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Carli Lloyd's Birth Story: Hunter’s Birth and a Postpartum Health Scare · Whatever It Takes with Carli Lloyd and Jenny Taft

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  Speaker 1: It was absolutely just crazy. I probably never felt that
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  Speaker 1: much pain in my entire life than that experience, which
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  Speaker 1: was crazy. I mean, I had needles everywhere in my
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  Speaker 1: hands and my arms. I had hooked up to all
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  Speaker 1: sorts of bags. And yeah, it was quite an experience.
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  Speaker 1: I wasn't really... seeing light at the end of the
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  Speaker 1: tunnel at one point, but Friday morning waking up, I
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  Speaker 1: was like, oh my gosh, like I finally feel somewhat better.
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  Speaker 2: Welcome to Whatever It Takes with Carly Lloyd and Jenny Taft,
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  Speaker 2: and I am So thrilled to be back reunited with Carly.
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  Speaker 2: It's been a couple weeks off because she was busy
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  Speaker 2: with a new baby, and I will let Carly give
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  Speaker 2: the intro of who we're introducing, but I just have
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  Speaker 2: to say I'm so happy to be back with you.
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  Speaker 1: I truly have missed our chats. I know. You said
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  Speaker 1: two weeks. It kind of felt longer than that, to
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  Speaker 1: be honest. Yes, and a lot has happened. A lot
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  Speaker 1: has happened. We'll get into that. It's been a you know,
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  Speaker 1: a little bit of a rough, rough journey. But I
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  Speaker 1: am back, and it's good to be back. And yes,
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  Speaker 1: I missed our chats. I know you had a solo
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  Speaker 1: one without me, so I'm looking forward to listening to
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  Speaker 1: that one as well. I appreciate it.
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  Speaker 2: It was all about time management, and I can report
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  Speaker 2: back that I've made some progress. So the lists continue,
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  Speaker 2: but she was wonderful, and I'm excited for you to listen.
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  Speaker 1: But I prefer to do this with you. I appreciate that.
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  Speaker 2: You take your time, but I much... would rather be
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  Speaker 2: sitting with you and chatting with you. And Carly, I
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  Speaker 2: want you to introduce who's here, but I also have
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  Speaker 2: to say, I know it was not the easiest of deliveries.
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  Speaker 2: So whatever you feel like sharing or don't want to share, please,
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  Speaker 2: you know, this is kind of up to you, but
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  Speaker 2: we're just so happy you're here.
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  Speaker 1: And may I also say you're glowing right now. So
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  Speaker 1: what's going on? It kind of worked out perfectly that
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  Speaker 1: we had some new newborn photos done today. So my
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  Speaker 1: wonderful makeup artist, hair and makeup artist, Liz, came down
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  Speaker 1: from New York, from Brooklyn, did my hair and makeup
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  Speaker 1: because I've, I've needed, I've needed some help since it's
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  Speaker 1: been very rough to say the least. But yeah, look, we're,
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  Speaker 1: we're here. We're healthy hunters, healthy as can be. I
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  Speaker 1: am back, but yeah, it was not ideal. Not ideal.
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  Speaker 1: Not ideal.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, shout out, Liz, because you do not look
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  Speaker 2: like you've been through it, even though I know you have.
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  Speaker 2: So we'll give her that because if anyone needs anyone
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  Speaker 2: in New York City, Liz is your gal. You are
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  Speaker 2: you look incredible, but I do know it was a lot.
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  Speaker 2: So I mean, we were texting. I would maybe we
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  Speaker 2: could just start from the beginning if that's cool with you.
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  Speaker 2: And I don't remember when we stopped down from recording
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  Speaker 2: how you.
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  Speaker 1: Were close to your due date. I was. I think
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  Speaker 1: I was. Yeah, I don't know if I was maybe
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  Speaker 1: a week away. September 17th was actual due date. And obviously,
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  Speaker 1: when you do an embryo transfer, you pretty much kind
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  Speaker 1: of know when your due date is going to be,
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  Speaker 1: although it's still a guesstimate. So yeah, I was all prepared.
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  Speaker 1: I was ready. I had my hair done. My nails
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  Speaker 1: were done. But this baby just didn't want to come
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  Speaker 1: right away. So you know, you have all the appointments.
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  Speaker 1: I had the weekly appointments at this point, doing the
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  Speaker 1: non-stress tests, going in there because of my age and just,
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  Speaker 1: you know, the varying factors of that. And for me,
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  Speaker 1: you know, I think the hardest part was, you know,
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  Speaker 1: with Harper, I wanted to naturally try to give birth, right?
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  Speaker 1: You know, you don't want to go through all the
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  Speaker 1: inductions and the Pitocin and the epidural and all those things.
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  Speaker 1: And it wasn't just to test how strong I was
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  Speaker 1: as a human being to naturally deliver a baby. It,
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  Speaker 1: for me, the recovery process from what I've heard is
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  Speaker 1: a lot easier and, you know, and things go, you know,
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  Speaker 1: a lot quicker. So that obviously didn't happen with Harper.
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  Speaker 1: I stuck it out for probably 24 hours too long
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  Speaker 1: without an epidural and Was doing all of the things,
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  Speaker 1: the cook balloon, the Pitocin, trying everything, a bath, until
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  Speaker 1: finally the epidural came into play. And I slept a
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  Speaker 1: couple hours, felt great. It was heaven. And then, you know,
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  Speaker 1: next thing you know, we're progressing. Pushed her out in
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  Speaker 1: 30 minutes. Okay. We were good to go. So with Harper,
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  Speaker 1: I had a really painful labor, but a pretty easy delivery. Interesting. again,
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  Speaker 1: not easy per se, but minimal tearing. And yeah, just
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  Speaker 1: my postpartum was way different than what it was this
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  Speaker 1: time around. So this time around, obviously my age, 44,
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  Speaker 1: was going past 40 weeks. So my OB and midwife
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  Speaker 1: were getting a little bit concerned. They didn't want to
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  Speaker 1: go past 41 weeks. So when I went to the
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  Speaker 1: doctors on that Monday, which was, I don't even remember
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  Speaker 1: the date. I can go back into my calendar. The
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  Speaker 1: Monday of the due date? Yes. So the 21st, September 21st,
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  Speaker 1: I had an appointment. Okay. They checked to see if
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  Speaker 1: I was dilated because I had been having some you know,
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  Speaker 1: period-like cramps over the weekend. And I finally thought that
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  Speaker 1: my body was kind of kick-starting into labor. And I
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  Speaker 1: went in and I was one centimeter dilated. So I
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  Speaker 1: had been one centimeter dilated pretty much for about a
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  Speaker 1: week and a half. My cervix was only like 50 percent.
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  Speaker 1: What did they say?
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  Speaker 2: Faced or something they call it. That sounds a fancy
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  Speaker 2: word I wouldn't know, but I know what you mean.
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  Speaker 2: So it was not as far as long as we hoped.
