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Make A List, Checking It Twice · We Talk Back

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  Speaker 1: Welcome to We Talk Back Podcast, the production of iHeartRadio
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  Speaker 1: and the Black Effect Network.
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  Speaker 2: So we're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion
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  Speaker 2: who talks.
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  Speaker 1: What's up? Y'all's your girl? A J Holiday? What's up? Tandamn?
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  Speaker 2: Hey y'all, y'all know what the fuck going on?
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  Speaker 1: I love y'all.
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  Speaker 2: What's again? Y'all back? Thank y'all for coming back. AJ.
• 0:27
  Speaker 2: What'd you do this weekend?
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  Speaker 1: Right into it?
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  Speaker 2: Yep, what'd you do?
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  Speaker 1: My nephew is graduated from high school early college in January. Okay,
• 0:39
  Speaker 1: so he had his last high school football game. Shout
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  Speaker 1: out to the Stallions Point rock Hill. South Carolina won
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  Speaker 1: their four A championship against I think it was Florence.
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  Speaker 1: They were playing thirty five to fourteen, and my nephew
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  Speaker 1: was in the game the whole time, the fairy lineman. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: and the game actually was at South Carolina State, which
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  Speaker 1: is also going to be his new alma mater, so
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  Speaker 1: I am super excited. Congratulations to him, and shit, yeah
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  Speaker 1: he got a full ride child.
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  Speaker 2: How old is he going to college?
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  Speaker 1: Eighteen?
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  Speaker 2: Oh?
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  Speaker 1: I thought it earlyer Yeah, so he just turned eighteen
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  Speaker 1: in October, so he's you know, he can't do the
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  Speaker 1: ceremony until me. But he's done with high school and
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  Speaker 1: he's starting the state in January, and I'm so happy
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  Speaker 1: for him. I don't know what it is about, like
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  Speaker 1: the difference between boys and girls.
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  Speaker 2: I love my.
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  Speaker 1: Nieces so much, but it's just like the boys. It's like, oh, Miles,
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  Speaker 1: little boy. Hey, he's a big ass negative but it's
• 1:38
  Speaker 1: such a sweet boy. Man. I'm so excited for him.
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  Speaker 1: Congratulation in life. Yeah, so we sat out there, the
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  Speaker 1: family sat out there in the rain.
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  Speaker 2: Child.
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  Speaker 1: I was with my mama the whole day and I
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  Speaker 1: had already anticipated like just all us talking. You know,
• 1:54
  Speaker 1: sometimes when I ride, I like to ride without music nothing.
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  Speaker 1: I'm just quiet in the car. He met tation time
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  Speaker 1: sometimes for me, boy had to talk the whole time.
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  Speaker 1: I thought I could fucking talk about my mom and
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  Speaker 1: she'd just be going off of by everything. I love
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  Speaker 1: my mama so much. So we were just hanging out
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  Speaker 1: and uh, yeah, it was a good weekend. And then
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  Speaker 1: Sunday I just tried to catch up on my week
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  Speaker 1: I really don't feel like I had a weekend. So
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  Speaker 1: but that was it though. We just did the things
• 2:24
  Speaker 1: the family stuff. On Saturday, and then Sunday.
• 2:27
  Speaker 2: I barely was alive.
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  Speaker 1: I went grocery shopping, and y'all, I have been fasting
• 2:32
  Speaker 1: every other day since December first, So I went grocery shopping.
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  Speaker 1: But I'm like, damn on the days where I'm actually eating. Now,
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  Speaker 1: I'm like trying to eat the groceries as fast as
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  Speaker 1: I can, like fruits and vegetables and shit, because they
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  Speaker 1: go fast, okay, which I'm not complaining about because that
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  Speaker 1: means like you got real food. It actually spoils, it's spires.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, but I'm.
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  Speaker 1: Tired of buying avocados and not eating them. Shit, and
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  Speaker 1: they by the time I touch him is wrong. And
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  Speaker 1: it was a shake all right. I did that bananas
• 3:02
  Speaker 1: because the bananas go bad so fast too.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, you can throw them in there. What I do
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  Speaker 2: this weekend? Friday and Saturday, I worked, and then Sunday
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  Speaker 2: I got up to catch a flight to Houston. We
• 3:13
  Speaker 2: need to eat, to eat, like literally to eat. No,
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  Speaker 2: it's no, it was me. There was a plan. We
• 3:20
  Speaker 2: was gonna go to like a day party, go to dinner,
• 3:24
  Speaker 2: go to another party, fly back the next day. But
• 3:27
  Speaker 2: our flag kept getting delayed. We were supposed to leave
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  Speaker 2: at ten am, but we did end up not leaving
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  Speaker 2: Charlotte till one five, So we was in the airport
• 3:38
  Speaker 2: getting drunk at the bar, taking shots at the bar
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  Speaker 2: in the airport at ten o'clock in the morning. So
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  Speaker 2: by the time we got to Houston, we was already
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  Speaker 2: feeling good. We ended up landing there it was like
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  Speaker 2: four o'clock, went straight to the hotel, change, went to
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  Speaker 2: dinner at six thirty, no seven o'clock. Went to dinner
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  Speaker 2: at Maestros Maystros. I don't know how to pronounce it. It
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  Speaker 2: was so good. We did our little caviard bump. How
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  Speaker 2: do you like.
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  Speaker 1: Caviar, dude, man? But it's so expensive.
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  Speaker 2: It's so high. It's so expensive, I like. But they
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  Speaker 2: served it with like these little, many, little tiny pancakes.
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  Speaker 2: Oh my god, it was so good, and it was like, uh,
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  Speaker 2: they had like eggs and I don't know if that
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  Speaker 2: was sour cream or some type of cream, and like
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  Speaker 2: all these different pairings to go with the caviard. It
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  Speaker 2: was so good. Oh my god, it was so good.
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  Speaker 2: But it was high. And then I got me a
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  Speaker 2: waggle steak. I spent some money on that piece of meat, y'all.
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  Speaker 2: But when I take that hip.
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  Speaker 1: Once as you got how much was it an ounce
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  Speaker 1: too for?
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  Speaker 2: I don't know. It was high. It was like the
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  Speaker 2: steak was like the piece of meat by itself was
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  Speaker 2: like one hundred and thirty dollars. But I said, fuck it,
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  Speaker 2: I flew out here to eat. I'm gonna eat what
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  Speaker 2: I want. I have me a steak. And then we
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  Speaker 2: went to Seaside in Houston, which is outdoor. Well they
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  Speaker 2: have an inside, but most of the people were outdoor
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  Speaker 2: on the roof. And you know, Auntie, he I'm like
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  Speaker 2: mad because I don't want to go. I did not
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  Speaker 2: want to go. I was telling them, like, after dinner,
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  Speaker 2: I'm going to bed, y'all can go to the club.
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  Speaker 2: I don't want to go to. I'm not no clubby
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  Speaker 2: girl no more. I like an elevator.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know when the last time I've been to
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  Speaker 1: the club.
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  Speaker 2: More elevated experiences. But anyway, so we went. They were like,
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  Speaker 2: we're just here.
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  Speaker 1: To elevated experiences aka food and sleep and go to
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  Speaker 1: get me with lots ofbody right in education or wisdom
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  Speaker 1: or something I can learn from you.
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  Speaker 2: Where are we going? I don't want to just stand
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  Speaker 2: on couches. No more. I'm past that stage. But anyway,
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  Speaker 2: we went and it was cold at fuck outside, right,
• 5:43
  Speaker 2: but they had the heaters in every section, so that
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  Speaker 2: made it a little better. But I was still sitting
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  Speaker 2: there like with the steak face. But they made it
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  Speaker 2: so fun, y'all, like seaside is alright with me because
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  Speaker 2: they had me in there, singing and having a good time.
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  Speaker 2: They brought like those confects, the big ones, right, the
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  Speaker 2: big confetti. They brought two to every section, so it
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  Speaker 2: was like one hundred of these things on the patio
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  Speaker 2: and they played a song. They was like, you gotta wait,
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  Speaker 2: wait till the countdown, and they did the countdown and
• 6:15
  Speaker 2: we hit that confetti. When I tell you the whole
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  Speaker 2: I mean, you couldn't even see. It was so much
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  Speaker 2: good for New Year's. Yeah, it was so much fun.
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  Speaker 2: It was so much fun. Then they brought two pizzas
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  Speaker 2: to every section. I ain't never seen the club bring.
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  Speaker 2: Like they came out hauling pieces like hold do this
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  Speaker 2: for y'all? Who do this for y'all?
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  Speaker 1: And then they just had it like this, guys, right,
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  Speaker 1: they just made it. I just would thirty dollars stake,
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  Speaker 1: and I was like, get that, it's like that big
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  Speaker 1: taste free and they just.
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  Speaker 2: Like they brought like glow sticks out. They just made
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  Speaker 2: it really really fun. So shout out to seasideher making
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  Speaker 2: it a good time. And then we flew back the
• 6:52
  Speaker 2: next morning, the very next morning, so it was a
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  Speaker 2: real quick turn and burn and then I slept all
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  Speaker 2: day the next because I swear I must have took
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  Speaker 2: like between ten o'clock that morning and two in the
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  Speaker 2: morning when we got in, I probably took about seventeen shots.
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  Speaker 2: God damn, I know that's a lot.
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  Speaker 1: Were you like, how, how what you was drinking? What
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  Speaker 1: type of tequila?
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  Speaker 2: Every type?
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  Speaker 1: I had everything.
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  Speaker 2: Right exactly. I wouldn't be surprised if I got a
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  Speaker 2: couple of curlies between the two of them, because there
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  Speaker 2: was a lot. But that was my weekend. It was fun.
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  Speaker 1: No, that's not super lit, Okay. I wanted to do
• 7:37
  Speaker 1: a turn and burn to go to Erica Bay Do,
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  Speaker 1: but I went to my nephew's game instead. I got
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  Speaker 1: to catch her in concert. Man, I think like the
• 7:45
  Speaker 1: last it might be over. I don't know, but I
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  Speaker 1: feel like maybe she had some dates overseas I was
• 7:50
  Speaker 1: gonna see I want to see Erica perform.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I would love to see her, didn't she she
• 7:55
  Speaker 2: dropped something new with Alchemists, right, mm hmm. Yeah, that's so.
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  Speaker 2: Let's good, miss hit.
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  Speaker 1: What we got going on?
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  Speaker 2: So?
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  Speaker 1: I saw this article talking about Saudi Arabia. So apparently
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  Speaker 1: Saudi Arabia erases alcohol band. I didn't know they had one,
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  Speaker 1: but they are now allowing high earning non Muslim residents
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  Speaker 1: to legally buy alcohol. So it says non Muslim foreigners
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  Speaker 1: in the country who earn at least fifty thousand Saudi riyals,
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  Speaker 1: ryals whatever per month, that's about thirteen three hundred US
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  Speaker 1: dollars can now purchase alcohol at the country's only official
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  Speaker 1: alcohol shop. And I guess it's rid the city name.
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  Speaker 1: This marks the second recent change. Just days before this,
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  Speaker 1: the shop had already begun selling to premium visa holders,
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  Speaker 1: a select group of foreigners who pay a fee and
• 8:55
  Speaker 1: meet certain requirements. I feel like we need some shill
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  Speaker 1: like that over here, because most of the alcoholics don't
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  Speaker 1: got no goddamn job.
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  Speaker 2: Right. If you can't, if you ain't got no arm,
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  Speaker 2: you're not earning no money. You can't what you're drinking for.
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  Speaker 1: Are you celebrating? I always feel like that about sex
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  Speaker 1: and alcohol and drugs? What the fuck are y'all celebrating?
• 9:13
  Speaker 1: Life is not lit like I feel like. I feel
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  Speaker 1: like until you get your life together, you don't got
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  Speaker 1: no time to chill. What do you wait? What you're celebrating?
• 9:22
  Speaker 1: My guy? I mean life living? But you fucking up
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  Speaker 1: your liver at the right time. We definitely need some
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  Speaker 1: laws like that in America.
• 9:30
  Speaker 2: Okay, I agree, just a manship like how niggas would
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  Speaker 2: be killing each other just to get a drink, killing
• 9:39
  Speaker 2: them nigga who go to work? So he's a call no.
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  Speaker 1: Or I mean if if if we cut they damn
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  Speaker 1: heads off? Right?
• 9:48
  Speaker 2: What I got? It? Goes?
• 9:50
  Speaker 1: It go too far and real quick. I wonder what
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  Speaker 1: the penalty is if you are caught making twelve thousand
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  Speaker 1: dollars a year and drinking alcohol? Like, what is the penalty?
• 10:01
  Speaker 1: Are you going to jail? Getting your head got off?
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  Speaker 2: Like?
