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Travel Troubles and Triumphs: Brittany Unveils Her Girls' Trip Nightmares and Planning Tips · Brunch with Brittany

• 0:13
  Brittany Gonzalez: what's up?
• 0:14
  Brittany Gonzalez: It is brunch with britny.
• 0:16
  Brittany Gonzalez: Welcome to my podcast.
• 0:18
  Brittany Gonzalez: I am so happy to be back.
• 0:20
  Brittany Gonzalez: Welcome back.
• 0:21
  Brittany Gonzalez: I hope you uh have something to drink.
• 0:23
  Brittany Gonzalez: Okay, I'm doing some rosé today and I was thinking, like you know what we need to talk about.
• 0:30
  Brittany Gonzalez: Let's talk about girls trips.
• 0:32
  Brittany Gonzalez: Okay, because I don't know if you have had the problem that I've had, but I think out of all of my girls trips, they've all gone terribly.
• 0:42
  Brittany Gonzalez: So I I'm like maybe we need to really visit this topic and figure it out.
• 0:47
  Brittany Gonzalez: Okay, because I don't understand what I'm doing wrong.
• 0:50
  Brittany Gonzalez: Maybe you can help me, but I've been through so many different friend groups with girls trips and so I looked up some like good tips on how to ensure you have a better girls trip where you remain friends after the trip, because that's the other thing.
• 1:06
  Brittany Gonzalez: For some reason, after every girls trip, you lose either one friend, you lose the whole crew, like nobody likes each other.
• 1:15
  Brittany Gonzalez: At the end of it, in the middle of it, so many things can go wrong and, like I said, I think I've been through every situation that could go wrong, so let's get into it All right.
• 1:26
  Brittany Gonzalez: So it says that some tips for planning a good girls trip is to pick a place with lots of activities that your group enjoys.
• 1:35
  Brittany Gonzalez: Okay, like it says, hiking, water sports that is not for me.
• 1:39
  Brittany Gonzalez: Okay, if the girl group wants to go somewhere like that, I'm not going.
• 1:43
  Brittany Gonzalez: It's not for me.
• 1:43
  Brittany Gonzalez: I know I'm going to sit that one out Like go, have fun, I support it, but I will not partake in it.
• 1:50
  Brittany Gonzalez: Shopping, you know, make sure everybody's on the same page, that they're going to be able to go shopping or they're going to enjoy window shopping.
• 1:58
  Brittany Gonzalez: Okay, because some of the girls come with no funds, which to me boggles my mind.
• 2:05
  Brittany Gonzalez: But everyone has, like that, one girl in the group that can't afford.
• 2:10
  Brittany Gonzalez: Now, I want to say can't afford.
• 2:11
  Brittany Gonzalez: She didn't plan properly to bring the funds that were needed to really enjoy the trip.
• 2:16
  Brittany Gonzalez: You know where she's trying to stay at the hotel and not spend any money.
• 2:19
  Brittany Gonzalez: You don't want to go with that girl.
• 2:21
  Brittany Gonzalez: You don't want to be that girl either.
• 2:23
  Brittany Gonzalez: You drag the group down.
• 2:24
  Brittany Gonzalez: It is horrible, it's like so annoying and everybody hates you on that trip.
• 2:29
  Brittany Gonzalez: Just know, if you are the broke one in the group going, still showing up like you paid for the ticket, you pitched in for the room, but other than that you don't got it.
• 2:38
  Brittany Gonzalez: You shouldn't have went, sis, you're ruining everybody's time.
• 2:42
  Brittany Gonzalez: Trust me, don't do it, you'll lose a friend.
• 2:44
  Brittany Gonzalez: Like that, nobody wants to be around that all right.
• 2:48
  Brittany Gonzalez: They say, be flexible with splitting up into smaller groups doing different things.
• 2:53
  Brittany Gonzalez: This one I always felt like if we're doing a girl strip, we're doing everything together like duh.
• 2:59
  Brittany Gonzalez: Why else did we choose to go together for with the girls you know, so that one I wouldn't like.
