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☀️ Ennea-Summer: Enneagram 7 The Enthusiast · The Wholehearted Enneagram Podcast

• 0:02
  SPEAKER_01: Welcome to the Simply Wholehearted Podcast with Amy Wicks, your wholehearted life and business coach.
• 0:10
  SPEAKER_01: You should know this podcast will inspire you to grow in self-awareness, be passionate about your faith, and get clear on your calling.
• 0:18
  SPEAKER_01: If you are new here, then welcome to the community of multi-passionate women who love to go deep on topics like faith, Enneagram, relationships, leadership, and community.
• 0:31
  SPEAKER_01: This conversation might provide the step you need to make the change you desire.
• 0:36
  SPEAKER_01: So let's get started.
• 0:53
  SPEAKER_01: Type 7s are often seen as the busy, fun, loving types of the Enneagram.
• 0:58
  SPEAKER_01: But ask a 7, and they don't always feel fun.
• 1:02
  SPEAKER_01: Today I'm gonna dive into what makes a type 7 sparkle.
• 1:06
  SPEAKER_01: I'm gonna introduce an upstream practice for embracing depth and satisfaction.
• 1:11
  SPEAKER_01: I'm gonna feature a wholehearted type 7 client, and then wholehearted coach Deanna Sudam will finish with a prayer for fulfillment and contentment.
• 1:21
  SPEAKER_01: If you know a seven or you are a seven, I hope you take notes and share this fun and simple way to learn about all nine Enneagram types this summer.
• 1:29
  SPEAKER_01: Of course, if you don't have a pen and paper, or you'd rather not be bothered with such a nuisance, then click the link in the show notes to get the guide sheet all about the seven and find all other eight guide sheets listed there as well.
• 1:45
  SPEAKER_01: Here's a brief snapshot of the Enneagram 7.
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  SPEAKER_01: The seven's core fear is fear of missing out.
• 1:53
  SPEAKER_01: Yep, it's real.
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  SPEAKER_01: Their fear is limitations and being bored, being deprived or trapped in emotional pain.
• 2:01
  SPEAKER_01: The seven's core desire is to be content, satisfied, and happy.
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  SPEAKER_01: The core weakness is gluttony, an insatiable desire to fill up on experiences and stimulation in order to fill their emptiness inside.
• 2:17
  SPEAKER_01: The Enneagram 7's core longing is to know that they will be taken care of.
• 2:24
  SPEAKER_01: Now, how about those Enneagram wings?
• 2:26
  SPEAKER_01: Well, basically, they just mean the personality types are on either side of the primary personality type.
• 2:33
  SPEAKER_01: So the wings for the type seven are the type six and the type eight.
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  SPEAKER_01: Each person tends to use their wings differently, sometimes one more than other.
• 2:43
  SPEAKER_01: Ultimately, it brings a different dimension and depth to the primary type.
• 2:47
  SPEAKER_01: It is like salt and pepper to potato or cream and sugar is to coffee.
• 2:52
  SPEAKER_01: It just adds flavor to the primary Enneagram number.
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  SPEAKER_01: So the main type is going to dominate a person's perception and experience, but the wings are going to influence and even add potentially internal conflicts and also bring awareness to childhood experiences because those are often impacted as well.
• 3:13
  SPEAKER_01: Ultimately, the insight about Enneagram wings offers awareness to those wounded parts.
• 3:19
  SPEAKER_01: And so they might be mended.
• 3:21
  SPEAKER_01: And you can experience greater forward momentum in life, love, and work.
• 3:28
  SPEAKER_01: The Enneagram Seven Wing Six can sometimes be in conflict with each other.
• 3:33
  SPEAKER_01: The seven's going to look for positivity and freedom, but at the same time, the six will be focused on establishing predictability and aligning themselves with trusted leaders.
• 3:44
  SPEAKER_01: A seven wing six genuinely focuses on what others are thinking and what they desire so that way they can enjoy more fun with others.
• 3:54
  SPEAKER_01: The seven wing eight, on the other hand, tends to blend easily with each other as both are more assertive and enjoy control over their environment or options.
• 4:03
  SPEAKER_01: So a seven wing eight tends to be more confident and innovative.
• 4:06
  SPEAKER_01: And when they're aligned, they do show up with persistent energy and are ready and willing to do the job.
• 4:12
  SPEAKER_01: The only problem is the seven wing eight tends to have a lot of energy, which other people can find intimidating or even draining.
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  SPEAKER_01: Now let's talk about the Intelligence Center for the Seven.
