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Morning Routine · The Missing Secret Podcast

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Kelly Hatfield: We believe life is precious. This is it. We've
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got one shot at this. It's on us to live life to the fullest to
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maximize what we've been given and play the game of life at our
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full potential.
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John Mitchell: Are you living up to your potential? Are you
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frustrated that despite your best intentions, you just can't
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seem to make the changes needed to take things to the next
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level. So you can impact your career relationships and health.
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Kelly Hatfield: If this is hitting home, you're in the
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right place. Our mission is to open the door to the exceptional
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life by showing you how to play the game of life at a higher
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level. So you're playing at your full potential rather than at a
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fraction as most people do. We'll share the one thing that
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once we learned it, our lives were transformed. And once you
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learn it, watch what happens. Welcome to think it be the
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podcast. I'm Kelly Hatfield.
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John Mitchell: Hey. And I'm John Michell. So the topic today is
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your morning routine determines your success in life. Kelly,
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would you buy that?
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Kelly Hatfield: Amen to that I buy every I buy it? Two times
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over.
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John Mitchell: Right, right. Well, you know, I tell you this
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course it's it transformed both our lives, right. Learning the
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12 minute they technique that that is our respective morning
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routine. But, you know, one thing I see that really is
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enlightening to me today is and this, my eyes first got open to
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this about three or four years ago. And I told you this story,
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but I go to I think it was Cleveland for a sort of a
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mastermind thing over three days. And and Jay Abraham, who
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is Tony Robbins mentor, was the featured speaker. And as part of
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the thing I was on the hot seat, you know, I'm on the hot seat,
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Jay Abraham was, you know, sort of the Master of Ceremonies and
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so he's quizzing me. And there's, there's 100 people
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there. You know, they're all entrepreneurs. They're all you
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know, probably making 100 200,000 a year typically
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something like that a lot, a lot of solopreneur partners. And so,
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in the middle of my hotseat thing, I go, well, listen, let
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me ask y'all a question. And I go, how many people have do
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anything to impact their mindset each morning? Well, only one in
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five hands goes up. So 20% and, and I'm like, wow, this is
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interesting, because, you know, I just spent three days with the
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people. And I thought they were all pretty damn sharp. And, and
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I'm like, wow, what don't they get? Now I I understand, my life
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got transformed and increased my income by 25 times from a
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morning routine. So sure, I get it. But I see that. And this is
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so friggin true. Life is a state of mind. And when you wake up
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each morning, you're innately wired for survival, which causes
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you to be fear based and reactive. Well, you have
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absolutely got to fix it. And the only way to fix it is a
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morning routine. That through that repetition, because again,
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the subconscious mind is only influenced with repetition. It's
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that continual repetition every morning that overrides that
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survival orientation and wires you for success. But I am blown
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away by how people don't get that their morning routine at
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the end of the day, determines your success in life. I know you
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buy this.
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Kelly Hatfield: Oh, yeah. 100% agree. And I think John, now
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more than ever. Yeah, I think the the need to influence our
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mindset. You know, and framing and starting your day, you know,
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setting the plate for your day, by having a technique. And a
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morning routine that sets you up for success is critical with all
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of the things that we have how fast things are moving right
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now. Everything's coming out you it puts you into this proactive
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mode you've got if you're not taking in the right things. So
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you've got too much of the wrong influences coming into your
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brain. It impacts things stress impacts things drastically. So
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when you're just like, you know waking up, you know and go kind
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of full, you know, bouncing through the day like a ping
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pong, you know, a ball within a Ping Pong machine, you know,
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that's what my mind how I see it right now on earth can you
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expect to, you know, be efficient, you know, have the
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right mindset to achieve the things that you want to achieve,
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and be happy, you know, and so anyway, but we're 100% on the
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same page. And I think more so now than ever, as wonderful as
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technology is. It also, you know, has the reverse side to
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it. And I think that now, so more than ever, it's critical
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that you are, you've got a morning routine, and a mindset
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practice that sets you up for success. You know,
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John Mitchell: I last week, I had a group of 10 entrepreneurs
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over to my house and so I was explaining, think it be it to
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him. And about midway through the process, I asked everybody,
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I go, just close your eyes for a minute. Just close your eyes.