• 3:04
  Brittany Gonzalez: But if you're with a girl who doesn't like that, who's like totally okay with going somewhere on her own or splitting off from the group, right, like she sees a cute guy and she's like the wild one, so she goes missing, you know, and you're in a different city, and it's not like you're back home, somewhere local, where you're like she'll be fine.
• 3:23
  Brittany Gonzalez: No, we're in a different city, like you cannot just be running off with other people, but maybe there's a friend group that loves that.
• 3:30
  Brittany Gonzalez: That's like, hey, girl, we're doing whatever, wherever the wind takes us, like that's what I'm doing.
• 3:35
  Brittany Gonzalez: So do your thing, I'll text you, you know.
• 3:39
  Brittany Gonzalez: And and I think that's the other thing is that the girls don't do that.
• 3:41
  Brittany Gonzalez: They're not texting, they're't do that, they're not texting, they're not communicating that part.
• 3:45
  Brittany Gonzalez: They're not communicating, they're disappearing.
• 3:47
  Brittany Gonzalez: And then you're like where did Stacey go?
• 3:49
  Brittany Gonzalez: Like, answer your phone?
• 3:51
  Brittany Gonzalez: Her phone's dead, you know, and that's the time she chooses to disappear.
• 3:54
  Brittany Gonzalez: It's so annoying, so unsafe.
• 3:56
  Brittany Gonzalez: I don't like that.
• 3:57
  Brittany Gonzalez: I wouldn't feel comfortable doing that to someone.
• 4:00
  Brittany Gonzalez: So that's not for me, not for me, all right.
• 4:04
  Brittany Gonzalez: So they say don't overschedule, allow time for downtime and individual activities.
• 4:10
  Brittany Gonzalez: Again, that's not for me.
• 4:11
  Brittany Gonzalez: We're not doing individual stuff like, we're doing this stuff together, otherwise why are we here?
• 4:15
  Brittany Gonzalez: So that wouldn't work for me.
• 4:19
  Brittany Gonzalez: Plan meals, decide how you're going to eat out and if everyone has to help out with cooking.
• 4:24
  Brittany Gonzalez: I guess that's kind of like if you do a hotel versus an airbnb, because when you do the airbnb, like I remember one girls trip I went on and we did an airbnb.
• 4:35
  Brittany Gonzalez: It was somewhere in like fort lauderdale area, super chill side of town, was beautiful, had a pool and everything was relaxing.
• 4:45
  Brittany Gonzalez: There were like eight of us girls, maybe six somewhere around there, and we all got groceries.
• 4:51
  Brittany Gonzalez: And we had one girl that was like she liked to cook.
• 4:54
  Brittany Gonzalez: So we're like you're in charge, we'll help, we'll pitch in, we'll buy the groceries, but you are in charge.
• 4:58
  Brittany Gonzalez: So she did.
• 5:00
  Brittany Gonzalez: She was a Latina, so she cooked like a Spanish meal.
• 5:04
  Brittany Gonzalez: I don't remember what it was, but it was Spanish, so it requires some deep frying.
• 5:08
  Brittany Gonzalez: So tell me why.
• 5:10
  Brittany Gonzalez: This is the other thing.
• 5:11
  Brittany Gonzalez: Okay, so she cooks, right, and we all eat.
• 5:15
  Brittany Gonzalez: It was good.
• 5:15
  Brittany Gonzalez: Well, it was late night, so at the end of the night she goes by herself outside and she pours the hot grease out into the grass and she's trying to dispose of the grease.
• 5:27
  Brittany Gonzalez: Like if you've ever deep fried something, you know there's a lot.
• 5:28
  Brittany Gonzalez: You can't leave it behind at the Airbnb.
• 5:30
  Brittany Gonzalez: So she does that, right, and none of us know.
• 5:33
  Brittany Gonzalez: Again, she did this late at night, decided to do this on her own, so she was not the girl that the credit cards the Airbnb's credit card was attached to.
• 5:43
  Brittany Gonzalez: All right, it, it was attached to one girl, because you know how that works and then everybody gives the money, which is another whole.
