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Our Hallmark Story: Nikki Deloach · Inside The Moms Club

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  Speaker 1: Hi, Welcome to Inside the Mom's Club, where being a
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  Speaker 1: mom is the coolest place to be. Here in the
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  Speaker 1: Mom's Club, we believe that what embarrasses you now will
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  Speaker 1: make a great story later. And let's face it, you
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  Speaker 1: don't laugh sometimes you're gonna cry. Join us in having
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  Speaker 1: a good laugh together. I'm Monica Samuels. You are now
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  Speaker 2: Mom Monny, I'm right. Welcome moms.
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  Speaker 1: Welcome to Inside the Mom's Club. I'm your host, Monica Samuels,
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  Speaker 1: and I'm here with my co host, Julie Orchideo July.
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  Speaker 3: So thrilled to be here.
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  Speaker 1: It's fun to be here now. We have been traveling
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  Speaker 1: so much. I mean I've been going from one trip
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  Speaker 1: to the next.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: And a few weeks ago, I was scheduled to go
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  Speaker 1: to disney World because we have an annual trip with
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  Speaker 1: my mother, sister, and niece to the Epcot Food and
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  Speaker 1: Life that's so beautiful. And there was a hurricane coming,
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  Speaker 1: Hurricane Milton. And I guess your daughter is in Orlando.
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  Speaker 2: So is she Georgia?
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  Speaker 3: You are working for a Universal Orlando.
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  Speaker 2: And what did you do when you heard the hurricane
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  Speaker 2: was coming.
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  Speaker 3: I was out Saturday night. It's feeling a little rough
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  Speaker 3: on Sunday morning, not gonna lie rolled over and I
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  Speaker 3: was like, oh lord, she's only twenty two, but she's
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  Speaker 3: you know, adultine ish. And I called her. I said,
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  Speaker 3: you're on a flight tonight. She goes, ah, I'm gonna
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  Speaker 3: ride this out. Okay, you know, no one, it's gonna
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  Speaker 3: you don't know what's gonna happen, and you need to
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  Speaker 3: come home. I mean, your job is not going to
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  Speaker 3: be going on. So I couldn't deal with it at
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  Speaker 3: the time. I rolled over. I said, call me back
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  Speaker 3: in an hour when you have your head screwed on
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  Speaker 3: stream and she got on the flight.
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  Speaker 2: And so while you were doing that, yeah, I was,
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  Speaker 2: oh god.
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  Speaker 1: I forgot looking at YouTube videos on how you get
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  Speaker 1: through a hurricane at Walt Disney World, and then I
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  Speaker 1: researched on ARII like, what do you buy to take
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  Speaker 1: with you if you're going to a hurricane.
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  Speaker 3: I envision you, like wearing the long yellow with the
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  Speaker 3: hat like on the salt container going yeah, flying into
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  Speaker 3: the hurricane, trying to have it first, get it done.
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  Speaker 1: The next day, my sister when it was we're supposed
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  Speaker 1: to leave, and I said, how are we going to
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  Speaker 1: do this? And she said, Monica, we are not flying
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  Speaker 1: to a hurricane.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, take your eighty two old mona into a hurricane.
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  Speaker 3: That sounds great.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: So thank goodness had wiser people in charge of me.
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  Speaker 2: But I did reschedule, my true did go.
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  Speaker 3: And last the only person I know who owns these.
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  Speaker 1: Well, I'm just saying Disney is upping their ear games. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: Now this is a podcast, so for those on YouTube
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  Speaker 1: can see. So if you're into food, this is the
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  Speaker 1: doll whip.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, I get it. I get it again. You are
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  Speaker 3: the only right I know who has those.
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  Speaker 2: Oh well, you want to know what's evenson?
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  Speaker 3: Who?
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  Speaker 1: Okay, talk about limited edition specially, I'm the queen shopper
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  Speaker 1: of everything in America. Actually, Duni and Burke has come
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  Speaker 1: out with these limited editions. I'm protecting these with those
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  Speaker 1: were cheap. Yeah, no, so don't tell my husband.
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  Speaker 3: I won't tell them.
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  Speaker 2: I won't tell Leather Mickey Mouse.
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  Speaker 3: I mean they're everything, Monica.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I mean I have to be. I'm a
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  Speaker 1: little embarrassed wearing them right now because they don't match
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  Speaker 1: my outfit.
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  Speaker 2: But aren't they great?
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  Speaker 3: They're fantastic. They came with their own case. I mean, yeah, yeah,
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  Speaker 3: they're very special. So there you go for those to
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  Speaker 3: be buried in those I think that's what I say.
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  Speaker 1: No, I don't think so, but but believe it or not,
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  Speaker 1: there are people out there.
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  Speaker 2: This is a big deal. Actually, I know, I know.
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  Speaker 3: I was kind of okay, Well, while you're gone, you're
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  Speaker 3: Christmas people also called you.
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  Speaker 2: Oh yeah.
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  Speaker 1: So when I got home, so I'd cut a special
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  Speaker 1: deal with my luncare people that they would put my
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  Speaker 1: Christmas lights in early and I'd get a ten percent discount.
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  Speaker 1: So when I got home, my whole house house is
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  Speaker 1: lit up. I'm the only one in the whole neighborhood
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  Speaker 1: with Christmas lights on my house.
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  Speaker 3: They're actually before Halloween.
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  Speaker 2: They're on, yes, very early. But then I thought about it.
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  Speaker 1: You know, we have a lot of friends for huge,
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  Speaker 1: huge Hallmark fans, right, so I think I should just
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  Speaker 1: have a big Christmas watching countdown to Christmas watching party
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  Speaker 1: at my house.
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  Speaker 3: You guys don't know, but Monica has a tree on
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  Speaker 3: every floor of her house. And I mean it's not
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  Speaker 3: like it's five floors, but when you walk around her house,
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  Speaker 3: I think she should give kids tours at Christmas time.
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  Speaker 1: I could, I could, But anyway, I'm trying to just
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  Speaker 1: a lot of fun. Maybe I should just put the
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  Speaker 1: little Hallmark thing out front so it looks like people
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  Speaker 1: can think, oh, oh, I see what she's doing, not
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  Speaker 1: what kind of person puts Christmas lights.
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  Speaker 3: Up in Well, the five of us also do something
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  Speaker 3: at Christmas with Hallmark, and we watch big time.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, and so that is why we were so excited
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  Speaker 1: to have with us our guest today. She has starred
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  Speaker 1: as the lead in over twenty films across various Hallmark channels,
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  Speaker 1: and she is part of that Upcoming or the Countdown
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  Speaker 1: to Christmas lineup. Her upcoming film is Our Holidays Story,
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  Speaker 1: which is airing on November two. She has reprised her
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  Speaker 1: role as Goldie Berry in the fifth installment of the
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  Speaker 1: popular Curious Caterer mystery series, Curious Caterer Forbidden. You and
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  Speaker 1: I were talking about watching that as soon as we can.
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  Speaker 1: She's currently the president of the Foundation the board of
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  Speaker 1: Trustees for the Children's Hospital Los Angeles. She's a board
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  Speaker 1: member of Mind What Matters and Putting These Mickey Ears.
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  Speaker 1: She was part of the all New in the nineties,
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  Speaker 1: the All New Mickey Mouse Club, where she starred with
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  Speaker 1: Justin Timberlake, Britney Spears, Ryan Gosling, Carrie Russell, and Christina Aguilar.
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  Speaker 1: Please welcome, Nikki DeLoach. Welcome to the Mom's Club. We're
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  Speaker 1: so excited to have you here.
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  Speaker 3: Hi, we are beyond you thrill.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, I honestly meeting you from my mother, who is
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  Speaker 1: a huge, huge fan. June is a huge fan. I
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  Speaker 1: couldn't meet Elvis and she couldn't be more excited that
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  Speaker 1: I was getting to meet you, so.
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  Speaker 4: So so kind. Thank you, and shout out to June.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you. She will appreciate. Oh well, she'll love that.