• 4:25
  SPEAKER_01: The Intelligence Center is a triad in the Enneagram, and this specific triad gives us insight about everyone's approach to decision making.
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  SPEAKER_01: The seven falls in the head triad, which means they employ a cognitive approach to decision making.
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  SPEAKER_01: And people in this group often evaluate situations through their thoughts before determining their emotional response and their next reaction.
• 4:51
  SPEAKER_01: Anxiety tends to be the prevailing emotional struggle within the head triad, and this frequently drives their thoughts and actions.
• 4:59
  SPEAKER_01: So when facing choices, they prioritize options that offer a sense of security and then align those choices with their core desires and quests for stability.
• 5:09
  SPEAKER_01: For the seven specifically, security is attained through creating unlimited options.
• 5:17
  SPEAKER_01: The seven's communication pattern falls within the assertive stance in the Enneagram.
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  SPEAKER_01: And this communication pattern actively engages with others.
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  SPEAKER_01: The personality stance often persuades others in order to get their desired resolution.
• 5:33
  SPEAKER_01: And their positive intention is to just assert impactful ideas and vision.
• 5:38
  SPEAKER_01: They may get frustrated with those who go too slow or seem too easygoing.
• 5:44
  SPEAKER_01: Now, the three types in the assertive communication pattern are the three, seven, and eight.
• 5:49
  SPEAKER_01: And they struggle the most with the mundane and the limitations of ordinary life.
• 5:53
  SPEAKER_01: Their strength is being future focused and tend to think, what should be done next or what will happen next?
• 5:59
  SPEAKER_01: And that influences their right now present moment.
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  SPEAKER_01: They can see where they're going or want to go, and then they use that information to determine what needs to happen right now.
• 6:12
  SPEAKER_01: So what about those unique lines in the Enneagram diagram?
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  SPEAKER_01: Well, the lines that are connecting between the different types denote stress and growth.
• 6:21
  SPEAKER_01: So here are the specific details about the lines connected to the Enneagram 7.
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  SPEAKER_01: When an Enneagram 7 reacts to stress and they're operating in unawareness, they may go to the low or average side of the one.
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  SPEAKER_01: They become more perfectionistic and critical of themselves and others.
• 6:39
  SPEAKER_01: They are cynical and hypercritical and trying to change people, and they may even blame others for preventing their fun.
• 6:48
  SPEAKER_01: When an Enneagram seven is willing to do the work, they can respond with purpose and intentionality.
• 6:54
  SPEAKER_01: They're going to exhibit the high side or healthy side of the Enneagram five.
• 6:59
  SPEAKER_01: They become more focused, they place more value on wisdom and discipline, and they become more accepting of all of life.
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  SPEAKER_01: The good, the bad, happy and sad, the beautiful and messy.
• 7:12
  SPEAKER_01: Remember though, your starting point doesn't have to be your stop point.
• 7:17
  SPEAKER_01: When an Enneagram Seven practices rhythms of resting in silence, silence helps them learn how to attune to God's voice, which of course is not always easy to recognize.
• 7:28
  SPEAKER_01: This opens the door to encountering Jesus, the true enthusiast.
• 7:33
  SPEAKER_01: Brokenhearted moments are transformed into wholehearted healing as the seven declares these true statements.
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  SPEAKER_01: May I receive the discernment between want and need and truly be content.
• 7:51
  SPEAKER_01: And may I embrace the joy of the moment, resting my mind from planning what comes next.
• 7:58
  SPEAKER_01: When an Enneagram seven learns to rest in silence, they will learn to face their pain and take it to the one who is waiting to heal and tend to their heart.
• 8:07
  SPEAKER_01: The invitation is to stop running from those things they'd rather forget.
• 8:11
  SPEAKER_01: So in time they'll find that they have all they need in Christ alone.
• 8:17
  SPEAKER_01: Author AJ Sherrill advises Enneagram 7 to pay special attention to the season of Lent, observed in the liturgical church calendar.
• 8:26
  SPEAKER_01: This is 40 days of self-reflection, sobriety, and self-control.
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  SPEAKER_01: As a seven, I wasn't surprised to read this recommendation, but yikes, it is very pointed and it's challenging.
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  SPEAKER_01: At least I find it challenging every single Lent season.
• 8:43
  SPEAKER_01: Beginning with Ash Wednesday, Lant reminds followers of Jesus of his 40 days of fasting in the wilderness before his public ministry commenced.
