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Dom Dixon on Fitness, Habits, & Transforming Lives | Ep 30 · The Driven Athlete

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  Speaker 1: If you're a driven, active person who wants to reach and pursue a higher quality life with some ambition, then guess what this podcast is for you.
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  Speaker 1: This is the Driven Athlete Podcast.
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  Speaker 1: What's up y'all?
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  Speaker 1: It's your man, dr Kyle.
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  Speaker 1: Welcome back to the Driven Athlete Podcast.
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  Speaker 1: We've got a really interesting, cool guest with us, dom Dixon.
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  Speaker 1: He's joining us today.
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  Speaker 1: He's got a strength and conditioning background.
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  Speaker 1: He's working with Lululemon.
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  Speaker 1: He's got a strength and conditioning background.
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  Speaker 1: He's working with Lululemon.
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  Speaker 1: He's well diverse with a lot of things.
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  Speaker 1: So thanks for coming in.
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  Speaker 1: Man, oh man, the honor is mine.
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  Speaker 1: I appreciate it.
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  Speaker 1: Cool, we have a lot of really interesting things we can talk about.
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  Speaker 1: But first tell people more about where you're at now, what you're doing currently and we'll get more into where you're from and education and stuff.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, so I'm a man of many hats.
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  Speaker 2: Right now, I'm currently working with a lot of different brands.
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  Speaker 2: I started off with my own brand that I created back in 2017, brick Built Strength.
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  Speaker 2: It's my strength and conditioning program or, I guess, brand that I started just coaching people virtually.
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  Speaker 2: I had an interesting situation where I was working in a gym, I didn't quite know where I wanted to go with my training background and I was like I got to put this to use, you know, and then I started, you know, sharing content around educational fitness and how to do things optimally, um, and then that kind of just took off from there and then I was like let me go ahead and start a brand and work from there.
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  Speaker 2: And that led me to work with other brands and you know, here I am, you know, working with brands and, um, kind of elevating my own at the same time.
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  Speaker 2: Brick built strength yeah, bbs is probably the easiest way to say it.
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  Speaker 2: That's cool.
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  Speaker 1: That's awesome.
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  Speaker 1: So what with BBS right now?
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  Speaker 1: What stuff are you still doing?
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  Speaker 2: So I still have a couple of virtual clients that I train, you know, all over the country, some in different parts of the world, and then I created templates for my athletes as well.
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  Speaker 2: People come to me all the time with, you know, not really sure where they want to start, where they want to go, Um.
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  Speaker 2: So I was like, let me create something that's not only affordable but that's optimal and it's efficient.
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  Speaker 2: So I started creating programs called body by brick um volume, one through five, one through six and, just, you know, six to 12 weeks at a time.
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  Speaker 2: People can train on their own time and they have a way to reach their goals without feeling like they had to fill out a questionnaire.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, that's awesome.
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  Speaker 2: Where are you from originally?
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  Speaker 2: Originally from Morgantown, West Virginia.
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  Speaker 2: I know a lot of people don't know where that's at, but just south of Pittsburgh.
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  Speaker 1: South of Pittsburgh.
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  Speaker 1: Oh okay, there you go.
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  Speaker 1: That's a good reference.
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  Speaker 1: That's why you picked that.
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  Speaker 1: That's funny.
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  Speaker 1: And you went to Shepherd University.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, yep, what position I was inside backer, so probably about 20 pounds heavier than so.
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  Speaker 2: You're a hitter.
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  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I.
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  Speaker 2: I run towards contact yeah, for sure.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, you see that guy right there.
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  Speaker 1: Run as hard as you can into him, so the other linebacker made the tackle absolutely great.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, um, I was a tight end, so and slot receiver okay, and occasionally would split me out wide, um.
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  Speaker 2: So yeah, blocking the inside backers there's always yeah, we would have been going head-to-head if we practiced.
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  Speaker 1: This one game, man.
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  Speaker 1: I remember it was just like over and over the same guy, just again and again, just like, yeah, just run an inside zone or an inside run.
• 2:51
  Speaker 1: I was like this is just getting annoying.
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  Speaker 1: This guy wasn't stopping.
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  Speaker 1: I know right, yeah, you guys are animals, but that's cool.
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  Speaker 1: So, uh, football is Shepard university.
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  Speaker 1: And then you majored in exercise science, yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, so it's.
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  Speaker 2: It's funny I tell the story all the time, but I never was into fitness and I studied it all through college and you know, like most people playing college football, you think you're going to the pros, so it's more of like a degree at that point.
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  Speaker 2: Um, but I did retain some, just a Like this is.
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  Speaker 1: This is kind of annoying.
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  Speaker 1: I'm one of the pros.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly.
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  Speaker 2: And I think why, even here, yeah, reality kind of lines up with your identity.
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  Speaker 2: Um, for me and it didn't happen till after college, so for me I was kind of in that same boat of most people trying to find my identity.
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  Speaker 2: You know, did an exit internship with fitness at.
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  Speaker 2: It wasn't until after college and even during college I was one of those players who did the bare minimum in the weight room and I tried to max out the field.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly.
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  Speaker 2: So on the field it was kind of like that was my degree.
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  Speaker 1: Just enough not to get yelled at.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly, that was me in conditioning, for sure.
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  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, weightlifting, I was always really had to get after it.
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  Speaker 1: Weight gain and size was never a strong suit for me, so I feel like I always had to really push myself.
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  Speaker 1: But yeah, dude, same thing.
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  Speaker 1: What about that internship really turned you on with fitness of like?
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  Speaker 1: This is what I was born to do.
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  Speaker 1: This is my identity.
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  Speaker 2: I think for me it was the biggest takeaway was relationship.
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  Speaker 2: I was able to develop a relationship with people and clients and the guy I was interning underneath he had a core group of clients that you know.
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  Speaker 2: I watched how he lit up their day.
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  Speaker 2: They came in with stress or any type of problem.
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  Speaker 2: It went away for that hour.
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  Speaker 2: So I fell in love with the transition between when they came in and when they left and their day was completely flipped and I was like this is interesting Watching them do hard things.
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  Speaker 2: Watching lawyers, doctors come in and grind it out for an hour on their lunch break was, you know, very inspiring to me and I was like, well, that's where I can make an impact.
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  Speaker 2: And then the training stuff kind of fell in afterwards.
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  Speaker 2: I feel like most people who go to school for said career don't learn until they get into the field, and I think that's another thing to be said about strength and conditioning or training or whatever the case is.
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  Speaker 2: You don't learn as much as you do when you're hands-on.
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  Speaker 1: Just getting in there, that's awesome.
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  Speaker 1: Especially mindset with like and we'll talk about mindset.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, um, just what you're born to do, or finding your identity, what you enjoy, what you love and I definitely agree Like there's a, you have a choice, like when you work with the clients and patients and stuff.
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  Speaker 1: You know like this can be.
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  Speaker 1: I can make this like a highlight of your day.
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  Speaker 1: You know what I mean, which can be draining, you know it's challenging over and over and hour after hour, but totally changing the game of this is going to be the best part of your day.
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  Speaker 1: The highlight we could shift everything around.
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  Speaker 1: That's really cool.
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  Speaker 1: That's also cool.
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  Speaker 1: That's what you got out of it.
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  Speaker 1: That was the driving factor, absolutely.
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  Speaker 2: Besides that, is there anything else that sticks out?
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  Speaker 2: Definitely the correlation between sport and training.
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  Speaker 2: I think you know I kind of figured it out a little too late, but I think you know, better late than never.
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  Speaker 2: For me it was like seeing people.
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  Speaker 2: You know we had athletes that came in and kind of put myself in their shoes and looking at it from their perspective of all right, this is what you have to do, this is what you should do, this is what we're going to work on.
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  Speaker 2: You know, kind of that stigma of less is more was really implemented in and seeing how that, you know, changed their season or changed their, you know their output from the beginning of the summer to the end of the summer and how they mentally prepared too, because those sessions aren't easy.
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  Speaker 2: As you know, off-season training is is basically in season.
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  Speaker 2: You, it's a game every single day.
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  Speaker 2: So for me, that was definitely another thing that kind of stuck with me and put me into that position working with athletes, working with general pop and then getting into CrossFit athletes as well.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, have you had a difficult because with off-season training weightlifting, strength training you definitely have to get after it.
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  Speaker 1: You have partners you're working with that are keeping you accountable and they're calling you out.
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  Speaker 1: And then coaches are calling you out.
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  Speaker 1: So you've got to stay on your toes and keep your head in a swivel to not just get like called out and shamed.
• 6:51
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, and it was just draining, of course, absolutely um, with you working with different various clients and stuff.
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  Speaker 1: Um, has it?
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  Speaker 1: How's that been for you with changing personalities of like.
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  Speaker 1: All right, here's like a you know college athlete.
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  Speaker 1: We got to get after coach mode and mode.
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  Speaker 1: And then General Pop, who's like trying to be healthy and fit.
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  Speaker 1: You know, exercise really isn't like a strong, they don't really like it for just communication styles.
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  Speaker 1: How's that been for you?
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  Speaker 2: It's been good man.
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  Speaker 2: I think I learned early on to observe people.
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  Speaker 2: You know, like the first thing I do in every session I have is the first thing I ask them how are you feeling?
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  Speaker 2: And I wait for that response.
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  Speaker 2: And I think if you are somebody who listens to understand and listen to learn, you'll figure out real quick the people who are there who need to be pushed, people who need to be coddled, people who need to be kind of like putting outside of their comfort zone or maybe find them in their comfort zone and optimally train them.
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  Speaker 2: So for me, that was something I was blessed to learn early on.
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  Speaker 2: That makes sense, yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Even meeting someone where they're at versus forcing.
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  Speaker 2: I think some of the best trainers and physicians and PTs find that.
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  Speaker 2: They find that balance right.
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  Speaker 2: I think if you try to train everybody like an athlete, you're going to miss some people.
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  Speaker 2: You're going to lose some people too, right?
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  Speaker 2: So for me it was like listening to understand, listening to observe and learn.
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  Speaker 2: The biggest thing was to learn each person individually and learn yourself too.
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  Speaker 2: I think upon that process is learning.
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  Speaker 2: How do you work?
