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You've Got Decisions: My Man Wants a 3Some but I’m the Jealous Type · Decisions, Decisions

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Speaker 3: If this is not the question of the decade, Hi,
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Speaker 3: this is the question of the decade.
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Speaker 1: I need some help.
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Speaker 3: My man keeps pressing the topic of having a threesome. Yikes,
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Speaker 3: he hasn't ever had one.
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Speaker 1: On the other hand, I have.
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Speaker 3: I find it easier to have one when my feelings
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Speaker 3: aren't attached to someone. But I can't get my mind
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Speaker 3: off how much it would bother me seeing him be
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Speaker 3: intimate with someone else?
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Speaker 1: Well the red flag, honey?
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Speaker 3: Or what if he enjoys her more than me? Am
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Speaker 3: I wrong for my way of thinking? Is that just
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Speaker 3: me being insecure? I've explained this to him and he
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Speaker 3: swears up and down I won't have anything to worry about,
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Speaker 3: But it still don't feel right.
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Speaker 1: Help? No, no, what end? Don't do it? I know
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Speaker 1: the end. Don't do it?
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Speaker 2: Like, look, that was a short letter, and I know
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Speaker 2: I yelled to y'all for having long letters, but like,
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Speaker 2: how could you even be considering doing something that thinking
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Speaker 2: about makes you feel crazy or jealous or insecure, or
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Speaker 2: brings up any kind of feelings in your body that
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Speaker 2: are just like oh fuck, no.
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Speaker 1: Hell no. I would be curious to know.
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Speaker 3: You said you've had threesomes before. I'm curious to know
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Speaker 3: if any of those threesomes were with anyone that you
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Speaker 3: were attached to, and this is where you've came up
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Speaker 3: with this conclusion, or if you've just already shot it
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Speaker 3: down as Oh, I'm you know, gonna be insecure and
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Speaker 3: I'm gonna think about it if he enjoys this other girl
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Speaker 3: more than me?
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Speaker 1: I mean, I think there is other threesomes.
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Speaker 2: Sometimes, you know, people can't have three sums of people
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Speaker 2: they are like love with connected to like it just
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Speaker 2: be too much.
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Speaker 1: I don't know, but that's what I'm saying.
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Speaker 3: I wonder if this conclusion came from her actually experiencing
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Speaker 3: this in the past, or she just thinks she can't
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Speaker 3: do it. So to give another layer of advice, m M.
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Speaker 3: If you've done threesoms before, if it's something you've actually
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Speaker 3: enjoyed and are into, your fear is just how weird
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Speaker 3: you'll feel because you care about your boyfriend.
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Speaker 1: Hear me out.
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Speaker 3: This is something I've done with my ex. It's something
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Speaker 3: I've talked about with boyfriend number two. Like, there's always
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Speaker 3: be openness to try something new, and if either partner
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Speaker 3: does not feel good, does not feel right, we'd never
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Speaker 3: do it again. But we leave the floor open for
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Speaker 3: insecurities to welcome themselves for jealousy, especially going to sex clubs, right,
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Speaker 3: you know how, And we've talked about when you go
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Speaker 3: to sex clubs, when you bring people in the bedroom,
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Speaker 3: you think.
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Speaker 1: Of this list of dues and dopes.
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Speaker 3: Here's what you can't do, here's what you can do.
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Speaker 3: Here's my boundaries. Here's what I don't want to happen.
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Speaker 3: But sometimes you don't know what you'll like until you
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Speaker 3: actually do it. Sometimes you don't know how you'll feel
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Speaker 3: until you actually see it. Sometimes things that you thought
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Speaker 3: may bother you may not bother you at all, and
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Speaker 3: vice versa.
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Speaker 1: So like one thing that I've always done is a.
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Speaker 3: Check in afterwards, mind you, I am taking boyfriend number
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Speaker 3: one Tihito with me for Labor Day weekend and we
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Speaker 3: are is that checking off all the things Labor Day weekend,
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Speaker 3: first week of September?
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Speaker 1: Okay, so we're ticking off different things we want to try.