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  Speaker 1: So after that appointment, my OB and midwife group, they
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  Speaker 1: had a plan and they wanted to induce me. And,
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  Speaker 1: you know, hearing those words, you know, I know that
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  Speaker 1: to each their own. Some women are all for it.
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  Speaker 1: They schedule it. They want it. You know, for me,
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  Speaker 1: I'm just kind of like, man, like, here we go again.
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  Speaker 1: My water broke a bit earlier with Harper. I went in,
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  Speaker 1: I wasn't dilated. And then here we are again, this
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  Speaker 1: baby doesn't want to come out. I'm not dilated. And
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  Speaker 1: now I have to get induced and go through that
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  Speaker 1: kind of that whole process again. But at the end
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  Speaker 1: of the day, I just want to deliver a healthy baby.
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  Speaker 1: So I trusted my group and I said, okay, here
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  Speaker 1: we go. Right. And it kind of gave us a
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  Speaker 1: little bit more of clarity and scheduling and figuring out
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  Speaker 1: my parents coming over, being able to watch Harper, all
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  Speaker 1: these things. So on the Tuesday, which was the September 22nd,
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  Speaker 1: I was basically waiting for a call. I was scheduled
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  Speaker 1: to be induced that night around 7 p.m. or go
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  Speaker 1: in there around 7 p.m., but pending beds and all
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  Speaker 1: of that. So I hadn't heard from anybody and I
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  Speaker 1: was waiting and waiting and And then I finally heard
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  Speaker 1: from someone. I finally was like, okay, I'm just going
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  Speaker 1: to go to bed. Yeah. That's scary. Yeah, very.
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  Speaker 2: Weird.
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  Speaker 1: And my parents had been at our house, thankfully, because
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  Speaker 1: I had, basically, when you're scheduled to be induced, or
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  Speaker 1: at least this is how it is at our hospital,
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  Speaker 1: you have to be brought in within 24 hours. So
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  Speaker 1: I knew at least 24 hours I'd be brought in
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  Speaker 1: at some point. But at 1130 at night, I get
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  Speaker 1: a call saying that there's a bed that opened up.
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  Speaker 1: Would I like to come in? And I'm like, I mean,
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  Speaker 1: I think so. I mean, I didn't know there was
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  Speaker 1: an option.
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  Speaker 2: Weird.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't know that. Yeah, really, really bizarre. And so,
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  Speaker 1: you know, gather my things. Brian gets his things. We
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  Speaker 1: leave the house and I go in. And so I
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  Speaker 1: basically was doing 12 hours of Cervidil, which is something
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  Speaker 1: they put up. by your cervix to help thin it and,
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  Speaker 1: you know, speed up the process. So it was just
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  Speaker 1: all about hanging out for those 12 hours. You know,
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  Speaker 1: they come in, they take your vitals, do all those things.
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  Speaker 1: And after the 12 hours, I really wasn't dilated much
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  Speaker 1: at all. So the next step was to do the
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  Speaker 1: cook balloon, which there's a lot of people that have
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  Speaker 1: heard of that. Now with Harper, I didn't have an
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  Speaker 1: epidural when that was put in. which people say that
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  Speaker 1: that's absolutely pretty insane because it is very painful. I
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  Speaker 1: had it in for 14 hours. You can leave that
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  Speaker 1: in for up to 15. It should fall out itself,
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  Speaker 1: but it's basically balloons that they inject with saline that
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  Speaker 1: are supposed to help open up your cervix again. That's crazy. Crazy.
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  Speaker 1: So I learned my lesson. I elected for the epidural
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  Speaker 1: before we did all of these things. So I had
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  Speaker 1: the epidural and then had the cook balloon in. I
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  Speaker 1: think that was in for maybe about four hours. It
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  Speaker 1: actually came out. out and maybe got me to three
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  Speaker 1: centimeters or so. So again, kind of slowly progressing through.
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  Speaker 1: And then it was just a waiting game. You know,
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  Speaker 1: the Pitocin was kicking in. Again, I was pain-free this labor.
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  Speaker 1: You were pain-free.
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  Speaker 2: Okay. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Epidural was working great. Doing the job. Just hanging out, waiting.
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  Speaker 1: And this labor, so with Harper, it was about 36 hours.
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  Speaker 1: With Hunter, it was about 31 hours. So, yeah, like
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  Speaker 1: I said, just kind of hanging out, letting things marinate, waiting.
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  Speaker 1: And then I started to progress. And obviously the nurse
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  Speaker 1: comes in, they're changing your position, they're putting, you know,
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  Speaker 1: a ball in. in between your legs or doing all
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  Speaker 1: sorts of things just to continuously try to open things up.
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  Speaker 1: And things started to kind of progress towards the end. My,
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  Speaker 1: my one OB, um, it's kind of, I mean, kind
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  Speaker 1: of a funny story. She actually lives close to the hospital.
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  Speaker 1: So she went home to take a shower. Um, at
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  Speaker 1: this point she had heard that I was like five,
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  Speaker 1: six centimeters. So there was really no rush. Okay. So
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  Speaker 1: then my midwife is there with Brian and one of
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  Speaker 1: the other nurses. So it's the three of them in
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  Speaker 1: the room. And she's like, whoa, you know, I think
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  Speaker 1: you're progressing pretty quickly. I think you can start pushing.
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  Speaker 1: So she had texted my OB, you know, pushing. So she's,
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  Speaker 1: you know, scooting over, trying to get over there faster.
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  Speaker 1: And I start pushing. And... we realized that Hunter's shoulder
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  Speaker 1: was getting stuck. It was underneath like one of my,
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  Speaker 1: like the one side of my cervix. That's crazy. So
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  Speaker 1: every time I would push, his heart rate would be okay.
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  Speaker 1: But then his head would go back in and his
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  Speaker 1: heart rate was dropping. So that was continuously happening, which
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  Speaker 1: was really scary. And yeah, At this point, you could
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  Speaker 1: kind of, I could kind of sense that there was
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  Speaker 1: something not right. Okay. All of a sudden, a flood
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  Speaker 1: of people come in. The NICU team comes in.
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  Speaker 2: Wow.
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  Speaker 1: You know, whether somebody was told or there was a
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  Speaker 1: button pushed, I had, you know, and I don't really
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  Speaker 1: recall a lot of this just because, you know, you're
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  Speaker 1: focusing on pushing and it's brutal. Gives me the chills.
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  Speaker 1: That's scary. Yeah, very scary.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: The next thing I know, I see Brian kind of
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  Speaker 1: like nearly passed out on the couch. What was it from... Sorry, Brian,
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  Speaker 1: but like what about the experience?
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  Speaker 2: Was it the amount of people? Did it suddenly overwhelm him?