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  Speaker 2: I'm not, you know, maybe you're not a cheerleader, maybe you are a cheerleader.
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  Speaker 2: Find that niche and I think really really good after once you find it, yeah, that's really cool.
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  Speaker 2: Um, do you what?
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  Speaker 1: would you say your favorite type of clientele is to work with?
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  Speaker 1: That's a good question, Um population wise, there is none.
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  Speaker 2: But I do love the people who buy in.
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  Speaker 2: I love the people.
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  Speaker 2: I don't care where you're at, your age, your athleticism, your status, if you buy in I can work with you.
• 8:42
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm the same boat.
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  Speaker 2: I feel when you use that complaint as your stage and your platform, then that's where we kind of you know you're not here to get better, you're here just to you know, express or to unload, which is fine.
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  Speaker 2: But you know, I don't say the work didn't work.
• 8:58
  Speaker 1: Yeah, right, and that makes total sense too.
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  Speaker 1: Unfortunately, identities can be placed in that, and I would I mean, that's not my profession but examining, like, where does this resentment or bitterness coming from to then lead to this victimhood?
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  Speaker 2: Well, I'm sure you know it's like you become.
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  Speaker 2: You're a physical therapist, sometimes you become a therapist therapist.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, 100%.
• 9:18
  Speaker 2: Oh, my gosh, that is like Some of the stuff you hear is like what you know.
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  Speaker 2: It's an hour I would say majority.
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  Speaker 1: No, I wouldn't go that far.
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  Speaker 1: But very often it's not like nuts and bolts orthopedics, joint mobile biomechanics, it's just like having a conversation, letting people think Sometimes you've got to vent, letting people vent totally understandable, and then just talking about their family stuff, you know, like whatever which can be, it's challenging and you know definitely need breaks and refreshers between heavy bouts of that stuff.
• 9:51
  Speaker 1: You know, I agree, but I think at least recognizing that and every time coming into the situation like this might just be a conversation therapy session.
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  Speaker 1: It may just be one of those days which is understandable, you know, meeting people where they're at, yeah, absolutely, that's funny, man.
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  Speaker 2: Um so you're still.
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  Speaker 2: You're still training clients fully remote.
• 10:15
  Speaker 2: Yep, no, I've tried to dabble a little bit.
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  Speaker 2: Now I'm in West Palm beach, um, you know, being down here since July of 2023, I'm trying to find a somewhere I can insert myself.
• 10:21
  Speaker 2: I took a break from coaching CrossFit um in person and I'm trying to find, you know, some people that I can work with and help out, but I also don't want to be one of those people where I stretch myself too thin with working with all these people and I travel a lot, so it's hard for me to, like you know, dedicate time.
• 10:34
  Speaker 2: So I am looking for clients that I can help and and you know, if it's a good relationship meet them where they're at and build from there as well.
• 10:41
  Speaker 2: Yeah, we're at crossfit, were you coaching, um?
• 10:43
  Speaker 2: So I've coached in six different gyms, which is, you know, blessing.
• 10:46
  Speaker 2: Sometimes people think it's not a good thing, but I've moved a lot.
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  Speaker 2: So when I was in west virginia, I coached for two gyms, um, and then, when I moved to jacksonville, I coached at two gyms at the same time, which was pretty cool to see different populations.
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  Speaker 2: And then I coached at crossfit west chase in tampa and just you know, taking a break.
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  Speaker 2: So, coaching all those different gyms in five or six years and having been a coach for seven or going on eight years of CrossFit, you see a lot, you learn a lot.
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  Speaker 2: I think I've learned the most from CrossFit A lot of diverse experiences.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I've learned the most from CrossFit athletes and you kind of have those.
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  Speaker 2: You know different populations of people in the gym and you got to, you know, learn them and know where they're at, meet them where they're at.
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  Speaker 2: But that's been amazing for me.
• 11:27
  Speaker 2: But now I kind of wanted to take a break because I know that it is a huge commitment and if you're not bought all in then you can't produce anything for anybody when you say you've learned the most from CrossFit athletes like what.
• 11:39
  Speaker 2: I think I've learned the most with, I guess, instructing CrossFit.
• 11:43
  Speaker 2: Like teaching and coaching, I think there's two different.
• 11:48
  Speaker 2: You know two different things you coach or you teach.
• 11:49
  Speaker 2: Teaching people, I think, goes deeper into lifestyle.
• 11:52
  Speaker 2: Coaching is in the hour, in the moment.
• 11:54
  Speaker 2: You know, in this platform, on this stage, and CrossFit athletes, I think just the stigma of all right one, two, three go.
• 12:03
  Speaker 2: It's that a lot happens in that 12 minute AMRAP or 15 minute AMRAP, and what I've learned the most is that people are so concerned about that 12 minutes that they forget about the hour or the week or the day that they're in.
• 12:16
  Speaker 2: So teaching people around that to make 12 minutes better is what I've learned the most.
• 12:21
  Speaker 2: Like that's how you buy, you get people to buy it and that's how you get people to.
• 12:24
  Speaker 2: You know, come back and show up every single day, right, probably see some results.
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  Speaker 2: Exactly, positively reinforce the 12 minutes is just, you know, call it what it is it's a test, you know it's a.
• 12:33
  Speaker 2: It's a test and it's an opportunity for you to get fitter.
• 12:35
  Speaker 2: It's not the end, all be all.
• 12:48
  Speaker 2: I work out a lot of different gyms because you know, being the community bouncing around, but the gym I, I would say, um, I work out.
• 12:51
  Speaker 2: The most is 1401 athletics.
• 12:53
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I work out there, yeah, um a good bit.
• 12:54
  Speaker 2: And then I work out at level one training um the private gym with scott, yeah, with scott, yeah that's where my my uh practice first started really was in sc's gym.
• 13:04
  Speaker 1: That's awesome.
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  Speaker 1: So shout out Scott Langell, we'll have you on soon.
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  Speaker 1: Man, definitely he's a man.
• 13:07
  Speaker 1: He's a good dude Firefighter.
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  Speaker 1: He is really really good heart too.
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  Speaker 1: Um, yeah, I've only heard great things.
• 13:13
  Speaker 1: I know his gym is exploded Like it's pretty cool.
• 13:15
  Speaker 1: We'll have them on soon.
• 13:16
  Speaker 1: Um, but yeah, so 1401 right next door to that yeah, that's cool.
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  Speaker 1: What brought you originally to get interested in CrossFit from your strength and conditioning background and some of the coaching you've done?
• 13:28
  Speaker 2: I think it was the competitive nature.
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  Speaker 2: It was the closest thing I could get to sport at the time.
• 13:32
  Speaker 2: It was the shared suffrage, the shared camaraderie.
• 13:35
  Speaker 2: Shared suffrage for sure, definitely.
• 13:38
  Speaker 2: So that's what bought in for me.
• 13:39
  Speaker 2: Like most people, you go into it thinking that you're, you know, far more fit than you are, and I think the humbling experience you know, the best gyms, the best coaches, the best programming um, it's never the same.
• 13:51
  Speaker 2: The stimulus is different and I think you learn a lot about yourself in those, the short AMRAPs or the short you know five rounds.
• 13:58
  Speaker 2: Um, so for me, that was what, what bought me into it.
• 14:01
  Speaker 2: And then, obviously, you know the novice of it.
• 14:04
  Speaker 2: Yeah, totally being bad at something was great.
• 14:07
  Speaker 1: And that's, I guess, something that you wanted for a while and worked on Absolutely.
• 14:09
  Speaker 1: Did you ever compete?
• 14:11
  Speaker 2: I did like low-level compete.
• 14:12
  Speaker 2: I found myself working out with a lot of competitors, so people who actually tried to make it to the big stage.
• 14:17
  Speaker 2: I surrounded myself around them because it gave me that extra push.
• 14:20
  Speaker 2: Right, you know, without even knowing that, I put myself in rooms with people who are a lot better than me in that sport, in that realm, and chased, did a lot of chasing, um, until you become the chaser.
• 14:29
  Speaker 1: So, yeah, sure uh, and I feel like uh, at all aspects of life.
• 14:34
  Speaker 1: Right, I've had a mentor describe, like you know, having somebody who's ahead of you, a peer colleague that you guys are pupils and work to our peers with the other in colleagues, and then someone below you who you're mentoring and having three levels of that consistently just for your own growth, reflection and stuff like that as you're doing.
• 14:51
  Speaker 1: That sounds like we could do it.
• 14:52
  Speaker 1: So it's like picking, like and also to going off of like you are who you hang out with.
• 14:56
  Speaker 1: You know you're an average mix of the five people to hang out with most.
• 15:00
  Speaker 1: So surrounding yourself with like what you want to be like, and that's exactly what that was.
• 15:05
  Speaker 1: It sounds like of a higher level fitness CrossFit competitor or just pushing yourself and challenging your own mental fitness and your own physical strength yeah, and then also people like looking up to you, like you're looking up to me.
• 15:19
  Speaker 1: Yeah, like what?
• 15:20
  Speaker 1: Why you know.
• 15:22
  Speaker 2: It's definitely a full circle moment when you get that chance.
• 15:24
  Speaker 1: Which is really cool and also just humbling reminding of like I need to.
• 15:28
  Speaker 1: You know, okay, I got to carry myself differently.
• 15:30
  Speaker 1: You know what I mean, especially as a dad.
• 15:32
  Speaker 1: You know now.
• 15:32
  Speaker 1: Sure man, they're watching and listening to everything.
• 15:36
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I bet.
• 15:36
  Speaker 1: When did you learn to say that?
• 15:37
  Speaker 1: You know Me and my wife and I definitely been pretty good at that stuff.
• 15:41
  Speaker 1: How many kids do you have?
• 15:42
  Speaker 1: Two, Two, wow, that's amazing Two kids.
• 15:45
  Speaker 1: My daughter is three and a half and my son will be two years old next month.
• 15:49
  Speaker 1: What do you think you've learned?
• 15:50
  Speaker 2: the most about yourself, of being a dad.
• 15:55
  Speaker 1: Good question.
• 15:56
  Speaker 1: Oh man, patience, understanding and not taking things seriously.
• 16:06
  Speaker 1: Okay, you know, I would say like I've learned about myself.
