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Aspergers Checklist The Ultimate Guide (YOU NEED) To Ace Autistic Life · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  Hey, in this video I'm going to be going over the Asperger's
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  checklist. This is going to be the ultimate
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  guide for you to ace every single part of your life like
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  that. Hey guys, welcome back to the
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  aspy world. My name is Dan, I have
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  Asperger's Syndrome, ADHD, OCD, and dyslexia and I make weekly
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  videos on this type of content. So if you're a new around here,
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  video because like, it's super important that we stay connected
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  because you're amazing. OK, guys, so before we get
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  started, I'd just like to read out some questions from people
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  who sent me over on my Instagram account.
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  And if you aren't already following me on Instagram, make
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  sure you do that because I have exclusive content over there.
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  That's super cool. OK.
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  So this question is from James Scott Fallaton.
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  And they said how can you overcome your emotions and
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  thoughts being so strong? Well, the thing about emotions
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  and thoughts, the emotions come from the fact that your thoughts
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  are so strong. But when you have negative
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  thoughts coming into your brain, these are called involuntary
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  negative thoughts. So the things that you don't
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  want to think about, whether you just come in anyway, you just
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  sneak in there because you're not trying, it's involuntary,
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  but you have no control over that.
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  What you do have control over is voluntary positive thought.
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  So if you have a negative thought come into your head, try
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  to think of a positive thing to push into your head because then
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  not push the negative thing out. And that is how you deal with
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  that. It's awesome.
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  It's an old Buddhist thing and a mindfulness training thing, so
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  definitely try that out. Let me know how you get on.
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  Leave me a comment. So guys, welcome back to the
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  apps we world. Like I said, make sure you head
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  over to Instagram and TikTok and Twitter and all those things,
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  because I'm on all those platforms and we just have a lot
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  of fun. So it's going to be cool.
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  So the ask where just checklist. Now a lot of people on the
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  autism spectrum want to be able to ace their life, you know, be
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  the ultimate version of them. And I've spent my life kind of
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  trying to make all these these hacks and tips and tricks so
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  that I can really narrow down the things that have helped me
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  through my life so far that are going to be the best version of
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  me. I don't know if that makes any
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  sense. So I want to hand them over to
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  you. So I've got like 9 things that
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  I've listed out that I use to help me in my daily life, which
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  is my ultimate like guides, my ultimate aspect, just checklist
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  hacks. And I'm also going to leave them
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  in a PDF download for you guys in the description below.
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  So you know at the end of this video you want to download like
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  a PDF version of this guide to have like a bit more fun.
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  You can do that. It'll be a link to my website
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  down below, so definitely check that out.
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  So before we get started, let me know if you are on the spectrum
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  and you're watching this because you want to learn more about it
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  or your parent or someone who's on the spectrum so you know.
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  Let me know in the comments down below.
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  I love and responding to every single comment, so please do
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  that. OK, so I'm pumped to get this
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  list on the earth, but just checked.
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  I think you want to broadcast a message.
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  No. Is that right?
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  No. Stop.
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  Alexis, stop. OK, so #1, this is really
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  interesting. I'm super excited to get this
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  checklist done. So number one is always be open
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  and honest with your friends and like the people you live with,
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  be it your family or your roommates.
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  And why this is important is because these are the people
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  that you spend most of your time with and these are the people
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  who are going to be your support network.
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  These are the people who are the the people who you go to when
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  you have issues. The people that you go to you
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  know, to sort out dinner reservations or like you know
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  they are your they are your family at the end of the day.
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  The people you live with and the people who you spend most of
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  your time with. It's important to be open with
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  them and discuss the things that impact you in your life because
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  that is going to save you a bunch of hassle in the future
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  where if something comes up, you'll be like, oh, you know, I
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  have this issue. And then they'd be like, you
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  haven't told us about this before.
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  And so it'd be nice to actually just have kind of like a heads
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  up, if you will. So #2 is my favorite one, and
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  now I use technology to help you organize your day.