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  Speaker 1: What is happening in Saudi Aurabia? I would like to
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  Speaker 1: know because I feel like it needs to be implemented
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  Speaker 1: in America, right, But it's the only foreigners, right, Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I guess non Muslim so I don't think I mean everybody.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I guess that makes sense.
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  Speaker 1: But that's even weird though too. Right, So if you
• 10:23
  Speaker 1: are Muslim, you still can't drink alcohol, which I don't
• 10:25
  Speaker 1: think is a bad thing. So what would that What
• 10:28
  Speaker 1: would that be then that they just okay, leah, let
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  Speaker 1: them get drunk.
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  Speaker 2: I guess they're like, if y'all, we would like people
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  Speaker 2: to move here, people with money, If y'all move here,
• 10:40
  Speaker 2: we don't want no broke people to move here. We
• 10:42
  Speaker 2: want people with money to move here. So we have
• 10:44
  Speaker 2: to offer some incentive.
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  Speaker 1: They try to boost the GDP. Yeah, by selling liquor
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  Speaker 1: yep to the foreigners, to the stupid foreigners, right, got it?
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  Speaker 2: Like the only reason they talked to some white man,
• 10:59
  Speaker 2: the only reason I won't buy any properly there is
• 11:01
  Speaker 2: I can't have a fucking drink, man. Let's fix that.
• 11:06
  Speaker 2: That's really Sunday. So I saw this. So Atlanta came
• 11:10
  Speaker 2: out and the masses, a huge crowd shut down Gunner's
• 11:14
  Speaker 2: Wanner Run Club at Pont City Market and the line
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  Speaker 2: was huge. I don't know if y'all saw it. People
• 11:19
  Speaker 2: were wrapped around the building. And he started a run club.
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  Speaker 2: So niggas is running and it's a bunch of us
• 11:25
  Speaker 2: out there, and I love that. Have you ever known
• 11:27
  Speaker 2: it so much? Have you ever been to like Charlotte
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  Speaker 2: has a huge run club. I can't what it's to
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  Speaker 2: call you ever did it?
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  Speaker 1: No?
• 11:37
  Speaker 2: And it always because I'm never off working. Time is
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  Speaker 2: they would run on Tuesdays and Saturdays, and it'd be
• 11:44
  Speaker 2: Tuesday at six thirty. I don't get off till seven
• 11:46
  Speaker 2: thirty eight o'clock on Tuesdays, and then Saturday in the
• 11:49
  Speaker 2: afternoon I'm at work. So I've never made it to
• 11:52
  Speaker 2: run club, but I wanted to go so bad because
• 11:55
  Speaker 2: all the fine niggas with no shirt song be out there.
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  Speaker 1: I got a practice by myself first, because I don't
• 12:00
  Speaker 1: want to be at the end of the fucking line.
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  Speaker 2: But a lot of people walking. No, because it's so
• 12:05
  Speaker 2: many people walking. Everybody's not running, so it's like moms
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  Speaker 2: with strollers kids, you know, So you won't be at
• 12:12
  Speaker 2: the end. You be in a bag. But maybe at
• 12:15
  Speaker 2: the ends long as you're faster than somebody. You know.
• 12:18
  Speaker 1: We got the bridge running here and Charleston. I've only
• 12:20
  Speaker 1: done that shit one time and all my friends are
• 12:22
  Speaker 1: doing it next year, and I'm like, man, the one
• 12:25
  Speaker 1: time I did it, I was like, really really in shape.
• 12:27
  Speaker 1: I knew my mom many years ago, but yae, yeah,
• 12:33
  Speaker 1: my fucking legs would be noodles on that goddamn bridge.
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  Speaker 2: And some people don't even actually do the run. They
• 12:38
  Speaker 2: just walk come to the No, they just come to
• 12:42
  Speaker 2: where they meet and then wait for them to return
• 12:45
  Speaker 2: to the meeting spot because it turns us to a party.
• 12:47
  Speaker 2: They be dancing and stuff like that. It's no drinks
• 12:49
  Speaker 2: or nothing like that, but just vibes. Right, it's a
• 12:53
  Speaker 2: little hangout yep, so that's good. Gunna. Gunna has completely changed.
• 12:59
  Speaker 1: Every I seen on Low Duval page on Instagram. He
• 13:04
  Speaker 1: was like, who's the celebrity.
• 13:07
  Speaker 2: That he glowed up? Had the best was ugliest foot
• 13:12
  Speaker 2: before and now that he's fine?
• 13:13
  Speaker 1: Right, And I saw somebody commented and said, Gucci Mane
• 13:16
  Speaker 1: and Gunna. I don't know that Gunnar was ugly ever, Right,
• 13:20
  Speaker 1: this is a little chunky, but you know what, losing
• 13:23
  Speaker 1: weight will definitely change your face structure. So now he
• 13:26
  Speaker 1: look a little chisel.
• 13:27
  Speaker 2: In the face.
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  Speaker 1: And man, Gucci man I can't I won't say. I
• 13:30
  Speaker 1: think Gucci made him teeth be throwing me off with him.
• 13:32
  Speaker 1: But he is definitely more handsome than he was because ill. Okay,
• 13:38
  Speaker 1: I remember going to a Gucci Man concert I don't
• 13:40
  Speaker 1: know how long ago in Atlanta when he got out
• 13:42
  Speaker 1: of jail the first time HM and he couldn't even
• 13:45
  Speaker 1: move around.
• 13:46
  Speaker 2: Girl.
• 13:46
  Speaker 1: He was standing in one spot, just fat, that big
• 13:51
  Speaker 1: ass belly on roll.
• 13:54
  Speaker 2: It's so like his defence. It's so easy to give fat.
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  Speaker 2: It's so hard to lose.
• 14:02
  Speaker 1: Like maybe if I write it down, like, okay, this week,
• 14:04
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna lose five pounds. At each pound I lose,
• 14:06
  Speaker 1: I scratch it out like I don't know how, Like
• 14:09
  Speaker 1: I know I can do it, but what I Okay,
• 14:11
  Speaker 1: So since the first I have lost like five pounds,
• 14:14
  Speaker 1: which is water weight probably right, But man, I can't
• 14:19
  Speaker 1: eat a day to lose the weight. To lose those pounds,
• 14:24
  Speaker 1: I literally had to skip a whole whole day, even
• 14:27
  Speaker 1: a meal, the whole day of tell y'all, my bowel
• 14:31
  Speaker 1: movement is different. I got better bow movements.
• 14:34
  Speaker 2: That's good.
• 14:35
  Speaker 1: Yeah, So that that really is like your gut is
• 14:39
  Speaker 1: where all diseases and all that shit started. Anyway, right,
• 14:42
  Speaker 1: I think I shit too much?
• 14:45
  Speaker 2: So I don't know if it's like is that normal?
• 14:48
  Speaker 2: Like the doctor said, it's normal how much I go
• 14:50
  Speaker 2: to the bathroom?
• 14:50
  Speaker 1: But how am I to go after every meal?
• 14:54
  Speaker 2: I do?
• 14:55
  Speaker 1: I don't.
• 14:56
  Speaker 2: I Like I wake up in the morning and like
• 14:58
  Speaker 2: fifteen to twenty minutes afterway I gotta go every morning.
• 15:03
  Speaker 1: I mean I usually use the bathroom in the morning,
• 15:05
  Speaker 1: but then like now, like I have to consciously think,
• 15:07
  Speaker 1: like damn, did I use a bath like in the evening?
• 15:10
  Speaker 2: Like did I use the bathroom tonight?
• 15:11
  Speaker 1: Like usually it's just once in the morning a lot
• 15:14
  Speaker 1: of times, but no all day you all day?
• 15:18
  Speaker 2: Like what the ship full love it? Full love it
• 15:22
  Speaker 2: and not how I'm like shitting as much as still
• 15:24
  Speaker 2: don't fat that's the problem. Like I feel like I
• 15:28
  Speaker 2: should hear them, I should be skinny, but you know
• 15:31
  Speaker 2: it's not even losing weight is not hard, it's keeping
• 15:35
  Speaker 2: weight off. So shout out the gunner because he looks.
• 15:39
  Speaker 1: Great and he got.
• 15:42
  Speaker 2: I know, and he got him coming out in the wintertime,
• 15:44
  Speaker 2: so that's even better because run club gets scarce in
• 15:47
  Speaker 2: the winter. It's the spring and summer when people actually
• 15:51
  Speaker 2: care when it's time. They be eating pastries and soups.
• 15:55
  Speaker 2: And getting all fat and sassy like their lady said.
• 15:59
  Speaker 1: Right, So I saw. So John Rule had an exchange
• 16:03
  Speaker 1: with somebody on X. You know, he had some choice
• 16:06
  Speaker 1: words to say about fifty cent in his Netflix documentary
• 16:11
  Speaker 1: on p Diddy because he had some some some videos
• 16:16
  Speaker 1: like behind this, I guess behind the scenes. But apparently,
• 16:18
  Speaker 1: like fifty cent, Diddy has been having somebody like walk
• 16:22
  Speaker 1: around with a camera with him, you know, for the
• 16:25
  Speaker 1: last year. So somehow fifty cent obtained some of this content.
• 16:30
  Speaker 2: So when I when I heard or what I saw. Now,
• 16:32
  Speaker 2: this is allegedly that Diddy did not pay the videographer
• 16:37
  Speaker 2: because of the outcome of the case. He didn't pay
• 16:40
  Speaker 2: the videographer the footage in fifty a guardon.
• 16:44
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, how you not pay them? Like you had
• 16:49
  Speaker 1: somebody with you twenty four hours a day and then
• 16:50
  Speaker 1: decide not to pay them because you got to pay
• 16:52
  Speaker 1: casie and you pay lawyers and you go to jail.
• 16:55
  Speaker 1: You can't do that, So fIF like, and now at
• 16:57
  Speaker 1: this point, that person owns that content. Actually, whenever somebody
• 17:00
  Speaker 1: records or take pictures of somebody, they already own a
• 17:02
  Speaker 1: content unless you sign something releasing it. Right, So fifty
• 17:07
  Speaker 1: cent basically acquire some of his content for this, for
• 17:10
  Speaker 1: this documentary. And jah Rule, I don't even know why
• 17:14
  Speaker 1: he picking it. Picking a fight with fifty cent fifty
• 17:16
  Speaker 1: cent demolished for life, for life forever, okay, killed your career.
• 17:21
  Speaker 1: I loved jaw Rule though, but so anyway, I guess
• 17:23
  Speaker 1: he wanted with fifty cent, and jah Rule tweeted that
• 17:27
  Speaker 1: he's not condoning Diddy's behavior, He's just showcasing human Excuse me,
• 17:32
  Speaker 1: Herman's character. Who's Herman is fifty cents real name? Herman
• 17:35
  Speaker 1: thought it was Curtis Jackson, so he calls him herman.
• 17:39
  Speaker 1: I guess he says Herman's no different. Allegedly fifty cent
• 17:42
  Speaker 1: real name. Curtis Jackson has been involved in at least
• 17:45
  Speaker 1: one well documented domestic violence incident. In twenty thirteen, he
• 17:49
  Speaker 1: was accused of kicking his ex girlfriend and the mother
• 17:51
  Speaker 1: of his son, model Daphne Joy also known as Daphne
• 17:57
  Speaker 1: Narvez or something in the stomach after they're in the
• 18:00
  Speaker 1: stomach during an argument at her Los Angeles condominium, as
• 18:04
  Speaker 1: well as it's stroying approximately seven. Basically, he airinged fifty
• 18:07
  Speaker 1: cent out on some shit that he allegedly did to
• 18:10
  Speaker 1: Daphney Joy and settled out of court on right. His
• 18:13
  Speaker 1: whole thing is like, why are you snitching on Diddy? Like, yeah,
• 18:16
  Speaker 1: I don't condone what Diddy did, but why are you?
• 18:18
  Speaker 1: And I kind of said the same shit a couple
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: of weeks ago, right, like fifty Cent put out that
• 18:23
  Speaker 1: that tweet about about the documentary. I was like, I mean,
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: I guess the streets is dead, so it ain't no cold,
• 18:31
  Speaker 1: no none of that shit. And he's his fifty year
• 18:33
  Speaker 1: old men, right, and I guess they have been rivals
• 18:38
  Speaker 1: since forever to two, but the same at the same rate,
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: y'all rule, you're now snitching on fifty cent, Okay, because
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: I didn't know nothing about him getting into with Daphney Joy.
• 18:50
  Speaker 1: I don't, right, a lot of people I don't remember
• 18:52
  Speaker 1: that happening, Right, So you're saying that fifty cent creating
• 18:56
  Speaker 1: this documentary is snitching on Diddy. You're now sn on
• 19:00
  Speaker 1: fifty cent to justify calling fifty a snitch. You see
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: what I'm saying. Yah, understand what it's like. The hypocrisy
• 19:09
  Speaker 1: of it.
