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The 4 A's of Gratitude Part 1: An Easy Framework to Show Gratitude · Do Hard Things™ with Siegfried Tiegs

• 0:45
  Speaker 1: All right, welcome back everybody to another episode of the Do Heart Things podcast.
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  Speaker 1: I'm JT, not have with me in studio the lovely Angie Betrayen.
• 0:52
  Speaker 1: How you doing this morning, Angie.
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  Speaker 2: Good morning I am.
• 0:55
  Speaker 2: It's Monday, I'm here, I'm showered, I have makeup on.
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  Speaker 2: Life is good.
• 1:02
  Speaker 1: You're two steps ahead of me because I am not showered.
• 1:04
  Speaker 1: No, I have my makeup on, but the day is young.
• 1:08
  Speaker 1: You're an hour ahead of me, though.
• 1:10
  Speaker 1: You got time change this weekend, plus you're on the East Coast, so, yeah, seven o'clock.
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  Speaker 2: There it is seven o'clock.
• 1:17
  Speaker 2: I'm gosh.
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  Speaker 2: I love being able to do the show at seven.
• 1:20
  Speaker 2: I'm like that's great.
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  Speaker 2: When you get back, will you be able to move it to seven?
• 1:24
  Speaker 2: No, because I got to be at work at seven.
• 1:26
  Speaker 2: That's why we do it at six.
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  Speaker 1: Oh well it worked out.
• 1:32
  Speaker 1: Well, hey, welcome back.
• 1:33
  Speaker 1: We're in the giving season right now.
• 1:36
  Speaker 1: I mean it should be giving season all year round, right, Exactly, yes, everything Because it's Thanksgiving.
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  Speaker 1: You know they started putting out I mean, they remind you about the giving and end of July, because that's when they start putting out Christmas stuff.
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  Speaker 1: But really at the end of Halloween it's usually when you start seeing all the Christmas lights really popping up and whatnot, and we're in the season of giving and all year round should be a season of giving.
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  Speaker 1: But you know we're really hyper focused.
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  Speaker 1: It's on our mental dashboard right now, right Because of all the holiday spirit and over the course of the next couple of weeks we want to talk about the topic of gratitude and giving.
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  Speaker 1: I know recently it had a few conversations about you know what are some ways to give.
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  Speaker 1: We talk about gratitude, but how do you actually do that consistently?
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  Speaker 1: And this morning we're going to talk about a simple framework the four as of appreciation.
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  Speaker 1: I saw this on the.
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  Speaker 1: Brian Tracy talks about this.
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  Speaker 1: He has a podcast as he's an author, and I thought it was a very simple framework because what we want to do is we want to put gratitude on our mental dashboard, so it's something that we engage in more often.
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  Speaker 1: And the four as is just a simple framework so you keep it top of mind as you go through your day and maybe start your morning routine with intentionality.
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  Speaker 1: You might make a little list of you know who am I going to execute one of these as with, and you know it'll just help and that's what we're going to talk about today.
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  Speaker 1: So, all right, let's dive into today's topic the four A's of appreciation.
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  Speaker 2: And the first one is appreciation.
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  Speaker 2: No, just kidding.
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  Speaker 2: What did you say?
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  Speaker 2: I said Angie.
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  Speaker 1: Angie, Angie's okay, there's five A's.
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  Speaker 1: There's five A's of appreciation.
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  Speaker 1: Make sure you appreciate, Angie.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, appreciation.
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  Speaker 1: Sorry they didn't mean to cut you off.
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  Speaker 1: Go ahead.
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  Speaker 1: So what do you?
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  Speaker 1: What do you, angie?
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  Speaker 1: What do you think about the topic?
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  Speaker 1: Well, before we get into appreciation, you know you're always saying, hey, we've got to make someone smile and that's a form of like gratitude.
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  Speaker 1: So what are your thoughts on the topic of gratitude?
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  Speaker 2: So gratitude is something.
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  Speaker 2: If you're not naturally inclined psychologically to be grateful, it's something that you have to teach yourself how to do.
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  Speaker 2: You have to practice it a lot and make it a habit, because you know, for some people it doesn't come second nature or first nature or whatever the saying is.
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  Speaker 2: Second nature doesn't sound right, but I think that's the right term Anyway, and it's it's for me.
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  Speaker 2: So just an example when I wake up in the morning, I, even if my first thought is, oh my goodness, I'm so tired, I'm like I try to switch that just really quick, like, hey, real quick.
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  Speaker 2: What are we gonna be grateful for today?
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  Speaker 2: Who are we grateful for today, and how are we gonna set the tone for the day?