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  Speaker 2: Scary in a way?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, because it just went from... It happened quick. You know,
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  Speaker 1: we're just going to start pushing to so many things
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  Speaker 1: escalating with so many different people. I had a nurse
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  Speaker 1: kind of like... push him out of the way. Again,
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  Speaker 1: this was kind of being told to me after the fact,
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  Speaker 1: to push on my stomach, on the outside of my stomach,
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  Speaker 1: on the opposite side of where Hunter was stuck, to
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  Speaker 1: try to manipulate him as I'm pushing to get him out.
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  Speaker 1: And then the next thing you know, since my OB,
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  Speaker 1: the midwife can't use forceps, My OB could have used forceps,
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  Speaker 1: but she was running into the delivery room. I see.
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  Speaker 1: Didn't even have like her proper shoes on. She kicked
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  Speaker 1: off her, you know, personal shoes. Obviously, she didn't want
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  Speaker 1: them to get bloody. And she came in and, you know,
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  Speaker 1: just started obviously like working hands on. But they had
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  Speaker 1: already called another doctor in to use the forceps. And
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  Speaker 1: she came in and basically... said, we need to get
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  Speaker 1: this baby out like right away. So, you know, from
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  Speaker 1: that point on, you're like, okay, there's something like not right.
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  Speaker 1: And I was having to still push through all this.
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  Speaker 1: So I remember looking at my midwife saying like, you know,
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  Speaker 1: anytime anyone hears something about forceps, you get freaked out.
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  Speaker 1: But I had the best of the best team on,
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  Speaker 1: you know, the Dr. Zender, who was the one who
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  Speaker 1: ended up using the forceps, I think with one try,
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  Speaker 1: got him out along with my push. And yeah, he
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  Speaker 1: came out and He was, um, perfectly fine. And yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I mean, it was, and, and, you know, I lost
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  Speaker 1: a lot of blood. I mean, I lost probably almost
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  Speaker 1: a liter of blood. I think they say in a C-section,
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  Speaker 1: you maybe, you lose like 500 liters. Um, so a
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  Speaker 1: lot of blood, a lot of manipulation, a lot of, um,
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  Speaker 1: making sure that everything came out of my uterus so
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  Speaker 1: I don't hemorrhage. And he was a big boy. He
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  Speaker 1: was 9'3. Huge. Unbelievable. How big was Harper? 5'14, but
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  Speaker 1: she also had a two-vessel cord, so she was tinier.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, he was a week late, but I mean, yeah.
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  Speaker 1: That's huge. Huge. Huge. I was 9'9.
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  Speaker 2: I think my mom had forceps on me, so I think,
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  Speaker 2: I hope that provides.
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  Speaker 1: Confirmation that all will be okay. You seem totally fine.
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  Speaker 1: I think so. Now, I have been told that they
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  Speaker 1: do use them differently now. I think before they used them,
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  Speaker 1: it was too high up, you know, in the pelvis,
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  Speaker 1: I guess. Now they wait, I guess, until the head is...
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  Speaker 1: you know, down lower and whatnot. But the doctor was like, look,
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  Speaker 1: if we can't get them out with the forceps, they're
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  Speaker 1: going to have to vacuum them out. I'm like, oh
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  Speaker 1: my gosh, you know, so. Wow.
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  Speaker 2: So the shoulder being stuck, was that, could that have, like,
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  Speaker 2: could you have ever known that? There's no way of
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  Speaker 2: knowing until you start pushing.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't think so. And I think hindsight 2020,
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  Speaker 1: you know, I was talking with my OB and she said,
• 16:35
  Speaker 1: you know, It was probably ignorance is bliss because I
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  Speaker 1: guess if they maybe knew that he was this big
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  Speaker 1: and the whole situation and everything, I probably would have
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  Speaker 1: had a C-section. So true. You know, but thankfully, I mean,
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  Speaker 1: everything went according to plan, and he came out, and
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  Speaker 1: he was healthy, and I just couldn't believe, like, how big.
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  Speaker 2: I was like, no wonder why my back hurt. And
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  Speaker 2: the heart rate was okay once he came out?
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  Speaker 1: Heart rate was good. Okay. Because that's what I think
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  Speaker 1: you were texting me. That's always just so scary. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: It was one of those things where when you're hearing
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  Speaker 1: the doctor saying, like, we need to get this baby
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  Speaker 1: out now. It's, it's not very comforting hearing that, you know?
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  Speaker 1: So yeah. And, and Brian was just, you know, I
• 17:28
  Speaker 1: know we, we talk about the mom and, you know, and,
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  Speaker 1: and all of that, but the husbands and the spouses,
• 17:36
  Speaker 1: you know, your support system, I mean, it's, it's just
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  Speaker 1: as traumatic if not more because they're seeing more. And
• 17:45
  Speaker 1: he saw a lot, you know, and just everybody there
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  Speaker 1: and what was happening. And yeah, he's like, I can't
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  Speaker 1: even talk about it. I'm still like, it's still traumatizing
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  Speaker 1: to me.
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  Speaker 2: It's almost like you said, you're almost unaware in the
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  Speaker 2: moment because you're in it.
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  Speaker 1: You're pushing. Yes, you're aware of who's in the room,
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  Speaker 1: but it's just you kind of get in a zone. Oh, yeah.
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  Speaker 2: And poor Brian had to kind of be there. able
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  Speaker 2: to receive everyone and make sure you're okay and figure
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  Speaker 2: out what was happening.
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  Speaker 1: Like, that's a really scary thing for any partner. Very. Okay. Well,
• 18:24
  Speaker 1: give Brian a hug, too. I know. I know. So, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: it was, you know, I think what I've learned, I mean,
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  Speaker 1: it's just like life. You can have a plan. You
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  Speaker 1: can envision something going a certain way, and you just
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  Speaker 1: don't know.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: You've got to pivot. You've got to adapt. I've done
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  Speaker 1: some good things in my life. You know, I delivered
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  Speaker 1: two healthy babies, which is great, but I just do
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  Speaker 1: not labor and deliver very well. So my pregnancies were
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  Speaker 1: very smooth and easy. Yeah, you still like, well, it's okay.
• 19:03
  Speaker 1: You can't win them all, Carly. Yeah, I know. I'm like,
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  Speaker 1: I've literally experienced pretty much, and again, you know, I
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  Speaker 1: don't want this to, um, you know, there, there's so
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  Speaker 1: many other people that have been through horrific things, um,
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  Speaker 1: more traumatizing things than this. So I, I don't want
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: to like, act like my situation is, yeah, I mean, it's, it, it,
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  Speaker 1: it's traumatizing and, and it's hard and, um, yeah, it's
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  Speaker 1: not something that I envisioned was going to go the
• 19:38
  Speaker 1: way that it did, but I experienced a lot in
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: two pregnancies. Two pregnancies and we're only at the delivery part.
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  Speaker 1: Like we haven't even gotten to the aftermath.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. I just want to say, don't give yourself a
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  Speaker 2: hard time because I would say it's incredible what you
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  Speaker 2: just did with both Harper and Hunter.