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And think about your morning routine, whatever that is. And,
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and, you know, so everybody closes her eyes, and they're
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thinking about their, their morning routine. And I'm having
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them think about is are you doing anything to impact your
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your mindset? And you know, largely, the morning routine,
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quote unquote, is I get up, I have breakfast, I brush my
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teeth. I'm out the door. Yeah, that's the morning routine. It's
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it has nothing to do with mindset. And, and then I go,
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okay, okay, now that you got your mindset Are you got your
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morning routine routine in your head, and you're thinking about
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it. And this is also after I explained that we're innately
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wired for survival, which is causing you to be innately wired
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to be fear based and reactive. I go, imagine, if you had a
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morning routine that took 12 minutes a day, where you fed
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this a synced articulation of your life to yourself each day,
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you know exactly the person you wanted to be exactly what you
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want to accomplish, and precisely how you're going to
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achieve your clearly defined goals. What if you had a morning
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routine? Like that? And that was what you're feeding every day?
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Do you think it would change your life? And, you know, is
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interesting, cuz I don't know, I guess out of the 10 people, you
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know, eight of them said, Boy, I want to learn this thing could
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be it. And I if I had to guess that was the pivotal, pivotal
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moment when they said, Oh, I'm now I'm connecting the dots that
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my success in life ultimately comes down to impacting my
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mindset. Because at the end of the day, life is a state of
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mind.
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Kelly Hatfield: Absolutely. No. And I mean, what a difference
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maker, you know, we talk about this all the time, I've said it
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a million times, probably in different settings, about, you
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know, this morning routine, and being very clear. I mean, you're
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starting your day, and we talk about the reticular activating
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system being the filter for your life, basically, right? We're
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informing it, you know, you are giving it its operation
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instructions for the day about how you're going to navigate and
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you know, how you're going to show up and it makes all the
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difference in the world. Otherwise, you know, one thing
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and I've talked about this, too, running on that proverbial
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treadmill numb, kind of sleepwalking through life,
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Groundhog's Day, rinse and repeat whatever it is, you're
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not experiencing life, part of this morning routine, too. You
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know, where you're setting yourself up for the day? We've
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only got one go around at this right? Do you want to actually
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experience life? Or do you want to be in the pinball machine?
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Around? Or do you want to squeeze every bit you can out of
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each moment at each interaction that you have with people show
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up in a different way so that you're experiencing life
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different and the people in your life are experiencing different
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as a result of how you're showing up? And this this
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morning routine helps you do that?
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John Mitchell: Why? Why don't you think people see this more
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clearly?
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Kelly Hatfield: You know, I think there are, I think just
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probably a closed, you know, mindset. I think people there
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are people who from a self awareness standpoint, right?
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That that's a piece of the puzzle that's kind of missing,
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do they have that closed mindset, meaning they don't have
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a growth mindset? Right. So, you know, I think there are just
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some people on that, you know, and I think to listen, it all
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has to do with how you're wired. We're talking about your
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subconscious, and right and rewiring that some people's self
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subconscious can be, I think so strong with the stories they've
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told themselves like, oh, I tried that before, it didn't
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work for me. Okay, why? Did you try it consistently over a
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period of time? Or did you try it once and the magic didn't
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happen? You know, you know, right away. And so you just
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stopped doing it? You know, I think that people get hardwired
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into this. Oh, I've tried that closed mindset. Oh, I've tried
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that before won't work for me, or oh, that sounds woowoo? Or,
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yeah, so they just have that closed mindset. I think that's
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one of the things what do you think?
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John Mitchell: Well, you know, I tell you, you know, and I know
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you, because you had to put up with me saying it a couple of
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years ago, you know, I'd go people, what the hell do you not
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get your you're wired for survival. Which is means you're
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not wired for success. You know, if you're fear based and
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reactive, then that's the opposite of how you need to be
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if you want to be successful. So, yeah, let's just get that
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out there. So if it wouldn't it make sense to take the st
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articulation of your life and feed it to yourself every more
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every morning. And then of course, it would influence your
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daily actions, and then those improved daily actions, then
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we'd create the life you want. I'm like, people, this thing
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doesn't get any simpler than that. Come on, let's get it.
