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Lisa Bilyeu on Building Confidence, Wealth, and a Life You Actually Want · The Iconic Midlife with Roxy Manning

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When
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I
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really
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do
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say
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money
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doesn't
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buy
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happiness,
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I
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really
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have
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lived
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that.
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I
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have
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seen
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the
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extent
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of
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it.
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You
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have
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to
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be
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who
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you
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are
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and
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do
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it
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the
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way
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that
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you
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want
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to
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do
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it.
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I
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realized
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that
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confidence
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was
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the
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byproduct
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of
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getting
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started.
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It's
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not
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right,
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but
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I'm
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like,
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why
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can't
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you
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do
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it
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like
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I
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do
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it?
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How's
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that
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working
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for
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you,
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girl?
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Not
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great.
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Not
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great.
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I
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have
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to
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say,
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not
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great.
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And
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sometimes
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that
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choice
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is
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uncomfortable.
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It
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is
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is
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my
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husband
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and
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my
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marriage
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is
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first.
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Business
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is
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easily
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after
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that.
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If
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there
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was
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an
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emergency
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between
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my
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business
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and
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my
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husband,
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I
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wouldn't
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even
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hesitate.
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I
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would
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absolutely
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burn
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my
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business
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to
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the
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ground
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and
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I
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would
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show
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up
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for
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my
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husband.
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But
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the
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important
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part
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is
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to
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put
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that
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one
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foot
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in
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front
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of
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the
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other
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and
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start.
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The
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fear
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is
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what
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holds
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us
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back.
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Anyone
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listening
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right
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now,
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really
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be
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honest
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about
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your
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natural
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inclinations.
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That
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will
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help
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guide
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you.
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Now
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we
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know
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there's
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others
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out
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there
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like
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us.
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You
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know,
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we're
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like,
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all
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right,
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midlife
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icons,
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buckle
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up.
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Today
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I'm
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joined
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by
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the
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unstoppable
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Lisa
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Bilyeu,
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co
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founder
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of
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Quest
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Nutrition,
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host
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of
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Women
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of
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Impact,
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best
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selling
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author
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and
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certified
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mindset
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warrior.
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If
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you've
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ever
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felt
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stuck
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in
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a
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life
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you
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built
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for
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someone
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else,
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if
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you've
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ever
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second
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guessed
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yourself
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while
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silently
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screaming,
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is
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this
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it?
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This
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episode
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is
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your
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wake
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up
1:24
call.
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We're
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breaking
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down
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what
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it
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really
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takes
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to
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reinvent
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yourself
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in
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midlife.
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Stop
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playing
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small
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and
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build
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the
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confidence
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to
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be
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completely
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unapologetic
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about
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who
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you
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are
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and
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what
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you
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want.
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Make
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sure
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you're
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following
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the
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iconic
1:41
midlife
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on
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Apple,
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Spotify,
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or
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wherever
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you
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get
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your
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podcasts.
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And
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catch
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the
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full
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video
1:47
episode
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on
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YouTube
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tomorrow.
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And
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of
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course,
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follow
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us
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on
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social
1:53
media,
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heconicmidlife
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and
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redcarpetroxy.
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That's
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me,
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because
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playing
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small
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is
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canceled.
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Welcome
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to
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the
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iconic
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midlife,
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Lisa.
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I'm
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so
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excited
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to
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have
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you
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here
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and
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this
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is
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just,
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just
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lovely.
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I've
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been
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following
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your
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podcast
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and
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all
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the
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amazing
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works
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that
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you
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do.
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I
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was
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actually
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driving
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yesterday
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in
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the
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car
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from
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Orange
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county
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to
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la,
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which
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is,
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you
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know,
2:17
in
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traffic
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over
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an
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hour.
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And
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I
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was
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just
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listening
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to
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your
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podcast
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on
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Repe
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and
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like,
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just
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going
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from
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episode
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to
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episode
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and
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just
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garnering
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so
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much
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amazing
2:26
insight.
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So
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where
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does
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this
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all
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come
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from?
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You're
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so
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inspirational.
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Oh,
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my
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God,
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thank
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you.
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That's
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very
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sweet.
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Thank
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you
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for
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having
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me
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on.
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It
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basically
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comes
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from
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utter
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insecurity
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and
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not
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having
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any
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belief
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in
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myself
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and
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growing
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Up.
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That
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was
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how
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I
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always
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thought
2:41
of
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myself
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as
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I'm
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the
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follower.
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I
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don't
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know
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much,
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I'm
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not
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very
2:45
intelligent.
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My
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brother
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and
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my
2:47
sister
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were
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whipping
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smart
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at
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math.
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And
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so
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I
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thought
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that
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that
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dictated
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whether
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you're
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going
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to
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be
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successful
2:52
or
2:52
not.
2:52
And
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I
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was
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the
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artist
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of
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the
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family.
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And
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so
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I
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think
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the
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inspiration
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really
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came
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from
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looking
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at
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what
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life
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I
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wanted,
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realizing
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I
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didn't
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have
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it
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and
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that
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I
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was
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responsible
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for
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making
3:03
the
3:03
changes
3:03
to
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get
3:04
it.
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And
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so
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in
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that
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I.
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When
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you,
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when
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you're
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going
3:07
after
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a
3:08
goal
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and
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you
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don't
3:08
have
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the
3:09
confidence,
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you
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realize
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it
3:10
is
3:10
getting
3:10
in
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your
3:11
way.
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The
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lack
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of
3:12
confidence
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will
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get
3:13
in
3:13
the
3:13
way
3:13
of
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you
3:14
reaching
3:14
your
3:14
goal.
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And
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so
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because
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I'm
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so
3:16
goal
3:16
oriented,
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I
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said,
3:17
okay,
3:18
don't
3:18
judge
3:18
yourself.
3:19
But
3:19
what
3:19
do
3:19
I
3:19
have
3:20
to
3:20
do?
3:20
What
3:20
do
3:20
I
3:20
have
3:21
to
3:21
change?
3:21
What
3:21
skill
3:21
sets
3:22
do
3:22
I
3:22
have
3:22
to
3:22
develop
3:23
in
3:23
order
3:23
to
3:23
reach
3:24
my
3:24
goal?
3:24
So
3:25
if
3:25
it's
3:25
confidence,
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I
3:26
have
3:26
to
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work
3:27
on
3:27
my
3:27
confidence.
3:28
And
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so
3:28
what
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does
3:29
that
3:29
look
3:29
like?
3:30
And
3:30
so
3:30
that's
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kind
3:31
of
3:31
where
3:31
my
3:31
journey
3:32
started
3:32
and
3:32
has
3:32
evolved
3:33
into.
3:33
So
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where
3:34
did
3:34
that
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click
3:35
and
3:35
like
3:35
how
3:36
did
3:36
it
3:36
click
3:36
and
3:36
when
3:36
did
3:37
it
3:37
click?
3:37
What
3:37
was
3:37
that
3:38
realization
3:38
for
3:38
you?
3:40
It's
3:40
never
3:40
really
3:41
one
3:41
thing.
3:41
I
3:41
think
3:42
originally
3:42
it
3:43
was
3:43
the
3:43
negative
3:43
voice
3:44
saying,
3:44
yeah,
3:44
you're
3:44
no
3:44
good.
3:45
Oh
3:45
yes,
3:45
everyone's
3:46
right
3:46
about
3:46
you.
3:46
You
3:46
are
3:47
stupid.
3:47
You
3:48
did
3:48
fail
3:48
classes,
3:49
you
3:49
didn't
3:49
get
3:49
A's,
3:50
your
3:50
exam.
3:50
You
3:50
didn't
3:51
even
3:51
get
3:51
B's
3:51
in
3:51
your
3:51
exam.
3:52
Like
3:53
it.
3:53
I
3:53
was
3:54
somewhat
3:55
seeing
3:55
the
3:55
proof
3:56
that
3:56
other
3:56
people
3:56
were
3:57
right
3:57
about
3:57
me.
3:58
And
3:58
I
3:58
think
3:58
the
3:59
inspiration
3:59
and
3:59
the
4:00
change
4:00
over
4:00
time
4:01
came
4:01
where
4:02
quest
4:02
started.
4:03
So
4:03
I
4:03
was
4:03
a
4:03
stay
4:03
at
4:04
home
4:04
wife
4:04
for
4:04
eight
4:04
years.
4:04
For
4:05
people
4:05
that
4:05
may
4:05
not
4:05
know,
4:06
no
4:06
judgment
4:06
on
4:06
that
4:06
at
4:07
all,
4:07
but
4:07
I
4:07
had
4:07
big
4:07
dreams.
4:08
I
4:08
want
4:08
to
4:08
be
4:08
in
4:09
movies.
4:09
So
4:10
here
4:10
I
4:10
am
4:11
in
4:11
my
4:11
20s
4:12
being
4:12
a
4:12
stay
4:13
at
4:13
home
4:13
wife,
4:13
not
4:14
living
4:14
out
4:14
my
4:14
dreams
4:14
that
4:15
I
4:15
thought
4:15
I
4:15
was
4:15
going
4:15
to
4:16
be.
4:16
And
4:16
I
4:16
asked
4:16
myself,
4:17
is
4:17
this
4:17
it?
4:18
Like,
4:18
is
4:18
this
4:19
actually
4:19
what
4:19
my
4:19
future
4:20
looks
4:20
like?
4:20
Project
4:21
this
4:21
out,
4:21
Lisa,
4:22
with
4:22
the
4:22
actions
4:23
that
4:23
you're
4:23
doing
4:23
on
4:23
a
4:24
daily
4:24
basis.
4:25
Project
4:25
this
4:25
out
4:26
in
4:26
a
4:26
year,
4:26
in
4:27
five
4:27
years
4:27
and
4:27
10
4:27
years.
4:27
And
4:28
what
4:28
does
4:28
your
4:28
life
4:28
look
4:29
like?
4:29
Once
4:29
I
4:29
did
4:30
that,
4:30
I
4:30
asked
4:30
myself,
4:31
is
4:31
that
4:31
the
4:31
life
4:32
I
4:32
want?
4:32
And
4:32
I
4:33
realized
4:33
it
4:33
wasn't.
4:34
And
4:34
so
4:34
what
4:35
we
4:35
ended
4:35
up
4:35
doing
4:35
is
4:36
very
4:36
long
4:37
story,
4:37
but
4:37
my
4:37
husband
4:38
was
4:38
miserable,
4:39
he
4:39
was
4:39
chasing
4:39
money.
4:40
And
4:40
so
4:40
we
4:41
just
4:41
stopped
4:41
and
4:41
said,
4:42
what
4:42
would
4:42
life
4:42
look
4:42
like
4:43
if
4:43
we
4:43
were
4:43
just
4:44
filling
4:44
up
4:44
our
4:44
hearts,
4:45
had
4:45
a
4:45
mission
4:46
and
4:46
worked
4:47
every
4:47
day
4:47
towards
4:47
that
4:48
Mission
4:48
that
4:49
resulted
4:49
in
4:49
Quest
4:50
Nutrition,
4:50
which
4:50
was
4:50
a
4:51
protein
4:51
bar.
4:51
As
4:52
a
4:52
great,
4:52
supportive
4:53
wife,
4:53
I
4:53
said
4:54
to
4:54
my
4:54
husband,
4:54
I
4:54
will
4:54
support
4:55
you.
4:55
What
4:55
do
4:55
you
4:55
need?
4:56
How
4:56
do
4:56
I
4:57
help
4:57
you?
4:57
And
4:57
he's
4:57
like,
4:58
just
4:58
ship
4:58
bars
4:58
from
4:58
my
4:58
live
4:59
from
4:59
the
4:59
living
4:59
room
4:59
floor.
5:00
Help
5:00
us
5:00
make
5:00
a
5:00
couple
5:01
of
5:01
protein
5:01
bars
5:01
with
5:02
rolling
5:02
pins
5:02
and
5:02
knives.
5:03
And
5:03
then
5:04
we
5:04
blinked,
5:04
and
5:04
it
5:05
ended
5:05
up
5:05
growing
5:05
at
5:05
57,000%,
5:07
which
5:07
took
5:07
us
5:07
from
5:08
zero
5:08
to
5:08
a
5:08
billion
5:09
dollar
5:09
company
5:09
in
5:09
five
5:10
years.
5:10
Wow.
5:11
And
5:11
in
5:12
that
5:12
moment,
5:13
my
5:13
husband,
5:14
God
5:14
bless
5:14
him,
5:15
was
5:15
like,
5:16
for
5:16
us
5:17
to
5:17
build
5:17
this
5:17
company,
5:18
we
5:18
have
5:18
to
5:18
put
5:19
our
5:19
house
5:19
up
5:19
for
5:19
collateral.
5:22
And
5:22
what
5:22
I
5:22
realized
5:23
in
5:23
that
5:23
moment
5:24
is
5:24
men
5:25
see
5:25
a
5:26
house
5:26
as
5:27
a
5:27
nest
5:27
egg,
5:28
women
5:28
see
5:28
a
5:29
house
5:29
as
5:29
a
5:29
nest.
5:30
And
5:30
so
5:30
he
5:31
wasn't
5:31
trying
5:31
to
5:31
insult
5:32
me.
5:32
We
5:32
just
5:32
see
5:32
it
5:33
in
5:33
different
5:33
avenues.
5:34
So
5:35
I
5:35
looked
5:35
at
5:35
the
5:35
way
5:36
life
5:36
was.
5:36
I
5:37
said,
5:37
okay.
5:37
I
5:37
knew
5:37
that
5:38
I
5:38
married
5:38
a
5:38
man
5:38
that
5:39
was
5:39
ambitious,
5:39
a
5:39
man
5:40
that
5:40
was
5:40
driven.
5:40
Just
5:40
because
5:41
I've
5:41
got
5:41
a
5:41
ring
5:41
on
5:41
my
5:41
finger
5:42
doesn't
5:42
change
5:43
that
5:43
I
5:43
can
5:43
get
5:43
another
5:44
house.
5:44
I
5:44
can't
5:44
get
5:44
another
5:45
Tom.
5:46
So
5:46
that
5:46
was
5:46
the
5:47
catalyst
5:48
for
5:48
us
5:48
going,
5:48
cool,
5:49
let's
5:49
roll
5:49
the
5:49
dice
5:50
on
5:50
Quest.
5:50
We
5:51
roll
5:51
the
5:51
dice,
5:51
we
5:52
start
5:52
doing
5:52
well
5:53
in
5:53
that
5:53
moment,
5:54
every
5:54
time
5:55
I'm
5:55
shipping
5:55
bars
5:56
from
5:56
the
5:56
living
5:56
room
5:56
floor
5:57
and
5:57
then
5:57
taking
5:57
a
5:58
big
5:58
sack
5:58
of
5:58
bag,
5:59
a
5:59
bag
5:59
to
5:59
the
6:00
post
6:00
office,
6:00
I
6:01
then
6:01
have
6:01
UPS
6:02
come.
6:02
I
6:02
mean,
6:02
like,
6:02
it
6:02
was
6:03
rapidly
6:03
growing
6:04
so
6:04
quickly
6:05
that
6:05
I
6:05
had
6:06
choices
6:06
all
6:06
along
6:06
the
6:07
way.
6:07
I
6:07
didn't
6:08
have
6:08
the
6:08
confidence
6:08
and
6:09
I
6:09
didn't
6:09
have
6:09
the
6:09
competence.
6:11
And
6:11
every
6:11
time
6:11
I
6:12
hit
6:12
a
6:12
brick
6:12
wall
6:13
or
6:13
every
6:13
time
6:13
I
6:13
hit
6:13
a
6:14
hurdle,
6:14
I
6:14
just
6:15
asked
6:15
myself
6:15
a
6:16
very
6:16
honest,
6:17
kind
6:17
question.
6:18
You
6:18
can
6:18
quit
6:19
right
6:19
now,
6:19
Lisa,
6:20
but
6:20
you
6:20
lose
6:20
your
6:20
house
6:21
or
6:21
you
6:22
can
6:22
figure
6:22
it
6:22
out.
6:23
And
6:24
every
6:24
moment
6:24
when
6:25
I
6:25
was
6:25
a
6:25
kid,
6:25
the
6:26
idea
6:27
of
6:27
failing
6:27
was
6:28
so
6:28
petrifying
6:28
because
6:29
I
6:29
thought,
6:29
now
6:29
there's
6:29
more
6:30
credibility
6:30
that
6:30
people
6:30
are
6:31
going
6:31
to
6:31
use
6:31
against
6:31
me
6:31
of
6:32
why
6:32
I'm
6:32
no
6:32
good.
6:33
I
6:34
have
6:34
to
6:34
figure
6:34
this
6:34
out.
6:35
It
6:35
is
6:35
all
6:35
on
6:35
me.
6:36
There
6:36
is
6:36
no
6:36
running
6:37
away
6:37
from
6:37
this.
6:38
This
6:38
is
6:39
whether
6:39
I
6:39
like
6:40
it
6:40
or
6:40
not,
6:40
black
6:40
or
6:41
white.
6:41
I
6:41
figure
6:41
it
6:41
out.
6:42
I
6:42
save
6:42
the
6:42
company.
6:42
I
6:43
don't
6:43
figure
6:43
it
6:43
out.
6:43
I
6:44
lose
6:44
my
6:44
house.
6:45
And
6:45
so
6:45
every
6:46
single
6:46
day
6:46
I
6:47
faced
6:47
my
6:47
incompetence.
6:48
And
6:48
what
6:48
that
6:49
did
6:49
is
6:49
made
6:49
me
6:50
realize
6:50
that
6:50
no
6:51
one
6:51
is
6:51
born
6:51
perfect.
6:52
No
6:52
one
6:52
is
6:53
born
6:53
with
6:53
a
6:53
innate
6:54
set
6:54
of
6:54
skills
6:55
that
6:55
is
6:55
going
6:55
to
6:56
lead
6:56
them
6:56
to
6:56
success.
6:57
And
6:57
that
6:58
allowed
6:58
me
6:58
to
6:58
go,
6:59
what
6:59
else
6:59
can
6:59
I
7:00
learn?
7:00
And
7:01
in
7:01
that
7:01
is
7:02
how
7:02
I
7:02
built
7:02
my
7:02
confidence.
7:03
I
7:03
realized
7:04
that
7:04
confidence
7:05
was
7:05
the
7:05
byproduct
7:06
of
7:06
getting
7:07
started.
7:08
We
7:09
all
7:09
want
7:09
the
7:09
confidence
7:10
before
7:10
we
7:11
get
7:11
started.
7:11
But
7:12
I
7:12
realized
7:12
my
7:13
favorite
7:13
movie,
7:13
one
7:13
of
7:14
my
7:14
favorite
7:14
movies
7:14
growing
7:14
up
7:14
was
7:14
Karate
7:15
Kid.
7:15
Wax
7:16
on,
7:16
wax
7:17
off,
7:17
all
7:17
day
7:18
long,
7:18
all
7:18
day
7:18
long.
7:19
So
7:19
I
7:19
realized
7:21
my
7:21
journey
7:22
was
7:22
painting
7:22
the
7:23
fence.
7:23
My
7:23
journey
7:24
was
7:24
waxing
7:24
the
7:25
cars.
7:25
That
7:25
was
7:25
part
7:26
of
7:26
the
7:27
practice
7:27
I
7:28
had
7:28
to
7:28
do
7:28
consistently
7:29
every
7:30
day.
7:30
And
7:31
in
7:31
that,
7:31
I
7:32
would
7:32
fail.
7:32
I
7:33
would
7:33
learn
7:33
from
7:33
my
7:33
failures.
7:34
I
7:34
would
7:34
get
7:34
back
7:34
up
7:35
and
7:35
I
7:35
would
7:35
brush
7:36
myself
7:36
off,
7:36
and
7:37
I
7:37
would
7:37
do
7:37
it
7:37
again
7:38
in
7:38
that
7:38
evolution.
7:39
So
7:39
that's
7:40
why
7:40
it
7:40
wasn't.
7:40
I
7:40
couldn't
7:40
just
7:41
answer
7:41
like
7:41
it
7:41
was
7:41
a
7:41
light
7:42
bulb
7:42
moment.
7:42
It
7:43
was
7:43
an
7:43
evolution
7:43
of
7:45
being
7:45
forced
7:45
to
7:45
look
7:46
nakedly
7:47
at
7:47
the
7:47
situation,
7:48
making
7:49
concrete
7:49
decisions,
7:50
and
7:50
declaring
7:51
what
7:51
I
7:51
would
7:51
focus
7:52
on.
7:52
And
7:53
playing
7:53
a
7:53
game
7:54
called
7:54
no
7:54
bs.
7:55
What
7:55
would
7:55
it
7:55
take
7:55
to
7:56
get
7:56
there?
7:56
And
7:57
that
7:57
meant
7:57
I
7:57
had
7:57
to
7:57
shed
7:58
ego.
7:58
I
7:59
had
7:59
to
7:59
reframe
8:00
where
8:00
my
8:00
ego
8:00
would
8:01
come
8:01
from.
8:02
So
8:02
my
8:02
ego
8:02
before
8:03
was
8:03
coming
8:03
from
8:04
being
8:04
liked,
8:05
being
8:05
approved,
8:06
being
8:06
accepted.
8:07
And
8:07
now
8:07
my
8:07
ego
8:08
is
8:08
coming
8:08
from
8:09
being
8:09
the
8:09
person
8:09
that
8:10
could
8:10
grow
8:10
and
8:10
learn.
8:10
Even
8:11
if
8:11
I
8:11
fell
8:11
on
8:11
my
8:12
face,
8:13
that
8:13
allowed
8:14
me
8:14
to
8:14
keep
8:14
getting
8:14
up
8:15
over
8:15
and
8:15
over
8:15
again.
8:16
And
8:16
that
8:16
kind
8:16
of
8:17
had
8:17
then
8:17
became
8:18
again,
8:18
the
8:18
catalyst
8:18
to
8:19
where
8:19
I
8:19
am
8:19
today.
8:20
Oh,
8:20
that's
8:21
amazing.
8:21
And,
8:21
you
8:21
know,
8:21
one
8:21
of
8:22
the
8:22
things
8:22
when
8:22
I
8:22
was
8:23
researching
8:23
all
8:24
about
8:24
you
8:24
is
8:24
that
8:24
you
8:25
also
8:25
come
8:25
from
8:25
a
8:26
very
8:26
traditional
8:27
cultural
8:28
family.
8:29
Being
8:29
Greek,
8:30
I
8:30
also
8:30
come
8:30
from.
8:31
My
8:31
father's
8:31
Pakistani.
8:32
You
8:32
know,
8:32
my
8:33
mother
8:33
is
8:33
from
8:33
a
8:33
small
8:34
town
8:34
in
8:34
East
8:34
Texas
8:34
and
8:35
is
8:36
from
8:36
the
8:36
States,
8:36
but
8:36
he's
8:37
Pakistani.
8:38
So
8:38
it
8:38
was
8:38
this
8:38
like,
8:40
kind
8:40
of
8:40
like
8:40
traditional
8:41
battle
8:41
with
8:42
growing
8:42
up
8:42
in
8:42
America
8:43
and
8:43
kind
8:43
of,
8:43
you
8:44
know,
8:44
like,
8:44
you
8:45
look
8:45
around,
8:45
the
8:45
kids
8:45
are,
8:46
you
8:46
know,
8:46
doing
8:47
other
8:47
things.
8:48
It's
8:48
more
8:48
of
8:48
a
8:49
westernized
8:49
sort
8:50
of
8:50
a
8:50
thing.
8:51
And
8:51
I
8:52
wonder
8:52
how
8:52
much
8:52
of
8:52
that
8:53
shaped
8:54
you,
8:54
because
8:54
I
8:55
don't
8:55
know
8:55
if
8:55
you
8:55
felt
8:55
the
8:55
same,
8:56
especially
8:56
being
8:56
a
8:57
woman
8:57
growing
8:57
up
8:57
like
8:58
that,
8:58
you
8:58
know,
8:58
I
8:58
was
8:59
more
8:59
taught
9:00
to
9:00
be,
9:00
you
9:00
know,
9:00
a
9:00
little
9:01
quieter,
9:01
a
9:01
little
9:02
more
9:02
demure.
9:02
I
9:03
shouldn't
9:03
be
9:03
so
9:03
loud
9:04
and
9:04
be
9:05
who
9:05
I
9:05
truly
9:06
was,
9:06
you
9:06
know.
9:07
How
9:07
much
9:07
did
9:07
that
9:08
affect
9:08
you
9:08
and
9:08
did
9:09
that
9:09
help
9:09
even
9:10
propel
9:10
you
9:10
more,
9:11
do
9:11
you
9:11
think?
9:12
Oh,
9:12
and
9:13
propel
9:13
me
9:13
more
9:13
than
9:14
that,
9:14
is
9:14
the
9:15
ending
9:15
of
9:16
that
9:16
question,
9:16
to
9:17
be
9:17
honest.
9:17
So,
9:17
yes,
9:18
Greek
9:18
Orthodox,
9:19
born
9:19
in
9:19
a
9:19
very
9:19
traditional
9:20
house.
9:20
My
9:20
dad
9:21
speaks
9:21
Greek.
9:21
I
9:21
went
9:21
to
9:22
Greek
9:22
school
9:22
on
9:22
the
9:22
weekends.
9:23
Like,
9:24
it
9:24
was
9:24
rather
9:25
traditional
9:25
in
9:25
that
9:25
sense,
9:26
I
9:27
think.
9:27
So.
9:27
I
9:27
was
9:27
definitely
9:28
taught
9:29
girls
9:29
should
9:29
speak
9:30
when
9:30
spoken
9:30
to.
9:31
I
9:31
have
9:32
a
9:32
very
9:32
clear
9:32
recollection
9:33
of
9:33
a
9:33
man
9:33
patting
9:34
me
9:34
on
9:34
the
9:34
head,
9:34
telling
9:35
me
9:35
that.
9:35
That
9:35
I
9:36
shouldn't
9:36
speak
9:36
unless
9:37
I
9:37
was
9:37
Addressed
9:39
going
9:39
to
9:39
the
9:39
village.
9:40
When
9:40
my
9:40
dad
9:40
grew
9:40
up
9:40
in
9:41
the
9:41
tiny
9:41
mountains
9:42
of
9:42
Cyprus,
9:42
it
9:43
was
9:43
segregated.
9:44
So
9:44
there
9:44
was
9:44
a
9:45
cafe,
9:45
one
9:46
cafe
9:46
in
9:46
the
9:46
whole
9:46
village.
9:47
And
9:47
as
9:47
a
9:47
woman,
9:48
you
9:48
weren't
9:48
allowed
9:48
to
9:48
sit
9:48
down,
9:49
so
9:50
you
9:50
could
9:50
walk
9:50
in
9:50
and
9:50
buy
9:51
stuff.
9:51
You
9:51
just
9:51
weren't
9:51
allowed
9:52
to
9:52
sit
9:52
down
9:52
and
9:52
drink
9:52
coffee.
9:53
Now,
9:53
growing
9:54
up,
9:54
I
9:54
just
9:54
was
9:55
like,
9:55
oh,
9:55
okay.
9:56
Well,
9:56
that's
9:56
what
9:56
respect
9:57
means.
9:57
Cool.
9:57
I
9:58
never
9:58
really
9:58
took
9:58
that
9:58
personally.
9:59
My
10:00
sister,
10:00
who
10:00
is
10:00
a
10:00
true
10:01
feminist,
10:01
absolutely
10:02
revolted
10:03
against
10:03
it.
10:03
But
10:04
I
10:04
just
10:04
kind
10:04
of
10:05
went,
10:05
okay,
10:05
if
10:06
that's
10:06
the
10:06
rule,
10:06
I'll
10:07
respect
10:07
it,
10:07
but
10:07
it
10:08
doesn't
10:08
make
10:08
me
10:08
less
10:08
worthy.
10:10
And
10:10
so
10:10
over
10:10
time,
10:11
as
10:12
I
10:12
was
10:12
getting
10:12
older
10:12
and
10:13
older,
10:13
I
10:13
respected
10:14
God,
10:14
I
10:14
respected
10:15
my
10:15
dad,
10:15
I
10:15
respected
10:16
my
10:16
religion.
10:16
And
10:17
then
10:17
I
10:17
went
10:17
on
10:17
a
10:17
date
10:17
with
10:18
my
10:18
now
10:18
husband,
10:19
and
10:19
he's
10:19
this
10:20
American
10:20
guy
10:21
that
10:21
was
10:21
just
10:21
curious.
10:22
And
10:22
he
10:22
asks
10:23
me
10:23
the
10:23
question
10:23
of
10:24
why
10:24
I
10:24
believe
10:24
in
10:24
God.
10:25
And
10:26
that
10:26
was
10:26
the
10:26
first
10:26
time.
10:27
And
10:27
he
10:27
wasn't
10:27
judging.
10:28
It
10:28
was
10:28
just
10:28
curious,
10:29
right?
10:29
Yes.
10:29
Pure
10:30
curiosity.
10:30
Right.
10:31
In
10:31
that
10:31
moment,
10:32
you
10:32
know
10:32
what
10:32
my
10:32
answer
10:33
was?
10:33
What?
10:33
Because
10:33
my
10:34
dad
10:34
told
10:34
me
10:34
to.
10:35
It
10:36
was
10:36
the
10:36
first
10:36
time
10:37
I'd
10:37
actually
10:37
ever
10:38
been
10:38
asked.
10:39
That
10:39
was
10:39
one
10:39
of
10:40
the
10:40
very
10:40
first
10:40
moments.
10:41
I
10:41
mean,
10:41
this
10:41
was
10:41
24
10:42
years
10:42
ago
10:42
now.
10:43
It
10:43
was,
10:43
I
10:44
think,
10:44
one
10:44
of
10:44
the
10:44
first
10:44
moments
10:45
that
10:45
I
10:45
realized,
10:46
wow,
10:46
what
10:46
else
10:47
do
10:47
I
10:47
believe
10:48
that
10:48
I've
10:48
never
10:48
questioned?
10:51
And
10:52
that
10:52
moment
10:53
started
10:53
to
10:53
open
10:54
up
10:54
the
10:54
idea
10:54
that
10:55
allowed
10:55
me
10:56
to
10:56
be
10:56
like,
10:56
lisa,
10:56
you
10:57
have
10:57
a
10:57
right
10:57
to
10:57
question
10:58
things.
10:59
And
10:59
in
10:59
the
11:00
Greek
11:00
Orthodox
11:00
religion,
11:02
if
11:02
you
11:02
ask
11:02
your
11:02
grandmother,
11:03
is
11:03
God
11:03
real?
11:03
She'd
11:04
be
11:04
horrified.
11:05
Like,
11:05
she
11:05
would
11:05
be
11:05
like,
11:05
how
11:06
could
11:06
you
11:06
even
11:06
ask
11:06
that?
11:07
Of
11:07
course,
11:07
like,
11:07
it
11:08
would
11:08
be
11:08
an
11:08
insult
11:09
to
11:09
Greek
11:09
tradition
11:10
if
11:10
you
11:11
even
11:11
asked.
11:11
So
11:12
it
11:12
never
11:12
dawned
11:12
on
11:12
me
11:13
to
11:13
ask
11:13
until
11:14
my
11:14
husband
11:14
asked
11:15
me.
