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Hypnosis for Emotional Connection Be Present Without Absorbing Drama · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing genuine
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  issues. Brought to you by the
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  hypnotherapist, Demanded by celebrities, CEOs and even
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  royalty. Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Evans Clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Do you? Ever find yourself getting
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  almost lured into drama and other people's conflicts and
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  situations and arguments? Somehow you get involved in that
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  quite often. That can happen to people
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  because people want other people to back their perspective or
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  take their side. And I was working with a client
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  that would often find themselves being encouraged into particular
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  dramas, particular with family members.
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  And they found that quite a difficult thing to do because
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  they knew all of the different people involved, but they felt
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  like there was pressure or expectation for them to get
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  involved. But also they.
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  Found that their. Coping strategy was almost to
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  become too detached to be there but not actually kind of listen
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  to what's happening in those situations.
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  And that made it difficult for them to connect one-on-one
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  emotionally. So I would say there are two key
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  benefits of this hypnosis session.
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  If you find yourself being lured into, let's say, drama and
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  arguments and conflicts, and you find yourself emotionally
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  invested in those and you don't want to be, this could be a
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  useful session. But equally, if you find it
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  difficult to open up, be vulnerable or connect with
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  someone one-on-one, then this also might be useful.
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  And by the way, the client that I was working with, their reason
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  for almost putting a bit of a shell around them when they were
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  having a one to one conversation, if someone was
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  opening up to them, is that in their childhood it was looked
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  down upon to really show your emotions.
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  And here in England, where I live, there is this kind of
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  culture of the stiff upper lip and you know, you mask your
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  emotions, you don't give too much away.
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  So if you can relate to those kind of things, then I think you
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  might get some benefit from this session.
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  Some of the suggestions are entirely related to the person
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  and their particular dynamics. But if you just take the
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  essence, which is to feel that you can kind of observe, be
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  present but not emotionally involved in other people's
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  drama, or to really open up and connect with other people, then
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  I think you'll get some real value from this hypnosis
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  session. And if you do want something
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  more bespoke and relevant to you, have a look in the
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  description and that way you'll be able to schedule a free
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  consultation call and we can have a chat.
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  For now, though, find a quiet, comfortable place where you're
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  not going to be disturbed. Relax and enjoy the session.
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  Take a deep breath in, and as you breathe in, breathe in that
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  slow, long, relaxing breath and as you exhale, just allow your
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  eyelids to fully close, allowing them to feel relaxed and heavy.
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  With your eyes. Closed, you're able to become
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  more aware of my voice, of your breathing, and of your sense of
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  comfort. So as you breathe in and breathe
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  out, allow yourself to position your body in a way where you can
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  feel even more relaxed. And when you breathe in, aim to
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  breathe in 1% deeper than the previous breath.
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  And as you exhale, allow your outward breath to carry on for
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  longer, enabling you to go beyond breathing just from the
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  chest to create that vacuum that encourages your diaphragm to
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  awaken. And perhaps you notice that when
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  you deep breathe deeper, you can feel more relaxed and
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  resourceful. And when you exhale for longer,
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  you can release any feelings of tension, stress, or worry.
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  And the deeper you breathe, the more relaxed you become.
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  And the more relaxed you become, the deeper you breathe.
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  So much so that each breath takes you deeper and deeper than
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  the last. And as your body relaxes, your
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  imagination awakens. And I want you to think of a
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  place. A place where you were able to
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  deeply relax. Maybe it was a place where you
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  had nothing to do or nowhere to be.
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  But just imagine being in that place.
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  Feel the slow down rhythm of your breath, and with every
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  breath you can allow your body to relax even more and your mind
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  to awaken and your awareness to drift inwards.
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  Then I want you to imagine stepping into a safe inner
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  space, a place where it's safe for you to explore the depths of
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  who you truly are. And as you imagine being in that
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  relaxing place, I'd like you to imagine a stream.
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  That stream, I want you to imagine stepping stones that
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  takes you to the other side. And as I count down from 5 to 1,
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  I want you to imagine crossing this stream of consciousness.
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  And as you get to the other side, allow this to represent
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  your subconscious. That part that is suggestible to
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  useful suggestions. So standing at the Bank of that
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  stream, 5 taking the first step as you feel a wave of
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  relaxation. 4 another step across, feeling even deeper
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  relaxed. Three halfway across the stream,
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  even deeper relax now two nearly on the other side as you feel
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  your arms and legs get limp, loose and heavy, and your
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  breathing slow down even more. And then one, the final step,
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  nearly to the other side, the side that represents your
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  subconscious. And perhaps you can notice the
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  lightness in your arms and legs, a tingling sensation in your
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  toes, going up to your top of your head and down to your
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  fingertips. A0 You now cross to the other
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  side. You've crossed this stream of
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  consciousness and in this calm, resourceful state you can begin
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  to sense the richness of your own emotions.
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  Like colours of a rainbow or the colours available to an artist.
