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SCBOOKGAL & FRIENDS CHAT PODCAST EVERY TUESDAYS 8PM EST HOSTED BY PATRICE GRIMBALL_SC BOOKGAL & FRIENDS · DA CREW Podcast

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  Speaker 1: Welcome to the SC Book Gal and Friends Chat. We're
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  Speaker 1: going to be talking about the latest in book reviews,
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  Speaker 1: author interviews, and life. Come on in and join us.
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  Speaker 1: We're ready. Are you? Hey, everyone. This is your girl,
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  Speaker 1: SC Book Gal 843, and it is another Tuesday night. So,
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  Speaker 1: you know, I always have to ask you guys. I
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  Speaker 1: always have. Oh, my camera's falling. I'm sorry, you guys.
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  Speaker 1: I always have to ask you guys, how are you?
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  Speaker 1: That's good. For me, you guys, I am on a
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  Speaker 1: complete high tonight. It's just my baby girl is about
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  Speaker 1: to have her signing day and she's going to commit
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  Speaker 1: to her new school. I can't tell you guys yet,
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  Speaker 1: but pay attention to my Facebook page and you'll find
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  Speaker 1: out what school she's going to be going to Somebody
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  Speaker 1: who's very special to me has a birthday today. So
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  Speaker 1: happy birthday, LaKendrick. And then on top of that, next week,
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  Speaker 1: Wednesday at this time, my baby, oh no, next week, Wednesday,
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  Speaker 1: my baby girl will be graduating from the fifth grade.
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  Speaker 1: Summer readings is getting started. The only bad things that
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  Speaker 1: are going on right now is these swarmers, okay? So
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  Speaker 1: y'all know what I'm talking about if you live in Charleston.
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  Speaker 1: They're here about a week and they'll be gone. But
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  Speaker 1: I have a new author. So y'all know it's Tuesday.
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  Speaker 1: So a new author and a new book. So it
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  Speaker 1: is nothing like being a daddy's girl. And I am
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  Speaker 1: one that can say I am a daddy's girl. I
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  Speaker 1: remember being four, five, six years And down here in Charleston,
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  Speaker 1: we used to have the black baseball teams, okay? So
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  Speaker 1: every Saturday and every Sunday, we would go to the park, right?
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  Speaker 1: And all the guys, all the fathers would have their
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  Speaker 1: kids on the stands, sitting down, and they would be
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  Speaker 1: playing with their teams. I love this. I remember my
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  Speaker 1: dad coming to pick me up on Saturday afternoons, walking
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  Speaker 1: down to the park, and I had me a pickle.
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  Speaker 1: I had me A chili beer and a hot dog.
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  Speaker 1: And I was good. My dad was out there pitching
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  Speaker 1: or hitting. He would look back at me, give me
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  Speaker 1: a wink. And I was good to go. But this
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  Speaker 1: book and this author is going to explain how searching
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  Speaker 1: for a father's love is a journey from brokenness, healing,
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  Speaker 1: and grace. So you guys, I would love to bring
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  Speaker 1: up author Michelle Briggs. Come on up, girly.
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  Speaker 2: Come on up.
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  Speaker 1: Hey.
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  Speaker 2: Hey, Patrice.
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  Speaker 1: How are you? I am good, Mama. How are you?
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  Speaker 1: I am well.
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  Speaker 2: I'm so happy to be here. Me too.
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  Speaker 1: I am excited. I am excited. Now, I know about you,
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  Speaker 1: but how about you tell the audience about Miss Michelle Briggs?
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  Speaker 1: All right, everybody.
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  Speaker 2: My name is Michelle Briggs, as you can see. I
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  Speaker 2: am an author.
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  Speaker 1: I am a new author. I currently live in Texas.
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  Speaker 1: I have lived around in many different places. I was
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  Speaker 1: born and raised in Chicago. And I have lived in
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  Speaker 1: other states, many other states. And life brought me to Texas.
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  Speaker 1: So my journey to Texas was a little different because
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  Speaker 1: I went through a divorce after a 20-year marriage. And
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  Speaker 1: I decided that I wanted to do something different with
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  Speaker 1: my life. My youngest child had turned 18. She went
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  Speaker 1: off to college in Virginia. I came back home and said, OK, Michelle,
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  Speaker 1: what do you.
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  Speaker 2: Want to do?
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  Speaker 1: Because I have been a mother and I have been
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  Speaker 1: a wife and I've never been me. And so at
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  Speaker 1: that time, I didn't know how to make that decision.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't even know how to even start. So I
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  Speaker 1: went online one night and I said, let me look
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  Speaker 1: up the top 10 cheapest cities to live in the U.S.
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  Speaker 1: And Temple, Texas was one of them. So I came
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  Speaker 1: to Temple, Texas in September, Labor Day weekend, 2015, checked
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  Speaker 1: it out. Oh, they had a Walmart, right? They had
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  Speaker 1: a Sam's Club, small town, but they had just the
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  Speaker 1: necessities that I needed. So I said, okay, I think
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  Speaker 1: I can live there. Went back home and started applying
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  Speaker 1: for jobs and the doors began to open. I received
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  Speaker 1: the job, came back for the interview. And then the
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  Speaker 1: time I was like, okay, I'm sort of iffy. I
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  Speaker 1: don't know if this is something I really want to
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  Speaker 1: do because I've never been on my own. I've been married.