11:15
So
11:15
that
11:16
opened
11:16
the
11:16
curiosity.
11:17
It
11:17
allowed
11:18
me
11:18
to
11:18
look
11:18
at
11:18
my
11:18
life,
11:19
and
11:19
what
11:19
else
11:19
was
11:19
I
11:20
believing
11:20
that
11:20
I
11:20
just
11:20
didn't
11:21
even
11:21
question?
11:22
And
11:22
then
11:22
it
11:22
gave
11:23
me
11:23
the
11:23
opportunity
11:24
to
11:24
go
11:24
inwards
11:24
and
11:25
go,
11:25
do
11:25
I
11:25
actually
11:26
believe
11:26
this?
11:27
And
11:27
when
11:28
I
11:28
met
11:28
my
11:28
boyfriend,
11:29
and
11:29
he's
11:29
this
11:30
American
11:30
guy
11:30
and
11:31
we're
11:31
talking
11:31
about
11:31
getting
11:32
married,
11:33
he
11:34
goes
11:34
to
11:34
my
11:34
dad
11:34
and
11:35
asks
11:35
for
11:35
his
11:36
blessing.
11:36
Now,
11:36
he
11:36
didn't
11:37
ask
11:37
for
11:37
permission,
11:37
but
11:37
he
11:37
asked
11:38
for
11:38
his
11:38
blessing,
11:38
because
11:38
as
11:39
a
11:39
Greek
11:39
woman,
11:39
that's
11:40
actually
11:40
quite
11:40
important
11:40
to
11:40
me.
11:40
I'm
11:41
very
11:41
traditional
11:41
like
11:41
that.
11:42
And
11:42
my
11:42
dad
11:43
said
11:43
no.
11:44
He
11:44
said
11:44
no?
11:44
He
11:45
said
11:45
no.
11:45
Wow.
11:46
So
11:46
he
11:46
goes
11:46
to.
11:47
He
11:47
goes
11:47
to
11:48
my
11:48
dad,
11:48
and
11:48
he's
11:48
like,
11:49
I'm
11:49
in
11:49
love
11:49
with
11:49
your
11:49
daughter.
11:50
I'm
11:50
going
11:51
to
11:51
take
11:51
care
11:51
of
11:51
her.
11:52
I
11:52
would
11:52
like
11:52
to
11:53
marry
11:53
her.
11:53
I'd
11:53
love
11:53
your
11:53
bless.
11:54
And
11:54
my
11:54
dad
11:54
said,
11:54
no.
11:55
And
11:55
he
11:56
was
11:56
like,
11:56
why?
11:56
He
11:56
didn't
11:57
expect
11:57
that.
11:57
He's
11:57
like,
11:58
why?
11:58
And
11:58
he
11:58
goes,
11:59
how
11:59
do
12:00
you
12:00
think
12:00
that
12:00
you're
12:00
going
12:00
to
12:00
be
12:00
able
12:01
to
12:01
take
12:01
care
12:01
of
12:01
my
12:01
daughter?
12:02
You're
12:03
young,
12:03
you
12:03
don't
12:04
have
12:04
much
12:04
money.
12:04
Because
12:05
again,
12:05
my
12:05
dad's
12:05
very
12:06
traditional.
12:06
He
12:06
comes
12:06
from
12:07
a
12:07
tiny
12:07
village
12:08
in
12:08
the
12:08
mountains
12:08
of
12:08
Cyprus.
12:09
So
12:09
his
12:09
thing
12:10
is
12:10
men
12:11
take
12:11
care
12:11
of
12:12
women.
12:12
And
12:13
so
12:13
for
12:13
him,
12:13
he's
12:14
like,
12:14
I've
12:14
fought
12:14
my
12:14
whole
12:15
life
12:15
to
12:15
build
12:15
a
12:15
house,
12:16
to
12:16
put
12:16
a
12:16
roof
12:16
over
12:17
my
12:17
daughter's
12:17
head,
12:17
and
12:18
here
12:18
you
12:18
are.
12:18
How
12:19
are
12:19
you
12:19
going
12:19
to
12:19
provide
12:19
for
12:20
her?
12:21
And
12:21
in
12:21
that
12:22
moment,
12:22
Tom
12:22
was
12:23
like,
12:23
I
12:23
know
12:23
you
12:23
see
12:24
this
12:24
young
12:24
guy
12:25
who
12:25
is
12:25
just
12:26
in
12:26
love
12:26
with
12:26
your
12:26
daughter,
12:27
but
12:27
I
12:27
promise
12:27
you,
12:27
I
12:28
will
12:28
take
12:28
care
12:28
of
12:28
her.
12:29
I
12:29
am
12:29
a
12:29
man
12:29
of
12:30
my
12:30
word.
12:30
And
12:30
my
12:30
dad
12:31
just
12:31
thought
12:33
so.
12:34
When
12:34
Tom
12:34
proposed
12:35
to
12:35
me,
12:35
he
12:36
said,
12:36
I.
12:36
I
12:36
need
12:37
you
12:37
to
12:37
know
12:37
that
12:37
your
12:37
dad
12:38
didn't
12:38
want
12:38
this.
12:40
And
12:41
so
12:41
again,
12:41
I
12:42
had
12:42
to
12:42
be
12:42
grounded,
12:43
not
12:44
emotional.
12:44
I
12:45
call
12:45
it
12:45
emotional
12:45
sobriety.
12:46
I
12:46
had
12:46
to
12:47
make
12:47
sure
12:47
that
12:47
I
12:47
was
12:47
emotionally
12:48
sober
12:48
to
12:49
deal
12:49
with
12:49
that.
12:49
Now,
12:50
what
12:50
does
12:50
that
12:50
look
12:50
like?
12:51
It
12:51
meant
12:52
I
12:52
had
12:52
to
12:52
make
12:52
sure
12:53
that
12:53
I
12:53
didn't
12:53
make
12:53
it
12:53
about
12:54
me.
12:54
Why
12:55
was
12:55
my
12:55
dad
12:55
saying
12:56
this?
12:57
It's
12:57
a
12:57
belief
12:58
that
12:58
he
12:58
has.
12:58
Okay,
12:59
why
12:59
is
12:59
it
12:59
a
12:59
belief
12:59
that
13:00
he
13:00
has?
13:00
Because
13:01
he
13:01
literally
13:01
has
13:02
a
13:02
grew
13:02
up
13:03
in
13:03
a
13:03
hut.
13:04
Like,
13:04
a
13:05
hut,
13:05
no
13:05
running
13:06
water,
13:06
a
13:06
toilet
13:07
was
13:07
a
13:07
hole
13:08
in
13:08
the
13:08
floor.
13:09
So
13:09
now
13:09
he
13:10
lives
13:10
in
13:10
London,
13:11
has
13:11
a
13:11
beautiful
13:12
house.
13:13
So
13:13
for
13:13
him,
13:13
he
13:14
thinks,
13:14
I've
13:15
spent
13:15
all
13:15
of
13:15
my
13:15
life
13:16
trying
13:16
to
13:17
provide
13:17
for
13:17
my
13:17
children.
13:19
This
13:19
is
13:19
what
13:19
to
13:20
me,
13:20
I
13:20
see
13:20
as
13:21
a
13:21
provider
13:21
looks
13:22
like.
13:22
Here
13:23
you
13:23
are,
13:23
Tom,
13:24
you
13:24
are
13:25
have
13:25
college
13:25
debt.
13:26
You
13:26
rent
13:26
an
13:26
apartment.
13:27
Like,
13:27
my
13:27
dad
13:28
just
13:28
took
13:28
the
13:28
facts.
13:29
So
13:29
I
13:29
go,
13:29
okay,
13:29
instead
13:30
of
13:30
taking
13:30
this
13:30
personally,
13:31
my
13:31
dad
13:31
believes
13:32
that
13:32
he
13:32
should
13:32
take
13:33
care
13:33
of
13:33
me.
13:33
That
13:33
isn't
13:34
about
13:34
me.
13:35
That's
13:35
about
13:35
my
13:35
dad's
13:36
beliefs.
13:36
So
13:36
it
13:36
was
13:37
easy
13:37
for
13:37
me
13:37
to
13:38
separate
13:38
what
13:38
my
13:39
dad
13:39
thought
13:39
and
13:39
what
13:39
I
13:40
thought.
13:40
That's
13:41
where
13:41
I
13:41
then
13:41
did
13:42
all
13:42
the
13:42
assessment.
13:42
And
13:43
I
13:43
went
13:43
to
13:43
my
13:43
dad
13:44
and
13:44
I
13:44
just
13:44
gave
13:44
him
13:45
the
13:45
grace
13:45
and
13:46
I
13:46
said,
13:46
dad,
13:46
I
13:46
love
13:47
you.
13:47
Tell
13:48
me
13:48
what
13:48
you're
13:48
worried
13:49
about.
13:50
Because
13:50
if
13:50
you're
13:51
able
13:51
to
13:51
hear
13:51
people's
13:52
worry,
13:52
you
13:52
don't
13:53
have
13:53
to
13:53
take
13:53
it
13:53
on
13:53
as
13:53
your
13:54
own
13:54
worry,
13:54
but
13:54
it
13:54
gives
13:55
you
13:55
more
13:55
information.
13:57
So
13:57
my
13:57
dad
13:57
said,
13:58
okay,
13:58
well,
13:58
you
13:58
guys
13:58
don't
13:59
know
13:59
each
13:59
other.
14:00
You
14:00
haven't
14:00
known
14:00
each
14:00
other
14:01
long.
14:01
You
14:01
come
14:01
from
14:01
very
14:02
different
14:02
backgrounds.
14:02
You're
14:03
about
14:03
to
14:03
move
14:03
to
14:03
America
14:04
where
14:04
You
14:04
don't
14:04
have
14:05
family.
14:05
He
14:05
isn't
14:06
Greek
14:06
Orthodox.
14:07
How
14:07
are
14:07
you
14:07
going
14:07
to
14:07
bring
14:07
up
14:07
your
14:08
children?
14:08
Like,
14:08
my
14:08
dad
14:08
had
14:08
a
14:08
laundry
14:09
list
14:09
of
14:09
all
14:09
the
14:09
reasons.
14:10
And
14:10
I
14:11
was
14:11
like,
14:11
thank
14:11
you.
14:12
Thank
14:12
you
14:12
for
14:12
being
14:12
honest
14:13
with
14:13
me,
14:13
Dad.
14:14
I
14:14
will
14:14
take
14:14
this
14:14
under
14:15
consideration.
14:16
And
14:17
so
14:17
what
14:17
I
14:17
did
14:17
is
14:17
I
14:17
showed
14:18
my
14:18
dad
14:18
respect,
14:19
I
14:19
took
14:19
it
14:19
under
14:20
consideration,
14:20
and
14:20
I
14:21
went
14:21
through
14:21
each
14:21
line
14:21
item,
14:22
if
14:22
you
14:22
will,
14:22
like
14:22
a
14:23
business.
14:23
And
14:23
I
14:23
just
14:24
went,
14:24
okay.
14:24
He
14:25
doesn't
14:25
understand
14:25
the
14:26
Greek
14:26
Orthodox
14:26
religion.
14:27
My
14:27
dad's
14:27
right.
14:28
So
14:29
actually,
14:29
thank
14:29
you,
14:29
dad.
14:30
You're
14:30
warning
14:30
me
14:30
of
14:31
something
14:31
that
14:31
I
14:31
may
14:31
not
14:31
have
14:32
realized.
14:32
So
14:33
I
14:33
went
14:33
to
14:33
Tom
14:33
and
14:33
I
14:33
said,
14:34
I
14:34
really
14:34
think
14:34
it's
14:34
important
14:35
that
14:35
if
14:35
we
14:35
have
14:35
children
14:36
that
14:36
they
14:36
are
14:36
able
14:37
to
14:37
speak
14:37
Greek
14:37
and
14:38
that
14:38
they
14:38
grew
14:38
up
14:38
in
14:38
the
14:39
Greek
14:39
Orthodox
14:39
religion.
14:40
And
14:40
in
14:41
order
14:41
for
14:41
them
14:41
to
14:41
do
14:41
that,
14:42
you
14:42
need
14:42
to
14:42
be
14:42
Greek
14:43
and
14:43
you
14:43
need
14:43
to
14:43
learn
14:43
Greek.
14:44
And
14:44
he
14:44
said,
14:45
I
14:45
love
14:45
it.
14:45
I
14:45
mean,
14:46
let's
14:46
do
14:46
it.
14:47
And
14:47
so
14:47
we
14:47
took
14:48
each
14:48
thing
14:48
that
14:48
my
14:48
dad
14:49
was
14:49
worried
14:49
about
14:49
and
14:49
we
14:50
got
14:50
aligned
14:51
before
14:51
we
14:51
even
14:51
got
14:52
married.
14:53
So
14:53
I
14:53
know
14:54
that
14:54
was
14:54
a
14:54
long
14:54
story.
14:55
But
14:55
the
14:56
key
14:56
thing
14:56
there
14:57
is
14:57
when
14:57
someone
14:58
gives
14:58
you
14:58
their
14:58
opinion,
14:59
when
15:00
someone
15:00
has
15:00
an
15:00
expectation
15:01
of
15:01
you,
15:02
give
15:02
them
15:02
grace,
15:03
listen
15:03
to
15:03
them.
15:04
You
15:04
may
15:04
actually
15:05
be
15:05
able
15:05
to
15:05
learn
15:05
something
15:06
to
15:06
better
15:07
your
15:07
life,
15:07
but
15:08
don't
15:08
take
15:08
it
15:08
as
15:09
fact.
15:09
Don't
15:10
take
15:10
it
15:10
as
15:10
you
15:11
must
15:11
do.
15:11
This
15:12
is
15:12
great
15:12
information
15:13
for
15:13
you
15:13
to
15:13
have,
15:14
but
15:14
it
15:14
doesn't
15:14
mean
15:15
fact.
15:15
And
15:15
so
15:15
what
15:15
I
15:15
was
15:16
able
15:16
to
15:16
do
15:16
in
15:16
that
15:16
moment,
15:17
I
15:17
was
15:17
able
15:17
to
15:17
graciously
15:18
navigate
15:19
respecting
15:19
my
15:20
Greek
15:20
father,
15:21
respecting
15:22
his
15:22
opinions,
15:22
showing
15:23
him
15:24
grace
15:24
and
15:24
respect.
15:25
But
15:25
I
15:25
didn't
15:26
accept
15:26
it.
15:27
I
15:27
didn't
15:27
follow
15:28
his
15:29
leadership.
15:29
I
15:30
said,
15:30
thank
15:30
you,
15:30
but
15:30
I'm
15:31
still
15:31
going
15:31
to
15:31
marry
15:31
Tom.
15:33
And
15:33
so
15:33
that
15:34
was
15:34
how
15:34
I
15:34
handled
15:34
that
15:35
situation
15:35
and
15:35
not
15:36
take
15:36
other
15:37
people's
15:37
opinions
15:37
as
15:38
fact.
15:38
And
15:38
I
15:38
was
15:38
able
15:39
to
15:39
then
15:39
grow
15:39
from
15:40
that.
15:41
And
15:41
then
15:41
if
15:41
you
15:41
don't.
15:41
Can
15:42
I
15:42
share
15:42
the
15:42
punchline?
15:42
Sure.
15:43
Please?
15:43
Of
15:44
course.
15:44
Okay.
15:46
15
15:46
years
15:47
later.
15:47
So
15:47
that
15:47
happens
15:48
right
15:48
before
15:48
we
15:48
get
15:48
married.
15:49
Fifteen
15:49
years
15:49
later,
15:50
Quest
15:50
is
15:50
now
15:50
a
15:50
billion
15:51
dollar
15:51
company.
15:51
My
15:52
dad
15:52
hasn't
15:52
come
15:52
to
15:52
America
15:53
though.
15:53
So
15:54
he
15:54
hasn't
15:54
actually
15:55
seen
15:55
with
15:55
his
15:55
own
15:56
eyes
15:56
what
15:57
that
15:57
looks
15:58
like.
15:58
He
15:58
kind
15:58
of
15:58
thought,
15:59
huh,
15:59
huh,
15:59
huh.
16:00
So
16:00
he
16:00
comes
16:01
to
16:01
America,
16:03
we
16:03
take
16:04
him
16:04
to
16:04
see
16:04
Quest
16:05
nutrition.
16:05
We
16:06
have
16:06
300,000
16:07
square
16:08
foot
16:08
of
16:08
space,
16:08
we
16:09
have
16:09
3,000
16:09
employees,
16:10
and
16:11
we're
16:11
making
16:11
1.5
16:12
million
16:13
bars
16:13
a
16:13
day.
16:14
Wow.
16:15
It
16:15
looked
16:15
like
16:15
Willy
16:16
Wonka's
16:16
chocolate
16:16
factory.
16:17
So
16:17
we're
16:18
taking
16:18
my
16:18
dad
16:18
on
16:18
this
16:18
tour
16:19
and
16:19
my
16:19
dad's
16:19
wide
16:20
eyed.
16:20
He
16:20
can't
16:21
believe
16:21
it.
16:21
Everyone's
16:21
calling
16:22
me
16:22
and
16:22
Tom
16:23
Mr.
16:23
And
16:23
Mrs.
16:23
Bailey,
16:24
which
16:24
is
16:24
very
16:24
weird
16:24
for
16:24
me,
16:24
but
16:25
it
16:25
was
16:25
very
16:25
sweet.
16:26
And
16:26
my
16:27
dad's
16:27
seeing
16:27
all
16:27
this.
16:28
Right
16:28
at
16:28
the
16:28
end
16:29
of
16:29
the
16:29
tour,
16:29
Tom
16:30
turns
16:30
around
16:30
to
16:31
my
16:31
dad
16:31
and
16:31
he
16:32
says,
16:32
andreas,
16:33
do
16:33
you
16:33
remember
16:33
when
16:34
you
16:34
asked
16:34
me
16:35
how
16:35
I
16:35
was
16:35
going
16:35
to
16:35
take
16:35
care
16:36
of
16:36
your
16:36
daughter?
16:37
And
16:37
he
16:37
said
16:37
yes.
16:38
And
16:38
Tom's
16:38
like,
16:39
how
16:39
am
16:39
I
16:39
doing
16:39
now?
16:40
And
16:41
my
16:41
dad
16:41
just
16:41
burst
16:42
into
16:42
tears.
16:43
And
16:43
he
16:43
was
16:44
basically
16:44
like,
16:44
my
16:45
son.
16:45
My
16:45
son.
16:47
And
16:48
since
16:48
then,
16:48
like,
16:49
they've
16:49
had
16:49
an
16:49
amazing
16:50
relationship.
16:50
I
16:50
mean,
16:50
they've
16:51
always
16:51
had
16:51
a
16:51
decent
16:51
relationship,
16:52
but
16:52
that
16:52
was
16:52
kind
16:53
of
16:53
Tom.
16:53
It
16:54
was
16:54
a
16:54
driving
16:54
force
16:54
for
16:55
my
16:55
husband
16:55
to
16:55
prove
16:56
my
16:56
dad
16:56
that
16:57
he
16:57
was
16:57
going
16:57
to
16:57
take
16:57
care
16:58
of
16:58
me.
16:58
And
16:58
it
16:59
was
16:59
a
16:59
beautiful
17:00
way
17:00
of
17:00
me
17:01
having
17:01
that
17:01
final
17:02
bullet
17:02
point
17:03
that
17:03
if
17:04
you
17:04
believe
17:04
in
17:04
something
17:05
so
17:05
strongly
17:05
and
17:06
someone
17:06
in
17:06
your
17:06
life
17:07
also
17:07
believes
17:08
the
17:08
opposing
17:08
thing
17:09
so
17:09
strongly,
17:10
it
17:10
doesn't
17:10
mean
17:11
that
17:11
they're
17:11
right.
17:12
Now
17:13
here's
17:13
the
17:13
tough
17:14
part.
17:14
That's
17:14
a
17:15
great
17:15
story
17:15
because
17:15
Quest
17:16
became
17:16
a
17:16
billion
17:16
dollar
17:17
company.
17:17
What
17:18
if
17:18
it
17:18
didn't?
17:19
What
17:19
if
17:20
Quest
17:21
doesn't
17:21
and
17:21
Tom
17:22
and
17:22
I
17:22
are
17:22
working
17:23
two
17:23
jobs,
17:24
making
17:24
ends
17:25
meet?
17:25
Does
17:26
that
17:26
make
17:26
my
17:26
love
17:27
for
17:27
Tom
17:27
and
17:27
his
17:27
love
17:28
for
17:28
me
17:28
any
17:28
less
17:28
special?
17:29
No.
17:30
I
17:30
would
17:30
be
17:30
just
17:31
as
17:31
happy
17:31
and
17:32
I
17:32
would
17:32
still
17:32
be
17:33
glad
17:33
that
17:33
I
17:33
didn't
17:34
listen
17:34
to
17:34
my
17:34
dad.
17:35
And
17:35
that's
17:36
the
17:36
important
17:36
thing.
17:37
Because
17:37
at
17:37
the
17:38
end
17:38
of
17:38
the
17:38
day,
17:38
when
17:39
I
17:39
think
17:39
about
17:40
if
17:40
evolution
17:41
plays
17:42
its
17:42
course
17:43
correctly,
17:43
my
17:44
dad
17:44
will
17:44
die
17:44
before
17:45
me.
17:46
I
17:46
hate
17:46
the
17:46
thought
17:46
of
17:47
it,
17:47
but
17:47
that's
17:47
what
17:47
nature
17:48
intends.
17:49
If
17:49
that's
17:49
the
17:49
case
17:50
and
17:50
my
17:50
dad
17:50
dies
17:51
before
17:51
me
17:51
and
17:52
I've
17:52
spent
17:52
30
17:52
years
17:53
obeying
17:53
him,
17:54
following
17:54
his
17:55
lead,
17:55
following
17:55
his
17:56
opinion
17:57
and
17:57
he
17:58
dies,
17:59
where
17:59
does
18:00
that
18:00
leave
18:00
me?
18:01
I
18:01
can't
18:01
blame
18:01
my
18:02
dad
18:02
for
18:02
now
18:03
not
18:03
having
18:03
love
18:04
or
18:04
whatever
18:05
the
18:05
scenario
18:05
is.
18:06
So
18:06
I
18:07
approach
18:08
reality
18:09
with
18:09
that.
18:10
I
18:10
show
18:10
people
18:10
grace,
18:11
but
18:11
I
18:11
don't
18:12
let
18:12
people
18:12
cross
18:13
my
18:13
boundaries
18:13
or
18:13
try
18:14
to
18:14
persuade
18:14
my
18:14
boundaries.
18:15
And
18:15
in
18:16
that
18:16
moment,
18:16
I
18:16
had
18:17
finally
18:17
set
18:17
a
18:17
boundary
18:18
that
18:18
I
18:18
was
18:19
gonna
18:19
live
18:19
the
18:19
life
18:19
that
18:20
made
18:20
me
18:20
happy.
18:21
Unapologetically.
18:23
That
18:23
is
18:24
so
18:24
key.
18:24
It's.
18:24
You
18:25
have
18:25
to
18:25
be
18:25
who
18:25
you
18:25
are
18:26
and
18:26
do
18:26
it
18:26
the
18:26
way
18:26
that
18:27
you
18:27
want
18:27
to
18:27
do
18:27
it.
18:28
Like
18:28
you
18:28
were
18:29
saying,
18:29
you
18:29
know,
18:29
Quest
18:29
was
18:30
very
18:30
successful.
18:32
Do
18:32
you
18:32
think?
18:32
Because
18:33
this
18:33
is
18:33
kind
18:33
of
18:33
like
18:33
an
18:34
age
18:34
old
18:34
question
18:34
and
18:35
I
18:35
know
18:35
a
18:35
lot
18:35
of
18:35
people
18:36
sort
18:36
of
18:36
chase
18:37
after
18:37
the
18:37
success
18:38
and
18:38
that'
18:39
Fine,
18:39
that
18:39
can
18:39
be
18:39
one
18:39
of
18:40
the
18:40
forces
18:40
that
18:40
propels
18:41
them.
18:41
But
18:42
do
18:42
you
18:42
think
18:42
that
18:42
money
18:43
buys
18:43
happiness?
18:44
Like,
18:44
do
18:44
you
18:44
think
18:45
that,
18:45
you
18:45
know,
18:46
like,
18:46
what
18:46
is
18:46
your
18:47
thought
18:47
on
18:47
that.
18:47
So
18:48
I
18:48
want
18:48
to
18:48
make
18:49
sure
18:49
that
18:49
I
18:49
answer
18:49
this
18:50
from
18:50
a
18:50
very
18:50
real,
18:50
no
18:51
bullshit
18:51
place.
18:52
Because
18:52
I.
18:52
I'm
18:53
only
18:53
looking
18:53
to
18:53
bring
18:54
value
18:54
to
18:54
people's
18:54
lives.
18:55
Okay.
18:55
If
18:56
you're
18:56
struggling
18:56
emotionally,
18:58
money
18:59
doesn't
18:59
solve
19:00
that.
19:00
But
19:00
of
19:00
course
19:00
it
19:01
makes
19:01
life
19:01
easier.
19:01
It
19:01
takes
19:02
less
19:02
stress.
19:02
I
19:02
don't
19:02
have
19:02
to
19:03
worry
19:03
about
19:03
paying
19:03
my
19:03
bills,
19:04
I
19:04
don't
19:04
have
19:04
to
19:04
worry
19:04
about
19:05
if
19:05
I'm
19:05
going
19:05
to
19:06
eat,
19:06
I
19:06
don't
19:06
have
19:06
to
19:06
worry
19:07
about
19:07
my
19:07
rent.
19:07
All
19:08
of
19:08
that
19:08
is
19:08
real.
19:08
And
19:09
that
19:09
type
19:09
of
19:09
stress,
19:11
very
19:11
emotionally
19:11
damaging
19:12
to
19:12
a
19:12
lot
19:12
of
19:12
people.
19:13
So
19:13
I
19:13
don't
19:13
want
19:13
to
19:13
pretend
19:14
that
19:14
I
19:14
don't
19:14
have
19:14
that
19:15
now.
19:15
But
19:15
I
19:16
know
19:16
what
19:16
it's
19:16
like.
19:17
I've
19:17
collected
19:17
coupons
19:18
before.
19:19
I
19:19
was
19:20
the
19:20
person
19:20
that
19:20
didn't
19:21
have
19:21
any
19:21
money.
19:22
My
19:22
husband
19:22
was
19:22
in
19:22
financial
19:23
college
19:23
debt.
19:24
And
19:24
so
19:24
I
19:24
know
19:24
what
19:25
it
19:25
is
19:25
like.
19:26
So
19:26
on
19:27
a
19:27
daily
19:27
basis,
19:27
of
19:28
course,
19:28
money
19:28
is
19:28
absolutely
19:29
easier.
19:30
It
19:30
doesn't
19:31
solve
19:31
all
19:31
your
19:31
issues,
19:32
it
19:32
doesn't
19:32
solve
19:33
your
19:33
mental
19:33
health,
19:33
it
19:34
doesn't
19:34
solve
19:34
your
19:35
physical
19:35
health.
19:36
So
19:37
on
19:38
building
19:38
Quest,
19:39
I
19:40
had
19:40
a
19:40
dream
19:41
and
19:41
it
19:41
was
19:41
a
19:42
visual
19:42
dream.
19:42
Because
19:42
for
19:42
me,
19:43
it's
19:43
like
19:43
just
19:43
having
19:43
money
19:44
doesn't
19:44
really
19:44
mean
19:44
anything.
19:45
I
19:45
want
19:45
a
19:45
visual
19:45
dream.
19:46
And
19:46
I'm
19:46
a
19:47
90s
19:47
girl.
19:48
Hip
19:48
hop
19:48
through
19:49
and
19:49
fricking
19:49
through.
19:50
We
19:50
love
19:50
that.
19:51
Yes.
19:52
So
19:52
growing
19:53
up
19:53
in
19:53
the
19:53
90s,
19:54
I
19:54
was
19:54
obsessed
19:55
with
19:55
hip
19:55
hop.
19:55
So
19:56
when
19:56
me
19:56
and
19:56
my
19:56
husband
19:57
were
19:57
dirt
19:57
poor
19:57
and
19:58
we're
19:58
building
19:58
quests
19:58
and
19:59
we're
19:59
working
19:59
20
20:00
hour
20:00
days,
20:00
I'm
20:01
pissed
20:01
Cause
20:02
I'm
20:02
like,
20:02
I
20:02
had
20:02
these
20:03
dreams
20:03
of
20:03
being
20:03
in
20:03
movies
20:04
and
20:04
here
20:04
I
20:04
am
20:04
in
20:05
a
20:05
bloody
20:05
hair
20:06
net
20:07
hand
20:07
making
20:07
protein
20:08
bars.
20:08
Like
20:08
this
20:08
wasn't
20:08
the
20:09
freaking
20:09
dream.
20:10
But
20:10
in
20:10
order
20:10
to
20:11
stay
20:11
the
20:11
course,
20:12
I
20:12
had
20:12
to
20:12
have
20:13
an
20:13
outlet.
20:14
So
20:14
me
20:14
and
20:14
my
20:14
husband,
20:15
on
20:15
our
20:15
days
20:16
off
20:16
or
20:16
on
20:16
late
20:16
at
20:17
nights,
20:17
we
20:17
would
20:17
drive
20:18
around
20:18
Beverly
20:18
Hills
20:19
and
20:19
we
20:19
would
20:19
look
20:19
at
20:19
all
20:19
the
20:20
houses
20:20
and
20:20
we
20:20
would
20:21
say
20:21
what
20:21
we
20:21
would
20:22
like.
20:22
When
20:22
Quest
20:22
was
20:23
big
20:23
and
20:24
I
20:24
used
20:24
to
20:24
say,
20:25
I
20:25
want
20:25
a
20:25
house
20:26
as
20:26
a
20:26
waterfall
20:27
and
20:27
I
20:27
want
20:28
a
20:28
bottle
20:28
of
20:28
Dom
20:28
Perignon
20:29
and
20:29
I
20:29
want
20:30
to
20:30
twerk
20:30
in
20:30
front
20:31
of
20:31
my
20:31
hubby
20:32
to
20:32
a
20:32
hip.
20:32
Like
20:33
as
20:33
if
20:33
I
20:33
was
20:33
in
20:33
a
20:33
hip
20:34
hop
20:34
commercial
20:35
or
20:35
in
20:35
a.
20:35
Sorry,
20:35
hip
20:35
hop.
20:36
A
20:36
song.
20:37
And
20:37
so
20:38
no,
20:38
it
20:39
actually
20:39
happens.
20:40
Like
20:40
years
20:40
later,
20:41
we
20:41
sell
20:41
Quest,
20:41
I
20:42
buy
20:42
a
20:42
house,
20:42
it
20:42
has
20:43
a
20:43
waterfall.
20:43
I
20:43
have
20:44
a
20:44
bowl
20:44
of
20:44
Dom
20:44
Perignon
20:45
in
20:45
my
20:45
hat.
20:45
Like
20:46
it's
20:46
un.
20:47
Excuse
20:47
me.