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: And it's incredible every single time. And it's true. It
• 20:03
  Speaker 1: is complicated and sometimes it's easy and it's different for everyone,
• 20:06
  Speaker 1: but like you did it.
• 20:09
  Speaker 2: Like, It all was worth it for that little guy
• 20:12
  Speaker 2: who I know is sleeping next to you, but it
• 20:14
  Speaker 2: still doesn't take away the trauma and the emotion of
• 20:21
  Speaker 2: all of it. And I know you're still very much
• 20:24
  Speaker 2: in it. Yeah. It might be nice to take a
• 20:27
  Speaker 2: quick break and let you reset and check on Hunter.
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: How's Harper doing? Quickly, let's give her a little love.
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: How's she adjusting? Harper's doing great. Yeah, she was fantastic
• 20:38
  Speaker 1: with our photo shoot today. She's good. She's warming up
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: to Hunter. And yeah, she's a good one. We'll check
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: on them. We'll take a quick break.
• 20:47
  Speaker 2: And then I'd love to hear just how everything went
• 20:51
  Speaker 2: after delivery. You went home and then unfortunately you did
• 20:54
  Speaker 2: have to to head back. So we'll take a quick
• 20:57
  Speaker 2: break and we'll be back with Carly's story. Welcome back
• 21:10
  Speaker 2: to Whatever It Takes with Carly Lloyd and Jenny Taft.
• 21:13
  Speaker 2: We are chatting all things Carly's delivery and her brand
• 21:19
  Speaker 2: new baby Hunter who's here. And it was It was
• 21:22
  Speaker 2: a little bit, a lot of it, of a crazy.
• 21:25
  Speaker 1: Journey to get to this point. We just broke down
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: her delivery.
• 21:29
  Speaker 2: And Carly, thank you for being so open and honest
• 21:31
  Speaker 2: and vulnerable because I know that living it and sharing
• 21:34
  Speaker 2: it are two different things.
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: But the bummer part of this story, well, the best
• 21:38
  Speaker 1: part is you're sitting here. So we are on the mend.
• 21:41
  Speaker 2: But you did have to go back to the hospital after.
• 21:43
  Speaker 2: So take us through the hunters here. We're in the
• 21:47
  Speaker 2: hospital and kind of the recovery since.
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: Yeah. So... Again, induced, I think it was, ended up
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: being like, you know, in the middle of the night
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: on the 23rd of September. And then I have him
• 22:02
  Speaker 1: the morning of the 24th. I stay in the hospital
• 22:08
  Speaker 1: for two nights. So I come back on September 26th. Now,
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: mind you, these deliveries went very differently, as I was
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: saying with Harper versus Hunter, two completely different deliveries. This
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: postpartum I knew was going to be way different and
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: way harder, more painful. So I did, I tore more. Again,
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: I had a lot of manipulations and things going on,
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: a lot of people on my stomach, making sure all
• 22:43
  Speaker 1: of the, you know, not to get too graphic, blood clots,
• 22:46
  Speaker 1: was out of my uterus, so I wouldn't hemorrhage. There
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: was just a lot, a lot of blood loss. You know,
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: I went from, you know, not being low on iron
• 22:59
  Speaker 1: or anemic to a very, very low hemoglobin number, which
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: is pretty crazy. So yeah, I'm in, you know, what
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: they call mother baby. So I leave the labor and
• 23:12
  Speaker 1: delivery room, I go there and Brian and I get
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: settled and I'm in a lot of pain. I mean,
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: my stomach area. You're in pain. You feel it. Down there, inflamed,
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: just everything. I couldn't go to the bathroom on my
• 23:27
  Speaker 1: own for about two days. I tried so hard. I
• 23:32
  Speaker 1: had probably between post-delivery, well, delivery, and then post-delivery probably
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: seven or eight times with catheter in me. Really? Sometimes
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: just a straight cath to drain me. Other times I
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: had the Foley, which was just the bag that was there.
• 23:55
  Speaker 1: And they really want you to obviously try to urinate
• 23:58
  Speaker 1: on your own. And I just, I couldn't. So I'm
• 24:04
  Speaker 1: so sorry. We stayed. Yeah, it was awful. We stayed,
• 24:08
  Speaker 1: I believe, because we had Harper in the morning on
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: a morning as well. We only stayed Probably about a
• 24:15
  Speaker 1: day and a half in the hospital and we were
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: like ready to roll, ready to go home. This time around,
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: my OB wanted me to stay another night. She didn't
• 24:23
  Speaker 1: want me to go home with a catheter bag. She
• 24:26
  Speaker 1: really wanted me to, yeah, try to go on my
• 24:29
  Speaker 1: own and. And all of that. So, yeah, you know,
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: the nurses would come in, you know, the deal, taking
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: vitals and checking your bleeding and bladder and all things, everything.
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: It was just very, I was in a lot, a
• 24:45
  Speaker 1: lot of pain this time around. And so finally went
• 24:49
  Speaker 1: home on that Saturday and it was really hard. I mean,
• 24:54
  Speaker 1: it was sad because... You know, we had been gone
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: from Harper for however long, and she was a little
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: weird seeing us. Like, she wasn't really excited. So I
• 25:07
  Speaker 1: was like, oh, that made me kind of sad. And
• 25:10
  Speaker 1: then here we have this new baby that's just come
• 25:14
  Speaker 1: in and changed all of our lives. And it took
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: her some getting used to. I obviously wasn't allowed to...
• 25:25
  Speaker 1: pick her up for a couple of weeks. I couldn't drive,
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: you know, couldn't lift things, had to go up and
• 25:31
  Speaker 1: down steps as if I'm an older, you know, elderly person, um,
• 25:37
  Speaker 1: one foot on each. So it just was, you know,
• 25:41
  Speaker 1: one of those things where I'm like, this is gonna,
• 25:44
  Speaker 1: this is going to be really tough. Um, and I
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: have a high pain tolerance and all of that.
• 25:49
  Speaker 2: Like you don't seem like any, you would ever complain
• 25:52
  Speaker 2: about anything.
• 25:54
  Speaker 1: So when you're saying you're in pain, I know you're
• 25:55
  Speaker 1: in pain. Yeah. And, you know, it was one thing
• 25:59
  Speaker 1: to be in pain, you know, down there and inflamed
• 26:02
  Speaker 1: and all things going on. It was just another thing
• 26:06
  Speaker 1: to start having like fevers and chills. And when did
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: that start? So when I'm kind of thinking about it,
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: I feel like it was sort of brewing as I
• 26:19
  Speaker 1: got home. Maybe not the first night or two, but then...
• 26:24
  Speaker 1: things were progressively kind of getting not so right. And
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: I wasn't trying to ignore any of the signs. I
• 26:32
  Speaker 1: remember having some sweats with Harper, and I'm obviously breastfeeding.