• 16:12
  Speaker 1: For some reason, I get really worked up with with messes.
• 16:16
  Speaker 1: Okay, dropping an egg, right.
• 16:18
  Speaker 1: Or like spilling something, like imagine spilling quinoa.
• 16:21
  Speaker 1: Like giving a two year, a one and a half year old a plate of quinoa, not a bowl, a plate a quinoa.
• 16:29
  Speaker 1: Sweeping that up is the worst, you know, it goes everywhere.
• 16:32
  Speaker 1: You know what I mean.
• 16:32
  Speaker 1: So I'm like we have all these things going on.
• 16:35
  Speaker 1: We have to get ready for bedtime, you know bath, put the laundry, you know, at least get it put away in some fashion.
• 16:42
  Speaker 1: Brushing teeth, get the pajamas on, get a bedtime story, get kids settled down, and then they want milk and it's like I've got to re-brush your teeth again Now.
• 16:51
  Speaker 1: Get them settled down in bed.
• 16:52
  Speaker 1: Dude, it's a process, I'm sure.
• 16:53
  Speaker 1: So, on top of that, being like now we've got to clean up all the quinoa this kid threw everywhere, and so I'm like I could be better at preventing, preventing that extra step, yeah, so, anyway, not getting worked up of like it's a mess, dude, relax, yeah, that's part of it.
• 17:07
  Speaker 1: Enjoy the process.
• 17:09
  Speaker 2: Okay, that I like that I've never heard that answer when I've asked that question.
• 17:13
  Speaker 2: That's a really good answer.
• 17:14
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know, man, it's a mess for some reason.
• 17:19
  Speaker 1: I got to get better at it.
• 17:20
  Speaker 1: You'll clean it up by just getting over that.
• 17:22
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, um, good question, man.
• 17:25
  Speaker 1: That's good.
• 17:25
  Speaker 1: I don't think anybody's asked me a question.
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: It's cool.
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: I'm a podcaster, so I'll get on your podcast.
• 17:31
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so let's talk about that.
• 17:32
  Speaker 1: So you have on a podcast that learned just recently, just two seconds ago.
• 17:33
  Speaker 1: Um, the mindset podcast.
• 17:35
  Speaker 1: Yeah, brick built mindset podcast.
• 17:36
  Speaker 1: Brick built mindset podcast.
• 17:38
  Speaker 2: Tell us about that.
• 17:38
  Speaker 2: So it originally started off as like a digital diary for me.
• 17:42
  Speaker 2: I think it was one of those things where you know you're like, oh, I should start a podcast and I used to do these things on my Instagram where I would do Brick Belt Mindset.
• 17:49
  Speaker 2: Each week I would post on my story a message, something that I was impacted by a conversation, and then that led to me just jumping out and, you know, taking a leap of faith and doing a podcast of my own and I keep it short and sweet three to five minutes reminders.
• 18:03
  Speaker 2: It could be an abstract of a message I heard or a podcast I've heard, or even my favorite, which is a conversation, and I just usually just summarize that into a weekly dose, almost going on three and a half years I've been doing it and, you know, haven't missed a week and it's been one of those things where it's accountability for me.
• 18:22
  Speaker 2: It's been a learning process.
• 18:23
  Speaker 2: It's, like I said, like a diary.
• 18:24
  Speaker 2: It's accountability for me.
• 18:25
  Speaker 2: It's been a learning process.
• 18:26
  Speaker 2: It's, like I said, like a diary.
• 18:27
  Speaker 2: It's a digital diary for me that I've shared.
• 18:29
  Speaker 2: I have my little audience that listen and it's been.
• 18:30
  Speaker 2: You know I had guests on here and there, but for me it's just been an outlet for me to speak my voice and play back messages that I need to hear myself as well, for sure.
• 18:38
  Speaker 1: I agree, like for myself, with a podcast like this talking to patients, man, a lot of it.
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: I'm just talking to myself.
• 18:44
  Speaker 1: You know reminders for myself.
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: What's some of the ones of the your daily diary stuff that sticks out the most most memorable for you or that you get the most comments on?
• 18:53
  Speaker 2: I think the anything that's vulnerable.
• 18:55
  Speaker 2: You know, I think some of the inner thoughts that we all battle with each day, um, the insecurities, the perspective, um doing things that are that are scary, I think those are the things that get the biggest comeback, because people are so afraid of doing what they're afraid of, yeah for sure.
• 19:09
  Speaker 2: So for me, it was like that's something that I battled with just being a pride man or prideful man, being in that space where you do have a platform.
• 19:18
  Speaker 2: You don't like to look like you make mistakes, but I think, in general, you should show that side, because a lot of people know that you are human and that you do make mistakes and that that's just a part of what the character and the identity that you claim yeah, not taking yourself too seriously.
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: Humility yeah, I was talking with a professional about that.
• 19:34
  Speaker 1: We had a mental health pro professional in here a couple of times um, and learns a lot of things from her outside of that too.
• 19:40
  Speaker 1: And for what she was saying, it seems she's like comes from humility.
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: Yeah, as in like, are you okay with sucking at something for a while?
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: And then potentially other people and your colleagues and peers or whatever seeing you suck at it for a while, yeah, yes or no?
• 19:55
  Speaker 1: Yes, okay, then you can, you can do new things, right?
• 19:58
  Speaker 1: No, and it's like you're gonna stay within what you're good at, in your comfort zone, yeah, and then it's the fear of rejections, what usually, usually always boils down to.
• 20:05
  Speaker 1: From what she was saying, I was like yo, it makes total sense, like it's failing and then other people seeing you fail.
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: That's a very vulnerable moment.
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: You have to have a lot of humility in order to dive into things that you're brand new at Um and with fitness right, cause I used to do personal training with people back in the day and even now with, like, parent patients and stuff people um, a lot of times like I don't want to do pull-ups, I don't like I don't like pull-ups.
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm like, why yeah?
• 20:29
  Speaker 2: Well cause, I'm like good at them.
• 20:30
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm like, did this practice.
• 20:31
  Speaker 2: That's exactly why we should be doing it Exactly.
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: It's like and diving into anything you know, like learning the piano or like learning a new instrument or whatever it.
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: Would you expect not to look silly Exactly?
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: Would it be unreasonable to think that you would be a pro right away?
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: Probably be unreasonable.
• 20:47
  Speaker 1: Would it be unreasonable to think that if you looked silly right now which nobody cares, nobody remembers if you were to practice a little bit every day over the next six months, you think you'd be somewhat more competent?
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: Yeah, probably right.
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: Absolutely, let's do it.
• 21:03
  Speaker 2: I just dropped a message on that last week and it's from zig ziggler.
• 21:06
  Speaker 2: The quote I don't have to be great to start, but I have to start to be great.
• 21:09
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and for sure it's so simple.
• 21:11
  Speaker 2: But people think that they have to be great to start, or I have to get in shape to work out.
• 21:15
  Speaker 2: It's like that's the opposite.
• 21:16
  Speaker 2: You get in shape by working out, yeah, and you know anything else, like you heal by rehabbing yeah, just Just little steps starting.
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: Yeah, what was that old Chinese proverb?
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: It's like the best way to even a thousand mile journey starts with one step.
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: Yeah, absolutely, the best day to plant a tree was yesterday.
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, that one.
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it takes forever.
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: You know, like, totally fine, speaking on that, the something, something interesting we're talking about.
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: Oh gosh, I lost my train of thought.
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: We'll get back to it.
• 21:46
  Speaker 1: Um, okay, cool From your.
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: So, working with clients now, um, and getting that out of comfort zone.
• 21:56
  Speaker 1: Working on fitness, um, mental capacity, mental fitness too, and and toughness, um, what would you say?
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: Some of the most common questions clients ask you of like for fitness and health.
• 22:07
  Speaker 2: Usually, the first one is always you know, how do I?
• 22:09
  Speaker 2: I want to lose weight.
• 22:10
  Speaker 2: That's like the most common question asked in fitness.
• 22:12
  Speaker 2: The next one is well, I don't know where to start.
• 22:15
  Speaker 2: Where should I start?
• 22:16
  Speaker 2: So I think the answer is in the question.
• 22:20
  Speaker 2: You know, it's like I always reply back with a question.
• 22:23
  Speaker 2: Somebody's like oh, you know, I like I.
• 22:23
  Speaker 2: I always reply back with a question.
• 22:24
  Speaker 2: Somebody's like oh, you know, I want to lose weight, or how do I lose weight?
• 22:26
  Speaker 2: Well, what do you eat?
• 22:27
  Speaker 2: What's your day look like?
• 22:29
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, how many hours do you sleep?
• 22:31
  Speaker 2: All those factors go into it.
• 22:32
  Speaker 2: Same thing with training.
• 22:33
  Speaker 2: Well, what do you currently do?
• 22:34
  Speaker 2: Nothing.
• 22:35
  Speaker 2: Okay, where would you like to start?
• 22:37
  Speaker 2: What's comfortable?
• 22:37
  Speaker 2: What's an optimal thing you could do every single day, come hell or high water?
• 22:40
  Speaker 2: Um, so those are my questions, always I with, but those are probably the two most common questions.
• 22:45
  Speaker 2: I'm sure every trainer is listening is probably the same yeah, a hundred percent.
• 22:48
  Speaker 1: How do I lose weight?
• 22:48
  Speaker 1: Yeah, for sure.
• 22:49
  Speaker 1: So if I like, eat keto for like a week, I'm going on a cruise next week.
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: Can I drop?
• 22:56
  Speaker 1: Like, what can I?
• 22:56
  Speaker 1: I want to be bathing suit, you know ready?
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: It's like oh, it's a six month journey, let's get after it.
• 23:06
  Speaker 1: Yeah, um, so okay, I remember my train of thought.
• 23:07
  Speaker 1: So, with people like that, right, they're like, okay, cool, I'm nervous, I'm intimidated about starting this journey.
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: I'm overweight or I want to get better.
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: I don't even know what to do.
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: Every time I do, I get hurt or I just don't feel good, and, um, flashes of intensity that don't seem to work, and then I just like, well, f it, I'm not going to get better, I'm not going to get, I'm like I just can't lose weight, it's not my thing.
• 23:24
  Speaker 1: Yeah, right, that's a new one.