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  Speaker 4: Thank you, Adam absolutely will love it.
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  Speaker 1: Well, tell us about our holiday story. So if I'm
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  Speaker 1: gonna have a Chris Christmas countdown party at my house
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  Speaker 1: with lights and everything, what can they look forward to?
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  Speaker 1: What can my guests look forward to?
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  Speaker 4: Feel good movie? Obviously, But I've done a lot on
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  Speaker 4: the the Homemark Drama Mystery Channel where I grieve a
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  Speaker 4: lot and I cry a lot, and I've done five
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  Speaker 4: years of those, and so this year I said to
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  Speaker 4: the network, can I please just do a comedy this year?
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  Speaker 4: Just to feel good company. I've cried a lot. I'm like,
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  Speaker 4: just I'm tapped out on the crap.
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  Speaker 3: Like I got that covered on my own totally.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, you know, I always feel like I'm Holly Hunter
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  Speaker 4: and broadcast news. I find a place to cry once
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  Speaker 4: a day just to get it over with, you know,
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  Speaker 4: because inevitably will happen. Yes, but yeah, So our holiday story,
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  Speaker 4: it takes place in two different time periods, so present
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  Speaker 4: day and then when myself and my husband met many
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  Speaker 4: years back, So there's a period piece aspect of it
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  Speaker 4: where the clothes got to change. It was the nineties
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  Speaker 4: or early two thousands, actually early two thousands, and so
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  Speaker 4: that was super fun to kind of go back in
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  Speaker 4: time and take makeup off and put makeup on and
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  Speaker 4: make yourself look older in present day and younger in
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  Speaker 4: the past. And so it's really a story about serendipity
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  Speaker 4: and faith and if two people were meant together, if
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  Speaker 4: something is meant to happen, there's nothing anyone or anything
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  Speaker 4: can do to stand in the way of that. So
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  Speaker 4: it's yeah, and it's fun and it's funny. It's very quirky.
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  Speaker 4: I've never Joa Batkin wrote it, and she's one of
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  Speaker 4: my favorite Hallmark Christmas. She just writes beautiful Christmas movies
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  Speaker 4: and she did a beautiful job with this, so I
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  Speaker 4: was really happy to go and do it and kind
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  Speaker 4: of be funny and cry. I mean I do cry once,
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  Speaker 4: but that's different than crying for a whole movie.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: I wondered if they ever cry. And the Christmas movies
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  Speaker 1: at all are.
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  Speaker 3: Sad at all too.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah. Yeah. So there's the Hallmark Channel proper right, it's
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  Speaker 4: more you know, comedy and more happy and that kind
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  Speaker 4: of thing. And then there's the Hallmark Mystery or homework
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  Speaker 4: drama channel, and they also do their own movies and
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  Speaker 4: those are more dramatic in nature. They're meaningful, they're beautiful.
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  Speaker 4: I'd say the movies that I've made that I get
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  Speaker 4: the most feedback from from fans are the ones I've
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  Speaker 4: done on that network. Five More Minutes, which was about grief.
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  Speaker 4: The Gift of Peace was also about grief, a woman
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  Speaker 4: who found a grief group because she was stuck in
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  Speaker 4: her own grief after the loss of her husband. Those
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  Speaker 4: movies have been the most meaningful for people, for sure,
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  Speaker 4: and probably the ones I'm most proud of, you know,
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  Speaker 4: some of the ones I'm most proud of on the network.
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  Speaker 4: But this year, I just really just the world is
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  Speaker 4: heavy and I just want I wanted to be weird
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  Speaker 4: and silly, and I wanted to laugh and make other
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  Speaker 4: people laugh.
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  Speaker 1: Well, and the world wants Hallmark because you anyone I
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  Speaker 1: know that loves Hallmark, that you can like my mother,
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  Speaker 1: you can sit her in front of Hallmarks.
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  Speaker 2: He could stay there for four weeks and just never move, Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: and be totally happy. And you know it's it's not
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  Speaker 2: there's rare.
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  Speaker 4: I know that joy like that. Oh no, well that's
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  Speaker 4: the reason, you know. I did my first Hallmark movie
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  Speaker 4: in twenty fifteen, and when I got the response from
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  Speaker 4: my hometown because I had never watched a Hallmark movie.
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  Speaker 4: I mean, of course I knew about the brand. It's
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  Speaker 4: a massive brand. Yeah, you can't buy a card that's
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  Speaker 4: not a Hallmark card. Really, I mean, they've been around
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  Speaker 4: for so long, but I didn't know the world of
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  Speaker 4: the movies that they make. And when I was with
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  Speaker 4: people in my hometown and their response to the movie,
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  Speaker 4: I was like, what is this? This is I've been
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  Speaker 4: doing this since I was seven eight years old, and
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  Speaker 4: I've never experienced this kind of.
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  Speaker 3: Response like intense loving feedback.
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  Speaker 4: So passionately loving and hopeful and happy, and the joy
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  Speaker 4: that just joy was the world that just like would
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  Speaker 4: come out of them. I thought, I think I want
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  Speaker 4: to be a part of that. It's like, of course
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  Speaker 4: we want to make the secessions of the world or
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  Speaker 4: TV shows like Deep and some of you know, but
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  Speaker 4: to actually bring people joy and comfort and peace, especially
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  Speaker 4: those that are going through really hard things. There's no
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  Speaker 4: greater gift if you're doing what we do in terms
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  Speaker 4: of bringing people content.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, you started your career bringing people joy because the
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  Speaker 1: Mickey Mouse Club a Mickey mouse Club that is so fun.
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  Speaker 1: And when I'm thinking the whole cast, I mean, if
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  Speaker 1: you announced that cast right now, it's like, oh.
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  Speaker 2: Wow, you know, all of you are so successful.
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  Speaker 1: Julie and I went to a justin Timberlake concert and.
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  Speaker 4: A and he's coming back the recent one.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, the world wasn't great.
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  Speaker 3: I'm just going to ask you. I'm sure you've attended
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  Speaker 3: many this tour.
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  Speaker 4: Hell and I've seen five of his shows.
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  Speaker 3: The dancing and his backup dancers and the way I
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  Speaker 3: think he's the greatest hard I mean, his whole his
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  Speaker 3: whole team.
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  Speaker 4: People don't understand I have. I mean, he's family, so
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  Speaker 4: of course I know what he does. I know how
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  Speaker 4: hard he works. He's like the hardest working person I know.
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  Speaker 4: And people don't understand what he puts into a show
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  Speaker 4: to make it look like it's as effortless as breathing.
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  Speaker 4: I was in a girl band where we sang and
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  Speaker 4: we dance.
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  Speaker 3: And mother managed. Is that right?
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  Speaker 4: Yes, Okay, let me tell you it is so hard.
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  Speaker 4: Get on a treadmill and try to sing, and then
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  Speaker 4: try to sing like he sings. Then you'll know how
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  Speaker 4: hard it is. Like literally, get on the treadmill and
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  Speaker 4: run and try to sing. And that's what it's like.
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  Speaker 4: You're dancing, you're bouncing around, you're moving, and he's doing
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  Speaker 4: it for two and a.
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  Speaker 3: Half hours, hours whatever night, And.
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  Speaker 4: I just he is. He will go down in history
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  Speaker 4: as being one of the greatest performers of all time,
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  Speaker 4: all time.
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  Speaker 3: He's incredibly, incredibly talented. Yeah, but so are you. And
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  Speaker 3: so I want to tell you that not only does
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  Speaker 3: she have done all these movies, but you actually have
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  Speaker 3: a podcast I do, and you guys actually bring even
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  Speaker 3: though it's talking about you know, caregiver vers of you know,
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  Speaker 3: you've had deeply affected by dementia Alzheimer's, And I'm fanning
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  Speaker 3: hard because I'm a nurse and so I know.
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  Speaker 4: I listened to the podcast and heard you say that
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  Speaker 4: you were a nurse. What kind of nurse I was?
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  Speaker 5: Any?