• 19:09
  Speaker 2: All definitely exposed a lot. Fifty Cent definitely did his
• 19:13
  Speaker 2: homework and exposed a lot of information on Diddy and
• 19:17
  Speaker 2: it's like the people are coming out of woods with
• 19:20
  Speaker 2: their story, but their strengthen numbers. You know. I guess
• 19:23
  Speaker 2: if you trying to do it by yourself, it's more scary.
• 19:26
  Speaker 2: I want us to talk about well, I know you
• 19:28
  Speaker 2: want to talk about that documentary. We have to do
• 19:30
  Speaker 2: an episode on that and our thoughts once I get
• 19:34
  Speaker 2: it around and watching.
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: That shit, not me watching something you didn't y'all know,
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: Damny ads be on TV.
• 19:40
  Speaker 2: Okay, yes, I love it, but this is you know,
• 19:45
  Speaker 2: it's dark, and it's not dark in the way I
• 19:48
  Speaker 2: like like Stranger Things. It's dark and light. Have you
• 19:51
  Speaker 2: started the new season? Oh? I'm starting and finish. I
• 19:54
  Speaker 2: can't wait for Christmas for the next one. I haven't
• 19:57
  Speaker 2: started it yet, girl.
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: My boyfriend was trying catch up, so I haven't started
• 20:02
  Speaker 1: watching the new season yet.
• 20:04
  Speaker 2: No. Do you watch Welcome to Dairy? Oh my god,
• 20:07
  Speaker 2: it's so good. I love that shit. I love that ship.
• 20:09
  Speaker 2: You gotta watch it if you like you like the
• 20:11
  Speaker 2: American horror story.
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: Right to a certain point, that shit started getting weird.
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: And it was weird from the beginning, but it was
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: my type of weird. Then it got like Lady God
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: got weird, nasty, gay, weird, devil weird type shit. Yeah, yeah,
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: watching it, I don't want that shit in my dance.
• 20:29
  Speaker 2: She's not saying gay people are nasty, so don't come
• 20:31
  Speaker 2: in the comments like.
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: This is very sadistic a lot of the things that
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: they was doing. So if you want to associate yourself
• 20:38
  Speaker 1: with that, I mean, maybe I should not have added
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: gate in there. But if you watched the American Horror
• 20:43
  Speaker 1: Story the last couple of seasons, that shit got real dark.
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: Yeah it did. Okay, Yeah, and you ain't got to
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: uh don't you ain't got to talk up for me.
• 20:52
  Speaker 2: But I just don't be wanting to hear that ship. Man,
• 20:55
  Speaker 2: don't be worthy to hear that ship because you know
• 20:57
  Speaker 2: what she meant. You just want to be You just
• 20:59
  Speaker 2: want to r.
• 21:00
  Speaker 1: Youn't want attention on Fridays. You want attention on Fridays,
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: I got it for you. Any other day, I got it.
• 21:07
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 21:08
  Speaker 1: I got a messy meme. Okay. I saw this and
• 21:11
  Speaker 1: I'm like, man, this is really how the fuck I
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: be feeling for real. Somebody tweeted it like why I
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: keep clicking on shit and can't get to it? Like
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: what is really happening. This guy tweeted and said, it's
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: our first time on earth. So why are you a
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: life coach?
• 21:29
  Speaker 2: Right? You ain't did it before.
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: I do believe people be reincarnated, but what you.
• 21:35
  Speaker 2: Don't be knowing about them last time?
• 21:38
  Speaker 1: I don't know. But how the fuck you coaching people
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: on That's the truest shit I ever fucking heard. How
• 21:44
  Speaker 1: are you coaching people on life.
• 21:47
  Speaker 2: Right, especially if you ain't even that. Oh, I hate
• 21:50
  Speaker 2: a life coach. That's twenty six. You can fuck out
• 21:53
  Speaker 2: my face.
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: You even did nothing yet.
• 21:56
  Speaker 2: Ye, you haven't even done anything yet. And also you
• 22:01
  Speaker 2: just started.
• 22:01
  Speaker 1: You're telling me to do you know, like you just yeah, I.
• 22:06
  Speaker 2: Like a marriage counselor who's never been married. Give the fucker.
• 22:10
  Speaker 1: Going to therapy with my mom and when I was
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: a teenager, man, my mama walked out of the therapy
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: session talking shit to the white girl.
• 22:17
  Speaker 2: She was like, you don't even have no damn kids.
• 22:18
  Speaker 1: I'm like, I just looked at the therapist like, see.
• 22:22
  Speaker 2: This is who I'm dealing with.
• 22:24
  Speaker 1: See she's exactly what the fuck I'm dealing with. I
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: maybe because I don't think you have to have kids, right,
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: but this is why I always say, like black people
• 22:33
  Speaker 1: just you need a different type of therapy.
• 22:35
  Speaker 2: We need.
• 22:36
  Speaker 1: I don't know if it's not a life coach shit,
• 22:38
  Speaker 1: we need more like spiritual healing, yeah type.
• 22:42
  Speaker 2: Shit this Western therapy or just a combination of things,
• 22:45
  Speaker 2: because without the other ain't working. And I saw this.
• 22:48
  Speaker 2: I know bitches that got the first batch of bbls
• 22:50
  Speaker 2: be mad when they see bitches with the BBO pro Max.
• 22:54
  Speaker 2: I know that be mad. Pro Max, the one that
• 22:57
  Speaker 2: look natural, the one that looked natural, smooth.
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: Like who got the shots ten fifteen years ago and
• 23:04
  Speaker 1: now it just started transferring the fat?
• 23:06
  Speaker 2: Maybe who got the first fat transfers that wasn't like
• 23:11
  Speaker 2: they were still getting it figured out on you and
• 23:15
  Speaker 2: now you've got that little lop they connect to your thigh.
• 23:19
  Speaker 2: I hate that little lung move that low out you
• 23:23
  Speaker 2: don't talking about like it's just ass out the bottom
• 23:27
  Speaker 2: and ass it ain't.
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: Like no grad natural women bodies have hip tips like
• 23:32
  Speaker 1: nobody's hips is like rounded out like that on the side.
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: And Cardi b Is a great example of what I'm
• 23:37
  Speaker 1: talking about. Right, so you know she got shots plus
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: fat transfers, probably summer walker, but she just got her shit.
• 23:44
  Speaker 1: Someone Walker was slim when she first came out. She
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: just did all that stuff. Let's think about it. When
• 23:50
  Speaker 1: she like first was going to the Grammys and she's like,
• 23:52
  Speaker 1: first she slim, cute. I don't know why, why do
• 23:56
  Speaker 1: you want that?
• 23:57
  Speaker 2: She was?
• 23:58
  Speaker 1: I mean, not teach their you know what I'm saying, but.
• 24:02
  Speaker 2: Man, because I don't want a body shame anybody. And
• 24:04
  Speaker 2: I feel like that's what I just did when I
• 24:06
  Speaker 2: called out something Walker. It's not a shame. I just
• 24:08
  Speaker 2: you know, I just I just noticed that it goes die,
• 24:14
  Speaker 2: you know, like there's no graduation, you know.
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: Yeah, we were looking for Bernice Burgos. Okay, she has
• 24:20
  Speaker 1: the best. Yeah, yeah, and she does. Drea's looks good too, Drea, Yeah,
• 24:28
  Speaker 1: she got a super slim bbl Yeah.
• 24:31
  Speaker 2: When you get it to you gotta get it to
• 24:33
  Speaker 2: match the body, you know. Like I just feel like
• 24:36
  Speaker 2: I feel like she said she had one many years ago.
• 24:40
  Speaker 2: She said she I might be lying. I might be lying,
• 24:43
  Speaker 2: but I could have sworn she said that she got
• 24:44
  Speaker 2: her body done.
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: She's just a slim girl. Like what would she have
• 24:49
  Speaker 1: gotten done done? I can't imagine her ever having enough
• 24:51
  Speaker 1: fat for transfer, right, I think she just got a
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: little bubble butt, a little cute shape.
• 25:00
  Speaker 2: Okay, maybe I'm wrong, but I just sworn she said
• 25:02
  Speaker 2: she did, and she had one of the first ones,
• 25:06
  Speaker 2: the iPhone one and BBO one. All Right, y'all, I
• 25:10
  Speaker 2: used to have I promise you this is the last
• 25:13
  Speaker 2: time I'm gonna bring up niggas all year long. Okay,
• 25:16
  Speaker 2: this is the last conversation on these men for the
• 25:19
  Speaker 2: rest of the year. Okay, January your ass all right.
• 25:25
  Speaker 2: I just we want to audit the men in your
• 25:28
  Speaker 2: life now. Cuff and season is done. You should either
• 25:31
  Speaker 2: be cuffed or uncuffed by now, like it's either or
• 25:35
  Speaker 2: you know, I don't think nobody's getting cuffed right before Christmas.
• 25:38
  Speaker 2: Niggas is gonna wait till after if they just getting
• 25:41
  Speaker 2: to know you, right, you know, right. So we want
• 25:46
  Speaker 2: to audit the men in your life emotionally, physically, and energetically.
• 25:50
  Speaker 2: So we're gonna get into that when we get back
• 25:52
  Speaker 2: from this commercial. All right. Our goal today is to
• 26:00
  Speaker 2: teach our listeners how to qualify men before giving access.
• 26:09
  Speaker 2: I'm now sorry. Here's the checklist items emotional stability, peace
• 26:15
  Speaker 2: versus chaos.
• 26:16
  Speaker 1: A lot of niggas don't have peace. They're not peaceful, right.
• 26:20
  Speaker 2: But they want it. Effort and consistency big one. That's
• 26:24
  Speaker 2: a huge one. Financial responsibility, that's really not just giving
• 26:30
  Speaker 2: you money.
• 26:31
  Speaker 1: How does he handle the business of his own life?
• 26:34
  Speaker 2: Right and boundary respect?
• 26:39
  Speaker 1: Men hate hearing no, That's what I've learned. Niggas do
• 26:42
  Speaker 1: not like hearing no.
• 26:44
  Speaker 2: I hate hearing know too, though, that's the word I
• 26:47
  Speaker 2: hate the most. I don't even accept it most of
• 26:50
  Speaker 2: the time. I just feel like this is where we
• 26:52
  Speaker 2: start negotiations, Like.
• 26:54
  Speaker 1: What do you mean no, I say, men hate no.
• 26:57
  Speaker 1: I'm talking about like you. This is a big example.
• 27:01
  Speaker 1: You not feeling like having sex, but they do. They
• 27:05
  Speaker 1: don't want they don't want to hear no. Yeah, even
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: in a relationship.
• 27:10
  Speaker 2: Have you ever gave your man damn here pussy?
• 27:13
  Speaker 1: Yes, plenty times. Care I ain't sucking. No, they don't
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: come with head though, yeah that hair, pussy don't come
• 27:20
  Speaker 1: with head. I don't even like you right now, So
• 27:22
  Speaker 1: why when you're having sex? But here, Hey, this ship, man,
• 27:25
  Speaker 1: if you want it like.
• 27:25
  Speaker 2: This, then they'll take it. They don't care. I remember,
• 27:32
  Speaker 2: you don't care. He was like, uh, open war. He said,
• 27:35
  Speaker 2: he'll take damn hare pussy and ah, here's some pussy shay.
• 27:42
  Speaker 1: Pitty pussy has to be there if you out here
• 27:44
  Speaker 1: just getting pity pussy like that has to be sagging.
• 27:47
  Speaker 1: You know you only smash him one time, right, right,
• 27:49
  Speaker 1: you better knock that ship out the park. Got back
• 27:52
  Speaker 1: to your whack ass. No, this this discussion is very important,
• 27:56
  Speaker 1: right because I think as women, oftentimes we all only
• 28:00
  Speaker 1: listening to what somebody is saying, and we're acting like
• 28:03
  Speaker 1: we don't see what the fuck they're doing, right, and
• 28:06
  Speaker 1: ignoreing it exactly. And then sometimes and I know I've
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: said this in the past, where I feel like in
• 28:12
  Speaker 1: relationships men they want a therapist for a girlfriend, Like
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: it's not one and the same, like just because like
• 28:19
  Speaker 1: you do want to be able to be vulnerable with
• 28:21
  Speaker 1: your partner, but not to the point to where she's
• 28:24
  Speaker 1: supposed to solve all your mental issues, like all your
• 28:26
  Speaker 1: childhood traumas, or then use those things to justify your
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: behavior towards her.
• 28:31
  Speaker 2: No, right, and that's scary.
• 28:34
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you were abused, so now you be abusing me,
• 28:36
  Speaker 1: And I'm just he was abused as a kid. No,
• 28:39
  Speaker 1: go get help, right, Go get some fucking help. Mental
• 28:43
  Speaker 1: emotional stability is very, very very important.
