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How Do I Stop Being So Hard on Myself About Money? · Becoming Financially Confident

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  Hey, if you missed yesterday's show, Lorraine wrote to me and today she wrote back and she told me something she left out the first time.
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  Before she handed the man her mother's inheritance, she paid an attorney to review the contract and guess what?
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  He told her not to do it.
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  And she spent 18 years believing.
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  That proves she's a fool.
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  I think it proves the exact opposite and I want to show you why.
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  Because the same play was run on somebody listening right now.
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  So stick around and we're getting right into it.
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  And make sure you stay to the end because I've got a special announcement for all of our audience.
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  Hello and welcome to Financially Confident Christian.
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  I'm Ralph EsteppJr.
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  And if you missed us last time you met Lorraine.
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  And today I'm going to give you a quikcatchup foranothernewquestioner.Sohere'swhatyoumissedyesterday.If youdidn'tlistento theepisode,youcangolistentoit.But let me giveyoualittlebackground.She's69yearsold.She'sstillworking.Lost mostofhermother'sinheritancetoa manshemet at church.Buthere'sthebestpart andthepartthatshecompletelyleftout.
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  That'swhyyougotto golisten toyesterday'sepisode.She went fromanetworthofanegative $1400injusteightyears to$125,000.Andsheaskedmeyesterdayhowto practicallyliveoutMatthew6.Isenthera responseandshewrotebackand herreplyhada questionthat'sbeen hittingI'vebeenthinkingaboutfor days.Sotodaywe'regoingto talk abouthowdoyou actuallygetaparadigmshift?
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  AndI'mnottalkingaboutthatfeeling.Stopbeing so hardonyourselfbecauseeverybody'salreadytoldherthatandit hasn'tworkedonce.
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  How doyouactuallyputitdown?And ifyou've ever donethemathandyoustillfeellikeafailure,today'sshowisforyou.And ifyou've gotaquestionfortheshow justlikeDoreen's,youcan gettomebygoingtofinanciallyconfidentchristian.com?We'll puta link intheshownotes,but again,that'sfinanciallyconfidentchristian.com?
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  Well,likeIsaid,thisisthefollowup toLorraine'sfirst by going to financiallyconfidentchristian.com/question We'll put a link in the show surprisinglyquick that's financially confidentchristian.com/question Well, godlywisdom.
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  Istartedtocryafter thefirstfewsentencesandI'mcryingeven nowasIrespondto you.Okay,I'mtakingbacktheapology.Andthen she putlol.
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  I'veaskedpastorsandotherfinancialpeoplehowtonavigatemysituationandnoonehascomeevenslightly closeto yourdetailed and encouragingandbiblicalinsightfulresponse.Ifeelsohelpful, hopefulnowwithagreatsenseof directionandrelief.I'mgoingtoprintyouremailand keep itwhereIcanseeitdaily.I'malsogoingtoasksomeonetohelpmebe accountabletothisManyhavetoldmethatI'mtoohardonmyself.AnyadviceonhowI can haveabetter paradigmshift?Howdidyou learntoview thingsasyoudo?Ididn'tmention that I suedthescam artistandIlostoneofthetwopropertyclaimlawsuitsbecauseofmyChristian attorneywho apastorreferredtomeandmadeagreements withthe opposingcounselonanoldboy'shandshakewithout myknowledgeandwhenit came timetodeliver, theopposingside deniedtheunwrittenagreement.Theportionofthemoneyitwaswonback,wenttopaythe attorneysandsheputsarcthedeceptivethingwas thatthescamartist had tworealestateinvestmentcompanies.Heheldpaidtrainingclasses,hedidcoaching.
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  Hetook metothehomesundercontractandrepair soit lookedlegitimateandsuccessful.
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  Theinvestmentcheckwaswrittentohiscompany soit lookedlegit.