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  Speaker 3: Our nurse for fourteen years been really considering doing hospice nursing,
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  Speaker 3: So of course I went cuckoo over Nurse Julie.
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  Speaker 4: Not my name is Julie, but we have her in
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  Speaker 4: our one of our episodes.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, I mean that's what I was listening to. So,
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  Speaker 3: but I just want to touch base on that, because
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  Speaker 3: what you guys are actually doing is bringing a little
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  Speaker 3: bit of joy in the grief.
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  Speaker 2: That you have.
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  Speaker 3: And what you said, they do this great dance party,
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  Speaker 3: and what you said is it's really a love letter
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  Speaker 3: to our parents, right, And I love the way that
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  Speaker 3: you're honoring everything. So tell us a little bit about,
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  Speaker 3: like mind, what matters?
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  Speaker 2: How did it all start for you that you got
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  Speaker 2: interested in that?
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  Speaker 4: Well, So my road or my philanthropy with Alzheimer's and
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  Speaker 4: dementia started really in twenty seventeen. So my dad, my grandfather,
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  Speaker 4: actually passed away with vascular dementia and that was its
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  Speaker 4: own journey in and of itself. And then in twenty seventeen,
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  Speaker 4: in the same week, I was pregnant with my youngest son,
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  Speaker 4: who was diagnosed with multiple congenital heart defects and without
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  Speaker 4: immediate intervention, he would not survive. And in that same week,
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  Speaker 4: my dad was diagnosed with Picks disease, which is a
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  Speaker 4: rare and aggressive form of dementia for which there is
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  Speaker 4: no cure. So I knew I was going to lose
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  Speaker 4: my dad, and I knew there was a chance that
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  Speaker 4: I could also lose my son, A big chance.
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  Speaker 2: Wow.
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  Speaker 4: And yeah, So talk about those moments, those markers in
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  Speaker 4: your life that it's like BC, you know, like before Christ,
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  Speaker 4: like right before that that forever will mark my life.
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  Speaker 4: It changed me on such a cellular level, and there's
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  Speaker 4: been a lot of trauma and pain and heartache and
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  Speaker 4: loss and grief. And also I always say this because really,
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  Speaker 4: what other choice do we have if we want to
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  Speaker 4: live a happy, joyful, full life. I want to get
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  Speaker 4: to the end of my life and be like I
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  Speaker 4: squeezed every ounce I could out of this. I can't
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  Speaker 4: do that if I'm only resting inside of the sad
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  Speaker 4: or the victimization. It's so easy for us to be
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  Speaker 4: like why us, why us? Why us? Well, why not us?
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  Speaker 4: It happens to people every day, hard, sad, bad things,
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  Speaker 4: So why not you as well? Right? So what do
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  Speaker 4: we do with that? What do we do? I will say, like,
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  Speaker 4: you know, sometimes life gives you a hand, like a
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  Speaker 4: pile of crap in your hand and you're looking at
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  Speaker 4: it and you're like, this is steamy, it's steams, it's horrible,
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  Speaker 4: and what am I going to do with this? Well?
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  Speaker 4: How do we spin that into gold? Right? So I
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  Speaker 4: got involved with our Alzheimer's Association at first as a
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  Speaker 4: spokesperson speaking at events. I led the walk to in
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  Speaker 4: Alzheimer's in Los Angeles for many years. Kicked off that
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  Speaker 4: event and then the dance party specifically was started by
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  Speaker 4: Kimberly Williams Paisley. Her sister, Ashley Williams and I have
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  Speaker 4: been friends since our twenties. We grew up in acting
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  Speaker 4: class together. And Kimberly was ready to hand the party over.
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  Speaker 4: So she handed it over to obviously her sister Ashley,
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  Speaker 4: and Ashley needed a partner and so they you know,
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  Speaker 4: I think it was her brother Jay because there's three
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  Speaker 4: of them. Jay suggested, what about Niki? Why don't you
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  Speaker 4: ask NICKI? So that's how I got involved with the dance.
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  Speaker 4: And this year we just had our event, the Halloween Addition,
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  Speaker 4: and we raised in that night and we're still we
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  Speaker 4: have another couple weeks of fundraising. It's still open. We
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  Speaker 4: raised two hundred and fifty thousand dollars, which is incredible,
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  Speaker 4: and it all goes towards research grants. So really we're
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  Speaker 4: focused on prevention. We now know because of the money
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  Speaker 4: we have put into research in terms of prevention, we
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  Speaker 4: now know we can prevent this disease. We have no cure,
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  Speaker 4: but we know we can prevent it, and we have
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  Speaker 4: ways in which we can prevent that. So this is
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  Speaker 4: what we're not. I always say, nobody's coming to save you.
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  Speaker 4: Now you have got to save yourself. Put your pants on,
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  Speaker 4: get your shoes on. As you get put your shoes,
• 17:26
  Speaker 4: shoes on, get out there and do something about it,
• 17:29
  Speaker 4: because nobody's coming to save you. And then from mind,
• 17:32
  Speaker 4: what matters my friend who's become a dear friend? Elizabeth Humphries.
• 17:38
  Speaker 4: She this was a podcast that originally exitited isisted years ago.
• 17:42
  Speaker 4: She was caregiving for her mother who had Alzheimer's. She
• 17:46
  Speaker 4: was really just looking to talk to people to get
• 17:48
  Speaker 4: answers on how do you navigate this.
• 17:51
  Speaker 3: Her wildly unexpected and be a.
• 17:53
  Speaker 4: Caregiver young kids at home, she was taking care of
• 17:57
  Speaker 4: her mom, like how do you do this? And she
• 17:59
  Speaker 4: put it on pause because she had to take care
• 18:02
  Speaker 4: of her mom. And her mother passed away, not this
• 18:06
  Speaker 4: past September, but the september before that, And I had
• 18:10
  Speaker 4: a dream that we brought the podcast back, but it
• 18:13
  Speaker 4: was the two of us and we just focused on
• 18:16
  Speaker 4: caregiving and not just in the space of Alzheimer's and dementia,
• 18:20
  Speaker 4: because what I've noticed is we're all caregivers.
• 18:23
  Speaker 3: In some way.
• 18:24
  Speaker 4: Yes, as a nurse, for example, what I've watched these
• 18:27
  Speaker 4: nurses do at Children's Hospital Los Angeles, and it makes
• 18:30
  Speaker 4: me emotional to think about they take care of our
• 18:33
  Speaker 4: children all day long. They save their lives. Literally, they
• 18:39
  Speaker 4: cradle these day, are their.
• 18:41
  Speaker 3: Hair, and when you cannot be there or when you're there,
• 18:44
  Speaker 3: and like even when you're their bedside, they're the taking
• 18:49
  Speaker 3: giving the meds, soothing them, doing all the things.
• 18:52
  Speaker 4: And they're going from room to room to room to room,
• 18:54
  Speaker 4: caregiving all day long, and then they have to go home, right,
• 18:57
  Speaker 4: and then they have to give care to their kids
• 19:00
  Speaker 4: and their husband and their friends and their community. How
• 19:03
  Speaker 4: are we doing this? Women? How are we doing this?
• 19:07
  Speaker 3: So with each other and with people like you, it's
• 19:10
  Speaker 3: really important because today when I was listening to you
• 19:13
  Speaker 3: that you really pointed out that the suck is going
• 19:16
  Speaker 3: to come. Embrace it, right, So you actually say something
• 19:21
  Speaker 3: and I think it's you that said, you know, you
• 19:23
  Speaker 3: never really heal, you recover, yes, And I thought, oh
• 19:26
  Speaker 3: my god, because what we've been dealing with our parents
• 19:29
  Speaker 3: this year. I've basically been running without any disrespect to
• 19:33
  Speaker 3: my parents and adult day care. Sometimes I'll take my
• 19:36
  Speaker 3: mom somewhere and she comes out and we're in the
• 19:38
  Speaker 3: parking lot and she goes, now what I do? And
• 19:41
  Speaker 3: I was like, you get in the car. And so
• 19:43
  Speaker 3: it comes and goes. And so what you're bringing light
• 19:46
  Speaker 3: to is amazing because it can you know, like MS
• 19:49
  Speaker 3: we work on a cure, and Alzheimer's were working on
• 19:52
  Speaker 3: a cure. So I really wanted to talk about your
• 19:54
  Speaker 3: podcast because the caregivers and want to help spread the
• 19:57
  Speaker 3: word about it, because the care givers need to know
• 20:02
  Speaker 3: that they're not.