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  Speaker 2: And these are things that I think about while I'm stretching before, you know, you wake up and you get that good stretch in and I'm like, okay, I'm grateful for you know, like this morning at action, sometimes it's I'm grateful for this comfortable bed and these comfortable pillows and I feel it right and that sounds silly, right, but it's how I start my day.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, the other day I went out and took a run.
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  Speaker 2: It was, I don't know, it was nighttime and I'm lucky enough to have this really nice track across the street from the hotel and went out there and ran and you know I just kept thinking, man, it is just so beautiful and I'm so thankful to be here in this learning environment that I'm in right now.
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  Speaker 2: And you know it's every everything I do I try to incorporate a grateful thought into it.
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  Speaker 2: Everything.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, and it's a practice and, to your point, it's on your mental dashboard, so you're thinking about it.
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  Speaker 1: I know, as I have practiced it more and more, when I start to find myself like complaining, like I'm running, oh this sucks, okay, stop, stop.
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  Speaker 1: I'm grateful that I have the health and ability, because people would give anything to be able to do what I'm doing right now.
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  Speaker 1: It's cold out, but it is a beautiful, crisp morning.
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  Speaker 1: You know and I try to it's almost like you know the Jedi mind trick that these aren't the droids you're looking for.
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  Speaker 1: Right, you're keeping the negativity, or flipping the script, and it's simple and, to your point, it sounds silly.
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  Speaker 1: These, I'm grateful for these warm sheets and pillows, but it's absolutely true, I have been without, and you have as well, right, it's just taking a moment to acknowledge that.
• 8:17
  Speaker 1: You know what.
• 8:17
  Speaker 1: I'm not gonna complain, I'm gonna be grateful, and it brings you, it just centers you, and the more you do it, it becomes like second nature, like, to your point, before you hopped on this morning, you're talking about chugging your water and this morning you almost went without it, but your body's like whoa wait up.
• 8:35
  Speaker 1: Nope, we're chugging water.
• 8:37
  Speaker 1: You can program your mind to do the same thing and look at the good, and I think you talk about it all the time.
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  Speaker 1: So you've been practicing it long enough that it comes second nature to you.
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  Speaker 1: It is, it is, and it's something that I have been working on.
• 8:53
  Speaker 1: Oh good.
• 8:56
  Speaker 2: Oh no, no, it's just it does.
• 8:58
  Speaker 2: It takes a lot of hard work, but you feel it internally, like you can.
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  Speaker 2: Your body changes when your brain changes, when your heart changes, when you feel you can't just think about gratitude.
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  Speaker 2: I mean you have to start somewhere, right.
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  Speaker 2: So you have to think grateful thoughts, but you also have to feel it.
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  Speaker 2: You have to force yourself to feel it.
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  Speaker 2: And that's where a lot of people get hung up, like they're like, oh, you know, I mean it's great to look in the mirror and say these mantras, right, so do that.
• 9:25
  Speaker 2: I'm not telling you not to do it, but you gotta add that piece in and start learning how to feel it inside.
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  Speaker 2: And when you feel it inside, your entire life will change, your entire your energy will change.
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  Speaker 2: Your brain waves will change, everything will change.
• 9:42
  Speaker 2: When you put those two points together, absolutely.
• 9:50
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and just to your point, feeling it.
• 9:52
  Speaker 1: And a great thing that I learned, or a method that I learned, is when you're in gratitude, like put your hand on your heart that's something I got from Tony Robbins and feel your heartbeat.
• 10:03
  Speaker 1: And when you're in true gratitude, when you're like truly grateful and you're feeling it, it pulls you out of whatever mood, like it's impossible to be angry or upset or experiencing negative mood when you are in deep gratitude and a great way to feel is just fill your heart Like your heart's a gift.
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  Speaker 1: You don't have to do anything for this heart to beat in you and as long as you have this heart beating like, you have life right and that's enough to be grateful for.
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  Speaker 1: Despite whatever challenge you're facing or whatever you're going through, just to re-center yourself back to your natural state, to your point, sounds silly, but it's incredibly powerful when you really think about it and feel it, and so it's great to know.
• 10:45
  Speaker 1: That's why this topic is so important and studies have shown time and time again if you have a gratitude practice, it will elevate your mood, it will elevate your happiness, you'll get better quality of sleep, your relationships will be better.
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  Speaker 1: It's one of those things that's easy to do, but easier not to do.
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  Speaker 1: But if you just engage in it and just put your, if you're new to it and you're just like man, this feels silly, just put that aside and just do it anyway, your life will change Absolutely.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it will and you gotta look around.
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  Speaker 1: I think there's a little bit of a delay on mine.
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  Speaker 2: Oh is there?
• 11:20
  Speaker 2: It could be mine too, because it's where I'm at.
• 11:23
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I guess we're gonna have things happening, uh-oh, uh-oh.