20:47
Unfreaking
20:48
believable
20:49
how
20:49
real
20:50
the
20:50
dream
20:50
became.
20:51
I
20:51
couldn't
20:51
believe
20:52
it.
20:52
I
20:52
took
20:52
a
20:53
swig
20:53
of
20:53
the
20:53
champagne.
20:55
That
20:55
was
20:55
the
20:55
moment
20:56
I
20:56
like
20:56
to
20:56
explain
20:58
was
20:58
the
20:58
moment
20:58
my
20:59
gut
20:59
felt
20:59
like
21:00
it
21:00
erupted.
21:02
Now
21:02
I'd
21:02
had
21:02
health
21:03
issues
21:03
growing
21:03
up,
21:04
I
21:04
wasn't
21:05
good
21:05
to
21:05
my
21:06
body,
21:06
I
21:06
wasn't
21:06
good
21:06
to
21:07
self
21:07
care.
21:07
I
21:08
would
21:08
starve
21:08
myself
21:09
and
21:09
binge
21:10
and
21:10
count
21:10
calories
21:10
and
21:11
run
21:11
on
21:11
the
21:11
treadmill
21:12
because
21:12
I
21:12
thought
21:13
acceptance
21:14
and
21:14
confidence
21:14
came
21:15
from
21:15
looking
21:15
a
21:15
certain
21:16
way.
21:16
So
21:16
that
21:17
gives
21:17
you
21:17
context.
21:18
So
21:18
over
21:18
the
21:18
years
21:18
I
21:19
was
21:19
restrictive
21:19
dieting.
21:20
So
21:20
it
21:21
came
21:21
to
21:21
the
21:21
point
21:21
where
21:22
this
21:22
one
21:22
moment,
21:23
the
21:24
moment
21:24
I
21:24
was
21:24
celebrating
21:25
being
21:25
at
21:26
the
21:26
top
21:26
of
21:26
the
21:26
hill,
21:26
getting
21:27
the
21:27
goal,
21:27
the
21:28
day,
21:28
the
21:28
moment
21:30
that
21:30
was
21:30
the
21:31
day
21:31
my
21:31
gut
21:31
fell
21:32
apart.
21:32
Now
21:33
as
21:33
you
21:33
can
21:33
imagine,
21:33
I
21:34
go,
21:34
I'm
21:34
the
21:34
wealthiest
21:35
I've
21:35
ever
21:35
been
21:35
in
21:35
my
21:36
life,
21:36
but
21:36
I
21:36
can't
21:37
stand
21:37
up.
21:38
That's
21:38
how
21:38
bad
21:38
my
21:38
gut
21:39
was.
21:40
I
21:41
could
21:41
barely
21:41
eat
21:42
anything
21:42
after
21:42
that
21:43
day.
21:43
I
21:43
was
21:43
like,
21:43
oh,
21:43
I'll
21:44
be
21:44
better
21:44
in
21:44
a
21:44
week,
21:44
I'll
21:45
be
21:45
better
21:45
in
21:45
two
21:45
weeks.
21:46
For
21:46
a
21:47
year
21:47
I
21:48
could
21:48
barely
21:48
eat
21:49
anything.
21:51
I
21:51
was
21:52
at
21:52
least
21:52
20
21:52
pounds
21:53
lighter
21:53
than
21:53
I
21:53
was
21:53
now.
21:54
I
21:54
put
21:55
some
21:55
pepper
21:55
on
21:55
my
21:56
food.
21:56
My
21:56
husband
21:56
almost
21:56
rushed
21:57
me
21:57
to
21:57
the
21:57
hospital.
21:58
Like
21:58
I,
21:59
I
21:59
was
22:00
slowly
22:00
dying
22:00
from
22:01
malnutrition
22:02
because
22:02
I
22:02
couldn't
22:02
eat
22:02
that.
22:03
Like
22:03
that's
22:03
how
22:03
bad
22:04
it
22:04
is.
22:04
And
22:04
I'm
22:04
not
22:04
exaggerating
22:05
and
22:05
it
22:05
wasn't.
22:06
Like
22:06
a
22:06
thing
22:06
of
22:06
where
22:06
you
22:07
were
22:07
trying
22:07
not
22:07
to
22:07
eat,
22:07
you
22:08
physically
22:08
could
22:08
not
22:09
eat.
22:09
Physically
22:10
couldn't
22:10
eat.
22:11
I
22:11
was
22:11
in
22:11
so
22:12
much
22:12
agony
22:13
every
22:13
time
22:14
I
22:14
ate.
22:14
I
22:15
had
22:15
to
22:15
eat
22:15
such
22:16
little
22:16
food
22:17
and
22:17
I
22:18
would
22:18
only
22:18
eat
22:18
meat
22:19
because
22:19
I
22:19
could
22:19
only
22:20
digest
22:20
beef
22:21
and
22:22
coconut
22:22
oil.
22:22
Like
22:23
it
22:23
was
22:23
so
22:23
bad,
22:24
so
22:24
bad.
22:25
So
22:25
now
22:25
going
22:26
back
22:26
to
22:26
your
22:26
question,
22:27
you
22:27
can
22:27
imagine
22:28
I'm
22:28
the
22:29
most
22:29
financially
22:30
successful
22:30
I've
22:30
ever
22:30
been
22:31
and
22:31
yet
22:31
my
22:32
body
22:32
is
22:32
so
22:32
broken
22:34
and
22:34
money
22:34
can't
22:35
fix
22:35
it.
22:36
And
22:36
what
22:37
ended
22:37
up
22:37
being
22:37
a
22:37
part
22:38
of
22:38
the
22:38
contribution
22:38
of
22:39
what
22:39
broke
22:39
it
22:39
is
22:39
building
22:40
quest
22:40
is
22:41
me
22:41
ignoring
22:41
my
22:41
self
22:42
care
22:42
is
22:42
me
22:42
ignoring
22:43
my
22:43
body,
22:43
is
22:43
me
22:44
thinking
22:44
that
22:44
business
22:44
came
22:45
first.
22:45
So
22:46
here
22:46
I
22:46
am,
22:46
I've
22:46
built
22:47
a
22:47
billion
22:47
dollar
22:47
company,
22:48
but
22:48
under
22:48
what
22:49
conditions?
22:50
Under
22:50
what
22:50
circumstances?
22:51
Under
22:51
what,
22:52
as
22:52
a
22:53
fault
22:53
of
22:54
sacrificing
22:54
my
22:55
health
22:55
so
22:56
that
22:56
if
22:56
I
22:57
can,
22:57
like
22:57
I
22:57
don't
22:57
actually
22:58
believe
22:58
in
22:58
God
22:58
now,
22:58
but
22:59
if
22:59
I
22:59
do
22:59
believe
23:00
there's
23:00
being
23:00
out
23:01
there
23:01
or
23:01
you
23:01
know,
23:02
things
23:02
happen
23:02
for
23:02
a
23:03
reason
23:03
that
23:03
happened
23:04
on
23:04
my
23:04
wealthiest
23:05
day
23:05
on
23:05
purpose.
23:06
Because
23:07
I
23:07
don't
23:07
see
23:07
money
23:08
the
23:08
way
23:08
people
23:09
see
23:09
money.
23:10
Because
23:10
I
23:11
realized
23:11
I
23:12
tried
23:12
to
23:12
throw
23:12
money
23:12
at
23:13
it.
23:14
I,
23:14
I
23:14
had
23:15
the
23:15
money
23:15
now,
23:15
right?
23:16
I
23:16
tried,
23:16
I
23:16
went
23:16
to
23:16
Beverly
23:17
Hills,
23:17
I
23:17
was
23:17
like,
23:17
give
23:18
me
23:18
the
23:18
best
23:18
doctors
23:18
in
23:19
the
23:19
world,
23:19
they
23:20
knew
23:20
jack
23:20
shit
23:21
they
23:21
were
23:21
making
23:22
me
23:22
bloody
23:22
worse.
23:24
So
23:24
all
23:25
of
23:25
that
23:25
thinking
23:26
money
23:26
was
23:26
going
23:26
to
23:26
solve
23:27
everything,
23:29
it
23:29
did
23:29
solve
23:29
me
23:30
not
23:30
having
23:30
to
23:30
worry
23:30
about
23:30
my
23:31
mortgage.
23:32
But
23:32
I
23:32
couldn't
23:32
bloody
23:33
stand
23:33
up.
23:33
The
23:34
intimacy
23:35
with
23:35
my
23:35
husband
23:36
was
23:36
out
23:36
the
23:37
window
23:37
because
23:37
I
23:37
could
23:37
barely
23:38
stand
23:38
up,
23:38
let
23:38
alone
23:39
have
23:39
sex.
23:39
Like
23:40
it
23:40
was
23:40
just.
23:40
So
23:41
when
23:41
I
23:41
really
23:41
do
23:42
say
23:42
money
23:42
doesn't
23:43
buy
23:43
happiness,
23:43
I
23:44
really
23:44
have
23:44
lived
23:45
that.
23:46
I
23:46
have
23:46
seen
23:46
the
23:47
extent
23:47
of
23:47
it.
23:48
But
23:48
I
23:48
don't
23:48
want
23:49
to
23:49
pretend
23:50
money
23:50
isn't
23:50
a
23:50
facilitator
23:51
to
23:52
certain
23:52
dreams.
23:53
So
23:53
take
23:54
my
23:54
YouTube
23:54
channel,
23:54
my
23:55
podcast.
23:56
I
23:56
have
23:57
lost
23:57
a
23:57
lot
23:57
of
23:57
money
23:58
building
23:58
that.
23:59
But
24:00
it's
24:00
for.
24:00
It's
24:01
been
24:01
a
24:01
facilitator
24:02
to
24:02
my
24:02
dreams.
24:03
So
24:03
there's
24:04
this
24:04
weird
24:05
juxtaposition
24:06
between,
24:06
I'm
24:07
so
24:07
proud.
24:07
I
24:07
love
24:08
being
24:08
wealthy
24:09
because
24:09
I'm
24:09
able
24:09
to
24:09
use
24:09
it
24:10
for
24:10
good.
24:10
And
24:10
at
24:10
the
24:11
same
24:11
time
24:11
I
24:12
try
24:12
not
24:12
to
24:12
beat
24:12
myself
24:13
up
24:13
because
24:13
in
24:13
my
24:14
pursuit
24:14
of
24:14
wealth
24:14
and
24:15
success,
24:15
I
24:15
broke
24:15
my
24:16
body.
24:17
So
24:17
it
24:17
is
24:17
like
24:18
a
24:18
double
24:18
edged
24:18
sword
24:18
in
24:19
that
24:19
way,
24:19
you
24:19
know,
24:20
because
24:20
it
24:20
is
24:20
nice
24:20
that
24:20
you
24:20
have
24:21
it,
24:21
but
24:21
there
24:22
is
24:22
a
24:22
price
24:22
almost,
24:23
you
24:23
know,
24:23
and
24:24
also,
24:24
entrepreneurialship
24:25
is
24:25
not
24:26
for
24:26
the
24:26
faint
24:26
of
24:26
heart,
24:27
especially
24:27
when
24:28
you're
24:28
working
24:28
with
24:28
your
24:29
husband,
24:29
which
24:30
is
24:30
similar
24:31
with
24:31
my
24:31
situation
24:32
with
24:32
my
24:32
husband.
24:33
You
24:33
know,
24:33
we're
24:33
both
24:33
entrepreneurs.
24:34
Yes.
24:35
Different
24:35
businesses,
24:36
but
24:36
you
24:37
know,
24:37
we
24:37
dovetail
24:37
a
24:38
lot
24:38
and
24:38
there's
24:38
some
24:38
crossover.
24:39
And
24:40
you
24:40
know,
24:40
it
24:40
is
24:41
one
24:41
of
24:41
those
24:41
things
24:42
where
24:42
when
24:42
you're
24:42
putting
24:43
in
24:43
the
24:43
hours
24:43
and
24:44
you
24:44
both
24:44
are
24:44
working
24:44
so
24:45
hard
24:45
and
24:45
like
24:46
doing
24:46
all
24:46
the
24:46
things,
24:47
it
24:47
can
24:47
take
24:47
a
24:47
tol
24:48
on
24:48
the,
24:48
the
24:49
marriage
24:49
and
24:49
the
24:49
relationship.
24:50
So
24:51
during
24:51
that
24:51
time
24:52
when
24:52
you
24:52
guys
24:52
were
24:52
building
24:53
the
24:53
company
24:53
and
24:54
even
24:55
now
24:55
and
24:55
working
24:56
together,
24:56
how
24:57
do
24:57
you
24:58
keep
24:58
that
24:58
connection
24:59
and
24:59
how
24:59
do
24:59
you
25:00
keep
25:00
that
25:00
balance?
25:00
And
25:01
you
25:01
know
25:01
where.
25:02
Because
25:02
it's
25:03
very
25:03
easy
25:03
to
25:03
fall
25:03
into.
25:04
Well,
25:04
what
25:04
I'm
25:04
going
25:04
through
25:05
is
25:05
more
25:05
important
25:06
than
25:06
what
25:06
you're
25:06
going
25:07
through.
25:07
There's
25:07
a
25:07
lot
25:08
of,
25:08
you
25:08
know,
25:08
everything
25:08
going
25:09
on.
25:09
It's
25:09
like.
25:09
But
25:10
taking
25:10
the
25:10
time
25:10
to
25:10
really
25:11
listen
25:11
to
25:11
what
25:12
the
25:12
other
25:12
person's
25:12
going
25:12
through,
25:13
I
25:13
think
25:13
that's
25:14
the
25:14
challenge.
25:14
When
25:14
you're
25:14
so
25:15
overloaded,
25:15
what
25:16
do
25:16
you
25:16
think
25:16
about
25:16
that?
25:16
Oh
25:17
my
25:17
God.
25:17
This
25:17
is
25:17
one
25:17
of
25:17
my
25:17
favorite
25:18
subjects.
25:18
So
25:19
here's
25:19
the
25:19
thing.
25:20
I
25:20
have
25:21
over
25:21
the
25:21
years
25:22
learned
25:22
so
25:22
much
25:23
about
25:23
business
25:23
that
25:24
I
25:24
apply
25:24
it
25:24
very
25:25
much
25:25
to
25:25
my
25:25
relationship
25:26
and
25:26
vice
25:26
versa.
25:27
So
25:27
I
25:27
go,
25:27
what
25:28
is
25:28
your
25:28
goal?
25:28
Like,
25:29
what's
25:29
your
25:29
goal
25:29
in
25:29
your
25:29
relationship?
25:31
Actually
25:31
state
25:32
that
25:32
together
25:33
and
25:33
agree
25:33
that
25:34
you're
25:34
aligned
25:34
that
25:34
this
25:34
is
25:35
the
25:35
goal.
25:35
So
25:35
our
25:36
goal
25:36
is
25:37
to
25:37
live
25:37
the
25:37
rest
25:37
of
25:38
our
25:38
lives
25:39
married
25:39
Happily
25:40
with
25:40
each
25:41
other.
25:41
It's
25:42
a
25:42
simple
25:42
goal.
25:42
It's
25:42
not
25:43
like
25:43
a
25:43
dramatic
25:43
thing.
25:44
Okay.
25:44
Happily.
25:45
I
25:45
had
25:45
to
25:46
make
25:46
sure
25:46
I
25:46
said
25:46
that
25:47
for
25:47
the
25:47
rest
25:47
of
25:47
our
25:47
lives.
25:48
Okay,
25:48
now
25:48
you've
25:49
got
25:49
the
25:49
goal.
25:49
What
25:49
does
25:49
that
25:50
mean?
25:50
Like,
25:50
what's
25:51
the
25:51
strategies
25:52
you're
25:52
going
25:52
to
25:52
do
25:52
in
25:53
order
25:53
to
25:53
make
25:53
sure
25:54
that
25:54
you
25:54
hit
25:54
that
25:54
goal?
25:55
And
25:55
so
25:56
for
25:56
me
25:56
and
25:56
Tom,
25:57
it
25:57
is.
25:57
We've
25:57
assessed
25:58
order
25:58
priority.
25:59
Now
26:00
there's
26:00
two
26:00
different
26:00
orders
26:01
of
26:01
priority.
26:01
Order
26:02
priority
26:02
from
26:03
a.
26:03
If
26:03
one
26:04
of
26:04
them
26:04
comes
26:04
into
26:04
conflict,
26:05
this
26:05
is
26:06
the
26:06
one
26:06
I
26:06
will
26:06
choose.
26:07
And
26:07
the
26:07
other
26:07
one
26:08
is
26:08
order
26:08
priority,
26:09
where
26:09
my
26:09
time
26:09
goes.
26:10
So
26:10
my
26:11
order
26:11
priority
26:11
in
26:12
life
26:12
is
26:12
my
26:13
husband.
26:13
And
26:13
my
26:13
marriage
26:13
is
26:14
first.
26:14
Business
26:15
is
26:15
easily
26:16
after
26:16
that.
26:17
It
26:17
doesn't
26:18
even
26:18
compete.
26:19
So
26:19
if
26:19
there
26:19
was
26:20
an
26:20
emergency
26:20
between
26:21
my
26:21
business
26:21
and
26:21
my
26:22
husband,
26:22
I
26:23
wouldn't
26:23
even
26:23
hesitate.
26:24
I
26:24
would
26:24
absolutely
26:25
burn
26:25
my
26:25
business
26:26
to
26:26
the
26:26
ground.
26:26
And
26:26
I
26:26
would
26:26
show
26:27
up
26:27
for
26:27
my
26:27
husband.
26:28
He
26:28
would
26:28
do
26:29
the
26:29
same.
26:29
We've
26:29
agreed
26:30
that
26:30
as
26:30
a
26:30
married
26:30
couple
26:31
in
26:31
business
26:31
that
26:32
our
26:32
relationship
26:32
is
26:33
the
26:33
we
26:33
will.
26:34
We've
26:34
even
26:34
used
26:34
those
26:34
words.
26:35
Are
26:35
we
26:35
willing
26:36
to
26:36
burn
26:37
the
26:37
company
26:37
to
26:37
the
26:37
ground
26:38
to
26:38
save
26:38
our
26:38
marriage
26:39
or
26:39
to
26:39
keep
26:40
it
26:40
healthy?
26:40
And
26:40
we've
26:41
both
26:41
said
26:41
yes.
26:42
Now
26:42
we're
26:42
aligned.
26:43
Okay,
26:43
now
26:43
the
26:43
time
26:44
thing.
26:44
On
26:44
a
26:44
priority
26:45
level,
26:45
I
26:46
work
26:47
with
26:47
my
26:47
husband.
26:47
He's
26:47
been
26:48
my
26:48
business
26:48
partner
26:48
for
26:48
a
26:49
long
26:49
time.
26:49
Now
26:50
on
26:50
a
26:50
day
26:50
to
26:51
day,
26:51
we
26:51
spend
26:51
more
26:52
time
26:52
as
26:52
business
26:52
partners
26:53
that
26:53
we
26:53
do
26:53
husband
26:53
and
26:54
wife.
26:55
So
26:55
from
26:55
a
26:55
priority
26:56
of
26:56
time,
26:57
we've
26:57
agreed
26:58
in
26:58
order
26:58
to
26:58
grow
26:59
our
26:59
businesses
27:00
and
27:00
get
27:00
to
27:00
the
27:00
goal
27:01
of
27:01
which
27:01
you
27:01
know,
27:02
where
27:02
we
27:02
want
27:02
to
27:02
go
27:03
from
27:03
a
27:03
metric
27:03
standpoint
27:04
and
27:04
data
27:04
standpoint,
27:05
we
27:05
need
27:05
to
27:06
put
27:06
more
27:06
time
27:06
into
27:07
the
27:07
business
27:07
than
27:07
our
27:07
personal
27:08
lives.
27:09
Do
27:09
we
27:09
agree
27:09
on
27:09
that?
27:09
Yes.
27:10
Amazing.
27:11
What
27:11
does
27:11
that
27:11
look
27:12
like?
27:12
We
27:12
sat
27:12
down
27:13
and
27:13
we
27:13
went
27:13
over
27:13
calendar
27:14
and
27:14
so
27:15
we
27:15
said
27:15
okay,
27:15
from
27:15
nine
27:16
during
27:16
the
27:17
week.
27:17
My
27:17
husband
27:18
works
27:18
so
27:18
much,
27:19
he's
27:19
like,
27:19
I
27:19
won't
27:20
be
27:20
sitting
27:20
with
27:20
you
27:20
for
27:20
dinner.
27:21
If
27:21
I
27:21
cross
27:22
you
27:22
in,
27:22
you
27:22
know,
27:22
in
27:23
the
27:23
hallway
27:23
or
27:23
at
27:23
your
27:23
office,
27:24
we'll
27:24
obviously
27:25
say
27:25
hi,
27:25
but
27:26
I
27:26
will
27:26
not
27:26
be
27:27
sitting
27:27
with
27:27
you
27:27
every
27:28
night
27:28
for
27:28
dinner.
27:28
And
27:28
I
27:28
said,
27:29
cool,
27:29
I'm
27:29
very
27:29
okay
27:29
with
27:30
that.
27:30
But
27:31
what
27:31
I
27:31
do
27:31
need
27:32
in
27:32
return
27:32
then
27:33
is
27:33
I
27:33
need
27:34
Saturdays
27:34
as
27:35
date
27:35
day.
27:36
And
27:36
that
27:36
means
27:36
that
27:36
we
27:36
get
27:37
to
27:37
spend
27:37
the
27:37
day
27:37
together.
27:38
And
27:38
so
27:38
we
27:38
just
27:39
came
27:39
up
27:39
with
27:39
a
27:39
logistic
27:40
agreement
27:41
of
27:41
how
27:41
we
27:41
spend
27:42
our
27:42
time.
27:43
And
27:43
then
27:43
the
27:44
final
27:44
piece
27:44
is
27:44
the
27:45
communication.
27:46
How
27:47
do
27:47
we
27:47
make
27:47
sure
27:48
that
27:48
we're
27:48
communicating
27:49
in
27:49
a
27:49
language
27:49
that
27:50
you
27:50
hear
27:50
and
27:51
understand?
27:52
Because
27:52
I
27:52
think
27:52
a
27:53
lot
27:53
of
27:53
the
27:53
time
27:53
we
27:53
think
27:53
we're
27:54
saying
27:54
something.
27:55
So
27:55
if
27:55
I
27:55
say
27:55
to
27:55
you,
27:56
you
27:56
know
27:56
what,
27:56
I'm
27:56
really
27:56
tired.
27:58
If
27:58
you
27:58
have,
27:59
I'm
27:59
going
27:59
to
28:00
make
28:00
this
28:00
scenario
28:00
really
28:00
hot.
28:01
If
28:01
you've
28:02
been
28:02
suffering
28:03
with
28:03
cancer
28:04
and
28:04
you've
28:04
been
28:05
doing
28:05
chemo,
28:06
tired,
28:06
to
28:07
you
28:07
is
28:07
very
28:07
different
28:08
than
28:08
when
28:08
I
28:08
say
28:08
I'm
28:09
tired.
28:09
I
28:10
mean,
28:10
I
28:10
got
28:10
seven
28:10
hours
28:11
sleep
28:11
instead
28:11
of
28:11
nine
28:12
hours.
28:12
But
28:12
if
28:12
I
28:13
say
28:13
it
28:13
to
28:13
you,
28:13
your
28:13
perception
28:14
of
28:15
tiredness
28:16
is
28:16
completely
28:17
different.
28:18
So
28:18
we
28:18
call
28:19
that
28:19
frame
28:20
of
28:20
reference.
28:22
So
28:22
my
28:22
frame
28:22
of
28:23
reference
28:23
is
28:23
going
28:23
to
28:23
be
28:23
different
28:24
to
28:24
your
28:24
frame
28:24
of
28:24
reference.
28:25
So
28:25
if
28:25
I
28:25
use
28:25
a
28:25
word
28:26
tired,
28:26
it's
28:26
going
28:26
to
28:26
land
28:27
on
28:27
you
28:27
differently
28:27
than
28:28
it
28:28
lands
28:28
on
28:28
me.
28:29
So
28:29
me
28:29
and
28:29
my
28:29
husband
28:30
go,
28:30
let's
28:31
come
28:31
up
28:31
with
28:31
a
28:31
dictionary
28:33
of
28:33
what
28:34
we
28:34
mean
28:34
when
28:34
we
28:35
say
28:35
this
28:35
word
28:35
so
28:36
that
28:36
our
28:36
frame
28:36
of
28:37
reference
28:37
is
28:37
exactly
28:38
the
28:38
same.
28:39
So,
28:39
for
28:39
instance,
28:40
it
28:40
is.
28:42
One
28:42
of
28:42
the
28:42
words
28:42
we
28:43
have
28:43
is
28:43
important.
28:45
Okay,
28:45
what
28:46
does
28:46
that
28:46
word
28:47
mean?
28:47
We've
28:48
agreed
28:49
as
28:49
a
28:49
dictionary
28:50
definition
28:50
that
28:50
if
28:51
I
28:51
say
28:51
important,
28:51
it
28:52
means
28:52
even
28:53
if
28:54
you're
28:54
interviewing
28:56
the
28:56
President
28:56
of
28:56
the
28:57
United
28:57
States
28:57
of
28:58
America
28:58
and
28:59
I
28:59
say
28:59
it's
28:59
important,
29:00
you
29:00
drop
29:01
what
29:01
you're
29:01
doing
29:01
and
29:02
you
29:02
come
29:02
to
29:02
me.
29:02
Do
29:03
we
29:03
agree
29:03
on
29:03
that?
29:04
Yes.
29:05
Okay,
29:05
so
29:06
now
29:06
we
29:06
know.
29:06
If
29:06
I
29:06
say
29:07
important
29:07
and
29:07
we
29:07
don't
29:07
abuse
29:08
it,
29:08
that's
29:08
another
29:08
thing.
29:09
You
29:09
can't
29:09
abuse
29:09
it.
29:10
If
29:10
you
29:10
say
29:10
that
29:10
100
29:10
times
29:11
in
29:11
a
29:11
year,
29:11
it's
29:11
like,
29:11
well,
29:12
now
29:12
it's
29:12
not
29:12
important.
29:13
So
29:13
just
29:13
to
29:13
give
29:13
you
29:13
context,
29:14
I
29:14
think
29:14
this
29:15
year
29:15
we're
29:15
in
29:15
April.
29:17
Sorry,
29:17
May.
29:18
I've
29:18
used
29:18
it.
29:20
I
29:20
haven't
29:20
even
29:20
used
29:20
it
29:21
this
29:21
year,
29:21
actually.
29:22
So
29:22
I
29:22
will
29:23
use
29:23
it
29:23
maybe
29:23
twice
29:23
in
29:24
a
29:24
year.
29:24
Okay.
29:24
You
29:25
know
29:25
we
29:26
mean
29:26
it.
29:26
So
29:26
that's
29:26
an
29:27
agreement
29:27
that
29:27
we've
29:27
come
29:27
to.
29:28
There's
29:28
no
29:28
miscommunication.
29:29
There's
29:29
no
29:29
misunderstanding.
29:30
We
29:30
both
29:30
know
29:31
exactly
29:31
what
29:31
this
29:31
means.
29:32
The
29:32
second
29:33
other
29:33
thing
29:33
that
29:33
we
29:33
do
29:34
is
29:36
dis.
29:37
Interrupting
29:38
each
29:38
other.
29:38
Okay,
29:39
well,
29:39
to
29:39
your
29:39
point,
29:39
what
29:40
if
29:40
he
29:40
wants
29:40
something
29:40
and
29:41
I
29:41
don't
29:41
and
29:41
we've
29:41
got
29:41
different
29:42
schedules
29:42
and
29:42
things
29:43
like
29:43
that?
29:43
I
29:44
say
29:44
to
29:44
him,
29:45
I.
29:45
If
29:45
I
29:46
call
29:46
you
29:46
once,
29:46
you
29:47
can
29:47
ignore
29:47
me.
29:47
If
29:47
I
29:48
call
29:48
you
29:48
twice,
29:48
you
29:49
can
29:49
ignore
29:49
me.
29:49
But
29:50
do
29:50
we
29:50
agree
29:50
that
29:50
if
29:50
we
29:51
call
29:51
each
29:51
other
29:51
on
29:51
the
29:52
third
29:52
time,
29:52
it
29:52
means
29:53
I
29:53
again,
29:53
I
29:54
care
29:54
what
29:54
you're
29:54
doing.
29:54
You
29:54
have
29:54
to
29:55
drop
29:55
everything.
29:55
Yes,
29:56
we
29:56
agree.
29:56
Cool.
29:57
Now
29:57
I
29:57
know
29:57
I
29:57
can
29:58
reach
29:58
him
29:58
at
29:58
any
29:59
point,
29:59
at
29:59
any
29:59
time.
30:00
All
30:00
I
30:00
have
30:00
to
30:00
do
30:00
is
30:00
call
30:00
him
30:01
three
30:01
times
30:01
and
30:02
he
30:02
will
30:02
answer.
30:03
And
30:03
then
30:03
the
30:03
final
30:04
piece
30:04
is,
30:04
he
30:05
works
30:05
way
30:05
more
30:06
than
30:06
I
30:06
do.
30:06
And
30:07
I
30:07
think
30:07
when
30:07
you're
30:08
an
30:08
entrepreneur,
30:09
you
30:10
need
30:10
to
30:10
run
30:10
your
30:11
business
30:12
based
30:12
on
30:12
your
30:12
energy,
30:13
your
30:13
goals
30:14
and
30:14
your
30:14
dreams
30:14
and
30:14
what
30:15
you're
30:15
willing
30:15
to
30:15
do.
30:16
My
30:16
husband's
30:16
way.
30:17
Way
30:17
more
30:17
willing
30:18
to
30:18
do
30:18
a
30:18
lot
30:18
more
30:18
than
30:18
I
30:18
am.
30:20
So
30:20
how
30:20
do
30:20
you
30:20
navigate
30:21
different
30:22
behavior?
30:22
Like,
30:23
you
30:23
and
30:23
your
30:23
husband,
30:23
do
30:23
you
30:23
guys
30:24
have
30:24
the
30:24
same
30:24
schedule?
30:24
We
30:25
have
30:25
totally
30:26
different
30:26
schedules.
30:26
Like,
30:26
he's
30:27
much
30:27
more
30:27
of
30:28
a
30:28
get
30:28
up
30:28
at
30:28
5am,
30:29
start
30:29
working
30:30
right
30:30
away,
30:30
you
30:31
know,
30:31
get
30:31
down.
30:32
And
30:32
I'd
30:32
rather
30:33
maybe
30:33
start
30:33
a
30:34
little
30:34
bit
30:34
later
30:35
than
30:35
5am
30:36
and
30:36
work,
30:37
you
30:37
know,
30:37
later
30:37
into
30:38
the
30:38
night.
30:38
And,
30:38
you
30:39
know,
30:39
I'm
30:39
more
30:39
of
30:39
like
30:39
a
30:39
night
30:40
person.
30:40
So
30:41
it's,
30:41
you
30:41
know,
30:41
we
30:41
have
30:41
different
30:42
schedules.
