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How do BROKE narcissists LOVE BOMB? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, beautiful people.
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  Today we're going to be talking about how narcissist with no
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  money love bomb the broke narcissist and how they love
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  bomb you, how they how they idealize you and whatnot.
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  If you're new here, my name is Lee Hammock.
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  I'm a self aware narcissist and welcome to another episode of
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  the Narcissist Code. Welcome back folks, welcome
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  back, welcome back. Yes, yes, yes.
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  The broke narcissist. So truth be told, I was filming
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  the video yesterday. I posted it online and one of
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  Doctor Romney's videos popped up and said how do broke
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  narcissists love Bob? I was like, oh that's a good
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  idea. So this video is inspired by
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  that video. I didn't watch it, I didn't want
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  to take anything from it. I just want to see how my
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  perspective matches up and whatnot.
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  But you can watch your video. It's literally called How broke
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  Narcissists Love Bomb. If you want to check our video
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  out and whatnot. Like I said, the title inspired
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  this video. I wouldn't RIP nobody else's
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  stuff off y'all. I try to be as original as
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  possible. I got to even this out too.
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  My hair look uneven. But yes, symmetry matters,
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  y'all? Symmetry matters.
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  But yes, the broke narcissist. I know people here love bombing,
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  right? And you think a lot of people
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  think of this grandiose thing, right?
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  You think of the grandiose, you think of them giving you every
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  single thing that you want and need.
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  You think of them flying you out like you getting fluid out.
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  You think about trips, traveling, excursions, new cars,
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  new clothes, new every single thing, right?
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  This person is love bombing you. And a lot of people assume that
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  love bombing is always going to be a, a bombing of money, a
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  bombing, a bombing of finances and things of that nature, a
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  bombing of expenses. But it doesn't always work that
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  way. You know what I mean?
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  Because not every single narcissist is going to be an
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  ambitious, rich, Snooty person. You see what I'm saying?
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  There are a lot of, I'm, I ain't going to say bums, but there are
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  a lot of bum. There are some bum, Let's just
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  say it. I'm, I'm going to say it.
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  There are some bum narcissists. There are some broke narcissists
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  out here, right? I've been that.
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  I've been a broke narcissist. So I'm just like, I know how I'm
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  still broke out, but like, I know how it works out in these
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  situations, right? How narcissistic people use
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  anything else to love bombing. Love bombing is not always going
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  to be the finance stuff. One way that broke narcissist,
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  the narcissist with a lack of resources, narcissist with a
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  lack of funds love bombing you is by giving you all of their
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  time and taking up all of yours. Like they give you all of their
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  time, effort and energy, right? They're doing this type of stuff
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  right here. They're giving you every single
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  thing that they can't, that they are in possession of.
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  They they give you all of their time and take up all of yours,
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  right? That's what they do.
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  This is how they this is how they love about you, because you
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  never had like you might have ever had somebody dedicate
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  dedicate this much time to you. You may you might not have
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  anybody you know drive an hour and a half two hours every
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  couple couple days to see you where you don't have to go
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  anywhere right. You don't have you haven't had
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  anybody doing that before or showing you that type of
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  attention. So that's how they get you.
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  They just give you a lot of time, a lot of time, a lot of
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  all of it. Sometimes y'all just being real.
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  Sometimes they give you this time because they don't have
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  anything else to do. They don't have a job, they
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  don't have they don't have a job, they don't have money, they
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  don't have anything like that. They just, all they have is
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  time. So they give you every ounce of
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  it. And to you that might be enough.
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  You might be successful. You might be, you might be a
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  super successful person, right? You might be a doctor, lawyer,
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  professional athlete, whatever you have going on.
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  You mean engineer, actor, actress, whatever you have going
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  on for yourself, you might be just whatever success looks like
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  to you. Because I know those are not the
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  only successful careers. That's, you know, that's just
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  society's definition of success. It's sex Success could be like a
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  teacher. You mean if you're a teacher,
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  you're a successful teacher. You, you shaping the, you
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  shaping the, the children of the country and whatnot.
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  That's success. My brother's a teacher.
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  He loves it. So that's success for him, you
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  know what I mean? That's success for me too,
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  because he's influencing a lot of kids.
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  I like to see in his little notes that the teacher that the
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  kids like. Mr. Hammock, thank you so much
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  for Coach Hammock. I was like, look at the ball.
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  I have. I have a twin brother to you.
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  I don't know. And no, my twin brother is not a
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  narcissist. No, he's a teacher in Charlotte,
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  NC. It would not, but he loves it.
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  And this is what happens right here out.
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  They like I said, they give you all their time, effort and
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  energy and you haven't had anybody that does that.
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  So it just you know, you're, you're happy all the time
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  because they're there. You know what I'm saying?
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  They are there for you. They they are there give you
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  their time. You know what else they do?