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  Speaker 2: You know it's really easy to get stuck in the victim mindset and the blaming mindset, and we all know a lot of people who live there.
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  Speaker 2: Right, all you gotta do is talk to them, have a conversation with them, look at their social media, listen to their tone.
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  Speaker 2: You can identify those who are stuck in that victim mindset and that blaming mindset pretty easy, and I really think it's important you know those people.
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  Speaker 2: Really.
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  Speaker 2: They can get out of that.
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  Speaker 2: They can change that and by changing that you know they can they can change their life.
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  Speaker 2: It is it's just like gratitude, is is free and and it's you you can change your life by practicing it.
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  Speaker 2: But anyway, let's, we'll talk about the other one.
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  Speaker 2: It's free.
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  Speaker 2: I love that you do it.
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  Speaker 2: It's free.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's free, like it's there.
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  Speaker 2: You just have to do it, you just have to feel it.
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  Speaker 1: With all the negativity in the world, you turn on the news and all the doom and gloom and just the constant.
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  Speaker 1: You know people that are just constantly in a negative mood.
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  Speaker 1: It triggers them.
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  Speaker 1: You know gratitude's free, and if you want kindness in the world, put it there.
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  Speaker 1: And I think it really starts with appreciation, which is the first A of the four A's, and, to your point, it's free, it's just a deliberate action.
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  Speaker 1: So let's talk about the first one of, of appreciation.
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  Speaker 1: Let's do it.
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  Speaker 1: Appreciation, you know what is it?
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  Speaker 1: It's really an acknowledgement and recognition of, of the value or significance of something or someone.
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  Speaker 1: It's, it's an emotional response.
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  Speaker 1: It can be verbal, it can be action based, but it's really a way to express yourself, it's a way to express gratitude in respect to someone else.
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  Speaker 1: And showing appreciation is, you know it's, it's a key to our interaction as humans with other people.
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  Speaker 1: It strengthens relationships, it fosters a level of positivity and it nurtures growth in.
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  Speaker 1: You know, every aspect of your life, both in your personal life and your professional life, and so you know just a simple way the greatest human desires to feel loved and appreciated, to feel heard, right.
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  Speaker 1: And so by giving someone the opportunity to feel appreciated and just listen to, you're giving a tremendous gift.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, doesn't it feel good to like when you're to have your voice heard and someone to acknowledge you know that.
• 13:53
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you know what.
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  Speaker 1: I appreciate what you're saying.
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  Speaker 1: It feels good to be heard and understood.
• 13:59
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, if you want to raise somebody's self-esteem, show them some appreciation, compliment them, you know, give them, give them, give them something, give them true words and feelings, gratitude and and, and their, their self-esteem will be boost, we'll, we'll raise, we'll be boost.
• 14:19
  Speaker 2: It's Monday morning folks, sorry, their self-esteem will, will, will, will be boost, you know, will be boost.
• 14:26
  Speaker 2: You're going to make them feel valuable and worthwhile and it's, it's just so easy to give someone a compliment, you know, and when I say compliment, don't don't be, as you know, not shallow, but really think hey, you know what, I appreciate what you did there, that that was, and then back it up with the reason why hey, I appreciate this and this is why, and you're, you're just, you're going to make somebody's day.
• 14:55
  Speaker 1: Absolutely Another.
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  Speaker 1: Another simple way is by just simply saying thank you.
• 15:02
  Speaker 1: All right, have you ever done something for someone and you say thank you and they don't respond?
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  Speaker 1: She just she's right.
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  Speaker 1: I said, I said thank you, it's.
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  Speaker 1: It's something that you can do to anyone.
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  Speaker 1: You can to strangers, to people that you know, and it's just the simplest and most direct way to express appreciation is simply just saying thank you, thank you for your contribution to whatever it is you've done for me.
• 15:27
  Speaker 1: I just really appreciate it.
• 15:30
  Speaker 1: Another way is just a just a specific compliment.
• 15:33
  Speaker 1: I appreciate how you always remember everyone's birthday.
• 15:36
  Speaker 1: You know, something I appreciate about Angie is every time that we have no matter what.
• 15:42
  Speaker 1: I'll forget about it sometimes, but she'd be like you know what before make make sure you make someone smile.
• 15:49
  Speaker 1: Right when I think about Angie, I always think about making someone else smile and I appreciate that constant reminder, and you know she does a great job of making everyone feel great because of that, and so tailoring specific to that individual person goes a long way.
• 16:05
  Speaker 1: Absolutely Another way, and it stands out, especially because no one does this anymore, but a hand written note or a card that that expresses thanks in some way.
• 16:20
  Speaker 1: You know people hang these things up on the refrigerator now because there's so few and far between.
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  Speaker 1: But just a simple, just a note.
• 16:27
  Speaker 1: You go and get their address and might put a stamp on it, you know, and mail it to them.