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  So I use a bunch of things. I actually have an app on my
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  phone called Timo and actually have that same app on my my
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  Apple Watch. But basically you plan out your
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  day with Timo and then it kind of like can be put through to
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  your watch that keeps you in track with everything for your
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  day. Like if you know it's so say say
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  you want to remember, like you've got a whole schedule for
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  your day. Like I'm going to get up this
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  time, have breakfast at this time.
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  I need to be out the house this time, go to work at this time.
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  Timo does all that for you and it like lays it out in such a
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  good, awesome manner. I'll leave a link for Timo in
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  the description below, because it's super important that you
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  check that out because it's one of the apps that I think really
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  help organize my day. It's specifically designed for
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  people with autism and ADHD, but among those, I definitely use my
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  iPad and my iPhone and my Apple Watch to make sure that I do
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  everything from taking my pills to going out at the right time
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  to make sure I eat, make sure I drink water, do all those things
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  that I'll forget because I get so engrossed in my life.
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  Just focusing on stuff because people on the autism spectrum,
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  as you know, get super involved. Like just focus on things and
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  they focus on those things and they they kind of like hook onto
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  those things and then they, you know, for instance, I used to be
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  up all night like research and aliens and stuff, and then I
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  forget and I like fall asleep on my desk and I forget to eat.
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  You know, I've done that a few times.
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  So it's nice to have technology to back you up to let you kind
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  of, like kick you into shape to make sure you do those things.
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  That's super awesome, Okay. So #3 is don't be afraid to say
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  no now. Growing up.
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  I used to be. Really, obviously having social
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  anxiety. I used to be really pressured,
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  my friends, being like, let's go to this gig and watch this band,
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  Let's go to this, you know, the city and grab a burger weapon.
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  I'll always be, like, really worried about going to city
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  centers and stuff because I get super bad anxiety from those
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  places. And so I'd always say, like, oh,
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  no, I can't actually, I'm doing something else.
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  And I was kind of not being honest, saying like, you know, I
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  didn't want him to think that I was just saying no because I'm a
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  grumpy, miserable party Cooper. But at the end of the day,
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  you've got to take care of your mental health and your mental
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  well-being. So don't be afraid to say no
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  what I wish have told myself back then, just to be honest, I
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  know I don't want to do it. You know, if they're real
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  friends, they're true friends, then they'll just go, OK, that's
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  fine, I'll just, you know, we'll just do something else another
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  time and that should be how it is.
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  So definitely don't be afraid to say no.
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  That's super important. OK, so #4 is vitally important,
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  and that is don't be afraid to ask for help when you need it.
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  So a lot of people don't reach out to their friends for having
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  a bad time or they're having like some kind of issue.
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  Could be a mental health issue. Could be a meltdown.
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  It could be awesome related issue.
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  People don't tend to reach out and ask for help when they need
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  it because if you like, it's it's showing like a weakness or
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  or it's showing like a vulnerability.
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  And I get it. I get why you wouldn't want to.
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  But at the end of the day, you know a problem shared as a
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  problem halved. And that is definitely what
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  happens when you reach out for help, especially to your friends
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  or your family members. So always reach out for if you
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  feel like there's something going on, it feels like there's
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  you know you're not having a good time.
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  Reach out to somebody and express that because it's
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  definitely going to save you. It's going to save you a bunch
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  of time and it's going to be super awesome for you because
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  yeah, you're just going to feel so much better having like some
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  anybody else to help you through that.
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  Issue #5 is access support. Now one of the things that I
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  didn't do straight away was Access support.
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  And what I mean by this is accessing support mechanisms
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  that were available to me on the on the Internet.
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  Like I couldn't. You know, those websites that
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  forms I can go to to talk to people.
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  While I could access counselling through my local health board, I
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  could access, you know, psychological intervention and
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  other types of therapies. But I didn't do this straight
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  away. But I wish I did.
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  So my hack would be to access support straight away.