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  ButRalph,Iconsultedwithanattorneyaboutthewrittencontractandtheywarnedmenot to proceedbecauseIwould havenorecourseifthingsfellthrough.However,Ralphthescammerwasso convincingthat thismethodofrealestateinvestingwasnotunderstoodbymanyandtold meIshouldn'theedtheattorney'swarnings.Iwaslater told it waslikelyaPonzischeme.Lessonlearned,Ralph.Don'tassumeChristian isa safelabel.Nevermakeadecisionoutof desperation anddon'tignore theprompting oftheHolySpiritorgodlycounselandbegroundedinmyidentityinChristand behumble.Lastly,a lawsuitisn'talwayswiseas theenemycanuseittokill, stealand destroyyourtime,yourpeace,yourresources,yourhealthandyourdignity.Ofcourse, forgive.And thatincludesmyself.NowRalph, I'm stillworkingonthat one,butyou've helpedmestartthat.
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  Soyes,youmaycertainlyusemy story andmyfirstnameonly.Andthen Ilovewhatsheendsthiswith.Think about thestruggleshe's endedwith andthis iswhatshesays.Shesay, may Godbeglorified and someoneormanyreceivethehelpandencouragementtheyneed.God'sabundantblessingstoyou,praiseandthankstoJesus.
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  Lorraine.Lorraine,thank yousomuch.You'vereally humbled meinwhatyouwroteandI gotbacktoyoubecausethisiswhatIdo.Ifyouwritetome,ifyoureachouttome,wegetbackto you.Soletmeanswer yourdirect question firstbecausesheaskedmesomethingpersonalandshesaid,ralph,howdid Ilearnto livethingsthisway?Andhere'smy honestanswer.Ididn'tlearn itfrom abook.Ididn'tlearn itfromapulpit.
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  Iamnot anordainedminister.ILearnedit from30years ofworkingwithpeopledoing theiraccountingandtheirtaxwork.
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  I'm alicensedpublic accountantand forthreedecades I'vesat acrossadeskfrompeoplewhotheyslidtheir actualnumbersacross,nottheversiontheypost.I'mtalkingaboutthe realone.Andhere'swhatthat doesto you.I stoppedguessingaboutotherpeople.
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  I'veseenthereturnsbehind thevacationphotos.I've seen thesixfigure householdwith$40,000increditdebt.And I'veseenaretirecouplewhosepaid offbeachhousehasasecondmortgageon it.SowhenLorraine tellsmeallherfriendshaveretiredandaretraveling,I'm notencouragingher.I'mtellingherwhatI'veseen.Shedoesn'tknowthe balancesheets.
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  Sheknowstheparagraphsand thephotographsandthesocialmedia.
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  Thatparadigmshiftthat you'relookingfor, Lorraine,isn'tpositivethinking.
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  It'sbetterinformation.
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  Itrulybelieve thatshamerunsoncomparisonand comparison runsona datasetyoudon'tactuallyhave.Sotoday'sbigideayouasked meabouthowtostopbeingsohardonyourself.
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  Everyone'stoldhertodothat, but notasingleperson, according tohernotice,has ever told herhow.
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  SotodayI'mgoingtogiveyou sixthingsofhow tomakethatcorrectionandhowto stoplivingin thatguiltthatyoufeel.
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  Sohere'sthefirstoneandthisisgoing to besobold.You got towritethis onedown.Youcan'tbetheprosecutorand thejudge.
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  Youjustcan't.Read theletteragain.
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  Andwe're going to put alistofitin theshownotes.Watchwhatshedoeswhenyougobackandreview herletter.Sheextends gracetoeverybodyinthisstory exceptoneperson.
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  Thescammergetsafairdescription.Hescammed me.Hewasaguyfromchurch.The attorneywhocosthercasegetsscarequotesandanlol.Thepastorwhoreferredhimgetsnoblameatall.AndthensheturnsaroundandConvictsherself.Do youseewhat I'msayingthere?She'splayingallthreeroles.
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  She'splayingtheprosecutor,she'splayingthejudgeandshe'splayingadefendant.And the prosecutionhasan unlimitedbudgetwhilethedefensenevergetstospeak.Notasingle persongetsafairtrialinthat courtroom.Andit'snotbecausetheevidence is bad,becausetheprocessis rigged.