• 16:31
  Speaker 1: Like mail goes out, it doesn't.
• 16:35
  Speaker 1: It doesn't just come in in the form of a bill.
• 16:36
  Speaker 1: You can actually send a letter to someone and you know.
• 16:39
  Speaker 1: It's just basically.
• 16:40
  Speaker 1: Just a simple thank you note or a card goes a long way, you know what this is we are not appreciate both of you.
• 16:48
  Speaker 2: We appreciate you, lacey.
• 16:49
  Speaker 2: First form.
• 16:52
  Speaker 2: We're not sponsored by them, we're not.
• 16:54
  Speaker 2: We're not doing a commercial commercial here, but every time you order from first form you get a hand written note from an employee there and, and you may, you don't know that person, but it's just.
• 17:07
  Speaker 2: I absolutely love getting handwritten notes from Anybody, really anybody, and they always have something positive to say and it's just.
• 17:18
  Speaker 2: You know, it makes it a personalized experience and you feel like you got somebody in your corner.
• 17:28
  Speaker 1: Well, when you purchase a Do-Hard Things shirt from the Do-Hard Things Nation store, you also get a handwritten note.
• 17:32
  Speaker 1: So if you're looking for that.
• 17:34
  Speaker 2: Yes, you do yes.
• 17:36
  Speaker 1: Provide that.
• 17:37
  Speaker 2: That's right, that's right.
• 17:39
  Speaker 1: But I think that's one of the key, that's one of my favorite things about First Form and that's where you know, like when we started, when I purchased some things from them and like and we started this, like we want to make sure that we replicate that in some way, shape or form, and I think it's awesome that a company that large does that right and they're able to keep up with that and that's like a core value that they have.
• 18:01
  Speaker 1: I think it's pretty cool.
• 18:03
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and I think it's really cool that every time sometimes also sometimes you'll get a surprise note from the Do-Hard Things Nation in your mailbox, something that you weren't expecting.
• 18:14
  Speaker 2: That is awesome too.
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  Speaker 1: That's pretty cool.
• 18:19
  Speaker 1: I'll be honest, I kind of slacked on that as of late, so I need to get back on that.
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  Speaker 1: But it was pretty cool to be able to do that, so yeah.
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  Speaker 1: But bottom line a handwritten note or gesture goes a very long way.
• 18:31
  Speaker 1: It's pretty cool, so yeah.
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: Written expression.
• 18:35
  Speaker 1: Next form of appreciation is just an act of kindness, just doing something nice for someone else, just a kind gesture like I don't know.
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: It could be a random act of kindness, like I like to go when I go to Starbucks, maybe give an extra.
• 18:48
  Speaker 1: I used to give an extra five.
• 18:50
  Speaker 1: Now it's got to be like $10 because a coffee is like twice the price.
• 18:52
  Speaker 1: But maybe I'd be like hey, by the next person that comes up, coffee's on me, right, and it just feels good and the employees are always like it wasn't even for the employees, but the employees light up, they think it's so cool to be able to do that right.
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: It might be something as simple as holding the door for someone, maybe picking up some trash, but just some type of act of kindness for someone else.
• 19:14
  Speaker 1: Michelle says I use my Do-Hard Things note from my purchases, my bookmarks.
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: I appreciate that unexpected delight when I order.
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: So well.
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: Thank you, michelle.
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: We appreciate it.
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: She was a former Do-Hard Things good spotlight winner.
• 19:28
  Speaker 2: She's awesome.
• 19:30
  Speaker 2: Good morning, michelle, I miss you.
• 19:31
  Speaker 2: Okay, continue now.
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: Awesome, yeah, but an act of kindness of some kind, doing something selflessly for someone else, super cool feeling and we need more, yeah, I was going down the hallway the other day and this housekeeper was pushing this huge cart and she was trying.
• 19:52
  Speaker 2: She had to get through a door that you have to use a key to open the door to get through, and of course the door opens towards you, you know.
• 19:57
  Speaker 2: And so I put my stuff down.
• 19:58
  Speaker 2: I was like, hey, let me get that door for you.
• 20:00
  Speaker 2: She's like, oh no, no, you have somewhere to be, ma'am, you don't worry about it.
• 20:03
  Speaker 2: I'm like, no, really, it's okay.
• 20:05
  Speaker 2: And you would have thought that I gave her a $100 bill.
• 20:08
  Speaker 2: But she was just like, oh, my gosh, thank you so much.
• 20:11
  Speaker 2: It really is the little things, guys.
• 20:14
  Speaker 2: Don't overthink it, Don't think it's not enough.
• 20:17
  Speaker 2: Every and any little thing that you do for someone else, you don't know how big an impact that is to them.