30:43
And
30:43
then
30:43
when
30:43
one's
30:44
on
30:44
a
30:44
call,
30:44
then
30:44
the
30:44
other
30:45
one's
30:45
on
30:45
a
30:45
call
30:45
and
30:45
make
30:45
maybe,
30:46
you
30:46
know,
30:46
those
30:47
times
30:47
overlap.
30:47
It's
30:48
just
30:48
there's
30:48
a
30:48
lot
30:48
going
30:49
on
30:49
all
30:49
the
30:50
time.
30:50
So
30:50
it
30:50
gets
30:51
hard,
30:51
you
30:51
know.
30:52
And
30:52
I
30:52
don't
30:52
know
30:52
if
30:52
you
30:52
find
30:53
this,
30:53
but
30:53
I
30:53
have
30:53
guilt.
30:54
Like
30:54
if
30:54
I
30:54
see
30:54
my
30:54
husband
30:55
working
30:55
and
30:55
I'm
30:55
not,
30:56
I.
30:56
Guilt.
30:57
I
30:57
was
30:57
like,
30:57
oh,
30:57
God,
30:57
should
30:57
I
30:58
be
30:58
work?
30:58
That
30:59
was
30:59
part
30:59
of
30:59
what
31:00
led
31:00
me
31:01
to
31:01
having
31:01
such
31:01
bad
31:02
gut
31:02
issues.
31:02
So
31:03
because
31:03
of
31:03
my
31:03
health,
31:04
it
31:04
became
31:05
very
31:05
clear
31:06
to
31:06
me
31:06
I
31:06
had
31:06
to
31:06
put
31:07
my
31:07
health
31:07
first.
31:08
And
31:08
so
31:09
as
31:09
we
31:09
start
31:09
to
31:10
navigate
31:10
working
31:11
hours,
31:11
I
31:12
realized
31:12
I
31:12
can't
31:13
work
31:13
as
31:13
hard
31:13
as
31:13
I
31:13
used
31:14
to.
31:14
I
31:14
don't
31:14
want
31:14
to.
31:15
I
31:15
don't
31:15
find
31:15
the
31:15
pleasure
31:16
in
31:16
it
31:16
anymore.
31:16
I
31:16
was
31:16
doing,
31:17
I
31:17
mean,
31:17
18
31:18
hours
31:18
in
31:18
a
31:18
day
31:18
was
31:18
an
31:19
easy
31:19
day.
31:19
Now
31:19
I
31:19
do
31:20
12.
31:20
It's
31:20
like,
31:20
what?
31:21
You
31:21
know,
31:21
like,
31:22
I'm
31:22
like,
31:22
okay,
31:22
12.
31:22
I
31:22
can
31:23
manage
31:23
12.
31:23
I
31:23
enjoy.
31:24
But
31:24
how
31:24
do
31:24
I
31:24
make
31:25
sure
31:25
that
31:25
I
31:25
don't
31:25
feel
31:25
guilty?
31:26
And
31:26
how
31:26
do
31:26
I
31:27
protect
31:27
my
31:27
peace
31:27
when
31:27
my
31:28
husband's
31:28
working?
31:29
Especially
31:29
if
31:29
you
31:29
work
31:30
from
31:30
home.
31:31
And
31:31
so
31:31
he
31:32
would
31:32
come
31:32
in,
31:32
I
31:32
would
31:33
be
31:33
off
31:33
work,
31:33
I'd
31:34
be
31:34
trying
31:34
to
31:34
get
31:34
peaceful.
31:35
I'd
31:35
be
31:35
trying
31:35
to,
31:35
like,
31:36
unwind.
31:36
And
31:36
he
31:36
would
31:37
walk
31:37
in
31:37
with
31:37
a
31:37
business
31:37
problem.
31:38
Because
31:38
we
31:39
work
31:39
from
31:39
home,
31:39
he
31:39
just
31:39
walks
31:40
in
31:40
a
31:40
room.
31:41
So
31:41
again,
31:41
I
31:42
go
31:42
to.
31:42
This
31:42
doesn't
31:42
serve
31:43
us.
31:43
Us.
31:43
It's
31:43
getting
31:44
like.
31:44
It's
31:45
really
31:45
now
31:45
getting
31:45
in
31:45
the
31:45
way
31:45
of
31:46
our
31:46
relationship
31:46
because
31:46
I
31:47
don't
31:47
know
31:47
if
31:47
you're
31:47
about
31:47
to
31:47
come
31:48
to
31:48
me
31:48
with
31:48
work
31:48
or
31:49
personal.
31:49
And
31:49
so
31:49
I
31:50
get
31:50
hesitant
31:50
now
31:50
when
31:51
you
31:51
walk
31:51
towards
31:51
me.
31:51
That's
31:52
horrible
31:52
as
31:52
a
31:53
wife
31:53
to
31:53
get
31:53
hesitant.
31:54
Your
31:54
husband's
31:54
walking
31:55
towards
31:55
you.
31:56
Yeah.
31:56
Know
31:56
what
31:57
to
31:57
take.
31:57
You
31:57
know
31:57
what's
31:57
coming.
31:58
You
31:58
don't
31:58
want
31:58
to
31:58
be
31:58
like
31:58
that.
31:59
Right.
31:59
You
31:59
want
31:59
to
31:59
be
31:59
like,
31:59
baby,
32:00
every
32:00
time
32:01
it
32:01
walks
32:01
towards
32:01
you.
32:02
Right.
32:02
So
32:03
I
32:03
was
32:03
like,
32:03
okay,
32:04
this
32:04
doesn't
32:04
serve
32:04
us.
32:05
This
32:05
is.
32:05
Now,
32:05
again,
32:06
I
32:06
kind
32:06
of
32:06
have
32:06
like
32:07
the
32:07
orange
32:07
flag.
32:07
Okay,
32:08
this
32:08
is
32:08
an
32:08
orange
32:08
flag,
32:08
which
32:09
means
32:09
that
32:09
we
32:09
have
32:09
to
32:09
come
32:09
up
32:10
with
32:10
a
32:10
strategy
32:11
to
32:11
get
32:11
around
32:11
it.
32:12
So
32:12
I
32:12
said,
32:13
okay,
32:14
what
32:14
ways
32:15
can
32:15
I
32:15
indicate
32:16
to
32:16
my
32:16
husband
32:16
that
32:16
I'm
32:17
not
32:17
working
32:17
because
32:17
it's
32:18
really
32:18
him
32:18
coming
32:18
to
32:18
me
32:19
with
32:19
business
32:19
questions
32:19
when
32:20
I'm
32:20
in
32:20
chill
32:20
mode?
32:21
So
32:21
I
32:21
was
32:21
like,
32:21
what
32:22
ways
32:22
can
32:22
I
32:22
indicate
32:22
to
32:23
him
32:23
without
32:23
me
32:23
having
32:23
to
32:24
say
32:24
it,
32:24
without
32:24
him
32:24
disturbing
32:25
my
32:25
piece?
32:25
And
32:25
I
32:26
realized,
32:26
have
32:26
you
32:26
ever
32:26
been
32:26
to
32:26
a
32:27
Brazilian
32:27
restaurant?
32:28
Yes.
32:28
You
32:28
know,
32:28
they've
32:28
got
32:29
those
32:29
little
32:29
things
32:29
that's
32:29
like
32:30
more
32:30
meat
32:30
or
32:30
no
32:31
meat.
32:31
Yes.
32:33
So
32:34
I
32:34
was
32:34
like,
32:34
oh,
32:34
what
32:35
if
32:35
I
32:35
have
32:35
some
32:35
sort
32:36
of
32:37
logo?
32:37
Or
32:38
in
32:38
like
32:38
a
32:39
flag,
32:39
if
32:39
you
32:40
will.
32:40
That
32:40
told
32:41
him
32:41
I
32:41
was
32:41
no
32:41
longer
32:42
working.
32:43
And
32:43
so
32:43
I
32:43
just
32:44
literally
32:44
looked
32:44
around
32:44
my
32:45
room
32:45
and
32:45
I
32:45
saw
32:46
a
32:46
lamp.
32:46
And
32:46
I
32:46
was
32:46
like,
32:46
ah,
32:47
all
32:47
right,
32:48
how
32:48
about
32:48
this,
32:48
babe?
32:49
If
32:49
you
32:49
walk
32:49
in
32:50
the
32:50
room
32:50
and
32:50
the
32:50
lamp
32:51
is
32:51
on,
32:51
it
32:52
means
32:52
that
32:52
I'm
32:52
in
32:52
relaxation
32:53
mode.
32:54
If
32:54
you
32:54
walk
32:54
in,
32:54
the
32:54
lamp
32:55
is
32:55
off.
32:55
It
32:55
means
32:55
you
32:55
can
32:56
talk
32:56
to
32:56
me
32:56
about
32:56
business.
32:56
He
32:57
goes,
32:57
I
32:57
love
32:57
that
32:57
idea.
32:58
So
32:58
literally,
32:59
within
32:59
like
32:59
a
32:59
week,
33:00
I'm
33:00
sitting
33:00
in
33:01
bed
33:01
and
33:01
I'm
33:02
chilling,
33:02
I've
33:02
put
33:02
my
33:02
laptop
33:03
away,
33:03
and
33:03
he
33:04
walks
33:04
in,
33:04
he
33:04
comes,
33:05
he
33:05
goes,
33:05
hey,
33:05
babe,
33:06
and
33:06
the
33:06
lamp's
33:06
on.
33:07
And
33:07
I
33:07
was
33:07
like,
33:07
yes.
33:08
And
33:08
he
33:08
goes,
33:08
love
33:08
you.
33:09
And
33:09
then
33:09
he
33:09
walked
33:10
back
33:10
out.
33:12
It
33:12
was
33:12
so
33:13
simple
33:13
as
33:13
a
33:13
resolve
33:14
of
33:15
something
33:15
that
33:15
was
33:15
really
33:16
grading
33:16
on
33:16
me
33:17
that
33:17
eventually
33:18
could
33:18
have
33:18
been
33:18
something
33:19
really
33:19
bad
33:19
that
33:19
could
33:20
have
33:20
been
33:20
a
33:20
splinter
33:20
in
33:20
our
33:20
relationship.
33:21
Because
33:21
here
33:21
I
33:22
am
33:22
being
33:22
like,
33:22
you
33:22
always
33:23
come
33:23
to
33:23
me
33:23
with
33:23
business,
33:24
and
33:24
now
33:24
I
33:24
don't
33:25
feel
33:25
seen,
33:25
and
33:25
now
33:25
I
33:26
don't
33:26
feel
33:26
heard,
33:26
and
33:27
now
33:27
he
33:27
feels
33:27
like
33:27
he
33:28
can't
33:28
come
33:28
to
33:28
me
33:28
with
33:29
a
33:29
business
33:29
problem,
33:30
and
33:30
it
33:30
just
33:30
ends
33:31
up
33:31
spiraling.
33:31
So
33:32
those
33:32
are
33:32
just
33:33
a
33:33
couple
33:33
of
33:33
little
33:33
things
33:34
that
33:34
come
33:34
to
33:34
mind
33:34
of
33:35
how
33:35
you
33:35
navigate
33:37
your
33:37
scenarios
33:38
with
33:38
business.
33:39
And
33:39
even
33:39
if
33:39
you
33:40
don't
33:40
even
33:40
own
33:40
your
33:40
own
33:40
business,
33:41
let's
33:41
say
33:41
you
33:42
are
33:42
a
33:42
beautiful
33:43
stay
33:43
at
33:43
home
33:43
wife
33:43
and
33:43
you
33:43
take
33:44
care
33:44
of
33:44
your
33:44
kids
33:44
and
33:45
you
33:45
were
33:45
just
33:45
exhausted
33:46
and
33:46
your
33:46
husband
33:46
keeps
33:46
coming
33:47
home
33:47
with
33:47
problems.
33:48
These
33:48
are
33:49
tips
33:49
and
33:49
tactics
33:49
that
33:50
you
33:50
can
33:50
use
33:50
to
33:50
navigate
33:51
so
33:51
that
33:51
you
33:51
can
33:52
have
33:52
the
33:52
life
33:52
that
33:52
you
33:53
really
33:53
want.
33:53
Yes.
33:54
And
33:54
I
33:54
feel
33:54
like
33:54
men
33:54
too,
33:55
they
33:55
wear
33:55
their
33:55
hearts
33:56
on
33:56
their
33:56
sleeve
33:56
in
33:56
that
33:56
way.
33:57
Like,
33:57
if
33:57
they've
33:57
had
33:58
a
33:58
stressful
33:58
day
33:58
at
33:58
work.
33:59
I
33:59
feel
33:59
like
34:00
my
34:00
husband,
34:00
like,
34:00
you
34:01
know,
34:01
acts
34:01
out,
34:01
like
34:02
he'll
34:02
be
34:02
short
34:02
and
34:02
like,
34:03
you
34:03
know,
34:03
not.
34:04
Not
34:04
as
34:04
friendly.
34:04
And
34:05
it's
34:05
just
34:05
one
34:05
of
34:05
those
34:05
of
34:06
those
34:06
things
34:06
where
34:06
I'm
34:06
like,
34:07
why
34:07
can't
34:07
you?
34:07
And
34:08
it's
34:08
not
34:08
right,
34:09
but
34:09
I'm
34:09
like,
34:09
why
34:09
can't
34:10
you
34:10
do
34:10
it
34:10
like
34:10
I
34:10
do
34:11
it,
34:11
you
34:11
know,
34:11
where
34:11
it's
34:12
more,
34:12
you
34:12
know.
34:13
Oh,
34:13
that
34:13
will
34:13
definitely
34:13
not
34:13
work.
34:14
I'm
34:14
sorry.
34:14
It
34:15
definitely
34:15
shuts
34:15
down
34:16
if
34:16
you
34:16
say.
34:16
That
34:17
I'm
34:18
like
34:18
trying
34:18
to
34:18
communicate
34:19
with
34:19
my
34:19
eyes,
34:19
like,
34:20
do
34:20
I
34:20
like
34:20
me?
34:21
How's
34:22
that
34:22
working
34:22
for
34:22
you,
34:22
girl?
34:23
Not
34:23
great.
34:23
Not
34:24
great.
34:24
I
34:24
have
34:24
to
34:24
say,
34:24
not
34:25
great.
34:26
But
34:26
it's
34:27
so
34:27
funny,
34:27
you
34:27
know,
34:27
And
34:28
I
34:28
feel
34:28
like,
34:28
you
34:28
know,
34:28
it's
34:28
a
34:29
good
34:29
point
34:29
too,
34:29
because
34:29
I
34:30
feel
34:30
like
34:30
a
34:30
lot
34:30
of
34:30
other
34:30
women
34:31
are
34:31
in
34:31
this
34:32
boat,
34:32
right,
34:32
where
34:32
they're
34:33
trying
34:33
to
34:34
navigate
34:34
these
34:34
things,
34:34
particularly
34:35
in
34:35
midlife,
34:36
you
34:36
know,
34:36
so
34:37
we've
34:37
sort
34:37
of
34:38
crossed
34:38
that
34:38
40
34:39
year
34:39
old
34:39
mark,
34:39
which,
34:39
by
34:40
the
34:40
way,
34:40
when
34:40
I
34:40
crossed
34:41
the
34:41
40
34:41
year
34:41
old
34:41
mark,
34:42
all
34:42
of
34:42
a
34:42
sudden
34:42
things
34:43
started
34:43
happening.
34:43
Like,
34:44
my
34:44
eyes
34:44
started
34:44
getting
34:45
a
34:45
little
34:45
fuzzier.
34:47
The
34:47
body
34:47
started
34:48
feeling
34:48
like
34:48
not
34:49
so
34:49
much
34:49
like
34:49
what
34:50
I,
34:50
you
34:50
know,
34:50
what
34:51
I
34:51
had
34:51
before
34:52
things
34:52
started
34:52
happening.
34:53
What
34:53
was
34:53
it
34:53
like
34:54
for
34:54
you
34:54
crossing
34:55
over
34:55
that
34:55
sort
34:56
of
34:56
40
34:56
year
34:56
old
34:57
or
34:57
whatever
34:57
you
34:57
interpret
34:58
midlife
34:58
to
34:58
be
34:59
sort
34:59
of
34:59
a
34:59
threshold.
35:00
Did
35:00
you,
35:00
you
35:00
feel
35:01
different?
35:01
Did
35:01
things,
35:02
you
35:02
know,
35:02
how
35:03
did
35:03
that.
35:04
So
35:04
this
35:04
is
35:04
one
35:04
that
35:05
I.
35:05
I'm
35:05
not.
35:05
I
35:06
feel
35:06
like
35:06
I'm
35:06
a
35:06
little
35:06
alone
35:07
in
35:07
this.
35:07
I
35:07
love
35:08
aging,
35:08
okay?
35:09
I
35:10
love
35:10
it.
35:10
I
35:11
was
35:11
so
35:11
insecure
35:12
in
35:12
my
35:12
20s.
35:13
I
35:14
didn't
35:14
know
35:14
whether
35:14
I
35:14
was
35:15
coming,
35:15
whether
35:15
I
35:15
was
35:15
going.
35:16
I
35:16
didn't
35:16
know
35:16
what
35:16
Lisa
35:17
wanted,
35:17
what
35:17
Lisa
35:18
thought,
35:18
what
35:18
Lisa
35:18
actually
35:19
needed.
35:19
I
35:19
didn't
35:20
have
35:20
boundaries.
35:21
And
35:21
it's
35:21
like
35:21
the
35:22
last
35:22
15
35:22
years
35:23
have
35:23
been
35:23
me
35:23
waxing
35:24
on,
35:24
waxing
35:25
off
35:25
to
35:25
become
35:25
the
35:26
person
35:26
I've
35:26
always
35:26
wanted
35:27
to
35:27
be.
35:27
And
35:28
so
35:28
for
35:28
me,
35:28
it's
35:28
been
35:29
like,
35:29
okay,
35:29
I'm
35:29
40.
35:29
Oh
35:30
my
35:30
God,
35:30
I've
35:30
got
35:30
at
35:30
least
35:30
another
35:31
40
35:31
years
35:31
to
35:31
keep
35:32
grow,
35:32
growing
35:32
and
35:32
changing.
35:33
Like,
35:33
that's
35:33
so
35:33
exciting
35:34
to
35:34
me,
35:34
especially
35:35
when
35:35
I
35:35
know
35:35
the
35:35
alternative
35:36
die.
35:37
Like,
35:38
that's
35:38
it.
35:39
That
35:39
is
35:39
it.
35:40
And
35:40
so
35:42
I
35:42
have
35:43
always
35:43
embraced
35:43
aging
35:44
like
35:44
that.
35:45
It's
35:45
very
35:45
important
35:46
to
35:46
me
35:46
to
35:46
make
35:46
sure
35:46
that
35:47
I
35:47
keep
35:47
repeating
35:47
that
35:48
and
35:48
focus
35:48
on
35:48
it.
35:48
Because
35:49
as
35:49
I
35:49
start
35:50
to
35:50
get
35:50
older,
35:50
of
35:50
course
35:51
my
35:51
skin
35:52
looks
35:52
different.
35:52
The
35:53
things
35:53
that
35:53
people
35:53
used
35:53
to,
35:54
you
35:54
know,
35:54
compliment
35:55
you
35:55
on,
35:55
you
35:55
don't
35:55
get
35:56
the
35:56
compliments
35:56
anymore.
35:57
So
35:57
I'm
35:57
not
35:57
pretending
35:58
that
35:58
I
35:58
haven't
35:58
changed
35:59
and
35:59
things
35:59
haven't,
35:59
you
35:59
know,
36:00
almost
36:00
dented
36:00
me
36:01
a
36:01
little.
36:01
But
36:02
I
36:02
kind
36:02
of
36:02
do
36:03
a
36:03
lot
36:03
of
36:04
internal
36:04
work.
36:05
So
36:05
the
36:05
other
36:05
day
36:06
I
36:06
looked
36:06
in
36:06
the
36:06
mirror
36:07
and
36:07
I
36:07
was
36:07
like,
36:07
oh,
36:07
man,
36:08
I'm
36:08
getting
36:08
those
36:08
bags
36:09
under
36:09
my
36:09
eyes,
36:09
which
36:09
end
36:09
up
36:10
becoming
36:10
inevitable
36:10
as
36:11
you
36:11
get
36:11
older.
36:12
And
36:12
I
36:12
started
36:12
being
36:13
like,
36:13
oh,
36:13
what
36:13
do
36:13
I
36:13
do?
36:14
How
36:14
do
36:14
I
36:14
hide
36:14
it?
36:15
And
36:16
here's
36:17
the
36:17
truth.
36:18
It
36:18
is
36:18
okay
36:19
to
36:19
not
36:19
want
36:20
wrinkles.
36:21
It
36:21
is
36:21
okay
36:22
to
36:22
wish
36:23
that
36:23
you
36:23
had
36:23
the
36:23
youthful
36:24
skin
36:24
and
36:24
wish
36:25
that
36:25
you
36:25
had
36:25
the
36:25
youthful
36:26
hair.
36:26
I
36:27
just
36:27
don't,
36:27
don't
36:27
focus
36:28
on
36:28
it,
36:28
and
36:28
I
36:29
don't
36:29
beat
36:29
myself
36:29
up
36:30
for
36:30
it.
36:31
And
36:31
that,
36:31
I
36:31
think
36:32
was
36:32
the
36:32
big
36:32
key
36:32
on.
36:33
Like,
36:33
I
36:33
can
36:33
talk
36:33
about
36:34
the
36:34
fact
36:34
that,
36:34
no,
36:35
I
36:35
don't
36:35
like
36:35
wrinkles.
36:36
I
36:36
don't
36:36
like
36:36
having
36:37
puffy
36:37
eyes.
36:37
I
36:38
wish
36:38
I
36:38
had
36:39
the
36:39
youthful
36:39
skin
36:40
and
36:40
hair
36:40
that
36:40
I
36:40
did.
36:40
Of
36:40
course
36:41
I
36:41
do.
36:41
But
36:42
in
36:42
service
36:42
of
36:43
what
36:43
else?
36:44
Like,
36:44
in
36:44
service
36:44
of
36:45
not
36:45
having
36:45
grown
36:45
and
36:45
not
36:46
having
36:46
learned
36:46
and
36:46
not
36:46
having
36:47
improved
36:47
and
36:47
not
36:47
being
36:48
proud
36:48
of
36:48
myself
36:48
that
36:48
I
36:49
went
36:49
from
36:49
zero
36:49
to
36:50
where
36:50
I
36:50
am
36:50
today,
36:51
the
36:51
fact
36:51
that
36:51
I
36:52
can
36:52
point
36:52
my
36:52
finger
36:52
and
36:53
go,
36:53
that's
36:53
where
36:53
I
36:53
want
36:53
to
36:54
go.
36:54
And
36:54
that
36:54
every
36:54
day
36:54
I
36:54
can
36:55
show
36:55
up
36:55
and
36:55
get
36:55
there
36:55
like
36:56
that,
36:56
I
36:56
then
36:57
that's
36:57
what
36:57
I
36:57
want
36:57
to
36:58
focus
36:58
on.
36:58
But
36:59
I
36:59
don't
36:59
want
36:59
to
36:59
pretend
37:00
or
37:00
ignore
37:00
the
37:01
truth
37:01
of
37:01
being
37:01
sad
37:01
that
37:02
I
37:02
don't
37:02
have
37:02
youthful
37:03
skin.
37:03
I
37:03
don't
37:04
think
37:04
it
37:04
negates
37:05
you
37:05
being
37:06
proud
37:06
that
37:06
you're
37:06
getting
37:07
older.
37:07
I
37:07
think
37:08
it's
37:08
when
37:08
I
37:08
have
37:09
to
37:09
pretend.
37:09
That's
37:10
the
37:10
biggest
37:10
trap
37:10
for
37:10
Lisa.
37:11
For
37:11
me,
37:11
I
37:11
don't
37:11
know
37:11
what
37:11
I'm
37:12
talking.
37:13
That's
37:13
the
37:13
biggest
37:14
trap
37:14
for
37:14
me
37:14
is
37:15
if
37:15
I
37:15
have
37:15
to
37:15
pretend,
37:16
If
37:16
I
37:16
pretend,
37:17
ah,
37:17
I
37:17
love
37:18
getting
37:18
older.
37:18
These
37:18
wrinkles.
37:19
I'm
37:19
excited.
37:20
No,
37:21
I
37:21
don't
37:21
want
37:21
to
37:21
pretend.
37:22
But
37:22
the
37:23
truth
37:23
is,
37:23
I'm
37:23
so
37:24
aware
37:25
of
37:26
the
37:27
alternative.
37:28
Now,
37:28
look,
37:28
I
37:29
do
37:29
also
37:29
think
37:29
a
37:30
big
37:30
part
37:30
of
37:30
that
37:30
comes
37:31
to.
37:31
I've
37:32
very
37:32
much
37:32
spent
37:33
the
37:33
last
37:33
15
37:34
years
37:34
living
37:34
the
37:34
life
37:35
that
37:35
I
37:35
wanted.
37:36
And
37:36
if
37:37
you
37:37
had
37:37
asked
37:37
me
37:37
this
37:38
when
37:38
I
37:38
was
37:38
a
37:38
stay
37:38
at
37:39
home
37:39
wife,
37:39
I
37:39
think
37:39
my
37:40
answer
37:40
may
37:40
have
37:40
been
37:41
different
37:41
because
37:42
as
37:42
a
37:42
stay
37:42
at
37:42
home
37:43
wife,
37:43
that
37:43
wasn't
37:43
my
37:43
dream.
37:44
I
37:44
wasn't
37:44
happy,
37:45
I
37:45
wasn't
37:45
content.
37:46
So
37:46
if
37:46
you
37:46
met
37:47
me
37:47
when
37:47
I
37:47
was,
37:47
let's
37:48
say,
37:48
28
37:50
and
37:50
you
37:50
said,
37:50
how
37:51
do
37:51
you
37:51
feel?
37:51
I
37:52
think
37:52
I
37:52
might
37:52
have.
37:53
My
37:53
answer
37:53
may
37:54
have
37:54
been
37:54
different
37:54
now
37:54
that
37:55
I'm
37:55
actually
37:55
being
37:55
really
37:56
real
37:56
about
37:56
it
37:56
and
37:56
thinking
37:57
about
37:57
it,
37:57
I
37:57
think
37:58
because
37:58
I
37:58
felt
37:58
stuck,
37:59
because
38:00
I
38:00
was
38:00
like,
38:00
I'm
38:00
28
38:01
years
38:01
old.
38:02
Because
38:02
when
38:02
you're
38:02
28,
38:03
you
38:03
think
38:03
that
38:03
you're
38:03
old.
38:07
So
38:07
at
38:07
28
38:08
years
38:08
old,
38:08
I
38:08
thought
38:09
like,
38:09
you
38:09
know,
38:09
oh,
38:10
my
38:10
God,
38:10
I'm
38:10
not
38:10
where
38:10
I
38:11
said
38:11
I
38:11
would
38:11
be.
38:12
Well,
38:13
oh
38:13
my
38:13
God,
38:13
how
38:13
many
38:13
years
38:14
do
38:14
I
38:14
have
38:14
left
38:14
in
38:15
me?
38:15
Money,
38:15
you
38:15
know?
38:16
So
38:16
I
38:16
think
38:16
that
38:16
that
38:16
also
38:17
has
38:17
helped.
38:18
But
38:19
ultimately
38:20
I
38:20
think
38:20
I
38:21
look
38:21
at
38:21
the
38:22
positive
38:22
side
38:22
of
38:23
everything.
38:23
I
38:24
try
38:24
to
38:24
at
38:24
least
38:25
so
38:25
with
38:25
my
38:25
gut,
38:26
when
38:26
I
38:26
could
38:26
be
38:27
like,
38:27
I
38:27
can't
38:27
believe
38:27
this
38:28
has
38:28
happened.
38:28
I
38:29
turn
38:29
around,
38:29
I'm
38:29
like,
38:29
thank
38:30
God
38:30
this
38:30
happened
38:30
when
38:31
the
38:31
moment
38:31
I
38:32
got
38:32
the
38:32
wealthiest.
38:32
Because
38:33
I
38:33
don't
38:33
take
38:33
money
38:33
for
38:34
granted,
38:34
I
38:35
don't
38:35
take
38:35
people
38:35
for
38:36
granted,
38:36
I
38:36
don't
38:36
take
38:36
my
38:37
health
38:37
for
38:37
granted.
38:37
All
38:38
because
38:38
of
38:38
my
38:38
health.
38:39
So
38:39
it's.
38:39
How
38:40
do
38:40
I
38:40
see
38:40
the
38:40
positive?
38:41
Not
38:41
toxic
38:42
positivity,
38:42
though
38:43
I
38:43
want
38:43
to
38:43
be
38:43
very
38:43
clear
38:44
about
38:44
the
38:44
difference
38:44
between
38:45
that.
38:45
Toxic
38:45
positivity
38:46
is
38:46
actually
38:46
what
38:46
kept
38:47
me
38:47
as
38:47
a
38:47
stay
38:47
at
38:47
home
38:48
wife
38:48
for
38:48
so
38:48
long.
38:49
Because
38:49
year
38:49
one,
38:50
I
38:50
was
38:51
like,
38:51
oh
38:51
my
38:51
God,
38:51
I'm
38:51
so
38:51
excited.
38:52
I'm
38:52
married.
38:52
Yay.
38:53
Right?
38:53
By
38:53
year
38:54
three,
38:54
I'm
38:54
like,
38:55
I'm
38:55
not
38:55
really
38:55
happy.
38:56
But
38:57
you
38:57
know
38:57
what?
38:57
I
38:58
should
38:58
be
38:59
grateful
38:59
that
39:00
I
39:00
have
39:00
a
39:00
roof
39:00
over
39:00
my
39:01
head.
39:01
By
39:01
year
39:01
four,
39:02
year
39:02
five,
39:02
I
39:03
should
39:03
be
39:03
grateful
39:03
that
39:04
I
39:04
have
39:04
a
39:04
husband
39:05
that
39:05
loves
39:05
me.
39:05
I
39:06
was
39:06
dismissing
39:07
all
39:07
the
39:07
stuff
39:08
in
39:08
my
39:08
life
39:08
that
39:08
I
39:09
hated
39:09
by
39:10
trying
39:10
to
39:10
pretend
39:11
that.
39:11
But.
39:11
But
39:11
you
39:12
have
39:12
a
39:12
husband
39:12
that
39:12
loves
39:13
you.
39:13
Surely
39:13
that,
39:13
you
39:14
know,
39:14
changes
39:14
everything.
39:15
But
39:15
you
39:15
have
39:15
a
39:15
roof
39:15
over
39:16
your
39:16
head.
39:16
Surely
39:16
that
39:16
changes
39:17
everything.
39:17
And
39:17
the
39:17
truth
39:18
is
39:18
it
39:18
doesn't.
39:19
And
39:19
so
39:19
for
39:20
me,
39:20
really
39:20
going,
39:20
okay,
39:21
what
39:21
type
39:21
of
39:21
person
39:21
do
39:22
I
39:22
want
39:22
to
39:22
be?
39:22
How
39:22
do
39:23
I
39:23
get
39:23
there?
39:23
How
39:23
do
39:24
I
39:24
grow?
