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Bachelor Girl Scouts with Kathy Swarts, Susan Noles and Nancy Hulkower PART 2 · The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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  Speaker 1: This is the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast
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  Speaker 1: with iHeartRadio.
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  Speaker 2: Welcome back to Almost Famous the Ogs. We're here for
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  Speaker 2: round two with our favorite Golden Bachelor bachelorettes, the three
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  Speaker 2: I think, the three biggest stars from that whole franchise,
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  Speaker 2: that whole series. We've got Kathy, Susan and Nancy with
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  Speaker 2: us and we're going to get right into the nitty gritty.
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  Speaker 2: So I can tell you, guys, this so twenty some
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  Speaker 2: years ago when I did Trista's show, right and a
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  Speaker 2: lot of those guys are still my very good friends.
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  Speaker 3: Very good were getting rid of me. So this this
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  Speaker 3: has legs. Guys. This this is something that you know
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  Speaker 3: is tried and true.
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  Speaker 2: You go through these experiences together and it doesn't mean
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  Speaker 2: that every one of you are going to be best friends,
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  Speaker 2: but when you do find that connection with your with
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  Speaker 2: your with your your tribe, and you just keep it
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  Speaker 2: going as long as you wanted to, you know, and
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  Speaker 2: we've always wanted it to.
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  Speaker 4: I also think that are because the Golden Bachelor, and
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  Speaker 4: you know the premise, and most of us had a
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  Speaker 4: Susan had a horrible divorce. Kathy and I both lost
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  Speaker 4: our husbands from death. I mean yours by suicide, mind cancer.
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  Speaker 5: But when you all.
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  Speaker 6: Get together by boredom, so it wasn't bad.
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  Speaker 5: I didn't say, Okay, horrible divorce.
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  Speaker 4: Okay, sorry sorry friends, Okay, right, you're right, but you've.
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  Speaker 6: Had loss, that's a loss.
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  Speaker 4: But my point was that when you have all these
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  Speaker 4: women who come together and we've all lost something.
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  Speaker 3: Lost, humpo one another.
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  Speaker 5: And I think we all.
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  Speaker 4: Connected because of that, and we all were there for
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  Speaker 4: each other and we were rooting each other on, like
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  Speaker 4: hope you.
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  Speaker 5: Like Gary, I don't. I don't, but you do.
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  Speaker 3: You're like, no, you know, it's funny.
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  Speaker 2: So I remember that from when we were doing trist
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  Speaker 2: this season. You know, I was the elder Statesman, right,
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  Speaker 2: so I was time. Everyone else was like late twenties.
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  Speaker 3: I was your age.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, So I was thirty two when I was on
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  Speaker 2: the Bachelor atte thirty one going on. And I was
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  Speaker 2: thirty two when I was a Bachelor. Yeah, and I
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  Speaker 2: was the oldest Bachelor at that point.
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  Speaker 3: That's for many years. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: No, you know what I remember say to those guys,
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  Speaker 2: I was like, guys, it doesn't matter if we need
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  Speaker 2: to get along, because we're going to be like dealing
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  Speaker 2: with each other for the next few weeks.
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  Speaker 3: I really did. Yeah, I got in trouble. We didn't.
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  Speaker 6: We didn't have to say that.
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  Speaker 3: Well, that's just say we were dealing.
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  Speaker 2: We were dealing with people that like the goal at
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  Speaker 2: that time, because it was the first season the Bachelorette,
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  Speaker 2: the goal was they were like, we need the guys
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  Speaker 2: to be you know, kind of at each other, you know,
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  Speaker 2: the thing like they are now.
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  Speaker 3: We weren't like that. We were like, we were good friends,
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  Speaker 3: we got along great.
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  Speaker 2: They come back from a dam. How was it genuinely
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  Speaker 2: wanting it to be good?
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  Speaker 7: How do you think the Golden Bachelors that are on?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I think it's going to be I think it's
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  Speaker 3: gonna be awesome. Have you checked them out? I have
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  Speaker 3: some really good looking dudes there. Yeah. But I also
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  Speaker 3: I will say, like one of my favorite.
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  Speaker 2: Things about your all season of the show, and you
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  Speaker 2: two know I said this a lot. I thought they
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  Speaker 2: were going to do the kind of bull crap stuff
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  Speaker 2: that they do. Right, Oh, here comes a couple, you know,
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  Speaker 2: forty year olds that.
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  Speaker 3: We're going to parade in here. Who are gonna you know?
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  Speaker 3: And I was so glad they didn't do that.
