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Habitual Side Bih · We Talk Back

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  Speaker 1: We're just two unapologetically Black.
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  Speaker 2: Women with an opinion who talk back.
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  Speaker 3: What's up, y'all? Thank you for tuning in for a
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  Speaker 3: new episode of We Talk Back. It's your co-host, AJ Holiday.
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  Speaker 4: What's up, Tam?
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  Speaker 3: Hey. Hey, y'all.
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  Speaker 1: It's me, Tam Bam. Welcome to a new episode. I
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  Speaker 1: miss y'all.
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  Speaker 3: I love y'all. What is going on?
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  Speaker 5: Do we have any life today?
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  Speaker 4: Um....
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  Speaker 3: Mario Brothers, Mario Kart. You know how your life level
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  Speaker 3: go down on the video games?
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  Speaker 1: Oh, yeah. You know what?
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  Speaker 2: I really just want to say, death to all spam
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  Speaker 2: calls on my phone.
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  Speaker 1: I get so many spam.
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  Speaker 2: I swear, I get 30 spam calls a day. It
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  Speaker 2: got to be some type of law against this.
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  Speaker 3: It's they phone. It ain't even your phone no more.
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  Speaker 3: I even put my phone number on that website. You know,
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  Speaker 3: there's a website out there you can go to and, like,
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  Speaker 3: Put your phone number in there to make sure you
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  Speaker 3: don't get those type of calls. But I feel like
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  Speaker 3: ever since I did that, I get more fucking calls.
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  Speaker 3: It's ridiculous.
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  Speaker 2: I be cussing them people out. I be cussing them
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  Speaker 2: the fuck out.
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  Speaker 5: Look, sometimes I play with them, especially them goddamn Indians.
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  Speaker 3: Really?
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  Speaker 1: What you be saying?
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  Speaker 3: Like, okay, if they call and be like, yeah, can
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  Speaker 3: we get your social? No, they'll say, I keep getting
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  Speaker 3: a call that says my social security number is suspended.
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  Speaker 3: or expired I'm like how does that happen but whatever
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  Speaker 3: let me get a new one anyway because I could
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  Speaker 3: use it right but I'll play along and then I'll
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  Speaker 3: start like giving them different numbers and I'll play along
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  Speaker 3: for a little bit then I just start cussing their
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  Speaker 3: ass out and they'll cuss you back though fuck you
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  Speaker 3: bish whenever I feel like it but if I rush
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  Speaker 3: to the phone and it's like one of them I'm mad.
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  Speaker 1: I'd be mad. Like, leave me alone. I'd be thinking
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  Speaker 1: it's my nigga. It's one of you motherfuckers talking about
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  Speaker 1: my extended warranty. Like, man, get out of here.
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  Speaker 3: How was your weekend, Tam? What you had going on
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  Speaker 3: this weekend, Chad?
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  Speaker 2: What the fuck did I do this weekend? Oh, I
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  Speaker 2: was in D.C. Yeah, I went to D.C. I was
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  Speaker 2: there because one of my good girlfriend's had her retirement
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  Speaker 2: ceremony from the Air Force and I went to do
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  Speaker 2: her hair and a couple other people's hair. And then
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  Speaker 2: I slid and did Tequila Talk podcast in D.C. with
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  Speaker 2: Walt and Jazz and they were a lot of fun.
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  Speaker 2: They showed me a lot of fun, a good time
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  Speaker 2: in D.C. Took me out to a club called Sex
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  Speaker 2: that night. Got me a little table, got me a
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  Speaker 2: little bottle, you know, had my name on the marquee
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  Speaker 2: and shit.
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  Speaker 1: It was a good time.
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  Speaker 2: Uh, so they want to come and do our show.
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  Speaker 2: They definitely got to come and do our show. I
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  Speaker 2: talked about you a lot on this episode, AJ. So
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  Speaker 2: you're going to have to go listen to that episode.
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  Speaker 2: Cause I spoke about you.
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  Speaker 5: What y'all been talking about? What's that show about? What's is,
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  Speaker 5: are they a couple?
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  Speaker 1: No, they're not a couple of their friends.
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  Speaker 2: And you have a drink of tequila, uh, And they
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  Speaker 2: have trending topics similar, top shelf, bottom shelf, like shit
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  Speaker 2: they like and shit they don't like. And they pretty
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  Speaker 2: much just interview me, talk about my podcast and our
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  Speaker 2: show and things like that. It was a lot of fun.
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  Speaker 2: I told them your story about.
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  Speaker 1: The dog eating the poop.
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  Speaker 5: Girl, not you telling people my worst life shit.
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  Speaker 3: I wish y'all could see how my ex is running
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  Speaker 3: around the fucking room, like acting like he puking in
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  Speaker 3: his hand. He was like, I'm trying to rush to
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  Speaker 3: clean this shit up. And my dog ate it. Yo. Oh, goodness.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I had to tell that story. That shit was funny.
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  Speaker 3: You stupid.
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  Speaker 5: That shit was funny.
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  Speaker 3: Literally.
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  Speaker 1: What about your weekend? Oh, hold on. Let me just
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  Speaker 1: tell y'all.
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  Speaker 2: The club sex in D.C., baby, future DJ came in.
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  Speaker 2: He got the biggest section in the club and brought
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  Speaker 2: 20 strippers with him.
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  Speaker 3: Goddamn.
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  Speaker 2: Instantly, the club went from a normal, regular club to
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  Speaker 2: a strip club. Seriously, like they was naked strippers. It
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  Speaker 2: wasn't like they were strippers off duty with clothes off. No,
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  Speaker 2: these strippers came in and was naked. I was like,
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  Speaker 2: wait a minute.
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  Speaker 3: What happened here?
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  Speaker 1: I thought I was in the regular club. I didn't
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  Speaker 1: even bring any ones. Where do I get the ones at?
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  Speaker 2: Then it was like, like up top, there was like
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  Speaker 2: a burlesque show going on up top.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, it was just like a lot.
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  Speaker 5: So he just got strippers on demand?
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  Speaker 1: On demand hoes. DoorDash strippers, baby.
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  Speaker 3: Sounds like a business idea to me.
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  Speaker 1: Right.
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  Speaker 3: Like, I swear during the pandemic, I put a poll
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  Speaker 3: on my Instagram story asking people if they would pay
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  Speaker 3: for a virtual strip club during the pandemic. And people
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  Speaker 3: was like, nah. Then all of a sudden, Boosie and
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  Speaker 3: Tory Lanez was on some virtual stripper type shit. Like,
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  Speaker 3: why not?
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  Speaker 1: But nobody was paying for it. He was paying them.
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  Speaker 1: Put your pussy lips on live. I'll give you a
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  Speaker 1: thousand dollars.
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  Speaker 3: Nah, the way Instagram and shit set up now, I
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  Speaker 3: feel like you could put tips and all that shit now.
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  Speaker 3: We definitely going to be little OnlyFans. Let another pandemic
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  Speaker 3: come around. It's going to be AJ's virtual, I don't know, whorehouse. Whorehouse.
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  Speaker 3: For real. But no, so this weekend, I hung out
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  Speaker 3: a little bit. I went to, y'all know I like
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  Speaker 3: outdoor shit. I like animals. I like birds. I like
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  Speaker 3: little creatures. I went to this place called Bee City.
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  Speaker 3: It's in South Carolina. One of my friends surprised me.
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  Speaker 3: Excuse me, one of my friends. My friend surprised me
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  Speaker 3: and took me there. He took this bitch out for
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  Speaker 3: a walk. So that's what we did this weekend. And
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  Speaker 3: then Sunday night- What kind of animals?
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  Speaker 1: Hold on, wait, wait.
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  Speaker 3: They got tigers, lions, and bears. Oh my.
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  Speaker 5: No, they got tigers. No, hell no.
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  Speaker 3: They got tigers, all these different type of monkeys. Hundreds
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  Speaker 3: of thousands of bees. A bunch of birds. I got pictures, too.
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  Speaker 3: The birds was, like, damn near attacking me, bitch. They
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  Speaker 3: was on my weave, on my head, on my hands. Like,
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  Speaker 3: it just was on my body.
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  Speaker 1: What if a bird were to try to take your wig, bruh?
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  Speaker 3: Luckily, it was glued down that day. Luckily. But you
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  Speaker 3: to see me on video somewhere fighting birds, bitch, because
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  Speaker 3: why y'all playing too much?
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  Speaker 1: That sounds like a nice date.
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  Speaker 3: It was nice. I like shit like that. I like
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  Speaker 3: to ride bike. Like, nigga, take me to ride bike.
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  Speaker 3: That's the type of shit I be liking to do.
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  Speaker 3: And Sunday night, I just hung out a little bit.
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  Speaker 3: So somehow I got friends in Charleston now. So I go.
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  Speaker 1: Outside more often.
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  Speaker 3: That's good.
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  Speaker 1: I'm happy.
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  Speaker 5: People be calling me to go outside.
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  Speaker 1: Yay!
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  Speaker 3: And they think I'm new. So it's even better. Yeah.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, so that was my weekend.
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  Speaker 1: You know?
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  Speaker 3: I think next week I'm going to go to Atlanta
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  Speaker 3: for the whole week, hang out down there with my bestie.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, good.
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  Speaker 2: Because I'm going to try to set up some shit
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  Speaker 2: for us down there. A couple little rendezvous down there.
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  Speaker 3: Pull up.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Pull up.
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  Speaker 1: Y'all. Okay.
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  Speaker 3: If you got a podcast in Atlanta, we pulling up. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: we trying to pull up on y'all, for real. So,
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  Speaker 3: that's that on that.
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  Speaker 2: What happened to stupid bitches internet news?
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  Speaker 3: All kind of shit been going on. Not nothing like
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  Speaker 3: super crazy. Did you see what's going on with Deion Sanders? Oh, yes.
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  Speaker 1: Prime.
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  Speaker 2: The prime situation is what we're going to call it
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  Speaker 2: a situation. It's just proof that two things can be
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  Speaker 2: true at once, honestly.
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  Speaker 3: Mm-hmm.
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  Speaker 2: Because nigga get your bag, and then also at the
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  Speaker 2: same time, damn, nigga, you just going to leave us
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  Speaker 2: like that?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah. All right, y'all. So Deion Sanders just took a job.
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  Speaker 3: And what I'm hearing is he's being paid $ 5 million.
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  Speaker 3: He took a lead coach position at the University of
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  Speaker 3: Colorado Boulder. And he'll be the head coach over there.
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  Speaker 3: So a lot of people took to online, took to
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  Speaker 3: the internet to say how disappointed they were in Deion
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  Speaker 3: Sanders for choosing his career over HBCUs. Because he's been
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  Speaker 3: a coach. at Jackson State, I believe, what, since the
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  Speaker 3: beginning of the pandemic, like 2020, right?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, like in the 19, early 20, yeah.
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  Speaker 5: And that's his first coaching job.
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  Speaker 1: Yes.
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  Speaker 3: Right, so an HBCU. He's also an HBCU graduate also, right?
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  Speaker 3: So a lot of good people come out of HBCUs.
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  Speaker 3: A lot of Black business professionals come out of HBCUs.
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  Speaker 3: So our schools aren't the worst, but we are underfunded
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  Speaker 3: a lot of times, right?
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  Speaker 1: Mm-hmm.
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  Speaker 3: Sports is what brings any school the most money. If
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  Speaker 3: you're not like a damn Ivy League college, we know
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  Speaker 3: how they get their checks. But you got to invest
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  Speaker 3: in sports. So now I saw a lot of things
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  Speaker 3: in the past with him complaining about not getting the
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  Speaker 3: support he needed to even help the school, help him
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  Speaker 3: help them, essentially. Right? Right. So now what was his initial?
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  Speaker 3: I doubt that his income at Jackson is anywhere near $ 500, 000.
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  Speaker 3: So $ 300, 000.