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  Sohere'smyfirstpracticalfix.Andit'snotafeeling,it'sarule.You gottaadoptthe same standardofevidenceforyourself thatyou useforotherpeople.Lorraine,hearmeonthis.Ifa69 year old woman sat downacrossfromyouandtoldyou yourstory, whatwouldyousay toher?Whatwould yousay out loud?
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  Whatwouldyou saytoyourselfnowthatyouseethatyoualreadyknowhowtodo this?You've done itforeveryoneelseinthe letter.Shejusthas excludedherself from thepolicy.Lorraine,you'renot toohard onyourselfbecauseyou'rehonest.You'retoo hardon yourselfbecauseyou'retheonlyone intheroomwithouta defenseattorney.You'reentitled toa defenseattorney.Here'sthesecond thing.Yougottolearnthe differencebetweenconvictionandshame.So manypeople getthistiedup.ThisisthesinglemostusefuldistinctionIknow.AndmostChristianshaveneverhaditexplainedto them.I'mgoing todothatright now.Convictionis specific,shameisglobal.Convictionsaysyouoverrodeyourattorney'swarning.Ofcourse that'sathing youdid,Lorraine.Yousaidit.Youoverrodewhatthe attorney saidtoyou.Goodlookingbackat itnowwith2020,Ishouldn't havedonethat.
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  That's whatconvictionsays.Convictionallowsyou todosomething aboutit.
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  But shame saysyou'reafoolishwoman andthat'swhoyou are.Youseethe differencethere?Thatshame isnevergoingto helpyou.Convictioncomeswithanexit.
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  You couldhavedecided,no, I'm notgoing totakethisadvice.Butshameisalockedroom.
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  Conviction tellsyouget counseland followitnexttime.Nowyouknowwhattodo.Butshamesaysyou'reirresponsiblewith money.Lorraine, what do you dowiththat?Youcan'tdoanything withthat.There'snoactioniteminit.Andhere'sthetest,andittakesfiveseconds.Ifyou'retryingto discern betweenconvictionandshame.
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  Does thisthought givemesomethingtodo?It'sreally thatsimple.Doesthisthought thatI'mhavingrightnowgive me something todo?Ifyoucanansweryes,that'sconviction.Sitwithit,obeyit,actonit.That'sGod.Whentheattorneysaid,lorraine,I wouldn'tdo this becauseyoudon'thaveanyrecourse,that'sconviction.But ifitonlygivesyou somethingtofeel,that'snot conviction.Crossthatout.Conviction changes behavior.Shamejustcost yousleep.And Lorraine,youlost alotofsleepaboutthisandnowlookatwhichoneshe'sbeenrunning for18years.It hasn'tproducedonechange.See,that'sthetell.Convictionhandsyouan assignment.Shame just handsyouaverdict.
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  If there'snothingtodowithdidn'tcomefromGod.Nowhere'sanotherthingIwantto talkabout.Iwanttotalkaboutthat warningyouignoredasthe proofhewasaprofessional.Thisistheheaviest thinginyourletterandIwantto takemytimewith it.You said youconsultedan attorney,even paid forit.Theattorneyread thecontractandtoldher,don'tdothis,you havenorecourse.Andwhatdidthescammersay?Thescammer toldherhismethodjustwasn'tunderstandorunderstoodbymanypeopleandthatshe shouldn'theedthat warning.And she's carriedthat for18yearsasexhibitAagainsther.Again,she'sprovinghercaseagainstherself.
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  Well,IwanttoenteritisexhibitAagainsthim.
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  Because thatmove,andif you'veheardsomebodysay this,ifyou've everheard,don'tlistentoyour advisor,theydon'tunderstandthis.That'snotsomethingtheyimprovise.That isa scriptedplay.Ithasaname.
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  It's calledIsolatingtheMark.I'veseenthisway toomany times.Everyseriousconincludesaninoculationagainstoutsidecounsel.Nowthat'safancywayofsayingit becausetheconmanknows exactlywhatthe professionalisgoingtosaywhen theyreadthe paper.Isee theseallthetime.Clientswillsendmesomething andsaid,ralph, tellmeifthis istoo goodto betrueandI'llreaditandI'll sayit'stoogoodtobetrue.