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Speaker 3: I think both niggas that I was fucking with last
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Speaker 3: year gonna be there this year, So I think I
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Speaker 3: might want to run it back on like.
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Speaker 1: One of them. And I don't know if it's gonna
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Speaker 1: be with him.
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Speaker 3: I don't know if we're gonna do with girls, But
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Speaker 3: like we're open into doing all the things, but making
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Speaker 3: sure like there's a daily check.
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Speaker 2: In now while you're at heto, Yes, but I talked
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Speaker 2: about your current boundaries for being a heto or more
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Speaker 2: so just except you're excited about like what.
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Speaker 1: It is not really boundaries for real, for real like.
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Speaker 3: I need to know all the girls, Like, if you're
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Speaker 3: gonna go off with a girl, let me know. Because
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Speaker 3: when I was at heto Honestly, I'll be honest with.
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Speaker 1: You, the girls were so aggressive. I didn't really want
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Speaker 1: to deal with any girls. So like a part of me.
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Speaker 3: Doesn't know, Like, wow, Paul even want to be interested
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Speaker 3: in having a threesome with another girl. I want to
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Speaker 3: do one with two guys. That's bucket list. He knows
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Speaker 3: that that's one of my fantasies.
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Speaker 1: Can he is?
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Speaker 2: He is? He interested in being the guy? He's open
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Speaker 2: for that happening, him being the guy that you have
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Speaker 2: the threesome with?
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Speaker 1: Why do you give which guy? Which guy? No?
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Speaker 2: No, no, I'm saying you said your fantasy is two guys?
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Speaker 1: Yes? Is he down to be one of the guys?
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Speaker 1: My man is like, yes, he would have to be
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Speaker 1: one of the guys. Maybe he's talk about her own fantasy.
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Speaker 2: It's not us, you're the yes in his one room,
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Speaker 2: Like so he's down there the guy. What if he
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Speaker 2: wasn't one of the guys.
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Speaker 1: But like that's my thing. I do I know if
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Speaker 1: he'll enjoy it or not?
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Speaker 3: Like I know he's ran trains in the past, and
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Speaker 3: like we've talked about I mean, clearly, I've been with
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Speaker 3: two guys too, like I've shared that on the pod,
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Speaker 3: but haven't done it with a person I'm with.
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Speaker 1: Okay, but so that's our team that scenario.
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Speaker 2: I wonder if he has some boundaries of like, yo,
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Speaker 2: I don't want you in Enniga face too long, missionary
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Speaker 2: and you.
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Speaker 1: Know what I mean, I don't know.
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Speaker 3: Well, so that's where I think we just have to
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Speaker 3: talk about it, like and I have to make sure
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Speaker 3: that whoever we also do it with like this is why,
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Speaker 3: Like we've had conversations about a possible threesome with another guy,
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Speaker 3: but I want I want to find I want it
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Speaker 3: to be a nigga I already fucked or find.
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Speaker 1: Shit and you find somebody.
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Speaker 3: His response to that is, I don't want to feel
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Speaker 3: like I'm not in control because that person is already
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Speaker 3: gonna know how and what to do with your body
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Speaker 3: and make me feel like I don't.
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Speaker 1: I don't run the bedroom.
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Speaker 3: So I'm like, okay, cool, and Hedo will do it
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Speaker 3: with the guy that I didn't have sex with last year.
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Speaker 3: I'm hoping he, like he do, does lock in because
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Speaker 3: that's the one that I showed you that we were
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Speaker 3: like boyfriend and girlfriend the whole time.
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Speaker 2: Oh a picture with you know, I actually have a
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Speaker 2: because you were saying there's not really any boundaries.
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Speaker 1: People sometimes ask us that.
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Speaker 2: And my man posed a question when we had like
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Speaker 2: our check in we do monthly check ins about anything,
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Speaker 2: and he was like, you know what we've never talked about.
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Speaker 2: And I'm like, but he's like, how many people is
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Speaker 2: too much? Like?
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Speaker 1: Think about it?
