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Season 4 - Episode 5 - What else could it mean? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Hey everybody, welcome to the good morning from the Chicken
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  Coop podcast. My name is Kim Johnson and I am
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  a mastermind, set coach, creative strategist, and also
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  happen to be a farmer. This is my chicken coop and I
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  come out here every day to record a podcast to teach
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  distinctions, possibilities, new ways of thinking, and just bring
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  some joy into the world. So welcome to the coop and let's
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  start your day off in a fantastic way.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  Well, if I'm telling you the truth, it's good afternoon
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  because I was so sad the last few days it's been so cold and I
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  haven't been able to be out here that we're shooting this in the
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  afternoon for tomorrow morning as the girls are getting ready
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  to go to bed. So some of them are putting
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  themselves to sleep already and the lights still out, but it's
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  going down quickly. So today we are talking about
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  the the challenge that we all have when it comes to really
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  honing in on our beliefs about situations, positive, negative
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  situations, neutral situations, whatever it is we're talking
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  about. That one critical little thing
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  that I like to say is what else could it mean?
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  Fascinating thing. We've talked about this before
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  over the years, but at the beginning of the year, I really
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  like to hammer this home to my clients because it all depends
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  on how you see things. So we'll often say it's the
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  model of the world. It's what what you believe is
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  it? You know it, we walk outside and
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  the weather has sun and clouds and somebody else will say,
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  well, it's cloudy with some sun and I'll say, well, it's sunny
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  with some clouds. So what is the difference?
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  It's the model of the world, how you want to see it.
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  It's the framework around which you put together.
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  You know, often this comes down to our primary critical way of
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  thinking and which version comes out is is part of that.
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  You're demonstrating that your primary critical way of
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  thinking. So at the beginning of the year,
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  what we want to look at is how to reframe things quickly.
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  That's why we've been talking about that this week and how
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  we're going to shift that. So this one, this framework of
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  asking what else could this mean?
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  What else could this be? What else can I believe about
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  this? What's another way I can look at
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  the situation comes back to our, you know, podcast I did the
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  other day on questions and asking yourself the right
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  questions. But this one really boils down
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  to working on not seeing everything as all or nothing.
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  This, this is a really big thing to look at it and say, am I on
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  one extreme or the other? Because there are two distinct
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  extremes that often take place in our head.
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  You're either all in or all out. It's a hell yes or a hell no.
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  We've all heard that one. It's a hell yes or a hell no.
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  And while that is a fantastic thing to believe and work on a
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  good deal of the time, there's also a little bit of, you know,
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  limitation to that because it doesn't allow you to stop over
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  generalizing things about a specific subject.
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  So you really want to make sure that you're framing this in a,
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  in a way that says, I have to look at the entire situation,
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  just not far left and not far right.
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  Just like in politics, when we look at far left and far right,
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  the majority of the people are usually in the middle.
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  They have beliefs they adopt from both sides.
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  So we do ourselves a vast disservice when we take out our
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  ability to see down the middle, if that makes sense.
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  And this is where this gets into that.
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  There is, you know, is it right or wrong?
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  Is it black or white? Well, for me and how I work with
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  my clients on this, it's all about, well, it could be black
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  and it could be white, but there is also 256 Shades of Grey in
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  the middle that we can all look at and say, OK, maybe it's one
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  of these, or maybe it's this, or maybe it's this, or it could
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  mean this or it could mean this. And once you start looking at
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  the nuance, which is really important with all of this, you
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  start to realize that everybody has a different flavor of this.
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  Everybody has a different take on things.
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  And then that makes it a little bit more bearable to be in this
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  the world and really live with other people because you
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  recognize we all have different points of view.
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  I mean, I don't care who you are and what you do.
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  Everyone has a slightly different point of view.
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  I am standing here in the middle of the girls coop and I have two
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  containers of food out. I have one that's like a grain
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  food with all different grains in it.
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  And then I have one that's a grub food.
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  And I will tell you handedly they prefer the grub food over
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  the other food. But yet there are some that
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  still come and eat this other food, the grain food.
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  And I keep both. And it has been said to me, my
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  husband has said to me, well, why not just switch over to the
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  grub fruit? And I'm like, because there are
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  some of them that still like the grain, fruit, even chickens have
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  this issue where we're not all one way or another.
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  And I have one chicken that will eat both foods.
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  I see her, I'm sure a lot of them do that, but she will pig
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  out on both of them. So I'm like, I can't even tell
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  which one that she likes more than.
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  And we're all like that. We are all like that.
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  It's like you might like to eat cereal every day, but you don't
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  want to eat it every single day. You'll say, oh, and I eat cereal
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  every day, but it's not every single day.
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  It's a gross exaggeration. So when we get clear on these
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  things, we help ourselves. So this is it's all about that
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  critical step and that critical thinking of not over
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  generalizing, being very clear about what we mean when we say
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  what we say so that we can help ourselves participate and move
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  forward understanding. It's not one way or another.
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  Typically it's there are a lot of different variations.
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  So the questions we have to ask ourselves have to be really
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  good. What else could this mean?
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  Because the broader our perspective, the more likely we
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  are to hit that happy spot. All right, my friends, I hope
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  you have a blessed day and I will see you all tomorrow.
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  Bye.