• 20:03
  Speaker 4: Alone, They're not alone. Yes, it's called Mind What Matters. Everybody,
• 20:06
  Speaker 4: Please check it out. Thank you for thank you for
• 20:09
  Speaker 4: bringing attention to it, because it really is a labor
• 20:13
  Speaker 4: of love. And you know, for me and Liz, I mean,
• 20:16
  Speaker 4: I get anywhere between one and two calls.
• 20:18
  Speaker 3: A week that this is happening.
• 20:21
  Speaker 4: A lot of people I don't even know, like whether
• 20:23
  Speaker 4: it's children's hospital. They know what I've gone through with
• 20:27
  Speaker 4: my kid, they know I'm involved. They reach out via
• 20:29
  Speaker 4: Instagram my child needs a liver transplant. I don't know
• 20:33
  Speaker 4: where to go. How do I get into the hospital.
• 20:36
  Speaker 4: I got you, what's your cell phone number? Let me
• 20:38
  Speaker 4: take care of this for you or my dad. I
• 20:41
  Speaker 4: think was just diagnosed with Alzheimer's, but I'm not sure,
• 20:45
  Speaker 4: Like what's going on? Can you talk me through this
• 20:47
  Speaker 4: or both of us? And so this podcast is really
• 20:52
  Speaker 4: a way for us to talk about all of that
• 20:56
  Speaker 4: and so much more, but especially caregiving.
• 20:58
  Speaker 2: Yeah, critic quite is so.
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: Bad, and especially as our parents are living longer, it's
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: becoming more of an issue. And you just learned things
• 21:06
  Speaker 1: that you don't intuitively understand until someone says to you, well,
• 21:10
  Speaker 1: my parent repeats the same story over and over and
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: over again, or tells me something three times in an hour,
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: and initially your reaction is to correct that person, and
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: instead we're told, don't correct that person because that makes
• 21:25
  Speaker 1: them think, well, what's wrong? Totally yeah, and so, but
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: you learned so much about how to be compassionate, because,
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: let's all face it, someday.
• 21:33
  Speaker 2: You may be sitting in that seat, you know what
• 21:34
  Speaker 2: I mean, fond exactly exactly.
• 21:39
  Speaker 4: So it's true, you know, with my dad, it's just
• 21:41
  Speaker 4: something I don't I innately knew how to do it.
• 21:44
  Speaker 4: I don't know if it's because I had a kid
• 21:45
  Speaker 4: that was very ill and for years and and so
• 21:50
  Speaker 4: caregiving was just something that I had to, Like, it
• 21:52
  Speaker 4: was like a crash course in it. Right, Oh, here's
• 21:54
  Speaker 4: this baby that just had open heart surgery that you
• 21:57
  Speaker 4: have to bring home from the hospital. And in that
• 21:58
  Speaker 4: first two years, we had three heart surgeries and it
• 22:01
  Speaker 4: was more hospital er visits than I can count. And
• 22:05
  Speaker 4: so when he said things like, you know, the sky
• 22:10
  Speaker 4: is purple, Yeah, Dad, that's the most beautiful purple sky
• 22:13
  Speaker 4: I've ever seen in my life, don't fight it, you know, like,
• 22:17
  Speaker 4: let the moments with them just be filled with joy and.
• 22:21
  Speaker 3: And you're too like you want to be like, that's
• 22:24
  Speaker 3: not right. It's just like you got to embrace it,
• 22:28
  Speaker 3: you do, because it is an uphill battle on that.
• 22:32
  Speaker 4: Yeah, Well with.
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: The children's hospital piece, so my son was in the
• 22:35
  Speaker 1: nick you So I was on bedrooms for two and
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: a half premature, he was premature, and so yeah, his
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: story is he was premature and so he was in
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: the nick you for like ten weeks and then he
• 22:46
  Speaker 1: had to have a surgery and all that, and then
• 22:48
  Speaker 1: later on in his life he had a bad accident
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: and had traumatic brain injury.
• 22:52
  Speaker 2: So like, how many lives does this kid have? And
• 22:54
  Speaker 2: he's still hanging in there and he's doing well. He does,
• 22:57
  Speaker 2: he does.
• 22:58
  Speaker 1: But yeah, it's hard to you know, have your child
• 23:02
  Speaker 1: going through now watching your parent is difficult.
• 23:04
  Speaker 2: But what was that like for you?
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: That's a lot to know your child is get born
• 23:12
  Speaker 1: in that situation and that you're going to face that immediately.
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: And we knew once I went into early labor we
• 23:17
  Speaker 1: were facing that's right.
• 23:18
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean, you know it's brutal. It is so brutal,
• 23:23
  Speaker 4: and in fact, I don't know if you experienced this,
• 23:26
  Speaker 4: but you know, for me, I had a moment earlier
• 23:30
  Speaker 4: this year, so it's been seven years been. It just
• 23:32
  Speaker 4: turned seven in September, So this year, seven years ago
• 23:37
  Speaker 4: he was born. And earlier this year, I went to
• 23:39
  Speaker 4: meet a friend for lunch, and I'm helping families to
• 23:42
  Speaker 4: learn how to give a mission moment at Children's Hospital
• 23:44
  Speaker 4: Los Angeles. People who want to, who want to share
• 23:47
  Speaker 4: their story, who want to like support the hospital. So
• 23:51
  Speaker 4: I'm helping them kind of give them a template first speech,
• 23:54
  Speaker 4: like this is kind of how it looks, and this
• 23:55
  Speaker 4: is what you can talk about and share and you know.
• 23:59
  Speaker 4: So I had to put a speech together as a
• 24:01
  Speaker 4: template with audio or with video and pictures. And so
• 24:05
  Speaker 4: because I talk about the first time leaving the hospital,
• 24:09
  Speaker 4: I needed to find that video. I'm sitting there in
• 24:12
  Speaker 4: the valet waiting for my car, and I finally get
• 24:15
  Speaker 4: to the video, and I'm thinking, like, how have I
• 24:17
  Speaker 4: not seen this video? I've watched the second time we
• 24:19
  Speaker 4: came home and the third time we came home. How
• 24:21
  Speaker 4: have I not seen this video? And I pull it
• 24:26
  Speaker 4: up and I'm watching and then I just my body
• 24:29
  Speaker 4: just starts shaking, like I just start shaking and tears
• 24:33
  Speaker 4: start coming up, and I'm like oh my gosh, if
• 24:35
  Speaker 4: I lose it waiting in this line, Ballet thinks he's
• 24:38
  Speaker 4: gonna get it, Like, that's wrong. My car needs to come,
• 24:42
  Speaker 4: and I needs to come. And I get in the
• 24:43
  Speaker 4: car and I just I sob so uncontrollably, it cannot breathe, sobbing.
• 24:50
  Speaker 4: It has taken me seven years for my body to go. Okay.
• 24:54
  Speaker 4: Now now you can begin to recover. Now it's okay.