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Speaker 2: Is having sex with three new people in a month
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Speaker 2: too much? Four, five, six, seven? And so then I'm
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Speaker 2: sitting here like, nigga, how many you won't god? And
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Speaker 2: he's like, nah, but we've just never talked about it.
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Speaker 2: That to me is actually an interesting question for a heato.
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Speaker 3: I mean, I know that both of the guys that
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Speaker 3: I dealt with last year, what about when you ready
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Speaker 3: to go to bid? They both I think one hit seven,
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Speaker 3: one hit nine in a weekend?
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Speaker 1: Bro?
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Speaker 2: Okay, So what about boyfriend number one?
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Speaker 3: I I think I would want to cap it at three?
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Speaker 1: Wow? Only three? Okay? You need to tell him that
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Speaker 1: the whole weekend, bro.
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Speaker 3: He's getting it Friday leaving Sunday, and I'm trying to
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Speaker 3: fuck him with a nigga.
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Speaker 1: Three is plenty plus me? Are you kidding me? No?
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Speaker 1: I actually think three is Oh no that I think
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Speaker 1: that's plenty.
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Speaker 2: Oh no, no, no, I'm saying it is. But I'm just like, oh,
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Speaker 2: it sounds small after you said seven nine, that's what
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Speaker 2: But that's what them single niggas was doing. You see,
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Speaker 2: you don't really no boundaries. This wole just said you
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Speaker 2: ain't gonna be fucking out of most.
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Speaker 1: No, no, no, no, no no, But I don't. I don't
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Speaker 1: think he would. I don't think he would want to.
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Speaker 1: You could think what you won't bitch. Oh, I'm gonna
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Speaker 1: ask me record. Isn't that a good question? How many?
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Speaker 2: So?
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Speaker 1: Wait?
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Speaker 3: What was y'all's answers with each other? What did you
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Speaker 3: say was too much in a month? If I'm saying
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Speaker 3: three is too much in a weekend and you're like, bitch,
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Speaker 3: that's low, how many bitches it's too much in a month.
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Speaker 1: For your nigga? Fuck? I can't remember what I said.
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Speaker 1: I think I just started laughing. But your answer now,
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Speaker 1: like if you have to think about it by too well,
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Speaker 1: right now, he hasn't even really been hit on one week.
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Speaker 1: It don't matter what's the number done, I don't well, no,
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Speaker 1: it does matter that it's text right now.
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Speaker 2: We've been in a bit of a monogamous bubble, so
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Speaker 2: I think if it's just sprouted to five, that'd be
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Speaker 2: a racist. If we were seeing other people on a
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Speaker 2: regular that's a little bit different, you know what I'm saying.
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Speaker 1: So I feel like two would probably be a max.
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Speaker 2: For me today, Okay, because we haven't been doing much,
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Speaker 2: you know, I think we've been in an engagement bubble,
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Speaker 2: a vak bubble.
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Speaker 1: Like it's just a little different. He's okay, yeah, But.
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Speaker 3: If that nigga say he wanted four or five, I'd
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Speaker 3: be like, why are we getting married?
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Speaker 1: I don't know, I just start tripping.
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Speaker 3: Okay, But I will say for the for the for
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Speaker 3: the listener writing like who wrote in you're not wrong
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Speaker 3: for thinking this way? However, the what if he enjoys
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Speaker 3: her more than me, Bob, That's.
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Speaker 1: What I'm saying.
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Speaker 3: It's the like, girl, we know what he's going to
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Speaker 3: Because it's new, you have to expect you will.
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Speaker 2: It's new as exciting. Fucking someone new is more exciting.
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Speaker 1: It doesn't mean like yeah, but.
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Speaker 3: It doesn't mean he's gonna like her more. It's not
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Speaker 3: gonna mean he's not gonna like her joy more. He's
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Speaker 3: gonna be more excited maybe to fuck her. Yeah, And
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Speaker 3: but no, think of it this way. He's gonna be
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Speaker 3: more excited to fuck her with you.
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Speaker 1: That's the other thing.
