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You Were Never Ready. You Did It Anyway. That's The Point. · Unlocking The Paradigm Portal

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  Good morning, everybody. Welcome back to unlocking the
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  Paradigm portal. My name is Sarah.
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  I'm feeling particularly feisty today after that really cool
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  full moon, lunar eclipse, blood moon situation we had yesterday.
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  So I'm just going to jump right into it.
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  Monday we talked about being the lighthouse, right?
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  And about building that steadiness inside of yourself
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  and those micro moments every single day that anchor you so
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  deeply that when that storm rolls in, you don't become the
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  chaos, you become the calm. And I hope that you sat with
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  that. And I hope that something
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  shifted. Because let me tell you, I
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  listened to it just to see how it sounded and to hear the
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  message again myself. And I got to be honest, like it.
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  Something shifted in me and it was pretty damn cool.
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  So I hope that you're there with me.
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  But here's what I know happens after an episode like that.
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  You may feel it and you really feel it.
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  And then you wake up Tuesday and that self doubt creeps back in
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  and that little voice says, yeah, but you're not there yet.
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  You're not steady enough. You're not ready enough.
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  And maybe when things calm down, maybe when you have more time,
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  maybe when you feel more like a lighthouse in a little bit less
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  like a screwed up shipwreck. Right.
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  So I need you to hear me on this.
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  That voice is lying to you. It is completely full of crap.
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  Readiness is not a feeling. It is not something that arrives
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  1 morning like a package on your doorstep and you don't wake up
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  ready. You don't stumble into
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  confidence. You don't find your footing by
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  waiting for the ground to stop shaking.
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  Readiness is built. It is built in motion in those
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  micro movements that we talked about.
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  It is built through action and by doing the thing before you
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  feel equipped to do it, which I know feels counterintuitive,
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  particularly if you struggle with perfectionism tendencies.
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  And if you do, I feel you hard refer back to my series about
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  breaking free from perfectionism and how it lied.
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  Actually, I will link it at the end of this.
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  OK, where was I? So you have to equip yourself
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  with this, right? It doesn't just naturally happen
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  on its own. And you do that by taking
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  action, consistently, showing yourself that you can make
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  yourself ready, and then discovering on the other side
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  that you were more capable than you may have known.
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  And think about every single thing in your life that you are
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  proud of, like every relationship, every pivot, every
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  hard conversation, every time you rebuilt yourself from the
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  ground up. Were you ready for it?
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  No, you were scared and you did it anyway and you were uncertain
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  and you moved anyway. You didn't have a map and you
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  took a step and you made one. That is who you are.
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  So don't let a feeling like unreadiness make you forget it.
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  And I want to talk about what waiting actually costs you
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  because you know, I don't know that we talk about the costs.
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  Enough of these autopilot responses and reactions that we
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  have. We treat waiting like it's
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  neutral, like it's the safe choice, like you're just
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  literally not moving. So you're not going backwards,
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  but you're not going forwards. But staying still does not mean
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  that nothing is happening. And waiting is not neutral.
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  Waiting is a decision making. No decision is a decision, by
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  the way. Making no choice.
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  Avoiding making a choice is making a choice.
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  And every single day that you wait for readiness to show up
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  before you take action, that is a day you spend building a life
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  that is smaller than the one that you are capable of.
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  That is keeping yourself in a state of stuck in a rut.
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  So if you have been avoiding a decision or avoiding a choice, I
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  want you to hear me. And yeah, I'm being a little bit
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  sledgehammery today because I already warned you.
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  I'm feeling feisty. If you have been avoiding a
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  choice or a decision, you made the choice to stay stuck.
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  Just think about that for a minute and think about where you
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  were a year ago, two years ago, five years ago.
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  If you had taken the step then, the one that you were waiting to
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  feel ready for, where would you be right now?
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  Would you be living your best life?
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  Would you be happy? Would you have been doing all
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  the things that you had talked about doing instead of staying
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  in stagnation? Just sit with that now.
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  I'm not asking that to make you feel behind.
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  I'm asking it because I want you to feel the weight of what
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  waiting actually costs. And I don't mean this in a
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  punishing way. And I'm not being feisty in a
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  judgmental way. I just, I'm seeing all the
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  places where I've kept myself in a state of waiting or stuck.
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  And man, it feels really good to see it and just say a giant F no
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  to that. And I want you to look at it in
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  like a waking up way, because the version of you that's
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  possible, that full unapologetic lighthouse version of you who is
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  happier than you can possibly comprehend right now, that
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  person is waiting for, is not, excuse me, is not waiting for
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  you to feel ready. That person is waiting for you
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  to get your ass moving, light a fire under it already.
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  And that person is waiting for you to decide.
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  That future version is sitting there twiddling its thumbs,
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  looking at its watch. Going any day now.
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  And here's what I know about decision.