• 20:24
  Speaker 2: Just do it, Just do it, Just do it.
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: It's the little things that add up.
• 20:30
  Speaker 1: There's a compounding effect to just the little things that don't seem like they matter.
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: They do matter Because that could be the best interaction that person's had that day, because you don't know what they're going through, right, and so that's why it's good to be kind, right.
• 20:43
  Speaker 1: Yeah, hey, lorenzo, good morning.
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: He's going to Wyoming.
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: What are you doing?
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: I bet you're going hunting Lorenzo's on his way to Wyoming.
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: Man, I want to go to Wyoming.
• 20:52
  Speaker 2: Lorenzo, where's my?
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: invite.
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: I know Appreciate you, brother.
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: All right, so we're already at 6.20, so we're probably going to have to break this particular podcast up.
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: The four a's We'll probably get just the first two today.
• 21:06
  Speaker 1: We'll do the next two next week.
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: Let's talk about the next a, which is he's going on an elk hunt.
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: That's cool, man.
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: Make sure that man getting an elk so we can get jerky.
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: Show us some appreciation Love jerky.
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: Yes, all right.
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: So the next a, we'll just do two a's this week and then two a's next week.
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: So this next one is approvals.
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: First one was appreciation.
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: Now approval.
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: Approval, as it relates to expressing gratitude, is recognizing and affirming someone's qualities, their decisions, their actions.
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: And when you approve of someone, you're essentially giving them some positive reinforcement to boost their confidence, affirm their self-worth, and there's a few, a variety of different ways of doing this.
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: The first one is verbal affirmation, so you might say something.
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: You know what I approve of, how you handle things.
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: I approve your approach.
• 22:01
  Speaker 1: I think you're on the track, right track with this.
• 22:03
  Speaker 1: It kind of just you're basically acknowledging someone and you're like you know what thumbs up, brother, I appreciate how you're, how you're handling that and it gives a sense of like encouragement.
• 22:13
  Speaker 1: It's just a way of of, I don't know, just just reinforcing their decisions.
• 22:20
  Speaker 1: Because I know when I'm in like a leadership role, I'm trying to make, trying to guide people and I'm worried it's good to get like, hey, I think that's awesome, we're on the right track.
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: I support, basically saying I support you right, and that feels really good.
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: You can.
• 22:38
  Speaker 1: You know supportive actions when someone is making a decision.
• 22:43
  Speaker 1: If, if you're a leader or you're you're, you're following someone you know by standing up and acknowledging someone's decision publicly, like I don't know if you ever had an instant I'm sure you have where you were like there was probably there was a new change or a new decision that had to be made that might be uncomfortable for the leader to express because it was going to be a big change up, and then someone stands up and says you know what?
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: I think this is a great idea and this is why and I appreciate and I support that endeavor it feels good to be able to do that for someone that's in that position and you're basically publicly stating that you know what.
• 23:24
  Speaker 1: I stand by them, even if there's like dissent, you're showing your trust and approval of their judgment.
• 23:30
  Speaker 1: Also, it could be in the form of like defending or advocating someone else, maybe questioning or I don't know.
• 23:38
  Speaker 1: When you're basically publicly saying that I approve of you.
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: That feels really good and it takes some courage to do that sometime, especially if it's like something bigger, like yeah, decision has to be made, absolutely yeah.
• 23:52
  Speaker 1: So it could be a professional endorsement.
• 23:58
  Speaker 1: This, you know, all the time I'm getting you know.
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: Once every couple weeks I'm always getting someone that wants a letter of recommendation or a referral for a job or something like that, and it's an honor to be able to do that for someone else, that they trust me enough to give that to them, that they've asked that of me, and so anytime that you find an opportunity to endorse someone else, I like on LinkedIn, because you can actually go in there and randomly you can do this, randomly, like go through your LinkedIn and you can type, you can give them like an endorsement on skills, you can give them a little a review if you will, and that goes a really long way on LinkedIn because you see the collection of them and so that's a simple way of doing that.
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you've done that, I'll go on LinkedIn and do that.
• 24:42
  Speaker 1: I don't, I'm not on.
• 24:44
  Speaker 2: LinkedIn.
• 24:45
  Speaker 2: Oh, you're gonna get on LinkedIn.
• 24:49
  Speaker 2: Oh, it's all the different social media thing.
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: Let me get a head on LinkedIn I will say LinkedIn is a really good thing.
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: I always feel like I'm.
• 25:05
  Speaker 1: Linkedin is good, but it feels like I'm well.
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: It's gotten better over the years, but it used to feel like you ever take an online class and you got to go to the message board and and put your obligatory like comments on the board.
• 25:17
  Speaker 1: Yes, harold, I also agree with you.
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: Know how professional.
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: I don't know whatever the topic is right.