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  Speaker 1: But they gave him a shot.
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  Speaker 3: Do you think that deon sanders would have been able
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  Speaker 3: to go straight to a bigger no right no.
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  Speaker 2: He wouldn't have been able to go to just straight
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  Speaker 2: to colorado he had to have a winning track record
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  Speaker 2: first as a coach you know they want to took
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  Speaker 2: it your ass.
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  Speaker 3: But i don't know i don't blame if he ever
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  Speaker 3: applied though i wonder if he ever even tried he
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  Speaker 3: is deon sanders let's be clear he's uh a phenomenal
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  Speaker 3: baseball and football player. Yes. So he may have been,
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  Speaker 3: his start may have been very genuine, you know, trying
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  Speaker 3: to help HBCUs. And even while in Colorado, that work
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  Speaker 3: can continue.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, because maybe he could like set up games with
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  Speaker 2: HBCUs for Colorado and get them schools to make money.
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  Speaker 5: They fuck around and beat them big schools. This is
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  Speaker 5: going to be on and popping, okay?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. He ain't trying to bring them out there to
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  Speaker 1: beat their ass though.
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  Speaker 2: He's trying to win. But I mean, you know, I
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  Speaker 2: saw an interview with him in 2020 when he first
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  Speaker 2: started and he said that these big schools offer you
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  Speaker 2: a job. He said that would be something he would
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  Speaker 2: have to entertain. So it was never, he never said
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  Speaker 2: that I'm going to be at Jackson state for the
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  Speaker 2: rest of my football coaching career. You know, he never
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  Speaker 2: said that, but if I was a student and I,
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  Speaker 2: turn down an opportunity at a PWI just based off
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  Speaker 2: of him being my coach, I feel a way I
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  Speaker 2: might feel a way like, ah.
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  Speaker 1: Damn nigga. I could have, I was supposed to go
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  Speaker 1: to Colorado.
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  Speaker 5: Right.
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  Speaker 3: Right. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: So I know two things can be right at the
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  Speaker 1: same time. Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: So I don't, um, I don't blame him cause I'm
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  Speaker 3: pretty sure his goal is to get back to the NFL. Right.
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  Speaker 3: To be a coach. So this is the road to that.
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  Speaker 1: Right.
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  Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying? So I think that he
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  Speaker 3: has started something, and maybe some other retired football players,
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  Speaker 3: they could.
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  Speaker 1: Pick up the torch. Right.
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  Speaker 5: And keep it going.
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  Speaker 2: That would be dope if they just, you know. But,
• 12:01
  Speaker 2: you know, everybody, just because you can play, don't mean
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  Speaker 2: you can coach.
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  Speaker 1: Absolutely.
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  Speaker 3: Exactly.
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  Speaker 2: Because I know some of y'all athletes can't even make
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  Speaker 2: a good sentence. you know, formulate a good sentence. So
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  Speaker 2: how are you going to coach?
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  Speaker 3: Exactly. So I want to read this right quick from
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  Speaker 3: Gary Chambers, just a little piece of it. So he said,
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  Speaker 3: two things can be true. One can be happy to
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  Speaker 3: see Deion Sanders advance his career. I believe he's, he's
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  Speaker 3: special and has the capacity to do something special anywhere
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  Speaker 3: he goes. It just felt good to see him bring
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  Speaker 3: all that black power to black, to a black institution.
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  Speaker 5: Him leaving does impact, right?
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  Speaker 3: We have to be able to have more than one
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  Speaker 3: perspective at the table to have an honest conversation. First,
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  Speaker 3: Deion Sanders can do whatever he feels is best for
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  Speaker 3: him and his family. Second, people can feel different things
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  Speaker 3: about how it impacts others because it does. And HBCU
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  Speaker 3: is where Coach Prime got his degree and his head
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  Speaker 3: coach job. The winningest team, excuse me, the winning winningest
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  Speaker 3: coach in football history is from HBCU. HBCU's had, and
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  Speaker 3: still have value. The question for now isn't about Coach Prime.
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  Speaker 3: His decision is made. It's how do we carry what
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  Speaker 3: he started forward. And that's just what it is.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, because that's what you're going to have to do.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, ain't nothing you can do about it.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah. Like, what are we going to do now
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  Speaker 3: for the HBCUs? He's just one man. He's just one man.
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  Speaker 3: I just feel like there's, like, this savior complex people
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  Speaker 3: be having. Like, y'all be looking for this one person
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  Speaker 3: To put all y'all faith in, that's going to change everything. Nah,
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  Speaker 3: it starts with that nigga in the mirror. So everybody
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  Speaker 3: has to be a part.
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  Speaker 1: But I can't coach. I can't coach.
• 13:43
  Speaker 3: You can't coach, but there's a lot of black men.
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  Speaker 3: I know a lot of good. And I mean, it
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  Speaker 3: can start with your little league teams in your city.
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  Speaker 1: It can start there.
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  Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying? Like to make sure those
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  Speaker 3: boys go to college. Like it just has to be
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  Speaker 3: like a network. Which I think it already is. But
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  Speaker 3: I'm just saying, we can't just be mad at the
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  Speaker 3: one man.
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  Speaker 1: We can. And they is mad. Yeah, they mad.
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  Speaker 3: And meanwhile, they ain't doing shit. You know what I'm saying?
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  Speaker 5: But talking shit on the internet.
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  Speaker 3: Right.
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  Speaker 2: Don't even pay their student loans back. It's the ones
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  Speaker 2: who don't even pay their student loans back. Girl, fuck
• 14:20
  Speaker 2: them student loans. You pay them student loans?
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  Speaker 1: I'm deferred right now.
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  Speaker 3: All of us deferred, bitch. All of us been deferred
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  Speaker 3: for the last two to three years.
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  Speaker 1: Relax.
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  Speaker 3: And when I tell you I'm paying them the bare
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  Speaker 3: minimum for the rest of my life.
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  Speaker 5: Oh, I did get approved for that $ 20, 000 though.
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  Speaker 3: Did you apply?
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  Speaker 1: No, not yet.
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  Speaker 2: Every time I try to log on and say I
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  Speaker 2: can't apply right now because I'm trying to block it.
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  Speaker 3: Day one, bitch, I was in there. You know, I
• 14:51
  Speaker 3: wear all white collar shit.
• 14:55
  Speaker 1: I saw a article. Well, not article.
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  Speaker 2: I saw the Jasmine brand that Kiki Palmer posted a
• 15:03
  Speaker 2: picture of herself in her, the father of her child
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  Speaker 2: in a very loving embrace, looking very happy. And people
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  Speaker 2: were making comments to her that weren't very kind. And
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  Speaker 2: it said, I just saw a few comments of people
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  Speaker 2: saying I was ugly because I wasn't wearing any makeup.
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  Speaker 2: And I really want y'all to get the help y'all
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  Speaker 2: need because makeup isn't real. I'm beautiful in real life
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  Speaker 2: because of who I am, not what I look like.
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  Speaker 2: I wish I could bottle how I feel about myself
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  Speaker 2: and sell it because some people take comments to heart
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  Speaker 2: and these people just say anything. I mean, truly, it's
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  Speaker 2: insane to say anyone is ugly, but especially me.
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  Speaker 1: Laughing faces.
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  Speaker 3: Period.
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  Speaker 5: Because Kiki is not ugly. Far from it.
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  Speaker 3: Right.
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  Speaker 2: And she's got a beautiful spirit on top of not
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  Speaker 2: being an ugly person.
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  Speaker 1: People so mean.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, I be calling bitches ugly sometimes, but I
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  Speaker 2: don't be doing it in the comments. I don't say
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  Speaker 2: it to them. I just do it in my mind.
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  Speaker 3: I would never go up underneath. I'll put the crazy
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  Speaker 3: eyes or something like that, but I'm not going to
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  Speaker 3: just be like, oh, this person ugly. That's hella mean.
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  Speaker 5: That girl's pregnant.
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  Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying? Your face does change a
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  Speaker 3: little bit. Now, I did notice she had acne in
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  Speaker 3: the image. Which I don't think Kiki has ever not
• 16:20
  Speaker 3: had acne. You know what I'm saying? But other than that,
• 16:22
  Speaker 3: she's a very beautiful girl inside and out. And on
• 16:26
  Speaker 3: top of that, y'all bitches getting confused with these filters. Okay?
• 16:31
  Speaker 1: That's not your face.
• 16:33
  Speaker 3: Bitch, that ain't you. That's not your face. That's not you. Like,
• 16:37
  Speaker 3: when we see you in person, that's not going to
• 16:39
  Speaker 3: be you.
• 16:40
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 16:41
  Speaker 3: So to come at somebody for not wearing makeup, just
• 16:45
  Speaker 3: being human. Mm-hmm.
• 16:46
  Speaker 1: Right, just being a human person and being authentic. You ugly.
• 16:52
  Speaker 3: Because you're projecting because you're insecure. And because you ugly.
• 16:56
  Speaker 5: That don't have nothing to do with Kiki.
• 16:57
  Speaker 3: Exactly.
• 16:58
  Speaker 2: And let me tell you, if you're ugly on the inside,
• 17:02
  Speaker 2: you're ugly on the outside.
• 17:03
  Speaker 3: Yep.
• 17:04
  Speaker 5: No matter what you look like, child.
• 17:06
  Speaker 3: Mm-hmm.
• 17:08
  Speaker 5: People need to get a grip, child.
• 17:09
  Speaker 3: Humanity is just fucked up right now.
• 17:12
  Speaker 1: In shambles. In shambles.
• 17:15
  Speaker 2: You know, and I know, I guess I'm a hypocrite
• 17:17
  Speaker 2: because I do be calling bitches ugly sometimes.
• 17:19
  Speaker 3: Yeah, we talking.
• 17:20
  Speaker 5: Like, bitches is ugly. Let's be clear.
• 17:23
  Speaker 3: It's a lot of ugly bitches out here. I'm not
• 17:25
  Speaker 3: saying that people aren't ugly. Keke Palmer, though, for people
• 17:28
  Speaker 3: to be saying she's ugly for having a bare face.
• 17:31
  Speaker 3: Y'all wrong. But here's the thing.
• 17:33
  Speaker 1: It's just mean to call anybody ugly.
• 17:36
  Speaker 3: Dog, some people be ugly. And some people act ugly, too.
• 17:40
  Speaker 1: To you, right?
• 17:42
  Speaker 2: Because beauty is what? In the eye of the beholder, right?
• 17:45
  Speaker 2: So you don't get to decide. It's only your opinion.
• 17:49
  Speaker 3: It's just your general consensus that somebody ugly. I'm going
• 17:54
  Speaker 3: to be clear. Y'all can call me a mean girl.
• 17:56
  Speaker 3: I really don't give a fuck. I feel like if
• 17:58
  Speaker 3: you're a nice person, a nice girl, and you're also
• 18:01
  Speaker 3: a pretty girl, you should hang around other nice, pretty girls.
• 18:07
  Speaker 3: I have met some really ugly girls. physically ugly and
• 18:10
  Speaker 3: ugly spirited girls because they just was unhappy. And I
• 18:14
  Speaker 3: also know some bad bitch, ugly bitches. Like they may
• 18:19
  Speaker 3: not be super aesthetically pleasing, but they are bad bitches
• 18:23
  Speaker 3: all around everything else, right?
• 18:25
  Speaker 5: Which makes them attractive.
• 18:27
  Speaker 2: I think you just should pick the people who you
• 18:29
  Speaker 2: are around by how they make you feel.
• 18:32
  Speaker 3: Do you feel good?
• 18:33
  Speaker 2: Are you happy when you're in their space? Then that's
• 18:35
  Speaker 2: how you choose your friends. I don't think you should
• 18:37
  Speaker 2: choose it. Just based on how they look.
• 18:40
  Speaker 3: Who the internet was just holding heat on about that?
