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Quick Lift: How to Lead Boldly in the Second Half of Your Career · Loud & Lifted

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  Welcome to Allowed and Lifted. I'm your host,
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  Betsy Hamm. And today's quick lift is all about
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  three powerful words, active, ageless, and authentic.
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  In my recent conversation with Patti Sibach and
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  Kathy Anderson -Martin, they shared what they
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  call the triple threat. And it's not about doing
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  it all. It's about living true, moving with purpose,
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  and thriving at every stage of life. They reminded
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  us that you can't pour from an empty cup. That
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  health and wellness fuel Everything else and
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  that age is never a limit. It's just a number
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  So in this quick lift, I'll break down the biggest
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  lessons and give you practical ways to apply
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  them right now Let's dig into the key takeaways
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  and action items first up authentic Kathy gave
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  the definition of authentic as true to oneself,
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  your values and your personality. I think it's
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  great to revisit this definition because it's
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  a word we throw around a lot. And at the end
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  of the day, it's about being true to who you
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  are. We try to be so many things to so many people.
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  We try to be these amazing moms and wives and
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  coworkers and friends and daughters and the list
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  goes on. So sometimes we kind of forget who we
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  are and what we really need to be focused on
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  because it's difficult to be all things to all
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  people. You need to be true to yourself. So sometimes
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  we need to take a step back and reprioritize.
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  Now, I do love that they made the point that
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  being true to yourself doesn't mean that you
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  don't be respectful to what other people feel.
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  need. So it's a balance. And I joked like, yeah,
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  can I just go on a two month vacation and you
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  know, leave my job and my family and just because
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  I need to recenter, that'd be amazing. But that
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  would not be respectful to others. Patty was
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  very authentic. And she shared a story about
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  when she was 40, she felt like a failure. And
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  none of her cups were full because she was trying
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  to balance work and kids and life and a failed
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  marriage. And she had to take a step back and
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  put what was most important first, which was
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  her kids. So she had to reshift she had to focus.
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  And the biggest thing is, in addition to refocusing,
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  she had to give herself grace. This is something
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  I think we need to remind ourselves of time and
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  time again. We hold ourselves to such high standards
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  and want to be so amazing. And sometimes you
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  just have to give yourself grace. We're going
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  to have those rough days, rough weeks, maybe
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  even a rough month where we're struggling. So
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  you have to give yourself grace and know that
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  you can reprioritize and move on. I also love
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  that Kathy talked about majoring on the majors
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  and letting go of the small stuff. That's so
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  true. We are all guilty of that at times where
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  we're trying to do all things for all people.
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  And it's just taking a step back and focusing
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  on what's really, really important and letting
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  go of the small stuff. And as we've discussed
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  on other episodes, whether that's outsourcing,
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  getting help, or just not making cookies for
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  the bake sale, it's going to be okay. Action
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  item here is identify your true priorities this
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  season. As I mentioned, your priorities are going
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  to change throughout your life. Ask what is really
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  important and what is just noise. And as a reminder,
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  being true to yourself doesn't mean ignoring
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  how choices affect loved ones. And lastly, practice
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  grace. Next up, action. If you don't have a healthy
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  body mind and spirit, you can't be authentic
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  It's hard to be authentic or confident when you're
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  miserable in your own skin Cathy shared her story
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  of getting healthy and how everything changed
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  when her health changed She started focusing
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  on being better being physically active Patty
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  gave a great analogy of you're given one body.
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  You have to take care of it just like a car.
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  Imagine if you only had one car your entire life
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  that was supposed to get you around. You'd probably
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  take better care of it, right? And you have to
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  look at that same way with your body. We have
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  one body. So think about how you can take better
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  care of it. And that comes into being physically
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  active, what we eat, and just how those things
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  impact stress on our lives and also how you treat
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  yourself. We talked a lot about healthy habits
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  and making it sustainable. Patty and Kathy were
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  not here to peddle some amazing diet or tell
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  you to go to the gym seven days a week or restrict
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  your calories to an insane level. It's just making
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  good choices and making them a habit and making
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  it something that can be sustainable. They talked
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  about their giving wellness program that they
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  launched which I love and Kathy shared how part
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  of her journey to being healthier is starting
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  to do 10 ,000 steps years ago and she has this
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  amazing record of getting her 10 ,000 steps in
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  a day. It's become her stress reliever and she
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  enjoys being outside. So it's really about finding
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  your thing. Maybe it's going on walks like Kathy
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  talked about. Maybe it's going to the gym and
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  just walking on a treadmill starting to lift
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  weights. It's just finding the thing that you
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  do enjoy spending time doing because it doesn't
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  become a chore. becomes part of your habit. They
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  also talked about finding your why and those
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  reasons change over time. At the end of the day,
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  it's about being healthy. Maybe it's because
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  you do need to lose some weight. Maybe you need
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  to get your blood pressure or cholesterol level
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  down. Maybe it's because you want to be a great
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  example for your kids. And I think that's an
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  awesome point. And something I've certainly considered
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  through the years is as I shared on the episode,
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  I enjoy working out. I think it's a great stress
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  reliever, whether it's yoga or going to the gym.