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  Speaker 1: You know, I met my husband. I met him at
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  Speaker 1: the age of 17 and we were divorced at age 41.
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  Speaker 1: So I didn't know anything else. I didn't know anyone else.
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  Speaker 1: And on top of that, he was a pastor. So
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  Speaker 1: I was a pastor's wife at the time. So it
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  Speaker 1: was a journey. It was a real good and slash challenging.
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  Speaker 1: I don't want to say difficult. It was a challenging journey.
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  Speaker 1: And so in the meantime, I packed up what I
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  Speaker 1: could fit. I got the job, got a place to live.
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  Speaker 1: I packed up what I could fit in my Equinox
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  Speaker 1: and I drove to Texas. And I've been living in
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  Speaker 1: Texas for 10 years. And so just this past year
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  Speaker 1: or so, I've been feeling a nudge that it's time
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  Speaker 1: for me to tell my story. And I learned that
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  Speaker 1: you can't really tell your story really like you need
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  Speaker 1: to until you become in a place of healing. Because
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  Speaker 1: a lot of times triggers, you know, sometimes we have
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  Speaker 1: scars there. And sometimes if you touch, it's tender underneath
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  Speaker 1: the skin or you have a scar there and you
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  Speaker 1: look at it and it brings back the memories. But
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  Speaker 1: I've learned that when you come to a place of healing,
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  Speaker 1: Those scars are the battle scars. They're there to show
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  Speaker 1: that you came through the battle, but you survived it.
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  Speaker 1: And so in my book, I talk a lot about
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  Speaker 1: my survival mode, but I also try to go to
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  Speaker 1: that thriving mode. Because life is just not meant for
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  Speaker 1: us just to survive. Life is meant for us to thrive.
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  Speaker 1: Because I'm a spiritual person, so I'm going to talk spiritual.
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  Speaker 1: So the Bible tells us in John 10, he says,
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  Speaker 1: God says, the thief coming out to steal, kill, and destroy.
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  Speaker 1: He said, but I come that you might have life
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  Speaker 1: and have it more abundantly. So in that, Patrice, it's
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  Speaker 1: like people think we have to die and go to
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  Speaker 1: heaven to have that abundant life. But God was talking
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  Speaker 1: about he wanted us to have abundant life right here
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  Speaker 1: on earth. Right? And sometimes people think, oh, I'm suffering
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  Speaker 1: in my marriage and I'm going through this and I'm
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  Speaker 1: going through that. But God intended for us to have
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  Speaker 1: abundant life.
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  Speaker 2: And it's up to us.
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  Speaker 1: It's up to us to obtain that abundant life. A
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  Speaker 1: lot of people don't see it like that. I mean, OK, so, OK,
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  Speaker 1: y'all know everybody out there that I was born and
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  Speaker 1: raised in church. There's this one song I just never could. Well, actually, too.
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  Speaker 1: Shake the Devil Off. I truly never did understand that song.
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  Speaker 1: But then, this is the one that really used to
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  Speaker 1: get me. Y'all know BET, Late at Night. I'm coming
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  Speaker 1: up on the rough side of the mountain. I was like, why?
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  Speaker 1: I understand there's going to be trials and tribulations, but
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  Speaker 1: why do we have to choose to go up the
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  Speaker 1: rough side of the mountain? We don't have to climb
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  Speaker 1: the mountain at all. He told us to speak to
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  Speaker 1: the mountain. Just speak to it. You don't even have
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  Speaker 1: to climb the mountain. And tell the mountain to be
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  Speaker 1: thou removed and be cast into the midst of the
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  Speaker 1: sea and shall not doubt in your heart but believe
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  Speaker 1: that whatever thing you desire when you pray, you receive
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  Speaker 1: them and you.
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  Speaker 2: Shall have them. So why are you climbing when all
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  Speaker 2: you got to do is speak?
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  Speaker 1: Waste your energy. See, you got me because I can
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  Speaker 1: see them right now on TV. Wasted energy. That's all
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  Speaker 1: used to get on my nerve. I just never understood, like,
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  Speaker 1: why are we going up? Why are you choosing to
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  Speaker 1: go up the rough side of the mountain? Yes, there's
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  Speaker 1: going to be trial and tribulation, but how I tell
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  Speaker 1: friends of mine, If you're always in a trial and
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  Speaker 1: tribulation and you never have a time of peace, then
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  Speaker 1: you might need to evaluate yourself. Yeah, you have problems. Yeah. So,
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  Speaker 1: we understand that you wrote this book to tell your story. Right.
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  Speaker 1: What part of your story were you wanting to tell?
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  Speaker 1: What are you wanting your readers to take away from
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  Speaker 1: their book? I wanted my readers to take away a
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  Speaker 1: place of healing, that they're not alone and that God
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  Speaker 1: is a God of restoration. To know that you can
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  Speaker 1: be restored. You can find that place of peace, that
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  Speaker 1: you can find that place of happiness and joy. And
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  Speaker 1: so I really want my readers to know that, hey,
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  Speaker 1: you might have gone through some things like we all
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  Speaker 1: have a story, right? Your story is not mine. My
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  Speaker 1: story is not the next person. However, in the midst
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  Speaker 1: of our stories, I want people to know that there
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  Speaker 1: is in your brokenness, there is a wholeness and a
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  Speaker 1: wellness that God wants to give us.
