19:35Let's try something new.
- 19:37So I think she's a good example from that respect of being a leader, but
- 19:41also just daring to try new things, break them, put yourself out there.
- 19:47And it does not need to be perfect, but she definitely does still
- 19:50have a high standard, right?
- 19:52There's a standard that she has for the work that she puts out.
- 19:56Barbara Corcoran from the Corcoran Group and from Shark Tank.
- 19:59She's a three six, but I wanted to call this out because she's an
- 20:02emotional manifester, very different energy between her and Tina Fey.
- 20:08Right?
- 20:08Very, very different.
- 20:10And Tina Fey is a cross of contagion, which is about taking care of your
- 20:15people, which is about writing a message, which is about spreading
- 20:19creativity, which she does.
- 20:20Barbara Corcoran is across of Rulership.
- 20:23Different expression, right?
- 20:24Manifester.
- 20:25Very different way of going through the world.
- 20:27Different energy to a Barbara Corcoran, but same profile.
- 20:31Three six.
- 20:32And what has she done?
- 20:34Barbara Corcoran is a mentor and she's also somebody, a manifester,
- 20:37like she's a self-made woman.
- 20:39Sounds about right tracks, but she's also somebody who went out
- 20:43there and she just dared to do it.
- 20:45I mean, she built the Corcoran Group, which I'm from New York originally.
- 20:49It's everywhere, and it has been for my entire life, pretty much.
- 20:54She's been one of the biggest real estate companies in all of New York City.
- 20:58She built that from nothing, and that's a manifester, but that's also somebody
- 21:02who dared to put themselves out there.
- 21:05She was also seen as a leader.
- 21:06She's absolutely been a leader in the New York space for a long time, but now in
- 21:11Shark Tank, she takes other, she takes a chance on new people, on new ideas,
- 21:16on new businesses, and she mentors them.
- 21:20Six is a mentor, so this is how these things show up, right?
- 21:23So those are some famous three sixes to just show you what it looks like
- 21:27out in the world for these people to walk around how it's exemplified.
- 21:31And I'm not saying that any of them are perfect, but it does help us to see and
- 21:35get a gauge for, oh, I see the difference between the three five and the three six.
- 21:42You'll see the difference between a three six and a four six.
- 21:45There's a daringness to successful three sixes, so I hope you had fun with this.
- 21:50I hope you enjoyed it.
- 21:51By the way, we have something very new that came out, which is all about writing
- 21:56content according to your human design.
- 21:58I know so many of you are entrepreneurs.
- 22:00I know if you're loving this series, you probably wanna know how do
- 22:02I incorporate my profile into my business and into my content writing?
- 22:08Which is all about your marketing really, when we're talking about content, how do I
- 22:11incorporate my profile into my marketing?
- 22:16So we actually created a program on this, which goes through
- 22:20type and through profile.
- 22:22It's so cheap.
- 22:23I feel like I'm insane for offering it for the price that we're offering it.
- 22:27It's under $50.
- 22:28It's crazy.
- 22:30It's content by design.
- 22:31If you're interested, DM me the word content, just that word.
- 22:35Please DM me the word content on Instagram.
- 22:38I'm at Nicole Leno official and we will hook you up with the details on
- 22:42that program and get it in your hands.
- 22:44It's really good.
- 22:45It's what I teach all the people inside my actual business by design program.
- 22:50It's a small piece of what we do there, but we wanted to share it with you
- 22:54'cause we think that it could have a ton of value to your business and help
- 22:58you put your design into action, which is really what we're about over here.
- 23:02Don't think about it, don't learn about it.
- 23:04Go do it.
- 23:05Okay.
- 23:05So if you want that DM me content on Instagram and we'll send you the details.
- 23:09Thank you so much for being here.
- 23:11And remember, in order to have an unshakeable business, you must
- 23:14first become an unshakeable human.
- 23:16So thanks for letting us help you become unshakeable with human design, everybody.
- 23:19We will see you next time.
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