• 28:48
  Speaker 2: Yeah, most people don't have it all the way most people,
• 28:53
  Speaker 2: so you just got to like know your personality and
• 28:56
  Speaker 2: pick your poison too, like, cause I feel like you're
• 28:59
  Speaker 2: gonna probably end up with somebody with some shit, Like
• 29:02
  Speaker 2: I don't feel like everybody. Have you met somebody who
• 29:05
  Speaker 2: was like one hundred percent emotionally stable one hundred percent.
• 29:10
  Speaker 1: If somebody appeared to be one hundred percent emotionally stable,
• 29:13
  Speaker 1: I would be waiting for crazy to show up, real crazy, like,
• 29:19
  Speaker 1: like you ain't real? When is he coming? You telling
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: my boyfriend I'm gonna beat you today, Like have you
• 29:24
  Speaker 1: wanted him? I've been warned him, Like the domestic violence
• 29:28
  Speaker 1: is coming, So you know I'm retarded.
• 29:31
  Speaker 2: Right, one day I'm beat you today? Is crazy?
• 29:36
  Speaker 1: We one day I might beat you, Okay, throwing it
• 29:40
  Speaker 1: out there, You're not surprised when it happens.
• 29:44
  Speaker 2: To meet me? You can't.
• 29:45
  Speaker 1: I changed a goodness. Financial responsibility. This is a big one,
• 29:51
  Speaker 1: and not necessarily because I feel like we do live
• 29:54
  Speaker 1: in a society today where women feel.
• 29:56
  Speaker 2: Like, especially these young girls, it's so weird. They feel
• 29:59
  Speaker 2: like these young niggas don't have no money to take
• 30:02
  Speaker 2: care never. They they can't take care of you, They
• 30:06
  Speaker 2: barely can take care of themselves. But you do want
• 30:09
  Speaker 2: to find someone who is ambitious, someone who's trying to
• 30:13
  Speaker 2: make the moves to do things for you and themselves.
• 30:19
  Speaker 2: And you got to make sure.
• 30:20
  Speaker 1: I'm stay to mind. It's not like if they're like
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: broke mentally, then yeah, you can't fuck with them, but
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: if they trying to get things in motion, even just
• 30:28
  Speaker 1: it actually starts with literally just moving around. If you
• 30:31
  Speaker 1: got somebody who's sitting and watching TV, smoke video games
• 30:34
  Speaker 1: all day long, smoke, he's high every day all day,
• 30:38
  Speaker 1: get out of there. And if you are like that,
• 30:41
  Speaker 1: so that's why that's what you're attracting, you need to
• 30:44
  Speaker 1: change you if you want to attract something different.
• 30:46
  Speaker 2: Right, because you can't sit out around all day and
• 30:49
  Speaker 2: then expect to have somebody who's ambitious and moving around
• 30:53
  Speaker 2: and doing the things. I mean, some women get lucky
• 30:59
  Speaker 2: and you can find somebody who's just gonna allow them
• 31:02
  Speaker 2: to be a do nothing bitch.
• 31:05
  Speaker 1: They're talking about you though, They talking shit about you
• 31:08
  Speaker 1: to the bitch they really want and let you know
• 31:10
  Speaker 1: that the bitch you ain't going for it, right, They
• 31:15
  Speaker 1: talking shit about you to that bitch.
• 31:17
  Speaker 2: Well, we gotta stop saying bitch.
• 31:20
  Speaker 1: They're talking about you to that woman, the woman with
• 31:24
  Speaker 1: a little bit more depth. Yeah, they talking about you.
• 31:28
  Speaker 2: But I do think you should be able to ask
• 31:30
  Speaker 2: the person he's sleeping with for money. Don't get it
• 31:32
  Speaker 2: twisted very much.
• 31:34
  Speaker 1: So like what we talking about? And you know it's
• 31:37
  Speaker 1: not that it's not gold digger, right, I wouldn't say
• 31:41
  Speaker 1: that I'm a gold digger, but I'm not fucking with
• 31:42
  Speaker 1: somebody who does not have the means.
• 31:44
  Speaker 2: To help me if I need it. Write that part
• 31:47
  Speaker 2: it doesn't make sense.
• 31:48
  Speaker 1: To me, Like somebody I know is always considering a
• 31:52
  Speaker 1: man's pocket, Like, well he got bills too, So what
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: what are we talking about?
• 31:58
  Speaker 2: Right, So you're not going to help?
• 32:01
  Speaker 1: Yeah, like they know they gotta pay for Cucci indirectly directly, however,
• 32:05
  Speaker 1: like men literally take our life force.
• 32:08
  Speaker 2: Hold on, hold on, that's sorry.
• 32:12
  Speaker 1: Yeah, men and men literally take our life force. Right,
• 32:15
  Speaker 1: they use us. Women are givers, men are takers. It
• 32:18
  Speaker 1: is just it is what it is. We're open, they're closed,
• 32:21
  Speaker 1: so they have to come with offerings. Right you look up,
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: you don't aged five years, you don't have a kid,
• 32:28
  Speaker 1: your body different, all the shit they have to come
• 32:31
  Speaker 1: with offerings. And they know this because what's the first
• 32:34
  Speaker 1: thing men say, Like, if you ask a man if
• 32:38
  Speaker 1: he could be a woman for a day, what would
• 32:39
  Speaker 1: he do. It's gonna be selling at box. Yes, they
• 32:43
  Speaker 1: don't always want to sell at pussy. They already know
• 32:47
  Speaker 1: that it's worth something. They just want to trick you
• 32:50
  Speaker 1: into thinking.
• 32:55
  Speaker 2: Me, no, that's not how that words. Absolutely not.
• 32:58
  Speaker 1: They use the box, so you have to pay the
• 33:00
  Speaker 1: usage tax. That is just just it is what it is, right.
• 33:05
  Speaker 1: It don't make you no goal digger, I hate that term. Yeah,
• 33:08
  Speaker 1: and they digging your goal listen. Okay? So peace versus chaos? Okay.
• 33:13
  Speaker 1: I have been with some very unpeaceful men and if
• 33:16
  Speaker 1: you ask any man, they always want peace. But they don't.
• 33:20
  Speaker 1: They just they're not peaceful. Right, So you want somebody
• 33:23
  Speaker 1: who makes you feel good. That's just not even in
• 33:25
  Speaker 1: relationships with you know, your significant other, even your family.
• 33:28
  Speaker 1: Who wants to go around somebody that drags their energy
• 33:31
  Speaker 1: in a minute, they step in the room, you step
• 33:33
  Speaker 1: in the house, and you can feel how heavy it is,
• 33:36
  Speaker 1: how he wants to be around that. So you want
• 33:38
  Speaker 1: to be a delight and you want to be with
• 33:41
  Speaker 1: someone that is also delightful.
• 33:43
  Speaker 2: Right that part? Yeah, so peace versus chaos is huge boundaries.
• 33:49
  Speaker 2: Respect you. I think that's a you thing and not
• 33:54
  Speaker 2: another person thing, because the first person who gotta respect
• 33:58
  Speaker 2: your boundaries is you.
• 34:00
  Speaker 1: Mm hmm. Absolutely.
• 34:03
  Speaker 2: That's something I had to learn because I said clear boundaries,
• 34:07
  Speaker 2: and then as soon as I like somebody, the shit
• 34:11
  Speaker 2: just get soft and bendable and foldable and then non
• 34:15
  Speaker 2: existent exactly. And then if I had tuk to my boundaries,
• 34:19
  Speaker 2: I wouldn't end up in so many situations that were
• 34:22
  Speaker 2: in alignment with what I needed.
• 34:23
  Speaker 1: So, and men want boundaries just like kids. Okay, so
• 34:29
  Speaker 1: your boundaries should be unwavering. They should not twist and fold.
• 34:33
  Speaker 1: And it is about having boundaries and like compromising, like
• 34:35
  Speaker 1: to me, like, that's that's two different things, right. A
• 34:38
  Speaker 1: lot of the boundaries that women have, men also have
• 34:40
  Speaker 1: those boundaries, and guess what, they're not letting you cross
• 34:43
  Speaker 1: them to fuck up out of here at the minute
• 34:45
  Speaker 1: they see some shit they don't like. So we need
• 34:47
  Speaker 1: to in that way, we need to move like men.
• 34:51
  Speaker 1: It's just thinks that men are not dealing with like
• 34:53
  Speaker 1: cheating and they're not dealing with that, so why are we.
• 34:57
  Speaker 1: So if you have your boundaries, stick to them, because
• 35:00
  Speaker 1: somebody who really loves and appreciates you do not mind boundaries.
• 35:04
  Speaker 1: The only person who mind boundaries are habitual linesteppers. Get
• 35:07
  Speaker 1: them to fuck up out your life effort.
• 35:11
  Speaker 2: Inconsistency ain't nothing worse than a nigga of what you
• 35:15
  Speaker 2: a wyd that's it? Like don't wyd me to death
• 35:22
  Speaker 2: and then I tell you what I'm doing and then
• 35:24
  Speaker 2: you get missing and then come back again later wyd wory,
• 35:29
  Speaker 2: fuck you leave me.
• 35:29
  Speaker 1: Alone because what are you doing? Are you just trying
• 35:32
  Speaker 1: to keep in contact really, like just in case? I
• 35:35
  Speaker 1: ain't know, just in case, So don't be trying to
• 35:38
  Speaker 1: keep up with me, Like well no, just that's not communication.
• 35:42
  Speaker 1: That's not engaging at all. Like, girl, I hit you
• 35:45
  Speaker 1: every day wyd me to death at texting is not
• 35:49
  Speaker 1: talking to me. Even if we text all day long,
• 35:52
  Speaker 1: we didn't talk. So if I'm with you or you're
• 35:56
  Speaker 1: interested in me, and you just text me every day
• 35:58
  Speaker 1: and we never hear each other voice or see each other,
• 36:01
  Speaker 1: you don't talk to me. I don't know you. You
• 36:04
  Speaker 1: cannot get to know anybody via text message. You got
• 36:06
  Speaker 1: to pick up the phone and call me. And I
• 36:08
  Speaker 1: don't know of that. I don't. I know the younger,
• 36:11
  Speaker 1: younger people, they probably okay with texting all day long.
• 36:13
  Speaker 1: But I'd be wanting to throw my fucking phone if
• 36:15
  Speaker 1: somebody texting me paragraphs. I'm not I'm sending voice notes back.
• 36:20
  Speaker 2: But you the baby bear Porridge like, don't text me,
• 36:24
  Speaker 2: don't text me short, but don't text me long either, baby.
• 36:27
  Speaker 1: No, just call? Yeah, yeah, just call or send a
• 36:30
  Speaker 1: voice note if you don't.
• 36:32
  Speaker 2: I don't want to.
• 36:33
  Speaker 1: I never mind that all day.
• 36:36
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't mind that as long as we're communicating,
• 36:40
  Speaker 2: cause sometimes.
• 36:41
  Speaker 1: Communication to me, it's really not like if the text
• 36:44
  Speaker 1: messages are not followed up with a phone call at
• 36:46
  Speaker 1: some point throughout the day, we never spoke.
• 36:49
  Speaker 2: Have you never had somebody sent you a text message
• 36:52
  Speaker 2: that was so sweet that you read it over and
• 36:54
  Speaker 2: over again.
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: Absolutely, but still follow up with a phone call. I
• 36:58
  Speaker 1: like text messages. I can go back to you know,
• 37:00
  Speaker 1: nice sweet ones. Y'all know what I'm playing. Player my guy,
• 37:04
  Speaker 1: I sent him like you know how you could do
• 37:07
  Speaker 1: like uh like the virtual e cards. I sent him
• 37:10
  Speaker 1: a nice e card that he says he can't stop reading.
• 37:16
  Speaker 1: I'm not telling y'all what I said in there. I
• 37:18
  Speaker 1: said the game coach, I got the nigga.
• 37:22
  Speaker 2: I know that because player you already had the nigga.
• 37:26
  Speaker 1: There's a difference between having and keeping. Now, I said,
• 37:29
  Speaker 1: I kept. I kept the nigga. Okay, then you gotta
• 37:32
  Speaker 1: have effort to y'all. Gotta do like little stuff too.
• 37:35
  Speaker 2: That's what I was telling one of my friends, Like
• 37:38
  Speaker 2: she just thinks like the guy is supposed to do everything.
• 37:41
  Speaker 2: I was like, well, you have to make him feel
• 37:43
  Speaker 2: like you're interested in him too, Like it's not one sided.
• 37:47
  Speaker 1: Yea, you gotta be funny.
• 37:49
  Speaker 2: Why would he keep doing the things if you're not
• 37:51
  Speaker 2: making him feel nothing?
• 37:53
  Speaker 1: Right, everybody wants the reciprocation everybody, So by the nigga,
• 38:01
  Speaker 1: A drink it too, by something nice too. I never understand.
