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7 Signs of Asperger's in Adults YOU Need To Spot (FAST) · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  You have arrived. Welcome to the Aspy world.
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  Here's where we talk about anything and everything ASD in
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  an upbeat and informative way. And now here's your man on the
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  spectrum, your autism ambassador, Daniel Morgan Jones.
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  So here are 7 signs of aspirator syndrome in adults that you need
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  to know. Check it out.
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  Hey guys, what's going on? My name is Dan, I have a
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  diagnosis of Asperger syndrome, ADHD, OCD and dyslexia and I
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  OK, so Asperger syndrome in adults, it's not always easy to
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  spot. Here are seven of the most
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  interesting ones, and I know you're going to love it.
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  OK, the first one is conversations that feel like
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  script. People with autism and Asperger
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  syndrome will come across as if the conversation they are having
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  with you is scripted. And it may sound a bit like
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  robotic and and organic when you're talking to somebody with
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  autism. And this is because the person
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  has learn a script to be able to converse in that social setting.
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  Now, autism is something very interesting.
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  It actually impacts the person's ability to communicate socially
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  in a way that is acceptable for neurotypical people, meaning
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  people who are non autistic. So autistic individuals have to
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  come up with ways to understand and attain social conventions
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  when in those situations. So they will script or rehearse
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  what to say when they're around other people.
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  And this is very common and it is something that I see across
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  the board of people with autism. And I myself have done this for
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  many years. OK, so #2 is hyper fixation on
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  specific special interests. Now, one of my special interests
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  is Fight Club, which means that I know everything there is to
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  know about Fight Club. I could probably tell you the
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  movie verbatim, meaning I can tell you anything that happens
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  in it just because I'm obsessed with that.
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  I've seen 100 times. I know everything about it.
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  I even got a piece of the Fight Club movie here in my office.
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  I even have a merch line that's coming out this year, 2025,
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  that's based on the movie Fight Club and the franchise.
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  Now, autistic individuals will do this with certain things and
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  it could be anything in career. Rock collection, stamp
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  collections, coins, Lego, Harry Potter, Minecraft, you name it.
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  They will be completely hyperfixated on it.
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  They will know everything there is to know about and they
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  probably won't stop talking about that thing.
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  This is very interesting. It's very be characteristic of
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  somebody on the autism spectrum, especially Asperger syndrome,
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  people who can verbally communicate.
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  And it is one of the main indicators actually that if you
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  are hyper, hyper fixated on something of a specific Suffolk
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  of interest, it's kind of like there's a level like there's
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  there's one level of somebody being interested and obsessed
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  with something. And there's the hyper fixation,
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  which is like autistic people's like straight in is very
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  interesting. OK, so #3 is trouble with small
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  talk. No, small talk is kind of like
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  when people, you know, you go to the bus stop and you're waiting
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  for your bus or whatever. I don't know how, but somebody's
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  like who nice weather we've been having this week, blah, blah,
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  blah. And you're like, dude, what are
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  you, what are you talking about? Like nobody cares about the
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  weather. Like it's, it's, it's kind of
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  from my point of view, I'm like, it's pointless.
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  What are you talking about? And I have this rule.
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  I always say like, if, if it's not going to, it's not going to
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  prove the conditions in which you exist in.
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  What's the point of even saying the thing in the 1st place?
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  A small talk is this kind of talk that people do just because
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  they feel they have to say something in awkward silence.
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  I'm fine standing in silence. Actually, I talk a lot about
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  everything that I am really interested in.
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  So I mean, even if I was awkward in the moment, I wouldn't even
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  care. I just feel it was something
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  that would would add value to the existence of those people
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  and urgent towards existence. But I'm just saying that small
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  talk is difficult for autistic individuals to understand and
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  engage with because the very premise of small talk is to talk
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  about things that are kind of almost superfluous in reality,
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  you know, which is a really interesting concept.
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  Like I'm not dissing people for wanting to engage in small talk.
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  What I'm trying to say is that autistic individuals find it
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  really difficult to engage in small talk and that chit chat
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  becomes almost pointless and exhausting.
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  And so because of that, you will notice that autistic individuals
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  will have trouble with that across the board.
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  this program. OK, so #4 is sensory overload
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  that happens very quickly. Now, people with Asperger
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  syndrome, because they are more able in certain ways, which
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  means they have the lowest support needs, It means that
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  they're able to kind of do some things that maybe people with
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  high support needs can't do, like, you know, go to a nine to
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  five or, you know, have a relationship with, you know,
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  children or something. I'm not saying that everybody
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  who is, you know, has high support needs count do this.
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  I'm just saying typically this is kind of like what you say.
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  And because you're around those situations, you're exposed to
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  more stimuli or more over stimulation, which means that
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  like noise, sound demands are increased.
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  And when those demands are increased, when your
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  responsibilities increase, when all of those things are
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  increased, also your exposure to potential overwhelm becomes way
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  difficult to deal with. Like you, you have so many
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  different variables going on at one time.
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  Overloads can just happen like this.
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  And once an overload happened, you become overloaded and two
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  things will happen. You're like shut down and go in
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  yourself and reclusive and not be able to talk.
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  And you're like, oh, where did you go?
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  Or you're going to explode in an emotional outrage or whatever.
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  So it's a really interesting concept that autistic
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  individuals with asparagus syndrome are most essential to
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  overstimulation through sensory input than anybody else because
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  they are allowing themselves to be exposed to our sensory input.
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  You know what I mean? And that's fascinating.
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  It really is fascinating. And it's not just that it could
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  be bright light, it could be a lot of different things.
