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💡 When YOUR Strength Becomes THEIR Expectation · STOPTIME: Live in the Moment.

• 0:23
  Lisa: because it's not optimism,
• 0:25
  Client: right,
• 0:26
  Lisa: but I think I'm hearing that people receive you as being optimistic and label you that way, and that's not what.
• 0:32
  Lisa: That's not what you are or mean it might.
• 0:34
  Lisa: It might show that way and that might be how we label you.
• 0:37
  Lisa: Yeah, but I think what you're talking about is exactly what you just said, which is a deeper belief,
• 0:43
  Client: yeah
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  Lisa: ,
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  Lisa: right, and openness,
• 0:45
  Client: yes
• 0:46
  Lisa: , um, in the in the bigger.
• 0:47
  Lisa: Yeah
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  Lisa: , right?
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  Client: yeah
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  Client: , yes, I
• 0:49
  Client: agree
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  Lisa: So
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  Lisa: there's no like toxic positivity.
• 0:51
  Lisa: You don't turn it on or turn it off or, you know, make lemonade out of.
• 0:56
  Lisa: You know lemons or whatever I see, I just see that you're able to access that place of of curiosity, of what's important to you connection.
• 1:06
  Lisa: I'm hearing all your values are coming out right, yeah, no, it's really interesting and it's not optimism.
• 1:11
  Lisa: In fact, probably, if we dug deeper, you'd probably go screw this optimism.
• 1:16
  Lisa: Yeah, right, I mean, you know that's how you're seeing me now, but you're not with me every moment of the day, right, right, no, I get that and I see you and I, you know, I honor you for that.
• 1:29
  Lisa: I really do, because I get that a lot too.
• 1:30
  Lisa: So I can relate, yes, I can absolutely relate to that and it's um
• 1:35
  Client: well
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  Client: , it's frustrating because sometimes then people don't want to take you seriously and I'm like no, no, no, no, no, you know, I'm not just some dainty June, no, no, you know.
• 1:44
  Lisa: Or
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  Lisa: when you are trusting the environment, you're in enough to just maybe not be so on, because you're not actually feeling on which is actually honoring your value of authenticity.
• 1:58
  Lisa: Sometimes you can't honor that value, because to be authentic would be to sort of be less than energetic at this moment, because it's expected from the others.
• 2:06
  Lisa: And that's what happens, right, when we, when we're good at things, no matter what they are right, we get put in those boxes because people expect it of us and because we can do that, we do it
• 2:17
  Client: Right.
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  Lisa: That's when our strengths sometimes become our weaknesses, unless we just put them in our toolbox, because it's something that we can always rely on because we've got it on lock, but we don't have to default to it, and that allows us to develop these other areas that you know we will see ourselves differently and allow ourselves to show up differently and be more contextualized, because we are, you know, we're not monochrome here.
• 2:44
  Client: Yeah,