• 38:05
  Speaker 1: I think women do be buying me shit. I don't
• 38:07
  Speaker 1: know what these men be talking about. If you never
• 38:08
  Speaker 1: had a woman do something nice for you, then that
• 38:12
  Speaker 1: dick ain't hitting.
• 38:13
  Speaker 2: One of my friends her man was deployed, and you
• 38:17
  Speaker 2: know they were trying to find ways to like keep
• 38:20
  Speaker 2: their energy and their spark. So once some nights, they
• 38:24
  Speaker 2: would like get on a movie together and press play
• 38:27
  Speaker 2: at the exact same time so they could like listen
• 38:30
  Speaker 2: to the movie and they would both have popcorn and
• 38:32
  Speaker 2: they would watch the movie together. And then one time
• 38:34
  Speaker 2: she sent him one of you know those three d legos,
• 38:39
  Speaker 2: same ones, and they built it together over FaceTime. Like
• 38:45
  Speaker 2: I thought that was cute.
• 38:46
  Speaker 1: Costco got them. They got some roses, now, like yep,
• 38:49
  Speaker 1: that's what it was.
• 38:50
  Speaker 2: That was it was a rose and it was like Valentine.
• 38:53
  Speaker 2: So they didn't the effort.
• 38:54
  Speaker 1: Women, You gotta put forth effort too, Okay.
• 38:58
  Speaker 2: I love making niggas books, and it don't be like
• 39:01
  Speaker 2: coupon books. For like some of it be real shit,
• 39:04
  Speaker 2: like like I'll get put a gift card to like
• 39:07
  Speaker 2: one of their favorite stores in there. But then I
• 39:09
  Speaker 2: also I'll make personal gift coupon's, like all my niggas
• 39:13
  Speaker 2: get to shut the fuck up, give coupon on Valentine's
• 39:17
  Speaker 2: Day and they redeem it at any time.
• 39:22
  Speaker 1: That's cute.
• 39:24
  Speaker 2: Put that shit on the table. I would close my
• 39:26
  Speaker 2: mouth about whatever do.
• 39:28
  Speaker 1: For how long though my coupon got that shit expired early?
• 39:33
  Speaker 1: You got and my my coupon's gonna have expiration day,
• 39:36
  Speaker 1: so you better use that shit quick.
• 39:38
  Speaker 2: No, they don't expire, but once you redeem it, you
• 39:40
  Speaker 2: can't use it twice, so you better make sure it's
• 39:43
  Speaker 2: worth it for me to be quiet, it'll be a
• 39:45
  Speaker 2: shut the fuck up or kuchi kuhan.
• 39:48
  Speaker 1: This coupon has already been scanned. That should happened to
• 39:52
  Speaker 1: me one day in Sally's, y'all. Was in Sally's, so
• 39:54
  Speaker 1: fuck I let my homegirl use a coupon that came
• 39:56
  Speaker 1: to my phone. I thought it was transferable. I had
• 39:59
  Speaker 1: so much it in my car. I'm thinking I'm getting
• 40:01
  Speaker 1: fifty percent of all this shit. That girl was like, oh,
• 40:04
  Speaker 1: this coupona's already scanned. I like to cry, and Sally's okay,
• 40:08
  Speaker 1: He's in there for like an hour.
• 40:10
  Speaker 2: No, I got a story like so embarrassing, y'all. So
• 40:13
  Speaker 2: this nigga had sent me I feel like I tell y'all,
• 40:15
  Speaker 2: he sent me some leave a time boots and they
• 40:19
  Speaker 2: were the wrong. Like I went, I took him back
• 40:22
  Speaker 2: and then Louis told me these ain't real like what.
• 40:29
  Speaker 1: A man can get.
• 40:31
  Speaker 2: All him been cussed about so bad for embarrassing me
• 40:34
  Speaker 2: like that. You try to trick me.
• 40:37
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's where he was, where he got him from.
• 40:42
  Speaker 1: He might have bought him off eBay if anything.
• 40:44
  Speaker 2: He said his homeboy bought him for his girl and
• 40:48
  Speaker 2: they broke up and he bought him from him. That's
• 40:53
  Speaker 2: what he told me. That was probably a lie. He
• 40:55
  Speaker 2: probably got it off the side of the road.
• 40:57
  Speaker 1: Somewhere Chinese shop, Canal Street.
• 41:02
  Speaker 2: But they were good replicas though, because I was I
• 41:05
  Speaker 2: thought they were real. I would have never gone into
• 41:07
  Speaker 2: nobody's Louis store with no fake shoes.
• 41:11
  Speaker 1: That's grounds for termination.
• 41:12
  Speaker 2: Man, Oh, he got terminated, all right.
• 41:20
  Speaker 1: So the grading scale, so there's a there's a grading scale.
• 41:26
  Speaker 2: So yeah, when you get to your nigga, I want
• 41:28
  Speaker 2: you to look at him and really analyze and write
• 41:31
  Speaker 2: down your pros and cons and then you're gonna grade
• 41:33
  Speaker 2: him on this scale. So A would be elite. So
• 41:38
  Speaker 2: that means this man is doing all the things. He
• 41:40
  Speaker 2: has energy, stability, and consistency, b grown, but not a line.
• 41:48
  Speaker 2: He's good, but he's a right now great, but you're
• 41:52
  Speaker 2: not sure if it's long term.
• 41:53
  Speaker 1: So basically he's lacking lacking consistency. Like every once in
• 41:56
  Speaker 1: a while you see some bullshit.
• 41:58
  Speaker 2: Or it may not be like just consistency. It might
• 42:01
  Speaker 2: be he's not as peaceful as you need, or maybe
• 42:04
  Speaker 2: he's not financially growing in the way that you see
• 42:08
  Speaker 2: fit for future or shit like that, or he a
• 42:13
  Speaker 2: habitual boundary crosser, yeah, something like like no, he doesn't
• 42:18
  Speaker 2: like no, or a seasonal like what I got going
• 42:22
  Speaker 2: on right now. He's fun okay, short term but not serious.
• 42:27
  Speaker 2: Just a winner as soon as you throw out.
• 42:31
  Speaker 1: A lot of times, most people in your life are seasonal,
• 42:35
  Speaker 1: but we be trying to give them permanent positions like
• 42:38
  Speaker 1: and I think that's where black women suck up because
• 42:41
  Speaker 1: we never dated as kids. We don't know when it
• 42:43
  Speaker 1: lets somebody get like let him go, the season is
• 42:46
  Speaker 1: over with you. Hopefully you learned what you needed to learn.
• 42:51
  Speaker 1: What I learned recently, though, is that dating is so important.
• 42:55
  Speaker 1: And when I say dating, I mean like without sex,
• 42:58
  Speaker 1: just getting to know different people so you could then
• 43:00
  Speaker 1: know what you like and what you don't like because
• 43:03
  Speaker 1: you don't want to. You have women who have only
• 43:05
  Speaker 1: been in two three relationships their whole lives, and when
• 43:08
  Speaker 1: they get into the next new relationship, they start seeing
• 43:11
  Speaker 1: some shit like you thought you were good because this
• 43:14
  Speaker 1: person wasn't displaying the bullshit the last person was. But
• 43:17
  Speaker 1: now you've now discovered more shit that you need to
• 43:21
  Speaker 1: set a boundary about. You know, you've discovered, now having
• 43:24
  Speaker 1: dealt with this new person, some other shit you don't like.
• 43:26
  Speaker 1: So that is importance of dating, so you can get
• 43:29
  Speaker 1: all this. I learned a lot of things. I learned
• 43:31
  Speaker 1: a lot of things about myself, about what I want
• 43:34
  Speaker 1: and what I don't want in a relationship. A lot
• 43:37
  Speaker 1: of things I needed to change. But you can't learn
• 43:40
  Speaker 1: those things until you be in the thing.
• 43:43
  Speaker 2: I have a client who has been with her husband
• 43:47
  Speaker 2: since she was fourteen. He's thirty seven now. He was
• 43:54
  Speaker 2: her first, he was her only, and every time she
• 43:58
  Speaker 2: come to get her hair done, she talked to me
• 44:00
  Speaker 2: about how she want to try some different dick, very
• 44:03
  Speaker 2: hair boy man. And I'd be like, because I'm not
• 44:07
  Speaker 2: gonna advise anybody to go out and teat on their husband.
• 44:11
  Speaker 2: That's never gonna be my advice.
• 44:13
  Speaker 1: Yeah, not husbands.
• 44:14
  Speaker 2: I can't. I can't, you know, with good, good conscious
• 44:16
  Speaker 2: and now it was your boyfriend, I might suggest you
• 44:22
  Speaker 2: see what's out there, but right I'm not suggesting that
• 44:26
  Speaker 2: to a married woman. So I just listen oftentimes, and
• 44:29
  Speaker 2: those appointments, I just listen and I'll help try to
• 44:33
  Speaker 2: help you come up with what you already want.
• 44:36
  Speaker 1: That's what therapists do, right, Oh is that really?
• 44:39
  Speaker 2: Yeah? And I feel like it could be a conversation.
• 44:41
  Speaker 1: Right, But if you're with somebody who you can't talk
• 44:44
  Speaker 1: about your like those are natural feelings, that those feelings
• 44:47
  Speaker 1: are not abnormal because I bet you he's acted on
• 44:49
  Speaker 1: his already. Yeah, you see what I'm saying. So, women,
• 44:52
  Speaker 1: we a lot of times we are more loyal to
• 44:56
  Speaker 1: a default than men are, Like we have a little
• 44:58
  Speaker 1: bit more self control. And I don't know that she
• 45:03
  Speaker 1: should talk to him. Maybe if she does, she should
• 45:05
  Speaker 1: say it in therapy with him. Right, Hey, I've been
• 45:08
  Speaker 1: having these feelings. You might not want to talk to
• 45:10
  Speaker 1: talk about that shit like on a Saturday night while
• 45:13
  Speaker 1: all at the house just chilling. Like he may not
• 45:15
  Speaker 1: receive it. He may men all he's gonna automatically go
• 45:18
  Speaker 1: to like, oh, this dick ain't good enough.
• 45:20
  Speaker 2: No, I just.
• 45:22
  Speaker 1: I know I could get fucked different, right, my friends
• 45:26
  Speaker 1: tell me how they be getting fucked up. You've never
• 45:31
  Speaker 1: pulled my hair, okay, you never choked me like.
• 45:36
  Speaker 2: You do the same shit, right, and I want to
• 45:38
  Speaker 2: just try something different one time, just one time, that's
• 45:42
  Speaker 2: what she always say. Yeah, but you know it don't
• 45:45
  Speaker 2: never be one time.
• 45:46
  Speaker 1: Yeah, well no, that is Pandora's box. You know. This
• 45:49
  Speaker 1: is like, that's like fucking without a condom for the
• 45:51
  Speaker 1: first time. That's the worst thing you could have ever done,
• 45:53
  Speaker 1: because how do you go back, right, It's hard to
• 45:55
  Speaker 1: go back. So I don't know. I don't know how
• 45:59
  Speaker 1: she gonna you you a good person, not a married woman,
• 46:04
  Speaker 1: because I had I had a conversation recently with a
• 46:06
  Speaker 1: married friend and I'm like, listen, I'm not telling you
• 46:08
  Speaker 1: to leave your husband. And I was in her wedding,
• 46:11
  Speaker 1: and I feel like it's the people who are closest
• 46:13
  Speaker 1: to you who were like in your wedding. Shit, they
• 46:15
  Speaker 1: are the people who are supposed to keep you and
• 46:17
  Speaker 1: your partner together, actually, right, those are the people you're
• 46:20
  Speaker 1: supposed to counsel with when shit fucked up, and they
• 46:23
  Speaker 1: help guide y'all. Right, So I'm definitely not telling you
• 46:26
  Speaker 1: to leave your fucking husband, but you gotta have serious conversations, right,
• 46:31
  Speaker 1: And he just got to see you making moves and
• 46:34
  Speaker 1: doing something different because I think a lot of times
• 46:36
  Speaker 1: men just get too familiar, They get too comfort and
• 46:40
  Speaker 1: they think shit can change. Until it does, you start
• 46:46
  Speaker 1: losing weight and not giving a fuck. I send some
• 46:49
  Speaker 1: flowers to her house? Who by homegirl said, I'm gonna
• 46:54
  Speaker 1: send some flowers to your house because I'm trying to
• 46:55
  Speaker 1: figure out why this is nigga, don't think you the ship?
• 46:58
  Speaker 2: Yeah? Or who forgot? Yeah?
• 47:00
  Speaker 1: Exactly, I'm sending you some flowers from secret mire, right, girl,
• 47:05
  Speaker 1: were you fucking to kill my friend? I ain't doing this.
• 47:07
  Speaker 1: Then cannot take the type of shit they be doing
• 47:10
  Speaker 1: to people. They cannot take what they dish ever.