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  Speaker 2: And that's what I was talking about with that abundant life.
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  Speaker 1: And, you know, and I wanted to share this with
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  Speaker 1: you because, you know, sometimes we feel like, um, but
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  Speaker 1: like nobody else is going through this, but me, right?
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  Speaker 1: Nobody else. I'm the only one that going through this.
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  Speaker 1: And so many, many years ago, Patrice, my godmother, mother, mama, Lisa,
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  Speaker 1: if you're listening, hey, my godmother told me you got
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  Speaker 1: somebody's deliverance inside of You need to tell your story.
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  Speaker 1: Somebody's waiting to hear your story. This was many, many
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  Speaker 1: years ago, many, many years ago. And so she told
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  Speaker 1: me that and I sat on it for so long.
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  Speaker 1: You know why I sat on it? Because I wasn't healed.
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  Speaker 1: And so I didn't feel like I should tell this story.
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  Speaker 1: because I'm still.
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  Speaker 2: Going through the process, right?
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  Speaker 1: And sometimes our.
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  Speaker 2: Victory is in the process.
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  Speaker 1: Our victory is while we're going through that struggle or
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  Speaker 1: whatever we're going through.
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  Speaker 2: So sometimes we have to go ahead and tell the story.
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  Speaker 1: So in little groups or little side piece of one-on-one,
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  Speaker 1: I would tell my story to different individuals that I
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  Speaker 1: felt led to. However, I felt like I have a
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  Speaker 1: bigger platform now. I feel like it's time for me
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  Speaker 1: to share my story And because, you know, you heard
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  Speaker 1: the saying, you see the glory, but you don't know
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  Speaker 1: the story. So I want them to see my glory,
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  Speaker 1: but I do want them to know the story. OK,
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  Speaker 1: so that's what I want. I want to share that
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  Speaker 1: story so they can see where I am now. A
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  Speaker 1: lot of people ask me, how did you do it?
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  Speaker 2: How did you move with just what you fit in
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  Speaker 2: your car?
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  Speaker 1: If you look at my house right now, you couldn't
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  Speaker 1: tell that I moved in here, what I fit in
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  Speaker 1: the equinox, because God has restored me with so much
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  Speaker 1: abundance that I don't have. I don't have nothing to
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  Speaker 1: worry about. I got more than enough. So I just
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  Speaker 1: realized that knowing that you see the glory of But
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  Speaker 1: I want to be able to tell the story. So
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  Speaker 1: I just know that this, I'm thankful for your platform,
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  Speaker 1: being able to be here on SC Book Gals. I'm
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  Speaker 1: so thankful for the platform. But I also know that
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  Speaker 1: my platform is going to get bigger. And I want
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  Speaker 1: to take it to a stage. I want my book
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  Speaker 1: to be my leverage. A lot of times people write
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  Speaker 1: a whole lot of books out there. Nobody's opened it.
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  Speaker 1: And so I have a mentor who told me, Michelle,
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  Speaker 1: look at your Amazon cart. And I was like, okay,
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  Speaker 1: how many things you got in the Amazon cart you
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  Speaker 1: done put on your wish list? You got it sitting
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  Speaker 1: there and you haven't bought it yet. And how long
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  Speaker 1: has it been there? Ooh. Right? And so she said,
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  Speaker 1: your book is probably sitting inside somebody's Amazon cart. And
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  Speaker 1: they just have not purchased it yet. So I want
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  Speaker 1: to take it to a further. I want to do
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  Speaker 1: just not the books. I want to have healing lunches, lunches.
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  Speaker 1: I want to be able to have retreats. I want
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  Speaker 1: this to go global. I really want this to be
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  Speaker 1: able to share. I want to share my story on stages.
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  Speaker 1: As I told you before we even started, I love
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  Speaker 1: to talk. Can't you tell? Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I love to talk.
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  Speaker 1: So I just, I love to share. I want to
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  Speaker 1: share it because I want to see, I don't want
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  Speaker 1: to go on this trip and this journey by myself,
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  Speaker 1: this journey of the brokenness and the healing and the grace.
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  Speaker 1: I want to be able to share this healing grace
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  Speaker 1: of what God did for me and what he, because
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  Speaker 1: there's no secret what he can do. What he's done
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  Speaker 1: for others, he'll do for others. So what he's done
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  Speaker 1: for me, he'll do for other people. So I just
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  Speaker 1: want to be able to share my story with them.