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: It's just it feels a little stuffy right when Facebook, we can share memes and you know you can it's a little bit it's a little bit more real.
• 25:31
  Speaker 1: That's why I like Facebook.
• 25:32
  Speaker 2: That can be me.
• 25:33
  Speaker 2: Craig said get your life together, angie.
• 25:35
  Speaker 2: I'm trying, craig, I'm trying, and he appreciates us both and we appreciate you, craig.
• 25:41
  Speaker 1: I appreciate you, Craig.
• 25:42
  Speaker 1: I appreciate your little shorty shorts that you wear every morning.
• 25:45
  Speaker 1: The Stokeys.
• 25:51
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: Get your life together.
• 25:53
  Speaker 2: Angie, yes, I know, I know, but yeah.
• 25:55
  Speaker 1: Angie.
• 25:56
  Speaker 1: So when you know we're in the 21st century and there's this platform called LinkedIn, it's almost like a, it's like a live living breathing job resume.
• 26:08
  Speaker 2: So many things.
• 26:09
  Speaker 2: Oh my God, so many things.
• 26:11
  Speaker 2: I'm okay, all right, got it.
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: Well, that's, that's a really cool feature though that's a cool idea I'm going to introduce you to people yeah.
• 26:19
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you can do that and it goes a long way because you might be able to help someone out as far as like getting their next role, their job or something like that.
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: So public approval is pretty cool.
• 26:26
  Speaker 1: You know, honors, awards and honors, like you know, maybe giving someone an award or public recognition of some kind I mean that's one of the reasons that we do.
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: You know, we do the weekly winner here on the Do Our Things Nation podcast.
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: We want to acknowledge someone for doing something awesome and we take you know, we take nominations from others and it's a way to just publicly say, hey, this person is doing some pretty cool stuff and we appreciate you.
• 26:54
  Speaker 1: We're going to send you a shirt.
• 26:56
  Speaker 1: This person recognized you for that, and that's why we do it, because it feels good.
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: Some people can be a little like I don't know, I don't want to, but you're allowing someone else to care for you, so just accept it.
• 27:08
  Speaker 2: It's a good thing that's right, just accept it.
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: Just accept the love and the appreciation, yeah, and you know, just publicly sharing, I don't know Another way of doing it is just mentoring someone, guiding someone, offering guidance and mentorship as a form of approval.
• 27:24
  Speaker 1: Well, to be honest, you wouldn't mentor someone that you thought sucked right.
• 27:28
  Speaker 1: You see something in them and so you appreciate them.
• 27:33
  Speaker 2: Yes, yes, I'm just going to say that.
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: And then the harsh way of saying that is a form of approval, like you're approving of them.
• 27:41
  Speaker 2: That's the angle, that this one can make that.
• 27:43
  Speaker 1: You want to invest time because you see their potential and growth and if someone does suck out there, you need to probably and you have the ability to help them you probably should.
• 27:52
  Speaker 2: Yes, that's a form of approval yes.
• 27:54
  Speaker 1: And then celebrating success, like if someone has some level of success, you know, just acknowledge them in some way, like just hey, I saw what you did there.
• 28:06
  Speaker 1: I appreciate that it could be publicly, it could just be I don't know something off line.
• 28:12
  Speaker 1: I saw that you had.
• 28:14
  Speaker 1: I love seeing people like when they I don't know something could be like hey, we're celebrating our anniversary and sending them a note Like hey, I think that's awesome.
• 28:24
  Speaker 1: I appreciate that.
• 28:25
  Speaker 2: I appreciate sharing that, yeah, yeah, amanda Banks man.
• 28:28
  Speaker 1: Hey Amanda, I appreciate you.
• 28:29
  Speaker 1: You just ran 100 miles.
• 28:32
  Speaker 2: I'm sorry, Jay, I think we have a.
• 28:33
  Speaker 2: If you're listening to us and we're talking over each other, it's because we have delay.
• 28:36
  Speaker 2: So sorry guys.
• 28:37
  Speaker 2: But Amanda, I just wanted to say give a shout out to Amanda Banks real quick.
• 28:42
  Speaker 2: She just recently ran 100 miler and I think that's amazing and you are super, super, duper awesome.
• 28:50
  Speaker 2: Great job, I appreciate you.
• 28:53
  Speaker 2: It's pretty baller.
• 28:54
  Speaker 1: The.
• 28:54
  Speaker 1: Hunter mom's no fricking joke.
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: That is an amazing feat, for sure, well done.
• 28:59
  Speaker 1: Which one was it?
• 29:02
  Speaker 2: Oh, don't ask me that I don't remember, I don't know.
• 29:06
  Speaker 2: I think I know.
• 29:07
  Speaker 2: Fine, yeah, thanks, jay, appreciate it, that's the reverse.
