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From Impulse to Integrity - Hypnosis to Let Go of Intrusive Desires and Strengthen Commitment · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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  genuine. Issues.
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  Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, demanded by
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  celebrities, CEOs and even royalty, Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Adam's clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Do you? Ever find yourself?
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  Feeling a real. Sense of impulse, like an idea
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  will pop into your head and then suddenly you have to do that
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  thing. And here's the interesting thing
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  about impulses. They don't last very long.
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  In most supermarkets. They will have the chocolates,
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  the candy, right by the checkout because people will, on an
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  impulse, buy something and they will pay for it if there is
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  minimal friction. But they're not willing to go
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  one minute and go to the aisle and buy the same thing.
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  And a lot of people have this belief that somehow they are
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  beholden to their impulses and their cravings.
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  And that's not true at all. Impulses are fleeting.
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  There is a short desire that doesn't last very long, and then
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  it fades away very, very quickly.
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  And this hypnosis session is all about empowering the client that
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  I worked with. But now you listening to this to
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  feel more in control of your impulses, that you can
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  acknowledge an impulse, A craving, a thought, but not need
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  to do anything about it. And there's various metaphors
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  and techniques used in this session.
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  But at its. Core, it's about thinking about
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  what kind of person you really want to be and what quality of
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  life you actually want from that.
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  And the key thing is. Is to think.
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  About what's going to give you a better quality of life.
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  Impulses generally are fuelled by short term gratification and
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  dopamine hits, whereas what really gives you a sense of
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  pride is having the version of you that you want to be closer
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  to, the version of you that you actually are.
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  And that's really the definition of self esteem, the contrast
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  between the ideal version of yourself and the current version
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  of yourself based on your perceived values.
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  So if someone values wealth and they're just as wealthy as their
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  ideal version, they're going to have very high self esteem.
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  But it might be body shape, it might be something else.
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  It's your values now. This session is all about really
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  fuelling that kind of long term commitment, that discipline.
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  To break free. Of those impulses, but it was
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  created for an individual. Therefore, some of the.
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  Suggestions are going to sound. Pretty specific because that's.
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  The client that I was working with.
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  So just ignore any suggestions that don't fit with what you're
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  looking for and hone into those ones that do.
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  And if you do like the idea of working with me directly to have
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  a bespoke customize session just for you, there will be a link in
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  the show notes where you can schedule a completely free
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  consultation call. We'll chat over Zoom and who
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  knows, we might end up working together.
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  For now, though, find a quiet, comfortable place where you
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  won't be disturbed. Relax and enjoy the session.
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  Take a deep breath in, and as you breathe in, breathe in that
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  slow, long, relaxing breath. And as you exhale, feel that
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  wonderful feeling of release, as if your mind can just slow down,
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  as if thoughts are just thoughts and a breath is just a breath.
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  And as you exhale, continue to release any worries, any doubts
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  and any fears, and start to breathe in a feeling of clarity,
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  of deep self trust, of a feeling that things are rarely right or
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  wrong, true or false. That most things exist in the
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  Shades of Grey. And the moment you bring nuance,
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  with it comes discernment evaluations.
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  And in doing so, you get to dial down intrusive thoughts that
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  become compulsive emotions. So as you breathe in that calm
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  confidence and clarity, and exhale those feelings of doubts,
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  worries, perhaps even thoughts from the past that no longer
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  serve, you feel a cleansing happening.
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  That it's now safe and OK to let go and to reawaken that feeling
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  of trust and confidence that you're wiser now than you've
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  ever been. Breathing in that relaxation,
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  exhaling that tension. And as you breathe out, allow
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  your body to relax even more, noticing the muscles in your
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  face, your shoulders, your hands, unwinding, releasing.
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  In fact, set the intention to relax your skin on your face,
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  there on your forehead, in your cheeks, because the only way you
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  can relax the skin is by relaxing the muscles beneath
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  them, breathing in relaxation, exhaling tension.
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  And as you exhale, just let go of everything that doesn't
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  belong to this moment. Because here, right now, there
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  is nothing you have to do, nothing to resist, just an
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  opportunity to observe so your mind can begin to drift to that
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  state of quiet awareness. The state where thoughts may
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  calm and go, but you remain in the centre.
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  Like the calm depth of the ocean, where surface waves
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  ripple and crash, yet far below, it's always peaceful.
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  In the past you've been the waves, but now you are that calm
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  depth and the thoughts not You are just waves.
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  As your body relaxes, your imagination awakens and I wonder
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  if you can imagine walking into a bright, spacious showroom.
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  Polished floors with shiny lights reflecting off beautiful
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  cars. And these cars can represent a
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  thought, a desire, perhaps even a doubt.
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  Some appealing, some strange, some powerful, some unnecessary.
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  And as you walk around this car showroom, you notice how easy it
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  is to be drawn to 1, to look closer, to imagine what it might
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  feel like to take it for a drive.
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  But you also know that just because the car looks desirable
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  doesn't mean it's a good decision to own it.
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  Some have hidden problems beneath the paintwork, engine
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  faults, bad history, high maintenance.