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  Speaker 1: And we're going to bring, up your book. In the synopsis,
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  Speaker 1: it says, through a blend of memoir and reflective storytelling,
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  Speaker 1: Michelle Briggs shares the journey of a daughter shaped by abandonment,
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  Speaker 1: broken relationships, and deep emotional wounds. When her parents reconnected
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  Speaker 1: after years of separation, she dares to hope that healing
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  Speaker 1: will finally arrive. But even as an adult, she discovers
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  Speaker 1: that a longing to be known by her father and
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  Speaker 1: still remains you guys i'm about to bring up the
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  Speaker 1: book cover so you can see this cover look at
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  Speaker 1: this oh my god the cover speaks so much what
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  Speaker 1: did you want your readers to see and to think
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  Speaker 1: when they see your book cover I wanted them to see,
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  Speaker 1: and I had this idea when I did the book cover,
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  Speaker 1: because it starts, my first chapter is talking about waiting
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  Speaker 1: on the porch. And so as a little girl, I
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  Speaker 1: remember my brother and I getting dressed, my dad promising
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  Speaker 1: to pick us up, and my mom sat us outside
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  Speaker 1: on the porch, and she sat there while we waited
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  Speaker 1: and waited and waited and waited and waited, and he
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  Speaker 1: never showed. And so I remember that day, and that
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  Speaker 1: little girl sitting on that porch is... me waiting for
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  Speaker 1: my dad to show up. And in the background, you
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  Speaker 1: see a silhouette of an older woman in the rocking chair.
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  Speaker 2: Still on the porch waiting.
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  Speaker 1: Because even though I grew up and I was mature,
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  Speaker 1: I was grown, I still was waiting for my dad
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  Speaker 1: to show up. So in that whole thing, I want
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  Speaker 1: to just give you a little synopsis of what I
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  Speaker 1: was meaning by that. Because my dad did show up.
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  Speaker 1: He did come back into my life. He remarried my
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  Speaker 1: mom after 16 years of divorce. He came back into
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  Speaker 1: my life. But I never really had that father-daughter relationship
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  Speaker 1: that I always longed for. And so even in the
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  Speaker 1: midst of him coming back, even though he was there,
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  Speaker 1: he wasn't there. And so that thing that I longed
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  Speaker 1: for for years and years and years to be loved
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  Speaker 1: by my father, what it means to jump on my
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  Speaker 1: daddy's lap, what it means to lay my head on
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  Speaker 1: my dad, what it meant to just be able to
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  Speaker 1: share who I was and what I brought to my family.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't have that opportunity totally. So that was one
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  Speaker 1: of the things that I talk about is that journey
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  Speaker 1: of just being able to have that father. And so
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  Speaker 1: realizing that a father's love a father guides us into
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  Speaker 1: our choices as women, as young girls, of who we marry, right?
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  Speaker 1: And so I ended up marrying a man that was
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  Speaker 1: basically like my father almost. Oh, wow. That is true
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  Speaker 1: because they always say that a girl's first love is
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  Speaker 1: her father. They always say that. So I'm going to digress,
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  Speaker 1: you guys, because I have to This is on my mind.
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  Speaker 1: So I was, y'all know I surf Facebook, and I
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  Speaker 1: was doing that tonight, getting ready for the show. And
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  Speaker 1: there was a father who went to his daughter's kindergarten
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  Speaker 1: graduation here in South Carolina. Matter of fact, it was Columbia,
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  Speaker 1: South Carolina. And the mother, because sometimes, ladies, I have
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  Speaker 1: to admit, it be us, we be the one. But
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  Speaker 1: this father showed up. And he's always showing up. The
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  Speaker 1: principal acknowledged that. But the mom was so bitter that
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  Speaker 1: she did not let the daughter graduate. Wow. Took her
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  Speaker 1: out of the ceremony. Wow. So sometimes, mothers, we have to...
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  Speaker 1: and even single mothers, and I'm going to speak because
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  Speaker 1: I am a single mother now, we have to open
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  Speaker 1: that door to let the fathers come in. How or
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  Speaker 1: even have you addressed this in your book? Like if
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  Speaker 1: that is the case, I mean, how does the healing work?
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  Speaker 1: How would healing come if it's from the mother's side?
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  Speaker 1: Like how would that little girl heal? So one thing
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  Speaker 1: I can say, Patrice, is my mother was my strong.
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  Speaker 1: She was my strength. And she still is my strength.
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  Speaker 1: Even going through everything she's gone through. My dad is
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  Speaker 1: now in prison. he's serving a sentence. And my mom
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  Speaker 1: is still married to him. She supports him. She's there
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  Speaker 1: for him. And my mom has shown me the tenacity
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  Speaker 1: and the strength of a woman. And so I really
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  Speaker 1: have a lot of that loyalty and that strength that
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  Speaker 1: I get from my mom. My mom never kept my
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  Speaker 1: brother and I away from our dad. My mom never
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  Speaker 1: said that we couldn't see our dad. And my mom
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  Speaker 1: was always that bridge that helped bridge the relationship between
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  Speaker 1: my dad and her children, because my mom had two
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  Speaker 1: children by him.
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  Speaker 2: The thing is, As I remember, sometimes I would go
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  Speaker 2: to her and talk to her.
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  Speaker 1: She said, well, go talk to your daddy. Now, they
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  Speaker 1: got remarried when I was 29 years old. Right. I
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  Speaker 1: was 29 years old and I had already been married
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  Speaker 1: eight years and had four children of my own. Right.
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  Speaker 1: But the little girl inside of me longed for that
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  Speaker 1: father's love. And so I felt like more so my
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  Speaker 1: dad was more of a father to my children than
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  Speaker 1: a grandfather. Right. than he was to me. And so
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  Speaker 1: there was times where I had a little jealousy there
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  Speaker 1: because he was spending the time with my children and
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  Speaker 1: he was doing things for my children that I didn't
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  Speaker 1: get a chance to experience. And so that was a little,
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  Speaker 1: it had a little, made me feel a little some
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  Speaker 1: type of way, right?
