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Season 4 - Episode 37 - Building your confidence! · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Hey everybody, welcome to the good morning from the Chicken
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  Coop podcast. My name is Kim Johnson and I am
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  a mastermindset coach, creative strategist, and also happen to
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  be a farmer. This is my chicken coop and I
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  come out here every day to record a podcast to teach
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  distinctions, possibilities, new ways of thinking, and just bring
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  some joy into the world. So welcome to the coop and let's
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  start your day off in a fantastic way.
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  Hey everybody, good afternoon from the chicken coop because
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  you know, it's that season where we shoot them in the afternoon
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  when we can't get out here early in the morning.
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  It's either the garage or this. So here we are and the girls are
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  having their snack. So you are joining them for
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  sunflower seeds and freeze dried worms.
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  Anyway, today we are talking about confidence because I heard
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  a quote recently and it was a take on it that I I am kind of
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  not opposed to, but I just don't disagree.
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  I mean, I don't agree with it and I feel like it's important
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  to tell the truth when I don't agree with things.
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  So this quote was the the only way confidence can grow is when
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  we are willing to be without it. And while that may be true in
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  certain situations, I disagree that it's the only way.
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  I I don't like absolutes, especially when it comes to
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  emotions. Because let's face it, when
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  you're a human being and you are operating in a world of
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  emotions, there are no absolutes.
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  Things can multiple things can be true at the same time.
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  Things can be wonky, Things can be different for each person.
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  Every interpretation is different.
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  So when we say something in an absolute frame, it it puts
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  people under pressure and it makes them feel like there's
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  something wrong with them. And that I just never like to do
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  because, you know, coaching, we live in the real world and
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  people tell us things that they don't tell other people.
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  And when you're a coach, you often hear, you know, oh, I
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  won't, I won't disagree with that person, but I'll tell you
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  the truth. And I find that so interesting,
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  fascinating and such a blessing that I get to be behind the
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  curtain and see what's really happening with people.
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  So when I hear that it, it makes me smile because I know I'm able
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  to really get in there and help people.
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  So when I hear something like the only way confidence can grow
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  is when we're willing to be without it, I kind of go, I
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  don't know about that because I don't think that's the only way.
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  I feel as though we have multiple ways we can cross
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  pollinate it. And for me, confidence is
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  something that comes from all different areas of our life.
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  You know, right from the time you're little, you start to
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  build skills. And it starts when you're
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  crawling. You know, at first you, you
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  watch a baby and they're up on their knees and their hands and
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  they can't go forward and they can't go backwards.
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  And they're just there and they're rocking and they're
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  trying to figure it out. And then they take a few little
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  movements forward and all of a sudden they start to gain some
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  confidence and then they're off and going.
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  So we as human beings can go all the way back to the time we were
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  an infant. Like, think about this for a
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  second. We can go all the way back to
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  the time we were an infant and say, hold on.
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  I have things that I can find beliefs in that show I can have
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  confidence in myself. Like I have confidence when I
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  stand up, I can walk or I have confidence that from I can put a
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  spoon in my hand and I can move it up to my mouth.
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  And, and you know, there are tons of places that we can do
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  this in our lives. But instead we want to look for
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  these big enormous things and say, well, I, I don't have any
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  confidence in myself that I can stand on stage and I can do this
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  because it's so far outside of our comfort zone.
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  And for me, you know, I can cross pollinate those things.
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  I can remember times when this worked.
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  So if you start thinking about all the simple little things you
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  have confidence in daily about you know, how to drive yourself
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  to work, you know how to get in a car and drive.
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  At one point in time, you didn't know how to drive and you did it
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  and you did it with excitement because most of us couldn't wait
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  to drive. We all wanted to drive so badly.
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  And we did it with excitement and we had no clue what we were
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  doing and we had to learn. And even when we were learning,
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  we were still excited about it. Like for most of us, we while we
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  were anxious about learning and getting there, our license was
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  such a thing that we were so enthralled with it.
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  We were gaining more and more knowledge and we were just
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  confident that we were going to crush that test.
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  Well, now guess what? Why can't you take that
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  confidence that you did then, that that bravado you had then
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  and bring it forward with you? You can.
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  You just have to remember it. You have to remember who was the
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  person who decided to drive. I remember when my dad was
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  teaching me how to drive a stick and I was terrified how to drive
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  a stick. And he said, no, you have to
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  learn how to drive a stick. You have to know this stuff.
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  And I was like, OK, and he took me out on this hill and it was
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  like dark at night. And he's like, OK, let's stop
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  the car and don't use the brake, just use the clutch and the gas.
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  And he was so adamant about me doing this.
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  And I remember I was scared and I was uncomfortable, but I had
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  confidence in him that he knew what he was doing.
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  And he's like, just listen for it, feel it, you'll hear it.
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  And he kept explaining it. And once I did that one little
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  thing, I thought, man, if I can hold this car on the hill, I can
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  pretty much do anything. And then it's the same thing
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  when I fire walked with Tony Robbins so many times and taught
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  thousands of people to fire walk.
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  Guess what? Once you fire walk, you're like,
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  OK, I've got that confidence I can bring forward with me.
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  So it's not just about the only way it can grow is one way is
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  saying, oh, you have to be without it.
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  No, cross pollinate it. Go to a time when it was easier
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  and you had it. Bring that forward with you.
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  That's a game changer, my friends.
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  All right, I hope you have a blessed day and I'll see you
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  tomorrow. Bye.