• 5:49
  Brittany Gonzalez: It can be a whole nother episode but so she did that.
• 5:53
  Brittany Gonzalez: Tell me why.
• 5:54
  Brittany Gonzalez: The Airbnb, the owner, sends an email when we get back from the trip with a charge.
• 6:01
  Brittany Gonzalez: Okay, it was like a $300 charge for pouring out the oil into some fake.
• 6:07
  Brittany Gonzalez: It was fake grass.
• 6:08
  Brittany Gonzalez: We didn't know it was fake grass outside, but it was completely fake grass and she threw it out.
• 6:13
  Brittany Gonzalez: So obviously, like, where's it gonna go?
• 6:16
  Brittany Gonzalez: It's fake, it's burnt, like you could see it.
• 6:19
  Brittany Gonzalez: And then the funniest thing was it was all on video.
• 6:23
  Brittany Gonzalez: You know Airbnb, like they, they got their cameras out, security cameras.
• 6:27
  Brittany Gonzalez: So, yeah, they sent the video with it too.
• 6:30
  Brittany Gonzalez: Oh, it was so legit we couldn't even argue it Right, like there was no, we have to pay this.
• 6:34
  Brittany Gonzalez: So it goes on my girl's credit card and she is livid because she's like why would you do that?
• 6:40
  Brittany Gonzalez: What were you thinking?
• 6:41
  Brittany Gonzalez: I get both sides Okay, it happens, but the girl did end up paying her.
• 6:45
  Brittany Gonzalez: However, it could have went the other way, where the girl was like I'm not paying for that.
• 6:49
  Brittany Gonzalez: Cheers.
• 6:50
  Brittany Gonzalez: What's up everybody?
• 6:51
  Brittany Gonzalez: It's Brittany Gonzalez here and my Brunch with Brittany podcast is back.
• 6:56
  Brittany Gonzalez: Look out new episodes coming your way.
• 6:58
  Brittany Gonzalez: It is a girl's girl podcast and, fellas, you'll learn something too.
• 7:02
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• 7:12
  Brittany Gonzalez: Get ready, there's more coming, all right.
• 7:14
  Brittany Gonzalez: So it says set a budget.
• 7:16
  Brittany Gonzalez: I think that's number one.
• 7:17
  Brittany Gonzalez: Number one you should already set a budget.
• 7:19
  Brittany Gonzalez: Like what is this going to cost.
• 7:21
  Brittany Gonzalez: A lot of the girls want to go on trips and they're not really taking into account, like for me, I like to go eat, I like to eat good food.
• 7:28
  Brittany Gonzalez: I don't want to just eat a slice of pizza that's you know, uh, $6.99 somewhere.
• 7:34
  Brittany Gonzalez: And like I went on a girl's trip with a girl like that she didn't care where we ate, I did so.
• 7:40
  Brittany Gonzalez: It was like she was always trying to pick those kind of spots and I'm like we're out traveling.
• 7:44
  Brittany Gonzalez: That's not my thing, I'm not going to have a good time doing that, you know.
• 7:47
  Brittany Gonzalez: But in her mind she's like well, I'm on a budget, well, I didn't know that ahead of time, so I'm not going to budge for her budget.
• 7:54
  Brittany Gonzalez: So it was some discourse there Didn't end our friendship, but definitely made me rethink why we should have had that conversation to begin with.
• 8:07
  Brittany Gonzalez: You know you got to go with people that, with the girls that match your energy, that match your vibe Right.
• 8:10
  Brittany Gonzalez: Like I like, again, I like to eat, I like to, I don't care about that.
• 8:14
  Brittany Gonzalez: So if it's important to you, then you need to make sure that you both think it's important, because otherwise pick a different friend.
• 8:21
  Brittany Gonzalez: Oh, my goodness.
• 8:23
  Brittany Gonzalez: All right, consider creative activities.
• 8:26
  Brittany Gonzalez: Make sure that you both think it's important, because otherwise pick a different friend.
• 8:28
  Brittany Gonzalez: Oh my goodness.