39:25
Making
39:26
sure
39:26
that
39:26
I
39:26
dress
39:27
my
39:27
life
39:27
every
39:28
quarter
39:28
actually
39:29
now.
39:29
And
39:30
I
39:30
ask
39:30
myself
39:30
a
39:30
thousand
39:31
questions.
39:31
So
39:31
not
39:32
a
39:32
thousand.
39:32
I
39:32
asked
39:32
myself
39:33
maybe
39:33
10
39:34
and
39:34
it's,
39:35
do
39:35
you
39:35
still
39:35
want
39:36
to
39:36
be
39:36
running
39:36
a
39:36
YouTube
39:37
channel?
39:37
Do
39:37
you
39:37
still
39:38
want
39:38
to
39:38
be
39:38
in
39:38
business
39:38
with
39:38
your
39:39
husband?
39:39
Do
39:40
you
39:40
still
39:40
want
39:40
your
39:40
business
39:41
running
39:41
out
39:41
of
39:41
your
39:41
house?
39:42
Like
39:42
all
39:42
the
39:42
questions
39:43
which
39:44
I've
39:44
built
39:44
15
39:45
years
39:45
to
39:45
get
39:45
here,
39:46
I
39:46
ask
39:47
myself
39:47
if
39:47
I
39:47
still
39:47
want
39:47
it.
39:48
That
39:49
has
39:49
become
39:49
the
39:49
biggest
39:50
freedom
39:51
pivot
39:52
for
39:52
me
39:53
to
39:53
make
39:53
sure
39:53
that
39:53
I
39:53
never
39:54
get
39:54
trapped.
39:54
And
39:54
I
39:54
have
39:55
a
39:55
feeling
39:56
in
39:56
a
39:56
lot
39:56
of
39:56
women
39:57
that
39:57
I
39:57
talk
39:57
to
39:57
that
39:57
are
39:58
in
39:58
their
39:58
40s
39:58
and
39:58
50s,
39:59
they
39:59
come
40:00
from
40:00
a
40:00
perspective
40:01
of
40:01
I
40:01
have
40:01
never
40:01
lived
40:02
the
40:02
life
40:02
I've
40:02
wanted.
40:03
Right.
40:03
Isn't
40:04
that
40:04
heartbreaking?
40:04
It
40:04
is
40:05
very
40:05
heartbreaking.
40:05
But
40:06
here's
40:06
again,
40:06
going
40:06
to
40:06
the
40:07
positive.
40:07
Again,
40:07
not
40:07
positive,
40:08
not
40:09
toxic
40:09
positivity,
40:10
but
40:10
the
40:10
pos.
40:10
It's
40:11
like.
40:11
But
40:11
if
40:11
you
40:12
think
40:12
our
40:13
lifespan
40:13
is
40:13
until
40:14
85,
40:14
as
40:15
a
40:15
woman,
40:16
maybe
40:16
not.
40:16
I
40:16
hope
40:17
to
40:17
live
40:17
some
40:17
100.
40:18
But
40:18
let's
40:18
just
40:18
for
40:19
argument's
40:19
sake,
40:20
85.
40:21
At
40:21
40,
40:22
you're
40:22
not
40:23
even
40:23
50%
40:23
there.
40:25
So
40:25
think
40:25
about
40:25
everything
40:26
you've
40:26
done
40:26
in
40:26
your
40:26
life,
40:27
from
40:28
being
40:28
born,
40:29
learning
40:29
how
40:30
to
40:30
walk,
40:30
like,
40:31
all
40:31
the
40:31
way
40:32
up,
40:32
and
40:33
now
40:33
you've
40:33
got.
40:33
You
40:34
can
40:34
double
40:34
that.
40:36
Now's
40:36
the
40:36
time.
40:37
So
40:37
if.
40:37
If
40:37
you
40:37
have
40:37
to
40:38
turn
40:38
40
40:38
for
40:38
that
40:38
to
40:39
finally
40:39
click,
40:39
amazing.
40:40
If
40:40
you
40:40
have
40:41
to
40:41
go
40:41
through
40:41
menopause
40:42
for
40:42
that
40:42
to
40:42
finally
40:43
click,
40:43
at
40:43
least
40:43
it
40:44
happened.
40:44
Now
40:44
you
40:45
can
40:45
beat
40:45
yourself
40:45
up.
40:46
You
40:46
can
40:46
go,
40:46
oh,
40:47
my
40:47
God,
40:47
I've
40:47
just
40:47
wasted
40:47
40
40:48
years
40:48
of
40:48
my
40:48
life.
40:49
But
40:49
is
40:50
that
40:50
going
40:50
to
40:50
help
40:50
you?
40:50
Is
40:51
that
40:51
going
40:51
to
40:51
help
40:51
you
40:51
now
40:51
pivot
40:52
into
40:52
leading
40:52
the
40:52
life
40:53
you
40:53
want?
40:53
No,
40:53
it's
40:53
going
40:54
to
40:54
make
40:54
you
40:54
feel
40:54
bad.
40:55
So
40:55
now
40:56
if
40:56
you
40:56
can
40:56
go,
40:56
oh,
40:56
my
40:57
God,
40:57
I've
40:57
got
40:58
40
40:58
more
40:58
years
40:59
to
40:59
become
40:59
the
40:59
person
41:00
I've
41:00
always
41:00
wanted
41:00
to
41:01
be.
41:02
Now
41:02
you
41:02
actually
41:02
get
41:03
to
41:03
make
41:03
that
41:03
change.
41:04
And
41:04
I
41:04
think
41:05
if
41:05
you
41:05
don't
41:05
make
41:05
that
41:06
change,
41:06
that's
41:07
where
41:07
a
41:07
lot
41:07
of
41:07
women
41:08
then
41:08
turn
41:08
50
41:09
and
41:09
they
41:09
have
41:10
the
41:10
regrets.
41:10
They
41:10
turn
41:11
60,
41:11
they
41:12
have
41:12
the
41:12
regrets,
41:12
and
41:12
they're
41:13
like,
41:13
what
41:13
happened
41:13
to
41:13
my
41:13
life?
41:14
You
41:14
know,
41:14
that's
41:15
such
41:15
an
41:15
interesting
41:15
point
41:16
you
41:16
bring
41:16
up,
41:16
too,
41:16
about
41:17
the
41:17
timeline.
41:17
There
41:17
is
41:17
no
41:18
timeline.
41:18
Like,
41:18
if
41:19
you
41:19
wake
41:19
up
41:19
when
41:19
you're
41:20
40
41:20
and
41:20
you're
41:20
ready
41:21
to
41:21
go,
41:21
you're
41:21
ready
41:21
to
41:21
go,
41:21
go
41:22
50,
41:22
60,
41:23
whatever
41:23
the
41:23
number
41:24
is.
41:24
But
41:24
the
41:25
important
41:25
part
41:25
is
41:25
to
41:26
put
41:26
that
41:26
one
41:27
foot
41:27
in
41:27
front
41:27
of
41:27
the
41:27
other
41:28
and
41:28
start.
41:29
Just
41:29
start,
41:29
you
41:30
know,
41:30
like,
41:30
the
41:30
fear
41:31
is
41:31
what
41:31
holds
41:31
us
41:31
back,
41:32
you
41:32
know?
41:32
And
41:32
I
41:32
just
41:32
lack
41:33
of
41:33
confidence.
41:34
So
41:34
how
41:34
does
41:35
that
41:35
woman
41:35
do
41:35
that?
41:35
How
41:36
does
41:36
she
41:36
kind
41:36
of
41:37
start
41:37
that?
41:37
Even
41:37
that
41:38
first
41:38
step,
41:38
like,
41:39
to
41:39
gain
41:39
that
41:40
confidence
41:40
to
41:40
do
41:40
it.
41:40
Yeah.
41:41
So
41:41
that
41:41
goes
41:41
back
41:42
to
41:42
being
41:42
goal
41:42
oriented.
41:43
What
41:43
are
41:43
you
41:44
trying
41:44
to
41:44
achieve?
41:45
Because
41:45
I
41:45
think
41:45
we
41:46
think
41:46
of
41:47
the
41:47
word
41:47
confidence
41:48
is
41:48
like
41:48
a
41:48
stage
41:49
magic
41:49
superpower.
41:50
I
41:51
want
41:51
confidence
41:51
in
41:52
what?
41:53
Like,
41:53
actually
41:54
in
41:54
what?
41:54
Because
41:54
let
41:55
me
41:55
be
41:55
honest,
41:56
I've
41:56
done.
41:58
I'm.
41:58
Now
41:58
I
41:59
do
41:59
my
41:59
podcast.
41:59
I'm
42:00
on
42:00
camera.
42:01
I
42:01
was
42:01
petrified
42:02
of
42:02
being
42:02
on
42:02
camera
42:03
when
42:03
I
42:03
first
42:03
started.
42:03
Were
42:04
you?
42:04
I
42:04
was,
42:04
yes.
42:05
I
42:05
was
42:05
bullied
42:05
and
42:05
teased
42:06
for
42:06
my
42:06
look.
42:06
So
42:06
I'm
42:07
like,
42:07
who
42:07
the
42:07
hell
42:07
would
42:07
want
42:08
to
42:08
A,
42:08
look
42:08
at
42:08
me
42:09
and
42:09
then
42:09
B,
42:09
I
42:10
have
42:10
a
42:10
squeaky
42:10
voice.
42:11
So
42:12
I
42:12
was
42:12
just
42:12
like,
42:13
who
42:13
would
42:13
want
42:13
to
42:14
look
42:14
and
42:14
listen
42:14
to
42:15
me?
42:15
So
42:15
I
42:16
had
42:16
to
42:16
work
42:16
through
42:17
how
42:17
do
42:17
I
42:17
build
42:17
my
42:18
confidence
42:18
to
42:18
get
42:18
in
42:19
front
42:19
of
42:19
the
42:19
camera.
42:20
That's
42:20
very
42:21
different
42:21
than
42:21
when
42:21
I
42:21
started
42:21
to
42:22
public
42:22
speak.
42:23
I
42:23
then
42:23
built
42:24
my
42:24
confidence
42:24
on
42:24
camera.
42:24
I
42:25
can
42:25
now
42:25
come.
42:25
I
42:25
literally
42:25
don't
42:26
even
42:26
think
42:26
twice
42:26
when
42:26
I'M
42:26
on
42:26
camera,
42:27
I
42:27
just
42:27
come
42:27
in,
42:27
I
42:27
do
42:28
my
42:28
thing,
42:28
I'm
42:28
authentic
42:29
and
42:29
I'm,
42:29
I
42:30
don't
42:30
get
42:30
nervous.
42:30
I
42:30
don't
42:30
even
42:31
think
42:31
twice
42:31
about
42:31
it.
42:31
You
42:32
put
42:32
me
42:32
on
42:32
stage,
42:32
holy
42:33
smokes,
42:33
girl.
42:34
Right?
42:35
Exactly.
42:35
So
42:35
scary.
42:36
It
42:36
is
42:36
one
42:36
type
42:37
of
42:37
confidence.
42:37
Now,
42:38
if
42:38
I
42:38
can
42:38
say
42:38
that
42:38
and
42:39
everyone's
42:39
like,
42:39
oh,
42:39
yeah,
42:39
getting
42:39
on
42:40
the
42:40
stage
42:40
would
42:40
be
42:40
different
42:41
type
42:41
of
42:41
confidence.
42:42
Now
42:42
put
42:43
that
42:43
in
42:43
your
42:43
entire
42:43
life.
42:44
Life.
42:45
So
42:46
if
42:46
you're
42:46
turning
42:47
your
42:47
life
42:47
around,
42:48
you
42:48
have
42:48
to
42:49
know
42:49
what
42:49
you're
42:49
trying
42:49
to
42:50
move
42:50
towards.
42:50
I
42:50
what's
42:51
your
42:51
goal
42:51
if
42:52
it
42:52
is,
42:52
I
42:52
want
42:52
to
42:52
build
42:53
a
42:53
podcast.
42:53
Let's
42:53
just
42:53
say
42:54
that
42:54
I'm
42:54
40
42:54
years
42:55
old
42:55
and
42:55
I
42:55
want
42:55
to
42:55
start
42:55
my
42:56
podcast,
42:56
but
42:56
I've
42:56
never
42:56
been
42:56
in
42:57
front
42:57
of
42:57
the
42:57
camera.
42:57
All
42:58
right,
42:58
at
42:58
least
42:58
you
42:58
know
42:58
your
42:58
goal.
42:59
I
42:59
want
42:59
to
42:59
produce
43:00
an
43:00
hour
43:00
long
43:01
video
43:02
content
43:02
for
43:03
YouTube.
43:03
All
43:04
right,
43:04
that's
43:04
very
43:04
clear
43:04
of
43:04
what
43:05
you're
43:05
trying
43:05
to
43:05
do.
43:06
Now
43:06
the
43:06
question
43:06
is,
43:07
how
43:07
do
43:07
you
43:07
build
43:07
the
43:07
confidence
43:08
to
43:08
get
43:08
in
43:08
front
43:08
of
43:09
the
43:09
camera?
43:09
And
43:10
that
43:10
just
43:10
means
43:10
that
43:10
you
43:10
have
43:10
a
43:11
cheat
43:11
sheet,
43:12
if
43:12
you
43:12
will,
43:12
of
43:13
what
43:13
you're
43:13
going
43:13
to
43:13
do
43:13
to
43:14
get
43:14
to
43:14
do
43:14
it.
43:14
It's
43:14
like
43:15
if
43:15
you
43:15
were
43:15
going
43:15
to
43:15
the
43:15
gym
43:16
and
43:16
your
43:16
plan
43:17
was,
43:17
is
43:17
I
43:17
want
43:17
to
43:18
run
43:18
a
43:18
marathon.
43:18
You
43:19
don't
43:19
just
43:19
run
43:19
the
43:19
marathon,
43:20
you
43:20
go,
43:20
okay,
43:21
I
43:21
start
43:21
by
43:22
walking
43:22
on
43:22
the
43:22
treadmill.
43:23
I
43:23
walk
43:24
for
43:24
a
43:24
mile.
43:24
I
43:25
then
43:25
the
43:25
next
43:25
day
43:25
I'm
43:26
going
43:26
to
43:26
eat
43:26
more
43:26
protein.
43:27
I'm
43:27
then
43:27
on
43:27
day
43:27
three
43:28
going
43:28
to
43:28
walk
43:28
two
43:29
miles
43:29
on
43:29
the
43:29
treadmill,
43:29
where
43:30
you
43:30
have
43:30
an
43:30
entire
43:30
game
43:31
plan
43:31
that
43:31
maybe
43:32
lasts
43:32
six
43:33
months
43:34
for
43:34
you
43:34
to
43:34
be
43:34
able
43:35
to
43:35
figure
43:35
out
43:35
how
43:35
on
43:36
earth
43:36
you're
43:36
going
43:36
to
43:36
be
43:37
sustainable
43:37
for
43:37
you
43:37
to
43:38
run
43:38
the
43:38
marathon
43:38
on.
43:39
Now
43:39
do
43:40
that
43:40
with
43:41
the
43:41
podcast.
43:42
I'm
43:42
going
43:42
to
43:43
do
43:43
a
43:43
video
43:43
a
43:43
day.
43:44
I'm
43:44
not
43:44
going
43:44
to
43:45
post
43:45
it.
43:45
I'm
43:46
going
43:46
to
43:46
do
43:46
a
43:46
video
43:46
a
43:46
day
43:46
for
43:47
two
43:47
weeks.
43:48
And
43:48
then
43:48
I'm
43:48
going
43:48
to
43:49
ask
43:49
one
43:49
of
43:49
my
43:49
best
43:49
friends
43:50
who's
43:50
going
43:50
to
43:50
be
43:50
honest,
43:51
but
43:51
honest
43:51
with
43:51
grace.
43:52
And
43:52
I'm
43:52
going
43:53
to
43:53
give
43:53
her
43:53
a
43:53
cheat
43:53
sheet
43:54
and
43:54
I'm
43:54
going
43:54
to
43:54
write
43:54
questions
43:55
so
43:55
that
43:55
she
43:55
has
43:55
the
43:57
space
43:57
to
43:57
be
43:57
honest.
43:58
And
43:58
the
43:58
question
43:58
number
43:59
one
43:59
is
44:00
out
44:00
of
44:00
one
44:00
out
44:01
of
44:01
ten,
44:01
how
44:02
good
44:02
do
44:02
you
44:02
think
44:02
I
44:03
am
44:03
in
44:04
comfortability
44:04
in
44:05
front
44:05
of
44:05
the
44:05
camera?
44:07
Next
44:07
question.
44:08
How
44:08
entertained
44:09
were
44:09
you
44:10
at
44:10
what
44:10
minute
44:10
did
44:11
you
44:11
want
44:11
to
44:11
stop
44:11
listening?
44:12
And
44:12
I
44:13
would
44:13
just
44:13
be
44:13
write
44:14
out
44:14
a
44:14
list
44:14
of
44:15
questions
44:15
that
44:15
gives
44:15
your
44:16
friend
44:16
space
44:17
to
44:17
be
44:17
honest
44:17
and
44:17
give
44:18
you
44:18
feedback.
44:18
I
44:19
would
44:19
then
44:19
take
44:19
that
44:19
feedback
44:20
like
44:20
you
44:20
would
44:21
a
44:21
coach
44:22
and
44:23
I
44:23
would
44:23
start
44:23
to
44:23
Implement
44:24
it,
44:24
and
44:25
then
44:25
over
44:25
time,
44:26
it
44:26
becomes
44:26
the
44:26
wax
44:27
on,
44:27
the
44:27
wax
44:27
off.
44:28
So
44:28
by
44:28
the
44:29
end
44:29
of
44:29
a
44:29
year,
44:29
if
44:30
you
44:30
do
44:30
that
44:31
strategy,
44:31
you
44:32
have
44:32
slowly
44:33
built
44:33
your
44:33
confidence
44:34
in
44:34
making
44:34
podcast
44:35
videos.
44:36
But
44:36
again,
44:36
it
44:37
doesn't
44:37
mean
44:37
that
44:37
yet
44:37
now
44:38
you're
44:38
going
44:38
to
44:38
be
44:38
able
44:38
to
44:38
go
44:38
public
44:39
speak.
44:39
It
44:40
doesn't
44:40
mean
44:40
that
44:40
you're
44:40
going
44:40
to
44:40
be
44:41
able
44:41
to
44:41
run
44:41
the
44:41
marathon.
44:42
It
44:42
means
44:42
that
44:42
you're
44:42
going
44:43
to
44:43
be
44:43
have
44:43
built
44:43
your
44:44
confidence
44:44
in
44:44
doing
44:45
a
44:45
podcast.
44:46
So
44:46
you
44:47
have
44:47
to
44:47
be
44:47
so
44:47
clear
44:48
on
44:48
your
44:48
goal.
44:49
This
44:49
is
44:49
where
44:49
people
44:50
get
44:50
lost,
44:50
is
44:51
they're
44:51
not
44:51
clear.
44:52
I
44:52
want
44:53
to
44:53
impact
44:53
people.
44:53
What
44:54
the
44:54
hell
44:54
does
44:54
that
44:55
bloody
44:55
mean?
44:55
Like,
44:56
sincerely,
44:57
I
44:57
want
44:57
to
44:57
impact.
44:57
What
44:57
does
44:58
that
44:58
mean?
44:58
Who
44:58
do
44:58
you
44:59
want
44:59
to
44:59
impact
45:00
on
45:00
what
45:01
in
45:01
what
45:01
timeline?
45:02
So
45:03
I
45:03
like
45:04
to
45:04
go,
45:04
and
45:04
if
45:05
I
45:05
can
45:05
geek
45:05
out
45:05
for
45:06
a
45:06
second,
45:06
I
45:07
even
45:07
have
45:07
math
45:07
equations
45:08
around
45:09
goals
45:09
and
45:09
missions.
45:11
So
45:11
how
45:11
does
45:11
that
45:12
work?
45:12
Okay.
45:12
Okay.
45:12
So
45:13
if
45:13
anyone's
45:13
listening,
45:13
get
45:13
a
45:14
pen
45:14
and
45:14
paper
45:14
right
45:14
now
45:14
and
45:15
write
45:15
this,
45:15
this
45:16
out.
45:17
Your
45:17
goal
45:17
stems
45:18
from
45:18
your
45:18
mission,
45:19
right?
45:19
Because
45:20
just
45:20
doing
45:20
a
45:20
podcast
45:21
video,
45:22
you
45:22
will
45:22
burn
45:23
out
45:23
if
45:23
you
45:23
don't
45:24
know
45:24
why
45:24
you're
45:24
doing
45:24
it.
45:25
What's
45:25
your
45:25
mission?
45:26
So
45:26
I
45:26
always
45:27
start
45:27
with
45:27
a
45:27
mission.
45:27
A
45:28
mission
45:28
usually
45:28
comprises
45:29
of
45:29
three
45:29
things.
45:30
The
45:30
what,
45:31
the
45:31
who,
45:32
and
45:32
the
45:32
why.
45:33
So
45:34
that's
45:34
where
45:34
I
45:34
started.
45:35
All
45:35
right,
45:35
Lisa,
45:36
you
45:36
want
45:36
to
45:36
do
45:36
a
45:36
podcast.
45:36
The
45:37
what,
45:37
the
45:37
who
45:37
and
45:37
the
45:37
why.
45:38
The
45:38
what
45:38
is.
45:39
I
45:39
want
45:39
to
45:39
create
45:39
content,
45:40
video
45:41
content,
45:42
very
45:42
specific,
45:42
that
45:43
I
45:43
post
45:43
on
45:43
YouTube.
45:44
That's
45:44
the
45:44
what,
45:45
the
45:46
who.
45:46
Women.
45:48
Women
45:48
who
45:48
are
45:49
struggling.
45:50
That's
45:50
a
45:50
psychographic,
45:51
not
45:51
a
45:51
demographic.
45:52
I
45:52
believe
45:52
in
45:52
psychographics
45:53
and
45:53
more
45:54
impactful.
45:55
And
45:55
then
45:55
why?
45:56
Because
45:56
I
45:57
didn't
45:57
have
45:57
the
45:57
bloody
45:57
confidence.
45:58
And
45:58
if
45:59
I
45:59
can
45:59
help
45:59
women
45:59
build
46:00
their
46:00
confidence
46:00
through
46:01
my
46:01
content,
46:03
now
46:03
that's
46:04
a
46:04
life
46:04
well
46:04
lived.
46:05
Okay,
46:05
so
46:05
now
46:05
I've
46:05
got
46:06
my
46:06
mission.
46:06
You
46:07
can
46:07
understand.
46:07
Now,
46:07
if
46:08
someone
46:08
comes
46:08
to
46:08
me
46:08
and
46:08
asks
46:09
me
46:09
to
46:09
do
46:09
something,
46:10
I
46:10
want
46:10
you,
46:10
Lisa,
46:11
to
46:11
come
46:12
and
46:12
coach
46:13
five
46:13
women,
46:15
all
46:15
right?
46:16
If
46:16
there's
46:16
no
46:16
video
46:17
camera,
46:17
my
46:17
answer
46:17
is
46:18
no,
46:18
because
46:19
I'm
46:19
so
46:19
aligned
46:20
of
46:20
what
46:20
I
46:20
need
46:21
to
46:21
do
46:21
every
46:21
day.
46:22
Now,
46:23
my
46:23
goal
46:23
stems
46:23
from
46:23
my
46:24
mission.
46:24
The
46:24
goal
46:25
is
46:25
the
46:25
details
46:26
of
46:26
how
46:26
you're
46:26
going
46:26
to
46:26
achieve
46:27
your
46:27
mission.
46:27
So
46:28
it
46:28
does
46:28
somewhat
46:28
cover
46:29
it,
46:29
but
46:29
the
46:29
goal
46:29
is
46:30
the
46:30
what,
46:31
the
46:31
how
46:32
much,
46:32
and
46:33
by
46:33
when.
46:35
So
46:36
the
46:36
what
46:36
going
46:37
back
46:37
to
46:37
the
46:37
video
46:37
content.
46:38
I'm
46:38
going
46:38
to
46:38
create
46:38
video
46:39
content
46:39
for
46:39
YouTube.
46:39
Great.
46:40
The
46:41
how
46:41
much?
46:42
I'm
46:42
going
46:42
to
46:43
do
46:43
one
46:44
video
46:44
a
46:44
week,
46:46
and
46:47
I
46:47
want
46:48
them
46:48
to
46:48
get
46:49
to
46:50
100,000
46:51
views
46:52
by
46:52
when?
46:53
By
46:53
December.
46:54
All
46:55
right,
46:55
now
46:56
I
46:56
know
46:56
I'm
46:56
doing
46:57
Video
46:58
content.
46:58
I
46:58
know
46:59
how
46:59
many
46:59
I'm
46:59
doing.
46:59
I'm
47:00
doing
47:00
one
47:00
a
47:00
week.
47:00
I
47:00
needed
47:01
to
47:01
get
47:01
to
47:01
a
47:02
hundred
47:02
thousand
47:02
videos,
47:03
one
47:03
hundred
47:03
thousand
47:03
views
47:04
by
47:04
December.
47:05
Now
47:05
I
47:05
know
47:05
my
47:06
goal.
47:06
Then
47:07
you
47:07
lay
47:07
out
47:07
your
47:07
strategy.
47:08
What
47:08
am
47:08
I
47:09
going
47:09
to
47:09
test?
47:10
Well,
47:10
I
47:10
think
47:10
I'm
47:11
going
47:11
to
47:11
go
47:11
after
47:11
someone
47:12
famous.
47:12
Because
47:13
if
47:13
I
47:13
get
47:13
someone
47:13
famous
47:14
on
47:14
my
47:14
podcast,
47:14
that
47:15
may
47:15
bring
47:15
in
47:15
the
47:15
eyeballs.
47:16
Oh,
47:16
that's
47:16
one
47:17
strategy
47:17
I'm
47:17
going
47:17
to
47:18
try.
47:18
I'm
47:18
going
47:19
to
47:19
try.
47:19
I'm
47:20
going
47:20
to
47:20
spend
47:20
$10
47:21
and
47:21
put
47:21
out
47:21
an
47:21
ad.
47:22
Right?
47:23
You
47:23
have.
47:23
It
47:24
gives
47:24
you
47:25
a
47:25
list
47:25
of
47:26
different
47:26
strategies
47:26
that
47:27
you
47:27
can
47:27
try,
47:27
and
47:28
then
47:28
you
47:28
just
47:28
assess.
47:29
And
47:29
what
47:30
that
47:30
does
47:31
is,
47:31
even
47:31
when
47:32
you
47:32
fail,
47:32
even
47:32
if
47:33
you
47:33
don't
47:33
get
47:33
to
47:33
your
47:33
goal,
47:34
you're
47:34
still
47:34
filling
47:35
out
47:35
your
47:35
mission
47:35
because
47:36
you're
47:36
still
47:36
trying
47:36
to
47:36
help
47:36
these
47:37
people.
47:38
You
47:38
can
47:38
still
47:38
wake
47:39
up
47:39
every
47:39
single
47:39
day
47:40
feeling
47:40
proud
47:41
that
47:41
you're
47:41
working
47:41
on
47:42
your
47:42
goal
47:43
and
47:43
that
47:43
you're
47:43
not
47:44
just
47:44
kind
47:44
of
47:45
letting
47:45
fate
47:46
take
47:46
its
47:46
course
47:47
and
47:47
hope
47:47
that
47:47
it
47:48
comes
47:48
to
47:48
you
47:49
and
47:49
it
47:49
allows
47:49
you
47:50
to
47:50
know
47:50
if
47:50
you're
47:50
actually
47:51
moving
47:51
towards
47:51
it.
47:52
Because
47:52
I
47:52
think
47:53
one
47:53
thing
47:54
that
47:54
a
47:54
lot
47:54
of
47:54
people
47:54
do,
47:55
especially
47:55
a
47:55
lot
47:55
of
47:55
women,
47:56
is
47:56
we
47:56
blink
47:57
and
47:57
we
47:58
go,
47:58
what
47:58
happened
47:58
to
47:58
my
47:58
life?
47:59
Yes,
47:59
yes.
48:00
I
48:00
felt
48:00
like
48:00
I
48:00
was
48:01
doing
48:01
the
48:01
things,
48:02
but
48:02
I'm
48:03
50
48:03
and
48:04
I'm
48:04
like,
48:04
what
48:04
do
48:04
I
48:04
have
48:04
to
48:05
show
48:05
for
48:05
it?
48:05
That
48:06
breaks
48:06
my
48:06
heart
48:07
so
48:07
freaking
48:07
much,
48:08
which
48:08
is
48:08
why
48:08
I
48:09
get
48:09
so
48:09
detailed.
48:10
Like,
48:10
when
48:10
you
48:10
ask
48:10
me
48:11
questions,
48:11
I
48:11
can't
48:11
just
48:11
give
48:12
you
48:12
an
48:12
easy
48:13
blanket
48:13
answer.
48:14
It's
48:14
because
48:14
I
48:14
take
48:14
this
48:15
seriously.
48:16
I
48:16
spent
48:17
eight
48:17
years
48:17
of
48:17
my
48:17
life
48:18
doing
48:18
something
48:18
that
48:19
sucked
48:19
the
48:19
life
48:20
out
48:20
of
48:20
me.
48:20
And
48:20
so
48:21
you
48:21
better
48:21
believe
48:21
I
48:22
refuse
48:22
to
48:22
go
48:22
back
48:23
there.
48:23
But
48:23
how
48:24
do
48:24
I
48:24
make
48:24
sure
48:24
I.
48:25
I
48:25
don't
48:25
go
48:25
back
48:25
there
48:26
because
48:26
I
48:26
slipped
48:27
into
48:27
it.
48:28
So
48:28
I
48:28
worry
48:29
I'm
48:29
going
48:29
to
48:29
slip
48:29
into
48:30
it
48:30
again.
48:31
And
48:31
so
48:31
to
48:31
combat
48:32
that,
48:32
I've
48:33
come
48:33
up
48:33
with
48:33
these
48:33
equations
48:34
that
48:35
allow
48:35
me
48:35
to
48:35
compare.
48:36
Constantly
48:36
assess
48:37
my
48:37
life,
48:38
constantly
48:38
assess
48:39
where
48:39
my
48:39
hours
48:40
go,
48:40
and
48:40
then
48:41
constantly
48:41
assess
48:41
whether
48:42
I'm
48:42
actually
48:42
working
48:43
towards
48:43
it
48:43
or
48:43
not.
48:44
And
48:44
if
48:44
I'm
48:44
not,
48:45
and
48:45
I'm
48:45
just
48:45
treading
48:46
water,
48:46
I
48:46
can
48:47
then
48:47
ask
48:47
myself,
48:47
do
48:48
I
48:48
grab
48:48
a
48:48
life
48:48
raft
48:49
or
48:49
do
48:50
I
48:50
just
48:50
drown?
48:51
That's
48:51
true.
48:51
It's
48:52
sink
48:52
or
48:52
swim.
48:52
You
48:52
know,
48:52
you
48:53
made
48:53
the
48:53
decision,
48:54
and
48:55
it
48:55
breaks
48:56
like
48:56
what
48:56
we're
48:56
saying.
