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5-MINUTE FRIDAY: If You Want to Be a Part of the Play, You Have to Start By Lacing Up Your Shoes · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: Hey everybody, Emily Abadi coming to you from my Los
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  Speaker 1: Angeles hotel room. This is the last thing that I'm doing,
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  Speaker 1: getting this five minute Friday squared away before heading to
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  Speaker 1: the airport to come back to Brooklyn, New York after
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  Speaker 1: a while.
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  Speaker 2: What an unbelievable few days.
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  Speaker 1: I came out to Los Angeles to be a part
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  Speaker 1: of Nike's Future fifty for her summit. I will call
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  Speaker 1: it a really unbelievable gathering of inspirational women, members of
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  Speaker 1: the media, athletes, executives, entrepreneurs talking about the past fifty
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  Speaker 1: years of the company and the future fifty.
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  Speaker 2: Where we're going and how.
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  Speaker 1: We can each play I would say an integral part
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  Speaker 1: of that journey that we each have the opportunity to
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  Speaker 1: be a role model for someone else. I was surrounded by,
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  Speaker 1: Oh my goodness, just unbelievable humans, from Joe and Benoit
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  Speaker 1: Samuelson and Lisa Leslie to Chloe Kim. We had an
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  Speaker 1: unbelievable meditation led by a woman named Rebecca Price. Got
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  Speaker 1: to finally connect with Tunday Irl. I mean, seriously, I
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  Speaker 1: was just so in awe of my surroundings. A huge
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  Speaker 1: thank you to Nike for including me in this event
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  Speaker 1: and today's five Minute Friday Surprised to No One is
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  Speaker 1: a reflection that I had from this week of programming. Specifically,
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  Speaker 1: it was something that Lisa Leslie said in a session
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  Speaker 1: on Wednesday, and it was along the lines of if
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  Speaker 1: you want to be a part of the play, then
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  Speaker 1: you have to be willing to lace up your shoes.
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  Speaker 2: This idea that if you.
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  Speaker 1: Don't put yourself out there, then you'll never know if
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  Speaker 1: you want to be a change maker, if you want
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  Speaker 1: to be someone that is going to make a difference,
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  Speaker 1: then you have to be willing to step outside of
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  Speaker 1: your comfort zone and put yourself out there. And I
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  Speaker 1: think so often it's easy, especially with the craziness of
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  Speaker 1: social media, to look at what others are doing and
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  Speaker 1: think like, wow, it's so cool that this person is
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  Speaker 1: doing X or Y without giving yourself a little bit
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  Speaker 1: of credit and being your own hype human, your own
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  Speaker 1: hype woman. You know, there's that saying which is a
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  Speaker 1: little comical, but we all have as many hours in
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  Speaker 1: the day as Beyonce, and for me, I think a
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  Speaker 1: lot about that, like what is it that I.
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  Speaker 2: Want to do in my life?
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  Speaker 1: And am I putting myself in the positions and the
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  Speaker 1: circumstances within my.
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  Speaker 2: Ability to go after that.
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  Speaker 1: And even if you're intimidated or scared or worried like
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  Speaker 1: these are all valid feelings, but letting those feelings take charge.
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  Speaker 1: Letting your fear be the thing that holds you back
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  Speaker 1: from going after your big potential, it doesn't serve you.
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  Speaker 1: So if you want to play in the game, if
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  Speaker 1: you want to have an opportunity to step on the stage,
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  Speaker 1: then you need to lace up your sneakers. It needs
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  Speaker 1: to start with one small action, and that small action
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  Speaker 1: can make a major difference. It's something I'm alling over
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  Speaker 1: here thinking about what sneakers I'm going to grab to
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  Speaker 1: lace up and get myself into some of the conversations
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  Speaker 1: to see to some of the tables that I'm excited
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  Speaker 1: to be a part of going forward.
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  Speaker 2: My prompt for you.
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  Speaker 1: This week, where have you been holding yourself back? What
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  Speaker 1: is something that you want for yourself? A goal that
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  Speaker 1: you have that maybe you've been a little anxious about
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  Speaker 1: when it comes to lacing up and going for it again.