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  Back in the day, I used to run a lot, but it's
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  finding something that I spend time doing that
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  makes me feel better. and I hope that my girls
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  notice that. Now, of course, they're in sports
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  mode, so working out isn't on their list if it's
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  not related to sports, but I hope they start
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  to see that, you know, oh, when I was growing
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  up, my mom always did take time to go to the
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  gym, go to yoga, and to focus on being healthy.
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  It's not just about losing weight. Yes, sometimes
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  that's a great benefit, but it's about being
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  healthy. I also love that they said, it's never
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  too late. It's just about movement. So think
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  about what you like to do and start spending
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  time doing that. And if you don't know how to
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  start, consult a professional and I do not mean
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  on TikTok. Find somebody locally where you live
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  and then work with them to set realistic goals,
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  small attainable goals, and just start taking
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  steps forward. It's just progress. Action item
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  here, find your why, let it evolve, pick one
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  movement that you love, whether it's walking,
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  lifting, dancing, yoga, start small and keep
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  it sustainable. And as mentioned, consult a pro
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  if needed. The last piece, ageless. I love when
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  they got very excited about the fact that they
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  love celebrating birthdays because we aren't
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  dead. And while we were joking about it, It's
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  true. And I think as we go through our lives,
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  sometimes we hit these milestone birthdays that
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  we're super excited about, you know, 18, 21.
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  And then as we keep having those birthdays, we
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  sometimes are like, Oh my God, I can't believe
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  I'm 40. I can't believe I'm 50. And we have to
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  flip the script on that and be thankful that
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  we're celebrating those birthdays. And of course
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  we want to continue to celebrate birthdays. So
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  we're not dead. And while you're doing that,
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  you want to have a good lifestyle. And that goes
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  back to being active. I also love that they talked
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  about part of being ageless is that there's still
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  opportunity. They have friends who are thinking
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  about retirement, retiring, getting their plan.
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  And these two ladies, they have like the pedal
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  down and they are continuing to move forward,
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  making career changes, making reasonable choices
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  of things that they want to do, spending time
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  on the stuff that they love. And that's so awesome.
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  I love that. they have this almost like second
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  act from a professional standpoint that they
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  both have been doing and coincidentally both
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  of them are helping other people which is pretty
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  awesome too. I love that they said they don't
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  want to slow down and that's obviously clear
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  from the way that they are handling the last
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  couple years. The other pieces we talked about
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  with ageless is having a sense of humor and being
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  able to laugh at yourself is important. Not sweating
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  the small stuff. Sometimes you just have to move
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  on. The other piece that they talked about, which
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  I think is great, it's okay to be down, just
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  don't stay there. And in order to not stay there,
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  sometimes you can pick yourself up on your own
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  and that's great. But sometimes you need those
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  supportive friends. And Patty talked about how
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  it took her a really long time to find her tribe.
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  She always had friends, but they just weren't
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  the people who maybe had the same values and
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  beliefs and way of life that she did. But now
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  she has found her tribe. So she said, find your
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  tribe, it's out there. Find people who will cheer
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  for you and maybe even smack you when you need
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  it. Let's be honest, sometimes that's what we
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  also need too. The last thing we talked about
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  with ageless is perspective. Often it's not life
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  shattering the things that you're stressing about.
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  So take a step back and think about what can
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  you control and what can you not and what really
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  is going to have a major impact on moving forward.
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  There's going to be times in life where things
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  don't go your way. There's going to be moments
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  and it's not if it's when it happens to everybody,
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  right? Sometimes big, sometimes small, but things
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  are going to happen. So get through it, get the
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  support that you need and move on. Action item
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  here, find your tribe, people who cheer you on
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  and hold you accountable. Embrace the change
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  and keep learning. Age is a number, not a limit.
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  And when hard moments hit, because they will.
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  Don't stay stuck. I love how Patty and Kathy
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  show us that being authentic means focusing on
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  what truly matters. Being active means caring
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  for your body and mind so you can show up fully.
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  And being ageless means refusing to let your
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  years define you. If you haven't listened to
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  Kathy and Patty's episode, I strongly encourage
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  you to do so. And as always follow Loud and Lifted
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  on Instagram for ongoing advice and leadership
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  guidance. Thanks for tuning in to Loud and Lifted.
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  Until next time, keep showing up authentic. brilliant
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  and unstoppable.