48:57
I
48:57
mean,
48:57
it
48:57
breaks
48:57
my
48:57
heart
48:57
to
48:58
think
48:58
that
48:58
some
48:58
women
48:58
feel
48:59
like
48:59
they
48:59
don't
48:59
have
49:00
the
49:00
choice
49:00
when
49:00
there
49:01
is
49:01
almost
49:02
always
49:02
a
49:02
choice,
49:02
don't
49:03
you
49:03
think?
49:03
I
49:03
mean,
49:03
there's
49:04
always
49:05
something,
49:06
and
49:06
it's
49:06
really
49:07
finding
49:07
that
49:08
within
49:08
yourself.
49:09
You
49:09
know,
49:09
I
49:09
think
49:09
a
49:10
lot
49:10
of
49:10
times
49:10
we
49:10
get
49:10
so
49:11
swayed
49:11
by
49:11
like
49:12
external
49:12
achievement
49:13
and
49:13
you
49:13
know,
49:14
there
49:14
are
49:14
all
49:14
these
49:15
things
49:15
that
49:15
we
49:15
see
49:15
on
49:15
the
49:16
outside,
49:16
but
49:16
how
49:16
do
49:17
we
49:17
really
49:17
turn
49:17
inwards?
49:18
You
49:18
know,
49:19
say
49:19
it's,
49:19
you
49:20
know,
49:20
woman
49:20
in
49:20
midlife,
49:21
she's
49:21
been
49:21
raising
49:21
kids,
49:22
she's
49:22
been
49:22
married,
49:22
stay
49:23
at
49:23
home,
49:23
mom,
49:23
you
49:24
know,
49:24
and
49:24
she
49:24
just
49:24
really
49:24
wants
49:25
to
49:25
find
49:25
out
49:25
who
49:25
she
49:26
is.
49:26
How
49:27
does
49:27
she
49:27
do
49:27
that?
49:28
Okay,
49:29
so
49:29
it's
49:29
gonna
49:29
be
49:29
down
49:29
to
49:29
each
49:30
individual,
49:30
but
49:30
it
49:31
has
49:31
to
49:31
be
49:31
going
49:32
internal.
49:32
So
49:33
I,
49:33
I
49:34
like
49:34
writing
49:34
lists,
49:35
I
49:35
like
49:35
just
49:35
getting
49:35
very
49:36
like,
49:36
no
49:36
bullshit.
49:37
What
49:37
does
49:37
this
49:37
actually
49:38
look
49:38
like?
49:38
And
49:39
so
49:39
I
49:39
think
49:39
the,
49:40
the
49:40
idea
49:41
of
49:41
I
49:41
want
49:42
to
49:42
live
49:42
the
49:42
life
49:42
for
49:42
me,
49:43
it's
49:43
like
49:43
you
49:43
have
49:43
to
49:43
really
49:44
figure
49:44
out
49:44
what
49:44
that
49:45
looks
49:45
like
49:45
and
49:45
what
49:45
fills
49:46
your
49:46
heart
49:46
and
49:46
what
49:46
doesn't.
49:47
And
49:47
that
49:47
goes
49:48
to
49:48
what
49:49
is
49:49
your
49:49
belief
49:49
system?
49:50
Because
49:50
I
49:51
think
49:51
a
49:51
lot
49:51
of
49:51
it
49:51
is
49:52
we
49:52
end
49:52
up
49:52
following
49:53
what
49:53
we
49:53
think
49:53
we
49:54
believe.
49:54
But
49:54
I
49:54
never
49:55
question,
49:55
so
49:56
I
49:56
would
49:56
stop,
49:56
start
49:56
with
49:56
just
49:57
writing
49:57
what
49:57
that
49:57
those
49:58
beliefs
49:58
are
49:58
like,
49:58
that
49:59
you
49:59
feel
49:59
like
49:59
that
50:00
you've
50:00
made
50:00
choices
50:01
that
50:01
have
50:01
led
50:01
you
50:02
to
50:02
where
50:02
you
50:02
are.
50:03
So
50:03
let's
50:03
take
50:04
one
50:04
as
50:04
an
50:04
example.
50:05
My
50:05
belief
50:05
is
50:06
as
50:06
a
50:06
woman,
50:06
I
50:07
should
50:07
be
50:07
a
50:07
mother.
50:08
And
50:09
so
50:09
let's
50:09
say
50:09
you
50:10
never
50:10
question
50:10
that.
50:11
So
50:11
you
50:11
go
50:12
and
50:12
you
50:12
have
50:12
children
50:13
and
50:13
now
50:13
you're
50:14
50
50:14
and
50:15
you
50:15
don't
50:15
know
50:15
how
50:15
to
50:15
live
50:15
your
50:16
life.
50:16
You
50:16
want
50:17
and
50:18
you
50:18
don't
50:18
know
50:18
how
50:18
you
50:19
got
50:19
there
50:19
and
50:19
you
50:19
don't
50:19
know
50:20
what
50:20
happened.
50:20
So
50:20
the
50:21
first
50:21
question
50:21
is,
50:21
okay,
50:22
well
50:22
what
50:22
beliefs
50:22
do
50:22
you
50:23
have?
50:23
Okay,
50:23
I
50:23
believe
50:24
that
50:24
as,
50:24
as
50:24
a
50:24
woman,
50:24
I
50:25
should
50:25
have
50:25
kids.
50:25
Okay,
50:26
do
50:26
you
50:26
still
50:26
believe
50:26
that?
50:27
And
50:28
look,
50:28
once
50:28
you've
50:28
had
50:28
the
50:29
kids,
50:29
it's
50:29
not
50:29
that
50:29
you
50:29
can
50:29
take
50:29
them
50:29
back,
50:30
but
50:30
what
50:30
I
50:30
mean
50:30
is
50:31
return
50:31
them.
50:32
But
50:32
what
50:33
I
50:33
mean
50:33
is
50:33
you
50:33
can
50:33
go,
50:34
oh,
50:34
I
50:34
love
50:34
my
50:35
children.
50:35
My
50:35
goal
50:36
absolutely
50:37
was
50:37
to
50:37
be
50:37
a
50:37
mother
50:38
and
50:38
nurture.
50:39
But
50:39
the
50:39
belief
50:39
that
50:40
I
50:40
have
50:40
to
50:40
be
50:40
there
50:41
for
50:41
everything
50:41
that
50:42
they
50:42
need,
50:42
do
50:43
I
50:43
really
50:43
want
50:44
to
50:44
live
50:44
that?
50:44
And
50:44
what
50:45
I
50:45
mean
50:45
by
50:45
that
50:45
is
50:46
there
50:46
are
50:46
some
50:46
women
50:47
who
50:47
still
50:48
will
50:48
show
50:48
up
50:49
for
50:49
their
50:49
children.
50:50
And
50:50
their
50:50
kids
50:50
are
50:50
30,
50:51
their
50:51
kids
50:51
are
50:51
40
50:52
and
50:52
they
50:52
will
50:52
live
50:52
their
50:53
lives
50:53
for
50:53
their
50:53
30
50:54
or
50:54
40
50:54
year
50:54
old
50:54
children.
50:55
And
50:56
so
50:56
look,
50:57
if
50:57
that's
50:57
what
50:57
you
50:57
want,
50:58
I'm
50:58
not
50:58
here
50:58
to
50:58
judge,
50:59
like
50:59
literally
50:59
everything
51:00
I
51:00
say
51:00
today.
51:00
I
51:00
have
51:01
zero
51:01
judgment
51:01
on
51:01
the
51:01
life
51:02
that
51:02
you
51:02
choose.
51:02
I
51:03
just
51:03
go,
51:03
does
51:03
it
51:03
serve
51:03
you?
51:04
Are
51:04
you
51:04
happy?
51:04
And
51:04
what
51:04
are
51:05
you
51:05
going
51:05
to
51:05
do
51:05
about
51:05
it?
51:06
So
51:06
now
51:06
going
51:06
back
51:06
to
51:06
choices
51:07
in
51:07
your
51:07
question,
51:08
if
51:08
you're
51:08
in
51:09
your
51:09
50s
51:09
and
51:10
you're
51:11
still
51:11
spending
51:11
time
51:12
dedicating
51:12
your
51:12
life
51:13
to
51:13
your
51:13
children,
51:15
do
51:16
you.
51:17
Does
51:17
that
51:17
fulfill
51:17
you?
51:18
Or
51:18
is
51:18
that
51:19
what
51:19
society
51:20
has
51:20
told
51:20
you
51:21
that
51:21
you
51:21
should
51:21
do?
51:22
And
51:22
if
51:23
you
51:23
write
51:23
down
51:23
and
51:24
you
51:24
start
51:24
to
51:24
write,
51:25
well,
51:25
this
51:25
is
51:25
what
51:25
I
51:25
was
51:25
told
51:26
and
51:26
this
51:26
is
51:26
what
51:26
I
51:26
believe.
51:27
You
51:27
could
51:27
start
51:28
to
51:28
see
51:28
the
51:28
discrepancies
51:29
now
51:30
in
51:30
that,
51:31
like
51:31
you
51:31
can
51:32
say,
51:32
for
51:32
instance,
51:33
you're
51:34
really,
51:35
I
51:36
really
51:36
want
51:36
to
51:36
show
51:36
up
51:36
for
51:36
my
51:37
children,
51:38
but
51:38
I
51:38
need
51:38
to
51:38
do
51:39
self
51:39
care.
51:39
I
51:40
know
51:40
a
51:40
lot
51:40
of
51:40
mothers
51:41
that
51:41
won't
51:41
do
51:41
self
51:41
care.
51:41
They'll
51:42
show
51:42
up
51:42
for
51:42
their
51:42
kids
51:42
kids.
51:44
And
51:44
I
51:44
think
51:44
about
51:45
long
51:45
term.
51:46
Now
51:47
that
51:47
may
51:47
be
51:47
a
51:47
belief
51:48
system
51:48
that
51:48
you
51:48
truly
51:49
want
51:49
and
51:49
it
51:50
serves
51:50
you,
51:50
or
51:51
it
51:51
may
51:51
be
51:51
something
51:51
where
51:52
you
51:52
feel
51:52
like
51:52
you
51:52
have
51:52
to.
51:53
And
51:53
so
51:54
I
51:54
really
51:54
want
51:54
to
51:54
hammer
51:54
the,
51:55
the
51:55
thing
51:55
that
51:55
you
51:56
said
51:56
about
51:56
choices.
51:57
I
51:57
think
51:57
we
51:57
can
51:58
conflate
51:59
choices
52:00
with
52:00
have
52:01
to's.
52:02
So
52:02
we
52:02
think
52:03
we
52:03
have
52:03
to.
52:04
I'm
52:05
not
52:05
even
52:05
talking
52:05
about
52:05
parenthood
52:06
right
52:06
now.
52:06
I'm
52:06
just
52:06
taking
52:07
saying
52:08
in
52:08
life,
52:08
we
52:09
think
52:09
we
52:09
have
52:09
to,
52:10
but
52:10
really
52:10
it's
52:11
a
52:11
choice
52:11
that
52:11
we
52:11
just
52:11
don't
52:12
like.
52:13
So
52:13
I
52:13
was
52:13
coaching
52:14
and
52:15
this
52:15
one
52:16
person
52:16
came
52:17
up
52:17
to
52:17
me
52:17
and
52:17
she's
52:17
like,
52:18
lisa,
52:20
I've
52:20
had
52:20
a
52:21
kid
52:21
and
52:21
I've
52:22
re.
52:22
I
52:22
like,
52:22
I
52:22
really
52:23
wanted
52:23
to
52:23
have
52:23
this
52:23
baby,
52:24
but
52:24
I
52:24
also
52:24
had
52:24
this
52:25
dream
52:25
about
52:25
having
52:25
a
52:25
business.
52:26
So
52:26
I've
52:26
got
52:26
this
52:27
little
52:27
baby.
52:28
It's
52:28
so
52:28
cute.
52:29
I
52:29
build
52:29
my
52:29
business,
52:30
I've
52:30
got
52:30
my
52:30
baby
52:31
with
52:31
me,
52:31
and
52:31
I
52:32
feel
52:32
really
52:32
good
52:32
about
52:33
what
52:33
I'm
52:33
doing.
52:34
But
52:34
every
52:34
single
52:35
day,
52:35
my
52:35
dad
52:35
comes
52:36
over
52:36
for
52:36
dinner
52:37
and
52:37
he
52:37
makes
52:38
me
52:38
feel
52:38
guilty
52:39
that
52:39
I've
52:39
started
52:39
a
52:40
new
52:40
business
52:40
when
52:40
I
52:40
have
52:41
a
52:41
newborn.
52:43
And
52:43
she
52:43
says,
52:44
it's
52:44
getting
52:44
to
52:44
the
52:45
point
52:45
where
52:45
my
52:45
self
52:45
esteem
52:46
has
52:46
plummeted.
52:47
I'm
52:47
questioning,
52:48
am
52:48
I
52:48
a
52:48
good
52:48
mother?
52:49
I'm
52:49
questioning
52:50
everything.
52:50
What
52:51
should
52:51
I
52:51
do?
52:52
And
52:52
I
52:52
said,
52:53
well,
52:53
you
52:53
started
52:53
with
52:54
how
52:54
happy
52:54
you
52:55
were
52:55
that
52:55
you
52:55
had
52:55
the
52:55
baby
52:55
and
52:55
built
52:56
your
52:56
business,
52:56
because
52:56
I
52:56
am.
52:57
And
52:57
I
52:57
said,
52:57
so
52:58
you're
52:58
saying
52:58
to
52:58
me
52:59
right
52:59
now
52:59
that
52:59
your
52:59
dad
53:00
is
53:00
the
53:00
person
53:00
that's
53:00
making
53:00
you
53:01
feel
53:01
guilty.
53:01
Correct.
53:02
And
53:02
I
53:02
said,
53:02
well,
53:02
your
53:03
dad
53:03
comes
53:03
to
53:03
your
53:03
house.
53:04
Yes.
53:04
I
53:05
was
53:05
like,
53:05
why
53:05
do
53:05
you
53:05
let
53:05
him
53:05
in?
53:07
Good
53:07
point.
53:07
And
53:08
she
53:08
goes,
53:08
well,
53:09
he's
53:09
got
53:09
a
53:09
key.
53:10
And
53:10
I'm
53:10
like,
53:10
okay,
53:11
it's
53:12
your
53:12
house.
53:12
Correct?
53:13
Yes.
53:13
I
53:13
was
53:13
like,
53:13
you
53:13
can
53:14
take
53:14
the
53:14
key
53:14
away.
53:15
She
53:15
goes,
53:15
no,
53:15
I
53:15
can't.
53:16
I'm
53:16
like,
53:16
yes,
53:17
you
53:17
can.
53:17
You
53:17
just
53:17
choose
53:18
not
53:18
to.
53:19
And
53:19
here's
53:19
the
53:19
thing,
53:20
I'm
53:20
not
53:20
judging
53:21
that
53:21
you
53:21
choose
53:22
not
53:22
to.
53:23
But
53:23
you
53:23
are
53:23
being
53:24
blind
53:24
to
53:24
yourself
53:25
and
53:25
you're
53:26
fooling
53:26
yourself
53:27
by
53:27
thinking
53:27
you
53:27
don't
53:28
have
53:28
a
53:28
choice.
53:29
That's
53:30
where,
53:30
as
53:30
a
53:31
woman,
53:31
I
53:31
think
53:31
we'd
53:32
give
53:32
our
53:32
power
53:32
away.
53:33
I
53:33
can't.
53:34
I
53:34
don't
53:34
have
53:34
a
53:34
choice.
53:34
Yes,
53:35
you
53:35
do.
53:35
Now,
53:36
if
53:36
you
53:36
turn
53:36
around
53:36
and
53:37
you
53:37
go,
53:37
my
53:38
choices
53:38
are
53:39
my
53:40
dad
53:40
feels
53:41
hurt,
53:41
heartbroken,
53:42
neglected
53:43
by
53:44
me
53:44
taking
53:44
the
53:45
keys
53:45
away.
53:45
That's
53:46
one
53:46
side.
53:46
But
53:46
then
53:47
I
53:47
have
53:47
peace
53:47
and
53:47
I
53:48
can
53:48
build
53:48
my
53:48
business
53:48
and
53:49
love
53:49
my
53:49
child
53:49
exactly
53:49
how
53:50
I
53:50
want.
53:50
That's
53:50
one
53:51
option.
53:51
Or
53:52
you
53:52
say,
53:53
I
53:53
know
53:54
what
53:54
my
53:54
dad's
53:54
going
53:55
to
53:55
do
53:55
that
53:55
every
53:55
day
53:55
he's
53:56
going
53:56
to
53:56
come
53:56
over
53:56
and
53:56
make
53:56
me
53:57
feel
53:57
guilty.
53:57
But
53:57
I
53:57
would
53:58
rather
53:58
that
53:59
then
53:59
him
54:00
feel
54:00
like
54:01
I
54:01
have
54:01
abandoned
54:02
him.
54:03
It's
54:03
a
54:04
choice.
54:05
Once
54:05
you
54:05
actually
54:06
address
54:06
it
54:06
like
54:06
that,
54:07
I
54:07
think
54:08
a
54:08
lot
54:08
of
54:08
the
54:09
resentment
54:10
goes
54:10
away.
54:11
And
54:11
going
54:12
back
54:12
to
54:12
us
54:12
women
54:12
giving
54:13
our
54:13
power
54:13
away.
54:13
You
54:13
have
54:14
the
54:14
freaking
54:14
power.
54:14
It's
54:14
your
54:15
bloody
54:15
house.
54:15
It
54:15
is
54:15
your
54:16
key.
54:16
And
54:17
don't
54:17
you
54:17
dare
54:18
think
54:18
that
54:19
your
54:19
dad
54:19
has
54:19
the
54:20
power.
54:21
That's
54:21
where
54:21
we
54:21
trick
54:22
and
54:22
that's
54:23
where
54:23
we
54:23
play.
54:24
I
54:24
don't
54:24
mean
54:24
this
54:25
in
54:25
a
54:25
harsh
54:25
way,
54:25
but
54:26
I
54:26
do
54:26
like
54:26
using
54:26
harsh
54:27
language.
54:27
That's
54:28
where
54:28
in
54:28
the
54:28
future
54:28
we
54:28
play
54:28
the
54:29
victim.
54:29
But
54:30
I
54:30
didn't
54:30
have
54:30
a
54:30
choice.
54:31
Yes,
54:31
you
54:31
did.
54:31
Yes,
54:32
you
54:32
did.
54:33
And
54:33
honestly,
54:34
I
54:34
think
54:35
that's
54:35
the
54:35
most
54:35
empowering
54:36
thing
54:36
I
54:36
can
54:36
bloody
54:36
say.
54:37
Yes.
54:37
And
54:37
sometimes
54:37
that
54:37
choice
54:38
is
54:38
uncomfortable.
54:39
It
54:39
is
54:39
1000%.
54:40
A
54:40
lot
54:40
of
54:40
the
54:40
times
54:41
it's
54:41
society,
54:41
what
54:42
we've
54:42
grown
54:42
up
54:42
with.
54:42
You
54:43
know,
54:43
don't
54:44
create
54:44
problems,
54:44
don't
54:44
create
54:45
drama.
54:45
Don't
54:45
do
54:46
something
54:46
that's
54:46
going
54:46
to
54:47
upset
54:47
somebody
54:47
else.
54:48
We're
54:48
constantly
54:48
thinking
54:49
about
54:49
other
54:49
people
54:50
and
54:50
we're
54:50
not
54:51
thinking
54:51
about
54:51
ourselves.
54:52
Yes.
54:52
Right.
54:52
And
54:53
then
54:53
the
54:53
question
54:53
is,
54:53
how's
54:54
that
54:54
working
54:54
for
54:54
you?
54:54
Right.
54:55
That's
54:56
right.
54:56
You
54:56
know,
54:56
and
54:58
Einstein,
54:58
famous
54:59
quote,
54:59
definition
54:59
of
54:59
insanity
55:00
is
55:00
doing
55:00
the
55:00
same
55:01
thing
55:01
expecting
55:01
a
55:01
different
55:01
result.
55:02
And
55:02
once
55:03
I
55:03
started
55:03
to
55:03
realize
55:04
that,
55:04
once
55:04
I
55:04
started
55:05
to
55:05
realize
55:05
that
55:05
my
55:06
life
55:06
is
55:06
my
55:06
life
55:07
and
55:07
no
55:07
one,
55:07
including
55:08
my
55:08
husband,
55:08
gets
55:08
to
55:09
dictate
55:09
how
55:09
I
55:09
show
55:09
up
55:10
every
55:10
day.
55:10
My
55:11
dad,
55:11
like,
55:11
no
55:12
one
55:12
gets
55:12
to
55:12
that
55:13
again,
55:13
was
55:13
so
55:14
empowering.
55:14
Now
55:15
I'm
55:15
always
55:15
trying
55:15
to
55:16
learn
55:16
and
55:16
grow
55:17
of
55:17
how
55:17
I
55:17
can
55:18
set
55:18
boundaries
55:18
with
55:18
grace.
55:19
I
55:19
used
55:20
to
55:20
come
55:20
in,
55:20
like,
55:20
because
55:21
I
55:21
was
55:21
so
55:21
petrified
55:21
of
55:22
setting
55:22
a
55:22
boundary.
55:22
I
55:22
was
55:23
like,
55:23
a
55:23
bit
55:23
of
55:23
a
55:23
about
55:23
it,
55:24
if
55:24
I'm
55:24
going
55:24
to
55:24
be
55:24
honest.
55:24
I
55:25
was
55:25
like,
55:25
well,
55:25
if
55:25
you
55:25
kind
55:25
of
55:25
put,
55:26
you
55:26
know,
55:26
respect
55:26
this
55:27
boundary,
55:27
then
55:27
you
55:27
can
55:28
f
55:28
off
55:28
like,
55:29
okay,
55:29
that's
55:29
just
55:29
not
55:29
A
55:30
polite
55:30
way
55:30
of
55:30
doing
55:30
it.
55:31
I've
55:31
now
55:31
figured
55:31
out
55:32
better
55:32
ways
55:32
to
55:32
set
55:32
boundaries
55:34
with
55:34
a
55:34
lot
55:34
more
55:34
grace
55:34
and
55:35
calmness.
55:36
But
55:36
if
55:37
that's
55:37
what
55:37
you
55:37
have
55:37
to
55:37
do
55:38
to
55:38
like,
55:38
if
55:38
you
55:38
have
55:38
to
55:38
go
55:39
extreme
55:39
in
55:39
order
55:39
to
55:40
find
55:40
the
55:40
middle,
55:40
like
55:40
keep
55:41
working
55:41
at
55:41
it.
55:42
But
55:42
if
55:43
you
55:43
just
55:43
keep
55:43
blaming
55:44
everybody
55:44
else,
55:45
if
55:45
you
55:45
find
55:45
yourself
55:46
saying
55:46
it's
55:46
not
55:46
my
55:47
fault,
55:48
like
55:48
some
55:48
things
55:48
aren't
55:49
your
55:49
fault,
55:49
some
55:49
things
55:49
are
55:50
other
55:50
people,
55:51
like
55:51
that's
55:51
actually
55:51
true
55:52
if
55:52
you're
55:52
in
55:52
a
55:53
relationship
55:53
and
55:53
the
55:53
guy's
55:53
toxic
55:54
or
55:54
worse,
55:55
a
55:55
narcissist
55:55
or
55:55
a
55:56
psychopath,
55:56
like
55:56
there's
55:57
nothing
55:57
you,
55:57
you
55:58
personally
55:58
can
55:58
do
55:59
to
55:59
change
55:59
him.
56:00
But
56:00
you
56:01
absolutely,
56:02
once
56:02
you
56:02
spot
56:03
it
56:03
and
56:04
recognize
56:04
it,
56:05
have
56:05
the
56:05
power
56:06
to
56:06
navigate
56:07
leaving
56:07
it's
56:08
not
56:08
going
56:08
to
56:08
be
56:08
easy.
56:08
So
56:09
I'm
56:09
definitely
56:09
not
56:09
victim
56:10
blaming
56:10
there
56:10
at
56:11
all.
56:11
But
56:12
going
56:12
back
56:12
to
56:12
your
56:12
point
56:12
is
56:13
we've
56:13
been
56:13
taught
56:13
a
56:13
certain
56:14
thing,
56:15
that
56:15
even
56:15
if
56:15
a
56:16
guy's
56:16
verbally
56:16
abusive,
56:17
but
56:17
if
56:17
he
56:18
says
56:18
he
56:18
loves
56:18
you,
56:18
it's
56:18
okay.
56:19
Like
56:19
we've
56:19
been
56:19
taught
56:20
all
56:20
that,
56:20
that's
56:20
not
56:20
our
56:21
fault.
56:22
But
56:22
I
56:22
now
56:22
have
56:23
a
56:23
choice
56:23
to
56:23
address
56:25
whether
56:25
I
56:25
want
56:25
to
56:26
do
56:26
something
56:26
different
56:27
in
56:27
my
56:27
life.
56:28
And
56:28
if
56:28
that
56:29
is
56:29
leaving
56:30
this
56:30
toxic
56:30
relationship,
56:31
I
56:31
can
56:32
figure
56:32
out
56:32
ways
56:32
to
56:32
do
56:33
it.
56:33
And
56:34
if
56:34
I
56:34
am
56:34
able
56:35
to
56:35
take
56:35
that
56:35
ownership,
56:36
it
56:36
becomes
56:37
powerful.
56:37
I
56:37
feel
56:38
good
56:38
about
56:38
myself
56:39
my
56:39
entire
56:40
life.
56:40
The
56:40
time
56:40
that
56:40
I
56:41
felt
56:41
the
56:41
worst
56:41
is
56:42
when
56:42
I
56:42
was
56:42
giving
56:42
it
56:42
away
56:43
to
56:43
everybody
56:43
else.
56:44
Will
56:45
I
56:45
have
56:45
to
56:45
be
56:45
a
56:45
stay
56:45
at
56:45
home
56:46
wife
56:46
life?
56:46
I
56:46
have
56:47
to.
56:47
I'm
56:48
curious
56:49
because
56:49
you've
56:49
done
56:49
so
56:50
much
56:50
great
56:50
work,
56:50
you
56:51
know,
56:51
on
56:51
yourself
56:51
and
56:52
it's
56:53
actually
56:53
so
56:53
amazing.
56:54
I'm
56:54
wondering
56:54
though,
56:55
do
56:55
you
56:55
have
56:55
regrets?
56:56
Oh,
56:57
this
56:57
is
56:57
one
56:57
of
56:57
those
56:58
tricky
56:58
questions
56:59
because
57:00
I
57:00
the
57:01
truth,
57:01
a
57:01
thousand
57:02
percent
57:02
is
57:03
I
57:03
really
57:03
wouldn't
57:04
be
57:04
who
57:04
I
57:04
am
57:04
today
57:05
sitting
57:05
on
57:05
this
57:05
couch
57:05
with
57:06
the
57:06
exact
57:06
words
57:06
coming
57:07
out
57:07
my
57:07
mouth.
57:08
If
57:08
I
57:08
hadn't
57:08
have
57:08
gone
57:09
through
57:09
everything
57:09
that
57:09
I've
57:10
gone
57:10
through.
57:10
But
57:11
if
57:11
I
57:11
had
57:11
a
57:11
man,
57:12
magic
57:12
wand
57:12
and
57:12
you
57:12
said
57:13
to
57:13
me,
57:13
Lisa,
57:13
you
57:13
could
57:14
still
57:14
be
57:14
the
57:14
person
57:15
you
57:15
are
57:15
today
57:16
and
57:16
make
57:17
changes
57:17
to
57:17
your
57:18
past.
57:18
Of
57:18
course
57:18
I
57:18
would
57:18
have
57:19
changed
57:19
things
57:19
in
57:19
my
57:19
past.
57:20
So
57:20
it's
57:20
a
57:20
bit
57:21
of
57:21
a
57:21
tricky
57:21
question.
57:23
But
57:23
the
57:23
thing
57:24
that
57:24
I
57:24
would
57:24
change
57:24
the
57:25
most
57:25
is
57:26
never
57:27
associating
57:28
my
57:28
looks
57:30
with
57:30
acceptance
57:31
and
57:31
my
57:31
own
57:32
confidence.
57:33
Because
57:33
that
57:33
was
57:34
the
57:34
thing
57:34
that
57:34
wrecked
57:35
my
57:35
gut.
57:35
And
57:36
my
57:36
gut
57:37
has
57:37
been
57:38
been
57:38
the
57:38
hardest
57:39
thing
57:39
I've
57:39
ever
57:39
had
57:40
to
57:40
navigate
57:40
because
57:40
it's
57:41
been
57:41
now
57:42
over
57:42
10
57:42
years,
57:44
my
57:44
hormones,
57:45
I
57:45
mean
57:45
I've
57:45
barely
57:45
had
57:46
any
57:46
hormones
57:46
because
57:46
I
57:47
can't
57:47
eat.
57:47
So
57:48
my
57:48
estrogen
57:49
is
57:49
non
57:49
existent.
57:50
I
57:50
haven't
57:51
had
57:51
a
57:51
period
57:51
in
57:51
12
57:51
years.
57:53
Again
57:53
saying
57:54
that
57:54
I
57:54
wasn't
57:54
able
57:54
to
57:55
emotionally
57:56
connect
57:56
with
57:56
my
57:57
husband
57:57
or
57:57
intimately
57:58
connect
57:58
with
57:58
my
57:58
husband.
57:59
Like
57:59
all
57:59
of
57:59
that
58:00
was
58:00
crappy
58:00
and
58:01
all
58:01
of
58:01
that
58:01
was
58:02
shitty.
58:02
And
58:02
when
58:02
you're
58:02
not
58:03
eating
58:03
you
58:03
get.
58:03
Get
58:04
depressed
58:04
and
58:04
you
58:05
feel
58:05
badly
58:05
about
58:06
yourself.
58:06
And
58:06
so
58:07
that
58:08
was
58:08
hard.
58:09
And
58:09
there
58:10
was
58:10
a
58:10
moment
58:10
about
58:11
probably
58:11
last
58:12
year
58:12
that
58:12
I
58:12
again
58:12
been
58:13
doing
58:13
all
58:13
this
58:13
work
58:13
and
58:14
always
58:14
trying
58:14
to
58:14
evolve
58:15
that
58:16
I
58:16
looked
58:16
at
58:16
myself
58:16
in
58:17
the
58:17
mirror
58:18
and
58:19
I
58:19
used
58:19
to
58:19
judge
58:20
myself
58:20
and
58:20
insult
58:21
my
58:21
gut
58:21
like,
58:21
I
58:22
can't
58:22
fucking
58:22
believe
58:22
you
58:23
gave
58:23
up.
58:23
You're
58:23
so
58:23
bloody
58:24
weak.
58:24
Blah,
58:24
blah,
58:25
blah.
58:25
And
58:26
it
58:26
just
58:26
hit
58:26
me.
58:27
It
58:27
saved
58:28
me.