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: Um, something that I've heard.
• 23:27
  Speaker 1: With that, with people being self-conscious, right, they're intimidated, they're, they're concerned, they're intimidated, they, um, are, are worried about what people are going to think and looking silly, right, going about like this let's consider, boil it all the way back.
• 23:44
  Speaker 1: You're concerned about starting this fitness journey.
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: What exactly is it you're concerned about?
• 23:49
  Speaker 1: Right, okay, looking dumb, looking silly, like, look at this person trying to lose weight.
• 23:55
  Speaker 1: What a loser they are Like.
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: Who would actually say that, okay, let's boil it down?
• 23:59
  Speaker 1: It's usually one or two people in your life that you were concerned about what their judgments would be, and it's usually a family or a friend like super close, right, um, where I'm like that you're going to let that one write a new name down and say it out loud.
• 24:13
  Speaker 1: I'm letting this one person and their name is blank prevent me from starting my fitness journey or whatever I want to do, because I'm concerned what they're going to think I love that I've never actually thought about that process, making them write the name so much.
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: Well it humanizes it too.
• 24:28
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah.
• 24:29
  Speaker 1: And also it was like I'm going to let this person dictate my life.
• 24:31
  Speaker 1: Yeah, get out of my life, dude.
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: No way you know what I mean.
• 24:34
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and then also, from that too, let's reverse that.
• 24:37
  Speaker 1: You think there might be passing judgment?
• 24:40
  Speaker 1: Okay, Understandable.
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: That happens If you were to go to a gym before you don't really know what you're doing Totally understandable.
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: And if you were going to, consistently, do you think the people at the gym that are in great shape and they're like the fitness gurus, they're the gym rats like they're getting after it, do you think that they would ever go up to you and be like, what are you doing in here?
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: How dare you?
• 25:07
  Speaker 1: Like?
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: What are you thinking?
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: You know?
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: Like who do you think you are?
• 25:10
  Speaker 1: This is for us.
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly, I 100% guarantee you it would be the opposite.
• 25:15
  Speaker 1: Those people will be like hey, like, if you were to walk up and be like, can you help me with this?
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: Like I don't know what this lat pull down machine is or whatever, They'd be the first ones to be like oh, let me tell you all about it.
• 25:25
  Speaker 1: I'm dude, and high five for coming in here.
• 25:27
  Speaker 1: I've been watching you Like.
• 25:29
  Speaker 1: I want to encourage you and be like yo, keep going, like I love this.
• 25:33
  Speaker 1: They would be the ones being like, high-fiving and motivating you and reinforcing it.
• 25:37
  Speaker 1: They're not going to be the ones that judge you, I guarantee it.
• 25:41
  Speaker 2: To them it's like you know it's a little bit of an ego check.
• 25:44
  Speaker 2: They're like oh, you're asking me for help.
• 25:45
  Speaker 2: Oh, this is cool, I'm an expert.
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: To you, it's the same, but backwards, like you're looking up to me.
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: Are you sure you play into it?
• 25:51
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and they would be all about it, oh yeah, for sure.
• 25:54
  Speaker 1: But anyway.
• 25:55
  Speaker 1: So if anybody out there that's on that cusp on the fence, I'm very, very confident.
• 25:59
  Speaker 1: If you were to go to any gym and ask somebody or be self-conscious or intimidated, I guarantee you that all the fit people in there that are like gym rats are going to be super pumped that you're in there and then be like I'd love to help you ask me more questions.
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: They would love it, you know.
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: So then then analyze and examine then who would be the judgmental people?
• 26:19
  Speaker 1: It's usually the crab effect, yeah, you know.
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: Unfortunately it's the people that are bummed that they're not taking those steps, or they're bitter, and they're bitter, they don't like where they're at, so they want, unfortunately, people to stay with them in that insecure and low moment.
• 26:34
  Speaker 1: You know, yeah, it's unfortunate, right it is.
• 26:37
  Speaker 1: But anyway, I think it's just a mind bomb where I'm like, dude, start a podcast, absolutely yeah, who are the ones not starting a podcast?
• 26:42
  Speaker 1: Who's going to judge you then for doing a podcast.
• 26:46
  Speaker 2: Yeah, was actually called Just Do it Scared.
• 26:48
  Speaker 2: Just Do it Scared.
• 26:49
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it was about my podcast.
• 26:51
  Speaker 2: I put myself out there.
• 26:52
  Speaker 2: I got probably the most response from that exact podcast than I ever have.
• 26:57
  Speaker 2: Love that, put yourself out there.
• 26:59
  Speaker 1: So Just Do it Scared.
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: Totally agree.
• 27:01
  Speaker 1: I could talk all day about that.
• 27:02
  Speaker 1: What was the message?
• 27:04
  Speaker 2: It was really about me being in my own way for so long and I finally just heard a message from Will Smith, you know, ironically he was saying you know, whatever it is that you're standing on that side of fear, just do it, scared, I promise you, when you land on the other side it won't be that scary Right, and you would have done what you said you couldn't do.
• 27:22
  Speaker 2: You said what you wouldn't do, so it was like for me, it was like all right, let's just do it.
• 27:26
  Speaker 2: And I recorded the three or five minute episode.
• 27:28
  Speaker 2: It was like this is me put myself out there If one person listens, or 1000, I'm just going to do this anyway.
• 27:33
  Speaker 2: So that, for me, was like the jumping off point.
• 27:36
  Speaker 2: It was exactly what I needed to do.
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: It's interesting you say that I just do it scared.
• 27:40
  Speaker 1: The definition of bravery that I heard is not being scared, it's taking action despite the presence of fear.
• 27:48
  Speaker 1: Oh, I like that.
• 27:49
  Speaker 1: Like I'm scared.
• 27:50
  Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, it's just action despite that presence of that emotion.
• 27:53
  Speaker 1: I like that.
• 27:54
  Speaker 1: So, like being scared, it's usually fear of rejection.
• 27:56
  Speaker 1: It's usually one or two people that are in the person's head that's preventing that and minimizing it by writing their name down.
• 28:02
  Speaker 1: And then also the fear of being in that emotional state just afraid or scared of being sad or fear of being, um, uncomfortable.
• 28:13
  Speaker 1: Right, it's just literally an emotion that someone's afraid of getting into by how it might feel or can they handle it.
• 28:20
  Speaker 1: And it's like, if you back it out even more, in biology it's like literally just neurotransmitters.
• 28:24
  Speaker 2: It's a whole.
• 28:25
  Speaker 2: It is in your brain.
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: It's just literally neurotransmitters in your brain that you're.
• 28:28
  Speaker 1: It might be an increased amount of temporarily that will be flushed out eventually, um, and it's like you're not going to die.
• 28:34
  Speaker 2: No, that's the biggest right.
• 28:36
  Speaker 2: You're not going to die doing that thing.
• 28:37
  Speaker 2: But did you die?
• 28:38
  Speaker 2: You're like no you're fine.
• 28:40
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so it's like, not like you're asking yourself to play with a poisonous snake.
• 28:43
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, it's literally just the uncomfort, discomfort, of emotion that might come with it, and then fear of rejection of usually one or two people.
• 28:50
  Speaker 1: It's like that's what's holding me back, like F, that dude.
• 28:53
  Speaker 1: It's paralyzing.
• 28:54
  Speaker 1: Yeah, a hundred percent, very paralyzing.
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: With that being said, then, something you've done.
• 28:58
  Speaker 1: What would you recommend then for there?
• 29:00
  Speaker 1: Like what, what suggestions would you have for to take?
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: To take steps, take the?
• 29:04
  Speaker 2: first step.
• 29:05
  Speaker 2: I think the biggest thing I tell people all the time is like build a small dream, so like.
• 29:09
  Speaker 2: I think another thing of fear is like I got to.
• 29:11
  Speaker 2: You know comparison.
• 29:13
  Speaker 2: I have to broadcast it.
• 29:14
  Speaker 2: It's got to be huge, it's got to be a big launch.
• 29:16
  Speaker 2: Build a small dream, tell one or two people, or write it down or record it on your own.
• 29:22
  Speaker 2: Don't show it.
• 29:22
  Speaker 2: Build a library or whatever it is.
• 29:24
  Speaker 2: Build it small, because that small dream will become big, that small action will become big.
• 29:29
  Speaker 2: Five looks small when looking at 10,.
• 29:31
  Speaker 2: Small dream will become big.
• 29:31
  Speaker 2: That small action will become big.
• 29:32
  Speaker 2: Five looks small when looking at 10,.
• 29:33
  Speaker 2: All those things.
• 29:33
  Speaker 2: And I think for me it was like the same thing.
• 29:34
  Speaker 2: I was like, oh, I'm comparing it to other people who are already doing it before me.
• 29:37
  Speaker 2: It's got to be as big as theirs, it's got to be just as successful tomorrow yeah exactly, and I think for me that was the buy-in was like just do it small, start dreaming small, then launch, keep going, keep going, right.
• 29:49
  Speaker 2: And then, before you know it, it is what it is and it's even probably bigger than what you expected it to be.
• 29:53
  Speaker 2: Yeah, if you stay consistent obviously that's cool.
• 30:02
  Speaker 1: Start like that.
• 30:02
  Speaker 1: Start small expectations.
• 30:03
  Speaker 1: Yeah, the expectation isn't to be like a Joe Rogan podcast, yeah, yeah, I mean.
• 30:06
  Speaker 1: Or to be in a Mr Olympia tomorrow which is under it.
• 30:13
  Speaker 1: Can't you know?
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: It's just did you do it or not?
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: Exactly that's cool.
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: Um, what would you say?
• 30:15
  Speaker 1: Okay, no, it's kind of a question you get from clients how I want to lose weight, how, yeah, what would you say?
• 30:17
  Speaker 1: Your answer is to that of like, um, the most influential ways for someone to drop there's really body fat percentage.
• 30:23
  Speaker 1: They want to look better naked right usually, or look better in a bathing suit.
• 30:26
  Speaker 1: Um, what's the?
• 30:27
  Speaker 1: Usually the from your understanding or things you work on, the most influential ways to get there?
• 30:33
  Speaker 2: Without a doubt, I dial in the hill every day.
• 30:35
  Speaker 2: It's nutrition.