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  Speaker 2: And so I had to heal from that part because I'm.
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: Like, you know, I would tell my kids, that's my daddy,
• 20:48
  Speaker 1: you know, and he's treating y'all more like y'all his
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: children than, you know, me. I'm his biological daughter. You know,
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: if it wasn't for me, y'all wouldn't be here. So
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  Speaker 1: my whole thing is I wanted to make sure that
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  Speaker 1: my mom, I mean, awesome woman. My mom is an
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  Speaker 1: awesome woman and I love her. And so, Mommy, if
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  Speaker 1: you're watching, I love you. But she taught me so much.
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  Speaker 1: She taught me so, so much of how to be strong.
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  Speaker 1: And so I have a new book coming out. We
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: didn't even talk about this earlier. But in a few weeks,
• 21:22
  Speaker 1: I have a new book coming out. It's called Loving
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  Speaker 1: Me While Becoming. And that transition, I talk about that
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  Speaker 1: because we as women tend to go through transitional moments.
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  Speaker 2: And we are our worst enemies. We are our worst critics.
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  Speaker 1: And so while we're becoming who God has created and
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  Speaker 1: predestined us to be, we.
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  Speaker 2: Got to continue to love ourselves. We can't say, oh,
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  Speaker 2: I'm fat.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, I'm ugly. My hair is short. I don't look good.
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  Speaker 2: Love you while becoming.
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  Speaker 1: All right.
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  Speaker 2: Can you stop coming in front of my front door
• 21:52
  Speaker 2: with that one?
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: Because I'm going to need you to stop sweeping in
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  Speaker 1: front of my door. I have a tendency of doing that,
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  Speaker 1: you know. Oh, I hate this. I hate that. And
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  Speaker 1: I have somebody that speaks into me. But then sometimes
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  Speaker 1: I even block them off. Like, look, I ain't even
• 22:10
  Speaker 1: trying to hear you right now. But you are so
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  Speaker 1: right now. You know, you got to tell me when
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: it's next book coming out. We can talk about that.
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  Speaker 1: I will do. You have placed so much of what
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  Speaker 1: we need, especially in the African-American community. If the younger
• 22:33
  Speaker 1: you was sitting in front of you right now, what
• 22:36
  Speaker 1: would you say to her? I would probably tell the
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  Speaker 1: younger me, stop looking for what's already inside of you. Oh, snap.
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  Speaker 1: Mic drop. I looked and I jumped in and out
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  Speaker 1: of relationships until I got married. And then after my marriage,
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  Speaker 1: I did. I jumped in and out of relationships. even
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: encounter some situations where I was in a relationship with
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  Speaker 1: a person who I later found out was on crack,
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: who took me down and through there and thinking at
• 23:08
  Speaker 1: 50 years old, I'm experiencing this. I should know better.
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  Speaker 1: I should be bigger than this. And that's what I'm
• 23:15
  Speaker 1: talking about. Loving me while becoming, because we're going to
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: make some decisions. And just because you make decisions, that
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  Speaker 1: is not your end. It's not the end. I always
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: say there's nothing that I can't get into that God
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: and me can't get out of. So we can get
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: into a lot of things. We put ourselves into a
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: lot of things, but it's going to take God and
• 23:36
  Speaker 1: your participation to get you out of it. Okay. So yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I just really, I really, I would tell myself because
• 23:44
  Speaker 1: the love was already inside me because I love people
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: and I love hard, honey.
• 23:49
  Speaker 2: I love hard when I love you.
• 23:52
  Speaker 1: I love you. And I love her. So it was
• 23:56
  Speaker 1: already inside of me, but I couldn't see that inside
• 23:58
  Speaker 1: of me. I couldn't see that love inside of me
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: because I wanted it from the external.
• 24:05
  Speaker 2: And the person that I wanted from really was my dad.
• 24:08
  Speaker 2: But you know what?
• 24:09
  Speaker 1: All along, God was there. I was saved, and I
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: got sanctified and baptized in the Holy Spirit at the
• 24:15
  Speaker 1: age of nine years old. And God was my everything.
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: I love the Lord, and I still do. But I
• 24:23
  Speaker 1: was missing that human connection. And sometimes we miss the
• 24:28
  Speaker 1: human connection, whether it be from our children, from our parents,
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: from our siblings, from whoever. We miss the human connection.
• 24:39
  Speaker 1: And then I would tell myself, girl, look inside of yourself.
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  Speaker 1: You're exuding what you want. And a lot of times
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: what we put out, but sometimes we're so thirsty, we're
• 24:51
  Speaker 1: looking for it so bad that we don't even see
• 24:54
  Speaker 1: the signs and the signals of people who are not
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: even good for us. Because we're searching. When I talk
• 25:01
  Speaker 1: about searching for our Father's love, you're searching. That means
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: you're here, there. You're going places. You're being with people,
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: building relationships that you shouldn't have. You're looking for the
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: love that you wanted from a physical Father. But our
• 25:14
  Speaker 1: Heavenly Father has been there the whole time. And that's
• 25:17
  Speaker 1: what I talk about at the end of the book,
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: is what our Heavenly Father provides. He provided the love
• 25:22
  Speaker 1: that I was searching for all along. Okay, y'all. She
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: done brought it home. I can't... Listen, you done brought
• 25:34
  Speaker 1: it home. Spread the table. We got the chicken. We
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: got the ham over here. You done bring it all.