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  They'llcallmeaweeklater,they'llsendme anemaillike,well, Itoldtheguywhatyousaidand hetoldme you just didn'tunderstand,Ralph.
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  SoIdidit.Well, that's whythecon personis doingthis.Hewantstogetahead ofthat.Hetellsyouthewarningis comingandhe tells youwhatitmeans beforeyouevenhearit.Andlookateverythingelsehebuilttomakethatwork.Thinkaboutthescam heplayedhere atworealinvestmentcompanies.Hehadpaidtraining,classesandcoaching.You'renotjustgoingtomakemoney.Youpaytolearnfromhim,whichmakeshimthe teacherand youthe student.He even didsitevisitsundercontractandunder repairand acheckmadeout toa company,nota person.That'snota guy whowasluckywith agulliblewoman.Thisisaninfrastructure.Thiswasawelldevelopedcon.That'sacareerandyou weretheone tostoponit.
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  Soifyou're listeningrightnow,Iwantyouto writethisdownbecausethisisthewholeepisode for yourightnow.Ifanyoneevertellsyounottolistentoyourattorney,nottolistentoyouraccountant,nottolistentoyourpastor, thatis youranswer.
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  Youdon'teven havetoevaluatethedeal.Theadvicetoignore counselisthe fraud.Anybodythatgivesyoualegitimatedeal,atrulylegitimatedeal,isgoingtosurviveanattorney.It'sgoing tosurviveanaccountantreadingthem.That'stheentirepointof anattorney.Hedidn'tbeatyourjudgment.Heknew yourattorneywouldbeathim,sohegot youtoitfirst.That'snotyoubeing foolish.
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  That'shimbeing goodathisjob.He'sagoodscammer.Iwant toaddonecorrectiontoyour lessonlist.
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  Yourlessonlistisbetterthan mostofwhatIreadinmostfinance booksand Iwanttoaffirm almost allof it.Don'tassumeChristianisasafelabel.That'scorrect.
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  And shepaidforthatone twice.Once withthescammer andonce withtheattorney.
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  You said therenevermakeadecision outof desperation.
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  Correct.Don'tevermakearusheddecisionordecisionoutofdesperation.Yousaid,don'tignore godlycounsel.That'scorrect.And Iwanttoaddthisbecause Lorraine, Goddidanswer you.The attorneywastheanswer.Youhaditinyourhand.Youhaditin writing.Nowoneofthe thingsyousaidisalawsuitisn't alwayswise.Theycanbehardoneand true.You wona claimandtherecoverywenttothelawyers.That happens more thanpeopleknow.Thathappens allthetime.But there'sone itemonthat listIwantto takeoffandI'daskyouto hearmeouton thisone.Youwrote,behumble andthat'shonorable,Lorraine, buthumilitywasnotyourproblem.Humilitywasthetoolthe scammer usedagainstyou.Youdeferred toaconfident manovera credentialedprofessional.And your own guttoldyouthat.That'snotashortageofhumility.
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  That'sa shortageof authority.
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  Predatorslikethis personlovehumblepeople.Thisiswhytheygointhechurches.Becausethechurchisfullof humble, good,humiliatingpeople.Humilityisthedoorway they walkthrough.SoI'dreplace it.Notbehumble.Be humble beforeGodandbehardtomovebymen.Meeknessinscriptureisnot weakness.It'sstrengththat answersto God insteadof to whoeverisloudest intheroom.And noticeshealreadyputtheRussianrightthereonherownlist,rightnexttothewrongone.Begroundedinmy identityinChrist, Lorraine.That'sthefix.