58:29
And
58:29
this
58:29
whole,
58:29
whole
58:30
time,
58:30
for
58:30
10
58:31
years
58:31
I've
58:31
been
58:32
beating
58:33
myself
58:33
up
58:33
that
58:33
my
58:34
gut
58:34
wasn't
58:34
strong
58:34
enough.
58:36
And
58:36
in
58:36
it
58:37
sounds
58:37
a
58:37
little
58:37
woo
58:37
and
58:37
I'm
58:38
not
58:38
a
58:38
woo
58:38
woo
58:38
person,
58:38
but
58:38
I
58:39
just
58:39
hugged
58:39
my
58:39
stomach
58:40
and
58:41
I
58:41
just
58:41
looked
58:41
in
58:41
the
58:42
mirror
58:42
and
58:42
I
58:42
thanked
58:43
it
58:44
and
58:45
I
58:45
said,
58:45
I'm
58:46
so
58:46
sorry.
58:46
This
58:47
whole
58:47
time
58:47
I've
58:47
been
58:48
calling
58:48
you
58:48
weak
58:49
and
58:50
yet
58:50
you're
58:51
actually
58:51
strong
58:51
because
58:52
you've
58:52
kept
58:52
me
58:52
alive.
58:53
You're
58:54
strong
58:54
because
58:54
you've
58:55
allowed
58:55
me
58:55
to
58:55
keep
58:55
doing
58:56
the
58:56
thing
58:56
that
58:56
I
58:56
love.
58:57
And
58:57
that
58:58
became
58:58
the
58:58
pivotal
58:59
moment
58:59
for
58:59
me
59:00
of
59:00
like,
59:01
wow,
59:01
I've
59:02
been
59:02
doing
59:02
this
59:02
all
59:02
wrong.
59:03
And
59:03
so
59:04
of
59:04
course
59:04
if
59:04
I
59:04
could
59:04
change
59:05
that,
59:05
I
59:06
would.
59:06
But
59:06
it's
59:06
taught
59:07
me
59:07
so
59:07
many
59:07
lessons.
59:08
So
59:09
again,
59:09
it's.
59:10
It's
59:10
a
59:10
hard
59:11
question,
59:11
but
59:11
hopefully
59:12
that
59:12
was
59:13
honest
59:13
enough
59:13
to.
59:14
Absolutely.
59:14
I
59:15
feel
59:15
the
59:15
same
59:15
too.
59:15
It's
59:16
like
59:16
I've.
59:16
Everything
59:16
that
59:17
I've
59:17
done
59:17
has
59:17
brought
59:17
me
59:18
to
59:18
this
59:18
place
59:19
where
59:19
we're
59:19
sitting
59:20
and
59:20
talking,
59:20
you
59:20
know,
59:20
and
59:21
it.
59:21
I
59:21
look
59:22
back
59:22
in
59:22
the
59:22
past
59:22
and
59:23
I
59:23
think
59:23
about
59:23
myself
59:23
in
59:23
the.
59:24
The
59:24
twenties
59:24
and
59:25
say,
59:25
gosh,
59:26
should
59:26
I
59:26
have
59:26
done
59:27
this
59:27
or
59:27
should
59:27
I
59:27
have
59:28
done
59:28
that?
59:28
But
59:28
you
59:28
know
59:28
what?
59:29
I
59:30
wouldn't
59:30
be
59:30
sitting
59:30
here
59:30
right
59:31
now
59:31
if
59:31
it
59:31
wasn't,
59:32
you
59:32
know.
59:33
But
59:33
yeah,
59:33
there
59:33
are
59:33
a
59:34
couple
59:34
things
59:34
I
59:34
changed.
59:35
I'm
59:35
like,
59:35
should
59:35
I
59:35
really
59:36
dated
59:36
that
59:36
guy?
59:38
Well,
59:38
even
59:39
that,
59:39
like
59:39
before
59:39
I
59:39
met
59:40
my
59:40
husband,
59:40
my
59:40
ex
59:41
was
59:41
an
59:42
and.
59:43
But
59:43
here's
59:44
what
59:44
happened.
59:45
I
59:45
followed.
59:46
I
59:46
dated
59:47
someone
59:47
that
59:48
I
59:48
had
59:48
kind
59:49
of
59:49
grown
59:49
up
59:49
to
59:49
be.
59:49
Be
59:50
tore.
59:50
I
59:50
don't
59:51
really
59:51
want
59:51
to
59:51
blame
59:51
society
59:52
for
59:52
this,
59:52
but
59:52
I
59:52
dated
59:53
the
59:53
guy
59:53
that
59:53
had
59:53
the
59:54
rims
59:54
and
59:54
that
59:55
had
59:55
the
59:55
stereo
59:55
and
59:56
that
59:56
had
59:56
like
59:56
the
59:57
expensive
59:57
clothes
59:58
and
59:58
the
59:58
earring.
59:59
But
59:59
I
59:59
was
59:59
up
1:00:00
in
1:00:00
the
1:00:00
90s
1:00:00
guys.
1:00:01
But
1:00:01
like,
1:00:01
like
1:00:01
those
1:00:02
were
1:00:02
the
1:00:02
guys.
1:00:03
I
1:00:03
dated
1:00:03
all
1:00:03
of
1:00:03
those
1:00:04
guys
1:00:04
and
1:00:04
they
1:00:04
were
1:00:04
all.
1:00:06
And
1:00:06
then
1:00:06
I
1:00:06
met
1:00:06
Tom
1:00:07
and
1:00:07
on
1:00:07
the
1:00:08
very
1:00:08
first
1:00:08
date,
1:00:09
he
1:00:09
walks
1:00:10
me
1:00:10
to
1:00:10
his
1:00:10
car
1:00:10
and
1:00:11
it's
1:00:11
a
1:00:11
pile
1:00:11
of
1:00:12
crap.
1:00:12
I
1:00:13
mean,
1:00:13
a
1:00:13
pile
1:00:14
of
1:00:14
crap.
1:00:14
It
1:00:15
was
1:00:15
a.
1:00:15
Was
1:00:15
an
1:00:15
old
1:00:16
car.
1:00:16
It
1:00:16
was
1:00:17
like
1:00:17
an
1:00:17
old
1:00:18
man's
1:00:18
car.
1:00:19
It
1:00:19
was
1:00:19
dirty.
1:00:20
His
1:00:20
back
1:00:20
seat,
1:00:21
he
1:00:21
didn't
1:00:21
have
1:00:21
the
1:00:21
rims.
1:00:21
He
1:00:22
didn't
1:00:22
have
1:00:22
the
1:00:22
stereo.
1:00:23
Right.
1:00:23
So
1:00:23
here
1:00:23
I
1:00:23
am,
1:00:24
Judgment,
1:00:24
judgment,
1:00:24
judgment.
1:00:25
And
1:00:25
then
1:00:25
you
1:00:25
know
1:00:25
what
1:00:26
he
1:00:26
did?
1:00:26
He
1:00:26
opened
1:00:27
the
1:00:27
car
1:00:27
door
1:00:27
for
1:00:27
me.
1:00:28
I
1:00:29
was
1:00:29
21
1:00:29
years
1:00:29
old.
1:00:30
I
1:00:30
dated
1:00:30
a
1:00:30
ton
1:00:31
of
1:00:31
guys
1:00:31
before
1:00:31
that.
1:00:31
And
1:00:32
he
1:00:32
was
1:00:32
the
1:00:32
first
1:00:32
man
1:00:33
in
1:00:33
my
1:00:33
life
1:00:33
to
1:00:33
ever
1:00:34
hold
1:00:34
the
1:00:34
car
1:00:34
door
1:00:35
for
1:00:35
me.
1:00:35
And
1:00:36
so
1:00:36
in
1:00:36
that
1:00:36
moment,
1:00:36
I
1:00:37
was
1:00:37
like,
1:00:37
screw
1:00:38
that,
1:00:38
I
1:00:38
hate
1:00:38
the
1:00:39
car.
1:00:39
This
1:00:39
is
1:00:39
so
1:00:39
lovely.
1:00:40
I
1:00:40
can't
1:00:40
believe
1:00:40
he
1:00:40
just
1:00:40
did
1:00:41
that.
1:00:41
That,
1:00:41
like.
1:00:42
And
1:00:42
he
1:00:42
waited
1:00:42
for
1:00:42
me
1:00:42
to
1:00:43
get
1:00:43
in
1:00:43
and
1:00:43
he
1:00:43
closed
1:00:44
the
1:00:44
door
1:00:44
behind
1:00:44
me.
1:00:45
And
1:00:45
so
1:00:46
having
1:00:46
dated
1:00:47
the
1:00:47
rims,
1:00:48
the
1:00:48
cars,
1:00:49
and
1:00:49
realizing
1:00:50
they
1:00:50
were
1:00:50
all
1:00:51
actually
1:00:52
then
1:00:52
allowed
1:00:53
me
1:00:53
to
1:00:53
spot
1:00:54
the
1:00:54
true
1:00:55
gentleman
1:00:56
when
1:00:56
he
1:00:56
came.
1:00:57
So
1:00:58
even
1:00:58
that
1:00:59
again,
1:00:59
like,
1:00:59
I
1:00:59
could
1:00:59
say,
1:01:00
yes,
1:01:00
I
1:01:00
wish
1:01:00
I
1:01:00
hadn't
1:01:01
dated
1:01:01
that
1:01:01
guy.
1:01:02
And.
1:01:03
But
1:01:04
I
1:01:04
don't.
1:01:04
And
1:01:04
look,
1:01:04
I
1:01:05
don't
1:01:05
want
1:01:05
to
1:01:05
be
1:01:05
just.
1:01:07
Was
1:01:07
it
1:01:07
fairy
1:01:08
taleistic?
1:01:09
I
1:01:09
just,
1:01:09
like,
1:01:09
made
1:01:09
that
1:01:09
word
1:01:09
up.
1:01:10
But
1:01:10
I
1:01:10
don't
1:01:11
want
1:01:11
to
1:01:11
pretend,
1:01:11
though,
1:01:11
that
1:01:12
it's
1:01:13
all
1:01:13
peaches
1:01:13
and
1:01:13
cream
1:01:14
and
1:01:14
everything
1:01:15
in
1:01:15
our
1:01:15
lives.
1:01:15
Like,
1:01:16
my
1:01:16
gut
1:01:17
has
1:01:17
been
1:01:17
tremendously
1:01:19
impactful.
1:01:19
And
1:01:19
there
1:01:20
are
1:01:20
women
1:01:20
who've
1:01:20
dated
1:01:21
guys
1:01:21
that
1:01:22
have
1:01:22
scarred
1:01:22
them
1:01:22
for
1:01:23
the
1:01:23
rest
1:01:23
of
1:01:23
their
1:01:23
life.
1:01:23
So
1:01:24
I
1:01:24
don't
1:01:24
want
1:01:24
to
1:01:24
be
1:01:24
flippant
1:01:25
on
1:01:25
that.
1:01:26
And
1:01:26
I
1:01:26
do
1:01:26
think
1:01:26
sometimes
1:01:27
it
1:01:27
is
1:01:27
hard
1:01:27
to
1:01:27
always
1:01:28
see
1:01:28
the
1:01:28
positive
1:01:28
when
1:01:29
you're
1:01:29
going
1:01:29
through
1:01:29
crap.
1:01:30
And
1:01:30
that
1:01:30
is
1:01:31
where
1:01:31
I
1:01:31
go,
1:01:31
okay,
1:01:32
it
1:01:32
is
1:01:32
human
1:01:32
nature
1:01:33
to
1:01:34
focus
1:01:35
on
1:01:35
the
1:01:35
negative.
1:01:35
That's
1:01:35
what
1:01:36
we're
1:01:36
built
1:01:36
for,
1:01:36
right?
1:01:36
Protect
1:01:37
yourself.
1:01:37
I
1:01:37
mean,
1:01:37
that
1:01:38
saved
1:01:38
our
1:01:38
lives
1:01:38
when
1:01:39
we
1:01:39
were
1:01:39
back
1:01:39
in
1:01:39
the
1:01:39
village
1:01:40
days,
1:01:40
so
1:01:40
I
1:01:41
understand
1:01:41
that.
1:01:41
But
1:01:42
I've
1:01:42
just
1:01:42
learned
1:01:42
the
1:01:43
skill
1:01:43
set
1:01:44
to
1:01:45
reframe
1:01:46
things
1:01:47
in
1:01:47
those
1:01:48
moments
1:01:48
so
1:01:48
they
1:01:48
don't
1:01:49
cripple
1:01:49
me.
1:01:50
And
1:01:50
that
1:01:50
in
1:01:50
and
1:01:50
of
1:01:51
itself
1:01:51
is
1:01:51
a
1:01:52
skill
1:01:52
set.
1:01:52
And
1:01:53
so
1:01:53
if
1:01:53
someone
1:01:53
could
1:01:53
just
1:01:54
start
1:01:54
there
1:01:54
and
1:01:54
that
1:01:55
can
1:01:55
be
1:01:55
even
1:01:55
a
1:01:55
skill
1:01:55
that
1:01:56
they
1:01:56
want
1:01:56
to
1:01:56
focus
1:01:56
on
1:01:56
for
1:01:57
now,
1:01:57
it's
1:01:57
like,
1:01:57
okay,
1:01:57
every
1:01:58
time
1:01:58
something
1:01:58
negative
1:01:59
happens,
1:01:59
I'm
1:02:00
going
1:02:00
to
1:02:00
work
1:02:01
on
1:02:01
using
1:02:01
that
1:02:02
to
1:02:02
propel
1:02:02
me
1:02:03
to
1:02:03
see
1:02:03
something
1:02:03
positive.
1:02:04
Not
1:02:04
toxic
1:02:05
positivity,
1:02:05
but
1:02:06
give
1:02:06
me
1:02:06
a
1:02:06
different
1:02:06
framing
1:02:07
of
1:02:07
it.
1:02:08
And
1:02:08
if
1:02:08
you
1:02:08
keep
1:02:09
practicing
1:02:09
that,
1:02:09
then
1:02:10
maybe,
1:02:10
hopefully
1:02:11
you
1:02:11
can
1:02:11
start
1:02:11
like,
1:02:12
it
1:02:12
ends
1:02:12
up
1:02:13
echoing
1:02:13
throughout
1:02:13
your
1:02:13
entire
1:02:14
life.
1:02:15
Absolutely.
1:02:16
So
1:02:16
what
1:02:16
advice
1:02:16
would
1:02:17
you
1:02:17
give
1:02:17
your
1:02:17
25
1:02:18
year
1:02:18
old
1:02:18
self?
1:02:18
All
1:02:18
right.
1:02:19
25
1:02:19
year
1:02:19
old
1:02:19
self.
1:02:23
I
1:02:23
mean,
1:02:23
oh,
1:02:23
God,
1:02:24
I
1:02:24
would
1:02:25
give
1:02:25
myself
1:02:26
all
1:02:26
the
1:02:26
Lessons
1:02:26
I've
1:02:26
learned
1:02:26
on
1:02:27
diet
1:02:27
and
1:02:27
nutrition.
1:02:28
Okay.
1:02:29
And
1:02:29
exercise.
1:02:30
I
1:02:30
used
1:02:30
to
1:02:30
run
1:02:30
on
1:02:31
the
1:02:31
treadmill,
1:02:31
like
1:02:31
one
1:02:32
of
1:02:32
those,
1:02:32
you
1:02:32
know,
1:02:32
like
1:02:33
counting
1:02:33
the
1:02:33
calories.
1:02:34
Now
1:02:34
I
1:02:35
never
1:02:35
weigh
1:02:35
myself.
1:02:36
I
1:02:37
only
1:02:38
lift
1:02:38
weights.
1:02:40
Okay,
1:02:40
no
1:02:40
cardio
1:02:40
now.
1:02:41
No
1:02:41
cardio,
1:02:41
no.
1:02:42
Because
1:02:43
I
1:02:43
realized
1:02:43
that
1:02:44
was
1:02:44
so
1:02:44
again,
1:02:44
I
1:02:45
can
1:02:45
be.
1:02:46
I
1:02:46
know
1:02:46
my
1:02:47
natural
1:02:47
inclination.
1:02:48
And
1:02:48
so
1:02:49
anyone
1:02:49
listening
1:02:50
right
1:02:50
now,
1:02:51
really
1:02:51
be
1:02:52
honest
1:02:52
about
1:02:52
your
1:02:53
natural
1:02:53
inclinations.
1:02:54
That
1:02:54
will
1:02:54
help
1:02:55
guide
1:02:55
you.
1:02:55
So
1:02:56
I
1:02:56
go,
1:02:57
no
1:02:57
matter
1:02:57
how
1:02:58
much
1:02:58
I
1:02:58
try,
1:02:58
when
1:02:58
I'm
1:02:58
on
1:02:59
treadmill,
1:02:59
I
1:02:59
just
1:02:59
count
1:02:59
calories
1:03:00
and
1:03:00
I
1:03:00
check
1:03:00
how
1:03:01
long
1:03:01
I've
1:03:01
been
1:03:01
running
1:03:01
for.
1:03:02
It
1:03:02
is
1:03:03
bad
1:03:03
for
1:03:03
my
1:03:03
mindset.
1:03:04
So
1:03:04
what
1:03:04
am
1:03:05
I
1:03:05
going
1:03:05
to
1:03:05
do
1:03:05
differently?
1:03:05
All
1:03:06
right,
1:03:06
let
1:03:06
me
1:03:06
try
1:03:06
weights.
1:03:07
Let
1:03:07
me
1:03:07
see
1:03:07
what
1:03:07
weights
1:03:07
are
1:03:07
like.
1:03:08
Well,
1:03:08
there
1:03:08
was
1:03:08
no
1:03:08
real
1:03:09
tracking
1:03:09
of
1:03:09
weights.
1:03:10
It
1:03:10
was
1:03:10
more
1:03:11
like,
1:03:11
I
1:03:11
want
1:03:11
to
1:03:12
do
1:03:12
50
1:03:12
push
1:03:12
ups.
1:03:13
And
1:03:13
I
1:03:13
started
1:03:13
with
1:03:14
being
1:03:14
able
1:03:14
to
1:03:14
do
1:03:14
five
1:03:15
and
1:03:16
I
1:03:16
do
1:03:16
it
1:03:16
consistently.
1:03:17
Now
1:03:17
I
1:03:17
just
1:03:18
hit
1:03:18
my
1:03:18
record
1:03:18
of
1:03:18
41
1:03:19
push
1:03:19
ups.
1:03:20
That's
1:03:20
been
1:03:20
like
1:03:20
four
1:03:21
years
1:03:21
in
1:03:21
the
1:03:21
making.
1:03:22
It's
1:03:22
amazing.
1:03:22
But
1:03:23
it's
1:03:23
got
1:03:24
nothing
1:03:24
to
1:03:24
do
1:03:24
with
1:03:24
weight.
1:03:25
It's
1:03:25
got
1:03:25
nothing
1:03:26
to
1:03:26
do
1:03:26
with
1:03:28
like
1:03:28
beating
1:03:28
myself
1:03:29
up.
1:03:29
I
1:03:30
just
1:03:30
get
1:03:30
proud
1:03:30
that
1:03:31
every
1:03:31
day
1:03:31
I
1:03:31
put
1:03:31
in
1:03:31
the
1:03:31
effort
1:03:32
and
1:03:32
sometimes
1:03:33
I'm
1:03:33
able,
1:03:33
I
1:03:34
hit
1:03:34
41.
1:03:34
Other
1:03:35
days
1:03:35
I'll
1:03:35
go
1:03:35
in
1:03:35
and
1:03:35
I'll
1:03:36
only
1:03:36
be
1:03:36
able
1:03:36
to
1:03:36
do
1:03:36
30
1:03:37
because
1:03:37
I'm
1:03:37
weak
1:03:37
that
1:03:38
day.
1:03:38
And
1:03:38
I'll
1:03:38
go,
1:03:38
oh,
1:03:38
I
1:03:39
didn't
1:03:39
have
1:03:39
my
1:03:39
protein.
1:03:40
So
1:03:40
going
1:03:40
back
1:03:40
to
1:03:41
knowing
1:03:41
your
1:03:41
natural
1:03:41
inclination,
1:03:42
then
1:03:43
putting
1:03:43
that
1:03:43
in
1:03:44
a
1:03:45
strategy
1:03:45
of
1:03:46
like,
1:03:46
how
1:03:47
do
1:03:47
you
1:03:47
combat
1:03:47
that?
1:03:48
So
1:03:48
my
1:03:49
25
1:03:49
year
1:03:49
old
1:03:49
self,
1:03:50
I
1:03:50
would
1:03:50
stop
1:03:50
running
1:03:50
and
1:03:50
treadmill.
1:03:51
I
1:03:51
would
1:03:51
go
1:03:51
to
1:03:52
weights
1:03:52
immediately.
1:03:53
I
1:03:53
would
1:03:53
stop
1:03:54
counting
1:03:54
calories.
1:03:55
I
1:03:55
would
1:03:55
eat
1:03:55
a
1:03:55
lot
1:03:55
more
1:03:56
fat.
1:03:56
That
1:03:56
because
1:03:56
it's
1:03:57
been
1:03:57
amazing
1:03:57
for
1:03:57
my
1:03:57
brain,
1:03:59
I
1:03:59
would
1:04:00
take
1:04:00
ownership
1:04:00
instead
1:04:01
of
1:04:01
blame
1:04:01
other
1:04:01
people.
1:04:02
I
1:04:02
would
1:04:03
never
1:04:03
play
1:04:03
the
1:04:03
victim.
1:04:04
I'd
1:04:04
only
1:04:04
play
1:04:05
the
1:04:05
hero.
1:04:06
And
1:04:07
I
1:04:07
would
1:04:07
see
1:04:08
my
1:04:08
superpower,
1:04:10
I
1:04:10
would
1:04:11
see
1:04:11
all
1:04:11
of
1:04:11
my
1:04:11
quirks
1:04:12
and
1:04:13
my
1:04:13
idiosyncrasies
1:04:14
as
1:04:14
my
1:04:14
superpower
1:04:15
instead
1:04:15
of
1:04:15
my
1:04:15
kryptonite.
1:04:16
That's
1:04:16
so
1:04:16
good.
1:04:17
That's
1:04:17
so
1:04:17
good.
1:04:17
Radical
1:04:18
self
1:04:18
acceptance,
1:04:19
you
1:04:19
know?
1:04:19
Yes.
1:04:20
I
1:04:20
love
1:04:20
that
1:04:21
self
1:04:21
acceptance
1:04:22
with
1:04:22
the
1:04:22
idea
1:04:23
that
1:04:23
you're
1:04:23
always
1:04:23
going
1:04:23
to
1:04:24
improve.
1:04:24
Because
1:04:24
I
1:04:24
worry
1:04:25
that
1:04:25
radical
1:04:26
self
1:04:26
acceptance
1:04:26
means
1:04:27
I'm
1:04:27
good
1:04:27
as
1:04:27
I
1:04:27
am
1:04:28
and
1:04:28
I
1:04:28
just
1:04:28
don't.
1:04:29
I
1:04:29
love
1:04:29
myself.
1:04:30
I
1:04:30
don't
1:04:31
always
1:04:31
like
1:04:31
myself
1:04:32
and
1:04:32
I
1:04:32
always
1:04:32
push
1:04:33
myself
1:04:33
and
1:04:33
I
1:04:33
always
1:04:33
want
1:04:33
to
1:04:34
grow.
1:04:34
So
1:04:34
even
1:04:35
with
1:04:35
the
1:04:35
radical
1:04:35
acceptance,
1:04:36
I
1:04:36
worry
1:04:36
it
1:04:37
will
1:04:37
make
1:04:37
me
1:04:37
complacent
1:04:39
and
1:04:39
I
1:04:39
don't
1:04:39
want
1:04:40
to
1:04:40
be
1:04:40
complacent.
1:04:40
So
1:04:41
I
1:04:41
kind
1:04:41
of
1:04:41
push
1:04:41
back
1:04:41
A
1:04:41
little
1:04:42
on
1:04:42
that.
1:04:42
So
1:04:42
it's
1:04:43
like
1:04:43
growth,
1:04:43
mindset.
1:04:43
Keep.
1:04:44
Keep
1:04:44
evolving,
1:04:45
you
1:04:45
know.
1:04:46
So
1:04:46
how
1:04:46
are
1:04:47
you
1:04:47
living
1:04:47
iconically
1:04:48
right
1:04:48
now
1:04:49
in
1:04:49
your
1:04:49
life?
1:04:49
Oh,
1:04:49
what
1:04:50
does
1:04:50
the
1:04:50
definition
1:04:50
of
1:04:50
iconically
1:04:51
mean
1:04:51
to
1:04:52
you?
1:04:52
I
1:04:52
think.
1:04:53
I
1:04:53
think
1:04:53
it's
1:04:54
being
1:04:54
so
1:04:55
at
1:04:55
peace
1:04:55
with
1:04:56
yourself
1:04:56
and
1:04:57
just,
1:04:57
you
1:04:57
know,
1:04:57
give
1:04:57
me
1:04:58
a
1:04:58
lot
1:04:58
of
1:04:58
different
1:04:58
things.
1:04:59
But
1:04:59
right
1:04:59
now,
1:04:59
I
1:05:00
think
1:05:00
it's
1:05:00
just.
1:05:00
It's
1:05:01
really
1:05:01
being
1:05:01
you,
1:05:02
being
1:05:02
who
1:05:02
you
1:05:02
are,
1:05:03
and
1:05:03
really
1:05:03
putting
1:05:04
yourself
1:05:04
out
1:05:04
there
1:05:04
and
1:05:05
living
1:05:06
your
1:05:06
life
1:05:06
as
1:05:06
truly
1:05:07
as
1:05:08
possible.
1:05:08
All
1:05:08
right,
1:05:08
so
1:05:09
now.
1:05:09
Now
1:05:09
I
1:05:09
know
1:05:09
your
1:05:09
definition
1:05:10
of
1:05:10
iconic.
1:05:10
Can
1:05:11
you
1:05:11
repeat
1:05:11
the
1:05:11
question?
1:05:11
Sure,
1:05:12
sure.
1:05:12
Of
1:05:12
course.
1:05:13
So
1:05:13
how
1:05:14
are
1:05:14
you
1:05:14
living
1:05:14
life
1:05:15
iconically
1:05:16
right
1:05:16
now,
1:05:16
at
1:05:16
this
1:05:17
point
1:05:17
in
1:05:17
your
1:05:17
life?
1:05:17
All
1:05:17
right,
1:05:18
so
1:05:18
I'm
1:05:18
now
1:05:18
in
1:05:18
perimenopause.
1:05:22
Yeah.
1:05:22
Like,
1:05:22
I'm
1:05:23
like.
1:05:23
I'm
1:05:23
telling
1:05:23
everyone
1:05:24
everywhere
1:05:24
I
1:05:24
go,
1:05:25
I'm
1:05:25
like,
1:05:25
literally
1:05:25
a
1:05:26
person
1:05:26
at
1:05:26
the
1:05:26
counter
1:05:26
at
1:05:27
a
1:05:27
grocery
1:05:27
store.
1:05:27
I'm
1:05:27
like,
1:05:28
how
1:05:28
are
1:05:28
you?
1:05:28
And
1:05:28
they're
1:05:28
like,
1:05:28
okay.
1:05:29
I'm
1:05:29
like,
1:05:29
oh,
1:05:29
you.
1:05:30
Your
1:05:30
hormones.
1:05:30
Okay.
1:05:31
Like,
1:05:31
I'm
1:05:31
just.
1:05:32
I
1:05:32
just
1:05:33
can't
1:05:33
help
1:05:33
myself.
1:05:33
Like,
1:05:34
now
1:05:34
we
1:05:34
know
1:05:34
there's
1:05:34
others
1:05:35
out
1:05:35
there
1:05:35
like
1:05:35
us.
1:05:36
You
1:05:36
know,
1:05:36
we're
1:05:36
like,
1:05:37
every
1:05:37
older
1:05:38
woman
1:05:38
I
1:05:38
meet,
1:05:39
I
1:05:39
was
1:05:39
just
1:05:39
like,
1:05:40
the
1:05:40
first
1:05:40
thing
1:05:40
I
1:05:41
had.
1:05:41
Your
1:05:41
hormones.
1:05:42
Totally.
1:05:43
Are
1:05:44
you
1:05:44
on
1:05:44
the
1:05:44
patch?
1:05:45
Exactly.
1:05:45
Which
1:05:46
one
1:05:46
are
1:05:46
you
1:05:46
on?
1:05:47
But
1:05:47
that's.
1:05:47
I
1:05:48
do
1:05:49
want
1:05:49
to
1:05:49
make
1:05:50
sure
1:05:50
that
1:05:50
I'm
1:05:50
talking
1:05:50
about
1:05:51
it
1:05:51
not
1:05:51
from,
1:05:51
like,
1:05:51
a
1:05:51
Debbie
1:05:52
Downer,
1:05:52
but
1:05:52
like,
1:05:53
oh,
1:05:53
my
1:05:53
God,
1:05:53
yes.
1:05:53
I'm
1:05:54
like
1:05:54
a
1:05:54
badge
1:05:54
of
1:05:54
honor.
1:05:55
Because,
1:05:55
again,
1:05:56
going
1:05:56
back
1:05:56
to.
1:05:57
You've
1:05:57
got
1:05:57
a
1:05:57
choice.
1:05:57
You
1:05:57
either
1:05:58
hit
1:05:58
perimenopause.
1:05:59
You
1:05:59
don't.
1:06:00
And
1:06:00
so
1:06:00
I
1:06:00
go,
1:06:00
yeah,
1:06:01
I
1:06:01
want
1:06:01
to
1:06:01
live
1:06:01
long
1:06:01
enough
1:06:01
to
1:06:02
be
1:06:02
able
1:06:02
to
1:06:02
go
1:06:02
through
1:06:03
the
1:06:03
cycle,
1:06:03
but
1:06:04
I
1:06:04
don't
1:06:04
want
1:06:04
to
1:06:04
be
1:06:04
blind
1:06:05
to
1:06:05
what
1:06:05
it's
1:06:05
going
1:06:05
to
1:06:05
do
1:06:05
to
1:06:06
me.
1:06:06
So
1:06:06
I'm
1:06:06
in
1:06:07
real
1:06:07
time
1:06:07
assessing
1:06:08
and
1:06:08
navigating
1:06:10
how
1:06:10
I'm
1:06:10
feeling
1:06:10
and
1:06:11
changing.
1:06:11
And
1:06:11
so
1:06:11
I'm
1:06:12
actually
1:06:12
not
1:06:12
as
1:06:12
driven,
1:06:13
which
1:06:13
is
1:06:13
weird.
1:06:13
I've
1:06:14
been
1:06:14
driven
1:06:14
for
1:06:14
the
1:06:14
last
1:06:14
15
1:06:15
years.
1:06:15
And
1:06:16
what
1:06:16
I
1:06:16
mean
1:06:16
now
1:06:16
is
1:06:16
if
1:06:17
I'm
1:06:17
not
1:06:17
in
1:06:17
the
1:06:17
mood,
1:06:18
I'm
1:06:18
like,
1:06:18
I'm
1:06:18
just
1:06:18
not
1:06:19
in
1:06:19
the
1:06:19
mood.