• 30:35
  Speaker 2: I also got certified as a WAG nutrition coach about a year ago, but I've been with that company for like six years, I think.
• 30:47
  Speaker 2: Turned it around just aesthetically, pleasing.
• 30:49
  Speaker 2: You know the way I felt my mental capacity, my overall capacity, for you know, like changing or challenging anything or that to me was nutrition, and I think there's so many things that go back to nutrition.
• 30:59
  Speaker 2: You can dive deeper and get you know, real nerdy with science, but I think that's the one thing that your body has to respond to.
• 31:07
  Speaker 2: You know, it's fuel, like anything else, and it's what you put in your body.
• 31:11
  Speaker 2: When you put it in your body, how you sleep, how you recover, all those things.
• 31:14
  Speaker 2: So for me, nutrition is number one.
• 31:16
  Speaker 2: And I tell people they're like, oh, like I've been doing this workout for so long, but I'm like, well, what are you putting in your body?
• 31:20
  Speaker 2: Like, what did you eat today?
• 31:22
  Speaker 2: What did you eat yesterday?
• 31:23
  Speaker 2: Did you eat today?
• 31:36
  Speaker 2: Most of you don't know that, you know.
• 31:36
  Speaker 2: So I think to me, nutrition is number one.
• 31:37
  Speaker 2: Training is great, and I know that.
• 31:39
  Speaker 2: You know it's really one of those things where you can kind of get a handle on how strong you are or you know your output.
• 31:46
  Speaker 2: But I don't think that training is the end all be all.
• 31:48
  Speaker 2: I think nutrition is probably 80, if not more, percentage of the whole puzzle.
• 31:54
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I 100% agree with that.
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: For sure.
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: What things seem to work for you personally with nutrition.
• 32:00
  Speaker 2: I think accountability and tracking like knowing how much food I'm supposed to be eating based off of my size, my activity level, my aesthetic that I want to reach All those things go into it and I think that for me, it's been tracking, like tracking the right amount of food that I put in.
• 32:19
  Speaker 2: You know, even having a system where I want to, you know, get this much weight put on or I want to lose this much weight, if you don't track, you don't know, you can't guesstimate how much food, how much that protein you put into your body, the carbs that you put in, the number.
• 32:34
  Speaker 2: Weighing it, tracking it, logging it, all of it that's, for me, was what worked the best.
• 32:45
  Speaker 1: And it's made me consistent.
• 32:46
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, that's good.
• 32:46
  Speaker 1: What stuff do you find yourself eating the most, or like what things?
• 32:49
  Speaker 1: What types of food seems to resonate well with your body Any type of lean protein.
• 32:53
  Speaker 2: Lean protein, yeah, I'm an advocate for protein, but I am one of those people who don't love veggies, and it's weird.
• 32:59
  Speaker 2: I'm very healthy.
• 33:00
  Speaker 2: I consider myself a very healthy person.
• 33:02
  Speaker 2: I'm a texture person as well.
• 33:03
  Speaker 2: So you know, to this day, 32 years old, never have I eaten a salad.
• 33:07
  Speaker 2: Really, yeah, all my friends and family know I'm not a salad person but why it's the texture?
• 33:15
  Speaker 2: I don't like the texture.
• 33:16
  Speaker 2: Yeah, the crunch just bothers me, but I eat the other things.
• 33:18
  Speaker 2: It's crunchy, it's weird.
• 33:19
  Speaker 2: Um, that's okay.
• 33:20
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but I find my ways to get my greens in other ways.
• 33:23
  Speaker 2: Like, I will eat other vegetables, just probably not salads, I'll eat vegetables.
• 33:27
  Speaker 2: I take multivitamins.
• 33:28
  Speaker 2: Um, I try my best to stay as healthy as I can without putting too much supplementation into my body.
• 33:34
  Speaker 2: So I try to eat real food, whatever that looks like for me, real food.
• 33:37
  Speaker 2: So I eat a lot of lean protein, a lot of quality carbs and my healthy fats as well.
• 33:42
  Speaker 2: What quality carbs?
• 33:44
  Speaker 2: Grains, a lot of grains I say mainly just grain is what I eat for my carbs.
• 33:52
  Speaker 1: Yeah, Gotcha, how do you feel about quinoa?
• 33:56
  Speaker 2: I like it.
• 33:56
  Speaker 2: I think it has to be prepared properly.
• 33:59
  Speaker 2: I've had it other times and I didn't like it, but my sister made actually some really good quinoa back when we used to live near each other Cool, she put me onto it.
• 34:07
  Speaker 2: With what?
• 34:07
  Speaker 2: Because it's super dry.
• 34:09
  Speaker 2: Yeah, she had some type of like um oil base to it, but it had like garlic and season okay onion to it.
• 34:16
  Speaker 2: So it was actually really good, cool um.
• 34:18
  Speaker 1: But yeah, I think that was like my first introduction to it and I was like okay, this is another grain I like yeah, yeah, I can't, I mean it's just simple one and you can get a ton of it at costco and, just like you know, go to town but, um, and have leftovers I'm a leftover guy for efficient time, efficiency, you know.
• 34:32
  Speaker 1: But, um, I like avocado in it Really, yeah, cause it sticks to it, it like makes it like mushy, you know it's not dry Like you were saying.
• 34:39
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it makes it less dry, okay, but anyway, that's just an Avenue.
• 34:42
  Speaker 1: I found avocado and quinoa is one of my go-tos.
• 34:46
  Speaker 1: If we have quinoa, yeah, because otherwise it's dry.
• 34:49
  Speaker 1: Yeah, um, okay, and then what quality fats?
• 34:51
  Speaker 2: like good fats for me it's.
• 34:53
  Speaker 2: I do a lot of cooking in oil, um, and then extra virgin olive oil, just extra virgin olive oil, um, I do like, like you know, your peanut butters, your butters I use like mixtures.
• 35:03
  Speaker 2: A lot of my fats come from my base, of what I'm cooking in, got it um and then some of my meat.
• 35:07
  Speaker 2: So I'll do 93, 7, I'll do 90, 10 um on my red meat and then sometimes I'll do chicken thighs in there to get a little bit more fats in there.
• 35:15
  Speaker 2: So I try to make it towards like it's basically added in fat.
• 35:18
  Speaker 2: I don't try to just consume fat by itself, because you know my nutrition coach, if he's listening, he'll know that I was one of those fat chasers.
• 35:25
  Speaker 2: I'm like, oh, 80.15 for meat.
• 35:36
  Speaker 1: Because you grew up on that.
• 35:36
  Speaker 1: You think it's that's what you're supposed to be eating.
• 35:37
  Speaker 1: So that's good.
• 35:37
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's so good, it's so much easier to season, too, right.
• 35:38
  Speaker 2: But um, and also I'm a chicken thigh guy for sure it's just so juicy and tender you can.
• 35:40
  Speaker 2: You can marinate it better too, right so?
• 35:41
  Speaker 1: that we do is we put chicken thighs.
• 35:43
  Speaker 1: I'm all up.
• 35:44
  Speaker 1: Like I said, efficiency, time, efficiency.
• 35:45
  Speaker 1: For sure we'll go to costco and get like a ton and I'll just put it all in the pressure cooker oh nice, and just let it go, you know, and like literally, like what 10, 15 minutes is like ready to go versus crock pot, like the hours, yeah, um, but that's yeah.
• 35:57
  Speaker 1: Or grilling you know, I'm a grill guy, okay, but if we have time, you know two kiddos I do.
• 36:03
  Speaker 2: That is a lot longer.
• 36:04
  Speaker 2: You gotta be paying attention to that grill too.
• 36:05
  Speaker 2: Yeah right, exactly it's like it's intense.
• 36:07
  Speaker 1: You, you know you got to focus Definitely.
• 36:09
  Speaker 1: Okay, cool, I know, for peanuts, walnuts, pecans, almonds.
• 36:17
  Speaker 2: See, I have to limit myself because I go crazy for almonds, dark chocolate almonds.
• 36:23
  Speaker 1: Well, that's a different story.
• 36:24
  Speaker 1: I'm a fan of that.
• 36:25
  Speaker 1: I could destroy those.
• 36:27
  Speaker 1: That's awesome.
• 36:28
  Speaker 1: That's cool.
• 36:30
  Speaker 1: Supplements Okay, so you're involved with a supplement company, is that correct?
• 36:34
  Speaker 2: Yeah, serious, uh, serious performance.
• 36:37
  Speaker 2: Um, jeff Logan, a really good friend of mine, Um, he actually was a huge competitor in CrossFit but he started his own supplement company.
• 36:44
  Speaker 2: Um, and it really just one of those things where I wanted to buy into something that was, you know, unique.
• 36:49
  Speaker 2: It was an entrepreneur, small, and then, you know, he had a vision and we talked about the vision.
• 36:54
  Speaker 2: What's it called?
• 36:55
  Speaker 2: It's called Serious Performance.
• 36:56
  Speaker 2: Serious Performance, yeah, c-e-r-u-s.
• 36:59
  Speaker 2: Yeah, shout out to Jeff man, really good guy, and I saw his vision behind wanting to build something that was authentic, organic.
• 37:06
  Speaker 2: Lack of a better organic, but all natural supplements.
• 37:09
  Speaker 2: I lack of a better organic, but all natural supplements.
• 37:11
  Speaker 2: I'm not a huge supplement nerd.
• 37:11
  Speaker 2: I don't know a lot about it.
• 37:12
  Speaker 2: I just need to know what.
• 37:13
  Speaker 2: You know what, what goes into my body.
• 37:15
  Speaker 2: So my fiance, who's a resident, she does a lot of the education for me.
• 37:20
  Speaker 2: She's like all right, this is good, this is what this does, so it helps me learn a little bit too.
• 37:24
  Speaker 2: Yeah, perfect, you got to trust your spouse.
• 37:26
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 37:27
  Speaker 1: Well, a hundred percent, I'm fully trusting you with my body, right now.
• 37:31
  Speaker 2: So she does a good job of kind of helping me with that side of it.
• 37:34
  Speaker 2: So I learned a little bit more.
• 37:35
  Speaker 2: But for me it was like I'm a real food person.
• 37:42
  Speaker 2: I like to know what I'm putting in my body.