• 47:13
  Speaker 2: All right, So then the next one. If you look
• 47:16
  Speaker 2: at your man right now, is he d draining you?
• 47:20
  Speaker 2: Emotionally unavailable and inconsistent.
• 47:23
  Speaker 1: Take a look.
• 47:24
  Speaker 2: Just steer at him right now. Don't tell him what
• 47:26
  Speaker 2: you're thinking about, but think about this checklist.
• 47:28
  Speaker 1: Don't even look at him. Look at an old picture
• 47:30
  Speaker 1: you on Instagram and go look in the mirror.
• 47:33
  Speaker 2: Bitch.
• 47:33
  Speaker 1: If you're looking five years older, you're somebody stealing your
• 47:37
  Speaker 1: damn energy. Okay, but don't look at a picture from
• 47:40
  Speaker 1: five years ago, because you're supposed to look five years
• 47:43
  Speaker 1: older Now, don't blame that nigga because you look really.
• 47:46
  Speaker 1: I mean, if you are five years older, you might
• 47:50
  Speaker 1: look five years older.
• 47:51
  Speaker 2: And it don't have nothing to do with the nigga.
• 47:52
  Speaker 1: I don't watch you like I look five years older.
• 47:56
  Speaker 1: I feel like I looked so old in a relationship
• 47:58
  Speaker 1: with a nigga who I was engaged. I looked and
• 48:01
  Speaker 1: felt so old in our relationship, and I don't feel
• 48:04
  Speaker 1: like that anymore. Yeah. Like, I literally feel like somebody
• 48:07
  Speaker 1: was like sucking the life out of me. Damn. So
• 48:09
  Speaker 1: that's what I mean. Yeah Like, And he was getting younger,
• 48:12
  Speaker 1: and he would make jokes about it too. He would
• 48:15
  Speaker 1: make jokes saying I look older than him. Imagine that.
• 48:20
  Speaker 1: So he was definitely stealing. He was stealing from your Yeah,
• 48:26
  Speaker 1: then f removed from roster. This was chaos, low emotional intelligence.
• 48:33
  Speaker 2: If you guys was.
• 48:34
  Speaker 1: Thinking about this, go ahead, sorry.
• 48:38
  Speaker 2: Great, go ahead, go ahead, go ahead.
• 48:41
  Speaker 1: No I was. I was thinking the other day, y'all.
• 48:43
  Speaker 1: When I lose friendships, it does make me sad. I
• 48:45
  Speaker 1: was saying that the other day, and one of them,
• 48:47
  Speaker 1: and I think about my friends often, right, my ex friends.
• 48:51
  Speaker 1: So one of my homegirls, one of my ex friends.
• 48:54
  Speaker 1: I just remember like her having me on speakerphone, like
• 48:57
  Speaker 1: in the car with her and her man, and he
• 48:59
  Speaker 1: would be like the fuck up. I'm like, why the
• 49:01
  Speaker 1: fuck are you.
• 49:01
  Speaker 2: Talking to my friend like that? Are you stupid? Right?
• 49:04
  Speaker 1: But when her and I, when our friendship ended, she
• 49:07
  Speaker 1: was saying that I always be She said, I always
• 49:09
  Speaker 1: disrespect her. She's married to this nigga. Now, I've never
• 49:13
  Speaker 1: disrespected you because obviously you don't know what disrespect is, right, right,
• 49:17
  Speaker 1: because that nigga would be talking and treating you so greasy.
• 49:21
  Speaker 1: But the amount of grace that we give these men
• 49:24
  Speaker 1: versus like your home, Like, I don't know what she
• 49:26
  Speaker 1: considered disrespect, but I never told you to shut the
• 49:29
  Speaker 1: fuck up. Yeah, in front of your best friend or
• 49:35
  Speaker 1: in front of your man, or in front of whoever.
• 49:37
  Speaker 2: In front of anybody. Yeah, that's wow. So you got
• 49:39
  Speaker 2: a person talking, and if you're talking to your partner
• 49:42
  Speaker 2: like that, you need to check that shit too, Like.
• 49:44
  Speaker 1: It's time to get out of there. You don't.
• 49:45
  Speaker 2: You don't have no respect for him no more, or
• 49:47
  Speaker 2: him or her no more. So it's time to go.
• 49:51
  Speaker 2: Once you started telling the nigga shut the fuck up.
• 49:53
  Speaker 2: And if you calling your nigga bitch every time you
• 49:55
  Speaker 2: get mad at him, girl, just leave that man.
• 49:58
  Speaker 1: I would call mine a son of a bitch, and
• 50:00
  Speaker 1: he would get so angry because his mom was dead,
• 50:03
  Speaker 1: and you knew that. Yes, I might have called him
• 50:07
  Speaker 1: a son of a bitch three times, and when I did,
• 50:10
  Speaker 1: it was with much intent and I knew how much
• 50:12
  Speaker 1: he hate that. But I'm not really calling your mama bitch.
• 50:15
  Speaker 1: I'm really just calling you a bitch like and you
• 50:19
  Speaker 1: acting like a bitch ass nigga. But if you want
• 50:20
  Speaker 1: to take it that way, and I know it gets
• 50:22
  Speaker 1: under your skin, but you.
• 50:26
  Speaker 2: Didn't call him a bitch. You said you're a son
• 50:28
  Speaker 2: of a bitch.
• 50:29
  Speaker 1: Same thing, because that's why you act like, why you
• 50:31
  Speaker 1: act like that. Your mama allowed this type of behavior.
• 50:34
  Speaker 1: And now here I am trying to course correct and
• 50:37
  Speaker 1: raise a man. Now I'm trying to like, that's not right.
• 50:41
  Speaker 1: You can't let me tell y'all the last time I
• 50:43
  Speaker 1: called him a son of a bitch. Okay, just right quick.
• 50:47
  Speaker 1: When I cook, I expect you to eat immediately. You
• 50:51
  Speaker 1: can't be walking around the house saying you hungry. As
• 50:54
  Speaker 1: soon as I put the food out, you letting the food,
• 50:56
  Speaker 1: this good old food I cook for you get cold?
• 50:58
  Speaker 1: That is so disrespectful, special out food, hot tea yeah,
• 51:03
  Speaker 1: especially by card out time. Because I like, if I
• 51:05
  Speaker 1: cook for you, like I want you to eat it fresh, right,
• 51:08
  Speaker 1: I want you to really taste it. It's like a
• 51:09
  Speaker 1: love language for me. Right, So if I got to
• 51:13
  Speaker 1: warm your food up, it's not going to microwave. I'm
• 51:15
  Speaker 1: literally gonna recook that shit on the stove or put
• 51:17
  Speaker 1: in an oven. I made his nag a gold mid
• 51:20
  Speaker 1: gourmet fucking burger. He would not eat that shit immediately, girl,
• 51:23
  Speaker 1: And I kept asking, you're not gonna eat? Like hour
• 51:26
  Speaker 1: went by. I was like, you're not gonna eat that
• 51:27
  Speaker 1: burger like I had to start work. I just made
• 51:29
  Speaker 1: it for you. Then motherfucker got so mad. He took
• 51:32
  Speaker 1: a bite of that burger and he balled it up
• 51:34
  Speaker 1: on his plate. He baled the burger up on his plate.
• 51:38
  Speaker 1: He took one bite and balled it up on the plate.
• 51:40
  Speaker 1: Because this was a constant, constant thing. I'd cook for
• 51:42
  Speaker 1: him and he would not eat immediately, Like you were
• 51:45
  Speaker 1: so hungry and I cook and you don't eat, Like,
• 51:48
  Speaker 1: what's up? He bought? Girl, I took the whole plate,
• 51:51
  Speaker 1: real plate and slam dunk that bitch in the trash.
• 51:54
  Speaker 1: Can I say you son of a bitch.
• 51:57
  Speaker 2: But you gotta be mad? Is he on a ball
• 51:58
  Speaker 2: up a hamburger your head?
• 52:01
  Speaker 1: You're mad because your girl made you a burger from scratch,
• 52:05
  Speaker 1: ground beef with the fucking lifting onion souping a mouth,
• 52:08
  Speaker 1: cut up peppers and onions on a Hawaiian bum with
• 52:11
  Speaker 1: honey butter. I made with honey and butter, grilled your
• 52:14
  Speaker 1: bread on the stove. Put your burger together with's a
• 52:17
  Speaker 1: real Kobe Jack cheese, lettuce, tomatoes and onions. And you
• 52:21
  Speaker 1: don't eat that shit? And you balling up on a
• 52:24
  Speaker 1: plate after one? You don't deserve another meal for me, bitch.
• 52:26
  Speaker 1: And that might have been the last time I cooked
• 52:28
  Speaker 1: for him, balling up a burger. I wish I could
• 52:31
  Speaker 1: have seen it, because your nigga doing that type of shit.
• 52:34
  Speaker 1: Get him out of here. You're mad at it wrong,
• 52:37
  Speaker 1: Lambon refrigerators because you come home and I'm on to
• 52:39
  Speaker 1: form my homegirl. Instead of saying you need some attention,
• 52:41
  Speaker 1: you need a hug. You want to talk to me
• 52:43
  Speaker 1: about something. You're walking around the house slamming shit that's
• 52:46
  Speaker 1: another thing. Get those type of people out of your
• 52:48
  Speaker 1: life because their maniacs. Yeah, don't wait, don't use his
• 52:53
  Speaker 1: childhood trauma to justify that stupid ass behavior, because that
• 52:56
  Speaker 1: is not how healthy adults act.
• 52:59
  Speaker 2: All right, So here's when to cancel excess when the
• 53:04
  Speaker 2: person is setting unclear intentions. If you just consistently don't
• 53:09
  Speaker 2: know where y'all staying, get on true, they're playing with you.
• 53:14
  Speaker 2: M This is a big one, y'all. Stop fucking with
• 53:19
  Speaker 2: niggas with poor hygiene and messy habits. They gonna contaminate
• 53:25
  Speaker 2: your body. If you have sex with a man and
• 53:28
  Speaker 2: your face immediately break out every time you fuck him,
• 53:32
  Speaker 2: Leave that man alone. That is your body telling you
• 53:35
  Speaker 2: that this man is not clean for your body. He is.
• 53:40
  Speaker 1: Cuci the bacteria in your kouchie will try to fight
• 53:43
  Speaker 1: off the bad bacteria. But if he is always contaminating
• 53:48
  Speaker 1: your shit is because there's cross contamination happening. He's mixing
• 53:52
  Speaker 1: you up with somebody else. He probably smashing it could
• 53:54
  Speaker 1: be a butthole.
• 53:55
  Speaker 2: Get out of there right. If you with you every
• 53:58
  Speaker 2: time you have sex with somebody, away from that man.
• 54:01
  Speaker 2: And I know our vaginas are sensitive. It got more
• 54:05
  Speaker 2: sensitive the older I got. Don't I don't be just
• 54:08
  Speaker 2: having a bunch of sex. So now like my kuci
• 54:11
  Speaker 2: be so great and just smell good and clean. You
• 54:15
  Speaker 2: had sex with a nigga. Now you in the grocery
• 54:17
  Speaker 2: store trying to get some food, your couchie itching down
• 54:20
  Speaker 2: the aisle.
• 54:22
  Speaker 1: Yo. I remember one time I had I had a
• 54:24
  Speaker 1: uast infection, and this is how I found out. I
• 54:26
  Speaker 1: was alertic to sofa drugs. Right, I had a uast
• 54:29
  Speaker 1: infection and the damn doctor prescribe me a yeast infection
• 54:34
  Speaker 1: medicine that has sofa in it. So now not only
• 54:38
  Speaker 1: is my couchie itching so bad, my entire body is
• 54:43
  Speaker 1: hive broken out in hives.
• 54:45
  Speaker 2: Oh my god.
• 54:48
  Speaker 1: When I tell you, I was in the bad crying, yes, crying.
• 54:51
  Speaker 1: It's bad.
• 54:53
  Speaker 2: Body bad. Damn man.
• 54:56
  Speaker 1: You gotta learn your body.
• 54:57
  Speaker 2: Man.
• 54:57
  Speaker 1: It take a while, though it does.
• 55:00
  Speaker 2: It does take a while to understand your body fully.
• 55:04
  Speaker 2: But y'all, I'm just saying that walking down the grocery
• 55:06
  Speaker 2: store because I remember that happening to me. I was like,
• 55:10
  Speaker 2: I got I can't even grocery shop. I gotta go home.
• 55:15
  Speaker 1: Damn you outside to tell what that itchy, cuchie, cuchie
• 55:20
  Speaker 1: like a one fuer I got to go home, little girl. Yeah,
• 55:24
  Speaker 1: and if y'all, I know y'all had it happen before.
• 55:28
  Speaker 1: If you out here living vagina, yo, pussy has itched.