• 8:29
  Brittany Gonzalez: All right, consider creative activities.
• 8:30
  Brittany Gonzalez: I like this one.
• 8:30
  Brittany Gonzalez: Like, try thrifting.
• 8:31
  Brittany Gonzalez: I have a girlfriend who I didn't know she thrifts, she can thrift.
• 8:34
  Brittany Gonzalez: When you have those conversations you can figure that out.
• 8:35
  Brittany Gonzalez: Like, oh, are we going to this city?
• 8:36
  Brittany Gonzalez: Okay, what do they have available there?
• 8:37
  Brittany Gonzalez: Now, that being said, there's activities that you can do.
• 8:41
  Brittany Gonzalez: Some of the girls may not mention that like oh, I'm not really into that.
• 8:45
  Brittany Gonzalez: They might go along with it.
• 8:47
  Brittany Gonzalez: Then you get there and they're like wishy-washy, don't want to book it.
• 8:51
  Brittany Gonzalez: You better book in advance.
• 8:52
  Brittany Gonzalez: Okay, if the girl does not book with you in advance, do not wait until you get there to the location to book that trip, because I promise you she's going to oversleep it, she's not going to show up, she's not, she's going to be like ah, whatever, I don't want to do it.
• 9:05
  Brittany Gonzalez: Meanwhile, the whole time you're like we said we were going to do this.
• 9:08
  Brittany Gonzalez: Don't disappoint yourself.
• 9:10
  Brittany Gonzalez: Like that, it will happen way more than you would like it.
• 9:13
  Brittany Gonzalez: To um, invite the right people.
• 9:16
  Brittany Gonzalez: Like I said, you got to have those conversations in the beginning, girl, because even if you get along right, like you're like I always have fun with this girl or this group, it's different when you go into a different city with that group.
• 9:28
  Brittany Gonzalez: You know again, everything changes the budget, the location, the safety of it, all you know, and some girls just don't care.
• 9:36
  Brittany Gonzalez: So you need to make sure that you're like no, this is important to me, that we stick together.
• 9:40
  Brittany Gonzalez: We came together, we leave together, things like that.
• 9:43
  Brittany Gonzalez: Uh, the group chat, okay.
• 9:45
  Brittany Gonzalez: So you definitely I think every girl girl trip does this Like we start a group chat and we talk about like this is what we're going to do, or you know we're, we're just all excited about it.
• 9:56
  Brittany Gonzalez: But with the group chat, you also need to be active in that group chat, because I've had you know where you, where there's someone who kind of takes control of it and it says, hey guys, I was thinking about this and they'll send the links right.
• 10:11
  Brittany Gonzalez: They'll say like we're going to go kayaking at night with you know, go in the dark kayaks.
• 10:16
  Brittany Gonzalez: And some of the group is like excited about, or nobody responds at all.
• 10:21
  Brittany Gonzalez: And then that person is feeling like I'm over here, planning, thinking, trying to interact with you girls, and is dry in the group chat.
• 10:28
  Brittany Gonzalez: No, you are that red flag.
• 10:31
  Brittany Gonzalez: You definitely don't want to go with those girls.
• 10:33
  Brittany Gonzalez: You don't want to go with those girls.
• 10:34
  Brittany Gonzalez: It is a sign that they are going to be disappointing you every step of the way.
• 10:40
  Brittany Gonzalez: Okay, like they're not committal.
• 10:42
  Brittany Gonzalez: They're not committing, so you don't want to deal with that.
• 10:46
  Brittany Gonzalez: That's a red flag.
• 10:47
  Brittany Gonzalez: Don't even go on that trip, I promise you.
• 10:48
  Brittany Gonzalez: I had to learn that one the hard way and I hated that.
• 10:52
  Brittany Gonzalez: Okay, um, have a general dress code.
• 10:55
  Brittany Gonzalez: Oh, this is a good one.
• 10:56
  Brittany Gonzalez: Okay, so I remember I went on a girl's trip and I like to wear outfits, go take pictures, get dressed up.
• 11:04
  Brittany Gonzalez: That's my thing, I love that and I have.