• 24:59
  Speaker 4: It's safe to recover because for so many years, you know,
• 25:04
  Speaker 4: every time you got sick, it was an er visit,
• 25:06
  Speaker 4: every time something happened. Every you know, when you have
• 25:10
  Speaker 4: a kid that's gone through something like that, it gives
• 25:14
  Speaker 4: you PTSD. You have trauma from it. Your hypervigilant brain
• 25:18
  Speaker 4: goes into it drives the truck. And what that means
• 25:22
  Speaker 4: is it's driving all the time, rs it's not giving
• 25:27
  Speaker 4: you the breaks that you need. So last year I
• 25:30
  Speaker 4: went into really intense trauma therapy and I was able
• 25:35
  Speaker 4: to take that part of my brain and not make
• 25:38
  Speaker 4: it go away. Because we are who we are, and
• 25:41
  Speaker 4: I think so many of us sometimes don't succeed in
• 25:45
  Speaker 4: recovery in therapy because we're trying to get rid of
• 25:49
  Speaker 4: these pieces of us that don't feel good, and instead
• 25:52
  Speaker 4: of that, we need to get close to them and
• 25:54
  Speaker 4: get to know them and embrace them. That hyper vigilant
• 25:57
  Speaker 4: part of who I am saved my son's life.
• 26:00
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 26:00
  Speaker 4: It also saved my grandfather when he collapsed and we
• 26:04
  Speaker 4: didn't know what was going on and I sprung into action.
• 26:06
  Speaker 4: It saved my grandmother after she had two double strokes
• 26:09
  Speaker 4: on Christmas Day. It took care of my dad. That
• 26:13
  Speaker 4: part of my brain. I need that.
• 26:15
  Speaker 2: Yeh.
• 26:15
  Speaker 4: She just doesn't need to drive the car all the
• 26:17
  Speaker 4: time to drive this off a cliff.
• 26:20
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you know.
• 26:21
  Speaker 4: So it was about really taking her, putting her in
• 26:24
  Speaker 4: the back seat. And because I was able to do that,
• 26:27
  Speaker 4: I was able to.
• 26:28
  Speaker 2: Have that moment.
• 26:29
  Speaker 4: And now I'm back in traumatherapy really working on that
• 26:35
  Speaker 4: time within. I don't know how I did it.
• 26:37
  Speaker 1: That's what our doctor told me at one point, because
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: I was going through all that with Jared, and finally
• 26:42
  Speaker 1: she said, take a break, take a breath, Monica. She said,
• 26:45
  Speaker 1: he'll be fine. You'll be scarred for life, but he'll
• 26:48
  Speaker 1: be fine.
• 26:50
  Speaker 3: Thirteen year old Dillar, She'll be fine, but I'll be
• 26:53
  Speaker 3: scarred for life.
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: We have some moms who have some questions for you.
• 26:57
  Speaker 1: We have our Zoomer mom, So welcome Zooper moms. Welcome
• 27:01
  Speaker 1: to the Mom's Blood.
• 27:05
  Speaker 2: Hi.
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: Well, ladies, this is a very special treat, and it's
• 27:09
  Speaker 1: a special treat for you because you each get to
• 27:12
  Speaker 1: ask two questions. It's not usual that we do this,
• 27:16
  Speaker 1: so and don't you know, two very well thought out
• 27:20
  Speaker 1: questions because we only have a few minutes, So let's
• 27:24
  Speaker 1: start with Jan. Jan, tell us a little bit about yourself,
• 27:27
  Speaker 1: and what are your questions for Nicky?
• 27:31
  Speaker 2: You're on mute. You're on mute, Jan, She's like.
• 27:35
  Speaker 3: Someone push a button. Someone push a button.
• 27:38
  Speaker 4: I understand that.
• 27:40
  Speaker 3: No, there we go there, yeah, I go all right.
• 27:45
  Speaker 5: Sorry about that, Nikki.
• 27:47
  Speaker 4: Oh it's okay.
• 27:47
  Speaker 5: Jan. I'm really glad to meet you.
• 27:51
  Speaker 6: I had a limousine service here in Dallas for thirty years,
• 27:56
  Speaker 6: and I also sang with Patsy Kline's original band.
• 28:00
  Speaker 5: Many years, so I'm singer.
• 28:02
  Speaker 6: And I also had my own service. But I was
• 28:06
  Speaker 6: so happy to hear all this about the Alzheimer's. I
• 28:09
  Speaker 6: took care of my mother when she had Alzheimer's for
• 28:13
  Speaker 6: I guess three and a half years, and now I
• 28:14
  Speaker 6: have an autistic godson that I care for and it
• 28:18
  Speaker 6: lives with me full time.
• 28:19
  Speaker 4: Bless you. Thank you for doing that.
• 28:21
  Speaker 5: You're very welcome.
• 28:22
  Speaker 6: But I followed you for many years and I have
• 28:25
  Speaker 6: a girlfriend named Jenny Nolan who is addicted to Hallmark
• 28:31
  Speaker 6: on twenty four seven. She never changes it. And I
• 28:35
  Speaker 6: mean we took two trips to Hawaii last year and
• 28:38
  Speaker 6: it's on twenty four seves.
• 28:42
  Speaker 5: You go to Hawaii and all you have is Hallmark on.
• 28:45
  Speaker 5: It's just crazy. She's so as addicted to it.
• 28:48
  Speaker 4: Oh, thank you.
• 28:49
  Speaker 6: I'll ask you, first of all, thank you for being
• 28:53
  Speaker 6: on the show today. And I want to ask you
• 28:56
  Speaker 6: about the Hallmark Christmas movie, Our Holiday Story.
• 29:00
  Speaker 5: Can you tell us something about.
• 29:03
  Speaker 4: Yes, well I can tell you. You know my co star
• 29:06
  Speaker 4: Warren Christy, who's a phenomenal actor and so wonderful to
• 29:10
  Speaker 4: work with, and it's such an incredible cast on this one.
• 29:16
  Speaker 4: And you know the thing is my character in Warren's character,
• 29:20
  Speaker 4: you meet us in the beginning of the movie and
• 29:22
  Speaker 4: we're in twenty twenty four. You know, we're aged up
• 29:26
  Speaker 4: a little bit, and he has a daughter in her
• 29:30
  Speaker 4: twenties and her boyfriend or the person that she's currently
• 29:37
  Speaker 4: dating shows up at the house and he unfortunately ask
• 29:43
  Speaker 4: us about our love story and how we found each other.
• 29:45
  Speaker 4: And the movie is about us telling that story and
• 29:47
  Speaker 4: going back in time and seeing it happen in real life.
• 29:50
  Speaker 4: And while this youngen is dealing with, like, well, his
• 29:54
  Speaker 4: own love story workout right. So that's kind of the
• 29:57
  Speaker 4: fun in it is that we go back and worth
• 30:00
  Speaker 4: in time. And you know, what I was saying earlier
• 30:04
  Speaker 4: is just some if people are meant to be and
• 30:06
  Speaker 4: if something is meant to happen, you know, there's nothing
• 30:10
  Speaker 4: we can do to ruin that. There's nothing that we
• 30:13
  Speaker 4: can do to make that not happen, right, And I
• 30:16
  Speaker 4: have to, by the way, I have to remind myself
• 30:18
  Speaker 4: of this all the time. I think the anxiety of youth,
• 30:20
  Speaker 4: so much of that is is having anxiety that things
• 30:23
  Speaker 4: are not going to work out that we wish or
• 30:25
  Speaker 4: that we dream. And my grandmother, my Nana, always used
• 30:29
  Speaker 4: to say when something didn't happen, she would say, well, honey,
• 30:34
  Speaker 4: it just means that it's either not meant to happen,
• 30:37
  Speaker 4: man's rejection is God's protection, or it's not meant to
• 30:40
  Speaker 4: happen now, not not today exactly. So it's you know,
• 30:45
  Speaker 4: it's a story that reminds us all of that. Yeah,
• 30:48
  Speaker 4: that's great.
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: You know you just mentioned your grandmother, and your grandmother
• 30:52
  Speaker 1: was a very important part of your.
• 30:53
  Speaker 3: Whole career from what so I wouldn't have different?
• 30:57
  Speaker 2: Yeah, isn't that?
• 30:58
  Speaker 1: I mean, she tell just a little bit about so
• 31:01
  Speaker 1: she she moved you out here to LA to help
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: you with your career.