• 37:44
  Speaker 2: If I don't know, I don't even fool with it.
• 37:45
  Speaker 2: So the supplements that he does, they do have it's no protein, we just have, like you know, hydration.
• 37:49
  Speaker 2: You know creatine supplement where it's hydration, creatine um, we work a lot with, like you know, flow pro, which is like a cardiovascular booster.
• 37:57
  Speaker 2: He has, you know, some sleep products, some focus products, um, but for me it was just like having something that I can minimally take and non-stimulating.
• 38:05
  Speaker 2: I don't like to be under that.
• 38:06
  Speaker 2: You know wired.
• 38:07
  Speaker 2: You know stimulant, I love to be just my normal self for the extra boost and some hydration, I love to be hydrated.
• 38:14
  Speaker 2: So, especially living in Florida, you got to be hydrated, no question.
• 38:16
  Speaker 2: So for me that was, like you know, a buy-in um and just the vision he wanted to build and I love that he wanted to build, you know, organically and authentically.
• 38:26
  Speaker 2: So we you know myself, a couple of the members that he has co-ing, rob and Wendy really great people and you know me and Rob.
• 38:34
  Speaker 2: We partner on the training side.
• 38:35
  Speaker 2: We're starting to build templates out for people that are in the same boat as you know us.
• 38:38
  Speaker 2: We want to look good, we want to move better and we want to train optimally, Like.
• 38:42
  Speaker 2: We want to be in an environment where we can actually get better, and that's what we tackle with our training side.
• 38:52
  Speaker 1: And then you know, rob and wendy and jeff handle the, the supplement side.
• 38:55
  Speaker 1: Cool, yeah, that's awesome.
• 38:56
  Speaker 1: Um, what do you for anti-inflammatory stuff?
• 38:58
  Speaker 1: I've been, from what I've been researching and stuff, turmeric always seems to be high, and then also fish oil yeah, that's high in, like the, the compounds that actually do the anti-inflammatory.
• 39:08
  Speaker 1: Do you guys delve in that a little bit?
• 39:10
  Speaker 2: um, we haven't.
• 39:11
  Speaker 2: We haven't dove into any like turmeric or fish oil.
• 39:15
  Speaker 2: I think they have some extract to some of those different things.
• 39:17
  Speaker 2: I tried fish oil early.
• 39:20
  Speaker 2: Couldn't do it, I think the burping up of fish oil all day.
• 39:23
  Speaker 2: But I found the trick you put it in the refrigerator.
• 39:25
  Speaker 2: It does help.
• 39:26
  Speaker 2: Oh, really, I didn't know that.
• 39:27
  Speaker 1: So it kind of dilutes the feeling of burping up salmon all day there was when I've in college, I was taking it and it helped, like with my knee pain and back pain.
• 39:39
  Speaker 1: I was always getting after it.
• 39:41
  Speaker 1: I've heard good things about it.
• 39:42
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and definitely the fish burps then, but the past several years like a couple years I haven't Really that.
• 39:49
  Speaker 1: That's amazing.
• 39:49
  Speaker 1: Taking Nordic Naturals Shout out plug if they're on the list, but I haven't had an issue with that.
• 39:55
  Speaker 1: Oh, that's good man.
• 39:56
  Speaker 1: Yeah, because it can be uncomfortable and weird, you know, but I haven't had any issues with that recently, which is good For me.
• 40:06
  Speaker 1: Personally, I usually go on and off cycles of supplements.
• 40:15
  Speaker 2: If.
• 40:15
  Speaker 1: I'm like heavy training timing and then I'll take a drug holiday.
• 40:18
  Speaker 1: You know Creatine monohydrate for sure, Just whey protein isolate.
• 40:22
  Speaker 1: Just get as much protein as pot Like.
• 40:23
  Speaker 1: I'm always trying to get more protein Absolutely, and with it has like more BCAAs in it, branched amino acids and then beta alanine for performance again.
• 40:33
  Speaker 1: I feel like I respond really well to that stack of supplements.
• 40:37
  Speaker 2: Have you found yourself taking it more frequently, or do you try to do it when you are in lieu, like so?
• 40:42
  Speaker 2: If you say you're working, you have patients back to back and that's when you supplement or do you part of your routine.
• 40:47
  Speaker 2: We're just work out, okay.
• 40:49
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I think it's a good for me.
• 40:50
  Speaker 1: What I do is I write my own, my own little program, yeah, and then I'll get supplements, like, okay, I'm gonna get on a more dedicated, streamlined, super focused, like workout bout for several weeks, like usually 12 to 16 weeks, yeah, and I'll take supplements for a majority of that time.
• 41:08
  Speaker 1: Okay, supplements for a majority of that time, okay.
• 41:09
  Speaker 1: So it's like a, it's like an official here we go, there you go, we're on a program, we're all in, versus just like messing around and like I guess I'll work out right now before I go home.
• 41:15
  Speaker 1: You know, yeah, be more purposeful.
• 41:17
  Speaker 1: It's just a good set the stage for like we're getting after it for the next, like laser focus, just three, 12 weeks, you know, which is not that bad you know.
• 41:25
  Speaker 2: I think that's good.
• 41:25
  Speaker 2: Having you know making yourself a client.
• 41:28
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that's one of the important things.
• 41:30
  Speaker 2: Yeah, we'll put, not waiting to the end of the day like, oh, I'll try to tie something on.
• 41:34
  Speaker 2: Sometimes you have to right, like sometimes life gets away from you, but I think some of the best coaches lead from a place of service and putting themselves first in that capacity.
• 41:45
  Speaker 1: Right, right, yeah, yeah yeah, that's a good way to put it.
• 41:46
  Speaker 1: I make myself a client client, yeah, absolutely.
• 41:48
  Speaker 1: Like, what would I do?
• 41:49
  Speaker 1: Like I know the answer to this.
• 41:50
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, come on, sometimes that's the hardest conversation.
• 41:53
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, a guy that I listen to, harmozy Alex Harmozy.
• 41:58
  Speaker 1: You listen to his podcast.
• 41:59
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's an entrepreneurial podcast, but anyway he has a lot of mindset.
• 42:06
  Speaker 1: I really like his stuff he talks about and he talks about the Solomon paradox where Solomon, back in the Bible, biblical days, very wise person who would give great advice.
• 42:18
  Speaker 1: He's very sound, you know, respectable, but his own life was in shambles so he couldn't do so.
• 42:26
  Speaker 1: Anyway, some studies since then with psychology and stuff I guess, have conveyed like people are way better giving advice than they are applying it for their own life.
• 42:34
  Speaker 1: Oh, yeah, so they would like describe to people on relationship issues and not know that they're talking about themselves.
• 42:40
  Speaker 1: Be like, what would you do this?
• 42:41
  Speaker 1: This person's spouse is doing this and this.
• 42:43
  Speaker 1: What advice would you give this guy?
• 42:45
  Speaker 1: Well, I'll probably do this, this and this, and then they'll find out like you're actually talking about themselves, like this is my situation.
• 42:50
  Speaker 1: Have you been doing that?
• 42:52
  Speaker 1: Like I haven't.
• 42:52
  Speaker 1: You know, they haven't given themselves that advice.
• 42:54
  Speaker 1: So, anyway, he's like Solomon.
• 42:56
  Speaker 1: Paradox of like if you were a client, right.
• 43:00
  Speaker 1: And he describes how he like, writes it out on a word document and he types out hey Solomon, I'm back, I'm having difficulty with this, what do you think I should do?
• 43:07
  Speaker 1: And he writes it back in his own mind frame of like, you know, 85 year old self, I'll do this, this and this.
• 43:13
  Speaker 2: He's like well, what about this?
• 43:14
  Speaker 2: Does he do it two different times?
• 43:15
  Speaker 2: I think that would be really interesting to write the question one day and then answer that I don't know.
• 43:20
  Speaker 1: Good question, that would be really, really good.
• 43:21
  Speaker 1: Um, I think it's just a conversation, right, then it goes over in 15 minutes and the dwindling down.
• 43:27
  Speaker 1: You're like I know the answer to this.
• 43:28
  Speaker 1: You know I don't need to like go wait weeks to get an appointment or like be stifled and stagnant for I don't want to make decisions and stuff, but anyway, so for that, like I take my own advice on that stuff in general, with a lot of things, like I can do that, you know, for a lot of things, a lot of aspects in life, but anyway, so I try to do that.
• 43:48
  Speaker 1: I'm not super consistent by any means, but I'm like I can make myself a client, I can do this, that's cool, I'm going to try that exercise.
• 43:55
  Speaker 2: Yeah, try it, it's pretty interesting.
• 43:58
  Speaker 1: What would 70-year-old Dom, who's super wise, established, he's super calm, emotionally managed, well and wise, experienced.
• 44:09
  Speaker 1: What would he say to that?
• 44:10
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a good one, try that.
• 44:13
  Speaker 1: Try that at home, if you're thinking about that stuff, cool.
• 44:16
  Speaker 1: So I mean, you're a busy guy, you travel a lot, right, because you're working lululemon, yeah, um brand with branding and outreach and stuff, yeah, is that?
• 44:23
  Speaker 2: accurate.
• 44:24
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, so I'm I'm like of a better word, I'm a community man, so I do all things community, try to partner, you know, like um, elevate them, elevate our brand at the same time.
• 44:34
  Speaker 2: So it was like a win-win.
• 44:34
  Speaker 2: I love to to shine light on people who are doing amazing things, like you guys.
• 44:38
  Speaker 2: Um, which is linked up on some stuff.
• 44:40
  Speaker 2: Yeah Well, I got connected with Stephanie and this, you know, which led to this conversation and I'm excited about it.
• 44:45
  Speaker 2: So, like that's, my whole focus is to create a web of community with anybody and everybody who's in that same exact boat mindset with with lulu, cool, I kind of do the same thing with, uh.
• 44:55
  Speaker 2: Another company I work with is spacer mobility.
• 44:57
  Speaker 2: Um, we do a lot of stuff like that.
• 44:59
  Speaker 2: I do kind of a little bit with them, building, um, a little bit of, like you know, workshops, working on foot and ankle health, which is right up you guys's alley.
• 45:07
  Speaker 2: Yeah, so stuff like that I try to do, and then serious and my own brand, so I try to dabble a little bit of everything that's really cool.