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  Real decisions. Not the wishy washy I'll try
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  kind. But like the bone deep I'm doing
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  this kind. Real decision doesn't require
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  readiness, it creates it. And the moment that you make a
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  true decision, your whole system reorganizes around it.
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  Your focus shifts, your energy shifts, the resources, the
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  people, the opportunities. They start showing up not
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  because the universe is magic, although it definitely is, but
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  because your brain is now scanning for what supports the
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  decision instead of what confirms the fear.
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  I have been feeling this the last 24 hours.
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  Just one little micro shift in the mindset and all the sudden
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  everything explodes in the best way forward.
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  And man, I want that for you because decision making a
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  decision, it's the switch. And then readiness is what gets
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  built after you flip that switch.
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  So here's the thing about the lighthouse that I didn't say on
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  Monday, and I want you to really hear this.
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  The lighthouse was not built in a day.
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  It was not dropped fully formed onto the rocks and told to start
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  shining. OK.
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  It was built stone by stone in all kinds of weather and by
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  people who had no guarantee that it would stand, but built it
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  anyway because the alternative was leaving people lost in the
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  dark. You are being built the same way
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  now. Every hard conversation you
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  have, that's a stone. Every boundary you hold when
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  everything in you wants to collapse, that's a stone.
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  Every morning you get up and choose yourself.
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  When the old patterns are screaming at you to shrink down,
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  that's a stone. And every time you do the thing
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  afraid, that's a stone. Every time you tell the truth,
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  when a comfortable lie is sitting right there, that's a
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  stone. You are not waiting to become
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  the lighthouse. You are already building it.
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  And the people in your life, the ones who are lost, the ones who
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  are struggling, the ones who need someone steady to navigate
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  by, they need you to keep building.
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  They need you to stop waiting. They need you to be so freaking
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  committed to your own becoming, so to speak, that your light
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  becomes impossible to ignore. And that is not selfish.
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  I need you to hear that too. Becoming the most grounded, most
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  self aware, most fully alive version of yourself is not a
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  selfish act. You deserve full on joy.
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  Full on radiating happiness and peacefulness and fire and being
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  fired up. But in a we hear that, and I
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  think most people think it's a negative thing.
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  But no, in the most powerful, positive way, it is an act of a
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  service because any person who knows who they are and what they
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  stand for and refuses to shrink for anyone's comfort, that
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  person changes the rooms that they walk into.
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  Their energy shifts the entire environment and that person
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  raises children differently and loves differently and works
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  differently and exists differently.
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  So your wholeness, becoming truly whole in yourself and
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  choosing and making decisions for you is not just for you.
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  It is a ripple effect. It sends echoes out into the
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  universe. So here's your challenge for
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  today, and I mean today. Not someday, Not when things
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  come down. Not when the kids are grown and
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  the mortgage is paid and the stars align.
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  Today, identify the one thing that you have been putting off
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  because you don't feel ready. The conversation, the
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  application, the decision, the e-mail, the first session, the
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  first step toward the thing you keep circling but never touch.
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  Write it down. I mean, actually write it down.
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  You can write it on your hand if you want to.
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  I don't give a crap. I did that this morning.
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  I journaled 15 pages. 15 freaking pages between writing
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  down the things that I've been putting off and then flipping
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  the dynamic into building the most radically audacious, joy
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  filled, beautiful existence of everything I could possibly want
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  for myself. And every time I found myself
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  shrinking it down, whether for in my because of my own
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  discomfort or thinking of other people's discomfort, I axed it
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  out and I went even bigger. So start with writing down the
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  thing you've been avoiding, OK? And then I want you to take one
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  action toward it before the sun goes down to night.
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  One small micro action. Don't do the whole thing.
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  That's just you just need one stone.
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  You don't need the perfect version, not the version that
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  requires you to have it all figured out first.
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  Just take one action, one stone. Because here's the truth that
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  nobody who is playing small wants to accept.
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  The storm is not going to stop before you start.
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  Life is not going to hand you a perfect window of calm and
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  clarity and confidence and say, OK, now you're ready.
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  Go no, the lighthouse shines in the freaking storm, not after
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  it. And so do you one stone today.
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  That's all I'm asking. And tomorrow we stack another
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  one. So let's go.
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  It is go time you've got today. Use it wisely.
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  And I would really love if you would leave in the comments.
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  What is your one stone today? And I will leave one in there as
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  well. So like share, subscribe big
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  time with the subscribing, it helps me get more visibility and
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  I know that there's a lot of people watching who have not
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  subscribed. So help a girl out here.
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  OK, keep kicking ass and taking names and share your stone
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  stories with me. I would love to hear them.
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  I will be back Thursday night for the next installment of
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  Light in the Dark and then Friday morning we are going to
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  compound on to this one stone theory.
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  So the ball is rolling. Take action.
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  I'll see you another time.