1:06:19
So
1:06:20
assessing
1:06:20
how
1:06:21
my
1:06:21
hormones
1:06:21
are
1:06:21
impacting
1:06:22
my
1:06:22
body
1:06:22
and
1:06:23
then
1:06:23
adjusting
1:06:24
and
1:06:24
then
1:06:24
talking
1:06:24
about
1:06:25
it
1:06:25
is
1:06:25
how
1:06:25
I
1:06:25
feel
1:06:26
like
1:06:26
I'm
1:06:26
being
1:06:26
iconic
1:06:27
right
1:06:27
now
1:06:27
because
1:06:28
it
1:06:29
is
1:06:29
so
1:06:29
exciting.
1:06:30
I
1:06:30
feel
1:06:31
like
1:06:31
I
1:06:31
am
1:06:32
evolving
1:06:33
into
1:06:33
another
1:06:34
new
1:06:34
human,
1:06:34
which
1:06:35
is
1:06:35
exciting.
1:06:36
And
1:06:36
again,
1:06:36
I
1:06:37
tried
1:06:37
to
1:06:37
see
1:06:37
the
1:06:37
positive,
1:06:38
and.
1:06:39
And
1:06:39
it's
1:06:40
having
1:06:40
somewhat,
1:06:40
though
1:06:41
also
1:06:41
a
1:06:42
negative
1:06:42
impact.
1:06:42
I
1:06:43
had
1:06:43
massive
1:06:43
brain
1:06:44
fog.
1:06:45
I've
1:06:46
actually
1:06:46
been
1:06:46
doing
1:06:46
very
1:06:47
well
1:06:47
today,
1:06:47
but
1:06:47
sometimes
1:06:48
I
1:06:48
just
1:06:48
completely
1:06:48
forget
1:06:49
what.
1:06:49
I'M
1:06:49
saying,
1:06:49
are
1:06:49
you
1:06:49
grabbing
1:06:50
for
1:06:50
words,
1:06:50
too?
1:06:51
I
1:06:51
just
1:06:51
will
1:06:51
forget,
1:06:52
like,
1:06:52
a
1:06:52
common
1:06:52
word
1:06:53
that
1:06:53
I'm.
1:06:54
And
1:06:54
you're
1:06:54
just
1:06:54
like,
1:06:55
in
1:06:55
your
1:06:55
mind,
1:06:55
you're
1:06:55
just
1:06:55
grabbing
1:06:56
for
1:06:56
words.
1:06:56
It's
1:06:57
like,
1:06:57
what
1:06:57
am
1:06:57
I
1:06:58
trying
1:06:58
to
1:06:58
say?
1:06:58
Yes.
1:06:58
Yes.
1:06:59
And
1:06:59
the
1:06:59
word
1:06:59
is.
1:06:59
And
1:07:00
yeah,
1:07:00
exactly.
1:07:02
The
1:07:02
word
1:07:03
is
1:07:03
hello.
1:07:05
So
1:07:05
it's
1:07:06
a
1:07:06
yeah.
1:07:06
And
1:07:07
so
1:07:07
even
1:07:07
going
1:07:08
back
1:07:08
to
1:07:08
everything
1:07:08
we've
1:07:08
been
1:07:08
speaking
1:07:09
about
1:07:09
today,
1:07:09
right,
1:07:09
which
1:07:10
is
1:07:10
about,
1:07:10
how
1:07:10
do
1:07:10
you
1:07:10
build
1:07:10
your
1:07:10
confidence?
1:07:11
I'm
1:07:11
now
1:07:12
almost
1:07:13
having
1:07:13
to
1:07:13
relearn
1:07:14
what
1:07:14
that
1:07:14
means.
1:07:14
And
1:07:15
because
1:07:15
I've
1:07:15
built
1:07:15
it,
1:07:16
and
1:07:16
now
1:07:17
I'm
1:07:17
on
1:07:17
set.
1:07:17
True
1:07:18
story.
1:07:19
I'm
1:07:19
interviewing
1:07:20
someone
1:07:20
now.
1:07:20
I
1:07:20
spend,
1:07:21
like,
1:07:21
12
1:07:21
hours.
1:07:21
I
1:07:21
read
1:07:22
people's
1:07:22
books.
1:07:22
I
1:07:22
read
1:07:22
their
1:07:23
every
1:07:23
podcast.
1:07:23
Like,
1:07:24
I
1:07:24
just
1:07:24
love
1:07:24
it.
1:07:24
That's
1:07:24
like
1:07:25
my
1:07:25
jam.
1:07:26
And
1:07:26
then
1:07:26
the
1:07:26
guest
1:07:27
comes
1:07:27
on.
1:07:27
I
1:07:28
completely
1:07:28
forget
1:07:28
their
1:07:29
name.
1:07:30
I've
1:07:30
spent
1:07:31
12
1:07:31
hours
1:07:32
researching
1:07:33
them.
1:07:34
I
1:07:35
forgot,
1:07:35
like,
1:07:35
blank.
1:07:36
Not
1:07:36
even.
1:07:37
Oh,
1:07:37
it
1:07:37
begins
1:07:37
with
1:07:38
blank.
1:07:38
Like,
1:07:39
you're
1:07:39
like,
1:07:39
hey,
1:07:39
you.
1:07:40
Well,
1:07:40
the
1:07:40
funny
1:07:40
thing
1:07:41
is,
1:07:41
throughout
1:07:41
the
1:07:41
whole
1:07:41
interview,
1:07:42
I'm
1:07:42
like,
1:07:42
so
1:07:42
girl.
1:07:42
I'm
1:07:43
calling
1:07:43
a
1:07:43
girl.
1:07:43
The
1:07:43
whole
1:07:44
time,
1:07:44
I'm
1:07:44
like,
1:07:44
I
1:07:44
don't.
1:07:45
Know
1:07:45
what
1:07:45
else
1:07:45
to
1:07:45
say.
1:07:46
Now
1:07:46
in
1:07:46
that
1:07:47
moment,
1:07:47
I've
1:07:48
been.
1:07:48
Remember
1:07:49
I
1:07:49
said
1:07:49
earlier,
1:07:49
I've
1:07:50
been
1:07:50
waxing
1:07:50
on
1:07:50
and
1:07:50
off
1:07:51
for
1:07:51
five
1:07:52
years,
1:07:52
at
1:07:52
least
1:07:52
on
1:07:52
my
1:07:53
show,
1:07:53
to
1:07:53
be
1:07:53
comfortable
1:07:54
for
1:07:54
getting
1:07:54
in
1:07:54
front
1:07:54
of
1:07:55
the
1:07:55
camera.
1:07:55
Now
1:07:55
I
1:07:56
get
1:07:56
a
1:07:56
confident
1:07:56
dent.
1:07:57
So
1:07:58
I
1:07:58
go
1:07:58
to
1:07:58
now
1:07:59
being,
1:07:59
like,
1:07:59
in
1:07:59
the.
1:08:00
At
1:08:00
my
1:08:00
age.
1:08:01
Going
1:08:01
back
1:08:01
to
1:08:01
your
1:08:01
question
1:08:01
of
1:08:02
being
1:08:02
an
1:08:02
icon,
1:08:03
it
1:08:03
is
1:08:03
like,
1:08:03
how
1:08:04
do
1:08:04
I
1:08:04
never
1:08:05
judge
1:08:05
myself
1:08:05
and
1:08:05
think
1:08:06
that
1:08:06
I'm
1:08:06
one
1:08:06
and
1:08:06
done?
1:08:06
How
1:08:07
do
1:08:07
I
1:08:07
not
1:08:07
feel
1:08:08
like
1:08:08
I'm
1:08:08
taking
1:08:08
steps
1:08:09
back?
1:08:09
How
1:08:09
do
1:08:09
I
1:08:09
look
1:08:10
at
1:08:10
this
1:08:10
and
1:08:10
go,
1:08:10
this
1:08:11
is
1:08:11
the
1:08:11
new
1:08:11
evolution.
1:08:12
Not,
1:08:12
Lisa,
1:08:12
you've
1:08:13
retreated.
1:08:13
And
1:08:14
that's
1:08:14
so
1:08:14
important
1:08:14
to
1:08:15
me.
1:08:15
So
1:08:15
now
1:08:15
I
1:08:15
go,
1:08:16
okay,
1:08:16
this
1:08:16
is
1:08:16
what
1:08:16
it
1:08:17
is.
1:08:18
Take
1:08:18
ownership,
1:08:20
Number
1:08:20
one.
1:08:20
Take
1:08:21
ownership.
1:08:21
What
1:08:21
does
1:08:22
that
1:08:22
look
1:08:22
like?
1:08:22
And
1:08:22
I
1:08:22
just
1:08:23
asked
1:08:23
myself,
1:08:23
what
1:08:23
does
1:08:23
that
1:08:24
look
1:08:24
like?
1:08:24
Okay,
1:08:24
it
1:08:25
means
1:08:25
I
1:08:25
wear
1:08:25
an
1:08:25
OURA
1:08:25
ring.
1:08:26
I
1:08:26
try
1:08:26
track
1:08:26
my
1:08:26
sleep.
1:08:27
Now
1:08:27
I
1:08:27
see
1:08:27
if
1:08:27
my
1:08:27
sleep
1:08:28
makes
1:08:28
a
1:08:28
difference
1:08:28
to
1:08:28
my
1:08:28
cognitive
1:08:29
behavior.
1:08:29
I
1:08:30
track
1:08:30
my
1:08:30
glucose
1:08:31
levels.
1:08:31
I
1:08:31
wear
1:08:31
a
1:08:32
cgm,
1:08:32
and
1:08:32
I
1:08:33
track
1:08:33
how
1:08:33
does
1:08:33
my
1:08:34
brain
1:08:34
function
1:08:35
when
1:08:35
I'm
1:08:35
peaked,
1:08:36
if
1:08:36
I'm
1:08:36
in
1:08:36
the
1:08:37
hundreds
1:08:37
sometimes,
1:08:38
I
1:08:38
didn't
1:08:38
realize
1:08:39
I
1:08:39
actually
1:08:39
plummet
1:08:40
because
1:08:40
I've
1:08:40
got
1:08:40
gut
1:08:41
issues.
1:08:41
So
1:08:41
sometimes
1:08:41
my
1:08:42
sugar
1:08:42
levels
1:08:42
go
1:08:43
so
1:08:43
low,
1:08:43
I
1:08:44
feel
1:08:44
dizzy.
1:08:44
I
1:08:44
didn't
1:08:44
know
1:08:45
why
1:08:45
I
1:08:45
was
1:08:45
dizzy.
1:08:46
So
1:08:46
being
1:08:46
able
1:08:47
to
1:08:47
then
1:08:47
track
1:08:48
my
1:08:48
body,
1:08:48
my
1:08:49
hormones,
1:08:49
my
1:08:49
impact,
1:08:50
and
1:08:50
then
1:08:51
kind
1:08:51
of
1:08:51
almost
1:08:51
gamifying
1:08:52
it
1:08:52
to,
1:08:52
like,
1:08:53
how
1:08:53
much
1:08:53
do.
1:08:53
Now
1:08:54
I
1:08:54
have
1:08:54
cognitive
1:08:55
clarity
1:08:56
is
1:08:56
me
1:08:56
taking
1:08:56
ownership
1:08:57
and
1:08:58
so
1:08:58
that
1:08:58
is
1:08:58
part
1:08:59
of
1:08:59
how
1:08:59
I'm
1:08:59
building
1:08:59
my
1:09:00
confidence,
1:09:01
being
1:09:01
iconic,
1:09:02
even
1:09:02
as
1:09:02
I
1:09:02
age
1:09:03
and
1:09:04
am
1:09:04
able
1:09:04
to
1:09:05
navigate
1:09:05
this
1:09:06
with
1:09:06
such
1:09:06
confidence,
1:09:07
even
1:09:07
when
1:09:07
I
1:09:07
don't
1:09:08
feel
1:09:08
great.
1:09:09
That's
1:09:09
so
1:09:10
great.
1:09:10
Okay,
1:09:11
I
1:09:11
hope
1:09:11
you
1:09:11
like
1:09:11
games.
1:09:12
We
1:09:12
have
1:09:12
a
1:09:12
little
1:09:13
game
1:09:13
to
1:09:14
wrap
1:09:14
things
1:09:14
up.
1:09:16
We
1:09:16
love
1:09:17
that.
1:09:17
Okay,
1:09:18
so
1:09:19
the
1:09:19
name
1:09:19
of
1:09:19
this
1:09:19
game
1:09:20
is
1:09:20
Iconic
1:09:20
or
1:09:21
ick.
1:09:21
Oh,
1:09:22
all
1:09:22
right.
1:09:23
So
1:09:23
you
1:09:23
say
1:09:23
if
1:09:24
it's
1:09:24
iconic
1:09:25
or
1:09:25
ick.
1:09:25
All
1:09:25
right,
1:09:26
all
1:09:26
right.
1:09:27
Needing
1:09:27
to
1:09:28
be
1:09:28
liked
1:09:28
by
1:09:29
everyone.
1:09:29
Ick.
1:09:31
Reinvention
1:09:32
after
1:09:32
45
1:09:33
iconic
1:09:34
hustle
1:09:35
culture.
1:09:36
Oh,
1:09:37
this
1:09:37
is
1:09:37
a
1:09:37
tricky
1:09:38
one
1:09:38
because
1:09:39
hustle
1:09:40
was
1:09:40
the
1:09:40
thing.
1:09:41
And.
1:09:41
Sorry,
1:09:41
I
1:09:41
know
1:09:41
this
1:09:42
is
1:09:42
rapid
1:09:42
fire,
1:09:42
but
1:09:43
it's
1:09:43
true.
1:09:43
Please,
1:09:43
please.
1:09:44
Hustle
1:09:44
was
1:09:45
the
1:09:45
thing
1:09:45
when
1:09:45
I
1:09:45
was
1:09:45
building
1:09:46
quests,
1:09:46
so
1:09:46
it
1:09:47
got
1:09:47
me
1:09:47
where
1:09:47
I
1:09:47
am
1:09:47
today.
1:09:49
Now
1:09:49
hustle
1:09:50
is
1:09:50
what
1:09:50
wrecked
1:09:50
my
1:09:50
gut.
1:09:51
So
1:09:52
is
1:09:52
it
1:09:52
a
1:09:52
good
1:09:52
thing
1:09:52
or
1:09:52
is
1:09:53
it
1:09:53
a
1:09:53
bad
1:09:53
thing?
1:09:53
I
1:09:53
wouldn't
1:09:53
be
1:09:54
successful.
1:09:54
You
1:09:54
never
1:09:55
heard
1:09:55
me.
1:09:55
I
1:09:55
wouldn't
1:09:55
be
1:09:55
on
1:09:56
this
1:09:56
podcast.
1:09:57
So
1:09:58
there's
1:09:58
a
1:09:58
bit
1:09:58
of
1:09:58
a
1:09:59
tricky
1:09:59
thing
1:09:59
where
1:09:59
people
1:10:00
want
1:10:00
to
1:10:00
make
1:10:00
it
1:10:00
black
1:10:00
and
1:10:01
white.
1:10:01
Ick
1:10:01
or
1:10:01
iconic.
1:10:02
And
1:10:02
the
1:10:03
truth
1:10:03
is,
1:10:03
is
1:10:04
that
1:10:04
it
1:10:04
absolutely
1:10:05
works
1:10:06
to
1:10:06
an
1:10:06
extent.
1:10:07
It's
1:10:07
kind
1:10:08
of
1:10:08
gray.
1:10:08
Right.
1:10:08
It's
1:10:09
in
1:10:09
between.
1:10:10
Then
1:10:10
also,
1:10:11
let's
1:10:12
say
1:10:12
you're
1:10:12
building
1:10:12
a
1:10:12
business
1:10:13
and
1:10:13
someone
1:10:13
else
1:10:14
else
1:10:14
is
1:10:14
willing
1:10:14
to
1:10:15
hustle.
1:10:16
So
1:10:16
who's
1:10:17
going
1:10:17
to
1:10:17
win
1:10:18
at
1:10:18
the
1:10:18
game?
1:10:19
I
1:10:19
hate
1:10:19
to
1:10:20
say
1:10:20
it,
1:10:20
but
1:10:20
the
1:10:20
person
1:10:20
that's
1:10:21
willing
1:10:21
to,
1:10:21
because
1:10:22
they're
1:10:22
like,
1:10:22
well,
1:10:22
you
1:10:22
should
1:10:22
play.
1:10:23
What
1:10:23
is
1:10:23
it
1:10:23
Smart,
1:10:24
not
1:10:24
hard?
1:10:24
And
1:10:25
it's
1:10:25
like,
1:10:25
yeah,
1:10:25
but
1:10:25
what
1:10:26
about
1:10:26
the
1:10:26
person
1:10:26
that's
1:10:26
willing
1:10:26
to
1:10:27
do
1:10:27
both?
1:10:27
That's
1:10:27
a
1:10:28
good
1:10:28
point.
1:10:28
Yeah.
1:10:29
I
1:10:29
mean,
1:10:29
so
1:10:30
you
1:10:30
got
1:10:30
to
1:10:31
do.
1:10:31
What
1:10:31
you
1:10:31
have
1:10:31
to
1:10:31
do,
1:10:31
but
1:10:32
to
1:10:32
an
1:10:32
extreme,
1:10:33
to
1:10:33
an
1:10:33
extent,
1:10:33
I
1:10:33
should
1:10:33
say,
1:10:34
okay.
1:10:35
Daily
1:10:35
affirmations
1:10:36
in
1:10:36
the
1:10:36
mirror.
1:10:37
Oh,
1:10:40
iconic.
1:10:42
I'm
1:10:43
just
1:10:43
gonna
1:10:43
be
1:10:43
putting
1:10:43
them
1:10:44
together.
1:10:45
You've
1:10:45
got
1:10:45
to
1:10:46
really
1:10:46
believe
1:10:46
them.
1:10:46
They
1:10:46
have
1:10:47
to
1:10:47
actually
1:10:47
work.
1:10:48
If
1:10:48
you
1:10:48
do
1:10:48
it
1:10:48
too
1:10:48
often
1:10:49
and
1:10:49
too
1:10:49
much,
1:10:49
I
1:10:49
think
1:10:49
they
1:10:50
land
1:10:50
on
1:10:50
deaf
1:10:50
ears.
1:10:51
And
1:10:51
I
1:10:52
never
1:10:52
want
1:10:52
someone
1:10:52
to
1:10:53
feel
1:10:53
like
1:10:53
they're
1:10:53
doing
1:10:53
the
1:10:54
work
1:10:54
but
1:10:54
not
1:10:54
improving.
1:10:55
So
1:10:55
I
1:10:55
think
1:10:56
that
1:10:56
they
1:10:56
can
1:10:56
be
1:10:56
very
1:10:57
useful.
1:10:57
Up
1:10:58
again.
1:10:58
To
1:10:58
a
1:10:58
certain
1:10:59
point.
1:10:59
To
1:10:59
a
1:10:59
certain
1:10:59
point.
1:11:00
Yes.
1:11:01
Toxic
1:11:02
positivity.
1:11:03
Ick,
1:11:03
ick.
1:11:04
Right?
1:11:04
Double
1:11:04
ick.
1:11:06
Red.
1:11:07
Best
1:11:07
as
1:11:07
a
1:11:07
power
1:11:08
move.
1:11:08
Oh,
1:11:09
a
1:11:09
thousand
1:11:09
percent
1:11:09
iconic.
1:11:10
Totally.
1:11:11
Hell,
1:11:11
yes.
1:11:11
Just
1:11:12
trying
1:11:12
to
1:11:12
learn
1:11:12
to
1:11:12
do
1:11:12
that.
1:11:13
Yes,
1:11:13
yes.
1:11:13
It
1:11:14
is
1:11:14
a
1:11:14
very,
1:11:14
very
1:11:15
good
1:11:15
tool.
1:11:15
It's
1:11:15
hard.
1:11:16
It's
1:11:16
hard.
1:11:17
Okay.
1:11:17
Doing
1:11:18
it.
1:11:18
Scared.
1:11:19
Oh,
1:11:19
for
1:11:19
sure.
1:11:19
Iconic.
1:11:20
Iconic.
1:11:22
Saying
1:11:22
no
1:11:22
without
1:11:22
apologizing.
1:11:25
This
1:11:25
is
1:11:25
another
1:11:26
tricky
1:11:26
one,
1:11:27
because
1:11:29
sometimes
1:11:29
you
1:11:29
should
1:11:29
apologize.
1:11:30
Sometimes
1:11:31
you're
1:11:31
about
1:11:31
to
1:11:31
hurt
1:11:32
Someone's
1:11:32
feelings
1:11:33
and
1:11:33
saying
1:11:34
sorry
1:11:34
doesn't
1:11:35
demean
1:11:35
you,
1:11:36
but
1:11:36
it
1:11:36
gives
1:11:37
somebody
1:11:37
something
1:11:37
that
1:11:38
they
1:11:38
need.
1:11:39
So
1:11:39
it's
1:11:39
very
1:11:40
tricky
1:11:41
that
1:11:41
if
1:11:41
you
1:11:41
say
1:11:42
no
1:11:43
and
1:11:43
then
1:11:43
apologize
1:11:44
to
1:11:44
the
1:11:44
extreme
1:11:45
and
1:11:45
to
1:11:45
the
1:11:45
detriment
1:11:46
of
1:11:46
who
1:11:46
you
1:11:46
are
1:11:47
in
1:11:47
your
1:11:47
self
1:11:47
esteem,
1:11:47
hell
1:11:48
no.
1:11:48
That's
1:11:48
an
1:11:48
ick
1:11:49
for
1:11:49
me.
1:11:49
But
1:11:49
if
1:11:50
you
1:11:50
say
1:11:50
sorry
1:11:50
out
1:11:50
of
1:11:51
kindness
1:11:51
and
1:11:51
grace
1:11:52
to
1:11:52
somebody
1:11:53
because
1:11:53
you
1:11:53
know
1:11:53
they're
1:11:53
going
1:11:53
through
1:11:54
a
1:11:54
hard
1:11:54
time
1:11:54
and
1:11:54
you
1:11:55
just
1:11:55
made
1:11:55
their
1:11:55
lives
1:11:55
nicer
1:11:56
and
1:11:56
better.
1:11:56
Official
1:11:57
Iconic.
1:11:58
Ask
1:11:59
asking
1:11:59
for
1:11:59
help.
1:11:59
Oh,
1:12:00
iconic
1:12:00
100.
1:12:01
Taking
1:12:01
solo
1:12:02
trips
1:12:02
just
1:12:02
to
1:12:02
be
1:12:03
alone
1:12:03
with
1:12:03
your
1:12:03
thoughts
1:12:04
and
1:12:04
room
1:12:04
service.
1:12:05
Yeah,
1:12:05
I
1:12:05
think
1:12:06
that
1:12:06
is
1:12:06
actually
1:12:06
depending.
1:12:07
I'm
1:12:08
an
1:12:08
ambivert,
1:12:09
so
1:12:09
I
1:12:09
love
1:12:09
being
1:12:10
by
1:12:10
myself,
1:12:10
but
1:12:10
I
1:12:10
love
1:12:10
being
1:12:11
with
1:12:11
people
1:12:11
as
1:12:11
well.
1:12:12
So
1:12:12
I
1:12:12
would
1:12:12
say
1:12:12
for
1:12:13
me,
1:12:13
definitely
1:12:13
iconic.
1:12:14
But
1:12:14
I
1:12:14
think
1:12:14
for
1:12:14
some
1:12:15
people,
1:12:15
if
1:12:15
you're
1:12:15
an
1:12:15
extrovert,
1:12:16
it's
1:12:16
like
1:12:16
Covid.
1:12:16
Like
1:12:17
it
1:12:17
really
1:12:17
hurt
1:12:18
them.
1:12:18
So
1:12:18
I
1:12:18
don't
1:12:19
even
1:12:19
want
1:12:19
to
1:12:19
be
1:12:19
like,
1:12:20
yes,
1:12:20
everyone
1:12:20
should
1:12:20
spend
1:12:21
time
1:12:21
alone
1:12:21
if
1:12:21
it
1:12:21
doesn't
1:12:22
serve
1:12:22
you.
1:12:23
That's
1:12:23
a
1:12:23
good
1:12:23
point.
1:12:24
There
1:12:24
are
1:12:24
probably
1:12:24
so
1:12:24
many
1:12:24
more
1:12:25
ambiverts
1:12:25
like
1:12:25
us
1:12:26
too
1:12:26
out
1:12:26
there,
1:12:26
don't
1:12:26
you
1:12:27
think?
1:12:27
Yeah,
1:12:27
I
1:12:27
think.
1:12:27
Think
1:12:27
so.
1:12:28
Don't
1:12:28
you
1:12:28
think?
1:12:28
Yeah.
1:12:29
Okay.
1:12:30
Editing
1:12:30
yourself
1:12:30
to
1:12:31
stay
1:12:31
likable
1:12:31
in
1:12:32
the
1:12:32
boardroom,
1:12:32
the
1:12:32
group
1:12:33
chat
1:12:33
or
1:12:33
on
1:12:34
social.
1:12:34
Media
1:12:34
goes
1:12:35
to
1:12:35
the
1:12:35
no.
1:12:36
Right?
1:12:37
All
1:12:37
the
1:12:37
way.
1:12:37
All
1:12:38
the
1:12:38
way.
1:12:38
All
1:12:39
the
1:12:39
way.
1:12:40
Celebrating
1:12:40
your
1:12:40
own
1:12:41
wins,
1:12:41
the
1:12:41
cake,
1:12:41
the
1:12:42
champagne,
1:12:42
or
1:12:42
the
1:12:42
group
1:12:43
text
1:12:43
that
1:12:43
screams.
1:12:44
I
1:12:44
crushed
1:12:44
this
1:12:44
a
1:12:45
thousand
1:12:45
percent
1:12:45
iconic.
1:12:46
So,
1:12:46
Lisa,
1:12:47
before
1:12:47
you
1:12:47
go,
1:12:47
please
1:12:47
tell
1:12:48
everybody
1:12:48
where
1:12:49
they
1:12:49
can
1:12:49
find
1:12:49
you.
1:12:49
Oh,
1:12:49
my
1:12:49
God.
1:12:50
Yes.
1:12:50
So
1:12:50
if
1:12:50
you're
1:12:50
listening
1:12:51
on
1:12:51
podcast,
1:12:51
I
1:12:52
have
1:12:52
a
1:12:52
podcast
1:12:53
called
1:12:53
Women
1:12:53
of
1:12:53
Impact
1:12:54
by
1:12:54
Lisa
1:12:54
Bilyu
1:12:55
so
1:12:55
you
1:12:55
can
1:12:55
listen
1:12:55
where
1:12:55
a
1:12:56
podcast
1:12:56
found
1:12:56
and
1:12:57
then
1:12:57
YouTube.
1:12:57
I
1:12:58
pour
1:12:58
my
1:12:58
heart
1:12:58
and
1:12:59
soul
1:12:59
into
1:12:59
my
1:12:59
YouTube
1:13:00
channel.
1:13:01
I
1:13:01
studied
1:13:01
filmmaking
1:13:02
when
1:13:02
I
1:13:02
was
1:13:02
younger,
1:13:03
so
1:13:03
being
1:13:03
able
1:13:04
to
1:13:04
put
1:13:04
out
1:13:04
video
1:13:04
content
1:13:05
is
1:13:06
my
1:13:06
heart
1:13:06
and
1:13:06
joy.
1:13:07
So
1:13:07
you
1:13:07
can
1:13:07
go
1:13:07
find
1:13:07
women
1:13:07
of
1:13:08
impact
1:13:08
Lisa
1:13:08
Bilu
1:13:09
on
1:13:09
YouTube.
1:13:10
Wonderful.
1:13:10
And
1:13:10
please
1:13:11
definitely
1:13:11
check
1:13:11
all
1:13:11
her
1:13:12
stuff
1:13:12
out.
1:13:12
It
1:13:12
is
1:13:12
so
1:13:13
inspiring
1:13:13
and
1:13:14
you
1:13:14
will
1:13:14
no
1:13:15
doubt
1:13:15
garner
1:13:15
a
1:13:16
lot
1:13:16
of
1:13:16
jewels
1:13:17
every
1:13:17
time
1:13:17
you
1:13:17
listen
1:13:18
or
1:13:18
watch.
1:13:19
So
1:13:19
thank
1:13:19
you
1:13:19
so
1:13:20
much,
1:13:20
Lisa.
1:13:20
Thank
1:13:21
you.
1:13:22
That
1:13:22
was
1:13:22
a
1:13:23
masterclass
1:13:24
in
1:13:24
burning
1:13:24
the
1:13:25
rule
1:13:25
book,
1:13:25
rewriting
1:13:26
your
1:13:26
identity,
1:13:27
and
1:13:27
owning
1:13:28
your
1:13:28
midlife.
1:13:29
Glow
1:13:29
up
1:13:29
like
1:13:29
a
1:13:30
damn
1:13:30
boss.
1:13:31
Lisa
1:13:32
reminded
1:13:32
us
1:13:32
that
1:13:33
confidence
1:13:33
isn't
1:13:34
something
1:13:34
you're
1:13:35
born
1:13:35
with.
1:13:36
It's
1:13:36
something
1:13:36
you
1:13:37
build
1:13:38
step
1:13:38
by
1:13:39
uncomfortable
1:13:39
step
1:13:40
sometimes.
1:13:40
And
1:13:41
no,
1:13:41
it's
1:13:42
not
1:13:42
too
1:13:42
late.
1:13:43
Not
1:13:43
even
1:13:43
close.
1:13:44
Close.
1:13:45
Make
1:13:45
sure
1:13:45
to
1:13:45
follow
1:13:46
the
1:13:46
iconic
1:13:47
midlife
1:13:47
on
1:13:47
your
1:13:48
favorite
1:13:48
podcast
1:13:49
platform
1:13:50
and
1:13:50
hit
1:13:50
up
1:13:50
our
1:13:51
YouTube
1:13:51
channel
1:13:52
tomorrow
1:13:53
to
1:13:53
see
1:13:53
the
1:13:53
full
1:13:54
episode
1:13:55
and
1:13:55
if
1:13:55
this
1:13:56
episode
1:13:56
moved
1:13:56
you,
1:13:57
please
1:13:57
leave
1:13:58
a
1:13:58
review
1:13:58
wherever
1:13:59
you
1:13:59
are
1:13:59
listening
1:14:00
and
1:14:00
share
1:14:00
it
1:14:00
with
1:14:01
a
1:14:01
friend
1:14:02
and
1:14:02
follow
1:14:02
us.
1:14:03
Heiconic
1:14:04
Midlife
1:14:04
and
1:14:05
redcarpetroxy
1:14:07
for
1:14:07
your
1:14:07
weekly
1:14:08
dose
1:14:08
of
1:14:08
boldness,
1:14:09
relax,
1:14:09
brilliance
1:14:10
and
1:14:10
midlife
1:14:11
magic.
1:14:12
Until
1:14:12
next
1:14:13
time,
1:14:13
unlearn
1:14:14
the
1:14:14
noise.
1:14:15
Trust
1:14:15
your
1:14:15
gut
1:14:16
and
1:14:16
keep
1:14:17
it
1:14:17
iconic.