• 45:13
  Speaker 1: What to connect with that too?
• 45:14
  Speaker 1: Because foot and ankle for runners, absolutely also just olympic athletes.
• 45:18
  Speaker 1: You know, active people, um, gotcha, um.
• 45:21
  Speaker 1: So you're a busy guy, you travel a lot, doing a lot of things.
• 45:23
  Speaker 1: How do you navigate your own schedule, like with prioritizing workouts, because very often I'm sure you hear like I can, can't work out, I'm too busy.
• 45:29
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so when no one's busy, we just prioritize.
• 45:32
  Speaker 1: You know, and prioritizing like Netflix or TV or Instagram, fail videos or something like that's my advice for sure, for sure.
• 45:40
  Speaker 1: Funny videos, um, no question, we got to unwind sometimes and disconnect, um, but anyway, how do you navigate that for yourself?
• 45:47
  Speaker 2: So, for me, like most people, it's, you know, a constant battle.
• 45:50
  Speaker 2: But one thing I always go back to is those two things.
• 45:54
  Speaker 2: I'm a priority, no matter what, like I'm my first priority, because in order for me to serve those around me in the service, to be of service, I have to be full.
• 46:03
  Speaker 2: Yeah, whether that full is 80%, 90%, 60, whatever, I have to start with myself first and then from there I tear down and also don't do internegotiation, so I do not negotiate with myself Interesting Well whatsoever, and this is something that I started doing about two and a half years ago.
• 46:19
  Speaker 1: I need to reflect.
• 46:19
  Speaker 1: I, I, I, I negotiate with myself a lot.
• 46:23
  Speaker 1: I don't, I don't do it.
• 46:24
  Speaker 1: Can I sleep in a little bit more?
• 46:26
  Speaker 1: Do I really want to?
• 46:27
  Speaker 1: Yeah, but let's think about this.
• 46:29
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but within that I do.
• 46:30
  Speaker 2: I do listen to my body, um, but I don't negotiate.
• 46:33
  Speaker 2: So if I'm like, all right, tomorrow I'm working out, you know, I'm a, I'm a five, 35, 45 AM or workout person every day, pretty much Okay, um.
• 46:42
  Speaker 2: So for me it's like if I say that I'm doing it the night before, no, no negotiation.
• 46:47
  Speaker 2: I pop up, alarm goes off, I'm out, like those thoughts no, dwindling.
• 46:51
  Speaker 2: I do a feedback body test where you wake up, you kind of feel, you know, am I feeling okay?
• 46:55
  Speaker 2: Okay, I'm good, we're going, even if I don't want to, even if I'm like battling, I don't negotiate Because for me, I think that's where the discipline and the consistency lie.
• 47:04
  Speaker 2: Oh, 100% Conversation.
• 47:05
  Speaker 2: The three seconds when you wake up, you know if I'm going to eat, I'm going to log, I don't.
• 47:09
  Speaker 2: I don't negotiate.
• 47:10
  Speaker 2: So that has helped me and that's like, again, it's a, it's a self-check thing that everybody's built that way.
• 47:16
  Speaker 2: You may have some people who do negotiate, so for me it's I make myself a priority.
• 47:20
  Speaker 2: Once priority is set, I don't negotiate with said priority.
• 47:24
  Speaker 2: Those are my two things that let me be able to do the things that I, I, you know have to do lack of a better word, or I enjoy doing yeah.
• 47:31
  Speaker 2: So freedom through discipline, oh, 100%.
• 47:34
  Speaker 1: Jocko yeah, yeah, yeah, for sure.
• 47:35
  Speaker 1: Um, where did you, did you learn that I don't negotiate myself with?
• 47:39
  Speaker 2: Actually, uh, I do.
• 47:40
  Speaker 2: I didn't clean a lot.
• 47:41
  Speaker 2: I learned that from my one of my my considered goat is Kobe Bryant.
• 47:44
  Speaker 2: He talked about that, um, and I heard him say this in a snippet on Instagram.
• 47:48
  Speaker 2: And then I dove deeper.
• 47:49
  Speaker 2: I was like, okay, what do I negotiate with?
• 47:51
  Speaker 2: What do I constantly go back and forth with?
• 47:54
  Speaker 2: And then look at my life and the relationships and the priorities that I have set Are they negotiable?
• 47:59
  Speaker 2: Like are those things that I negotiate on?
• 48:01
  Speaker 2: If they're lacking, it's probably because I allow negotiation to come in, I allow the inner voice to win, and for me, that was like a no-brainer, so I adopted that.
• 48:15
  Speaker 2: And then the priorities I listed was many, many years ago, whenever I found myself training several people all day and my health started declining.
• 48:19
  Speaker 2: I started, you know, being out of shape or not being able to perform the way I want to, look the way I wanted to, and I was like, well, easy, I come first, then everybody else is next, which is good, because then it allows me to service people much, much better, and I consider myself a man of service.
• 48:35
  Speaker 1: So in order to do that, I have to serve myself first yeah, for sure, I think for all the moms and dads out there, because this makes sense.
• 48:43
  Speaker 1: Totally agree with all that stuff.
• 48:44
  Speaker 1: I had to fill my cup, to fill my kids' cups and my wife's cup.
• 48:50
  Speaker 1: If I go in depleted, I'm not, as I can't serve as well.
• 48:54
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you know what I mean, I agree.
• 48:55
  Speaker 1: So it might look self-serving and selfish in the front end but really it's born out of like I can't do my job as a dad and be engaging and fun and understanding and slow to anger.
• 49:08
  Speaker 1: You know exactly.
• 49:09
  Speaker 1: Unless my cup is my willpower cup, you know, which comes from a lot of facets.
• 49:13
  Speaker 1: I think I mean exercise one of them for sure.
• 49:17
  Speaker 1: Sleep, where else, would you say?
• 49:19
  Speaker 2: I say exercise, sleep, nutrition, and I'm also a very spiritual person.
• 49:23
  Speaker 2: So I think, whatever your spirit being is, whatever that is in the sense of like, whatever fills you up outside of the.
• 49:27
  Speaker 2: You know the physical things.
• 49:29
  Speaker 2: I think you know whether that's love, religion, whatever it is that also has to be a cup that you have to pour into, because there's more things in life than sets and reps, there's more things in life than money and fame.
• 49:41
  Speaker 2: I think your spiritual being has to be also taken care of.
• 49:44
  Speaker 2: So for me that's probably up there as number one, and then from there it goes down.
• 49:49
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, for sure, probably up there as number one and then from there it goes down.
• 49:51
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, for sure, that's, that's good.
• 49:53
  Speaker 1: I like that.
• 49:53
  Speaker 1: Um, exercise and spiritual, that's cool, I think.
• 49:59
  Speaker 1: And I feel like, um, unfortunately going along with like the some of the victimhood type of mindsets that I've.
• 50:08
  Speaker 1: I've noticed some other humans fall into outside, like not personally, but just outside, you know, and just hearing stories and stuff like that, um, it's like, man, I can, you can control, I can control my own life, yeah, right, um.
• 50:26
  Speaker 1: And blaming other situations for, like why I can't work out you know what I mean or why I can't eat good, you know I can't eat good.
• 50:30
  Speaker 1: That's for fit people, yeah, you know.
• 50:32
  Speaker 1: It's like, just pretend like you're fit then and just do it.
• 50:34
  Speaker 1: Yeah, pretend I like that.
• 50:36
  Speaker 1: And if you just like grow those habitual changes over time, you'll just morph into that.
• 50:40
  Speaker 1: Take it a step further.
• 50:42
  Speaker 1: Hang out with really fit people, yeah.
• 50:44
  Speaker 1: Or if you're like I, more emotionally managed, right, because that's challenging, right, navigating a lot of things and responsibilities, it's like what does that look like then?
• 50:53
  Speaker 1: If you were to be, what would a person who has a great emotional management do consistently?
• 50:57
  Speaker 1: Just pretend and just do that and you'll morph into that over time.
• 51:02
  Speaker 1: Right, and it takes it further.
• 51:04
  Speaker 1: Hang out with people who are like that.
• 51:05
  Speaker 1: Take it a step further and more.
• 51:07
  Speaker 1: Write it down.
• 51:09
  Speaker 1: Right, you were saying log and track some stuff and maybe have a coach, you know, or a therapist or something like that.
• 51:14
  Speaker 1: Some insight, right, some insights, that's that's really interesting.
• 51:17
  Speaker 1: So for you, your will, your cup, sleep, nutrition, exercise, spiritual focuses yeah, what?
• 51:26
  Speaker 1: Anything else?
• 51:27
  Speaker 2: Relationships, relationships, yeah, I pour a lot into, I'm fascinated by all relationships, whether that's friendships, you know, intimate relationships, family, all that does or probably, you know, outside of my you know my favorite things.
• 51:39
  Speaker 2: Relationships are probably up there because I think there's so much to be said about each relationship that you have and so much to be said about who you are and how you show up for those relationships.
• 51:48
  Speaker 2: So that's another thing that I really pour into.
• 51:50
  Speaker 2: Even my own relationship with my fiance.
• 51:52
  Speaker 2: We do a lot of work in our relationship.
• 51:55
  Speaker 2: We do a lot of talks, we do a lot of, like you know, priority checklists.
• 51:59
  Speaker 2: We do a lot of tracking, where we're at, where we want to go, where we've been.
• 52:02
  Speaker 2: I think those things allow us to show up every day.
• 52:05
  Speaker 2: Someday she may be on 40.
• 52:07
  Speaker 2: I'll take your 60.
• 52:09
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and I think that's something that's allowed me to do all the other things that I do, because you know that base is there and that's where I built from, for sure.
• 52:16
  Speaker 1: That's a great point.
• 52:17
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I heard that I need to get better at that.
• 52:21
  Speaker 1: We need to get better always.
• 52:21
  Speaker 1: You know, there's always something better.
• 52:23
  Speaker 1: I'll do.
• 52:23
  Speaker 1: Yeah, a relationship person.
• 52:27
  Speaker 1: This was an Instagram video.
• 52:28
  Speaker 1: I think there was some good content on there.
• 52:30
  Speaker 2: It's just as good as it is bad.