• 25:42
  Speaker 1: But I gotta give you the apple pie. All right.
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: Let's get the dessert going, girl. Remember we talked behind
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: the scene and I told you I had those fun questions? Yes, yes.
• 25:56
  Speaker 1: All right. You are now in our time. So, Lifetime
• 26:06
  Speaker 1: is on the line, right? Lifetime said, you know, we
• 26:10
  Speaker 1: love your book. We need this book. This book is needed.
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: It needs to be on film. We got to find
• 26:17
  Speaker 1: the correct actress to play you as a young child.
• 26:23
  Speaker 1: What child star would you give the opportunity to play
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: you and why? Child star. I thought you was going
• 26:35
  Speaker 1: to ask me which person I would be and I
• 26:38
  Speaker 1: would pick one of my daughters because they both act
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: like me in a way that they look like me.
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: But if I was to go to a child... No,
• 26:45
  Speaker 1: hold on, hold on.
• 26:46
  Speaker 2: We can do that.
• 26:47
  Speaker 1: We can do your daughters, okay? And what are their names?
• 26:51
  Speaker 2: Courtney and Davida.
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: Hey, y'all. If y'all watching. Hi, Courtney.
• 26:56
  Speaker 2: And Demita.
• 26:57
  Speaker 1: All right. So we got Courtney and Demita. They're about
• 26:59
  Speaker 1: to make their debut. We're about to make this a
• 27:02
  Speaker 1: family thing. But we need a man to play your dad.
• 27:09
  Speaker 1: So that's what we're going to get the star power from.
• 27:13
  Speaker 1: What male gospel artist would you give the opportunity to
• 27:19
  Speaker 1: play your dad?
• 27:26
  Speaker 2: It'd probably be a quartet singer.
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: Courtney said, hey, Ma. Hey, Pocus.
• 27:37
  Speaker 2: Wow. I'm trying to think.
• 27:43
  Speaker 1: Oh, please, Mama. I'm so proud of you. Aw. Look
• 27:48
  Speaker 1: at Davida. Aw. I'm trying to think of a probably
• 27:55
  Speaker 1: a quartet singer my dad loved to sing and he
• 27:59
  Speaker 1: was a preacher so I'm trying to think of okay
• 28:05
  Speaker 1: so one of my favorites is Rance Allen I don't
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: know if it would be Rance Allen I would think
• 28:14
  Speaker 1: of Harvey Watkins maybe a little bit Harvey Watkins from
• 28:19
  Speaker 1: the Kenton Spirituals Ooh, you took it back then, girl.
• 28:24
  Speaker 1: You took it. Ooh, you took it back. Okay. So
• 28:29
  Speaker 1: we got Harvey. His name is Harvey. What's the last name? Watkins.
• 28:35
  Speaker 1: Harvey Watkins. And we have Davida and Courtney. But you
• 28:40
  Speaker 1: know every good movie has a soundtrack. What song would
• 28:46
  Speaker 1: be the soundtrack to your healings? God is trying to
• 28:53
  Speaker 1: tell you something. And why do you choose that song?
• 29:02
  Speaker 1: Because God has been trying to tell me something for
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: so many years. I have been running. I have been
• 29:09
  Speaker 1: hiding and not that he's been trying to, because God
• 29:11
  Speaker 1: don't try to do anything. He has been telling me something.
• 29:15
  Speaker 1: And so I have been turning a deaf ear. And so, um,
• 29:20
  Speaker 1: if I had listened earlier, I may not have had
• 29:23
  Speaker 1: as many stumbling blocks along the way. And so I
• 29:29
  Speaker 1: really believe that that would be the song, you know,
• 29:31
  Speaker 1: for both of us, I think for my dad and myself,
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: that God has been trying to tell us something in our,
• 29:38
  Speaker 1: both our healing journeys, because we all say hurt people,
• 29:41
  Speaker 1: hurt people. Right. And some things my dad did is
• 29:45
  Speaker 1: either because he didn't know any better or because he
• 29:47
  Speaker 1: was hurting himself and he didn't understand. And I look
• 29:50
  Speaker 1: at that also as is with my ex-husband is that
• 29:54
  Speaker 1: the fact that maybe he was having his own battles
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: and his own, you know, situations and he didn't know
• 29:59
  Speaker 1: how to heal himself. And so therefore he couldn't heal.
• 30:02
  Speaker 1: You can't heal somebody that you're not really healed yourself.
• 30:06
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 30:06
  Speaker 1: We're bleeding on people. We're bleeding. We're hurting and we're
• 30:10
  Speaker 1: bleeding on people. We're we've got scars that hasn't been healed.
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: We're contaminating people's spirits. Even in the church, you know,
• 30:18
  Speaker 1: it's people out there who are standing over pulpits who
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: are not healed. And we see that every day on
• 30:24
  Speaker 1: social media. We see it in all these different platforms.