• 11:08
  Brittany Gonzalez: Maybe I shouldn't say it's like me, right?
• 11:10
  Brittany Gonzalez: I should be saying like, oh, this other girl that you know, I know, did this.
• 11:13
  Brittany Gonzalez: But I had a girlfriend love her, love how she dresses.
• 11:17
  Brittany Gonzalez: You know she dresses up when she goes out.
• 11:19
  Brittany Gonzalez: But for some reason on this trip she she's decided, oh, I'm just going to wear jeans and a bun, jeans and a bun, and I was so not expecting that.
• 11:30
  Brittany Gonzalez: Okay, I'm dressed to the nines, in heels too, walking around the city and she's like in sneakers, messy bun, hair's not done, you know, jacket I just didn't, was not expecting that.
• 11:42
  Brittany Gonzalez: I was like, no wait, but you dress up.
• 11:44
  Brittany Gonzalez: This is what I'm saying.
• 11:45
  Brittany Gonzalez: You don't know until you're there in the moment you're assuming like, but she dresses nice, so why would she do that on a trip?
• 11:52
  Brittany Gonzalez: I don't know you, you can't, you can't assume for people.
• 11:57
  Brittany Gonzalez: So plan those outfits together.
• 12:00
  Brittany Gonzalez: An idea like girl day one we're to go more comfy but cute.
• 12:04
  Brittany Gonzalez: Okay, hair done, buns we're not doing that.
• 12:08
  Brittany Gonzalez: You know, don't Match my energy, or don't you know?
• 12:11
  Brittany Gonzalez: And some girls are fine with it.
• 12:12
  Brittany Gonzalez: Some girls will be like I'll be dressed up and I don't care what you look like.
• 12:14
  Brittany Gonzalez: That's cool too.
• 12:16
  Brittany Gonzalez: Just know what you're getting yourself into when it comes to that, because you, if you, if that's important to you, it's going to be a problem.
• 12:24
  Brittany Gonzalez: And it was for me, because I was like girl in my videos, if I was panning, I was panning the place and like she'd be there, I'd be like I can't use that content now Cause she's not going to feel good about it.
• 12:37
  Brittany Gonzalez: So now I can't use that.
• 12:38
  Brittany Gonzalez: So that was one of my many experiences of learning that, the hard way of those things, and I just want us to have better girls trips and if you are really good at them, like, what am I doing wrong other than not communicating well enough?
• 12:54
  Brittany Gonzalez: Because clearly it's, it's just been a disaster for me bad experiences.
• 12:59
  Brittany Gonzalez: I think I've met one girl that was like I always have the best time on girls trips and I'm like no, I'm ready to like, fight at the end of it or leave that friendship.
• 13:08
  Brittany Gonzalez: So I got a lot of work to do but I need help and I don't want other people to go through it.
• 13:16
  Brittany Gonzalez: If you are planning a girls trip, start that group chat.
• 13:19
  Brittany Gonzalez: Be very clear about the vibe, the energy, the budget, what you want to do and anything.
• 13:25
  Brittany Gonzalez: Like I said, when you want to book, book ahead, do not wait until you get to that city to try and book.
• 13:30
  Brittany Gonzalez: It's not gonna happen.
• 13:31
  Brittany Gonzalez: Okay, it's just not.
• 13:32
  Brittany Gonzalez: It's probably not.
• 13:33
  Brittany Gonzalez: Nine times out of ten it's not gonna happen.
• 13:35
  Brittany Gonzalez: So those are my tips, my advice for girls trips.
• 13:40
  Brittany Gonzalez: But, um, you can always feel free leave in the comments stuff that went right, stuff that went wrong, something I didn't cover, let me know, this is the brunch with britney podcast.
• 13:49
  Brittany Gonzalez: It's a girl's girl podcast and I just want us to, you know, be better.
• 13:53
  Brittany Gonzalez: So that is it.
• 13:56
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• 13:59
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• 14:00
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• 14:09
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• 14:11
  Brittany Gonzalez: I'm Brittany Gonzalez, and that's Brunch with Brittany.