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  Speaker 2: It was age appropriate casting, and it was all these
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  Speaker 2: successful and beautiful women and a really nice guy and Gary. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: I thought it was like it was really cool to
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  Speaker 2: see that well done.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, it was.
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  Speaker 5: But I will be honest, and I think the casting
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  Speaker 5: was fast.
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  Speaker 3: Casting was amazing that I agree.
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  Speaker 6: Yes, kat, I would like to say this about that.
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  Speaker 8: When I honestly, when I went on it or applied
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  Speaker 8: for it, it said women sixty five and over, and
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  Speaker 8: when I got there.
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  Speaker 6: That's true.
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  Speaker 8: Eleven of the twenty two women were beneath. They were
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  Speaker 8: younger than sixty four. Okay, And so so for me,
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  Speaker 8: you know, I'm strong, I'm healthy, you know I don't
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  Speaker 8: I'm not the best looking, but I don't stop a clock.
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  Speaker 6: I thought, okay, you know I can compete with this.
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  Speaker 8: But when you have a sixty year old and you
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  Speaker 8: know there were a fifty nine year old women and
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  Speaker 8: there were women as old as seventy four, that's a
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  Speaker 8: really wide age span to compete for one guy.
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  Speaker 6: I mean, so that was a little I'm being honest.
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  Speaker 6: For me, that was a little tough.
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  Speaker 7: My biggest thing on the show. And we've all agreed
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  Speaker 7: upon this as well. I wish especially for the senior ones,
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  Speaker 7: because we're serious, not that the young ones aren't. You're
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  Speaker 7: time with people, like everyone should have a one on one.
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  Speaker 3: I agree that.
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  Speaker 5: Nice, and I think everybody gave us a back.
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  Speaker 8: Sure, but I don't think that is the formula. I
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  Speaker 8: don't think that's the formula for the show. We've all
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  Speaker 8: talked about that not but you have to air it.
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  Speaker 8: You don't have to air every one on one day.
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  Speaker 8: But it sure would be nice for everyone to have
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  Speaker 8: that moment.
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  Speaker 2: Especially when you are giving, Like when you're a twenty
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  Speaker 2: two year old fresh out of college working at the
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  Speaker 2: dairy Queen.
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  Speaker 3: You know, it's you're just glad to.
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  Speaker 2: Be doing something right, when you're when you're and you're
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  Speaker 2: taking away.
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  Speaker 8: We were up in our room at nights saying, you know,
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  Speaker 8: we don't care about a one on one. We just
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  Speaker 8: want a date with Gary. We don't want much. We
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  Speaker 8: want a helicopter ride with Diamond. As I get the
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  Speaker 8: diamon I wanted.
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  Speaker 5: I wanted the diamond earrings.
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  Speaker 2: So I remember saying, am I season of the Batcher.
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  Speaker 2: I remember saying to the ladies. I was like, ladies,
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  Speaker 2: you might be surprised by this, but whoever goes home tonight,
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  Speaker 2: you're the lucky ones because if you come home with me,
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  Speaker 2: we're not taking a helicopter into a volcano tonight.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, living in Detroit, Michigan, I love.
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  Speaker 7: Do you think that has something to do with that
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  Speaker 7: falling for this?
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  Speaker 2: Are you?
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  Speaker 3: You're doing these amazing experiences? Right, it's like.
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  Speaker 8: Doorphins going and then and then the show is over,
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  Speaker 8: and it's like pick your damn socks up off the floor.
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  Speaker 4: Well, and also like, which is you still and after
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  Speaker 4: this show is over, I'm sure you know, are you
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  Speaker 4: still going to color your hair like you did on
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  Speaker 4: the show?
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  Speaker 2: Are you.
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  Speaker 5: You're still going to dress like you did.
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  Speaker 6: On the show?
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  Speaker 1: Right?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, not a lot of opportunities for evening gowns every
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  Speaker 2: you know, every week those heels chairs.
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  Speaker 3: Six inch Susan was rocking every week now.
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  Speaker 8: But you know what it truly it was the most
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  Speaker 8: amazing experience for me and I think for the three
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  Speaker 8: of us, and and truly, I mean we always talk
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  Speaker 8: about it, and I'm sure people get tired of hearing it,
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  Speaker 8: but the experience of being on the show and the
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  Speaker 8: friendships and just the day to day life for all
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  Speaker 8: of us since then and the friendships that we've developed
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  Speaker 8: was worth everything. We didn't find love with Gary, but
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  Speaker 8: we found love with each other. And that sounds so hokey,
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  Speaker 8: but it and.