• 55:33
  Speaker 2: Inconsistent communication.
• 55:35
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's some text. That's what I was talking about.
• 55:37
  Speaker 1: The text like that, texting me is not communication. I
• 55:40
  Speaker 1: gotta talk to you.
• 55:41
  Speaker 2: I don't mind that. As long as you articulate what
• 55:44
  Speaker 2: you're feeling, we can do it through text. Because some people,
• 55:49
  Speaker 2: what do you mean, Like we don't talk on the
• 55:51
  Speaker 2: phone at all in the day.
• 55:52
  Speaker 1: Yeah, like three days we haven't talked. We just text.
• 55:56
  Speaker 1: Two days is too long? Like what the fuck is happening?
• 55:59
  Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, that's fair.
• 56:01
  Speaker 1: Yeah, like even twenty four hours. So this like today
• 56:05
  Speaker 1: the guy you're talking to, y'all only texts today, that's it,
• 56:09
  Speaker 1: and then tomorrow year you might talk to them, Like
• 56:11
  Speaker 1: what happened yesterday? We didn't we didn't talk. Yeah, we texted,
• 56:14
  Speaker 1: but we didn't talk. Yeah, I don't. I don't think that's.
• 56:18
  Speaker 2: Really because I don't be like, damn, I don't be
• 56:22
  Speaker 2: talking to you every day.
• 56:25
  Speaker 1: I need to hear your voice every if we together.
• 56:28
  Speaker 2: Oh, if we're a couple, I feel I.
• 56:31
  Speaker 1: Need to hear your voice every day because you skip
• 56:33
  Speaker 1: a day. Niggas Yeah, planning your replacement, I.
• 56:36
  Speaker 2: Think because I have dealt with military and deployment and
• 56:41
  Speaker 2: sometimes you can't get on the phone in every day.
• 56:44
  Speaker 1: So like, okay, so then you know those Yeah, but
• 56:50
  Speaker 1: if I know your routine, where you've been at yesterday? Yeah,
• 56:54
  Speaker 1: we was texting, but what No, that don't work for me.
• 56:58
  Speaker 2: Okay, then here's the signs that he should be permanently removed.
• 57:02
  Speaker 2: You feel like his mother. That's a big one. I
• 57:05
  Speaker 2: know it's a lot of y'all listening. If you feel
• 57:07
  Speaker 2: like you got not just the kids you bore, but
• 57:10
  Speaker 2: your man is one of your kids too.
• 57:13
  Speaker 1: Absolutely, I feel like I have definitely experienced that in life,
• 57:18
  Speaker 1: and I don't have time to teach a grown man
• 57:21
  Speaker 1: at this big age anything. Actually, you know, I don't
• 57:25
  Speaker 1: expect you to know everything because I don't know everything.
• 57:27
  Speaker 1: But if I find that I'm having to my mama
• 57:30
  Speaker 1: always say I got the pussy and a dick. I
• 57:33
  Speaker 1: don't ever want to be saying that at seventy something
• 57:35
  Speaker 1: years old. So I'm nipping that shit in the bud
• 57:38
  Speaker 1: right now, I am a woman, Okay, I know how
• 57:41
  Speaker 1: to do a lot of things. I need to fix cards.
• 57:43
  Speaker 1: I fix it in the house. I am a problem solver.
• 57:46
  Speaker 1: I am just super mechanically inclined, and I want somebody
• 57:50
  Speaker 1: the same way, because I'll be damn if I'm be
• 57:53
  Speaker 1: carrying the whole household.
• 57:55
  Speaker 2: So do you feel like you gild me and my
• 57:56
  Speaker 2: friend we're talking about this. It's like I was talking
• 58:00
  Speaker 2: to this guy recently and I wasn't sure that we
• 58:04
  Speaker 2: were compatible, but I did admire the fact that he
• 58:09
  Speaker 2: knew how to do shit with his hands, Like he
• 58:11
  Speaker 2: could put shit together and build ship and lay sh
• 58:14
  Speaker 2: it down. And that's a fair I was saying how
• 58:17
  Speaker 2: attractive that is for me, because oftentimes I meet men
• 58:20
  Speaker 2: who just know how to pay people to do stuff
• 58:22
  Speaker 2: they don't. They can't physically do nothing with their hands.
• 58:26
  Speaker 2: The only thing they know how to do with their
• 58:27
  Speaker 2: hands is beat they dick, and that is it? So
• 58:31
  Speaker 2: soft ass hands.
• 58:33
  Speaker 1: I like a man with soft hands, But why are
• 58:35
  Speaker 1: your hands softer than mind? Right, you'll do nothing manual,
• 58:38
  Speaker 1: you'll do nothing physical.
• 58:41
  Speaker 2: I like dirty men, Yes I do. That's not scared
• 58:44
  Speaker 2: to get dirty manly.
• 58:46
  Speaker 1: Shit like Nigga go chop Wooden please. So yeah, if
• 58:50
  Speaker 1: I'm I don't want to ever feel like I'm mothering
• 58:52
  Speaker 1: and teaching and it just has to be like you
• 58:57
  Speaker 1: gotta be as smart as me or smarter.
• 59:00
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it is what it is. But sometimes, can I
• 59:03
  Speaker 2: be honest? I do like the mommy and nigga a
• 59:06
  Speaker 2: little bit. Is that bad? Not? Like I don't want
• 59:10
  Speaker 2: to like replace your mom in that type of.
• 59:16
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I like to lie even easier to cater to
• 59:18
  Speaker 1: a man who works hard and who does things. You
• 59:21
  Speaker 1: just want to take care of them because they just
• 59:23
  Speaker 1: was doing all these I like doing.
• 59:24
  Speaker 2: All that nurture and like you know that's my I do.
• 59:28
  Speaker 2: So I don't know if that might be.
• 59:29
  Speaker 1: If you got to call does that make me concision? No,
• 59:33
  Speaker 1: like if you got to call me to make a
• 59:35
  Speaker 1: decision about everything. You can't make no decisions on your own? Yeah, No,
• 59:39
  Speaker 1: that's you can't make no decisions for the both of us.
• 59:42
  Speaker 2: No, I don't like it. I can I feel like
• 59:46
  Speaker 2: I may steering my own ship for so long, Come
• 59:48
  Speaker 2: and steer this ship, Like, let me sit in this
• 59:51
  Speaker 2: soft girl energy and trust that you can decide something
• 59:53
  Speaker 2: without me. Yeah, my man got it. Yeah, I want
• 59:58
  Speaker 2: to say that me too. This is like, y'all, this
• 1:00:03
  Speaker 2: is my ninth Christmas.
• 1:00:06
  Speaker 1: Single, girl, y'all, let me tell y'all, she could say
• 1:00:09
  Speaker 1: that ship. Do not feel bad for that bitch because
• 1:00:11
  Speaker 1: she could definitely have a nigga for Christmas, all nine
• 1:00:14
  Speaker 1: of them years. Okay, learn your nigga at make a decision.
• 1:00:18
  Speaker 1: Choose one and see what's happening. Jo, We ain't going
• 1:00:24
  Speaker 1: for that song and buy myself for Christmas?
• 1:00:27
  Speaker 2: What do the lowly dude better?
• 1:00:29
  Speaker 1: Stay getting a gift?
• 1:00:30
  Speaker 2: Bitch? Beat it.
• 1:00:32
  Speaker 1: I didn't say I didn't have gifts for Christmas. You're
• 1:00:36
  Speaker 1: getting all these gifts in your single. See next.
• 1:00:40
  Speaker 2: Next, let's go to the big segment.
• 1:00:43
  Speaker 1: Nigga be choked?
• 1:00:44
  Speaker 2: All right, These are some grown woman questions to ask yourself.
• 1:00:48
  Speaker 2: All right, do I feel emotionally safe? Do you feel
• 1:00:53
  Speaker 2: emotionally safe right now in your relationship? Yeah?
• 1:00:57
  Speaker 1: Absolutely, I definitely have. And this is consideration is my
• 1:01:02
  Speaker 1: love language. I definitely have somebody who considers me, and
• 1:01:08
  Speaker 1: really that trumps all love languages, because once somebody considers you,
• 1:01:14
  Speaker 1: everything they do is going to be around you. Right.
• 1:01:18
  Speaker 1: They want to make sure not coddling your feelings, but
• 1:01:20
  Speaker 1: they don't want to hurt you. If somebody can easily
• 1:01:22
  Speaker 1: hurt you, that's not a safe space. Like he's not
• 1:01:26
  Speaker 1: thinking about how this thing is going to make you
• 1:01:28
  Speaker 1: feel before he does it. He's just going to do it.
• 1:01:32
  Speaker 1: It's like you know how they say asks for forgiveness
• 1:01:35
  Speaker 1: instead of permission. This is what men do oftentimes, and
• 1:01:38
  Speaker 1: they think you're supposed to love them unconditionally like their
• 1:01:41
  Speaker 1: mother does. No, nigga, absolutely not, because men do not
• 1:01:45
  Speaker 1: men men their love comes with conditions for surely, So
• 1:01:49
  Speaker 1: we need to be more like that.
• 1:01:51
  Speaker 2: All right, So I want y'all to write these questions
• 1:01:53
  Speaker 2: down and answer them for yourself, Like, seriously, so do
• 1:01:56
  Speaker 2: I feel emotionally safe? Am I chasing managing and mothering him?
• 1:02:03
  Speaker 2: Don't chase the relationship you might fuck Run and get
• 1:02:05
  Speaker 2: it and realize why you wasn't supposed to be in
• 1:02:08
  Speaker 2: it in the first place. At this point, it should
• 1:02:11
  Speaker 2: come very easy. Relationships are not as hard as people
• 1:02:14
  Speaker 2: make it out to be. It's not because just two
• 1:02:16
  Speaker 2: people considering each other. I just think you gotta way.
• 1:02:23
  Speaker 2: I mean, because it ain't gonna be peaches and cream
• 1:02:27
  Speaker 2: all the time, that's just not reality. But if the
• 1:02:31
  Speaker 2: bad is outweighing the good heavily, then you know you're
• 1:02:35
  Speaker 2: doing too much, all right. The next one, does he
• 1:02:38
  Speaker 2: nourish or deplete?
• 1:02:39
  Speaker 1: Me?
• 1:02:41
  Speaker 2: Mm hmm?
• 1:02:42
  Speaker 1: Do you feel energized around him?
• 1:02:44
  Speaker 2: Do you feel full?
• 1:02:46
  Speaker 1: Like you're walking on eggshells? Like you can't say nothing?
• 1:02:49
  Speaker 1: That's just straight turmoil. He's causing you mental anguish.
• 1:02:54
  Speaker 2: Next question, right now? Do words match actions?
• 1:02:58
  Speaker 1: Like I was saying, stop listening to what these men
• 1:03:02
  Speaker 1: say when they are literally doing the total You see
• 1:03:06
  Speaker 1: what he's doing. But he's telling you he loves you. Honestly,
• 1:03:11
  Speaker 1: y'all have a different definition of what love is.
• 1:03:14
  Speaker 2: I hope y'all are right now these questions and you're
• 1:03:16
  Speaker 2: answering yes, yes, yes to all of them. I hope
• 1:03:18
  Speaker 2: y'all are in such a healthy space with someone. But
• 1:03:23
  Speaker 2: we know it's some of y'all writing this down and
• 1:03:25
  Speaker 2: then they ain't been a yes ye. It is he disciplined,
• 1:03:28
  Speaker 2: so right there down he is that nigga's discipline or
• 1:03:31
  Speaker 2: is that woman disciplined?
• 1:03:33
  Speaker 1: I need somebody that's more disciplined than me to encourage
• 1:03:36
  Speaker 1: me to be more disciplined. You can't be as fucking
• 1:03:40
  Speaker 1: lazy and undisciplined as I am.
• 1:03:45
  Speaker 2: That's why I'm getting away. Because me and my little
• 1:03:47
  Speaker 2: friend we be eating. We watched the TV and eating.
• 1:03:51
  Speaker 2: I mean, they're cooking all the things I have made
• 1:03:53
  Speaker 2: so many different types of soups, have made all the
• 1:03:57
  Speaker 2: soups from scratch, though, And that's fun.
• 1:04:00
  Speaker 1: It's fun. But y'all got to work out.
• 1:04:02
  Speaker 2: Yeah, all right, So then does he pull the grown
• 1:04:06
  Speaker 2: woman out of me or the little girl?
• 1:04:09
  Speaker 1: I want both?
• 1:04:10
  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, that's all I'm about to say. I don't know,
• 1:04:12
  Speaker 2: because I think both of those are necessary.