• 26:38
  Speaker 1: But they started to come on a lot stronger. And
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: it started to become really hard for me to maneuver
• 26:45
  Speaker 1: out of bed. My stomach area, I almost felt like
• 26:48
  Speaker 1: keeled over.
• 26:49
  Speaker 2: Really?
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: One day... I feel like I'm turning the corner and
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: everything's feeling good. We go on a little walk as
• 26:57
  Speaker 1: a family. And next thing you know, it's like I
• 27:01
  Speaker 1: can barely turn to my side in bed. And I
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: had a friend that came over, um, on a Thursday
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: morning and I was shivering for probably like three hours straight.
• 27:16
  Speaker 1: I had three blankets wrapped on me. I was, you know,
• 27:20
  Speaker 1: texting with my docs and maybe we were kind of
• 27:24
  Speaker 1: thinking maybe it's mastitis. And I did have that before
• 27:28
  Speaker 1: with Harper towards the end, but I had no redness
• 27:31
  Speaker 1: on my boobs and I didn't feel any like clogged
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: ducts or anything like that. And Hunter, he's a big boy,
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: so he had been kind of giving me some longer
• 27:41
  Speaker 1: stretches at night. I think one night was three hours,
• 27:44
  Speaker 1: another was four hours, five hours. So I'm like, maybe
• 27:48
  Speaker 1: it is. Maybe we're still trying to figure out my
• 27:51
  Speaker 1: milk production. And then I would just kind of break
• 27:58
  Speaker 1: down in tears sitting on the couch because I'm like,
• 28:04
  Speaker 1: this is truly... This is awful. It did not feel right.
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: I can't enjoy our daughter. You know, I'm getting, like, having, like,
• 28:15
  Speaker 1: a short fuse with her and with Hunter. I feel
• 28:20
  Speaker 1: like I wasn't enjoying him. Like, everything was a burden
• 28:24
  Speaker 1: because of how horrible I was feeling. Yeah. And I'm like,
• 28:29
  Speaker 1: you know, I just need to get through these, like,
• 28:31
  Speaker 1: next couple weeks and maybe things will turn the corner. Until...
• 28:37
  Speaker 1: I was taking some medicine for the fevers, slight fever
• 28:42
  Speaker 1: and chills and sweats until the medicine didn't work. And
• 28:48
  Speaker 1: I'm like, something, you know, like as an athlete, you just,
• 28:55
  Speaker 1: you know that there's something not right. So I shot
• 28:58
  Speaker 1: a text to one of my docs and I just
• 29:01
  Speaker 1: said to her, here's what's going on. Is this normal? Like,
• 29:06
  Speaker 1: you know, I'm, I'm, I'm really struggling. I mean, this is,
• 29:11
  Speaker 1: I know postpartum's difficult depending on how things go with
• 29:16
  Speaker 1: people's deliveries. Hunter's a grunter. He's saying hi to me.
• 29:21
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: So she said, you know what? I think it's best
• 29:25
  Speaker 1: for you to come in to the hospital. We'll, we'll
• 29:28
  Speaker 1: draw some labs. We'll, check things out. And I'm like, OK.
• 29:33
  Speaker 1: I mean, I couldn't grab my stuff any quicker. We
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: had to all go as a family because I obviously
• 29:37
  Speaker 1: wasn't driving at this point. And, you know, Brian's like
• 29:42
  Speaker 1: doing stuff outside. I'm like, we got to go. Like,
• 29:46
  Speaker 1: I just, I'm in tears. Like, I just can't. I
• 29:48
  Speaker 1: cannot handle this pain anymore. The aches, feeling lethargic. My
• 29:53
  Speaker 1: back was hurting. I mean, I felt like I was
• 29:57
  Speaker 1: literally like hit by a Mack truck. It was really,
• 30:01
  Speaker 1: really bad. So I went in. I was in triage.
• 30:05
  Speaker 1: They took my heart rate. My heart rate was like 125-ish,
• 30:09
  Speaker 1: which was very concerning. They did a urine culture, ran
• 30:13
  Speaker 1: some other tests, and they were kind of clinically diagnosing
• 30:17
  Speaker 1: me before any of the tests had come back, but
• 30:20
  Speaker 1: with a UTI, like a complicated UTI, and most likely
• 30:24
  Speaker 1: a uterine infection, which they call endo... I believe. It's
• 30:31
  Speaker 1: not endometriosis. Endometritis. Okay. And so I'm like, okay, like, well,
• 30:37
  Speaker 1: what does that entail? Yeah, what does that mean? Well,
• 30:39
  Speaker 1: the uterus infection, obviously, there was a risk of them
• 30:45
  Speaker 1: going in and, you know, having to kind of clear
• 30:48
  Speaker 1: out my uterus. You obviously have to do it because
• 30:51
  Speaker 1: you don't want a hemorrhage, but then the risk of
• 30:53
  Speaker 1: having an infection. So there was that. So I was
• 30:56
  Speaker 1: dealing with that. I was also dealing with you basically
• 31:00
  Speaker 1: had a lot of E. coli in my urine, which
• 31:05
  Speaker 1: in the beginning they were diagnosing that as the UTI,
• 31:10
  Speaker 1: but it had eventually made its way to my kidneys.
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: So I basically had a kidney infection, which they call
• 31:19
  Speaker 1: that like pylo, which is a very, very painful thing.
• 31:25
  Speaker 1: And I guess mine was incredibly bad that my antibiotics,
• 31:30
  Speaker 1: they admitted me. They ended up admitting me and saying
• 31:33
  Speaker 1: they wanted me to stay. So Monday night, my antibiotics,
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: my IV antibiotics started. I did not feel better until
• 31:44
  Speaker 1: probably Friday morning. A whole week? Pretty much. Wow. That's wild.
• 31:49
  Speaker 1: So I had been in the hospital, spiking fevers, having
• 31:53
  Speaker 1: the chills, having the aches. having the sweats. I needed
• 31:57
  Speaker 1: a blood transfusion to help with my hemoglobin levels. I
• 32:01
  Speaker 1: had a IV iron bag. And on top of that, thankfully,
• 32:08
  Speaker 1: I did have Hunter with me, but it was so
• 32:12
  Speaker 1: incredibly hard and painful to continue to breastfeed him. And
• 32:17
  Speaker 1: there was a part of me where I was like,
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: should I just stop this? Like, should I just try formula?
• 32:25
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 32:26
  Speaker 1: But I didn't. And I kept going.
• 32:28
  Speaker 2: And.
• 32:29
  Speaker 1: That's amazing, Carly. Because I wanted to. I mean, obviously.
• 32:33
  Speaker 1: But still a lot.
• 32:34
  Speaker 2: You're basically... I mean, your body is fighting. I mean,
• 32:38
  Speaker 2: I don't want to be dramatic because I don't want
• 32:40
  Speaker 2: to put words in your mouth.
• 32:40
  Speaker 1: But like how.
• 32:41
  Speaker 2: That's a really serious thing that you're going through.