• 30:27
  Speaker 1: People are talking about the church and talking about how
• 30:30
  Speaker 1: this person did. And this was said in the church
• 30:33
  Speaker 1: and close the doors and the money and this and that.
• 30:36
  Speaker 1: And so people are broken and they are bleeding. And
• 30:41
  Speaker 1: so healing is a very is a very important. Pivotal
• 30:45
  Speaker 1: point where we can really see God and really see
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: that he is telling and hear what he's telling us.
• 30:53
  Speaker 1: You know what? That's true. There's a lot of hurt
• 30:55
  Speaker 1: people in the church. It's crazy to say that, but
• 31:01
  Speaker 1: there is.
• 31:04
  Speaker 2: I know I perpetrated for many years.
• 31:07
  Speaker 1: I sat there with a smile on my face like
• 31:09
  Speaker 1: the happy first lady and I was miserable as, excuse
• 31:12
  Speaker 1: my language. Hell, I was miserable. Girl, look at here.
• 31:18
  Speaker 1: You ain't preaching to the choir. I'm sitting next to you.
• 31:20
  Speaker 1: I'm the alto. You're the soprano. We with that together. So,
• 31:26
  Speaker 1: and I just want y'all to know, I was very
• 31:28
  Speaker 1: upset that they did not put God's trying to tell
• 31:31
  Speaker 1: you something in the new color purple. That was just
• 31:34
  Speaker 1: so disappointing. In the most recent movie? Yes. That just
• 31:40
  Speaker 1: hurt my feelings. Okay, so now we have The movie,
• 31:44
  Speaker 1: the soundtrack, the actors, everything is great.
• 31:49
  Speaker 2: All right.
• 31:50
  Speaker 1: You know what? You won a Dove Award. Uh-oh. They
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: loved it. You won a Dove Award. Who would you
• 32:02
  Speaker 1: like to thank? First and foremost, I'd like to thank God.
• 32:12
  Speaker 1: I would like to thank my mother and my father.
• 32:16
  Speaker 1: And I would like to thank my children. And I
• 32:18
  Speaker 1: would even like to thank my husband, my ex-husband. And
• 32:21
  Speaker 1: so all of that has made me into who I
• 32:24
  Speaker 1: am today. Honey, if it had not been for those
• 32:29
  Speaker 1: struggles today, As Jaqueline Carr said, I would never know
• 32:34
  Speaker 1: how much I've grown, what I can do. I don't
• 32:37
  Speaker 1: even know my own strength sometimes. I surprise myself sometimes. So, yes,
• 32:42
  Speaker 1: I would like to thank everyone for supporting me, supporting
• 32:46
  Speaker 1: my book, and just being there for me. You know,
• 32:49
  Speaker 1: there's a lot of people who I have spoken to,
• 32:53
  Speaker 1: talked to, shared my story.
• 32:55
  Speaker 2: Some people I've had to actually.
• 33:00
  Speaker 1: just vent to them. Even as recently as today, I've
• 33:03
  Speaker 1: had to vent. So I am very thankful and grateful
• 33:07
  Speaker 1: for people that God has placed in my life. I'm
• 33:10
  Speaker 1: very grateful. There you go. So before you leave, you
• 33:14
  Speaker 1: have to give us the rundown. How we can follow
• 33:17
  Speaker 1: you on social media, how we can grab your book.
• 33:22
  Speaker 1: When the next one is coming out, just go ahead
• 33:24
  Speaker 1: and give us the rundown. Okay, sure. So you can
• 33:27
  Speaker 1: follow me on Journey to Heal on Facebook. I'm also
• 33:32
  Speaker 1: Journey to Heal on TikTok. I have my personal page,
• 33:36
  Speaker 1: Michelle Briggs. You can also go to my website. It's MichelleBriggsTheAuthor.com.
• 33:46
  Speaker 1: You can also email me at MichelleB at JourneyToHeal, LLC.com.
• 33:55
  Speaker 2: Okay. And so I'm looking forward to, I'm even, I
• 33:59
  Speaker 2: forgot to tell you, I'm a life coach.
• 34:01
  Speaker 1: I've got certified as a life coach. And so I'm
• 34:03
  Speaker 1: doing some coaching gigs. So you'll see that coming out soon.
• 34:07
  Speaker 1: So I'm willing to share personally one-on-one or group. We
• 34:10
  Speaker 1: will get into that more. And so I'll be coming
• 34:13
  Speaker 1: out with some luncheons and just being able to share
• 34:16
  Speaker 1: with people. So please keep.
• 34:18
  Speaker 2: Me in mind.
• 34:18
  Speaker 1: My new book will be out.
• 34:20
  Speaker 2: I'm actually, my publisher, you know, I didn't even know
• 34:23
  Speaker 2: how to write a book and be honest.
• 34:25
  Speaker 1: I know how to write a book. I know what
• 34:27
  Speaker 1: to do. I know. So what I ended up doing,
• 34:30
  Speaker 1: I ended up searching online and I have a publisher.
• 34:34
  Speaker 2: It's Owl Publishers.