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  Speaker 7: It's about reaching people that have shared with all of
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  Speaker 7: us their story and said, you guys gave me some.
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  Speaker 5: Hosts and hope for other making me feel like maybe
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  Speaker 5: it would be right.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 5: And I also I remember being at the we did.
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  Speaker 4: A talent show and I remember sitting there watching and.
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  Speaker 5: We had all been together for a few days.
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  Speaker 4: I don't know five days or ten days, whatever, but
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  Speaker 4: we're sitting there and I remember the feeling of everybody.
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  Speaker 4: Each of us got up on stage in front of
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  Speaker 4: three hundred Bachelor Nation fans.
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  Speaker 5: It was crazy, never happened, totally, the whole thing, and
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  Speaker 5: I remember thinking, this is so cool. I felt like
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  Speaker 5: I was watching my six year old at that time,
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  Speaker 5: like in her first ballet performance. Like we were all
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  Speaker 5: rooting for each other. It was like you had your
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  Speaker 5: child up on the.
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  Speaker 4: Stage, but we were all do it, do it, Like
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  Speaker 4: we were so proud of each other for getting up
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  Speaker 4: and being vulnerable and.
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  Speaker 3: Totally and I'll say this, Cat, I disagree with you.
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  Speaker 2: I don't think people are sick of hearing about it
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  Speaker 2: at all, because I think people are excited to hear
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  Speaker 2: about it, which is why you know, you guys are
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  Speaker 2: doing what you do with your podcast, and why the
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  Speaker 2: three of you together.
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  Speaker 3: You can just tell the three of you is vibe.
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  Speaker 2: People love hearing that because a lot of people don't
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  Speaker 2: feel like they're even at a stage in their life
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  Speaker 2: where they can make new friends.
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  Speaker 3: Right. Well, you're right when I say sick.
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  Speaker 8: I guess really what I was saying is we but
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  Speaker 8: we both get a lot of comments on our Instagram
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  Speaker 8: saying are you two still friends? Are you know? Are
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  Speaker 8: you friends? Did you really make friends? And the and
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  Speaker 8: the truth is the three of us are very good friends,
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  Speaker 8: and we we she knows my friends now right right, children,
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  Speaker 8: we know each other's children, We FaceTime with each other's children.
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  Speaker 6: We are we are very good friends.
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  Speaker 8: And so I guess what I'm saying is sometimes people
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  Speaker 8: doubt that sure and it's and I'm like, don't doubt it,
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  Speaker 8: celebrate it because at our age friendships are really important.
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  Speaker 8: Not everybody can get the guy, not everybody.
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  Speaker 7: People have a hard time time when they're older and
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  Speaker 7: they don't have as many people around them making friends
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  Speaker 7: had that gifted.
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  Speaker 4: We had experience right.
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  Speaker 7: Together without social media, with that walls, we had was
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  Speaker 7: each other and you've got to get to.
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  Speaker 3: Know and you going to make it or break it
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  Speaker 3: in those moments. Did you miss your phone?
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  Speaker 6: Not a second?
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  Speaker 5: It was refreshing, fresh, was hard.
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  Speaker 7: A couple of times I went to get the iPad,
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  Speaker 7: it was, it was refreshing.
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  Speaker 3: Oh god, I didn't miss I didn't.
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  Speaker 6: I'm always have my phone in my hand. I don't
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  Speaker 6: go anywhere. I didn't miss my phone.
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  Speaker 8: And you know why, because that kept you busy because
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  Speaker 8: I had people that I wanted to interact with. Sure,
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  Speaker 8: And that's and honestly, that's a lesson for everyone. Is
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  Speaker 8: if you put down your phone, if you put down
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  Speaker 8: your social media. After you listen to this podcast, you
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  Speaker 8: know there's so much to be gained from making friendships and.
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  Speaker 4: Be present, Yeah, and not have the phone right, be present?
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  Speaker 6: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I try to do that with my It's funny that
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  Speaker 2: you say that about friendships, but I try to do
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  Speaker 2: it with my kids right now because I want them.
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  Speaker 3: I want to be able to tell them.
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  Speaker 6: Your children five and three phones?
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  Speaker 2: No, no, but I do, and I'm on it a
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  Speaker 2: lot for you to be when I'm around them.
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  Speaker 3: My goal is and I'm not good at it. I'm
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  Speaker 3: not gonna lie. I'm really bad at one of us.
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  Speaker 2: But as an older dad, I'm fifty three, I have
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  Speaker 2: a five year old and the three year old. Right,
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  Speaker 2: most of my friends' kids are in college, so it's like,
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  Speaker 2: I'm like, I want to make sure my kids learn
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  Speaker 2: by my example. So I'm trying really hard to make
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  Speaker 2: mental notes of doing it.