• 32:45
  Speaker 1: Very. Like the doctors were... Were they pretty freaked out?
• 32:48
  Speaker 1: By the kidney infection?
• 32:50
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 32:50
  Speaker 1: They were... They were kind of holding their breath with
• 32:54
  Speaker 1: my urine culture to make sure that it didn't get
• 32:57
  Speaker 1: into my bloodstream, which would have been sepsis. So that's
• 33:03
  Speaker 1: the avenue. And that doesn't just happen overnight where it
• 33:08
  Speaker 1: gets into the kidneys. Like this had been brewing. So
• 33:12
  Speaker 1: not that I was trying to ignore the signs, but
• 33:15
  Speaker 1: I think that'd be my message to everybody is like,
• 33:21
  Speaker 1: even if you think, asking your doctors, like, this is
• 33:25
  Speaker 1: a dumb question or, hey, this is how I'm feeling.
• 33:29
  Speaker 1: Is this normal to be feeling this way? I mean,
• 33:31
  Speaker 1: you can't ignore the signs. And they were just so
• 33:35
  Speaker 1: happy that I came in when I did because we
• 33:37
  Speaker 1: kind of caught it at the perfect time to be
• 33:41
  Speaker 1: able to treat it. And they were all, I mean,
• 33:44
  Speaker 1: taken back at how long it took for the antibiotics
• 33:48
  Speaker 1: to start working. Um, it's a great reminder though. To follow,
• 33:53
  Speaker 1: like follow your intuition.
• 33:54
  Speaker 2: Like you, there was like a breaking point where you're like,
• 33:56
  Speaker 2: this is not what it's supposed to be.
• 33:59
  Speaker 1: No, no. And, and looking back, I, I do see
• 34:04
  Speaker 1: more of the signs, like my urine started to change
• 34:06
  Speaker 1: color and, you know, it got, you know, cloudier and
• 34:10
  Speaker 1: just a whole range of things. Um, but I didn't know.
• 34:14
  Speaker 1: I mean, I went through a traumatic delivery. I thought
• 34:16
  Speaker 1: that this was maybe the way postpartum was supposed to go. And, So, yeah,
• 34:22
  Speaker 1: I did. I did a lot of sleeping. It's unbelievable
• 34:26
  Speaker 1: how much time passed in the hospital. But like I
• 34:29
  Speaker 1: didn't I mean, I was barely could be on my phone.
• 34:32
  Speaker 1: I barely was able to even have the strength to
• 34:35
  Speaker 1: breastfeed Hunter. Yeah. But all the nurses and doctors and
• 34:40
  Speaker 1: everybody took amazing care of me. And having the blood
• 34:45
  Speaker 1: transfusion was also kind of wild. Interesting.
• 34:49
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 34:50
  Speaker 1: This is unbelievable, you know? This is why people donate blood.
• 34:55
  Speaker 1: But I was like, this is weird. But my hemoglobin
• 35:00
  Speaker 1: had gone all the way down to a six. I
• 35:02
  Speaker 1: was going to ask you how low it was. Wow,
• 35:04
  Speaker 1: six is pretty low.
• 35:06
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 35:06
  Speaker 1: So, I mean, I'm kind of still anemic right now.
• 35:10
  Speaker 1: I was going to say, where are you now? Basically,
• 35:13
  Speaker 1: when they give you the blood transfusion, I guess if
• 35:15
  Speaker 1: it's just one, I don't know the correct dosage or whatnot.
• 35:22
  Speaker 1: I think it shoots you up a level, like it
• 35:26
  Speaker 1: got me up to eight, and then I think it
• 35:28
  Speaker 1: leveled me out a little bit to like 7.6. Okay.
• 35:32
  Speaker 1: But because of that being so low, you know, my
• 35:35
  Speaker 1: white blood count was so high because it was trying
• 35:38
  Speaker 1: to fight the infection, and yeah, hemoglobin level was low,
• 35:42
  Speaker 1: and it just was.
• 35:43
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it was.
• 35:46
  Speaker 1: It was absolutely just crazy. I've probably never felt that
• 35:52
  Speaker 1: much pain in my entire life than that experience, which
• 35:58
  Speaker 1: was crazy. I mean, I had needles everywhere in my
• 36:03
  Speaker 1: hands and my arms. I had hooked up to all
• 36:07
  Speaker 1: sorts of bags. And yeah, it was quite an experience.
• 36:13
  Speaker 1: I wasn't really seeing light at the end of the
• 36:16
  Speaker 1: tunnel at one point. But Friday morning waking up, I
• 36:19
  Speaker 1: was like, oh my gosh, like I finally feel somewhat better.
• 36:24
  Speaker 1: And then I ended up going home Saturday afternoon and
• 36:29
  Speaker 1: it's just been a world of difference, like so much better.
• 36:33
  Speaker 2: We'll be right back with more honest conversation on motherhood
• 36:36
  Speaker 2: and recovery with Jenny and Carly. And welcome back to
• 36:49
  Speaker 2: Whatever It Takes.
• 36:51
  Speaker 1: So you are feeling better now.
• 36:55
  Speaker 2: How about what the doctors have said now that you're home?
• 36:59
  Speaker 2: Is there anything you need to be doing? Is there
• 37:01
  Speaker 2: anything that you need to be monitoring to make sure? Like,
• 37:04
  Speaker 2: is there a fear that anything could come back or
• 37:07
  Speaker 2: be a factor, like anything like that on your mind? No.
• 37:12
  Speaker 1: I mean, I think the biggest thing when I was
• 37:13
  Speaker 1: spiking kind of those fevers, and they weren't incredibly high,
• 37:18
  Speaker 1: but they were high enough to keep me into the hospital.
• 37:20
  Speaker 1: They wanted 48 hours of no fevers because you don't
• 37:24
  Speaker 1: want to be sent home and then have to come
• 37:26
  Speaker 1: back and be readmitted. But no, it's basically taking probiotic
• 37:32
  Speaker 1: because I have so much antibiotics that have been running
• 37:38
  Speaker 1: through my body. And obviously you don't want to kill
• 37:41
  Speaker 1: the good health, gut health, making sure I'm, you know,
• 37:44
  Speaker 1: taking an iron supplement to continue and just eating iron
• 37:49
  Speaker 1: rich foods. I am very swollen. I did put out
• 37:54
  Speaker 1: a little Instagram story of my feet.
• 38:00
  Speaker 2: I love you so much, but I was like, oh,
• 38:04
  Speaker 2: I'm like, But then you posted the, whatever they're called,
• 38:08
  Speaker 2: Norma Tech.
• 38:08
  Speaker 1: The Norma Techs. Yeah, and I was like, okay. I
• 38:10
  Speaker 1: was like, what can I send Carly right now? I'm like,
• 38:13
  Speaker 1: she's covered with the Norma Tech. That's good. It's a
• 38:16
  Speaker 1: good thing I don't have to get in any high
• 38:17
  Speaker 1: heels right now. Yeah, no heels. It helped a little bit.