• 31:05
  Speaker 4: Well technically like I was going to do it with
• 31:07
  Speaker 4: her without anyone I was, so they figured they might
• 31:13
  Speaker 4: as well send an adult adult Like people ask me
• 31:15
  Speaker 4: all the time, like would you put your kids in
• 31:17
  Speaker 4: this like this industry? The answer is like, I would
• 31:20
  Speaker 4: never put my kid in this industry, But if they
• 31:23
  Speaker 4: were the kid that I was, which was come hell
• 31:26
  Speaker 4: or high water, I was doing this. If I had
• 31:29
  Speaker 4: to run away from home and do this, I was
• 31:31
  Speaker 4: going to do I wanted. I started at three, that
• 31:35
  Speaker 4: was all I wanted to do. And if that was
• 31:38
  Speaker 4: my kid, I would support them and give them the
• 31:40
  Speaker 4: tools and do whatever. And that's what my grandmother did.
• 31:43
  Speaker 4: Dance lessons, vocal lessons, you know, whatever, competition. She bought
• 31:47
  Speaker 4: my dresses for the competitions or for my talent competition.
• 31:51
  Speaker 4: She bought my outfits and she was.
• 31:53
  Speaker 3: Like, kid, I'm all in behind you.
• 31:56
  Speaker 4: I won a talent competition that brought me to LA
• 32:00
  Speaker 4: and I was eleven at the time, and there was
• 32:03
  Speaker 4: a bunch of agents that wanted to sign me and
• 32:07
  Speaker 4: wanted us to move to LA and my mom was like,
• 32:09
  Speaker 4: I'm my daughter or not moving to LA.
• 32:10
  Speaker 3: I don't tell you about you and in her Georgia exit.
• 32:14
  Speaker 4: My grandmother kind of sidled up to one of the
• 32:17
  Speaker 4: agents and said, well, what can she do where we live?
• 32:21
  Speaker 4: And one of the agents said, there's going to be
• 32:23
  Speaker 4: auditions for the new Mickey Mouse Club. They're going to
• 32:25
  Speaker 4: be casting new members. If you have a local agent,
• 32:29
  Speaker 4: tell them to look out for that. And sure enough,
• 32:33
  Speaker 4: a year from then, Yeah, I was twelve years old,
• 32:35
  Speaker 4: got my first audition. But all the reason I have
• 32:38
  Speaker 4: a career and my biggest cheerleader in the world is
• 32:41
  Speaker 4: my grandmother.
• 32:42
  Speaker 1: So when you're up there giving give me your speech
• 32:44
  Speaker 1: accepting your Emmy awards, I.
• 32:46
  Speaker 3: Know for her, Yeah, I guess that. I mean, I
• 32:50
  Speaker 3: know we have another question, and I guess the support
• 32:52
  Speaker 3: I should be giving my daughter, Georgia is moving to LA.
• 32:55
  Speaker 3: In February, I had to kindly remind her she doesn't
• 32:58
  Speaker 3: have a job, but.
• 32:59
  Speaker 5: Go for it.
• 33:01
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, well she said, she was like, you're just
• 33:04
  Speaker 1: a buyer. Yeah, she expects to doesn't have a job
• 33:07
  Speaker 1: or anything.
• 33:07
  Speaker 3: I don't think I'll find that for that, but yeah,
• 33:09
  Speaker 3: I like that.
• 33:11
  Speaker 1: Angel, Welcome to the Mom's Club. Tell us a little
• 33:14
  Speaker 1: bit about yourself and do you have a question?
• 33:17
  Speaker 4: Yes, I do.
• 33:18
  Speaker 7: Thank you so very much, and I'd like to thank
• 33:21
  Speaker 7: your guests today for such an incredible story and being
• 33:25
  Speaker 7: so transparent. My background is in radio as well as television,
• 33:29
  Speaker 7: among some other things. But I do have a question
• 33:31
  Speaker 7: for you. Most people look at success or they want
• 33:33
  Speaker 7: to be on television, or they want to be in
• 33:36
  Speaker 7: the lights and whatnot. But is there a specific lesson
• 33:39
  Speaker 7: you've learned through your challenges with your family that has
• 33:43
  Speaker 7: shaped your view on success?
• 33:46
  Speaker 3: Yes, got good question, Angel, I mean.
• 33:51
  Speaker 4: Way to bring it, bringing the ps you could even
• 33:55
  Speaker 4: look on the Instagram and says small talk survivor. Because
• 33:58
  Speaker 4: I do not know how to do I'll talk like
• 34:01
  Speaker 4: I just like I'm the person that's like who invited
• 34:03
  Speaker 4: this girl that wants to talk about grief and stuff
• 34:06
  Speaker 4: for the party. I love this question and the reason
• 34:10
  Speaker 4: I love it is it's because I struggled so much. Right,
• 34:15
  Speaker 4: My mother and I had a very complicated relationship and
• 34:18
  Speaker 4: we now have a beautiful relationship that we've worked so
• 34:21
  Speaker 4: hard for. But she was twenty one when she had me,
• 34:23
  Speaker 4: and you know, I chased I wanted her love so deeply,
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  Speaker 4: and I just spent my childhood not getting that right.
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  Speaker 4: And so when you're a kid that doesn't get the
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  Speaker 4: love that she really needs, then you get into an
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  Speaker 4: industry and you're chasing that love from the people in
• 34:42
  Speaker 4: an istry. You're constantly chasing love and acceptance and validation
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  Speaker 4: through external sources. And you know where I'm going with this.
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  Speaker 4: So I think as a society, it's not even just
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  Speaker 4: about the entertainment business. I look at my son, who's
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  Speaker 4: not in the entertainment business, who's eleven, who's constantly seeking
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  Speaker 4: his self worth on the outside, and I'm constantly reminding
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  Speaker 4: him that is an internal job. You will if you
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  Speaker 4: are trying to get that outside of yourself, you will
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  Speaker 4: be empty and you will be chasing that your entire life,
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  Speaker 4: and you will never find satisfaction. And so I think
• 35:20
  Speaker 4: it's something that's relatable to everybody. My idea of success now?
• 35:26
  Speaker 4: Is am I a safe person? Am I a safe
• 35:30
  Speaker 4: person for myself? Am I a safe space for other people?
• 35:34
  Speaker 4: Am I a person that people can depend on? Am
• 35:37
  Speaker 4: I a person that people can come to and say,
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  Speaker 4: this is what I'm going through? Can you help hold
• 35:42
  Speaker 4: this for me? And So my whole definition of what
• 35:47
  Speaker 4: success means it is not financial. It is not my resume,
• 35:51
  Speaker 4: It is not the things I've accomplished in terms of
• 35:54
  Speaker 4: awards or whatever. That is not real, right, And while
• 35:59
  Speaker 4: I love it, and while it matters because we have
• 36:02
  Speaker 4: to pay bills and health insurance and all of that,
• 36:04
  Speaker 4: So it's legit life and death in terms of being
• 36:07
  Speaker 4: able to support our families, true, but it does not
• 36:11
  Speaker 4: determine our worth. So yeah, it's changed a lot.
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  Speaker 3: I love that you've worked on your legacy.
• 36:18
  Speaker 2: So I love this, I love it. I love it.
• 36:21
  Speaker 2: You know who I'm going to ride in for president?
• 36:23
  Speaker 2: From my ballance? I think I mean an inspiring person.
• 36:28
  Speaker 3: I do you think she wants the job?
• 36:29
  Speaker 2: I know, I know, but yes, you are. You are
• 36:34
  Speaker 2: because you're just so You're a problem solver, which I
• 36:37
  Speaker 2: love solving problems, and I think that's just amazing. I
• 36:39
  Speaker 2: actually may enjoy it.
• 36:41
  Speaker 3: She's also a judge. You do know this. She's judging
• 36:43
  Speaker 3: mister Christmas, which I need to know what the qualities
• 36:47
  Speaker 3: are to be mister Christmas.
• 36:50
  Speaker 2: What is that?
• 36:51
  Speaker 4: Angel? I don't know if you've heard of this show.
• 36:53
  Speaker 4: It's called Finding Mister Christmas. It's on Hallmark Streaming and
• 36:59
  Speaker 4: my dear, dear and Jonathan Bennett he hosted with Melissa Peterman.