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  And you smile to yourself because you realize that your
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  mind works the same way. Thoughts are just models on
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  display, and you can admire one without buying it.
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  You can acknowledge it without taking it home, and you can
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  observe beauty without losing discernment because you are the
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  one walking through the showroom.
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  You are not the car, not the salesman, and not the impulse.
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  You are the observer, the chooser, the driver, and as you
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  look through this impressive showroom, it dawns on you, even
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  if these cars look good, none of them would be a better choice
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  than the one you already have. And sometimes it's good to make
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  that evaluation so you feel grateful for what you have
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  because you can see something and not want it or want it but
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  not buy it. All the choices are yours.
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  And there you are in that showroom.
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  It dawns on you that thoughts can be anything.
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  The thoughts of desire, a thought of fear, a strange
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  random image, a memory, a fantasy, a worry.
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  But they don't define who you are, They don't reveal your true
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  self. They're simply tiny electrical
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  impulses in the mind, just data passing through consciousness,
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  often showing symbols and representations of things you
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  already know. And I want you to imagine, just
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  to prove that thoughts can be anything.
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  I want you to imagine a multi coloured Penguin dancing in the
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  corner of the room. You decide the colours and you
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  decide how that Penguin dances. And you can even give a voice to
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  that Penguin. And just because you can think
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  something doesn't mean it's true.
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  It doesn't even mean that it matters.
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  It doesn't need a narrative, a meaning, an explanation.
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  It's just a thought. And if a dancing multi coloured
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  Penguin can be a thought, anything can be a thought.
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  And what if the thoughts weren't the issue, but the meaning?
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  You give those thoughts because you've thought some things in
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  the past that made you feel guilty or create doubt.
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  That could start off a loop or a worry, but these are built on
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  the foundation of sand. The moment that you realize
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  thoughts are just thoughts, and that you decide the meaning, any
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  of those emotions can disappear, to evaporate, to dissolve, to
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  become nothing. From this moment on, any or
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  every time an intrusive thought appears, just know that it's
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  just a thought, not a truth. That it doesn't mean anything,
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  that it can just be noise. And your job is to discern of
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  all the things that you think, which thoughts are useful, which
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  ones require your attention. Imagine walking through a busy
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  city, people trying to sell things, adverts.
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  I want you to get a sense that there would be so many
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  distractions, so many people vying for your attention, just
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  like your thoughts. But you get to decide where your
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  attention goes, and in that busy city street it would be the most
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  outrageous or most emotive things that were said that might
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  get your attention. The same is true with your
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  thoughts. You think of a million thoughts
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  a day, but most of them carry no emotion with them, and so
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  they're quickly forgotten. But only the ones that are seen
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  as wrong, as bad as not allowed, create enough emotion to fall on
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  your radar. But when thoughts aren't the
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  issue, and even emotions aren't the issue, and only behaviour
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  and decisions matter, then you get to dial down all of the
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  emotional intensity as thoughts are just thoughts and emotions
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  are always temporary because the mind produces the thoughts.
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  But only you get to choose the meaning.
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  You choose which thoughts to entertain, which to release and
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  which to ignore entirely. And I wonder if you could
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  imagine, just for a moment, an old fashioned radio.
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  Perhaps you remember the ones with the big antennae and the
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  dial to tune in to frequencies. I wonder if you could imagine
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  that your mind is like a radio, constantly tuning and looking
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  for frequencies, and each station represents a theme,
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  maybe attraction or doubt, a memory or curiosity, but you get
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  to tune in or tune out. When you tune in to your
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  ambitions, your desires, your plans, your goals, you notice
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  more alignment and more fulfilment.
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  But if you happen to tune into your fears, your doubts, your
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  worries, your insecurities, that can create loops where you get
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  stuck on a channel. But you can TuneIn and you can
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  tune out. And the old pattern was like
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  being stuck on one of those stations, perhaps of comparison
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  or noticing, judging or comparing, wondering if
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  something or someone might be more exciting, more beautiful,
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  more new. But comparison is a thief of joy
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  and presence. It distracts you from the
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  richness that already exists in your life.
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  So imagine dialing that radio in to a new frequency, the
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  frequency of gratitude and appreciation, and maybe you
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  begin to notice the depth, the beauty, the uniqueness, all of
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  the wonderful qualities in your partner, the small gestures, the
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  warmth, the connection, and maybe you come to the
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  conclusion. But intimacy, not gratification,
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  isn't found in novelty. It's found in real connection.
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  And the deeper you go, the richer that connection becomes.
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  And the more you invest of your time, energy, and emotions, the
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  more you receive. And as you relax even more
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  deeply now, you might sense that there's a part of you.
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  A part that sometimes feels restless, impulsive, curious, or
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  compulsive. Perhaps a part that used to use
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  porn or fantasy to meet an emotional need.
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  Maybe for excitement, for variety, or perhaps to escape a
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  substitute for real connection. And I want you to imagine
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  inviting that part forward. Imagine you're in a small room
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  and you invite that part free of judgement, just to be
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  understood. I want that part responsible for
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  intrusive thoughts or compulsive behaviours.