• 29:12
  Speaker 2: That is the reverse way to appreciate someone.
• 29:14
  Speaker 2: Exactly opposite.
• 29:15
  Speaker 2: Put them on the spot, sorry.
• 29:16
  Speaker 1: Okay, all right.
• 29:17
  Speaker 1: Well, hey, we're only going to do two A's today, but the challenge to all of you that are listening, we're in the spirit of giving.
• 29:33
  Speaker 1: You want kindness in the world.
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: We got to sprinkle that stuff everywhere, right?
• 29:36
  Speaker 1: Because there's a lot of doom and gloom and I'm a big fan of Jordan Peterson, you know it's like you want to change the world.
• 29:41
  Speaker 1: You start by making your bed, you start by, you know, pouring into your circle of influence, and you can only control what you can control.
• 29:47
  Speaker 1: So if you're feeling like you know, god, the stuff in Gaza, washington, whatever is going on like, hey, start by just being cool, just be nice, be, start with having gratitude for yourself and putting some kindness in the world, that's that has a butterfly effect, and we need more of that now more than ever.
• 30:07
  Speaker 1: And so the first two A's are appreciation and approval.
• 30:13
  Speaker 1: So my challenge to you is deliberately find three ways each day to deliberately approve of someone or appreciate someone in some way, shape or form, and it doesn't have to be anything grandiose, just something very, very simple, like Angie has said earlier and keep it simple and do that for an entire week and we come back next week.
• 30:42
  Speaker 1: We'll give you the second two A's and it's gonna be awesome.
• 30:45
  Speaker 1: And then we're gonna challenge you again to apply those in your life.
• 30:48
  Speaker 1: So there you go.
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: That's how we apply.
• 30:50
  Speaker 1: That's how we put some kindness out there.
• 30:52
  Speaker 1: So all right.
• 30:54
  Speaker 1: So, speaking of appreciation and approval, let's switch now to our weekly winner, this one's probably.
• 31:02
  Speaker 1: This is definitely one of my favorites, for sure, they're all awesome that we have here, but this one, and I'll explain momentarily why I think it's so cool.
• 31:11
  Speaker 2: And thank you guys for-.
• 31:12
  Speaker 2: This is Jeff Hawley.
• 31:13
  Speaker 2: Ladies and gentlemen, Go ahead, oh, go ahead.
• 31:15
  Speaker 2: Sorry, no, just to say thank you guys for giving us recommendations on our weekly winners.
• 31:21
  Speaker 2: I mean, let's keep them rolling, all right.
• 31:24
  Speaker 2: Jeff Hawley.
• 31:26
  Speaker 1: Here we go.
• 31:26
  Speaker 1: Yeah, this is Jeff Hawley.
• 31:27
  Speaker 1: He's from Springfield, missouri, and there was a.
• 31:31
  Speaker 1: So we have a trail across Missouri called the Katie Trail.
• 31:35
  Speaker 1: It's 225 miles.
• 31:36
  Speaker 1: It stretches across the state of Missouri.
• 31:39
  Speaker 1: It used to be an old railroad line that they've made a basically a path.
• 31:44
  Speaker 1: It's a gravel path.
• 31:45
  Speaker 1: People travel from all over the country to come out here and run or ride the Katie Trail.
• 31:50
  Speaker 1: It's beautiful.
• 31:52
  Speaker 1: They had, they were supposed to have a race and due to some complications, the race was canceled.
• 31:58
  Speaker 1: And a 225 mile race, that's not a 5K, that's something that requires a lot of dedication to train for and show up and execute.
• 32:09
  Speaker 1: And when the Katie Trail race was canceled you know what he said.
• 32:15
  Speaker 1: You know what I've done all this training, I'm doing this thing anyway.
• 32:18
  Speaker 1: And that's exactly what he did, and I think it was about a week ago or so.
• 32:22
  Speaker 1: He went out and ran.
• 32:24
  Speaker 1: He had a team of people and he finished running across the Katie Trail 225 miles in 73 hours and 19 minutes, which is incredible, and I've got a couple of notes.
• 32:37
  Speaker 1: He did a race report, so I'm gonna read a little bit from that.
• 32:40
  Speaker 1: So he said I imagine that most would consider ultra running an individual sport, but that would be a mistake.
• 32:47
  Speaker 1: Finishing a 225 mile run takes a team.
• 32:50
  Speaker 1: Without the people that sacrificed time out of their own personal lives, I would have never been able to get this done.
• 32:56
  Speaker 1: Chris Hines, dale Doolittle, logan Woodruff, murat Merrill, kelly McGregor Bruggeman deserve as much credit as I do for making this epic event come true.
• 33:06
  Speaker 1: Oh, there might be a discrepancy in the mileage here.