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  That'stheonethat makesherhardtomove.Youdon'tneedmore humility.YouneededmoreauthoritytobehumblebeforeGod,hardtomoveby men.That's thewholelesson.ButLorraine,you'vealluded to something bighere.Andyou gottoknowwhyselfblameis sohardtoputdown.She says many peoplehavetoldhershe'stoohardonherself.Andwhyhasn'titworkedwhen peopletoldherthat?Becauseselfblameisdoingajobforher.Andnotasingle personhasaddressed thejob.Becausehere'sthetraitunderneathof it.Ifitwasmy fault, then Ihavecontroland Icanprevent itnexttime.Ifitwasn't myfault,if aprofessionalcriminalsimply targetedme, thentheworldisdangerous andrandomandI can'tguaranteeitwon'thappenagain.Thatself blamefeelslikeresponsibility.It'sactuallyabid forcontrol.That's whythatphraseofstopbeingsohardon yourselfnever lands.You'renotasking,you'retofeelbetter.You'reaskingtogiveuptheonlysteeringwheelyouthinkyouhave.So don'ttake itaway,justreplaceit.Lorraine, you wantto preventitfromhappeningagain,Good.
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  That'sa healthydesire.Thethingthatpreventsitisnotselfpunishment.It'sa rule.Likewe saidyesterday,thethird party custodianeverythinginwriting,never overrideprofessionalcounselanda48 hourruleonanydecision.Anyone isrushing you.Rulesprotectyou,shame justwatchesyou.And onceyou havetherule,youdon'tneedtheguilt.The guiltwasasubstitute forasystem.You've been usingthatshameasasecurity system.Itdoesn'twork, it'sexpensive.Sotradeitfor arule.Iwanttoland onemorething.Lorene.Forgivingyourselfisnotoptional.
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  You wroteitrightinyourletter.Yousaid forgiveandthat includesmyself.ButI'mstill workingonthatone.I wantto namewhat'sactuallyhappening inthat sentence,gently.IfGodhas forgivenyouand yourefuseto forgiveyourself,you'veset yourjudgmentabove his verdict.Andmostof usfeellike that'shumility,but it'snot.Humilityacceptstheruling.Ifyou're refusingtocloseacasethatGodhasalreadyclosed,that'snotbeingmodest.It'saquietappealofadecisionthatcamefroma highercourtthanyours.Idon'tknowaboutyou,but IthinkGod'sdecisionisthehighestcourtinthe land.
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  Andwhat you'rebasicallysayingis God,yeah,yousaidtoforgivemyself,butIcan'tbecauseIthinkthere's somethinghigher.
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  Practicallyselfforgivenessisn'ta feelingyouwait for.It'sadecision youmakerepeatedlyuntil the feelingcatches up.
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  AndLorraineis not going toarriveatfirst.It's latetothestationandit'sonlyusuallyafteryouobeyitdayinanddayout.
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  Onemore thing, and Imean this.Forgivingyourselfisnotthesameas sayingitdidn'tmatter,itmattered.It costyou ahouse,itcostyou18years.Itcostyouyoursenseofsafety.Andforgiveness doesn'tshrinktheloss.It justtakesyouoff the hookforacrimeyou didn'tcommit.Thisiswhatwegetsomessedup.
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  It'snota feeling.You'renotrequiredtofeelforgivenbeforeyou agreetobe forgiven.
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  Sometimesyoujustgottaagreefirst.Yes,Lord,I acceptthe forgiveness.Butyoumightstillfeellikeyou'renot.Butthatfeelingcomes lateranditcomestopeoplewhostoparguing aboutthe forgivenessthat was alreadygranted.Now,Lorraine,you toldme you criedwhenyoureadmyemailand you're stillcrying when youwroteback.But Idon'tthinkthat'sbecauseItold youanythingyoudidn'talreadyknow.Ithinkyou crybecausesomebodyfinallysaiditoutloudandyou're allowedtobelieveit.Here's whatfaithdoesn'tpromise.Unfortunately,it doesn'tpromisethe manis evercaught,he maygo on andscammorepeople.Itdoesn'tpromisethe 18yearsaregoingtocome backorthat themoneyreappearsorthatyou'reevergoingtofullyunderstandwhyGodletthatthiefwalkintothechurchandoutwithyourmother'shouse.Thosearequestionsthatmaynevergetanswered.Butitdoespromiseusonething.AndI wantyoutohearthissuperloudandclear.