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  Speaker 4: And when Jonathan texted me and said, I need you
• 37:06
  Speaker 4: to come and judge the finale and I need you
• 37:08
  Speaker 4: to be a part of the finale. And I was like,
• 37:09
  Speaker 4: what was that? What am I doing? He's like, don't
• 37:11
  Speaker 4: worry about it. I tell you when you get here,
• 37:12
  Speaker 4: just say yes, just say yes. I got on a plane,
• 37:16
  Speaker 4: I showed up to set. He gives me this script
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  Speaker 4: and I read it. I'm reading it. I'm reading and
• 37:21
  Speaker 4: I'm seeing that I'm doing the climax resolution scene with
• 37:25
  Speaker 4: the boys. So there's the remaining contestants and I realize
• 37:30
  Speaker 4: I have to kiss every single.
• 37:37
  Speaker 3: I was like, I have to ask her, what is.
• 37:40
  Speaker 2: Wow?
• 37:41
  Speaker 4: You tell me to kiss all of them? And he goes,
• 37:44
  Speaker 4: You're welcome, You're welcome anyway. It's more than that. It's
• 37:48
  Speaker 4: really it's so fun and.
• 37:50
  Speaker 3: So they have to be a good kiss there. That's
• 37:51
  Speaker 3: one of the qualities.
• 37:52
  Speaker 4: Part of the qualities is really you know, being able
• 37:55
  Speaker 4: to act in the scenes. But what they're really looking
• 37:58
  Speaker 4: for is like at Hallmark, and I think anybody who
• 38:01
  Speaker 4: gets to know the talent, it's so funny. We'll have
• 38:03
  Speaker 4: new executives come in, new people come in in terms
• 38:05
  Speaker 4: of leadership, and they come in with this like these
• 38:09
  Speaker 4: ideas right of like well, we're going to do this,
• 38:12
  Speaker 4: and we're going to do that, and like you know,
• 38:14
  Speaker 4: I have these people have been here forever and blah
• 38:16
  Speaker 4: blah blah blah, and they're not really family, you know,
• 38:19
  Speaker 4: they're not really they can't be like, I love each
• 38:21
  Speaker 4: other as much as they do. And then they are
• 38:24
  Speaker 4: with us for like a week and they go, oh wow,
• 38:27
  Speaker 4: everybody actually really does love each other. They are a
• 38:30
  Speaker 4: family like and so then their hearts are changed inside
• 38:35
  Speaker 4: of that, right because they're like, I love being a
• 38:37
  Speaker 4: part of this family, I mean. And so it really
• 38:41
  Speaker 4: is about like the show itself and Jonathan calling on
• 38:44
  Speaker 4: the family to come in and you have to kind
• 38:48
  Speaker 4: of embody. It's a feeling that you have to have
• 38:53
  Speaker 4: when when you work for Hallmark as an actor, it's
• 38:56
  Speaker 4: not just what you're doing on the screen, it's how
• 38:57
  Speaker 4: you live at your life and how you're showing up
• 39:00
  Speaker 4: up big open hearts, love, really appreciating the audience and
• 39:06
  Speaker 4: getting it, getting what we do, what we get to
• 39:09
  Speaker 4: do for other people.
• 39:11
  Speaker 3: Well, no cast, did I know? And I think you
• 39:14
  Speaker 3: do this with the Hallmark chan y'all did that tour
• 39:17
  Speaker 3: and at the East Coast and you went to Chop
• 39:20
  Speaker 3: We did. And Chop is a very special place for
• 39:23
  Speaker 3: those you know, Children's Hospital of Philadelphia is one of
• 39:26
  Speaker 3: the best in the world. Yes, And so to do
• 39:29
  Speaker 3: that and get to live that and work that and
• 39:32
  Speaker 3: spread that, I can't say enough about the people you
• 39:35
  Speaker 3: work with.
• 39:35
  Speaker 4: Thank you. Yeah. We got to literally start in Washington,
• 39:39
  Speaker 4: d C. It was a grain child of Annie Howell.
• 39:42
  Speaker 4: I have to give her a shout out and Shane
• 39:43
  Speaker 4: Ray Julian who put together this entire thing. It was massive,
• 39:47
  Speaker 4: it was huge. I'm blown away by what they put together.
• 39:51
  Speaker 4: And we started Washington, d C. And did Christmas rallies
• 39:55
  Speaker 4: all yep and stopping at Chop along the way, which
• 39:58
  Speaker 4: was something that I I had really wanted to do
• 40:01
  Speaker 4: when they started.
• 40:02
  Speaker 3: Dreaming, You're a puddle through the whole tour that.
• 40:05
  Speaker 4: Day, like you got say, hug so many mothers and
• 40:07
  Speaker 4: that's the thing, it's like I've been that mother that
• 40:11
  Speaker 4: you know. Of course, all the focus needs to be
• 40:13
  Speaker 4: on the children, and of course all the resources and support,
• 40:16
  Speaker 4: and there needs to be a light that is shown
• 40:19
  Speaker 4: on the doctors and nurses and stuff and what they're
• 40:21
  Speaker 4: the amazing things they're doing at chop and also the
• 40:25
  Speaker 4: people who are forgotten inside of it, right are the
• 40:28
  Speaker 4: mothers that are at bedside day in and day out,
• 40:30
  Speaker 4: and they are terrified fired. I said, that's what I say,
• 40:34
  Speaker 4: that bone tired.
• 40:36
  Speaker 3: That they get to see you, but they may not
• 40:38
  Speaker 3: be able to register that getting to meet you because
• 40:41
  Speaker 3: of the exhaustion mentally, physically.
• 40:43
  Speaker 2: Well, it is so true.
• 40:45
  Speaker 1: That's another the caregivers because yeah, being the mom okay,
• 40:50
  Speaker 1: zoomer moms, Yes, you each get one rapid fire question,
• 40:55
  Speaker 1: So like what's your favorite call and whatever?
• 40:56
  Speaker 2: Okay, jan question for Nikki.
• 40:59
  Speaker 5: Nikki, I want to know about Mine What Matters?
• 41:02
  Speaker 4: Oh great, okay, I.
• 41:04
  Speaker 5: Hate to watch your podcast, thanks so much.
• 41:07
  Speaker 4: Well, Mine What Matters nonprofit, which the podcast is now
• 41:11
  Speaker 4: an extension of it's a nonprofit organization where we give
• 41:14
  Speaker 4: financial grants to caregivers of loved ones with neurodegenerative illnesses.
• 41:19
  Speaker 4: So that's Alzheimer's, dementia, als Parkinson's, any newer degenerative illness.
• 41:25
  Speaker 4: And so it's a way for us to go because
• 41:30
  Speaker 4: caregivers sometimes need help, need help now, So what can
• 41:33
  Speaker 4: we do right? And Liz dreamed up this idea. She
• 41:38
  Speaker 4: founded the organization of like literally putting money in the
• 41:41
  Speaker 4: pockets of caregivers so that they can go to their
• 41:43
  Speaker 4: doctor's appointment, they can bring somebody in for the day,
• 41:47
  Speaker 4: for the week and say, can you help me with
• 41:49
  Speaker 4: my mom or my dad this week? Because I got
• 41:52
  Speaker 4: to go get my heart checked. I haven't had a
• 41:53
  Speaker 4: physical in two years. I need to get my hair
• 41:57
  Speaker 4: done because I haven't had my hair done, like whatever
• 42:00
  Speaker 4: it is. There was one woman that we were able
• 42:01
  Speaker 4: to give a care grant to. She has alopecia, and
• 42:05
  Speaker 4: she was able. Her dream was to compete in a
• 42:08
  Speaker 4: pageant where the women had alopecia. And she went and
• 42:13
  Speaker 4: she did it, and she put her dress on and
• 42:16
  Speaker 4: man did she look amazing. And because of the care grant,
• 42:21
  Speaker 4: she was able to go and do this thing that
• 42:24
  Speaker 4: had been a dream of hers for so many years.