• 18:43
  Speaker 3: That girl from Texas.
• 18:44
  Speaker 1: Oh, Erica Banks.
• 18:45
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 18:47
  Speaker 1: She's like, only bad bitches with me.
• 18:49
  Speaker 3: Girl, you just got your body done two seconds ago
• 18:51
  Speaker 3: and now you fucking flexing on people. That's not what
• 18:53
  Speaker 3: I'm talking about. I feel like super pretty girls hanging
• 18:57
  Speaker 3: with a bunch of ugly girls, they have an insecurity.
• 19:01
  Speaker 5: They too are insecure.
• 19:02
  Speaker 3: That's why you hanging with are not so pretty.
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: What if they just say friends?
• 19:08
  Speaker 3: Nah, because those friends be treating the pretty girl some
• 19:11
  Speaker 3: type of way. I'm telling you. You have to have
• 19:14
  Speaker 3: friends that are comparable to you. I'm telling you. You
• 19:17
  Speaker 3: just have to.
• 19:19
  Speaker 1: Am I lying? Am I tripping?
• 19:22
  Speaker 3: You be trying to be fucking nice bitch and when
• 19:24
  Speaker 3: we hang this shit up you gonna be like it
• 19:26
  Speaker 3: cause the bitches you be calling ugly you calling them
• 19:29
  Speaker 3: ugly for a reason look let me tell y'all me
• 19:34
  Speaker 3: and Tammy friends for a fucking reason I ain't the
• 19:36
  Speaker 3: only one who be on this bitch shit okay let's
• 19:38
  Speaker 3: be clear I admit that I said I have called
• 19:42
  Speaker 3: people ugly but I don't be choosing my friends like
• 19:45
  Speaker 3: that but do you have any like real life ugly
• 19:49
  Speaker 3: friends Ugly?
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: I don't think. No, no, no.
• 19:53
  Speaker 3: Exactly. That's what I'm saying.
• 19:55
  Speaker 2: But I don't think that is because somebody might say
• 19:58
  Speaker 2: some of my friends are ugly.
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: Somebody might say that. I think my.
• 20:02
  Speaker 3: Friends are beautiful. Right. OK, I think all my friends beautiful, too.
• 20:05
  Speaker 3: And I picked them bitches because they fucking beautiful. I remember, look,
• 20:15
  Speaker 3: I remember I went to Puerto Rico with my first
• 20:17
  Speaker 3: friend I met when I lived in St. Louis. First
• 20:20
  Speaker 3: guy I met, I met this bitch in the club,
• 20:22
  Speaker 3: my friend Ryan. And we went to Puerto Rico, um,
• 20:26
  Speaker 3: two of her friends. I didn't know them until we
• 20:28
  Speaker 3: got on the airplane. Like I didn't know them. And
• 20:31
  Speaker 3: when we got to Puerto Rico, we all laugh and trip.
• 20:33
  Speaker 3: And I'm like, man, I'm so glad y'all pretty. Cause
• 20:37
  Speaker 3: imagine going on a trip with some bitches that you
• 20:39
  Speaker 3: really don't know. And it's usually the not so cute one.
• 20:43
  Speaker 3: Who's acting mean on the trip. Am I? Yes.
• 20:50
  Speaker 2: Because I done been around some not so cute ones.
• 20:53
  Speaker 2: That's the funnest ones. That's had the best time. Like
• 20:56
  Speaker 2: they energy.
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: They like, Like, damn, I love.
• 20:59
  Speaker 3: This ugly ass bitch. I guess then I probably wouldn't
• 21:01
  Speaker 3: call her ugly then. I guess what I am saying
• 21:04
  Speaker 3: is like, yeah, that personality fucking matters.
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 21:08
  Speaker 3: Yeah. You cool.
• 21:09
  Speaker 2: Like, now you're beautiful to me because you're just so
• 21:12
  Speaker 2: much fun and just a ball of good energy. You
• 21:15
  Speaker 2: ain't never been around nobody that wasn't aesthetically pleasing to
• 21:18
  Speaker 2: you at first and then you get to know them
• 21:20
  Speaker 2: and you're like, you kind of look like.
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: Gabrielle Union or something.
• 21:26
  Speaker 2: I thought you didn't before, but now you look like Gabby.
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: I guess. It'll make you more beautiful.
• 21:34
  Speaker 3: I don't know.
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: Maybe I'm tripping. What y'all think?
• 21:40
  Speaker 5: They gonna say I'm mean, and guess what?
• 21:42
  Speaker 3: I don't care. So another thing I saw, Tam, there's
• 21:47
  Speaker 3: another post going on online. I think you might have
• 21:49
  Speaker 3: sent this shit to me. The girl, she was like
• 21:52
  Speaker 3: going in talking about how like a lot of pretty
• 21:56
  Speaker 3: women can't keep a high value man.
• 22:00
  Speaker 5: But a lot of things she was saying is true.
• 22:01
  Speaker 3: Like I know like we have this high value man thing,
• 22:05
  Speaker 3: all this stuff going on, but the people that are
• 22:07
  Speaker 3: in those circles, they have a certain type of lifestyle.
• 22:12
  Speaker 3: And oftentimes if you don't come from that lifestyle, you
• 22:16
  Speaker 3: may not know her. In this video, she was saying
• 22:18
  Speaker 3: how You know, she saw a girl come to an
• 22:20
  Speaker 3: event with a guy, you know, a high-value man. And everybody...
• 22:24
  Speaker 3: It was a gala. And everybody had on, like, gowns
• 22:27
  Speaker 3: and shit like that. And she had on, like, a
• 22:28
  Speaker 3: little two-piece number. So you already, like, aesthetically don't fit.
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: Mm-hmm.
• 22:33
  Speaker 3: Right? And then they said the girl was, like, noticeably uncomfortable.
• 22:37
  Speaker 3: She couldn't speak to any of the topics that people
• 22:41
  Speaker 3: were talking about, right? Yeah.
• 22:43
  Speaker 1: But this girl... So they were talking about going skiing
• 22:45
  Speaker 1: and wine and.
• 22:47
  Speaker 3: Right, right.
• 22:48
  Speaker 1: 401ks.
• 22:48
  Speaker 3: Which is not all the high quality conversations. That shit
• 22:52
  Speaker 3: is like, they probably would start... That's the thing about
• 22:55
  Speaker 3: that audio that kind of irked my nerves a little bit.
• 22:58
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it irks me too.
• 22:59
  Speaker 3: Yeah, because if you're in a group of women who
• 23:03
  Speaker 3: are from maybe upper echelon and you come here looking
• 23:10
  Speaker 3: a little different, they're going to be acting indifferent with you.
• 23:14
  Speaker 3: They're going to be asking you things they know you
• 23:15
  Speaker 3: don't know to embarrass you.
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: Well, they don't know what you know. They don't know
• 23:21
  Speaker 1: what you know.
• 23:22
  Speaker 3: We've seen the movies. We know how snobby bitches do, okay? Now, me,
• 23:27
  Speaker 3: I'm a renaissance woman. I'm comfortable anywhere. I can speak
• 23:30
  Speaker 3: to anything.
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: Me too.
• 23:31
  Speaker 3: I can fit in anywhere. If all else fails, tell
• 23:34
  Speaker 3: the joke.
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: That's what I do.
• 23:37
  Speaker 3: Yeah, so I'm never going to be in no situation
• 23:39
  Speaker 3: like that, but I can see them possibly being mean
• 23:43
  Speaker 3: to an outsider because now maybe this woman is showing
• 23:46
  Speaker 3: up to a guy that probably... should be suited with
• 23:49
  Speaker 3: somebody from their friend group. So now this outside bitch
• 23:53
  Speaker 3: coming in, that's really how these circles are.
• 23:57
  Speaker 2: So do you feel like you agree with her that
• 23:59
  Speaker 2: you need to like advance your palette?
• 24:01
  Speaker 3: Yes. Yeah. Absolutely. If that's the lifestyle you want, if
• 24:06
  Speaker 3: you want a high value life, you want a high
• 24:07
  Speaker 3: value man, like these are different types of people. They
• 24:11
  Speaker 3: probably went to Ivy, like the real high value shit, right?
• 24:14
  Speaker 3: They probably went to Ivy League colleges. You know, they're
• 24:17
  Speaker 3: probably CEOs of big corporations, shit like that. You need
• 24:21
  Speaker 3: to be able to talk about politics. You need to
• 24:24
  Speaker 3: be able to talk about, you know, the good vacation places. Like,
• 24:27
  Speaker 3: you need to be able to talk about different types
• 24:29
  Speaker 3: of yachts. Who knows?
• 24:31
  Speaker 2: She was like, what are your thoughts on what's going
• 24:32
  Speaker 2: on in Ukraine? She was like, and she didn't, I
• 24:34
  Speaker 2: don't even know if she knew if that was where
• 24:36
  Speaker 2: that was.
• 24:37
  Speaker 3: Yeah. Like, you need to be able to fucking read
• 24:40
  Speaker 3: a map. I don't think a lot of people know
• 24:43
  Speaker 3: where Ukraine, Russia is. And Germany are on the map.
• 24:48
  Speaker 3: I really don't. Because people a lot lately have been
• 24:51
  Speaker 3: confusing Russia with Germany.
• 24:53
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I used to live in the Ukraine. I know
• 24:55
  Speaker 2: I told y'all that before, but I did live there.
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: Ask me that, bitch. I'll tell you all about it. Actually,
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: while I was living there for a year.
• 25:05
  Speaker 3: But see, those are the life experiences you would have
• 25:07
  Speaker 3: had to have to have these conversations with these people.
• 25:10
  Speaker 3: So she's not wrong. So this is another case of
• 25:12
  Speaker 3: two things can be true at the same time.
• 25:14
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 25:16
  Speaker 2: She's not wrong, but then it's like snoshy. Real snoshy.
• 25:22
  Speaker 2: Posh and snobby together.
• 25:25
  Speaker 3: Exactly.
• 25:26
  Speaker 5: And meanwhile, I'm going to be me no matter where
• 25:28
  Speaker 5: I go at.
• 25:29
  Speaker 3: So guess what? Y'all bitches going to act like that's
• 25:31
  Speaker 3: to me. Yeah, that's usually how it is. Like, you
• 25:35
  Speaker 3: won't have to come down here. If you feel like
• 25:37
  Speaker 3: you up here and I'm down here, I bet you
• 25:40
  Speaker 3: by the end of the evening- you gonna be drinking
• 25:44
  Speaker 3: do say bitch.
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: Ashley, you're so funny.
• 25:54
  Speaker 5: And I'm a slide, which I hide by your man.
• 25:59
  Speaker 3: Oh goodness. So look, good morning, America child. Here go
• 26:04
  Speaker 3: another black man or whatever. Ambiguously black man cheating on
• 26:10
  Speaker 3: his goddamn black wife.
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: His wife is Becky with the good hair.
• 26:15
  Speaker 3: Yes. Okay. So Amy Robach and TJ Holmes from ABC's
• 26:24
  Speaker 3: Good Morning America. They've been sleeping together. So the wife
• 26:29
  Speaker 3: said that, you know, they did have some issues they've
• 26:31
  Speaker 3: been working on, you know, but they're they still married.
• 26:35
  Speaker 3: And apparently Amy got divorced in September.
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: You know what?
• 26:41
  Speaker 2: This is a conversation about workplace romance. You know, that's
• 26:47
  Speaker 2: a big thing. You're around these people eight to nine
• 26:50
  Speaker 2: hours a day, at least five days a week.
• 26:54
  Speaker 1: Is it hard not to fuck someone on the job?
• 26:58
  Speaker 3: Right.
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: I don't know.
• 27:01
  Speaker 2: I work in environments that are with females and gay men,
• 27:05
  Speaker 2: so there's nobody for me to fuck. But I wonder
• 27:07
  Speaker 2: if I worked in an environment that included heterosexual men
• 27:12
  Speaker 2: Would I be smashing?