• 34:36
  Speaker 1: And so they published my first book and they've also
• 34:39
  Speaker 1: publishing the second book. They're waiting on me to finish
• 34:41
  Speaker 1: doing my edits. And thank you guys for being so
• 34:43
  Speaker 1: patient with me. So I'm working on the edits for
• 34:46
  Speaker 1: my second book. Remember, and I'll post everything when it
• 34:50
  Speaker 1: comes out. I am working on a capture page so
• 34:54
  Speaker 1: you can get some things and I'll be offering some free, um,
• 34:57
  Speaker 1: things on my capture page, which is also called a
• 34:59
  Speaker 1: landing page. So, um, we looking out for some more
• 35:03
  Speaker 1: things for me from me. Well, thank you for giving us.
• 35:08
  Speaker 1: Cause if you guys look at the bottom of the screen,
• 35:11
  Speaker 1: you see all the information scrolling. I always tell you,
• 35:14
  Speaker 1: if you want to support an author, you know, follow
• 35:18
  Speaker 1: them on their social media. Um, follow them on their webpage. I,
• 35:24
  Speaker 1: matter of fact, read a book today. The book had,
• 35:29
  Speaker 1: the very end of the book had me in a chokehold.
• 35:32
  Speaker 1: I inboxed that author. I was like, what were you thinking?
• 35:35
  Speaker 1: She was like, you read it? I was like, yeah.
• 35:37
  Speaker 1: She was like, oh my God, I love when people
• 35:39
  Speaker 1: do this. This is encouragement for them, okay? Encourage them, like, hey,
• 35:44
  Speaker 1: I've read your book. I really like this. Some authors
• 35:48
  Speaker 1: just love that, okay? So, you know, I'm going to
• 35:52
  Speaker 1: read your book. I have made a vow to read
• 35:57
  Speaker 1: almost all the books that I interview. That's 52 books, y'all.
• 36:02
  Speaker 1: Y'all pray for us. But I like doing it because
• 36:11
  Speaker 1: it switches up my genres. Because if you know me,
• 36:16
  Speaker 1: y'all know what type of book I read. And we
• 36:19
  Speaker 1: got the lovely past the lady here, so I can't
• 36:22
  Speaker 1: talk about scandalous books I read, but you know. But Ms. Michelle,
• 36:30
  Speaker 1: thank you. I thank you for not even knowing that
• 36:35
  Speaker 1: you put some nuggets in me and helped me, gave
• 36:40
  Speaker 1: me some flashbacks. And even now that I am 46
• 36:44
  Speaker 1: years old and my dad, I want to say he's
• 36:46
  Speaker 1: like 68. Makes me want to go back and rekindle
• 36:52
  Speaker 1: because we did lose each other when I got older
• 36:54
  Speaker 1: and once my mom died. And this will be a
• 36:57
  Speaker 1: great way for me to rekindle what I had with
• 37:01
  Speaker 1: my dad. So I am going to take some words
• 37:07
  Speaker 1: of encouragement from you. Yes. And my healing journey, but
• 37:11
  Speaker 1: the healing journey that I think me and him would
• 37:13
  Speaker 1: need to do together. So I thank you for being
• 37:16
  Speaker 1: with me tonight. Thank you. I appreciate your platform. And
• 37:19
  Speaker 1: thank you to everybody that's watching. Thank you. Thank you, everybody.
• 37:24
  Speaker 1: Miss Davida and Courtney. Yes. All right, y'all. I need
• 37:31
  Speaker 1: y'all autographs. When Lifetime call y'all for the movie, y'all
• 37:35
  Speaker 1: remember y'all see me autograph. And y'all get those books
• 37:39
  Speaker 1: at your Amazon shopping cart and pay for them books
• 37:42
  Speaker 1: and read my book, please. Oh, Miss Teresa, please don't.
• 37:46
  Speaker 1: You really smart girl. Miss Teresa's last I do. I can't.
• 37:51
  Speaker 1: Put it like this. Miss Teresa, I can't even say
• 37:53
  Speaker 1: the book that I've read today. It might get me
• 37:58
  Speaker 1: in trouble. But I love to read. Hey, Teresa. That's
• 38:03
  Speaker 1: my friend from Little Rock.
• 38:06
  Speaker 2: Hi, Miss Teresa from Arkansas?
• 38:08
  Speaker 1: Yes. Y'all, I didn't know... Black people were in Arkansas.
• 38:14
  Speaker 1: It's a whole lot of them out there. I have
• 38:17
  Speaker 1: children in Arkansas. My husband, Pastor Chris Briggs, he's in Arkansas.
• 38:23
  Speaker 1: My daughter, Courtney, is in Arkansas. I have a lot
• 38:27
  Speaker 1: of people in Arkansas. I guess I'm just an old
• 38:31
  Speaker 1: South girl. And when I hear states like Utah, I'm like,
• 38:35
  Speaker 1: people actually live in those states? Yes. Charge it to
• 38:39
  Speaker 1: my head, not my heart. Ms. Michelle, I will continue
• 38:45
  Speaker 1: to follow you in anything we can do here at
• 38:48
  Speaker 1: SC Book Yard in France. Remember, the journey doesn't stop
• 38:52
  Speaker 1: here with us. Okay? I want to thank you guys
• 38:56
  Speaker 1: for being with me tonight. It is a Tuesday night. Lately,
• 39:03
  Speaker 1: I've been, you know, before we...