• 8:52
  SPEAKER_01: Both fasting and resting in silence help sevens acknowledge the inner deserts they may be actively avoiding and instill their dependency on God for true fulfillment.
• 9:04
  SPEAKER_01: I am so excited for you to meet a wholehearted client, Pam Bauer, who isn't a whole-hearted coach, but she is a stellar woman that I can't wait for you to hear from.
• 9:19
  SPEAKER_00: Hi, friends.
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  SPEAKER_00: My name is Pam Bauer, and I currently live near Knoxville in the Smoky Mountains of East Tennessee.
• 9:26
  SPEAKER_00: And this is the story of my whole-hearted journey.
• 9:30
  SPEAKER_00: Actually, it's more like a roller coaster ride of transformation, which began way back in 2017 when, thanks to our adventurous career and hospitality, my husband and I had moved again.
• 9:42
  SPEAKER_00: By the way, we are now up to 11 moves in 17 years together.
• 9:47
  SPEAKER_00: And at the same time, I was nearing my 40s decade.
• 9:50
  SPEAKER_00: So this new season felt like the time to grow up, face the music, and take a more mature approach to life.
• 9:58
  SPEAKER_00: So the focus became addressing my whole self, a sort of holistic tune-up of my mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual health, each of which were a hot mess in their own special little way.
• 10:12
  SPEAKER_00: So while I had a renewed mindset about healthy aging, I took the same approach as my younger self, which meant full speed ahead.
• 10:20
  SPEAKER_00: I spent zero time reflecting on the past and instead put all my energy into setting a course of action, researching, getting excited for new health goals and forging ahead with my plan and my own strength and willpower.
• 10:34
  SPEAKER_00: It seemed to be working.
• 10:36
  SPEAKER_00: I was successful, I was happy, healthy-ish, and life seemed great by worldly standards.
• 10:43
  SPEAKER_00: Yet all of this supposed success really wasn't feeling meaningful.
• 10:49
  SPEAKER_00: The only way to describe it is to say it felt like I had an empty, hollow place inside what I named my soul hole.
• 10:59
  SPEAKER_00: I moved from holistic health focus to understanding how to how to fill my soul hole.
• 11:04
  SPEAKER_00: I started reading even more books, listening to all the podcasts, ingesting as much self-help content as possible for some magic wand solution or a framework to fill the void, asking God all along the way, aren't I made for more?
• 11:21
  SPEAKER_00: At the time, the unhealthy, peppy, pleasing, performer tendencies I projected in stress were really strong.
• 11:29
  SPEAKER_00: And I was too embarrassed to ask family and friends for help or questions about things I felt I should know about myself at this age and stage in life and in faith.
• 11:39
  SPEAKER_00: So all these curious questions that kept bubbling up for me actually led for me to seek out what I would call virtual mentors.
• 11:48
  SPEAKER_00: I seem to have a natural gift of leveraging my curiosity to connect the dots.
• 11:53
  SPEAKER_00: So by way of Google searches and by my habitual clicking until I have a thousand tabs open on my laptop, I eventually found the Amy F Downs podcast that sounds fun.
• 12:05
  SPEAKER_00: Around that time, she hosted an episode explaining the Enneagram.
• 12:09
  SPEAKER_00: And y'all, I was hooked.
• 12:11
  SPEAKER_00: I investigated further and took an assessment right away, which typed me as a textbook seven.
• 12:18
  SPEAKER_00: Later on, she hosted an Enneagram series on all nine types, and I binged.
• 12:23
  SPEAKER_00: I distinctly remember listening to the seventh episode and literally laughing out loud in my car at how similar my life plays out to the interviewees.
• 12:32
  SPEAKER_00: And then a moment later, my eyes welled up with tears when they discussed the painful side of life as an enthusiast.
• 12:40
  SPEAKER_00: And it was at that moment like they had opened up a dark closet where I'd locked away all my secrets and they were shining a spotlight in every corner.
• 12:51
  SPEAKER_00: At that point, I had been assessed by every employer with their preferred flavor of test.
• 12:57
  SPEAKER_00: So I was generally aware of how others perceive me and the ways I show up in the world.
• 13:02
  SPEAKER_00: However, thinking about all the assessments in the workplace, none of them really ever dug beneath the surface to peel back the layers and explain why about my personality.
• 13:15
  SPEAKER_00: Why do the assessments and the results consistently describe me with the same outgoing personality traits?
• 13:22
  SPEAKER_00: Why am I in the role of the achieving team galvanizer and need to bring all the energy all the time?
• 13:29
  SPEAKER_00: And why are there the standard areas of opportunity that I was always getting coached on?
