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Toxic Masculinity · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  Speaker 1: We got a question for American mamas. Dear mammas, did
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  Speaker 1: you see the xx x Y commercial celebrating toxic masculinity. Well,
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  Speaker 1: let's ask American mammas.
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  Speaker 2: Alma and joining us now in studio American Mama Terry Netderville.
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  Speaker 1: Kimberly Burlison is out and about however, I see sitting
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  Speaker 1: in Kimberly's usual seat is another family member, doctor Kevin Netderville.
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  Speaker 1: This is your first time in studio, right, I think, so,
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  Speaker 1: welcome to American Grout Radio. Thank you, and by the way,
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  Speaker 1: thank you for letting us talk to your wife. For
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  Speaker 1: my words like coming up on ten years or something
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  Speaker 1: like that, it's been it's been a long time. She's
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  Speaker 1: been with us from the beginning, and it's only because
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  Speaker 1: you know, she's taking time away from spending with the family.
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  Speaker 1: So thank you so much for that.
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  Speaker 3: Absolutely.
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  Speaker 1: Okay. So there's an ad that was produced by a
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  Speaker 1: clothing company called XXXY. This is started by Jennifer Say.
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  Speaker 1: She is the former chief executive, one of the former
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  Speaker 1: chief executives for Levi's that they kicked her out basically
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  Speaker 1: when she was speaking out against COVID, and then she
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  Speaker 1: started this company saying, look, there's difference between men and women,
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  Speaker 1: and your clothing should represent it. And they have this
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  Speaker 1: commercial showing firefighters and police officers and doctors, and they say,
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  Speaker 1: this is not toxic. This is not toxic, This is
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  Speaker 1: not toxic. And then the commercial says this, you are
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  Speaker 1: not toxic. We think you're essential. You're indispensable to a
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  Speaker 1: healthy society, to creating strong families, chivalrous sons.
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  Speaker 3: And fearless daughters.
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  Speaker 4: So here's to masculinity, here's to x Y.
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  Speaker 1: You really well produced at Fall.
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  Speaker 4: Yes, I love it so much.
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  Speaker 1: What'd you think when you first saw this? I mean,
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  Speaker 1: you're you're obviously married to you know, Kevin Man's man
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  Speaker 1: goes hunting, does all that stuff. You've got kids who've
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  Speaker 1: been playing baseball on scholarship in college. You've got some
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  Speaker 1: men in your family. Yes, what did you think of this?
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  Speaker 4: It was I would say, refreshing, a breath of fresh
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  Speaker 4: like finally somebody says the truth about how we feel
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  Speaker 4: about our men. It is that masculinity that makes them
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  Speaker 4: who they are, That's what gives them a purpose. And
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  Speaker 4: you know, it's so funny because Steele and I had
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  Speaker 4: we haven't done this in forever. But we had supper
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  Speaker 4: the other night and we were at a restaurant and
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  Speaker 4: we were talking about life, and you know, he's just
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  Speaker 4: so happy.
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  Speaker 1: He's got the best gris.
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  Speaker 4: Best baby. So while we were talking, I told him
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  Speaker 4: we were talking about Kevin. We were talking about you
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  Speaker 4: know him as now that Steele is a father, We're
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  Speaker 4: talking about you know, Kevin is a father. And you
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  Speaker 4: know that could go either way. You know, we y'all
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  Speaker 4: have heard stories or Kevin. Kevin was a hard one
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  Speaker 4: and I was a softie, but then they end up
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  Speaker 4: respecting that so much. But I told Stele, I said,
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  Speaker 4: you know the other day and a lot of people
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  Speaker 4: have seen this video. It's a video of a truck
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  Speaker 4: on an airport landing, and it starts, this truck is
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  Speaker 4: going as fast as this plane that's coming in because
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  Speaker 4: the wheel, the front wheel will not drop. So in
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  Speaker 4: essence this the airplane has to the truck has to
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  Speaker 4: match up with the airplane and then go the same
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  Speaker 4: speed so that there's no crash. I saw that before,
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  Speaker 4: but then somebody was so clever and they put men
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  Speaker 4: above the truck and then the plane coming in that
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  Speaker 4: needed the help, It said, wife, children, duties priority, you know.
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  Speaker 4: And I showed Kevin.
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  Speaker 3: No.
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  Speaker 4: I sent it to Kevin, I said, and I told
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  Speaker 4: you all this, I said, I sent it to your dad,
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  Speaker 4: and I said, this is you to us. We don't
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  Speaker 4: even have to really think about anything because he's got
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  Speaker 4: it all under control. And still said, that's who I
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  Speaker 4: want to be for my my wife and my child.
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  Speaker 4: I want to be that.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, So Kevin, let me ask you. I mean, as
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  Speaker 1: a dad obviously raising raised a daughter, but you also
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  Speaker 1: raised two sons, and you hear in this environment about
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  Speaker 1: toxic masculinity and all that. How did you navigate being
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  Speaker 1: a dad trying to teach your dad, your your son's
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  Speaker 1: what real masculinity is.
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  Speaker 3: Well, you know, this toxic masculinity thing, if you look
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  Speaker 3: at it, it really wasn't a thing until about twenty
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  Speaker 3: fifteen when Donald Trump came on the scene. And he's
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  Speaker 3: an alpha male, so they they kind of took that
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  Speaker 3: and ran with it. But as far as my son's
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  Speaker 3: you know, I'm gonna borrow line from I forgot the
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  Speaker 3: name of the movie The American Sniper. Oh yeah, okay,
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  Speaker 3: where his dad said they are sheep, there are sheep
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  Speaker 3: dogs and they're wolves. M okay, and you better be
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  Speaker 3: a sh dog. In other words. You know, in my opinion,
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  Speaker 3: our role as men is to look after and protect
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  Speaker 3: those that cannot protect themselves.
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  Speaker 1: And that's I mean, that is what you do. And
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  Speaker 1: obviously Steele's chose that same type of profession and a
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  Speaker 1: slave's going there too, and so yeah, that's definitely it.
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  Speaker 1: I think it's nice to have a company that's willing
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  Speaker 1: to come out and say this in this time, that
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  Speaker 1: there's one a difference between men and women and that
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  Speaker 1: having that difference is a good thing.
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  Speaker 4: It is such a good thing. And I was telling Kevin,
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  Speaker 4: you know, we were talking about this. We talked about
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  Speaker 4: this stuff all the time, and I said, you know,
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  Speaker 4: it's so nice to be surrounded by men. And we
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  Speaker 4: raised our boys to be men like this where I
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  Speaker 4: feel safe, Like when I'm with Kevin or my boys,
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  Speaker 4: I don't know, nothing can touch me.
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  Speaker 1: click on the ass the Mama's button. Terry Needville, thank
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  Speaker 1: you so much, Thank you, Netterville, thank you so much.
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  Speaker 3: Thank you