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  Itpromisesthattheverdictonyouisalreadyin.Itwassignedinbloodonacross.Andit'snotupfor Appeal,includingbyyou.Romans,chapter8:1 says, sothereis nocondemnationforthosewhobelongtoChristJesus.Iwantyoutoreadthewordno.
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  No,notless,notmanageable.None.
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  Andnoticewhatitdoesn'tsay.Itdoesn'tsaythere'snoconsequence,Lorraine,you've suffered theconsequences.Itdoesn'tsaythere'snoloss.
• 21:28
  You'vehadreal loss.Anditdoesn'tsaythere'snolesson.You'velearnedalesson,Lorraine.You'vegottheconsequencesandyou're livinginthem.
• 21:39
  Whatit doessay isthere'snocondemnation.Thelossis real,butthatverdictagainstyouisnot.And,Lorraine,you'vebeenservingasentenceina casethatwasdismissed18yearsago and nobodytoldyou couldleave thecourtroomandgohomefree.
• 21:59
  Lorraine,youaskedmehow togetaparadigmshift.Hereitis, andit'sinonesentence.You'vebeentreatingyourworstdayas evidenceaboutwho youarewhenitwas onlyeverevidenceaboutwhohe was.
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  Putdownhisfile.Itwasneveryourstocarry.
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  Yousaidyou'restillworking onforgivingyourself.Workingon itisn't failingatit.
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  It'stheonlywayanybodyhaseverdone it.Itisn'tgoingtohappenovernight.It'saprocess.Andwhena woman whoends a letteraboutherownrobbery,whatdidshesayinher firstone?Shefelt likeshe wasraped.Anywomanwhoendsaletteraboutherownrobberywiththesewords,may Godbeglorified.
• 22:46
  Let metellyourightnow,thatgaveme goosebumps.She's notbehind on her healing.She'saheadofmostofus.
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  Sohere'smywinfortoday.Iwantyouto writedowntheharshest sentenceyousayto yourselfaboutmoney.Whatis the harshestsentenceyourepeattoyourself?Iwantyoutowritedowntheexactwords.
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  It'lltakeyoufiveminutes.Whatis theharshestsentenceyousay toyourselfaboutmoney?Andunderit,Iwant youtowriteone question.Doesthisgivemesomething todo?Doesthisgiveme somethingtodo?
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  If theanswerisyes, write theactionnextto it.
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  That'sconviction.Andthengodoit.Ifitonlygivesyousomethingto feel,Iwantyou totakeanddrawalinestraightthroughit.
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  Thatshame, anditdidn'tcomefromGod.Not journaling,notaffirmation,justonesentenceandonequestion.Youcan't argue withafeeling, butyoucanauditasentence,getitoutof your headandonto paper,whereit isananswertoitself.Now,Lorraine,IfoundaBibleversefortodaythatIthinkisgoingtobe encouraging.It comes fromSecondCorinthians,chapter7,verse10.
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  ItsaysforkindofsorrowGodwantsus toexperienceleads usawayfromsinandresultsinsalvation.There'snoregretforthatkindofsorrow.Butworldlysorrow whichlacks repentanceresults inspiritualdeath.
• 24:17
  PauldrawstheexactlineIdrew insteptwoand he drewit 2,000yearsearlier.Thereis asorrowthatmovesyouand asorrowthatjusteatsyou.Godlysorrow gotLorraineher lessonslist.
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  Lorraineisgenuinelywiser.
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  She'llnevermakethose decisionsagain.That'sagoodkind.AndPaulsaysyoudon'tregretit.Worldly sorrow isthe 18yearsofself punishmentthat producenothing.Justthinkaboutthat.Thesameevent, two completely differentsorrows.You've beencarryingbothandonly oneofthemisfromGod.
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  Soit's timetoletthatgo.Howaboutweprayandthen I'vegota specialannouncement tomake.