• 38:21
  Speaker 1: I just think because there were so many fluids and
• 38:24
  Speaker 1: I was... I was going to say, like, what is
• 38:26
  Speaker 1: it from? Yeah. For six days. I don't know if
• 38:31
  Speaker 1: it has anything to do with my kidneys, like, not
• 38:33
  Speaker 1: being able to kind of, like, flush things out. But
• 38:37
  Speaker 1: they just say just keep hydrating and it'll eventually kind
• 38:40
  Speaker 1: of work its way out. But, yeah, I mean, my
• 38:43
  Speaker 1: body just feels awful. Absolutely awful. I think this, like,
• 38:51
  Speaker 1: it's just so.
• 38:53
  Speaker 2: crazy to think that that was your experience like that's
• 38:57
  Speaker 2: what you just went through over the last couple weeks
• 38:59
  Speaker 2: because it just feels like a whirlwind and yet we're
• 39:03
  Speaker 2: sitting here and you have.
• 39:04
  Speaker 1: A baby that's right below us.
• 39:05
  Speaker 2: But insane and just how you can never know what
• 39:10
  Speaker 2: to expect yet you can go in feeling like you're
• 39:13
  Speaker 2: good to go and you're ready but i'm so grateful
• 39:16
  Speaker 2: you listen to those symptoms and you truly listen because
• 39:19
  Speaker 2: we could be having a way different conversation that's.
• 39:22
  Speaker 1: Even crazier Oh, yeah. And what's weird is, remember I
• 39:25
  Speaker 1: texted you on that Monday and because I was like
• 39:30
  Speaker 1: I was sort of relating my experience with Harper postpartum
• 39:34
  Speaker 1: like it wasn't so bad so maybe I'll take a
• 39:38
  Speaker 1: week off from the pod and get back into it
• 39:42
  Speaker 1: and I respect I love that about you you're like
• 39:44
  Speaker 1: I'll be fine it's like I mean it's you're gonna
• 39:47
  Speaker 1: be uncomfortable but it's okay right And it was different.
• 39:51
  Speaker 1: I'm thinking, how am I going to be able to
• 39:52
  Speaker 1: like sit there that long? And then he's cluster feeding.
• 39:56
  Speaker 1: But that wasn't even the reason. But I texted you
• 39:59
  Speaker 1: on Monday and I'm like, I think I'm going to need.
• 40:02
  Speaker 1: And this was, I went into the hospital probably early
• 40:06
  Speaker 1: Monday evening. Wow. So I just, there was something, there
• 40:11
  Speaker 1: was just an intuition that I felt that I'm like,
• 40:15
  Speaker 1: I'm not right. So. Gosh. And there's been, you know,
• 40:18
  Speaker 1: so many other women that, you know, I've heard now
• 40:21
  Speaker 1: that have, like, gone through it. And, yeah, it's really scary.
• 40:25
  Speaker 1: And it could have been, I know my mom was like,
• 40:30
  Speaker 1: get in the ambulance now. I'm like, Mom, like, I'll
• 40:33
  Speaker 1: be all right. Like, it's not a severe emergency. But
• 40:37
  Speaker 1: once you start Googling some things, yeah, it's once the
• 40:42
  Speaker 1: potential of it going into your bloodstream, that's a really
• 40:44
  Speaker 1: scary thing. It's really, really scary. Yeah.
• 40:46
  Speaker 2: Mm-hmm. And I'm just so grateful for your doctors for
• 40:50
  Speaker 2: being on it and for you listening to that intuition
• 40:53
  Speaker 2: and just, yeah, like if that can be a reminder
• 40:56
  Speaker 2: from this episode, one, like thank you for sharing because
• 40:59
  Speaker 2: also it's not fun to get into all the details,
• 41:02
  Speaker 2: but thank you for sharing and also just a reminder
• 41:05
  Speaker 2: to everyone to listen to that gut feeling, right?
• 41:09
  Speaker 1: Like you always know. That's the thing. You know, I
• 41:13
  Speaker 1: think we as women, we just, you know, when something's
• 41:18
  Speaker 1: not right. Yeah. But yeah, I'm very grateful for all
• 41:22
  Speaker 1: of the docs, nurses, people.
• 41:25
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 41:26
  Speaker 1: Sleeping good. I mean, yeah, it's like my stomach. How's
• 41:29
  Speaker 1: your pain now? Oh, it's so minimal. I mean, I
• 41:34
  Speaker 1: would say the pain that I have is, I almost
• 41:38
  Speaker 1: feel like bruising on my stomach, which is probably from
• 41:43
  Speaker 1: you know, all of the nurses and all of that
• 41:45
  Speaker 1: during the delivery, pressing on it and doing various things.
• 41:49
  Speaker 1: But yeah, no, it's night and day. I can maneuver
• 41:53
  Speaker 1: in bed. I'm, you know, breastfeeding him. I feel like I'm,
• 41:56
  Speaker 1: you know, finally, you know, looking at him and, you know,
• 42:00
  Speaker 1: adoring him because it was, it was, it was just rough.
• 42:04
  Speaker 1: But yeah, everything is on the upward now. I just
• 42:07
  Speaker 1: got to get rid of these Fred Flintstone feet. Yeah.
• 42:13
  Speaker 1: I can't even barely fit into my shoes. Yeah, no
• 42:16
  Speaker 1: shoes for a while. It's all right.
• 42:18
  Speaker 2: It's all right.
• 42:18
  Speaker 1: You don't need them. You're fine. I don't know why.
• 42:23
  Speaker 1: I'm just, like, emotional. I'm so happy you're okay. It's, like, crazy, Carly,
• 42:28
  Speaker 1: what you went through. It's crazy. And I don't want
• 42:30
  Speaker 1: to scare anybody in their pregnancies and their journeys because
• 42:35
  Speaker 1: there's just so many things that can happen, right? And
• 42:38
  Speaker 1: I think, you know, at the end of the day,
• 42:39
  Speaker 1: you just have to, like, Listen to the docs and
• 42:42
  Speaker 1: nurses and trust and do whatever is possible. Do whatever
• 42:48
  Speaker 1: it takes to just deliver a healthy baby. That's all
• 42:51
  Speaker 1: you want at the end.
• 42:53
  Speaker 2: And you trust your doctors and you trust that intuition.
• 42:57
  Speaker 2: And look, I mean, you are sitting here now and
• 43:00
  Speaker 2: you don't look like what you just went through.
• 43:01
  Speaker 1: That's what's also crazy. Like you're doing it. You're better.
• 43:05
  Speaker 1: Like you got through the craziest part of it. Got
• 43:07
  Speaker 1: through it. Not having another child again either. That's it?
• 43:12
  Speaker 1: We're checking it off? It was closed, but like now
• 43:17
  Speaker 1: it's like for sure closed.