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  Each one valid, each one meaningful.
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  Allowing yourself to feel without fear.
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  Would you really want a world in which red or green didn't exist?
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  I want you to get a feeling then.
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  Emotions are like colours, not always suitable, but you would
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  rather have access to them. Because emotions are not
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  something to avoid. They are signals, guides, a
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  richness of experience, a part of being fully alive.
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  And you may notice that as you connect with your emotions, you
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  also connect more deeply with yourself.
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  Like to feel that, That sense of authenticity, a sense of
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  presence, even the courage to be real, feels much more desirable
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  than the office. The opposite would be to be
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  scared to reveal your emotions, to be fake and how you deal with
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  certain situations. So as you deeply connect with
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  yourself, feel that authenticity.
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  Feel that it is safe to be real, to allow feelings to rise and
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  flow without resistance, without judgement.
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  And every now and then the storm will come, an emotional drama,
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  perhaps with people you know, but maybe with people you don't.
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  And you could imagine yourself as a calm observer, like
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  standing on the shore watching waves rise and fall, or see the
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  waves pounding on the shore and feeling immovable, knowing the
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  ocean is vast and you remain steady, grounded and safe on the
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  land. And every now and then one of
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  these waves will already on you and you can get wet without
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  needing to dive into the ocean. So you can listen and you can
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  understand and you can sympathize, and still you remain
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  empowered. Clear that another person's
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  problems belong to them, and while you can help if asked, and
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  you can connect when needed, I want you to feel deep inside
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  that the resolution is always their responsibility.
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  And that gives you permission not to carry the weight of the
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  problem, not to become emotionally invested as these
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  problems are not yours to fix. But feel that you don't need to
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  protect yourself through that intellectualization.
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  You can listen without needing to keep your distance.
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  You can share your thoughts without taking sides.
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  And I want you to feel that you're not there to judge who is
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  right and who is wrong. But you can listen and connect
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  and offer your time, energy, attention and presence and
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  that's enough. But every now and then there
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  won't be a drama with multiple people.
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  There will be a one to one exchange.
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  And sometimes that will be a conversation and sometimes that
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  will be you as a person to vent to, as a cathartic release of
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  energetic emotion. And I want you to feel in those
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  one to one emotional exchanges that you have full permission to
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  be authentic, to be comfortable in vulnerability because that
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  vulnerability shows strength, confidence and experience.
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  And that strength is connection. So you can listen deeply, having
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  that intention to connect or hold space to understand, not to
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  judge and not to fix, just to be present.
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  Not partially present and not thinking of who's right or who's
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  wrong, but fully present to be there.
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  And as you do, you may notice that connection flows more
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  easily, like two rivers joining, each still retaining its own
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  identity, yet flowing together for a time synergistically
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  before the rivers diverge and go in their own directions.
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  And I want you to imagine, imagine seeing yourself as that
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  impartial observer in that group dynamic and see yourself there,
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  present, but not becoming a pawn, not needing to take sides.
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  And then imagine seeing yourself in your future, deeply
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  connecting with one person that may just need you to listen.
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  But then I want you to imagine perhaps a few weeks from now
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  seeing yourself dealing with someone emotionally charged and
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  clearly having an agenda. See them almost tribal in the
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  position they take, perhaps with the attitude that if you're not
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  with me, you're against me. And I want you to see that
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  version of you. Delicately, diplomatically
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  avoiding the need to either agree or disagree and see that
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  version of you expressing empathy, acceptance for their
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  viewpoint, whether you agree with it or not.
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  Or perhaps curiosity. I don't want you to see that
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  individual baiting you to take a position that they can attack.
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  But see, that version of you knows the game like a mouse
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  seeing a piece of cheese in a trap.
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  Even if you feel tempted, it doesn't make sense for you to
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  take that bait. And I want you to imagine that
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  any interaction of this nature, you're getting more and more
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  adept, discerning and capable of dancing around those laser
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  beams, and you can feel authentic and real and avoiding
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  that win, lose 0 sum game. So as you breathe in and breathe
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  out, feel like you're integrating all of these new
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  ways of enriching your emotions and playing the right role for
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  the right situation, knowing that you don't have to get it
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  right. If things go the way you want
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  them to, consider that a feedback loop.
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  And if they don't, consider that a feedback loop too.
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  So you are better capable of surfing the waves of your own
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  emotions, but also those of other people.
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  It's time to leave this place, to imagine stepping back over
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  those stepping stones, back from the subconscious to the
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  conscious, and then floating all the way back to your present as
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  you take a deep breath in through your nose and out
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  through your nose. Just wiggle your fingers and
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  wiggle your toes. Connect and calibrate into the
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  here and the now as I now count from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken
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  you. You will feel energized.
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  You will feel it's safe to experience emotions, to open up
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  and share real feelings, and to release the need to judge, to
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  fix or interfere. Starting to count. 123 Waking up
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  456 More alert 7-8 Open your eyes. 910 Wide awake, wide
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