• 1:04:17
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I want to feel like a little you just
• 1:04:19
  Speaker 1: feel like, you know, I realize when you really really
• 1:04:22
  Speaker 1: love somebody or you know, like this is how you
• 1:04:24
  Speaker 1: realize you know you're in a good relationship. In my
• 1:04:28
  Speaker 1: from my perspective, you know you're in a good relationship
• 1:04:31
  Speaker 1: when you're you're not worrying about if this person is cheating,
• 1:04:35
  Speaker 1: if they're lying or whatever. You literally worry about them dying.
• 1:04:40
  Speaker 2: Mm hmm.
• 1:04:41
  Speaker 1: That is what scares me the most in my current relationship.
• 1:04:46
  Speaker 1: I'd be like, like what if God, like what like
• 1:04:48
  Speaker 1: what if something were to happen in some motherfucker, like
• 1:04:50
  Speaker 1: I would be devastated. That's how good the relationship is.
• 1:04:53
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but don't put that in the energy out whatever's going.
• 1:04:57
  Speaker 1: I don't think neither one of us is like scared
• 1:05:00
  Speaker 1: of going, you know, mortality. So I'm definitely not putting
• 1:05:04
  Speaker 1: that out. But I just that is what scares me.
• 1:05:08
  Speaker 1: I don't be thinking about if you cheating, if you're talking.
• 1:05:11
  Speaker 1: I don't give a fuck about none of that shit.
• 1:05:13
  Speaker 1: I just need you to be existing forever. That's how
• 1:05:16
  Speaker 1: I feel.
• 1:05:17
  Speaker 2: All it's kind of sweet, kind of right into the park.
• 1:05:23
  Speaker 2: All right, all right, So this is the last segment
• 1:05:28
  Speaker 2: the grown woman exit strategy. All right, So we want
• 1:05:32
  Speaker 2: to if you're not happy, if you answer those questions
• 1:05:36
  Speaker 2: and there was more nose than yes', then you got
• 1:05:38
  Speaker 2: to learn how to gracefully remove men from your life.
• 1:05:43
  Speaker 1: Absolutely. I made a mistake in a relationship by telling
• 1:05:48
  Speaker 1: the man that I was leaving, and it was one
• 1:05:50
  Speaker 1: of the craziest, most reckless, just experiences I've ever had.
• 1:05:59
  Speaker 1: Leave quietly m hm, especially if y'all ain't married or
• 1:06:03
  Speaker 1: what she's like.
• 1:06:03
  Speaker 2: That just cold turkey. Get the fuck.
• 1:06:07
  Speaker 1: It's no explaining like they know why you're leaving. When
• 1:06:10
  Speaker 1: you do, you don't have to make a big announcement.
• 1:06:12
  Speaker 2: Because half the time you don't tell him a thousand times.
• 1:06:15
  Speaker 1: At this point exactly. Yeah, so just get out of there.
• 1:06:17
  Speaker 1: And I think a lot of times women leave mentally
• 1:06:19
  Speaker 1: before they leave physically anyway. But I think when we
• 1:06:23
  Speaker 1: do say we're leaving. I guess I had to tell
• 1:06:26
  Speaker 1: a nigga he was leaving because his kid was at
• 1:06:27
  Speaker 1: the house with me, but I called it the baby mama, like, hey,
• 1:06:31
  Speaker 1: I'm about to drop your boy off. Okay, I gotta
• 1:06:34
  Speaker 1: go to Charleston, and I packed up all my shit.
• 1:06:37
  Speaker 2: I don't think you should like unless than they's like
• 1:06:39
  Speaker 2: physically harming you. I don't know if you should just
• 1:06:43
  Speaker 2: you he come home and it's just a hanger.
• 1:06:45
  Speaker 1: In the closet and that though you don't know if
• 1:06:48
  Speaker 1: he gonna physically harm you or not. I didn't know
• 1:06:50
  Speaker 1: that day was gonna get that stupid yeah you know, yeah, personnel,
• 1:06:55
  Speaker 1: there you go.
• 1:06:56
  Speaker 2: You got to quietly and then like that because I
• 1:07:01
  Speaker 2: was just I I think I'd be really devastated if
• 1:07:06
  Speaker 2: I was in a relationship with someone and I come
• 1:07:08
  Speaker 2: home and all their shit is just gone.
• 1:07:11
  Speaker 1: That is how you force changing some people Right now,
• 1:07:14
  Speaker 1: you should feel good. Men learn from consequences, like I said,
• 1:07:18
  Speaker 1: and he's gonna learn from the hurt of being left
• 1:07:20
  Speaker 1: in that way, and he is going to do the
• 1:07:22
  Speaker 1: next woman good better. Just just be happy that you
• 1:07:25
  Speaker 1: were able to pay it forward and give the next
• 1:07:28
  Speaker 1: bitch a refurbished nigga, and hopefully somebody pays it forward
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  Speaker 1: to you in the future. Okay, hurt a nigga so
• 1:07:34
  Speaker 1: bad that he's so good to you.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, I get that, I get that, But if
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  Speaker 2: nobody leave me like that, I ain't gonna lie. I
• 1:07:41
  Speaker 2: might crash out.
• 1:07:43
  Speaker 1: Really, what do you do though, you and not say nothing?
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  Speaker 1: You could have just told me you wanted to separate.
• 1:07:53
  Speaker 1: Sometimes you what the next one say? No unnecessary explanations
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  Speaker 1: like you said. This person probably I told you a
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  Speaker 1: million times. You knew deep down in your heart this
• 1:08:05
  Speaker 1: shit was coming. I can't see.
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  Speaker 2: I just can't imagine somebody doing that to me because
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  Speaker 2: I'd be so loving and why would you do that
• 1:08:10
  Speaker 2: to me? You know?
• 1:08:12
  Speaker 1: But if you know you've been fucking up this entire relationship,
• 1:08:15
  Speaker 1: you come home for work and she's gone, you probably
• 1:08:17
  Speaker 1: deserve it. Yeah, because women only need one reason to stay.
• 1:08:23
  Speaker 1: So somebody does leave you in that way, you did
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  Speaker 1: some things.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah too, This is the truth. M H, keep it
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  Speaker 2: clean and prime. M this is a line for me anymore.
• 1:08:35
  Speaker 2: I wish you the best, smooth and that's it. That's it,
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  Speaker 2: that's all. If you start doing too much talking, you're
• 1:08:43
  Speaker 2: really not ready to go, you might as well put
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  Speaker 2: your stuff back in the closet. Exactly. Yeah, yep.
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  Speaker 1: I think we always know, right, We always know who's
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  Speaker 1: best for us. Sometimes we even overlook the guy who's
• 1:08:56
  Speaker 1: best for us while we're chasing. There's no good ass
• 1:09:00
  Speaker 1: do because it's just something about him. And what it
• 1:09:02
  Speaker 1: is is the unattainability. That is what you're attracted to.
• 1:09:06
  Speaker 1: You're attracted to him being inconsistent. It draws you in
• 1:09:09
  Speaker 1: even more. You're attracted to the drama, right, the makeup
• 1:09:12
  Speaker 1: and breakup is what keeps you there.
• 1:09:14
  Speaker 2: That is fuck like.
• 1:09:15
  Speaker 1: That's just basically like Instagram like, dopamine levels is rising
• 1:09:18
  Speaker 1: and lower and rising and Lauren, so your body is
• 1:09:20
  Speaker 1: constantly confused with this person and it could be feeling
• 1:09:24
  Speaker 1: like a turn on dude. That is all toxic behavior
• 1:09:28
  Speaker 1: in a relationship. All that shit is toxic as fucked.
• 1:09:31
  Speaker 1: Relationships should not be that hard, man. I used to
• 1:09:35
  Speaker 1: think they were. I used to think that you had
• 1:09:37
  Speaker 1: to struggle with your partner to get to a good
• 1:09:40
  Speaker 1: whole place with him, to where like maybe I could
• 1:09:44
  Speaker 1: give a nigga my cell phone nowadays, because I got
• 1:09:47
  Speaker 1: shit going on, Like you know what I'm saying, Like
• 1:09:49
  Speaker 1: I always had one foot in the door and one
• 1:09:50
  Speaker 1: foot out because of how I was being treated. But
• 1:09:53
  Speaker 1: if you're being treated well, like everything in your life
• 1:09:57
  Speaker 1: should get better. Everything on, y'all? Everything is that your
• 1:10:02
  Speaker 1: last last I feel like that was, but yeah, that
• 1:10:05
  Speaker 1: is what's the girl to see it on Instagram? She
• 1:10:07
  Speaker 1: was like, I'm telling you what I uh what she said.
• 1:10:10
  Speaker 1: She always saying she ain't telling you what I something.
• 1:10:13
  Speaker 1: I'm telling you what I know or something. She'd be saying, Yeah,
• 1:10:16
  Speaker 1: I'm telling you what I know. Okay, it gets better.
• 1:10:20
  Speaker 1: That nigga is not the best you'll ever have, promise.
• 1:10:25
  Speaker 2: You unless he is, Unless you're with the best you
• 1:10:28
  Speaker 2: ever had and your answers are happy and yes, yes, yes,
• 1:10:31
  Speaker 2: don't leave the make you better out there. Yeah, but
• 1:10:34
  Speaker 2: you know that's what some people be slow and they'd
• 1:10:37
  Speaker 2: be like a said it's better than you unless, like
• 1:10:42
  Speaker 2: I said, people, who fuck would you hear you different?
• 1:10:45
  Speaker 1: Because there's no way you could have heard that, and
• 1:10:47
  Speaker 1: if you did, I don't know. I'm not explaining myself,
• 1:10:52
  Speaker 1: and I also want people to know I am forty
• 1:10:55
  Speaker 1: fucking one. The example of what I'm saying is that
• 1:10:59
  Speaker 1: we be talking, and I know people probably feel like
• 1:11:01
  Speaker 1: it's mothering a little bit, right because we all did
• 1:11:04
  Speaker 1: all the dumb shit like that's the premise of this podcast.
• 1:11:07
  Speaker 1: You got to grow at some point. So now if
• 1:11:10
  Speaker 1: you feel like I'm forcing you to grow by the
• 1:11:12
  Speaker 1: shit I be talking, re evaluate your damn self. They
• 1:11:15
  Speaker 1: don't have nothing to do with what I'm saying, because
• 1:11:18
  Speaker 1: I bet you and in the next couple of years
• 1:11:21
  Speaker 1: you'll understand what it was that I was saying once
• 1:11:23
  Speaker 1: you have the experience. But it's almost feeling like somebody
• 1:11:27
  Speaker 1: talking down to you. I guess I don't know, and
• 1:11:30
  Speaker 1: that is not what this is.
• 1:11:31
  Speaker 2: Bitch.
• 1:11:31
  Speaker 1: I've been a dumb bitch a lot of times in life. Ok,
• 1:11:39
  Speaker 1: it's okay, we're all here is we're all here for
• 1:11:42
  Speaker 1: the first time, So say my, that's the thing I
• 1:11:46
  Speaker 1: died in the in the seventies.
• 1:11:47
  Speaker 2: I know that, but AJ Holliday, this is her first
• 1:11:51
  Speaker 2: time in this time.
• 1:11:52
  Speaker 1: But I do be remembering. You don't be remembering stuff
• 1:11:55
  Speaker 1: from your last life.
• 1:11:55
  Speaker 2: I do. I be feeling like I remember stuff, but
• 1:11:57
  Speaker 2: I don't know if it's like just something I seen
• 1:12:00
  Speaker 2: on TV in my subconscious mind that is making me
• 1:12:02
  Speaker 2: thinking something from our life.
• 1:12:04
  Speaker 1: That's the thing, man, that'd be the god body like
• 1:12:07
  Speaker 1: you know shit, because that's what that inner knowing is.
• 1:12:09
  Speaker 1: It ain't come from having to actually experience it this lifetime.
• 1:12:13
  Speaker 1: That shit is coming through your DNA, that shit is
• 1:12:15
  Speaker 1: coming through your bloodline. That shit is coming from another time.
• 1:12:19
  Speaker 1: That shit might be coming from you existing in another universe.
• 1:12:22
  Speaker 2: That's right now.
• 1:12:23
  Speaker 1: Anyway exactly, it's coming from somewhere.
• 1:12:26
  Speaker 2: You ain't make it up. I'm trying to quantum jump
• 1:12:30
  Speaker 2: be doing that shit. Yeah all right, y'all, I ain't
• 1:12:34
  Speaker 2: got no last last Just like if you happy stay,
• 1:12:36
  Speaker 2: if you ain't go, that's it immediately the same episode
• 1:12:42
  Speaker 2: allR y'all.
• 1:12:43
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• 1:12:59
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• 1:13:01
  Speaker 1: I don't love people.
• 1:13:03
  Speaker 2: I have never loved it. So five years y'all. She
• 1:13:09
  Speaker 2: hear that.
• 1:13:10
  Speaker 1: That's a mental illness.
• 1:13:12
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you do love y'all. She loved y'all this whole time.
• 1:13:17
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• 1:13:53
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