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Speaker 3: But like, like this might also be someone that maybe
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Speaker 3: he wouldn't have fucked or even looked at had it
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Speaker 3: not been for you setting this up.
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Speaker 1: I assume too, you're setting it up.
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Speaker 3: I would maybe because a nigga gonna fuck a chicken sandwich.
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Speaker 3: I say, you just make the threesome with someone you're
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Speaker 3: interested in and that he's like, that's who you want.
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Speaker 3: I guess, like make her a little bit uglier than you.
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Speaker 3: That is the best advice. Bro, You're not gonna be
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Speaker 3: sitting here worried about it if you noted this bitch
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Speaker 3: sometime they.
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Speaker 1: Throw it back, not the ugly.
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Speaker 2: I'm just saying, my most just okay person that we've
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Speaker 2: had together.
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Speaker 1: She was up there.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, but maybe for the odds or chances, maybe just
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Speaker 3: pick somebody that's not really his type. He's gonna do
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Speaker 3: the three something because he wont a threesome that's gonna
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Speaker 3: be choosers.
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Speaker 2: I'm I'm, I agree like and then honestly, I just
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Speaker 2: don't find it. There's much room to feel comfortable when
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Speaker 2: your brain's already there.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, Ray, gotta get there. I'm the type of hell
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Speaker 1: yes person, you know what I'm saying.
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Speaker 2: So it's like, if I felt a little bit of
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Speaker 2: a pushback, it would make me feel icky.
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Speaker 1: I think so too.
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Speaker 3: The fact that you've explained your insecurities and he swears
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Speaker 3: up and down that you won't have to.
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Speaker 1: Worry about it.
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Speaker 3: I think that you guys coming up with ways to
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Speaker 3: check in with each other during this to affirm you
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Speaker 3: that he's enjoying it, to check in and make sure
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Speaker 3: you're good, making sure that you have the full stop
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Speaker 3: right to stop the three whenever.
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Speaker 1: You don't feel good.
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Speaker 3: I think making sure that he's okay with you having
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Speaker 3: those levels of power and that level of communication during
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Speaker 3: the threesome will also help you go into it.
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Speaker 1: Like, Okay, let me just enjoy myself.
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Speaker 3: And as soon as I don't feel comfortable, I know
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Speaker 3: my man isn't gonna be mad at me for ending it.
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Speaker 2: Because the man knows they're in two different places. But
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Speaker 2: I'm telling you know, and Mandy's saying push through, bitch.
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Speaker 3: I'm but I'm saying push through because I feel like
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Speaker 3: you don't know until you know. And I think that
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Speaker 3: going to sex clubs having different experiences where I thought
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Speaker 3: I might not like it, but then it ended up
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Speaker 3: being okay, Like like I had to tell boyfriend number two, like, yet,
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Speaker 3: you brought that white bitch to fuck us, and I
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Speaker 3: didn't want to fuck white girl, but her pussy tastes
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Speaker 3: good and she was kind of fun. So like, I'm
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Speaker 3: not super against another white girl, but I'd prefer not.
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Speaker 1: To have one.
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Speaker 3: But I would have never chose a white girl for us,
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Speaker 3: but he made me experience a white bitch.
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Speaker 1: You're not selling this. But it wasn't that bad.
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Speaker 3: It wasn't that bad as not no, no, like it
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Speaker 3: was good, like I was in I was eating her
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Speaker 3: for a while and this was no. We all jumped
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Speaker 3: in the shower. Not I think about it every time
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Speaker 3: we leave a club. Bandy all get in my shower.
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Speaker 3: We had a lot of three sols where we bring
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Speaker 3: the bitch from outside and then we all get in
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Speaker 3: the shower.
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Speaker 1: Ooh no, we got a routine with the bitches.
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Speaker 3: Okay, we have a routine too, is Uno, wait you
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Speaker 3: do Uno? Though after a night out.