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  HeavenlyFather,againtodayI'mprayingfor Lorraine.Whata strongwoman.Andshe camebacktouslater,Lord, andIthankyoufor that.Ithank youforgivingmethe ability toreachpeopleandtheabilitytotalktopeople.Lord, Iknowthatyou speakingthroughme,butshe'sstillcarryingacaseagainstherselfthatyouclosedalongtimeago.Shetoldus she'sstillworkingonforgivingherself, Lord, meetherinthatworking.Helphertounderstandthat,Lord.Take thatprosecutor'svoiceoutofher headandletherhearyourgentle voiceinstead.Giveher thesermonshe's askingforandmakeherhardtomovebyconfidentmenwho aretryingtoscamher.Lord, blessthatperson.She'saskingtoholdheraccountableandgive hertherightone,Lord.Andthank youthatshegotawarningshecouldn't usethen,but let hertrustherowngutnow, Lord.
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  AndLord,sheaskedthatthisbe usedforsomeoneelse'sgood.Lord,Ijustaskthatyou woulddothat.Iknow somebodythat'swatchingorlisteningright nowislearningfromthis, Lord,and Ijustpraise youforthat.Somebody rightnowissittinginthatsameshameanddoesn'tknowit'snottheirs.Lord,helpthemto break thatshame.
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  AndIaskthisinJesusname.Amen.Friend,ifyou'vebeen quietly servinga sentence forsomethingthat wasdonetoyou,Ihopetoday feltlikea dooropening.Nothingaboutthepasthaschangedin the last littlebitoftime.What's changediswhotheevidenceis actuallyabout.Sohere's mytakeawaysfortoday.Give yourselfthatsamestandardofevidenceyou giveeveryoneelse.Sayit outloudtoday.Andremember,conviction givesyou somethingtodo.Shameonly givesyousomethingtofeel.Audit thatsentence.Andifanyoneevertellsyou,hearmeon this,pleasehearme onthis.Ifanyone,anyoneever tellsyou toignore yourattorney,ignore youraccountant oryour pastor, thatisyouranswer.Youdon't needmorehumility.HumblebeforeGod, hardtomove bymenandtradethatshame fora rule.Everythingin writing,thirdpartycustodian,48hourson anythingrushed.Andforgive yourselfbydecision,notby feeling.
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  Thatfeelingis goingtocomelater.
• 27:09
  AndLorraine, Ijustwanttosaythankyouforlettingus use yourstory.Somebodyneededit, Lorraine.AndI'm tellingyourightnow,therearepeoplethatarebeing moved byyourwords.They'vemoved me andthey'vemovedmyteam.Andifyou've gotaquestionfor thisshow,Iwouldlovetohearit.Youcanreachmebygoingtofinanciallyconfidentchristian.comvoicemail.We'llputalinkin the shownotes,but again,that'sfinanciallyconfidentchristian.com voicemail.Now,beforeIgo,I told youI had somethingIwantedtomention.
• 27:39
  I'vegotsomethingto tell you.StartingonMonday,August31,thisshowisgoingtobeabrandnewliveshow andit'sgoingtobecalledBecomingFinanciallyConfident.It'sgoing tobeliveevery weekdayat11:30am Eastern.It'sgoingto be afullhourwithmeanda cohost.No morejustRalphblatheringon.You'regoing to listen tomeandmycohostandwe'restill goingto talkaboutrealbills,we'retalkingaboutreal numbers,nojargon andofcourse,no shame.Andmyfavoritepartis livechatis goingto bepartofthe showsoyoucangetyour questionsanswered righton air.Thepodcastisn'tgoinganywhere.Theliveshowiswherewegodeeperinrealtime.
• 28:17
  Andif11:30doesn'twork foryou, don'tworryaboutit.We're goingtogo liveat 11:30Easternandwe'llshowyouhowtodothatright intheshownotesandthenthewholeshowgetsreleasedasapodcastepisodelaterthatday.Soyoucanchoosetobe withusthere liveoryoucancatchus onyourdrivehome.Andagain,itstartsonMonday,August31stat11:30amEastern andIwouldloveto seeyouthere.
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  Sothank you somuchfor joiningme today.I wanttoencourageyou.
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  We'vehadagreattwodaysstayfinanciallysavvy.MayGodblessyouandyou haveatrulygreatday.It.//