• 27:13
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 27:14
  Speaker 3: Well, I come from corporate America. And you're going to
• 27:16
  Speaker 3: definitely be smashing. Okay, let's be clear. Somebody. I had
• 27:22
  Speaker 3: a relationship with one of my supervisors once. Like a
• 27:27
  Speaker 3: year or so. We're still good friends. But other than that, yeah.
• 27:32
  Speaker 3: But that was the only relationship I had on the job.
• 27:37
  Speaker 3: All the other times, I'm working from home after that. So,
• 27:41
  Speaker 3: but in an office setting, you're definitely going like you,
• 27:45
  Speaker 3: you guys spend a lot of time together. Y'all joke,
• 27:48
  Speaker 3: y'all laugh, y'all eat lunch together. Like you're, you're spending
• 27:51
  Speaker 3: more time with this person than your spouse or than
• 27:54
  Speaker 3: your girlfriend or boyfriend at home. So things happen. And
• 27:58
  Speaker 3: it's not illegal. It's highly unethical, but they know they
• 28:04
  Speaker 3: not really violating any, um, like, um, work rules. HR
• 28:12
  Speaker 3: shit well.
• 28:13
  Speaker 2: They need to put that in the code of conduct
• 28:15
  Speaker 2: manual do not fuck nobody up here.
• 28:23
  Speaker 3: Go to your manual on page 37 it says right
• 28:26
  Speaker 3: there on the top don't fuck nobody up.
• 28:28
  Speaker 4: Here those words in particular in bold print it's hard
• 28:37
  Speaker 4: though it's hard when you at least flirting You're going
• 28:41
  Speaker 4: to at least be flirting, talking shit, at least that.
• 28:43
  Speaker 3: You're going to at least be fraternizing. And then these
• 28:47
  Speaker 3: people are having these conversations, these in-depth conversations about different things.
• 28:50
  Speaker 3: So a lot of times they may put people together
• 28:53
  Speaker 3: that have the same point of view on some things.
• 28:55
  Speaker 3: So now y'all have the same mind, kind of. Right.
• 28:58
  Speaker 3: So he may have more in common with her than
• 29:01
  Speaker 3: his damn wife at this point.
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 29:04
  Speaker 3: Who he's not seeing that often.
• 29:06
  Speaker 1: I don't like that.
• 29:08
  Speaker 3: Me either, but it happens. It happens. A lot. It
• 29:12
  Speaker 3: happens a lot. It happens.
• 29:14
  Speaker 5: So they've been both suspended.
• 29:17
  Speaker 3: They haven't decided, ABC hasn't decided if they're going to,
• 29:20
  Speaker 3: you know, terminate the two of them, but I don't
• 29:23
  Speaker 3: think they should.
• 29:24
  Speaker 2: Every time Mary Alice from Wyoming turns on Good Morning America.
• 29:30
  Speaker 3: All she sees is his dick in her mouth, and
• 29:33
  Speaker 3: I can't watch this anymore.
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: Ha, ha, ha. All right.
• 29:39
  Speaker 3: So listen. it says the haunches over at ABC News
• 29:42
  Speaker 3: have made a decision to take Amy Robach and TJ
• 29:44
  Speaker 3: Holmes off the air, calling a couple's relationship a distraction
• 29:48
  Speaker 3: with next steps to be sorted out by executives. Sources
• 29:51
  Speaker 3: at ABC tell TMZ, ABC News President Kim Goodwin made
• 29:56
  Speaker 3: the announcement during an editorial call Monday morning calling the
• 29:59
  Speaker 3: situation an internal and external distraction.
• 30:03
  Speaker 1: Yeah, they're going to get fired.
• 30:06
  Speaker 5: Yeah, I think so too.
• 30:07
  Speaker 3: And it says, Kim also said the decision wasn't easy
• 30:10
  Speaker 3: and not a violation of company policy.
• 30:12
  Speaker 5: Like I said, she added.
• 30:14
  Speaker 3: And so I want to say that while that relationship
• 30:17
  Speaker 3: is not in violation of the company policy, I have
• 30:20
  Speaker 3: really taken the last few days to think about the
• 30:23
  Speaker 3: work through what I think is best for the ABC
• 30:27
  Speaker 3: News organization. So it does sound like they about to
• 30:30
  Speaker 3: let their ass go.
• 30:31
  Speaker 2: Yeah, because now they can't even laugh at jokes together
• 30:34
  Speaker 2: on air. It's like, oh, y'all think some shit funny?
• 30:39
  Speaker 3: And they said he was dating. I don't even think
• 30:41
  Speaker 3: it was like some.
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: So maybe he getting a divorce too.
• 30:45
  Speaker 3: Right, because like I said, she got divorced in September.
• 30:47
  Speaker 3: But y'all listen, when we come back from this break,
• 30:50
  Speaker 3: we're going to get into today's discussion. And this last
• 30:54
  Speaker 3: stupid internet news story kind of, you know, it sets
• 30:57
  Speaker 3: the Yeah, exactly. So we talking about side bitches. We
• 31:03
  Speaker 3: talking about mistresses. What's the difference? And sneaky links. And
• 31:07
  Speaker 3: sneaky links. What's the difference?
• 31:09
  Speaker 1: I think it's the money.
• 31:11
  Speaker 3: Exactly, bitch. All right, y'all.
• 31:17
  Speaker 5: So listen, we back. So a couple of weeks ago,
• 31:19
  Speaker 5: I know y'all probably saw this.
• 31:20
  Speaker 3: Carisha, please. She was online. She was talking to a
• 31:23
  Speaker 3: group of friends in the house. And they were talking
• 31:25
  Speaker 3: about the difference between sneaky links and side bitches it was.
• 31:31
  Speaker 3: And I'm like, you know what? That's a real good topic.
• 31:33
  Speaker 3: We need to talk about that. Because we've got a
• 31:35
  Speaker 3: lot of sexually liberated women out here. What y'all bitches
• 31:38
  Speaker 3: got going on, though? You're not going to be fucking
• 31:40
  Speaker 3: with somebody's husband.
• 31:41
  Speaker 2: So I think the sneaky link is just two people
• 31:47
  Speaker 2: who come together to have sex every now and then.
• 31:51
  Speaker 2: But they probably don't really talk on the phone. They
• 31:53
  Speaker 2: don't really have like a emotional connection of any sort.
• 31:57
  Speaker 1: It's just like straight physical.
• 32:00
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 32:01
  Speaker 1: A hookup.
• 32:02
  Speaker 2: And then a side bitch is like a girlfriend, an
• 32:07
  Speaker 2: alternate girlfriend to your wife or your girlfriend. If you
• 32:11
  Speaker 2: have one, your main person that you're with every day,
• 32:13
  Speaker 2: this person gets trips. This person might get money. This
• 32:18
  Speaker 2: person gets good morning, text messages and conversations, but they
• 32:22
  Speaker 2: don't get Valentine's.
• 32:23
  Speaker 1: They don't get Christmas. They don't get that. They might
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: even get a baby, but they don't get, no, seriously.
• 32:31
  Speaker 2: They might even get a baby out your ass, but
• 32:33
  Speaker 2: they don't get none of the accolades of being the
• 32:36
  Speaker 2: main girlfriend. And sometimes the main girlfriend might know eventually.
• 32:40
  Speaker 1: Especially if you have a baby, about the side.
• 32:43
  Speaker 3: Right.
• 32:43
  Speaker 2: The mistress is just like a side, but with more money,
• 32:49
  Speaker 2: I feel like. It's like a tax bracket thing.
• 32:53
  Speaker 3: Them high-value men have mistresses, okay?
• 32:56
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 32:56
  Speaker 3: She's taken care of somewhere. She probably got her own
• 32:59
  Speaker 3: little high-rise apartment, apartment house, whatever. I think oftentimes the
• 33:04
  Speaker 3: wife knows about her. Right. You know?
• 33:07
  Speaker 2: But she's so well taken care of that she Stevie
• 33:11
  Speaker 2: Wonder to the bullshit.
• 33:15
  Speaker 3: I'll deal with a mistress. I ain't dealing with no
• 33:17
  Speaker 3: petty side bitch shit. Okay? Because I feel like to
• 33:20
  Speaker 3: do the side bitch shit and the mistress shit, you
• 33:24
  Speaker 3: have to have money.
• 33:26
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 33:27
  Speaker 5: What type of woman is allowing you to do this?
• 33:29
  Speaker 3: Right.
• 33:30
  Speaker 1: For free.
• 33:30
  Speaker 3: If you're not compensating her. Yeah. You really want this
• 33:36
  Speaker 3: other woman's man that bad?
• 33:39
  Speaker 1: I don't.
• 33:40
  Speaker 3: Please compensate me, sir. Like, you have to pay for
• 33:42
  Speaker 3: the amenity. That's really what it is. So, usually the
• 33:47
  Speaker 3: mistress is like.
• 33:47
  Speaker 1: But I don't think it.
• 33:48
  Speaker 2: I don't think it's, like, completely transactional like that. Like,
• 33:53
  Speaker 2: where you just pay, like, here's the money and be quiet.
• 33:57
  Speaker 3: No, absolutely not. But they are probably paid and taken
• 34:02
  Speaker 3: care of well enough to where they gotta weigh those risks. Like,
• 34:05
  Speaker 3: I'm not about to fuck this up. I'm chilling over here, like,
• 34:09
  Speaker 3: He got his wife. They do their thing. We take
• 34:12
  Speaker 3: vacation once, twice a year together too. Maybe I don't
• 34:16
  Speaker 3: want a man 100% of the time. Maybe I'm okay
• 34:20
  Speaker 3: with this 50-50 situation.
• 34:23
  Speaker 2: But how would you get in a space where you're
• 34:25
  Speaker 2: okay with that? You're just by yourself for Christmas every year.
• 34:30
  Speaker 3: I think a lot of women are habitual side bitches.
• 34:33
  Speaker 3: They mama probably was a side bitch. This is just
• 34:36
  Speaker 3: coming through the bloodline.
• 34:37
  Speaker 1: Habitual?
• 34:39
  Speaker 3: Habitual side bitch yeah this is just what they do
• 34:42
  Speaker 3: like they may not be the type of woman who
• 34:45
  Speaker 3: wants a man like a full time man um maybe
• 34:51
  Speaker 3: they have other men that they entertain for those for
• 34:54
  Speaker 3: during those times.
• 34:55
  Speaker 2: Oh yeah that makes sense I don't know you have
• 34:58
  Speaker 2: a you have a main But then, no, because that don't.
• 35:02
  Speaker 3: Nah, because the man ain't going to be okay with that.
• 35:05
  Speaker 3: The man who's taking care of you, he's not going
• 35:07
  Speaker 3: to be okay with you having other men. No, but listen,
• 35:10
  Speaker 3: there are women with side niggas. Absolutely. But I feel
• 35:16
  Speaker 3: like when a woman has a side nigga, it's more
• 35:19
  Speaker 3: of a sneaky link side nigga shit.
• 35:21
  Speaker 5: That man ain't taking care of that woman.
• 35:22
  Speaker 3: Financially. Financially. That's still your husband's job to take care
• 35:27
  Speaker 3: of you. You just getting fucked by somebody else is
• 35:29
  Speaker 3: what's happening. So who do you think better?
• 35:32
  Speaker 2: I would think a guy would be better because they
• 35:36
  Speaker 2: don't get as emotionally attached like women do.
• 35:39
  Speaker 1: Women have a string connected. Well, I ain't going to
• 35:41
  Speaker 1: say women.
• 35:42
  Speaker 2: I have a string connected from my heart to my vagina.
• 35:46
  Speaker 3: So unless you're a call hopper, unless you like sell pussy,
• 35:49
  Speaker 3: like really like that's what you do for a living.