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  They are they listen, they listen, they listen to you.
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  You never had it like you normally.
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  You might not have had relationships where people
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  listen to you, where your opinion is validated, where
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  where you you get as much as you give.
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  You might not have had to happen to you before.
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  So now you in this relationship space and they're giving you,
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  like I said, they're listening to you and making you feel
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  validated. You might like think about this
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  right here. You might have just gotten out
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  of a toxic relationship. You might have literally just
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  gotten free from a toxic relationship or an abusive
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  relationship, or you might just be in a vulnerable position
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  where you just didn't feel appreciated.
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  But guess what? Now they're going to appreciate
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  you, right? Guess what?
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  Now they're going to give you everything.
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  They they're going to give you everything that you want, right?
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  Guess what? Now this is the type of space
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  and dynamic that narcissistic people do.
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  This is how they go about doing things.
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  This is how they go about, you know, handling things and
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  manipulated in gaslight and this is how they do it, y'all.
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  And that's why I try, I try to tell people like this is the
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  mindset, this is the mentality that they're going to do.
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  They are listening. They give you an ear to listen,
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  but like they're listening allows them to analyze you and
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  know your likes and dislikes. So they get very good at
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  predicting your behaviors. They get very good, they get
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  very good at predicting your behaviors.
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  They get very good at being manipulated.
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  They get very good at, at they, they analyze you.
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  So they get good at knowing your likes and dislikes.
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  And that can come back to haunt you later on because if they
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  know your likes and dislikes, they can use them against you,
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  you know, so they're giving you an ear to listen on.
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  They're giving you a shoulder to cry on every They're being there
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  for you all the time. Like I said, they give you their
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  time, effort energy. They give an ear to they listen
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  to you like like sometimes they love bomb you with, you know, SE
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  actual favor favors, right? They love by you with a cheek
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  clapping. It's the best you ever had,
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  right? You haven't had it like this in
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  a long time. Legs shaking, head shaking, eyes
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  crossed, sweaty. You ain't hair falling out.
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  You got Tufts of hair everywhere.
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  You'd be pulling hair, spanking, whatever you whatever you're
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  into. Yeah, they're meeting all of
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  your needs in a they're meeting your bedroom needs, so to speak,
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  right. They're doing that type of stuff
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  for you right there. They're they're giving you
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  everything you want to need in the bedroom.
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  You haven't experienced that before.
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  So you love it. You're like, damn, what the hell
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  is going on here? I ain't never had it like this
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  before, right? And you feel like you because
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  you've never had it like that before.
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  You just like this open. This takes you to a whole new
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  world, doesn't it? You know, just like let's say a
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  lad, a lad in a whole new world. You know what I mean?
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  This is the type of stuff that they do like.
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  This is the type of mindset. This is the type of stuff that
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  they continuously do like in the bedroom.
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  They just love bomb you, like bomb you with the loving in the
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  bedroom, like Mcloving, they bomb you with the loving within
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  that bedroom space because it works.
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  It does work out. I said a lot of people, you
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  might not have had it like that your previous relationship or
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  this might, you might not have a lot of experience in that area
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  and they might have a lot of experience in that area.
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  Like think about that here. You have a broke narcissist or a
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  bum narcissist, right? Or a narcissist with a lack of
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  resources. I'm just trying to be
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  respectful. Like some of them don't have any
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  place to go. So imagine them, they get good
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  at doing it because they're clapping cheeks for a shelter.
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  They don't have anywhere else to go.
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  They're clapping cheeks for, for food and shelter, for warmth.
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  You know what I'm saying? For, for an address, a mailing
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  address, whatever. This is the type of stuff that
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  they do. They, they, they are there for
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  you in the physical need. Like you just, sometimes you
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  just need to release and they, they guess who's there, you
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  know, guess who's there. They meet every single need that
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  you want outside of the finances.
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  And a lot of times people can overlook that.
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  Yeah. You ever wondered how people get
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  into relationship? You see a super successful
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  person with somebody who's like, what the hell are y'all doing
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  together? Y'all lives don't even match
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  what how did how did you pull that one?
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  You know, and just because they meeting the other needs, they're
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  meeting every other need other than the financial because you
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  feel like you, you know, you feel like you might be missing
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  something in your life and whatnot.
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  And guess who's there to provide you what you're missing?
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  This person, they just like you just want somebody like you got
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  the finances, you got everything else.
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  You just missing a person and, and they, you happen to meet
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  them. They are there for you.
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  They listen to you. They're you know, they're giving
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  you the stuff that you wanted in the bedroom.
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  They're meeting every other need, like you saying like they
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  get very good at intermingling it like incorporating themselves
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  into your life. They're very they love bomb your
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  friends and family by, you know, cooking and cleaning for
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  everybody by, you know, if they have a little bit of money, they
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  spend their resources on impressing other people just so
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  they don't seem like they're broke, right?