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Speaker 2: Doesn't matter, It doesn't matter, It doesn't matter even if
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Speaker 2: they know we're about to fuck, Like if it's a
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Speaker 2: repeat offender, it's always oh no, really, it's almost ritualistic,
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Speaker 2: and I should hit up Mattel because it's just like
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Speaker 2: maybe it's me and his thing of having fun, being like,
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Speaker 2: let's see who go win, and then it'd be fun
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Speaker 2: because whoever wins, you get to like gang up on
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Speaker 2: the other person again there, Like, I don't know, it's cute.
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Speaker 3: Okay, So I guess we are split here, listener, we
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Speaker 3: are split with Weezy thinks.
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Speaker 1: If it's not a hell yes, don't do it, I
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Speaker 1: feel like, yeah.
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Speaker 3: You're teetering, And so because you're teetering, I think that
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Speaker 3: there's nothing.
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Speaker 1: Wrong with going in there and seeing, actually, if.
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Speaker 3: You can have a threesome with someone you like, maybe
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Speaker 3: you you.
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Speaker 2: Maybe maybe you really are growing or attaching your previous
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Speaker 2: threesomes to like people you didn't care about, and so
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Speaker 2: now this person is more special.
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Speaker 1: That's the other thing.
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Speaker 3: I wonder if those threesomes she was brought in like,
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Speaker 3: I wonder if her only experiences being a guest star,
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Speaker 3: being a guest star, you know what I mean. Yeah,
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Speaker 3: and so she's never had to worry about these feelings otherwise.
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Speaker 1: Like that's what it's giving.
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Speaker 3: And that's where I'm just like, maybe try navigating it
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Speaker 3: with your partner, but only if your previous threesomes were fun,
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Speaker 3: like if you enjoyed threesomes, if you enjoyed being with women. Clearly,
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Speaker 3: I'm not telling you to like force yourself to be
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Speaker 3: gay for your partner right now, but I'm just curious
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Speaker 3: if you've only guest starred, if this is in your mind.
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Speaker 2: Guest starring also could be something that makes you feel like,
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Speaker 2: I don't know, like one of my homegirls froms she
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Speaker 2: can't guest start because it makes her feel like she's
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Speaker 2: not important. She's like, oh, I'm just there with these people.
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Speaker 2: I have this experience. It's kind of like letting a
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Speaker 2: nigga fuck me and throw me in a cab, which
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Speaker 2: I don't know if I would compare guest starring too,
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Speaker 2: but I can understand feeling that way.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, tricky, Oh you know what I mean? Like, what
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Speaker 1: if she had that experience and she's like.
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Speaker 3: Well, I've decided that I think I'm gonna throw like
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Speaker 3: as a host, Tahito, the host get to do like
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Speaker 3: different sorts of like workshops and things. And I think
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Speaker 3: I think I'm going to do the workshop with navigating
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Speaker 3: a third, either being a unicorn, picking up a third
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Speaker 3: as a couple, shooting your shot at a couple, and
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Speaker 3: doing some like role plays and tips.
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Speaker 1: You about to call on him like right, babe.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, No, May've gonna be there with me, and I'm
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Speaker 3: gonna sit there and see, you know how people are
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Speaker 3: out here navigating.
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Speaker 1: And maybe guy of the trade.
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Speaker 3: It is in the book if you haven't read it yet,
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Speaker 3: do Unicorn or There's Unicorns in Mexico or whatever the
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Speaker 3: full title is of that chapter. It was me joining
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Speaker 3: in as a third willingly but respecting both parties. And
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Speaker 3: I think that that's a thing that I saw last
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Speaker 3: year that I think absolutely needs to be done better.
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Speaker 3: Bitches was waiting for me and Crystal to leave the
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Speaker 3: niggas we was with to approach the niggas.
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Speaker 1: That's so embarrassing. That shit is not how you go
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Speaker 1: about it.
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Speaker 3: And when my nigga, my real nigga, is with me,
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Speaker 3: not the nigga I just met on the resort.
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Speaker 1: But when my nigga with me, oh, bitch, you not
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Speaker 1: even gonna get that, dick. If you just have any pride.
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Speaker 3: You gotta learn how to talk to the woman first.