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  Is there in the room? Let me know about nodding your
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  head. And I want you to thank that
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  part not for its behaviour, its thoughts or emotions, but for
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  its positive intention, that even before you know what that
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  positive intention is, you know it comes from a good place.
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  And when that part accepts your gratitude, your appreciation for
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  the intention, then ask that part what it was really trying
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  to do for you, and perhaps is to help you feel alive, to help you
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  feel free, to help you feel wanted, to protect you or to
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  connect you. So again, thank that part for
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  its intention and not its method, because this part was
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  never the problem. It's just a messenger.
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  And now that you've grown, you can meet those same needs in
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  more meaningful ways. You can feel alive through
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  connection, you can feel free through self-control, and you
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  can feel wanted through authenticity and openness.
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  And that part no longer needs to pull you towards old habits
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  because you've evolved beyond them.
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  There are things you used to do as a child or a teenager that
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  you don't do anymore. Didn't require any big decision,
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  didn't require any discipline or willpower.
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  You just grew out of certain things, and what if porn can be
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  one of them? What if that gratification of
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  seeing someone it's just a habit that you can grow out of?
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  What if those compulsive intrusive thoughts are also a
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  habit that becomes part of your past when you move beyond it?
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  And I want you to invite the part responsible for all of
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  those compulsions and intrusive thoughts to no longer be a lone
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  wolf, but to join your whole system.
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  A system that serves your values, enhances your integrity
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  and brings you deeper peace. And it returned for a moment to
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  that car showroom. And just imagine, a shiny new
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  sports car catches your eye. Sleek curves, Immaculate Polish,
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  beautiful design. And you could admire it, even
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  desire it. But now you see beyond the
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  surface. You sense what's underneath, the
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  hidden costs, the breakdowns, the depreciation, the regret.
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  It's not wrong to notice beauty, but it's wise to see through it.
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  And just as a skilled driver ignores distractions on the
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  roadside, you now focus on the journey.
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  You've chosen your relationship, your growth, your integrity
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  based on your values, no one else's.
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  So that no desire can pull you off course.
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  Because you understand that not every thought deserves a
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  destination, and not every feeling deserves a following.
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  Most important of all, not every impulse deserves an action.
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  I want you to get a feeling that everything lies on that spectrum
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  of Shades of Grey. You decide what's OK and what
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  isn't OK. You decide what you're
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  comfortable with and what you're not.
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  You decide what crosses the line.
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  Because if everything crosses the line, then it's
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  understandable why you would feel guilt or shame or regret
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  because there is no line of discernment.
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  And I want you to get a feeling that perhaps a good line, as if
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  thoughts and feelings turn into action, that becomes damaging
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  either to yourself or others. Maybe that's a useful line.
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  I don't want you to get a feeling that you have no desire
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  to cross that line. Your thoughts are just thoughts,
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  and you choose their meaning. You are not defined by what
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  comes to mind, and you can notice beauty without needing to
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  chase it, and you release comparison and instead live in
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  appreciation. You can meet your needs through
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  connection and integrity, not through gratification and
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  delusion. You are the driver and you know
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  your destination and you trust yourself completely.
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  I want you to imagine going forwards in time, perhaps a
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  month or two months, and just imagine noticing someone
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  attractive, but instead of any tension or guilt or intrusive
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  thoughts, you simply observe and move on.
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  No story, no meaning, just awareness.
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  And then imagine that a thought arises, an old pattern, maybe a
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  flicker of impulse. But notice that you can just
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  frame it as just a thought. And when it becomes just a
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  thought, it loses its power, enabling you to return to
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  presence, to gratitude and connection, so that your energy
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  flows where it belongs, into life, love and purpose.
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  And when you feel that you have more ability to be discerning
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  with your thoughts and emotions, that you're going to be fairer
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  on yourself as to what meaning you give things.
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  And to keep your eye on the prize of the future that you
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  truly desire rather than being distracted by things that are
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  not as good as what you're pursuing anyway.
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  And when you feel that calibration is taking place,
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  almost like your internal operating system is being
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  updated to the latest version, not the teenage version, not you
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  in a previous relationship, but all of that wisdom and
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  experience is updating your operating system now.
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  And let me know by nodding your head.
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  That's it. You are not your past, you are
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  not your mistakes. You are you now.
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  And everything in the past is either wisdom or experience that
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  can help you in the present and your future.
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  It's time to leave this place. You could admire the cars
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  without needing to drive them or buy them, and you can
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  acknowledge your thoughts without needing to respond to
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  them. So take a deep breath in through
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  your nose and out through your nose.
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  Just wiggle your fingers, wiggle your toes, connect and calibrate
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  into the here and the now as I now count from 1:00 to 10:00 to
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  awaken you. Starting to count 123 waking up
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  456 more alert 7-8. Open your eyes, open your eyes,
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  910. Wide awake, wide awake, wide
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  awake. Thank you so much for joining me
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  on today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  If you've enjoyed this episode or got some value from it,
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  please. Give it a.
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  Thank you again. For being a regular listener of
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  the hypnotist. And I'll see you again soon for
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  more.