• 42:27
  Speaker 4: Was just to take back and show the world like, yeah,
• 42:30
  Speaker 4: I might have this thing, but look how beautiful and
• 42:33
  Speaker 4: strong and courageous and brave I am. And it allowed
• 42:36
  Speaker 4: her to be able to go back to return to
• 42:38
  Speaker 4: caregiving with something in her motor. She did something for herself.
• 42:43
  Speaker 4: So that is the impact of mind. What matters nonprofit
• 42:47
  Speaker 4: and what?
• 42:47
  Speaker 5: Well, thanks so much for your inspiration.
• 42:51
  Speaker 2: Yeah that was I.
• 42:52
  Speaker 5: Would love to talk about beets, but that she's from Dallas.
• 42:57
  Speaker 3: She's from Dallas, hear. Yeah, anyway, go ahead.
• 43:00
  Speaker 2: No quick question.
• 43:01
  Speaker 7: Okay, I've got like a thousand questions. It has to
• 43:04
  Speaker 7: be rapid fire. Yes, I just want to know what
• 43:07
  Speaker 7: was your favorite role you ever played?
• 43:09
  Speaker 3: And what great questions I would have to say.
• 43:13
  Speaker 4: Lacey Hamilton on Awkward, I had the just the dream
• 43:17
  Speaker 4: of playing her for almost six years of my life,
• 43:20
  Speaker 4: and she was a totally ridiculous human being. I mean
• 43:24
  Speaker 4: I had, like, I like this contraption that made me
• 43:28
  Speaker 4: look like I had giant breast and I wore this
• 43:31
  Speaker 4: tightest little outfits and heels, and you know, her whole
• 43:34
  Speaker 4: story was that she had this. She's the most popular
• 43:37
  Speaker 4: girl in high school and had a fall from grace
• 43:39
  Speaker 4: when she was sixteen and got pregnant, and so her
• 43:43
  Speaker 4: daughter and her are so close in age, and she's
• 43:47
  Speaker 4: trying to live her life vicariously through her young daughter
• 43:50
  Speaker 4: who was so different from her and who was no
• 43:52
  Speaker 4: interest in being popular or any.
• 43:55
  Speaker 3: Of the things that she was terrifying.
• 43:56
  Speaker 4: And so it's a comedy, but it's also Heartfeltlton Lauren
• 44:01
  Speaker 4: Uneric created it, and she just like, she just created
• 44:05
  Speaker 4: something so special and that role for me, will go
• 44:08
  Speaker 4: down in history is being my favorite. That's far.
• 44:10
  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I mean.
• 44:13
  Speaker 2: This is so great.
• 44:15
  Speaker 1: You're you're truly, as we say on the Mom's Club
• 44:18
  Speaker 1: low amazing, not just amazing, the word extraordinary I would
• 44:22
  Speaker 1: put on you. You're I mean all the things you
• 44:24
  Speaker 1: do and you're so talented and so giving and so
• 44:28
  Speaker 1: I mean it's you.
• 44:30
  Speaker 3: You glow girl. You blow, You really do, and I
• 44:33
  Speaker 3: know you're exhausted at you glow and you know all
• 44:36
  Speaker 3: the stuff that you have going on. You remind me
• 44:38
  Speaker 3: of my friend Lacey we had.
• 44:41
  Speaker 2: On the show.
• 44:41
  Speaker 3: She she has a clever podcast called Every Widow Thing,
• 44:45
  Speaker 3: and it's less deep less dark, less often and you
• 44:49
  Speaker 3: you know what I mean because you teach that through
• 44:51
  Speaker 3: your podcast as well, because these things are going to come.
• 44:55
  Speaker 4: Yeah, So we have to learn how to find joy
• 44:59
  Speaker 4: and cell great even when we're in the valley. We
• 45:02
  Speaker 4: tell ourselves all the time, well I'll do that trip
• 45:05
  Speaker 4: when I will go and do this thing when I
• 45:09
  Speaker 4: will do And there might not be a when. That
• 45:12
  Speaker 4: is what I've learned, because you're just there might be
• 45:15
  Speaker 4: another hard thing. And the more that we can learn
• 45:18
  Speaker 4: to find be comfortable and the uncomfortable, the more that
• 45:21
  Speaker 4: we can learn that we can celebrate and find joy
• 45:23
  Speaker 4: and find moments of happiness inside the valley, Like that
• 45:28
  Speaker 4: is the full life. That is what we're seeking. That's
• 45:31
  Speaker 4: what we're wanting and hungry for. And we can do it.
• 45:34
  Speaker 3: Say yes, and your dad would want you to do it.
• 45:36
  Speaker 4: Yeah, Well he was the one, like I was coming
• 45:38
  Speaker 4: out of my first year of grief with him and
• 45:42
  Speaker 4: I after that first year, that first year anniversary, something
• 45:47
  Speaker 4: horrific happened to a really dear friend and she lost
• 45:49
  Speaker 4: her son and we had the funeral services on the
• 45:53
  Speaker 4: first anniversary my dad's passing, and I have never seen
• 45:59
  Speaker 4: that was the the most horrific thing I've ever witnessed
• 46:04
  Speaker 4: in my life. And I went and crawled in bed
• 46:06
  Speaker 4: and I didn't get out, and my dad came to
• 46:08
  Speaker 4: me in a dream and he said, baby girl, it
• 46:10
  Speaker 4: is time for you to get out of bed. And
• 46:12
  Speaker 4: if this can't wake you up and teach you that
• 46:16
  Speaker 4: you got to celebrate and find the joy and do
• 46:19
  Speaker 4: all the things, then nothing's going to So get up
• 46:22
  Speaker 4: and and and and so it was my dad who
• 46:25
  Speaker 4: did wake me up.
• 46:28
  Speaker 2: We're so happy to see so many.
• 46:30
  Speaker 3: People out there are as benefits.
• 46:32
  Speaker 2: Well, thank you.
• 46:33
  Speaker 1: Besides your film on Friday is Holiday Story. Where else
• 46:39
  Speaker 1: can our listeners find you? On social media?
• 46:42
  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, oh yes, I always have a good social
• 46:44
  Speaker 2: media I'll tell.
• 46:45
  Speaker 4: Us because if you want to see a lot of
• 46:47
  Speaker 4: dancene a lot of silliness, come find me at Nick
• 46:53
  Speaker 4: DeLoach and I K D E l o A c
• 46:57
  Speaker 4: h to Loach And then our Holiday Story airs Curious
• 47:01
  Speaker 4: Cater will still continue the air on the Mystery Network
• 47:04
  Speaker 4: and also Finding Mister Christmas is on the Hallmark Plus
• 47:08
  Speaker 4: on our new stream watch shirts on lots of muscles,
• 47:15
  Speaker 4: holding puppies and taking pictures of firefighter I wonder.
• 47:20
  Speaker 2: Yes, I'm definitely going to Actually is it's.
• 47:23
  Speaker 4: Like every woman I know you want to watch all right,
• 47:26
  Speaker 4: all right, that's what I answer the question.
• 47:28
  Speaker 2: We will definitely tune into that. Well, thank you so much.
• 47:31
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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• 48:24
  Speaker 1: Well, I cannot believe that we are we are already.
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  Speaker 3: I could do it all day.
• 48:30
  Speaker 1: Definitely, like just like watching Hallmark. I mean we could
• 48:33
  Speaker 1: just talk to her all day kind of thing. Great, Well,
• 48:38
  Speaker 1: thank you moms for being with us. We will be
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  Speaker 1: out there that are doing wonderful things. We know that
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  Speaker 1: your meantime is precious and valuable. Thank you so much
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  Speaker 1: for spending it with us. What's our motto, Julie though,
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  Speaker 1: that's more important than anything. If you don't laugh sometimes when.
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  Speaker 3: We are going to cry, to cry, So don't cry.
• 48:59
  Speaker 1: Moms, keep laughing. See you next time inside the Mom's Club.
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