• 35:53
  Speaker 5: That heart going to run straight to your coochie for sure.
• 35:55
  Speaker 3: Or other way around.
• 35:56
  Speaker 1: The coochie runs straight to the heart. But I know
• 35:57
  Speaker 1: women who don't.
• 35:58
  Speaker 2: They like whole grown men out here that don't care
• 36:02
  Speaker 2: and just be fucking for fun and don't care and
• 36:07
  Speaker 2: send a nigga home right after and just don't care.
• 36:11
  Speaker 5: And a man probably be like, you know, she got
• 36:12
  Speaker 5: a lot of trauma.
• 36:13
  Speaker 3: Why a woman got to have trauma when we just
• 36:16
  Speaker 3: want to fuck on you and have your ass leave?
• 36:19
  Speaker 1: Because you do.
• 36:20
  Speaker 3: You do.
• 36:23
  Speaker 1: You do have trauma if you like that. But so
• 36:25
  Speaker 1: do men.
• 36:27
  Speaker 3: Right. Yeah. So I think that men may be better
• 36:33
  Speaker 3: at being on the side because women have more integrity
• 36:37
  Speaker 3: and we may be more honest with the man on
• 36:41
  Speaker 3: the side.
• 36:43
  Speaker 5: Women, if I'm.
• 36:44
  Speaker 3: In a relationship with somebody and I'm cheating on them,
• 36:46
  Speaker 3: the man I'm cheating with know exactly what this is.
• 36:50
  Speaker 3: I'm not like making him think he could be my girlfriend.
• 36:53
  Speaker 1: Like there's no gray area.
• 36:54
  Speaker 3: Yes. Men be pillow talking with the side bitch. So
• 36:58
  Speaker 3: now when you don't drop dick off or money off
• 37:00
  Speaker 3: or whatever it is, now you hitting me up on
• 37:03
  Speaker 3: my job is disturbing my day because my man ain't
• 37:07
  Speaker 3: drop dick and money off. Like now you trying to
• 37:10
  Speaker 3: make me mad because you mad.
• 37:13
  Speaker 1: That's a difference.
• 37:14
  Speaker 3: So women have more integrity. Look, women have more integrity
• 37:18
  Speaker 3: when it comes to cheating. Y'all so full of shit. Okay.
• 37:25
  Speaker 3: I'm so full of shit because this makes sense to me.
• 37:28
  Speaker 1: Hold on.
• 37:29
  Speaker 2: I just want y'all to hear that she acknowledged that
• 37:31
  Speaker 2: she's full of shit.
• 37:33
  Speaker 1: But go ahead.
• 37:33
  Speaker 3: This makes so much sense to me. Women have more
• 37:38
  Speaker 3: integrity than men when it comes to cheating because we're
• 37:42
  Speaker 3: honest with the person that we're cheating with. Oftentimes, that
• 37:45
  Speaker 3: person probably got a whole situation themselves. We ain't trying
• 37:48
  Speaker 3: to tie up a single person. We fucking want somebody
• 37:51
  Speaker 3: who got.
• 37:51
  Speaker 5: Some shit to lose.
• 37:53
  Speaker 1: That's not always true.
• 37:54
  Speaker 2: Bitches be savages too and be out here telling niggas
• 37:58
  Speaker 2: that they love them and they gonna leave their husband
• 38:00
  Speaker 2: and they not happy knowing that they ain't going nowhere.
• 38:04
  Speaker 5: We did have some cheating bitches on here, remember? Yeah. Well,
• 38:09
  Speaker 5: one of them was cheating.
• 38:10
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 38:11
  Speaker 3: But I'm pretty sure the man she was cheating with
• 38:13
  Speaker 3: wasn't about to call her husband, call her husband job,
• 38:17
  Speaker 3: pop up at the house. You know why? It's because
• 38:19
  Speaker 3: of the type of relationship she has with him, the
• 38:22
  Speaker 3: honesty she has with him. The woman that pops up
• 38:26
  Speaker 3: at this man's house knowing he has a wife is
• 38:29
  Speaker 3: because you've sold her a bag of fake goods. You
• 38:33
  Speaker 3: told a lot of times, though.
• 38:35
  Speaker 2: They just be jealous and like, okay, if I'm about
• 38:39
  Speaker 2: to make all y'all have a bad day today.
• 38:44
  Speaker 5: They fucking raw. That's what I do know.
• 38:47
  Speaker 3: Whenever a woman start acting real stupid, it's because your
• 38:50
  Speaker 3: man raw dogged her down. Yes. That's what's happening. Because
• 38:54
  Speaker 3: women ain't really studding condom dick like that. We ain't
• 38:58
  Speaker 3: really that concerned.
• 38:59
  Speaker 1: I'm not.
• 39:00
  Speaker 3: I'm not that concerned about a nigga out fucking with
• 39:02
  Speaker 3: a condom because I don't even like him for real.
• 39:06
  Speaker 2: I use condoms always. And I have loved someone and
• 39:10
  Speaker 2: used condoms with them consistently. Because they dick was outside
• 39:15
  Speaker 2: and I just couldn't, I wasn't, I couldn't trust where
• 39:18
  Speaker 2: that dick, you know.
• 39:19
  Speaker 1: Was going when it left me. Right.
• 39:22
  Speaker 5: I'd rather just not.
• 39:22
  Speaker 2: I still loved him very much. I did, but I just,
• 39:27
  Speaker 2: I just don't trust nobody without a condom at this
• 39:29
  Speaker 2: point in my life.
• 39:30
  Speaker 3: Life but you put it all down your throat though
• 39:33
  Speaker 3: like like what do you think gonna happen down that
• 39:37
  Speaker 3: throat that can't happen to that coochie.
• 39:39
  Speaker 1: I i put a condom on with sucking dick you
• 39:42
  Speaker 1: don't suck dick with a girl.
• 39:43
  Speaker 3: Shut up Who are you talking to? Who are you
• 39:48
  Speaker 3: talking to? I put the condom on with my mouth. Look,
• 39:52
  Speaker 3: I wish we was like on YouTube or something. Put
• 39:54
  Speaker 3: a one in the chat if y'all suck a dick
• 39:56
  Speaker 3: with a condom. On the movies, like who does that
• 40:04
  Speaker 3: in real life? Me.
• 40:07
  Speaker 5: Are you serious?
• 40:08
  Speaker 3: Are you just playing?
• 40:09
  Speaker 1: I'm lying.
• 40:12
  Speaker 3: You're so stupid. For no reason.
• 40:16
  Speaker 5: Like, that's me, nigga.
• 40:18
  Speaker 3: Why you lying to me?
• 40:19
  Speaker 1: You and thousands of other bitches, okay?
• 40:23
  Speaker 3: Yeah, and guess what? None of them other thousand bitches,
• 40:25
  Speaker 3: they might be smashing with a condom, but they definitely not, like,
• 40:28
  Speaker 3: sucking dick with a condom.
• 40:29
  Speaker 5: That is outlandish. Y'all wasting condoms, dog.
• 40:35
  Speaker 1: I tried it.
• 40:38
  Speaker 3: That nasty ass latex tasty amount and it's like powdery. Like,
• 40:42
  Speaker 3: why are you doing that? Yeah.
• 40:45
  Speaker 1: It's gross.
• 40:46
  Speaker 3: Yeah. So that's not happening. So I lied.
• 40:48
  Speaker 1: Fuck y'all. Anyway. I do have sex with a condom though. No,
• 40:53
  Speaker 1: I'd rather just, you know.
• 40:55
  Speaker 3: I probably will practice abstinence more than just, I don't,
• 41:00
  Speaker 3: I don't enjoy sex that way.
• 41:03
  Speaker 1: I don't.
• 41:04
  Speaker 5: So let's go to the doctor.
• 41:06
  Speaker 4: Okay.
• 41:08
  Speaker 1: But you ain't going to the doctor with every nigga you.
• 41:11
  Speaker 3: We're not but I go for me though so I
• 41:13
  Speaker 3: always got paperwork on my pussy like and I'm gonna
• 41:15
  Speaker 3: ask you about yours when's the last time you had
• 41:18
  Speaker 3: a checkup yeah we don't gotta go together but as
• 41:23
  Speaker 3: a grown man and a grown woman you need to
• 41:25
  Speaker 3: be going at least every three to six months if
• 41:28
  Speaker 3: you are sexually active no yeah so yeah I got
• 41:32
  Speaker 3: paperwork on this.
• 41:36
  Speaker 1: She got the pussy facts.
• 41:38
  Speaker 3: Exactly. Show me the dick facts. Yeah. Show me the
• 41:41
  Speaker 3: dick facts.
• 41:42
  Speaker 1: That's fair.
• 41:43
  Speaker 3: So, yeah, I think that mistresses are for rich men.
• 41:48
  Speaker 5: Side bitches are for middle class.
• 41:50
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 41:51
  Speaker 3: You may not get, you know, your full rent paid.
• 41:53
  Speaker 3: He may contribute to it a little bit. Groceries, light bills,
• 41:57
  Speaker 3: shit like that. Whenever you need something, you know, you
• 41:59
  Speaker 3: can call and ask for it.
• 42:00
  Speaker 1: You need a new tire.
• 42:01
  Speaker 3: Yes. He coming through. He going to come through for you. Um,
• 42:04
  Speaker 3: I think Sneaky Link is broke hoes Sneaky Link could
• 42:09
  Speaker 3: be I don't even think Sneaky Link is just like
• 42:12
  Speaker 3: everybody because I think about working in like a corporate
• 42:18
  Speaker 3: setting and you seeing people who these are like I
• 42:22
  Speaker 3: guess I don't know high value people these people I
• 42:27
  Speaker 3: know for sure business professionals these hoes they like they
• 42:31
  Speaker 3: little annual trips to Negril to Jamaica to fuck on
• 42:36
  Speaker 3: other business professionals. They got, they, they had all these
• 42:39
  Speaker 3: little travel groups. Right. Single as fuck. And all these
• 42:43
  Speaker 3: little travel groups all over, they going to Egypt next year, Dubai, whatever.
• 42:49
  Speaker 3: Like they are planning to get smashed on these trips.
• 42:51
  Speaker 3: And those, that's a sneaky link situation. So it really
• 42:54
  Speaker 3: doesn't ball down to like money. In that case, it's
• 42:57
  Speaker 3: just like two consenting adults.
• 43:01
  Speaker 5: Who with the shits.
• 43:02
  Speaker 3: Yeah. Right?
• 43:05
  Speaker 2: Until you didn't get caught and now you're getting fired
• 43:07
  Speaker 2: for good boy in America because you done fucked up.
• 43:10
  Speaker 5: The church's money.
• 43:12
  Speaker 3: Or like, Nia Long, baby daddy. Like, she should have
• 43:14
  Speaker 3: been married that man.
• 43:15
  Speaker 5: That's her fault.
• 43:17
  Speaker 3: At least, like, if she was planning on dipping out.
• 43:18
  Speaker 1: That wouldn't have kept him from doing what he did.
• 43:20
  Speaker 3: No, absolutely not. But, you'd have some paperwork on that
• 43:24
  Speaker 3: dick that maybe you could be compensated for the heartbreak.
• 43:27
  Speaker 3: Is what I'm talking about. Because now she looking for
• 43:29
  Speaker 3: an apology from the, from, From the goddamn, from the team.
• 43:35
  Speaker 1: Girl. The team ain't fucked. The team ain't fucked.
• 43:39
  Speaker 3: They did embarrass them though. So I agree with, I
• 43:42
  Speaker 3: agree with Nia Long on that. They embarrassed them because
• 43:45
  Speaker 3: that is like a.
• 43:46
  Speaker 1: Her man embarrassed the team.
• 43:48
  Speaker 3: Absolutely. Her man embarrassed the team. So did the two
• 43:50
  Speaker 3: hoes he was fucking that worked for the team. Yeah.