• 43:19
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 43:19
  Speaker 1: Like if he was our first, I don't know if
• 43:22
  Speaker 1: I'd be coming back having another. Isn't that crazy perspective
• 43:25
  Speaker 1: to think of it like that? It was a lot.
• 43:27
  Speaker 1: But yeah, grateful.
• 43:28
  Speaker 2: Is there anything we can, whatever it takes, community can
• 43:32
  Speaker 2: do to support you from afar?
• 43:34
  Speaker 1: Is there anything, like, is there anything we can do?
• 43:37
  Speaker 2: I just... I want to come drive to visit you
• 43:40
  Speaker 2: and hang out with you guys. I'm going to give
• 43:41
  Speaker 2: you a little more time that I'm coming over.
• 43:44
  Speaker 1: I'll babysit. No, I'm all good. Look, I think that's
• 43:47
  Speaker 1: what I think I love about our pod is just
• 43:50
  Speaker 1: being able to kind of share different perspectives on things,
• 43:55
  Speaker 1: different topics. You know, and I just want to make
• 43:58
  Speaker 1: people aware of some complications that can happen during Delivery
• 44:03
  Speaker 1: and not even just during delivery, but post delivery. And
• 44:06
  Speaker 1: you got to listen to your bodies. You have to
• 44:09
  Speaker 1: trust your gut and your intuition and not think any
• 44:14
  Speaker 1: question is stupid or invalid because there's always a reason,
• 44:20
  Speaker 1: you know, and if I did not go in when
• 44:23
  Speaker 1: I did, I'm not, yeah, I don't know what would
• 44:29
  Speaker 1: have been a probably a more lengthy stay, but For sure.
• 44:33
  Speaker 1: Just want to make sure that everybody kind of does
• 44:35
  Speaker 1: their due diligence to, you know, because the doctors, it's
• 44:39
  Speaker 1: impossible for them to follow up with all the patients
• 44:42
  Speaker 1: that they have. And there's only so much. I mean,
• 44:45
  Speaker 1: my OB and midwife were following up with me. How
• 44:48
  Speaker 1: do you feel? Yeah, I'm good. You know, just a
• 44:50
  Speaker 1: little sore down there, you know, but once you start
• 44:53
  Speaker 1: to get into like the nitty gritty of maybe some
• 44:58
  Speaker 1: different symptoms that you're having or Ask a little bit
• 45:01
  Speaker 1: more questions. You know, if you don't ask those questions,
• 45:06
  Speaker 1: nobody really knows.
• 45:07
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 45:08
  Speaker 1: Well, your mindset is one of your most incredible traits.
• 45:12
  Speaker 2: And even just like the breastfeeding through the crazy at
• 45:15
  Speaker 2: the hospital, like I'm so impressed by you.
• 45:19
  Speaker 1: And Hunter is perfect in every way. And I just,
• 45:22
  Speaker 1: I love you. I'm really proud of you. Good job. Thanks.
• 45:25
  Speaker 1: Good job. I appreciate the update. I'm like, I should
• 45:29
  Speaker 1: be emotional. Although I am, I have been emotional about
• 45:31
  Speaker 1: other things. I'm like, I don't know. I just like,
• 45:35
  Speaker 1: I'm so happy you're okay. But I didn't know.
• 45:37
  Speaker 2: I mean, I knew it was bad in our texts,
• 45:40
  Speaker 2: but I also didn't want to like over ask and
• 45:44
  Speaker 2: like put more stress on it.
• 45:45
  Speaker 1: Like, oh, how bad is this? If our kidney is like,
• 45:48
  Speaker 1: of course, I'm not going to put that on your mind.
• 45:50
  Speaker 2: But it's just like wild to think what our bodies
• 45:54
  Speaker 2: go through and are capable of yet. It's all, I mean, just,
• 45:58
  Speaker 2: I'm so grateful for the doctors having to bring you into.
• 46:02
  Speaker 2: So I love you so much. I know that you've
• 46:04
  Speaker 2: been sitting for a while. Are you feeling okay?
• 46:07
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm feeling, I'm, I'm literally feeling like a whole
• 46:10
  Speaker 1: new person. I'm like literally back from the dead. It was,
• 46:14
  Speaker 1: you're like, I'm actually fine. Brian's like, this doesn't seem,
• 46:19
  Speaker 1: he's like, is this normal? Like, It was like a
• 46:23
  Speaker 1: beautiful day, I think one of the weeks. And I
• 46:26
  Speaker 1: came outside and I just stood in the sun and
• 46:28
  Speaker 1: I was like shivering. And he was like, this is
• 46:32
  Speaker 1: not normal. Yeah, it's crazy. So yes, make sure, listen,
• 46:39
  Speaker 1: trust your gut and intuition. Okay, well, thank you for sharing.
• 46:45
  Speaker 1: We are so happy for you.
• 46:47
  Speaker 2: And hopefully moving forward, we can just hear all the good,
• 46:51
  Speaker 2: fun updates. And I know they're not all going to
• 46:52
  Speaker 2: be good and fun and easy, but truly, you're a
• 46:55
  Speaker 2: rock star. And, you know, it's only up from here.
• 47:00
  Speaker 2: I'm going to go with that.
• 47:03
  Speaker 1: Upwards from here, for sure. Yeah, no, it's good to
• 47:06
  Speaker 1: be back and happy to be able to share my story.
• 47:09
  Speaker 1: Thank you.
• 47:10
  Speaker 2: Thank you, Carly. Hopefully we'll get some More chat soon.
• 47:13
  Speaker 2: We'll have some guests coming. So thank you so much
• 47:16
  Speaker 2: for listening to whatever it takes.
• 47:18
  Speaker 1: Is that our guy? He's like, it's time, mom. Grab him.
• 47:22
  Speaker 1: Is this his debut? Oh, Hunter. There he is. Oh,
• 47:30
  Speaker 1: I'm really going to cry. He's so beautiful. You big boy.
• 47:36
  Speaker 1: I got loads, loads of stories to tell you about.
• 47:40
  Speaker 1: I mean, he's. He's big, but I'm like, he doesn't
• 47:43
  Speaker 1: seem that big. No, he does not look like a
• 47:47
  Speaker 1: brand new baby. Yeah, I know. You wrecked your mama.
• 47:51
  Speaker 1: He's like, yeah.
• 47:55
  Speaker 2: Stories forever. Okay, I'm going to let you guys go. Please,
• 47:58
  Speaker 2: you know, join us on social media. Follow whatever it
• 48:01
  Speaker 2: takes pod. Like, subscribe, download, listen. We will be back
• 48:05
  Speaker 2: with more episodes. And please follow us as well. Carly Lloyd,
• 48:09
  Speaker 2: Jenny Taft on social. And Carly, we love you so,
• 48:11
  Speaker 2: so much. We love you, Hunter. And we'll talk soon.
• 48:14
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Thank you, guys.