• 33:10
  Speaker 1: 229 miles, 73 hours, 19 minutes, 13 seconds.
• 33:13
  Speaker 1: Three pairs of shoes, nine pair of socks, four hours of sleep, zero blisters.
• 33:19
  Speaker 1: One epic run.
• 33:20
  Speaker 1: To do that with no blisters is incredible.
• 33:23
  Speaker 1: The thing that is resonating with me is the people that surround me.
• 33:27
  Speaker 1: This simply cannot be overstated.
• 33:29
  Speaker 1: There's a bond that forms when people do very difficult things together, like the bond between men who have gone to war or family members that have survived cancer.
• 33:37
  Speaker 1: It's a beautiful thing to have that kind of connection.
• 33:39
  Speaker 1: I wish I could give it to everyone, but I can't.
• 33:42
  Speaker 1: You have to go through the fire to get there.
• 33:44
  Speaker 1: My team and I went through the fire this week.
• 33:47
  Speaker 1: Team fireball.
• 33:48
  Speaker 1: Do it not for the glory but for the love of one and other.
• 33:53
  Speaker 1: That's from Vince Lombardi.
• 33:55
  Speaker 1: So what an incredible feat.
• 33:57
  Speaker 1: So to Jeff and the rest of the team.
• 34:01
  Speaker 1: We appreciate you.
• 34:02
  Speaker 1: I had the pleasure of being friends on Facebook, so I saw it all unfold.
• 34:07
  Speaker 1: I was really, really truly inspired by it, and your friend, Rachel Baker, had nominated you.
• 34:12
  Speaker 1: So, yeah, one hell of an effort, brother.
• 34:16
  Speaker 1: That's pretty awesome.
• 34:17
  Speaker 1: That gives me goosebumps.
• 34:19
  Speaker 2: That gives me goosebumps.
• 34:20
  Speaker 2: Yes, great job, great job all of you, great job, jeff, and great job to the team.
• 34:27
  Speaker 1: I think it's so cool that you know what they had, this race and you're like you know what.
• 34:29
  Speaker 1: I've done all this training, I'm gonna do it anyway.
• 34:32
  Speaker 1: And he did right, and so there was no race.
• 34:35
  Speaker 1: It wasn't like there was like a big banner, you allowed music playing, a big medal to be handed out.
• 34:40
  Speaker 1: He just went out and did it anyway, just to say that he could right, and I had a team of people that supported him anyway, and that's pretty rad, so it is.
• 34:49
  Speaker 1: So keep doing hard things.
• 34:52
  Speaker 1: Don't let setbacks deter you from achieving what you want.
• 34:57
  Speaker 1: That's what everything that we talk about here at the Do Hard Things Nation is all about.
• 35:02
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so Awesome.
• 35:06
  Speaker 1: Well, angie.
• 35:08
  Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, it's time to crush the day.
• 35:10
  Speaker 1: It's time to go crush the day.
• 35:12
  Speaker 2: It's time to.
• 35:13
  Speaker 2: I've got some people on my mind today that I'm gonna try to get a smile out of, and I'm gonna go do it.
• 35:22
  Speaker 2: Just feed my brain full of information and smile on doing it.
• 35:31
  Speaker 1: Smile on what you're doing, you can complain, you can bemoan, but what does that offer you?
• 35:35
  Speaker 1: It doesn't do anything for you.
• 35:37
  Speaker 1: So that's right.
• 35:38
  Speaker 1: Have a sense of gratitude.
• 35:39
  Speaker 1: I love when you're because Angie, right now, if you're not aware, she's in a very difficult course right now and you're talking about that Like you know what.
• 35:46
  Speaker 1: There's a lot of information and you can bemoan it and complain about it, but you know what.
• 35:52
  Speaker 1: You have the opportunity to be there to advance your career, to learn something new, and yeah, and appreciate it and have gratitude for it anyway, right, yeah.
• 36:00
  Speaker 2: Honor the struggle.
• 36:01
  Speaker 2: That's right.
• 36:03
  Speaker 1: I'm honored it.
• 36:03
  Speaker 1: I'm honored it.
• 36:05
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a good thing, it's a good thing, all right.
• 36:10
  Speaker 1: All right.
• 36:11
  Speaker 1: Well, I quit for today, angie.
• 36:14
  Speaker 2: Go out and make somebody smile, don't forget, do it.
• 36:19
  Speaker 1: There you go, boom.
• 36:19
  Speaker 1: Keep doing hard things.
• 36:21
  Speaker 1: Hopefully we'll get this internet thing squared away.
• 36:24
  Speaker 1: But yeah, we appreciate everyone.
• 36:25
  Speaker 1: We'll talk about the next two A's next week.
• 36:28
  Speaker 1: We'll see you all in the next episode.