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My Autistic Life and how I created the best version of me and you can to · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  You have arrived. Welcome to the Aspy world.
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  Here's where we talk about anything and everything ASD in
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  an upbeat and informative way. And now here's your man on the
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  spectrum, your autism ambassador, Daniel Morgan Jones.
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  So my artistic life and how I designed it to create success.
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  I'm going to cover everything step by step for you right now.
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  Let's get into it. OK, guys.
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  So for years and years, right, I was diagnosed with autism at 26
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  years old. So that gave me like 26 years of
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  struggling, fumbling about in the dark and going from, you
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  know, pillar to post to this doctor, that doctor, this
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  specialist, that specialist. So nobody knew what was going
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  on. And because of that, it, it told
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  me loads of kind of really interesting things about my life
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  and, and struggles. You know, I was always one of
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  these people who was like, how am I going to get the best out
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  of it? How are we going to how, how can
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  I change the situation? Autistic people are problem
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  solvers, right? I see a problem, I don't see a
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  problem. I see a potential towards a
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  solution. And the other thing I like about
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  problems is that when, when you have a problem, you know that
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  you're moving in the right direction because if you stand
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  still, you get no problems. You're standing still, right?
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  And when you're moving forward, when you're, when you're
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  progressing towards your goal, the cool thing is you're going
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  to come across problems. So when I get a problem, I know
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  I'm moving in the right direction.
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  So we should never be scared of problems.
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  I would love for you to leave a review for this video slash
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  podcast if you have anything to add because it would really help
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  me out on this channel and also help me learn and grow from your
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  comments. Knowing this growing up and
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  being kind of like, oh man, I wish like this was different, or
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  I wish that was different, or, you know, how can I improve my
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  condition? And there was something going
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  on. Even though I was undiagnosed, I
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  still knew there was something amiss or something going on that
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  I couldn't really figure out. And so because of that, I
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  devised loads of different plans.
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  Like I've journaled out kind of 10 steps here to how I aced my
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  life and made it the most productivity based, motivational
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  and kind of just get out there and get it done type of life.
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  Even being on the autism spectrum and having ADHDI also
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  have dyslexia, OCD, you know, depression, multiple mental
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  health issues. And that's OK because we're all
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  different. We're all individual and those
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  things are going to happen and there's nothing wrong with that.
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  Now guys, if you're enjoying this type of video, I make
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  videos like this every week, so make sure to hit the subscribe
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  button down below okay, so the framework for this is very
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  simple. It's a 10 step process and I'm
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  going to go through each one of those bits right now, starting
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  with number one. Number one is I journal
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  everything and I journal every emotion and thought that I have.
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  So I have this little book that I carry around with me and in
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  that book it's a lot notepad like this.
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  And in that notepad I have two things.
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  One is I have this little card here that I sell tape to the
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  inside or I stick it to the inside and the card changes.
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  This one is abundance. This one says abundance.
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  And then on my new journal potential unlimited potential
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  written on it. And in in this journal, I
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  highlight all my thoughts and my worries and my my goals and my
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  emotions of how I feeling at the moment in time.
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  Am I sick? Do I do I am I worried?
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  Is there something that is is amiss?
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  When I put my thoughts down onto paper, when I physically write
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  out my thoughts onto a small journal pad, something quite
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  magical happens. The worry, the, the, the energy,
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  the, the kind of that resistance in my head is no longer sitting
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  there. It's sitting on a piece of paper
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  within my little journal that I can take care of.
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  Then I can look at it when I really need to go, OK, I need to
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  get this thing done. And the reason that's important
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  is because a freeze of space in your mind, in your head, and
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  allows you to be at peace with a lot of the things that are
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  causing you stress in your daily life.
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  So journalling and having your emotions, thoughts, worries,
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  fears, everything written down in the journal.
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  Obviously, if you keep it safe or you can code word, you know,
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  things in there, which is fine. This is so important, and this
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  has remarkably changed my mind. Very interesting.
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  And I'm dyslexic, so my handwriting is absolutely
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  terrible. So that was #1 OK, so the next
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  thing I did is I took everything that I needed to do because I
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  came across this point in my life where I get this moment of
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  inertia where I've got loads of things to do and I want to do
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  them. And then it comes to the point
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  to do it, and I just can't do it.
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  I have too many things. I'm overwhelmed, and I just
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  can't do it. I can't bring myself to that
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  point, that position to go and do those things.
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  So I decided that, but because I felt like I had loads of things
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  on, I would make a list. I'd get this a different notepad
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  or a piece of paper that I would write down all of the things
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  that I needed to do, right? A big list of things.
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  My To Do List was like a lot smaller than you think when you
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  actually write it down. But then I said, OK, I'm going
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  to pick four of those items and I'm going to pick four of those
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  items and I'm going to put four of those to do lists.
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  I'm going to make a tiny 4 item To Do List per day.
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  And so I can manage 4 things in a day, right?
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  Maybe you can only manage two things.
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  Maybe you can only manage one thing, shorten that list, take
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  stuff off your list, and this is called compounding the things
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  that you need to do because by taking off one thing per day off
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  your list, you're going to compound the things that you
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  need to do and you're going to move a lot smoother.
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  Now this has freed up a bunch of stuff within my life, actually
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  helped me organise all my work, help me get my tasks completed,
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  get my projects done. Then that was really important.
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  So get a big list of all your things that you need to do and
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  then make a tiny small four or one piece To Do List per day.