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  Sometimes they sometimes the broke narcissist will love bomb
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  you with the impression that they're not broke, which is of
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  course a form of manipulation. They don't want you to think
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  that they're broke. They don't, they don't have the
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  resources. So imagine they'll love bomb you
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  with money. Sometimes they'll love bomb you
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  with money that they don't have with credit cards.
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  They'll run up, they'll run up, they'll go get a loan or a
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  rental car or something like that to try to impress you.
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  And then they come once you're hooked, once they don't love
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  bombs you once you want that once you they got you in love
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  with them. They revealed that they don't
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  actually have the resources that they that you think that they
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  have, right? They revealed it like I know I
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  got this, this Hellcat outside, but I stole it or, or it's a
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  lease or yeah, it doesn't. Nothing wrong with the lease.
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  Or it's like, you know, I rented it.
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  I rented this car, you know, I rented this house.
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  You leave me like this, this house, this big house, it's an
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  Airbnb that I put on the credit card.
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  That's my mom's that I stole from her that she didn't even
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  know I got. But I did that because I love
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  you. I did that because I don't want
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  you to think I I did that because I, I want to show.
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  You show if you give me a chance.
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  I want you to show you the life that I could give you because
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  I'm going to work hard. I want to work hard for you.
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  Look what I did. I stole from my Mama for you.
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  I stole from my Mama. I ain't never did that.
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  You see what I'm saying? They future fake you.
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  That's how they love bomb you. They love bomb you with promises
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  of the future. They love bomb your promises of
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  future success, promises of future finances, promises of
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  future. You know, they give you the
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  future that that you are looking for, promises of building a
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  family with you. They tell you that they want a
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  family with you. You know, you might like saying
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  a lot of times in these in these spaces, you might feel like you
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  might be running out of time to have a kid.
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  You feel like you might be run out of time either.
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  So I need I want to have a kid and I'm this age right here.
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  And guess what happens? You get the the narcissist with
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  the lack of resources that comes into your life that meets every
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  other need other than the money. They pretend and then they get
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  you. Then you hook.
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  Now you got a baby bomb. So sometimes they love bomb you
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  by being there. Like I said, they they take up
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  all of your time. They are, they are always there
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  for you and that's what they do. Like they give you everything
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  else other than the money. You know, they are, like I said,
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  sometimes they will affect like they have money.
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  They'll borrow money from their friends.
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  They'll use their friends cars and stuff like that.
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  They'll just like say they will pop up on you.
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  They'll surprise you with flowers that they might have
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  stolen. You know, they'll do whatever it
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  takes to to try to prove to you that they love you, to try to
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  prove to you that they care about you, to try to prove to
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  you that they got what it takes. You mean other than the
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  financial part? But I'll tell you this right
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  here. Y'all?
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  Yeah, I know. This is coming up on 13 minutes.
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  I like keep it around there. I'll tell you this right here.
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  If you deal with a narcissist with a lack of resources,
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  they're going to resent you for it.
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  You know they'll resent you for it, especially if you got money
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  and they don't have anything. Y'all and y'all get married and
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  you are carrying the financial load and then you divorce them
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  because they cheat on you. They will cheat on you.
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  They don't have money. They, they, they got you, Lee,
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  how do they? How can they cheat?
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  They don't have anything to offer.
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  They got you and they didn't have anything to offer.
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  You see what I'm saying? Or maybe they had something to
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  offer and it just went away when they after y'all got married or
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  whatever it is same thing. They don't have you don't have
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  to have money to love mom. If you doing other stuff type of
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  stuff, you just be funny. You just be charismatic.
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  They use their charisma to love mom other people, right?
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  They use their personalities to love mom other people.
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  They use their charm to love mom other people.
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  They just use their words to love mom other people and they
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  will cheat on you. And guess what happens when
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  y'all go through the divorce? They're going to try to take you
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  for everything you got, male or female.
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  This is not just I know people just like little women.
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  No men. I I thought most of the people,
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  most of the people I do my coaching calls with are women,
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  right. I would say, you know, I talked
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  to a lot of men, but most of the people I talked to were women,
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  right? And they just like, then they
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  again, This is why I got some of this information, bro, because
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  they've been dealing with narcissists that don't have much
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  to offer. And they take what they when
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  they get divorced, they try to get alimony from them.
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  They take houses, they take cars.
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  So now it looks like they have something to offer the next
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  person, right? Because I took this from you, I
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  feel like I have something to offer everybody else that's
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  would be happening. Like because I took this type of
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  stuff from you, I feel like now I have more to offer other
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  people. So they will take what you have
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  and make it until you can have the appearance of that.
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  They are successful now. So watch out for that type of
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