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  Okay. So number six, this is a really
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  cool one. This is try the sensory Diet for
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  Sensory Processing Disorder. So autism comes with a bunch of
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  sensory issues, which is called sensory Processing Disorder or
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  SPD. Now there is a thing that I
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  worked on with my occupational therapist, which is the sensory
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  diet, which is where you do some stuff to.
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  It's like exercises that you do to.
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  It's called a diet. It's not food related diet, it's
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  a physical diet. So it's called the sensory diet
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  because you do physical things to get proprioception working in
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  your body, which helps with sensory processing disorder.
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  I'm actually going to do a, you know, a week on the sensory
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  processing diet, the, you know, the week on the sensory diet to
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  show you guys the difference before and after and what it's
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  like and document that. And if you're interested in
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  that, please give us a video comes up so I know that you guys
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  are stoked about it and I will let you when it's out by yeah
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  you want you've already hit the notification bell so you'll know
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  when that video is out but it's going to be out maybe 2 videos
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  after this one but it's definitely coming but definitely
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  try it out. The sensory diet, you know
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  making sure that you are doing exercises like in the morning
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  like light exercises. Go for a shower, I'll go for a
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  run and then like do some like wall precepts and then do some
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  kind of like small lifting, even if it's just two tins of beans
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  or something. You know, it's it's ways of
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  engaging your muscles on the deep kind of level, on
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  appropriate reception to kind of wake your body and simulate it
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  so that the sensors become a bit more alert.
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  It's very, very interesting. It's fascinating.
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  I actually did a video all about that and I'll try and leave that
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  in a link above here as well. Okay #7 is organize your home or
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  where you live, like if your room or if it's like you're
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  renting a room from somebody or if you live at home, your
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  parents. Your space needs to be clean and
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  tidy. I'm terrible at like trying to
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  keep things like in SO in order. So I was ask for help when I do
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  that. But when you have a clean home,
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  it's a happy home. It helps a clean environment,
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  helps you clean your mind and it helps lower anxiety, which is
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  very, very much accustomed to people on the autism spectrum.
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  And this is key to making sure that you keep it real clean
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  everything. Keep everything nice and tidy
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  and a tidy home will make you, Oh my goodness, just do wonders
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  for your mental health. This can be amazing. #8 is
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  exercising. Now exercising.
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  I don't mean you'll go to the gym like deadlift 6 cars, you
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  know. I wonder about like going for a
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  walk for half an hour, maybe going for a jog.
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  If you're into riding a bike, go on a treadmill.
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  Literally just walk into town and back.
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  Exercise is amazing. It's amazing for the body but
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  it's also amazing for the mind and it keeps you kind of active.
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  Also walking could be part of your sensory diet so you could
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  actually check that into that if you wanted to do that.
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  And the the idea of having a exercise in there is because
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  exercise is really good for your body in in multiple ways.
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  So I highly recommend putting exercise into your your kind of
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  like daily planner because it's so important.
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  OK and #9, this is the most important one.
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  Take time to chill and relax. One of the things I didn't do
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  for ages, I never chilled and never relaxed.
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  I was always just go, go, go, go, go.
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  I took the time to chill, took the time to relax, took the time
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  for myself. That was groundbreaking and it
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  actually just changed the way I interacted with my myself at
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  times because I was like just so hell bent on trying to research
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  stuff and do like 1000 things at once.
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  And I like doing those things. But you also need to relax the
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  brain and watch like Netflix of a documentary or movie like or
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  play games and stuff the stuff you like.
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  That's important. Remember to take time to do
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  those things guys. If you have anything to add to
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  this, pop in a comment down below.
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  I'd love to know your take on this stuff if you have anything
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  to add to like, the ultimate List.
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  I'm trying to, you know, help other people here, so if you
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  want to help somebody by popping in a comment, that'll be
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  awesome. Also, if you're new around here,
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  remember to subscribe and I'll see you next time guys.
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  Peace.