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  Like I was in my, I was in my kids mother's house yesterday
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  and my kids, I was doing like a bathroom bedtime with them and
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  my youngest was washing his hands in the sink and he was
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  calling me daddy and, and then my eldest was trying to show me
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  a sticker of a capybara. And then they have they had
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  music playing on the Alexi unit. And then also then their mum, my
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  ex was trying to talk to me. I was like, there's too much
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  going on. I need any, I need to just
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  categorize everything. Turn the music down.
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  One person stopped. So, you know, there was a lot of
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  all that's going on that was very close to over stimulation
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  there. But if they had stopped, one of
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  those things that would have been too much like Buckaroo, you
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  know, I've been a quick kickback.
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  OK, so #5 is that routines are essential to survival.
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  And what this means is that people with Asperger syndrome
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  love routines. That means that they love
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  watching the same show every day.
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  They love maybe sitting on the couch at the same spot every
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  single day. They love having the same cereal
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  every day. They love doing the same thing
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  every day. They love this routine or part
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  of the day to be completely routine.
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  Why do they like this? Because the unpredictability
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  from life can become extremely scary for autistic individuals.
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  So people will ask Burgess Syndrome if they cannot predict
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  what's happening next. You have the experience of what
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  I like to call the lack of control or the loss of control
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  with your reality. You have no connection to
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  reality because you feel like it's out of control.
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  And when something's out of control, you feel just like you,
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  you have you haven't got a grip on reality like where am I
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  doing? Where am I?
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  Where always stands. And so people with asbestos
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  syndrome love to have routines and stick to those routines
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  because those routines given predictability.
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  And if you have some what control in your life and your
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  predictability and some things that you're doing within your
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  day, that means that the things that are uncontrollable are
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  unmanageable because you still have control over some parts of
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  your reality. This is very interesting and
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  it's a really good hack actually.
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  If you're if you're a parent, caregiver or somebody who is on
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  the spectrum and you want to increase the potential towards
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  control in their life, add things in that you can control.
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  So if like a kid doesn't want to go to school or the dentist or
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  whether then you say, OK, well, that's out of our control.
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  But you can't give them control of what they want to watch on TV
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  before going there or listen to in the car where they want to
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  sit in the car, what the temperature is going to be like
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  in the car, all those kind of things, maybe a snack to bring
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  with them. Those control mechanisms are
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  able to give them the sense of freedom because they feel like
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  they can control that reality a little bit more and they feel
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  like less that life is chaotic because when something's out of
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  control, it's chaotic and nobody likes chaos, right.
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  OK, number six is social fatigue and probably the hangover from
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  social interaction. So people ask bigger syndrome
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  will find themselves in situations where they'll be
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  socially surrounded. It could be in the the water
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  cooler at work. It could be a team meeting at
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  work, it could be hanging out with friends.
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  It could be university, it could be any type of study, high
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  school, whatever it is, you'll be around social circles of
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  people who will expect certain things of you.
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  And when you're in those social circles, you will be presenting
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  yourself to be engaging with those people.
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  But when you are engaging with those people, you are also
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  making yourself very much aware to the fact that you're in a
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  heightened state of understanding, which means that
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  your survival rate will will increase because you're letting
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  go a lot of adrenaline. So adrenaline runs through your
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  body. You're trying to create a, a
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  safe space because your body's like, hey, this is very
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  uncomfortable. You have to act in a certain way
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  and you have all these things, you're in a heightened state of
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  survival, right? But then when you go home, it's
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  kind of like you just hit rock bottom.
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  You could have a hangover, you could be completely overwhelmed
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  and you feel such fatigue from being in social situations.
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  And an example of this, and my girlfriend, bless her, I love it
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  to pieces. And she used to travel as she
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  was working remotely, but he had to do one day in the office.
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  So she travelled to the office and then she spent all day in
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  the office. And she has autism and ADHD also
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  same as me, same diagnosis as me.
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  And she'd be in the office and the day after she'd be so burnt
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  out, she'd be almost unable to manoeuvre and do anything
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  constructive because she'd be so burnt out from the social
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  fatigue that she was experiencing from the office
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  from the day before. Such an interesting concept.
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  And we have to allow ways to deal with this.
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  And one of the best ways actually is to implement sensory
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  breaks throughout your day. So don't just work, work, work,
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  work, work, or don't just socialize, socialize, socialize.
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  Every kind of hour or two, take a small break to decompress and
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  realign yourself or recalibrate your sensory input, like take a
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  deep breath, have some water, smell something nice, taste
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  something and then go back to it.
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  Very interesting and very important actually.
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  OK, so #7 is probably the most like triggering thing and it's
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  the most difficult thing, which is the unwritten rules or the
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  struggle with unwritten rules. So people always have unwritten
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  rules like the one on me basis there are etiquetly unwritten
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  rules like what is allowed? You're allowed to say what
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  you're not allowed to say, what's going to offend somebody?
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  What isn't going to offend somebody.
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  This filter is somewhat missing for people with asperities.
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  The other thing is, you know, if you're in a conversation with a
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  group of people, you could be stood here and you don't know
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  the distance in which you should stand appropriately far away or
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  close to another person. Also, in addition, you could not
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  know when it's your turn to talk, when it's your turn to
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  stop talking, and if somebody is taking offence or wanting you to
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  stop talking because they have lost interest and not paying
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  attention. These whole social rules, these
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  unwritten social rules that you just pick up from being a human
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  being in a social environment are something that human beings
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  learn typically through social interactions as they grow up.
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  People in the autism spectrum, people with asparagus syndrome
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  and autism, they're trying to deal with the whole world as a
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  whole. That's completely overwhelming.
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  So all the social kind of cues take a back seat.
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  And I'm not saying that you can't learn some of these, and
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  you can definitely, but it's just that in that moment, it's
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