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  Speaker 4: I remember hearing somebody Simon Senek said if I if
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  Speaker 4: you come to a meeting and you're sitting at a meeting,
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  Speaker 4: and he said, this is true for families, this is
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  Speaker 4: true for couples, this is true for girlfriends, whoever, and
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  Speaker 4: you have your phones and the person puts their phone
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  Speaker 4: on the table, he said, do you feel like you're
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  Speaker 4: the most important person in the room. They're waiting for
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  Speaker 4: their phone, and if they put their phone, if they
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  Speaker 4: turn it over, do you still feel like you're the
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  Speaker 4: most important person? No, he said, the phone should not
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  Speaker 4: be on the table. The phone should be turned off
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  Speaker 4: while you're having a conversation, and you should never I
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  Speaker 4: mean it's hard for us to do in this, you know,
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  Speaker 4: now with everything going on but at the same time
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  Speaker 4: it's really important.
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  Speaker 3: No, I agree, you presently shut it off, but I
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  Speaker 3: keep it in my pocket months.
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  Speaker 7: I don't bring it to bed. I charge it in
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  Speaker 7: the kitchen and go up to bed.
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  Speaker 6: And now she takes a guy with her.
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  Speaker 7: She in my room because I get the guy.
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  Speaker 2: So this has become this is an annual thing for
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  Speaker 2: us right now. And now we got Nancy. This is
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  Speaker 2: so we got to.
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  Speaker 3: Keep this guy. You got to give me advanced dates.
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  Speaker 6: Yes, I like being here.
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  Speaker 3: I do too, do you. I enjoy everybody?
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  Speaker 2: Well, I love you guys. I love your friendship. I
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  Speaker 2: love what you three came away from this.
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  Speaker 3: I'm telling you.
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  Speaker 2: I say this all the time about like they'll say,
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  Speaker 2: what's the new advice for the new bachelor guy? And
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  Speaker 2: I think you guys have heard me say this before,
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  Speaker 2: but I'm always like, well, first of all, it's not
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  Speaker 2: about you, right, and so it could be a monkey
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  Speaker 2: hand and out flowers and the girls are going to cry.
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  Speaker 3: Same for the same with the lis. The you know,
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  Speaker 3: the general is reversed.
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  Speaker 2: But the other part of it is make sure you
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  Speaker 2: make make sure you make time to make friends because
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  Speaker 2: you're going to have this experience the shared experience that
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  Speaker 2: you're not going to have with all but twenty five
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  Speaker 2: or thirty people for the rest of your life.
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  Speaker 3: Right away from.
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  Speaker 4: These people, enter and savor what you have and savor
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  Speaker 4: what you get from it.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and make the most of it, because you guys
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  Speaker 2: are going to have some really fun moments.
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  Speaker 6: Get Jones leftovers.
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  Speaker 4: We're hopefully, hopefully we're going to have a chance at
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  Speaker 4: the left overs because we're the well.
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  Speaker 7: We're not.
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  Speaker 6: I'm not left though.
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  Speaker 2: I don't care what you call them. I want one said. See,
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  Speaker 2: do you guys know do they can you?
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  Speaker 3: Can you spill?
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  Speaker 2: Do they possibly bring any of you out to provide counsel?
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  Speaker 3: You bring me? I told them to let them know
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  Speaker 3: I'm local in case they need just in case I'm
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  Speaker 3: just I'm just a stone throw away. Right.
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  Speaker 8: Let me tell you there is one guy that was
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  Speaker 8: uh from Austin, Texas, where I'm from.
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  Speaker 6: Oh yeah, he's a ranch, a rancher.
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  Speaker 3: I'm here, Kathy.
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  Speaker 6: You have to get the rancher from Austin publicly.
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  Speaker 8: I don't know if Joan chose them, because I don't
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  Speaker 8: know how it worked out, but I'm here to tell
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  Speaker 8: you there are no ranches in the city limits of
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  Speaker 8: He's already done.
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  Speaker 6: Your homework either, David.
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  Speaker 8: I think his name is David. David David. If you're
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  Speaker 8: in Austin, I'd like to know where the hell your ranch.
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  Speaker 3: You think.
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  Speaker 8: It's it's it's ranches, but yeah, exactly.
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  Speaker 6: Giddy up, let's find out where that ranches.
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  Speaker 3: I love you, ladies, Thank you for Let's have a
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  Speaker 3: great weekend. Okay, yes on the course.
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