• 13:36
  SPEAKER_00: Pam needs to focus and find more tenacity to finish projects.
• 13:39
  SPEAKER_00: She needs to see the grass isn't always greener.
• 13:42
  SPEAKER_00: At first, learning about the Enneagram, I loved all the enthusiast descriptions, like the work assessments and of course the funny seven memes and then learning about my besties types.
• 13:56
  SPEAKER_00: But as I dug deeper to discover the Enneagram's power as a tool to bring awareness to my personality blind spots and unveil that why of my shadow self, it started to get real.
• 14:08
  SPEAKER_00: Success on the outside was no longer enough.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I had to admit I wasn't in a thriving place.
• 14:15
  SPEAKER_00: Also need to admit I needed help.
• 14:17
  SPEAKER_00: I couldn't do it alone.
• 14:18
  SPEAKER_00: So continuing to connect the dots, I thankfully found Amy in wholehearted coaching.
• 14:24
  SPEAKER_00: Finally, it was time to move from self-awareness to self-management, personal improvement, and spiritual growth for true transformation.
• 14:33
  SPEAKER_00: So in 2022, I invested in coaching with Amy.
• 14:37
  SPEAKER_00: I was a bit reticent to start, realizing I needed to let my guard down to be able to do the work and be vulnerable so I could enter into a coaching relationship.
• 14:48
  SPEAKER_00: However, listening to the God whispers and knowing I was equipped with enough Enneagram knowledge to be dangerous, I was ready to get out of my comfort zone and for the next level of growth.
• 14:59
  SPEAKER_00: Because of her amazing gospel-centered approach, coupled with the common language we shared through the Enneagram and her expert coaching tools, I instantly realized Amy and I could go deeper quickly.
• 15:13
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, good gracious, I cried on our very first call, which surprised me.
• 15:20
  SPEAKER_00: My emotions are never out there like that.
• 15:24
  SPEAKER_00: I'd never been much of a crier, I guess, because expressing emotions isn't fun and doesn't align with the happy Pam persona.
• 15:30
  SPEAKER_00: But in this case, it felt really natural.
• 15:33
  SPEAKER_00: Amy made it comfortable for me to bring up issues I'd been avoiding dealing with for years and helped me bring to light the mental health struggles, like the constant hum of anxiety just below the surface, and made it where I could begin to acknowledge the pain I was shoving down because Amy made it comfortable to discuss this and help me use a common language.
• 15:56
  SPEAKER_00: It allowed me to hold up a mirror to truth so I could forget the lies I'd been telling myself.
• 16:02
  SPEAKER_00: Amy helped me discover the motivations that fueled my behaviors as an enthusiast and brought awareness to the approaches I chose to follow in order to stay comfortable in relationships and in life.
• 16:16
  SPEAKER_00: And most of all, it Amy helped me finally admit to myself that the methods I take to ignore and avoid pain were severely impacting my mental health.
• 16:25
  SPEAKER_00: Looking back on my journaling and the pages and pages and pages of notes I made during my coaching sessions with Amy, there is so much wisdom and too many aha moments to share today.
• 16:36
  SPEAKER_00: But a few milestone moments I'd love to include are when she explained how we developed our coping mechanisms as a child, which creates this false self.
• 16:45
  SPEAKER_00: The enthusiast persona and stories I began to believe is my true identity were overshadowing my true identity in Christ and how God really created me to be in relationships.
• 16:59
  SPEAKER_00: And considering my types, healthy and unhealthy behaviors allowed me to understand how I'm impacting my relationships.
• 17:05
  SPEAKER_00: Realizing even enthusiasts live in a broken, both and world helped me to see that to experience love and joy is to also encounter grief and sorrow.
• 17:16
  SPEAKER_00: I will experience painful points on my journey, but I don't have to camp out there.
• 17:21
  SPEAKER_00: And huge for me was a coaching accountability to practice healthy rhythms such as solitude, stillness, and silence.
• 17:29
  SPEAKER_00: Now a favorite spiritual discipline.
• 17:32
  SPEAKER_00: In reflection on my personal journey, it is so encouraging now to realize how much I've grown and super fascinating to clearly see that my experience with the Enneagram was divinely aligned to occur simultaneously with other transformative work only possible by the saving grace of Jesus and daily, supernatural Holy Spirit power to keep focused on the truth.
• 17:57
  SPEAKER_00: Happy report.
• 17:58
  SPEAKER_00: I am mercifully healthier and my soul whole is full.