• 43:53
  Speaker 1: They, it was, you know, a collective.
• 43:55
  Speaker 3: Who knew he was in a relationship.
• 43:57
  Speaker 2: The team and Nia. So they owe an apology to
• 44:01
  Speaker 2: the Celtics and to Nia. I don't feel like the
• 44:03
  Speaker 2: Celtics owe her an apology.
• 44:10
  Speaker 1: That organization didn't do it. They wasn't in there like, go, go, go,
• 44:14
  Speaker 1: get that pussy.
• 44:15
  Speaker 3: Nah, man. I don't agree, Tammy, because I feel like there's, okay,
• 44:20
  Speaker 3: just imagine, just the same thing, work relationships. Same thing, right?
• 44:24
  Speaker 3: So you don't think there's never been a time where
• 44:26
  Speaker 3: a white man slept with somebody else's wife on one
• 44:29
  Speaker 3: of those teams and stuff like that. It's not publicized
• 44:31
  Speaker 3: in the way they did this man.
• 44:34
  Speaker 2: Was it the Celtics that did it or was it
• 44:36
  Speaker 2: everybody else and they had to do some damage control?
• 44:40
  Speaker 5: How else did it come out?
• 44:41
  Speaker 3: One of the husbands, the husband heard his wife talking
• 44:46
  Speaker 3: to him on their doorbell. So I don't know where
• 44:51
  Speaker 3: it went from there. But look, even with this thing
• 44:54
  Speaker 3: with Good Morning America, they told the story to TMZ.
• 44:59
  Speaker 3: ABC told TMZ. Do you see what I'm saying? So
• 45:04
  Speaker 3: it could stay in-house if they wanted to. They chose
• 45:08
  Speaker 3: to embarrass Nia Long. What is her name? Ibaka.
• 45:13
  Speaker 5: Isn't it Ibaka, right?
• 45:14
  Speaker 1: I don't know that.
• 45:16
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 45:18
  Speaker 5: They chose to embarrass them.
• 45:20
  Speaker 3: Because I feel like it was a cover-up for that
• 45:22
  Speaker 3: shit that was going on with Brett Favre.
• 45:25
  Speaker 5: Yeah, talk about that. How he was embezzling all that
• 45:28
  Speaker 5: damn money.
• 45:29
  Speaker 3: But, yeah. So, I don't know.
• 45:32
  Speaker 1: Nobody owe her an apology but that man.
• 45:33
  Speaker 5: Email Baca.
• 45:35
  Speaker 3: No, absolutely.
• 45:35
  Speaker 1: And I wouldn't blame her if she stayed with him.
• 45:38
  Speaker 1: Me either.
• 45:38
  Speaker 3: I mean, people stay with people for more.
• 45:43
  Speaker 2: Yeah, like if you choose to, you know, if y'all
• 45:46
  Speaker 2: have the conversation that it takes and y'all Find a
• 45:49
  Speaker 2: way to heal from that shit and decide to fight
• 45:52
  Speaker 2: through it.
• 45:52
  Speaker 1: Who am I to judge that shit?
• 45:54
  Speaker 3: Exactly. Yeah.
• 45:55
  Speaker 2: People would be like in the comments, I couldn't stay
• 45:57
  Speaker 2: with him after the public embarrassment.
• 45:59
  Speaker 3: And your baby daddy who got no job doing the
• 46:02
  Speaker 3: same shit.
• 46:02
  Speaker 1: You ain't got no man. Talking about who you couldn't
• 46:04
  Speaker 1: stay with.
• 46:08
  Speaker 3: Oh, you probably stayed with somebody who wasn't even providing
• 46:11
  Speaker 3: for you and fucking you over like that.
• 46:13
  Speaker 5: How about that?
• 46:14
  Speaker 3: Right.
• 46:16
  Speaker 1: I don't have a judge journey for nobody when it
• 46:18
  Speaker 1: comes to their relationships and matters of the heart.
• 46:21
  Speaker 3: Right. I agree. But I found a good article. It's
• 46:26
  Speaker 3: written by Tom Miller. It's on yourtangle.com. So it's like
• 46:30
  Speaker 3: a blog site. So look, the title of it is,
• 46:35
  Speaker 3: there are only three kinds of homewreckers in the world.
• 46:39
  Speaker 3: When we use that term homewrecker, you automatically think about
• 46:42
  Speaker 3: a woman. That's what I don't like about the title.
• 46:46
  Speaker 3: homewrecker because guess what bitches the homewrecker is a motherfucker
• 46:52
  Speaker 3: that's in the home right first that's the first homewrecker
• 46:57
  Speaker 3: then yeah we can't hold those people outside the home
• 46:59
  Speaker 3: accountable but the first person that's in the home that's
• 47:03
  Speaker 3: the person who wrecked it so your husband how you
• 47:06
  Speaker 3: gonna wreck a home that's already wrecked exactly like how
• 47:09
  Speaker 3: you expect somebody outside your relationship to respect it when
• 47:12
  Speaker 3: the people in it aren't yeah i'm confused Okay, so
• 47:17
  Speaker 3: this is the three kinds of homewreckers this blog post
• 47:21
  Speaker 3: is talking about. So it says the mistress, which we mentioned.
• 47:24
  Speaker 3: It says, you're familiar with the concept of a mistress.
• 47:27
  Speaker 3: She's a woman who has a long, loving relationship with
• 47:30
  Speaker 3: a man or a woman in a complimentary capacity to
• 47:35
  Speaker 3: the man's marriage. Both parties know that the man is
• 47:38
  Speaker 3: being unfaithful in our traditional understanding of the word to
• 47:43
  Speaker 3: his wife. Okay. While some mistresses appreciate that they'll never
• 47:49
  Speaker 3: replace a man's wife in a legitimate slash legal sense,
• 47:53
  Speaker 3: other mistresses hold out hope that he'll come to his
• 47:56
  Speaker 3: senses and leave the mother of his children. Semantically speaking,
• 48:00
  Speaker 3: I'm not sure where to go with this, but a
• 48:03
  Speaker 3: man may believe he loves his mistress. His wife may
• 48:06
  Speaker 3: know about her and a mistress may also be married. Okay,
• 48:11
  Speaker 3: so now this person is listing out the pros and cons. Okay,
• 48:15
  Speaker 3: so it says, pros, some level of affection, may receive
• 48:20
  Speaker 3: thoughtful gifts or trips, could make for a fantastic novella someday.
• 48:24
  Speaker 5: Both parties know the deal.
• 48:26
  Speaker 3: Cons, it sort of becomes a second marriage. He's not
• 48:32
  Speaker 3: leaving his wife for you. Exposing the whole thing is
• 48:35
  Speaker 3: kind of a dick move, even in the case of
• 48:37
  Speaker 3: a breakup. Okay, so that's the mistress. That sound about right?
• 48:44
  Speaker 1: Sounds right to me.
• 48:47
  Speaker 2: If I was going to be on somebody's side, that
• 48:49
  Speaker 2: would be the position I would want if I had
• 48:52
  Speaker 2: to pick one of those.
• 48:54
  Speaker 3: Yeah, because what I was trying to explain earlier is
• 48:58
  Speaker 3: that men be falling in love. It's not just women
• 49:02
  Speaker 3: that fall in love in side situations. Men fall in love.
• 49:05
  Speaker 3: You fuck with somebody long enough, you're going to fall
• 49:06
  Speaker 3: in love.
• 49:08
  Speaker 1: I just want my... You know what? I don't even
• 49:10
  Speaker 1: want my own... I do want my own nigga. I
• 49:12
  Speaker 1: just want... To be the main, honestly. like I don't
• 49:20
  Speaker 1: anticipate that a.
• 49:21
  Speaker 2: Man will never like we get together now and he'll
• 49:25
  Speaker 2: never I would be hopeful that he wouldn't step out
• 49:29
  Speaker 2: on me for the remainder of our life but I
• 49:32
  Speaker 2: just feel like if you get a good cream of
• 49:35
  Speaker 2: the crop ass type there's a large chance that It
• 49:40
  Speaker 2: could happen at some point in your relationship, right? It
• 49:45
  Speaker 2: would be naive to think that it could never happen.
• 49:48
  Speaker 1: Not us. You know, it would be naive to feel
• 49:53
  Speaker 1: that way. But, yeah, I don't know.
• 49:58
  Speaker 2: I don't know where I was going with that. I
• 49:59
  Speaker 2: just know I would rather be the main. Or if
• 50:01
  Speaker 2: I'm going to not be the main one, then I
• 50:03
  Speaker 2: would want that first one. I wouldn't want to be
• 50:06
  Speaker 2: the side bitch or the sneaky link.
• 50:08
  Speaker 3: So you'd want to be the taken care of mistress.
• 50:13
  Speaker 1: If I had to choose one of those three. Ideally,
• 50:16
  Speaker 1: I would want to be the wife, obviously.
• 50:19
  Speaker 3: Right.
• 50:19
  Speaker 2: But if I had to choose one of those three,
• 50:22
  Speaker 2: definitely the mistress and not the side bitch or the
• 50:25
  Speaker 2: sneaky link. The sneaky link just don't even sound... That's
• 50:28
  Speaker 2: not palatable for me for any reason. Why would I
• 50:31
  Speaker 2: just want to fuck?
• 50:33
  Speaker 3: Exactly.
• 50:33
  Speaker 5: That's my thing. Now, sometimes, but no.
• 50:36
  Speaker 3: No. Sneaky link is like twice a year situation. Like,
• 50:42
  Speaker 3: I don't know, just somebody that, you know, going to
• 50:44
  Speaker 3: fuck you real good. Like you might pull up on
• 50:46
  Speaker 3: the ass right quick. And it's just like, that's just
• 50:48
  Speaker 3: what it is. Like I knew where I could get
• 50:52
  Speaker 3: some good dick from. And I went there.
• 50:55
  Speaker 5: That's about it.
• 50:56
  Speaker 3: I mean, I get it. I get it. I get it.
• 50:58
  Speaker 3: All right. I think for women, like sneaky links is
• 51:02
  Speaker 3: more so like the people who you fuck with in
• 51:05
  Speaker 3: the interim, like in between relationships. Like you just know
• 51:09
  Speaker 3: whenever you get that little urge.
• 51:10
  Speaker 1: But that's not a sneaky link.
• 51:12
  Speaker 5: That is a sneaky link. That is a sneaky link.
• 51:16
  Speaker 2: I feel like if you're just fucking somebody that you
• 51:19
  Speaker 2: used to fuck because you horny.
• 51:22
  Speaker 1: Is that a sneaky link? A sneaky link is when.
• 51:24
  Speaker 5: He could be in a relationship now.
• 51:27
  Speaker 1: Okay. Okay. All right.
• 51:29
  Speaker 5: You know what I'm saying? Like that's a sneaky link.
• 51:33
  Speaker 5: Y'all just like sexually attracted to each other. That's just
• 51:36
  Speaker 5: what it is.
• 51:37
  Speaker 1: Y'all don't talk. Y'all don't talk on the phone about nothing.
• 51:39
  Speaker 1: Y'all don't have.
• 51:40
  Speaker 3: So let's go to the other one. Right.
• 51:42
  Speaker 5: All right. So the side chick.
• 51:45
  Speaker 3: A side chick represents truly the best and worst of
• 51:48
  Speaker 3: all women traits. Nigga, what does that mean? Exactly. It
• 51:52
  Speaker 3: says truly the best and worst of all other women traits.
• 51:57
  Speaker 3: A side chick is entitled to things like dates and
• 51:59
  Speaker 3: gifts on her birthday. She may or may not know
• 52:02
  Speaker 3: if the guy is married. She isn't married herself and
• 52:05
  Speaker 3: treats it as a nascent relationship in any case. And
• 52:10
  Speaker 3: nascent means like just coming into existence and, oh, like,
• 52:15
  Speaker 3: you know, like it's just starting. Okay. Yeah. So, I mean,
• 52:19
  Speaker 3: sometimes when you meet somebody, you don't know what they
• 52:21
  Speaker 3: have going on in life. So that's essentially what it's saying.