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  Speaker 1: What is a goal that you have on your radar?
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  Speaker 1: How can you lace up and go after your big potential?
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  Speaker 2: And you know what, while you're at it. While you're
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  Speaker 2: thinking about this, I challenge you.
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  Speaker 1: To put your goal into the universe. So maybe it's
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  Speaker 1: on social tag hurdle podcast. Tag me over at Emily
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  Speaker 1: a buddy. Let's type each other up. Let's be each
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  Speaker 1: other's biggest hype men women. You know the gist and
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  Speaker 1: now a listener question.
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  Speaker 2: Hi, Emily, this is Greg in Orange County, California. Can
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  Speaker 2: you talk us through some steps that you take to
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  Speaker 2: reset after a bad choice?
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  Speaker 1: Maybe it was a night of.
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  Speaker 2: Drinking, or you develoured those delicious chocolate covered pretzels like
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  Speaker 2: you know, the whole bag. Talk us through how you
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  Speaker 2: move forward mentally and otherwise.
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  Speaker 1: Thanks the rare male hurdler question, Greg, thanks for listening
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  Speaker 1: to the show. I love this question because it is
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  Speaker 1: so easy to get down on yourself for a choice
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  Speaker 1: that may have felt really good in the moment but
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  Speaker 1: didn't make you feel super stellar in the aftermath. Your
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  Speaker 1: example of like eating a whole bag of chocolate covered pretzels, Like,
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  Speaker 1: I'm not going to be the person that says that
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  Speaker 1: that doesn't happen from time to time, but the importance
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  Speaker 1: is that you have grease with yourself after you do
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  Speaker 1: something like that knowing and recognizing how you feel in
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  Speaker 1: the aftermaths, because that feeling, that attentiveness, that agency you
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  Speaker 1: have the opportunity to take is what may prevent you
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  Speaker 1: from making a similar mistake if that's what you feel
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  Speaker 1: like it was the next time. So if you realize
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  Speaker 1: and say to yourself, hey, doing that really didn't make
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  Speaker 1: me feel good, then the next time that you think
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  Speaker 1: about leaning into an entire bag of chocolate covered pretzels
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  Speaker 1: because of something emotional that might be going on or whatever,
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  Speaker 1: or maybe you just wanted to, you might think twice
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  Speaker 1: the next time. But the important takeaway that I want
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  Speaker 1: here and obviously these decisions you know you mentioned a
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  Speaker 1: night of drinking, It can be anything, right. It doesn't
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  Speaker 1: need to be food or diet related at all. It
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  Speaker 1: could be like a conversation that didn't go the right way,
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  Speaker 1: or a business decision that just feels all sorts of wonky.
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  Speaker 1: Like the important thing is that you have grace with
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  Speaker 1: yourself when things don't go as planned or when you
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  Speaker 1: quote unquote mess up, and understanding that each of these moments,
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  Speaker 1: each of these hurdles, has the opportunity to teach you something.
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  Speaker 1: Each of these hurdles can inform how you move forward,
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  Speaker 1: and the idea of having grace with yourself. Life is
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  Speaker 1: hard enough, so you need to come back to the
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  Speaker 1: idea that we talk about from time to time on
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  Speaker 1: the show, that inner dialogue, talking to yourself like you
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  Speaker 1: would a loved one, thinking about how someone next to
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  Speaker 1: you would feel if they heard the way that you're
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  Speaker 1: talking to yourself.
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  Speaker 2: Would you be.
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  Speaker 1: Embarrassed by that? Or is this a place of harmony?
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  Speaker 1: Is this a place of love? Are you giving yourself
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  Speaker 1: the love that you give to other people? So have
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  Speaker 1: some grace with yourself, talk to yourself as kindly as possible,
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  Speaker 1: and recognize that every single second is a chance to
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  Speaker 1: start over, a chance to start fresh and move On's
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  Speaker 1: this week over at Hurdle Podcast at Emily a Body
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  Speaker 1: on the Socials, Another hurdle conquered. Catch you all next time.