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  Super dope. OK, setting timers for
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  everything. Oh my gosh #3 is my all time
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  favorite. So I have an iPhone and I use it
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  for everything. Like I have an iPhone on an
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  iPad. And actually if I didn't have an
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  iPhone or an iPad, I don't even know what would happen.
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  I think my life would just not work.
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  Like I don't know. I don't know what I did before I
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  had these things. If ever I have an appointment, I
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  put it in my iPhone and I get it to remind me if I have a, you
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  know, a work schedule, like I've got something to do and it has
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  to be done by a certain day or a certain hour, I set a timer.
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  I say I've got this amount of time to do this project.
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  That's it. When you set times on things,
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  when you have a timer for everything, what happens is it
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  allows you to forget about the fact that you've got to do
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  something else next because you'll be alerted when that time
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  is up. But it allows you to focus on
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  the thing that you're doing right now.
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  And by doing this, it frees up that kind of, oh, I can't get
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  started on this task because I've got another one pending in
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  an hour or an hour and a half. And those things really played
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  my mind. So I was just loving the fact
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  that I could actually change this.
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  So that being said, make sure when you set time, you give
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  yourself enough time. Try this, play around with it.
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  But time is really good, the visual representations and they
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  help you with things like I'm going to do the writing work for
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  the next two hours, right? A timer and it tells you when
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  the writing work is up. So if you are struggling and
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  you're looking for a therapist, we actually have on hand
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  autistic and neurodivergent therapist here at the Aspy
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  World. Now, if you're looking for
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  coaching and therapy combined together with a therapist,
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  Carla, who works here at the Aspy World, who is in ADHD and
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  is registered therapist, will do online sessions with you.
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  All you have to do is follow the link down below.
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  I'll go to the aspyworld.com/kala with AK and
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  book an appointment with Kala. All right, guys, OK #4 is focus
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  with the cinema mode. Now, the cinema mode is really
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  interesting. Like so I needed to get to a
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  bunch of stuff on my computer, right?
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  And I was like, how am I going to sit down and do all this
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  stuff, you know, and you need to write a bunch of things.
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  And I am such a person who just kind of like picks up my phone
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  and checks it and picks up my phone chat.
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  I'll so it's text me and then costs ADHD Dan, like everything
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  just goes out of the window, right?
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  Like I'm just, oh, my goodness. So what do I do is I get my
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  phone, I put it on silent and then I put it in a drawer and I
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  pretend that I'm in the cinema. When do you go to the cinema or
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  the movie theatre? They, they tell you turn off
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  your turn your cell phones off or put them onto airplane mode
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  or whatever, right? So you don't disturb the other
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  people watching the movie. And it's a good thing we all do
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  it because the thing at the end of the day is you want to sit
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  there and concentrate on the movie.
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  You don't want to be sitting there like texting your buddy
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  about something ridiculous, right?
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  So if you treat your working life as if you were going to the
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  movies to see a theatre and you're the person that you, you
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  don't want to disrupt, then make sure you put focus mode on or
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  turn your, your mute on your phone, put it in a drawer and
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  tap it away. This revolutionised the way I
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  work and it took my mind away from kind of just scrolling
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  endlessly to be able to actually be more productive.
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  OK #5 Is work related or job related?
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  A lot of autistic individuals have issues with finding work,
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  generating income, career, there's a bunch of different
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  things, right? So what did I do to, to, to
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  change this around? Like I found it difficult, you
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  know, when I was 20, six, I was in and out of different types of
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  jobs. I could never stay in one job
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  long enough because I'd get depression and then or just to
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  kind of, you know, issues and it was just bad, right?
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  And and so my doctors like, well, you can't really work more
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  than two days a week in a typical office environment.
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  I thought, well, that's ridiculous.
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  Like who can, who can survive on two days a week?
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  So I needed to figure something out fast, right, because, you
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  know, we all need to earn money. So I realised I needed to
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  monetize all of my personal assets.
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  And that means I wrote a list of everything that I was good at,
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  right? I'm good at like, social media.
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  I'm good at, like, editing videos.
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  I'm good at helping people, you know, build really exciting
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  campaigns for their businesses. I'm good at playing music.
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  I'm going to creating stories for books or I'm going to, you
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  know, researching stuff, right? And so I listed up all the
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  things I was good at and then I, I monetized them and monetizing
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  means I got people to pay me to do those.
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  So I just went onto fiva.com and Craigslist and different type of
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  forums and said, Hey, look, I'm doing this stuff, I'm
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  freelancing, you know, would you pay me to do this?
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  And people, yes, you start off small and you just about break
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  even at first, but it does cascade into more right?
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  And that is really interesting. That is actually so interesting
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  that every part of my life that I feel like I can offer, you
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  know, help with or service with, you can monetise it to make sure
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  that you're getting a fair distribution of exchange value
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  when there's something, you know, really important that you
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  want to do and people want to pay you for it.
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  So the next thing is #6 using apps like Instagram and WhatsApp
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  to make friends. Now, making friends on Instagram
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  was a game changer for me. I felt so alone growing up.
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  I was an autistic person and I felt like nobody understood me.
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  And yes, I know it's all teenagers go through the stage,
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  but what was the most interesting thing was that I
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  felt really disconnected from people and I needed to find
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  other individuals or autistic individuals who were just like
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  me. So I, I used Instagram to
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  connect with other autistic people and autistic folk and,
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  and using apps like WhatsApp. And this was really interesting.
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  Hey guys, thank you so much for checking out this podcast.
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  OK guys, see you in the next one.
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  Peace.