• 52:26
  Speaker 3: Even if she knows her status, she may feel compelled
• 52:29
  Speaker 3: to tell the original wife The wife is likely unaware
• 52:34
  Speaker 3: of the side chick's existence, but may have her suspicions.
• 52:38
  Speaker 3: Many of the man's friends know about the side chick
• 52:42
  Speaker 3: and anxiously await one of three outcomes. She's promoted to
• 52:49
  Speaker 3: the mistress. She's unceremoniously dumped, often with a ghosting technique.
• 52:57
  Speaker 3: Or she decides to wreak havoc by exposing the situation
• 53:01
  Speaker 3: to the.
• 53:01
  Speaker 1: Light of day.
• 53:02
  Speaker 3: A side chick may have a day of the week
• 53:04
  Speaker 3: assigned to their relationship. And it says the pros are
• 53:08
  Speaker 3: the sex is dynamite. As you know, each other's likes
• 53:12
  Speaker 3: and dislikes and the novelty has in no way worn off.
• 53:16
  Speaker 3: While intense, the whole thing still has an air of
• 53:19
  Speaker 3: casualness to it. The dates are great because you're both
• 53:22
  Speaker 3: getting high off sneaking around. Cons. She could be young
• 53:27
  Speaker 3: enough to be his daughter. What? There may be money
• 53:31
  Speaker 3: left on a dresser that muddies the water. A man
• 53:35
  Speaker 3: wrote this. This is funny as fuck to me. This
• 53:39
  Speaker 3: will probably not end gracefully. The husband, wife, or side
• 53:43
  Speaker 3: chick may end up stabbed. That's funny. Shame. Shame.
• 53:53
  Speaker 2: So listen, are you a side chick only if a
• 53:56
  Speaker 2: man or mistress, only if a man is married? If
• 54:00
  Speaker 2: he has a girlfriend, are you a side chick or
• 54:02
  Speaker 2: is your nigga just out here choosing?
• 54:06
  Speaker 3: So because like girlfriend, boyfriend relationships are prerequisites, right? For marriage.
• 54:14
  Speaker 3: I think it would depend on how serious and how
• 54:16
  Speaker 3: long these people have been together. If y'all living together
• 54:19
  Speaker 3: and stuff like that, got businesses together, like y'all building
• 54:22
  Speaker 3: a life together. heading towards marriage and he's like out
• 54:26
  Speaker 3: here choosing, I feel like that could be like a
• 54:29
  Speaker 3: side bitch situation. Like he might have a side bitch.
• 54:33
  Speaker 3: Some people take side bitches into marriages. I know some
• 54:35
  Speaker 3: bitches who the nigga didn't choose and this man got
• 54:38
  Speaker 3: married and you still fucking with him while he done
• 54:42
  Speaker 3: got married on you.
• 54:43
  Speaker 1: That's crazy.
• 54:44
  Speaker 2: Now that's a whole nother level of commitment to a role.
• 54:49
  Speaker 3: Exactly.
• 54:49
  Speaker 5: I know a couple bitches like that.
• 54:52
  Speaker 2: I don't feel like if it's a girlfriend, I just,
• 54:57
  Speaker 2: all right, y'all, no shade, but I just don't respect
• 54:59
  Speaker 2: girlfriends the way I respect wives.
• 55:00
  Speaker 3: Right.
• 55:03
  Speaker 2: I don't feel like it's a side bitch, a mistress,
• 55:05
  Speaker 2: or if you're a girlfriend. If you're a wife, if
• 55:09
  Speaker 2: this man has a wife, then you are a side
• 55:12
  Speaker 2: bitch or a mistress. If he has a girlfriend, y'all
• 55:15
  Speaker 2: just outside, everybody out here playing.
• 55:18
  Speaker 3: Right.
• 55:19
  Speaker 1: I don't see it that way.
• 55:21
  Speaker 3: You know, I like to say, and I probably joke
• 55:24
  Speaker 3: about this shit, but I'll fuck with somebody's boyfriend, but
• 55:26
  Speaker 3: I ain't fucking with nobody's husband. Yeah. Like, I try
• 55:33
  Speaker 3: my hardest. I'm not going to say I've never done it,
• 55:39
  Speaker 3: especially when you're dealing with older men.
• 55:41
  Speaker 5: Like, his wife probably got a boyfriend.
• 55:43
  Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying?
• 55:44
  Speaker 3: Like, these people know each other. They probably been married
• 55:48
  Speaker 3: for 25 years. Like, they sick of each other. Like,
• 55:50
  Speaker 3: it's like, nigga, as long as you paying these bills.
• 55:53
  Speaker 1: Where is your girlfriend at?
• 55:55
  Speaker 3: You ain't fucking up the kid's college fund.
• 55:58
  Speaker 1: Young bitch you're fucking at. Go bother her.
• 56:01
  Speaker 3: Jeez, Wilson.
• 56:03
  Speaker 1: Go over there.
• 56:05
  Speaker 5: She just outsourcing some pussy.
• 56:07
  Speaker 3: Like, that's basically what it is.
• 56:10
  Speaker 1: Oh.
• 56:12
  Speaker 3: But that ain't my normal setting. My normal setting is
• 56:14
  Speaker 3: definitely not to fuck with somebody's husband. Because listen, I'm
• 56:17
  Speaker 3: probably beating you up about my husband. You know what
• 56:21
  Speaker 3: I'm saying? Because I do have this thing where I
• 56:23
  Speaker 3: do believe, yes, the home wrecker is the person that's
• 56:25
  Speaker 3: in the home. But women do keep cheating going. Like
• 56:29
  Speaker 3: your man can't cheat unless a woman is willing to compete.
• 56:32
  Speaker 3: And oftentimes, like bitches, they're going to do that. And
• 56:35
  Speaker 3: then I respect women who play their position, like the mistress.
• 56:40
  Speaker 3: I respect that. The ones that get on social media
• 56:44
  Speaker 3: and y'all blasting these guys and shit like that, like,
• 56:47
  Speaker 3: I cannot respect that.
• 56:48
  Speaker 1: You're stupid. Yeah, like, why?
• 56:50
  Speaker 2: You do what you signed up for. Why are you
• 56:52
  Speaker 2: out here now trying to expose him?
• 56:55
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Expose him. You're exposing yourself more than anybody.
• 56:58
  Speaker 3: Exactly. Because with celebrities, like, everybody knows this guy is married.
• 57:03
  Speaker 3: His wife isn't stupid. You stupid bitch. Everybody knows this
• 57:07
  Speaker 3: is a married man. Right. And you chose to still
• 57:10
  Speaker 3: let him have his way with you. And then on
• 57:13
  Speaker 3: top of that, you want to flex on his fucking
• 57:14
  Speaker 3: wife like she wrong for being mad.
• 57:17
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 57:18
  Speaker 5: Nah, bitch, you need to get beat up.
• 57:21
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I agree. A little bit. If you're going to
• 57:24
  Speaker 1: be fucking on somebody's husband, you need to be quiet. Yep.
• 57:30
  Speaker 3: Yep. So the last one they list here is a
• 57:32
  Speaker 3: jump off, which I think essentially that would be like
• 57:35
  Speaker 3: sneaky links activity. So like this thing is for women
• 57:40
  Speaker 3: written by a man. But we know that men will
• 57:43
  Speaker 3: cheat with people too. But I guess when a woman
• 57:46
  Speaker 3: is getting fucked, a married woman is getting fucked by
• 57:50
  Speaker 3: some outside dick, it's not seen as jump off behavior.
• 57:55
  Speaker 5: It's just her being a slut is what men would say.
• 57:59
  Speaker 3: So jump off. This term is slightly more nubulous. A
• 58:04
  Speaker 3: jump off is a gal or a guy, he mentions,
• 58:07
  Speaker 3: who is just around for the sex stuff. The absolute
• 58:10
  Speaker 3: closest thing to luxury in this relationship is a ride
• 58:14
  Speaker 3: in an Escalade, a stay at a Red Roof Inn,
• 58:18
  Speaker 3: and possibly cab fare home or a hamburger sandwich from McDonald's.
• 58:27
  Speaker 3: This could be a repeated engagement, though irregular, or a
• 58:32
  Speaker 3: single-serving bone fest. Meetups with a jump-off are typically at
• 58:36
  Speaker 3: odd hours, involve a text message along the lines of,
• 58:38
  Speaker 3: you up? And are fueled by alcohol. It's a W-Y-D.
• 58:45
  Speaker 1: W-Y-D is what it is, not no you up.
• 58:48
  Speaker 3: Right. The key difference between a jump-off and any other
• 58:52
  Speaker 3: unfaithful activity is that it's clear, explicitly or not, that
• 58:56
  Speaker 3: this relationship will never evolve past SMS and smashed. A
• 59:02
  Speaker 3: jump-off typically doesn't know if a partner is married, nor
• 59:05
  Speaker 3: does she particularly care. This is expressly a key-meets-ignorance transaction.
• 59:11
  Speaker 3: A jump off situation is in no way, shape or
• 59:14
  Speaker 3: form exclusive to either party. And let's see. So the
• 59:19
  Speaker 3: pros are this is just about sex. To say that
• 59:23
  Speaker 3: the effort is mutually minimal would be an insult to
• 59:27
  Speaker 3: the word minimal. you'd have to be a moron to
• 59:31
  Speaker 3: get caught.
• 59:32
  Speaker 5: And cons. She may show up in his phone as Rick,
• 59:37
  Speaker 5: which is.
• 59:38
  Speaker 3: Unfortunately short for trick. Y'all may be giving each other
• 59:48
  Speaker 3: worse and worse stains of herpes.
• 59:50
  Speaker 1: Uh-uh.
• 59:50
  Speaker 3: Y'all may be giving each other worse and worse strains
• 59:54
  Speaker 3: of herpes.
• 59:55
  Speaker 1: What?
• 59:57
  Speaker 5: You may be enough of a moron to get caught.
• 1:00:01
  Speaker 3: And hold on.
• 1:00:02
  Speaker 5: This shit gives examples. Let's see.
• 1:00:05
  Speaker 3: I don't care to name them. Anyway. That was a
• 1:00:11
  Speaker 3: pretty solid description of those women or men when dealing
• 1:00:18
  Speaker 3: with people who are in relationships.
• 1:00:19
  Speaker 2: First of all, the jump off do not just get
• 1:00:21
  Speaker 2: sandwiches and McDonald's and herpes.
• 1:00:24
  Speaker 3: Goodness.
• 1:00:25
  Speaker 1: I feel like....
• 1:00:28
  Speaker 3: Now jump offs do just get dick and sometimes they
• 1:00:31
  Speaker 3: might get dick from you and your homeboy okay yeah
• 1:00:35
  Speaker 3: you're right I agree there the jump off that's the
• 1:00:38
  Speaker 3: sneaky link though right nah like sneaky link I feel
• 1:00:44
  Speaker 3: like is like more mutual it's not like it seems
• 1:00:46
  Speaker 3: like with the jump off it's like the woman is
• 1:00:48
  Speaker 3: getting played somehow but only the woman.
• 1:00:52
  Speaker 1: That's not fair why is only the woman getting played.
• 1:00:55
  Speaker 3: It's just that double standard we got to deal with.
• 1:00:57
  Speaker 5: We just got to deal with it.
• 1:00:59
  Speaker 3: It's just true. We cannot do the things that men do.
• 1:01:03
  Speaker 1: No.
• 1:01:04
  Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying? I have no desire to
• 1:01:07
  Speaker 2: have my dick in the dirt anyway.
• 1:01:09
  Speaker 5: Exactly.
