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Wife Who Cooks or Stays Fit? · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  Speaker 1: We got a question for American mamas. Dear mama's, would
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  Speaker 1: your husbands or rather you keep the house perfectly clean
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  Speaker 1: and cook or for you to stay in perfect shape?
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  Speaker 1: Oh well, let's ask our American mamas.
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  Speaker 2: Alma mama, she said, and joining us now our American
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  Speaker 2: mama's Terry Edeville and Kimberly Burlison.
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  Speaker 1: Well, I mean, look, y'all's husbands get all of that right?
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  Speaker 2: Oh?
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  Speaker 3: Absolutely, we cook, we clean, we maintain. Now, it was
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  Speaker 3: so funny because Kimberly was asking us this question too,
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  Speaker 3: and what did.
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  Speaker 4: Well I saw it online and so I asked literally
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  Speaker 4: ten ten couples. I asked five couples that have been
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  Speaker 4: married as long as we've been married. And then I
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  Speaker 4: asked five young couples, okay, newly married. So it's kind
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  Speaker 4: of like a social experiment to see what they would say.
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  Speaker 4: Every single purse, every our age group. Your husband's the
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  Speaker 4: only one that said fit of course, every man said
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  Speaker 4: clean house. They'd rather clean house, which shocked me. And
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  Speaker 4: then every young man said fit ah. And then when
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  Speaker 4: it was we asked the girl, so the girls was
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  Speaker 4: would you rather a husband that gets things done around
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  Speaker 4: the house, that is romantic or fit? What would you choose?
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  Speaker 4: All the women chose get stuff done around the house.
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  Speaker 4: I love all of them, young, old. And then when
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  Speaker 4: I was talking to my cousin Robin, I asked her
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  Speaker 4: this question and she said, she said romance. And I said, really,
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  Speaker 4: I'm sure you're the only person that has said you'd
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  Speaker 4: want romance. And she said, you know, it's because I
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  Speaker 4: don't have a romantic husband. But I have to interpret
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  Speaker 4: his acts. So when he does do things around the house,
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  Speaker 4: I have to interpret that as his love.
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  Speaker 1: It's an active service.
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  Speaker 4: It's an active service. And she said when I always
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  Speaker 4: wanted a dog, a labidor, and he got me one
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  Speaker 4: one Christmas. And so I told my children that is
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  Speaker 4: your dad's love letter to me, that dog, because he
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  Speaker 4: didn't want a dog, but he did that for me.
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  Speaker 4: So she said, it's like it's a love language thing.
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  Speaker 4: I thought, how interesting. What about you?
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  Speaker 1: See? I don't neither of those things are really what's
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  Speaker 1: important to me, like clean house and cooking. I know
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  Speaker 1: how to cook. I do all the laundry. That for
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  Speaker 1: Wendy bought me a sign for the laundry room. It
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  Speaker 1: says when I said I do I didn't mean laundry,
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  Speaker 1: So I mean I do mostly cleaning your own house, cooking.
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  Speaker 1: Recently it's been about fifty fifty. Most of our marriage,
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  Speaker 1: she's done mostly cooking, mostly because of my schedule and
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  Speaker 1: things along those lines, but recently it's been about fifty
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  Speaker 1: to fifty. I don't know if either one of us
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  Speaker 1: could be claimed to be in physical fitness of shape.
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  Speaker 1: Those aren't things that I have, and those aren't what
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  Speaker 1: I have in my marriage, though, is what I value
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  Speaker 1: the most, which is a partner. I have someone that
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  Speaker 1: absolutely is my best friend in the world, and that
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  Speaker 1: is what's important to me. If my best friend chooses
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  Speaker 1: to clean, fine, my best friend chooses to cook, fine,
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  Speaker 1: my best friend. If my best friend, you know, wants
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  Speaker 1: to go work out one day, okay, fine. But the
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  Speaker 1: point is is that she is my partner, and I'm
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  Speaker 1: able to go out into the world and do the
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  Speaker 1: things that I do with confidence knowing that she is
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  Speaker 1: always on my side. Yeah right, yeah, And so that's
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  Speaker 1: what's honestly, I don't care about the other things.
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  Speaker 4: That's awesome. I love that well.
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  Speaker 3: You know, we talked about it, and you know, when
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  Speaker 3: he said fit, I was like, of course, of course,
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  Speaker 3: I said, But Kevin, I think it's because you already
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  Speaker 3: have a clean house. You you have a wife who cleans.
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  Speaker 3: I clean the house, so you don't know what it's
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  Speaker 3: like not to have a clean house.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, but you're also fit.
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  Speaker 4: Well, I mean, and you cook.
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  Speaker 3: I don't cook. Well, I cook, but it's not good.
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  Speaker 3: But you know, it's so bunny, he said. When I
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  Speaker 3: told her, he said, what did you say about, you know,
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  Speaker 3: the romance or what did you cheat? And I said
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  Speaker 3: around the house. He said, but is romance important to you?
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  Speaker 3: And I said, clearly not. And he said, I'm not romantic.
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  Speaker 3: I said, Kevin, I said, you're not at all. I said,
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  Speaker 3: your idea of romance is saying tonight you and me
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  Speaker 3: like that is your that's your That's about as romantic
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  Speaker 3: as it gets for me. And he thought that was hilarious.
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  Speaker 3: So then I said, I said, you know, that's probably
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  Speaker 3: something you could work on. I mean, if that's you know,
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  Speaker 3: if you want to have me say, oh, my partner's
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  Speaker 3: so romantic, He's like, I'm good. I think good, you
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  Speaker 3: know what.
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  Speaker 2: I think.
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  Speaker 4: That's why in the questions it wasn't the same for women.
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  Speaker 4: It was romance and for men, they didn't even include
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  Speaker 4: romance because I think generally men think romance, not all men,
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  Speaker 4: but that way versus, I want to make her feel
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  Speaker 4: loved and special and that kind of.
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  Speaker 1: Thing you know when you but see that's that's part
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  Speaker 1: of it though, because I do the stuff around the house.
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  Speaker 1: I do the laundry service. Yes, right, that is that,
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  Speaker 1: and that's the actual service. Yes, right right, yes, and
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  Speaker 1: so so that is I mean, if you say that
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  Speaker 1: my doing my folding socks is not romantic, I will
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  Speaker 1: fight you.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, no, you know what, it is romantic And my
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  Speaker 4: husband does something, Yeah, that's romantic to me. I feel
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  Speaker 4: so loved that. I feel like I'm even more romantic
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  Speaker 4: towards him because he's done something that mattered to me
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  Speaker 4: that I wanted done.
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  Speaker 3: Maybe that's whatever. While the women said stuff around the
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  Speaker 3: house because it takes the load off of you, you
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  Speaker 3: know that the cooking thing. He loves to cook, so
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  Speaker 3: he does cook more. I'll cook. But like I said,
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  Speaker 3: it's not you know, anything a chef would be proud of,
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  Speaker 3: but it's us food. It's nutrition, and but he loves it.
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  Speaker 3: It's almost like a And then of course I clean
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  Speaker 3: you know he cooks the stuff, I clean the kitchen afterwards,
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  Speaker 3: so I guess it's a going to take. But I
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  Speaker 3: do love the fact that if we put those three aside,
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  Speaker 3: I think everybody would want a partner like that. I
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  Speaker 3: got your back partner.
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  Speaker 1: It's the best thing in the world.
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  Speaker 3: Absolutely.
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