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Speaker 1: That is your entry to her. Man.
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Speaker 3: Do not go straight to the man because you don't
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Speaker 3: know what type of little booger bitch or what type
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Speaker 3: of mood a bitches in and bitch, you will get dragged.
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Speaker 3: I'm luckily not gonna drag no bitches, but I will
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Speaker 3: be checking y'all who don't know how to act at
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Speaker 3: the heat of nizzle?
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Speaker 2: Okay, so how can they act? How can they approach?
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Speaker 2: Just so they know if they're listening.
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Speaker 3: First off, you come to me, and first off you
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Speaker 3: could compliment me, say, hey, I've been watching you while
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Speaker 3: you've been here. I really think your partner is so attractive.
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Speaker 3: Are y'all playing? Are y'all into having any enjoy? Can
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Speaker 3: I eat dinner with y'all?
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Speaker 1: Can I you know?
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Speaker 3: There's so many things you know? Can can we plan
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Speaker 3: to go to the nudepoole tonight together? Like all of
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Speaker 3: those things can happen before?
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Speaker 1: You really just want to suck my nigga, dick? Can
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Speaker 1: I know the Nudepool tonight together New Pool tonight.
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Speaker 3: Hey, can I join y'all for dinner? I'd love to
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Speaker 3: get to know y'all better, like and prefacing it as
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Speaker 3: a y'all because cool, you want my nigga, bit chy'all
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Speaker 3: might not want to fuck you, but I'll make sure
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Speaker 3: if my nigga's interested.
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Speaker 1: You know, y'all could maybe have your own little thing.
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Speaker 3: I'm open like that, but the entry way is through
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Speaker 3: the female as another female.
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Speaker 1: And Harry y'all navigating solo play with you with men.
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Speaker 3: I'm not interested in that, okay, So there won't be
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Speaker 3: that he diged me down good enough.
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Speaker 1: I don't need solo play with a nigga, but you
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Speaker 1: want a second nigga, So that's why.
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Speaker 3: I want to take a nigga. But I don't want
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Speaker 3: solo with a nigga, okay. God no, there's no solo
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Speaker 3: play with me in it, okay.
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Speaker 1: So it will be interesting because the ex that I
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Speaker 1: talked about here, I met it. He though he'll be there.
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Speaker 3: And the one that I ain't have no bleep, yeah,
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Speaker 3: the one, the one that I also just feel like
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Speaker 3: was just really Nili Willy out there with the dick
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Speaker 3: so it like turned me off, which is crazy because
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Speaker 3: you're gonna be seeing Willy Neelly his dick again.
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Speaker 1: Have y'all spoken though? Here we spoken.
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Speaker 3: He was a little annoyed with me that I didn't
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Speaker 3: invite him to New Orleans because he's from New Orleans,
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Speaker 3: and he was like, wait, you went to New Orleans.
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Speaker 1: And didn't tell me.
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Speaker 3: I wouldn't name him for what, just to be with
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Speaker 3: me because I went to the city he's from and
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Speaker 3: he would have met me. And I was like, well,
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Speaker 3: first off, I was going there for work. Secondly, my
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Speaker 3: boyfriend met me, so there was no way for me
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Speaker 3: to invite you.
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Speaker 1: And then he hit me with the like, you know, like,
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Speaker 1: if you ain't.
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Speaker 3: Trying to see me no more, you could just say
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Speaker 3: that because he has been trying to see me.
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Speaker 1: And I'm like, Migall will pop up in every city
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Speaker 1: expect me.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, not a really interested babe. Anyways, We hope that
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Speaker 3: this helped. I would love an update on this. I
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Speaker 3: would love to know if you decide to go through
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Speaker 3: with it or if you don't, and if you do,
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Speaker 3: definitely want to know how it went.
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Speaker 1: And if you don't, would love to know where you landed.
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Speaker 3: With your decision for that and what that conversation looked
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Speaker 3: like again, be as detailed as you can. We're loving
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Speaker 3: the updates. Thank you guys so much for tuning in again.
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Speaker 2: We love y'all next week bye,