• 52:31
  Speaker 1: It is bad, right, it's just picking and choosing who you hang out with.
• 52:34
  Speaker 1: But anyway, this lady was talking about relationships.
• 52:38
  Speaker 1: She's like you know, marriages are 50-50.
• 52:40
  Speaker 1: She's like no, it's not.
• 52:41
  Speaker 1: No, never is Never.
• 52:42
  Speaker 1: Yeah, just checking in and be like yeah, exactly.
• 52:48
  Speaker 1: Well, I have to you have to right, like what are you going to do otherwise?
• 52:51
  Speaker 1: Um, and a friend of mine not a pro on this stuff by any means the best quote that I heard.
• 52:58
  Speaker 1: I really liked it.
• 52:58
  Speaker 1: I was like that makes sense.
• 52:59
  Speaker 1: I really.
• 53:00
  Speaker 1: I like this.
• 53:00
  Speaker 1: A lot of resonates.
• 53:02
  Speaker 1: Uh, relationship wise is like, for a marriage at least, is like two servants at heart, two servants being at heart, like you're going to always be out serving somebody without expecting like, well, now my turn.
• 53:14
  Speaker 1: You know, it's like I didn't do it for that, exactly Like if we were both in the same page.
• 53:18
  Speaker 1: With that dude, it's going to be a, it's going to be way better, absolutely.
• 53:20
  Speaker 1: So, going into a day where it's like I'm sorry, like I'm a three, you know, it's like okay, you know, let me step up, let me take it on, not expecting anything in return.
• 53:33
  Speaker 1: And then, but the other person who is a three, being like I want to be the eight next time it makes them show up, I want to be that for you next.
• 53:40
  Speaker 1: Anyway, it's coming from that, which is hard, you know always.
• 53:42
  Speaker 1: But, uh, that's, that's really cool, yeah, so, anyway, that's interesting.
• 53:46
  Speaker 1: You brought that up, where'd you hear that from?
• 53:47
  Speaker 1: With like six and four 60-40?
• 53:50
  Speaker 2: I think it was.
• 53:50
  Speaker 2: Also, I do a lot with Jay Shetty.
• 53:53
  Speaker 2: He does a lot on relationships.
• 53:54
  Speaker 2: He dropped his book Eight Rules of Love and he talked a lot about that, like showing up for your person, being of service, trying to out-serve the other person.
• 54:02
  Speaker 2: I think it's a win-win regardless.
• 54:04
  Speaker 2: But he talked a lot about that too.
• 54:05
  Speaker 2: I think I heard it on Instagram.
• 54:06
  Speaker 2: Instagram about you know, I may not be at 50 every time.
• 54:10
  Speaker 2: You know, you got my other 60, 40, whatever it is.
• 54:13
  Speaker 2: Are you showing up?
• 54:14
  Speaker 2: And I think your partner, too, had to be on the same page.
• 54:16
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and we did an exercise where we sat down and we listed separately our priorities three, a top three.
• 54:23
  Speaker 2: You know hers three, my three.
• 54:25
  Speaker 2: They don't have to align, I have to just value her top three.
• 54:27
  Speaker 2: Yeah, she has to value mine.
• 54:29
  Speaker 2: I think you have to have that in every friendships that you have.
• 54:32
  Speaker 2: You know, if me and you hit it off, I'd be like Kyle, where's your priorities?
• 54:35
  Speaker 2: And then say you know, yours is your practice and mine's is, hey, I want to go, I want to hang out.
• 54:40
  Speaker 2: You have to value each other's priorities.
• 54:42
  Speaker 2: I think that makes the relationship better.
• 54:45
  Speaker 1: So that's where I really picked it up from that makes total sense and reflecting back or just noticing other things and other relationships that I've had or other people in relationships not being judgmental by any means, but at least objectively looking at things Like it seems like you're not taking what they value seriously Exactly.
• 55:03
  Speaker 1: Can you appreciate the reality here?
• 55:04
  Speaker 1: You know like this is really important to them.
• 55:07
  Speaker 1: It's like, well, it shouldn't be, you know.
• 55:08
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 55:10
  Speaker 1: It's like you're thinking about yourself perspective.
• 55:11
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you're totally selfish, right, you know, yeah, perspective, but it's yeah, perspective, um, that's really, yeah, I like that, it's really interesting.
• 55:17
  Speaker 1: We'll have to go over that exercise, I like that definitely and reflect on myself, you know, um, and then am I taking that seriously for my spouse, you know, or my kids, my friends, like, whatever, um, that's really cool, I think what.
• 55:27
  Speaker 1: Anyway, linking that back, that will will all help encapsulate what fills up someone's cup and enhance your own relationships, which is going to fill cups more usually if you're introverted or extroverted, regardless, for your most meaningful relationships that's going to allow you to be a better person.
• 55:46
  Speaker 1: A version of yourself that you want to be better person, right?
• 55:50
  Speaker 1: A version of yourself that you want to be better, right?
• 55:52
  Speaker 1: Um, and maybe even more energy and and um ability to.
• 55:53
  Speaker 1: If it's fitness and exercise, focusing on nutrition, right?
• 55:56
  Speaker 1: All that stuff, um, that's really interesting.
• 55:59
  Speaker 1: What last thing?
• 56:00
  Speaker 1: What's one other mindset podcast, um that you feel it really sticks out?
• 56:06
  Speaker 2: That's a good one.
• 56:07
  Speaker 2: Um, I love Jay Shetty's podcast.
• 56:10
  Speaker 2: He's, you know he's to me he's a lot one.
• 56:11
  Speaker 2: Um, I love jay shetty's podcast.
• 56:12
  Speaker 2: He's, you know, he's to me.
• 56:12
  Speaker 2: He's a lot of what I inspire to achieve in the sense of like um like relationships that I have in my life, or statuses in the sense of, you know, wisdom or um fulfillment, um his own purpose, and I love this, even the name itself.
• 56:29
  Speaker 2: You know doing everything you do on purpose, with intention.
• 56:31
  Speaker 2: So really, not only his podcast but the guests he brings on.
• 56:35
  Speaker 2: He brings guests on from all different walks of life, professions, specialties, so he's been my favorite that I really dove into.
• 56:43
  Speaker 1: What about one that you've done?
• 56:45
  Speaker 2: Oh, my podcast One of your own episodes, my podcast?
• 56:48
  Speaker 2: I think that's a good question.
• 56:50
  Speaker 2: I did one.
• 56:53
  Speaker 2: I'm trying to think I do one every week, so it's hard to remember.
• 56:55
  Speaker 2: Um, I did one, I think, a couple of weeks ago.
• 56:57
  Speaker 2: I talked about intention versus attention and it's like when you do things, whether you're doing it for attention or you're doing them with intention, and I talked a little bit about you know the breakdown of, you know how you go.
• 57:09
  Speaker 2: You know, even doing this podcast today, am I doing it to get attention, to get clicks, to get you know I'm doing it with intention.
• 57:15
  Speaker 2: So every answer that I've I'm answering with is intentional, it's not to sound good, it's from the heart, which is, I think, how you should do everything that you approach, Cause you can walk away from it knowing that you didn't leave anything except for an impression, a good impression, hopefully.
• 57:29
  Speaker 2: So I think that was probably the one that stuck out to me the most.
• 57:32
  Speaker 2: You know I'd have to come back through the archives and see what I've done.
• 57:34
  Speaker 1: Yeah, because you've done a lot.
• 57:35
  Speaker 1: Yeah, they're short too.
• 57:37
  Speaker 1: I like that, though.
• 57:38
  Speaker 1: Yeah, like, under what reason are we doing this in the first place?
• 57:42
  Speaker 2: And I think you know, even my father told me we had a conversation yesterday and he talked about you know, when you, when you're when your heart's in something, you often don't realize what you're doing.
• 57:54
  Speaker 2: You don't, we don't look at the logistics, you don't look at the numbers, or he's like when you're doing your hearts in it, you just feel it, you flow in a state of a flow state.
• 58:02
  Speaker 2: He was like that's what you should try to approach, everything that you love with Um, and we were talking to talk about like me and my fiance's wedding coming up, and we were just talking about planning and he was like just make sure your heart's in it.
• 58:13
  Speaker 2: So to me I was like, yeah, you're right, that's intentional, that's what I try to do.
• 58:17
  Speaker 2: I love that.
• 58:17
  Speaker 2: Stay intentional with everything that's really cool.
• 58:19
  Speaker 1: It was great, awesome man.
• 58:22
  Speaker 1: Well, thanks for coming in.
• 58:23
  Speaker 1: Oh, thank you, we'll have to have you on again.
• 58:25
  Speaker 1: I mean, we could talk all day about this stuff.
• 58:28
  Speaker 2: I appreciate your time, man.
• 58:29
  Speaker 2: I appreciate what you guys are doing here and the collective efforts that you guys are doing here.
• 58:33
  Speaker 2: Thank you, Awesome man, I'm grateful.
• 58:37
  Speaker 1: What's the best way for people to reach out to you if they have questions or want to work with you as a client?
• 58:40
  Speaker 1: Yeah, Really.
• 58:41
  Speaker 2: You can reach me direct message on Instagram.
• 58:44
  Speaker 2: My username is BrickBeltStrength.
• 58:47
  Speaker 2: Email is BrickBeltS.
• 58:52
  Speaker 2: Username is brickbeltstrength.
• 58:53
  Speaker 2: Email is brickbeltstrength at gmail.
• 58:54
  Speaker 2: Those are the two best ways communication wise.
• 58:55
  Speaker 2: I always answer.
• 58:55
  Speaker 2: I'll always write back, you know.
• 58:56
  Speaker 2: So please, by all means, give me a shout out, we'll chat awesome.
• 58:59
  Speaker 1: Thanks, man.
• 58:59
  Speaker 1: Thanks for coming in, and if y'all have any questions for us, we're always open to suggestions, comments, conflicting opinions, um, any other topics and stuff.
• 59:06
  Speaker 1: Um, or as a patient, if you have pain, you can always reach out to us emails, uh, the probably the best at team at athlete, rccom, or just our phone number at 5, 6, 1, 8, 9, 9, 87, 25.
• 59:17
  Speaker 1: Um and uh, we'll catch y'all next time.