• 18:02
  SPEAKER_00: And thanks to the tools of the Enneagram and a wonderful guide by the side like Amy, I can truly say I am flourishing.
• 18:12
  SPEAKER_01: Oh, that was so good.
• 18:15
  SPEAKER_01: I am just thrilled that she gifted us her insight from that experience.
• 18:20
  SPEAKER_01: Remember, we are all broken, we're all blowing it, but the brave one does something about it.
• 18:27
  SPEAKER_01: And now Deanna Sudan will share her prayer and blessing for the Enneagram 7.
• 18:36
  SPEAKER_02: Type 7 friend.
• 18:38
  SPEAKER_02: You are created by God to reflect his joy.
• 18:41
  SPEAKER_02: Thank you for the lightheartedness, fun, and laughter that you can easily bring to spaces when you feel free and unlimited.
• 18:49
  SPEAKER_02: I sense the Lord wants you to not just know that he takes care of you, but for you to lock in on these truths so they will be easily accessible when you have trouble believing what he says.
• 19:02
  SPEAKER_02: I have two scriptures to reassure you that he takes care of your deepest needs and you can trust him.
• 19:08
  SPEAKER_02: In Matthew 6, verses 31 to 33 in the New Living Translation, it says, So don't worry about these things, saying, What will we eat?
• 19:18
  SPEAKER_02: What will we drink?
• 19:19
  SPEAKER_02: What will we wear?
• 19:21
  SPEAKER_02: These things dominate the thoughts of unbelievers, but your heavenly Father already knows all your needs.
• 19:27
  SPEAKER_02: Seek the kingdom of God above all else and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.
• 19:34
  SPEAKER_02: And in Philippians four verses eleven to thirteen, in the same translation, not that I was ever in need, for I have learned to be content with whatever I have.
• 19:44
  SPEAKER_02: I know how to live on almost nothing or with everything.
• 19:48
  SPEAKER_02: I have learned the secret of living in every situation, whether it is with a full stomach or empty, with plenty or little, for I can do everything through Christ who gives me strength.
• 20:00
  SPEAKER_02: Father, thank you that these creative, forward thinking idea generators can do all things through you, Lord.
• 20:07
  SPEAKER_02: Thank you that you've given them a drive to take risks and adventures and relationships, even though it flies in the face of their desire to avoid the pain in life.
• 20:17
  SPEAKER_02: We celebrate these seekers of pleasure in life and in the pursuit of these adventures.
• 20:22
  SPEAKER_02: May they introduce many others to new experiences.
• 20:25
  SPEAKER_02: Help them guard against overindulgence.
• 20:28
  SPEAKER_02: Lord, help them to be present in their moments, to bring some contentment in these spaces, and not only the constant desire for the next thing, give them a deep appreciation for who is in front of them.
• 20:40
  SPEAKER_02: Father, open their eyes to see the value of pouring into their closest people.
• 20:46
  SPEAKER_02: Thank you for how you have created these type sevens to be great encouragers.
• 20:50
  SPEAKER_02: Lord, will you send Barnabas people in their lives to be able to speak encouragement in the spaces that they need in their gift of hearing people and being a sounding board?
• 21:01
  SPEAKER_02: Will you give them great discernment, knowing when, if, and how to respond?
• 21:07
  SPEAKER_02: Teach them how to breathe deeply and recognize if a feeling or trigger needs to be processed before it's reframed.
• 21:15
  SPEAKER_02: Friends, you are taken care of by a God who created you, who knows every hair on your head and every thought before it is formed in you.
• 21:24
  SPEAKER_02: May you receive the deepness of this intimacy and every fiber of your being.
• 21:29
  SPEAKER_02: Father, help to channel their restless energy into worthwhile pursuits that will bring glory to your name.
• 21:36
  SPEAKER_02: As it says in your word, godliness with contentment is great gain.
• 21:42
  SPEAKER_02: I ask that you will bless them, Lord, and show them the excitement of a life spent with you.
• 21:47
  SPEAKER_02: In Jesus' name.
• 21:49
  SPEAKER_02: Amen.
• 21:53
  SPEAKER_01: Thank you for sharing in the joyous spirit of the Enneagram 7.
• 21:57
  SPEAKER_01: As we part, carry with you the desire for deeper satisfaction and mindful presence in the Lord.
• 22:03
  SPEAKER_01: Remember, the greatest adventures are not often found in constant seeking, but in truly seeking the goodness of where you are right now.
• 22:13
  SPEAKER_01: And join me again for more empowering episodes this summer.