• 1:01:09
  Speaker 3: If I had one. I don't want my coochie in
• 1:01:12
  Speaker 3: the dirt neither.
• 1:01:13
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 1:01:14
  Speaker 3: Shoot. Y'all young hoes, man. We be trying to tell y'all.
• 1:01:18
  Speaker 3: Y'all can live vicariously through this damn show. Y'all don't
• 1:01:21
  Speaker 3: have to go through these dumb bitch shit. You know,
• 1:01:23
  Speaker 3: these stories and Y'all don't have to. Y'all can listen
• 1:01:26
  Speaker 3: to this and make better decisions. So then that way
• 1:01:30
  Speaker 3: you aren't in your fucking mid thirties trying to reflect like,
• 1:01:33
  Speaker 3: God damn, where'd I fuck up at? Right.
• 1:01:36
  Speaker 2: No, like at the end of the day, just don't
• 1:01:38
  Speaker 2: be a mistress, a side bitch, a jump off or
• 1:01:41
  Speaker 2: a sneaky link. I mean, you might could do the
• 1:01:44
  Speaker 2: sneaky link every now and then, but don't be none
• 1:01:45
  Speaker 2: of the rest of them.
• 1:01:47
  Speaker 3: Unless it's lucrative.
• 1:01:48
  Speaker 1: The fuck? Don't lie to these hoes.
• 1:01:50
  Speaker 3: Unless it's lucrative, do that shit. No, don't do it.
• 1:01:54
  Speaker 5: You got to pay for college, girl.
• 1:01:56
  Speaker 3: Let me tell you.
• 1:01:57
  Speaker 1: No, don't do that shit, man. Don't do none of that.
• 1:02:00
  Speaker 1: Just leave it alone. Trust me.
• 1:02:04
  Speaker 3: That nigga put you in his will. Shoot. No.
• 1:02:12
  Speaker 1: Just find your husband and be the main, the wife.
• 1:02:16
  Speaker 3: I just think, is it cheating if, I think it's
• 1:02:19
  Speaker 3: cheating if the side bitch look better than your girl.
• 1:02:23
  Speaker 3: That's cheating.
• 1:02:23
  Speaker 1: The side bitch always look better than the.
• 1:02:27
  Speaker 2: Main.
• 1:02:28
  Speaker 3: That's cheating.
• 1:02:29
  Speaker 1: That is cheating. She's always younger, finer.
• 1:02:34
  Speaker 5: That's cheating.
• 1:02:35
  Speaker 3: Yeah, it's cheating. And what's also cheating is if they're
• 1:02:39
  Speaker 3: comparable too. It gotta be extreme opposites for me to
• 1:02:44
  Speaker 3: be okay with it.
• 1:02:44
  Speaker 2: He went and found you from when y'all met. He
• 1:02:49
  Speaker 2: went and found a version of you.
• 1:02:51
  Speaker 1: That he used to be in love with.
• 1:02:52
  Speaker 3: That is cheating.
• 1:02:53
  Speaker 1: Oh, that's so hurtful.
• 1:02:55
  Speaker 5: That is cheating.
• 1:02:57
  Speaker 3: But then I also don't like men who don't have preference.
• 1:03:01
  Speaker 3: I cannot stand like seeing a woman that a dude
• 1:03:03
  Speaker 3: is messing with. And I'm like, she don't look nothing
• 1:03:05
  Speaker 3: like me. She's nothing like me. Like you don't have
• 1:03:09
  Speaker 3: no preference. You just out here fucking on whatever.
• 1:03:11
  Speaker 5: That is weird to me.
• 1:03:12
  Speaker 1: That's worse. That's the worst. At least let her be
• 1:03:15
  Speaker 1: a bad bitch.
• 1:03:16
  Speaker 3: Yes.
• 1:03:17
  Speaker 1: If you're cheating on me, don't cheat on me.
• 1:03:19
  Speaker 2: I remember this girl that I know from high school,
• 1:03:23
  Speaker 2: and she was, like, really pretty.
• 1:03:24
  Speaker 1: All the boys loved her, right?
• 1:03:26
  Speaker 2: And she grew up and started fucking with this no-good-ass,
• 1:03:30
  Speaker 2: drug-dealing-ass nigga. And he went and got this girl pregnant. Baby,
• 1:03:36
  Speaker 2: this girl can't... She can't... I don't think she know
• 1:03:39
  Speaker 2: how to read. She's very unattractive. Very unfortunate-looking girl.
• 1:03:44
  Speaker 3: And.
• 1:03:46
  Speaker 2: uneducated and just bottom of the barrel bitch. And it's
• 1:03:51
  Speaker 2: just like, you got her pregnant. I would, I don't understand.
• 1:03:54
  Speaker 2: She stayed with him too. And like I said, I
• 1:03:56
  Speaker 2: don't have a judge or jury for anybody. And when
• 1:03:58
  Speaker 2: it comes to that relationship, but that would have been
• 1:04:00
  Speaker 2: it for me because you put your dick anywhere, sir,
• 1:04:06
  Speaker 2: you put your dick anywhere.
• 1:04:08
  Speaker 1: And I'm insulted that you got this bitch pregnant.
• 1:04:10
  Speaker 3: Shame. Listen, my ex, the one that's in prison. Oh,
• 1:04:14
  Speaker 3: that thing about to come home too. soon like real
• 1:04:18
  Speaker 3: soon dang listen that shit don't got nothing to do
• 1:04:20
  Speaker 3: with me because I found out that that fool has
• 1:04:22
  Speaker 3: a whole kid out here the same age as how
• 1:04:24
  Speaker 3: long he's been in prison so let's be clear but
• 1:04:27
  Speaker 3: anyway so when exactly but the first this first child
• 1:04:33
  Speaker 3: um we were in a long distance relationship we definitely
• 1:04:38
  Speaker 3: was in a relationship when this baby was conceived right
• 1:04:42
  Speaker 3: and The morning the girl had a baby and he
• 1:04:45
  Speaker 3: sent me the picture of the baby, I was like, yes. Why?
• 1:04:54
  Speaker 3: Because she looked funny.
• 1:04:55
  Speaker 1: The baby?
• 1:04:57
  Speaker 5: The baby looked funny.
• 1:04:59
  Speaker 1: Oh, no. You're going to hell for that. Babies be
• 1:05:03
  Speaker 1: looking weird when they first born.
• 1:05:05
  Speaker 3: Nah, bitch. She thought she was about to have this
• 1:05:08
  Speaker 3: fine ass nigga baby and she was going to have
• 1:05:09
  Speaker 3: this super gorgeous little baby and it just didn't happen
• 1:05:12
  Speaker 3: that way. She's pretty now, but she had to grow
• 1:05:15
  Speaker 3: into her looks. She definitely looks like her mama and daddy.
• 1:05:19
  Speaker 3: But it's not a good mix. It wasn't a good mix. Anyway.
• 1:05:23
  Speaker 1: That's not nice. I don't like that.
• 1:05:24
  Speaker 3: It's the truth. And that nigga know it too. And
• 1:05:26
  Speaker 3: if you listening, old girl, that was my nigga. You
• 1:05:32
  Speaker 3: had a baby before. And I slept.
• 1:05:34
  Speaker 5: It was like four o'clock in the morning when he
• 1:05:36
  Speaker 5: sent me that picture, Tam.
• 1:05:38
  Speaker 3: And when I tell you, like, I slept like that.
• 1:05:40
  Speaker 3: Because I mean, it was. We was together, damn it,
• 1:05:43
  Speaker 3: the whole pregnancy. So, like, I knew it was happening.
• 1:05:47
  Speaker 3: And then, furthermore, like, my ex, he is, like, my
• 1:05:49
  Speaker 3: family member. Like, I love him like a family member.
• 1:05:53
  Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying? So, even, like, if he do, like, low,
• 1:05:55
  Speaker 3: I could not just discard him completely in life.
• 1:06:00
  Speaker 5: You know what I'm saying? So, he sent me the
• 1:06:03
  Speaker 5: picture of the baby.
• 1:06:05
  Speaker 3: And I slept like a fucking baby just knowing, like, hey, hey,
• 1:06:10
  Speaker 3: y'all got this low. Yeah. Mm-hmm. Slept like, whatever. That's y'all, baby.
• 1:06:18
  Speaker 3: But he was a nigga that never cheated with anybody
• 1:06:22
  Speaker 3: that was comparable to me. Like, I swear, all the
• 1:06:26
  Speaker 3: bitches was like, I'm brown skin. Everybody's super light skin
• 1:06:29
  Speaker 3: and 250 pounds plus. Like, he liked big light skin bitches.
• 1:06:36
  Speaker 3: That was his thing. And I wasn't that.
• 1:06:40
  Speaker 1: So.
• 1:06:40
  Speaker 3: I don't know. That was his preference. What the hell
• 1:06:42
  Speaker 3: you doing with me? I feel like that was his
• 1:06:46
  Speaker 3: real preference, but I like men.
• 1:06:48
  Speaker 1: Who have a big girl now.
• 1:06:50
  Speaker 3: He in prison. He probably, no, I'm not about to
• 1:06:53
  Speaker 3: play with him. I was about to say he probably
• 1:06:54
  Speaker 3: with a big nigga. I know he ain't on that
• 1:06:58
  Speaker 3: type of time, but no, I don't know. He might
• 1:07:01
  Speaker 3: be with a big one. I don't know.
• 1:07:03
  Speaker 5: The second baby mama wasn't a big one and she
• 1:07:05
  Speaker 5: was brown skin.
• 1:07:06
  Speaker 3: So I don't know. More proud to them people.
• 1:07:10
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I hope he does well. And that baby, that
• 1:07:12
  Speaker 1: beautiful baby.
• 1:07:13
  Speaker 3: Yeah, she's beautiful now. I saw her last year. She's
• 1:07:16
  Speaker 3: a beautiful little girl, but I hadn't seen her since
• 1:07:18
  Speaker 3: he basically went to prison.
• 1:07:21
  Speaker 5: But yeah, I wish them the best.
• 1:07:25
  Speaker 3: Anyway, child, we ain't got no dumb bitch stories this week. Okay, y'all.
• 1:07:30
  Speaker 3: So listen, whether you're the side bitch, the main bitch,
• 1:07:33
  Speaker 3: the mistress, the jump off, the kick off, the sneaky link, whatever.
• 1:07:39
  Speaker 5: Listen, be good or be good at it.
• 1:07:41
  Speaker 3: Okay?
• 1:07:42
  Speaker 5: That's just all I got to say about it.
• 1:07:44
  Speaker 1: That's AJ advice.
• 1:07:46
  Speaker 2: My advice is just don't be nobody's mistress, sad bitch,
• 1:07:51
  Speaker 2: sneaky league. Just be the main or nothing. All that
• 1:07:55
  Speaker 2: shit is a headache. And it never ends well for
• 1:07:58
  Speaker 2: the woman.
• 1:07:59
  Speaker 1: Ever. So, don't do it, ladies.
• 1:08:04
  Speaker 3: All right, man.
• 1:08:04
  Speaker 1: I love y'all. That's it, man. Shit, I'm ready to go.
• 1:08:07
  Speaker 3: Hey, look. Hey, if you guys enjoyed this episode, please
• 1:08:10
  Speaker 3: tune in every Thursday on the iHeartRadio app at wherever
• 1:08:13
  Speaker 3: the fuck you get your podcast at. This is your co-host,
• 1:08:16
  Speaker 3: AJ Holiday 2.0. Y'all follow me on Instagram. We got YouTube.
• 1:08:20
  Speaker 3: We got Twitter. We got a website. Hit us up.
• 1:08:24
  Speaker 1: Y'all, it's official Tambam on Instagram. Y'all follow me. I
• 1:08:26
  Speaker 1: love y'all. Remember to speak now.
• 1:08:28
  Speaker 3: And never hold your motherfucking peace. Deuces. Bye.