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And, you know, and then over the last couple of years, I think
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I've been become more accepting of people. And I go, Well, you
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know, everybody's, everybody's different. You know, everybody,
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everybody is simply a function of, of their genetics, what has
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come into their consciousness to this point, and whether they
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have testosterone or estrogen flowing through their veins,
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those are the three factors that, that create each of us.
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And over the last year or so I'm going, you know, okay, I see why
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people don't get it. They don't have the same genetics I have. I
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don't have the they don't have the same life experiences I've
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had at but I don't know, lately, I'm sort of going back a little
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too, like I was I'm like, come on. Yes, I get all that. But
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come on, you gotta have a basic level of intelligence. This is
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so freakin simple, it hurts. And, and, and, but because I see
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that what what we've really created is a life operating
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system for smart people. And, and I hate to say this, but if
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you're not smart, you probably don't get it. You know. That
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terrible design.
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Kelly Hatfield: I love it's fun just tells it like it is. It's
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like listen, if you're stupid, stop listening right now.
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John Mitchell: You know, you cannot fix stupid, I've cried
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and you cannot fix stupid.
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Kelly Hatfield: And I think, you know, with this idea of this
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morning routine, and, you know, some things may be coming up,
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you know, as you're thinking about this, you'll start to feel
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that resistance, like your brain is designed to protect you. It's
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designed to keep you in that little comfort zone and
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everything. And so, you know, the excuses start to fly well,
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I'm my morning is already packed, I don't have time for
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you know, 12 minutes a day, well, you have time to scroll up
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a storm at different different points of your day. You know,
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your, your, you know, when I ask people with their morning
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routine is and they're sharing it, it sounds like chaos, you
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know, they're running around there. And it's like, you know,
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you can buy time back by, this is the best 12 minutes of your
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day that you'll spend, and you will win back hours of time by,
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you know, implementing this practice and doing it on a
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consistent basis. And, anyway,
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John Mitchell: well, I you know, I see that, that a lot of people
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there if they, if they do anything, they're going well,
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you know, I do meditation or I do affirmations or I, I exercise
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and, and those things are better than nothing. But and you know,
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I again, I'm I meditate a little each morning, but you know, that
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quiets the mind, the what we do, focuses the mind, that's what
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our 12 minute a day technique does. And I think a lot of
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people struggle with deep meditation And, but why people
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don't see this? More. I'm not exactly sure who I guess I am
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sure. Because we live in such a shallow thinking culture, we
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have so many things coming at us that, that it hasn't resonated
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with people that the morning routine is what determines your
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success in life. And I think that if you had to condense all
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that I've learned in my life, it's that that's your morning
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routine determines your success in life. And the simpler you and
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I can make it for people to see that. Probably the more
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powerful, what we have will be, don't you think?
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Kelly Hatfield: Oh, 100%? You know, when we're thinking too,
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about why people don't? I don't know about you, John, but nobody
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taught me how to think. Right, right. You know what I mean, I
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didn't learn how my brain worked in school and what I needed to
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do to, like, we didn't talk about morning routines, or
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routine or mindset, for that matter, like, none of those
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things, at least in my generation, I'm, you know, we're
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an we're part of the youth specifically are part of the
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educational system now at the University of Texas, you know,
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and it's just being integrated in, you know, is it something
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that you learned in high school? Or were a teacher says, Hey,
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here's how your brain works, you know, and here's how to thrive
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and here's how to think and get it. Nobody taught me this? Oh,
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no, I didn't learn this till you taught it to me, you know, and I
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was, you know, in just coming on 40. To turn 40 At that time, so
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John Mitchell: yeah, well, and, you know, that's a great point,
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you know, as, as I, you know, what I teach at the University
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of Texas, which is no, no different than what we teach
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entrepreneurs, is purely leadership itself. And just to
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your point, nobody teaches you leadership of self. And, you
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know, to me, you know, leadership itself is starts by
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having the attitude that I can accomplish anything I set my
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mind to, and then it evolves to, you know, personal
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responsibility and never being a victim, always owning your
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results. And if you don't like the results, change the
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behaviors that are creating the results. And but this whole idea
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of leadership of, of self is, is something that really is rarely
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rarely ever taught. But once you go down this rabbit hole, which
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you know, now, as I mentioned, you know, all the athletes at
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the University of Texas or are being required to take my
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course, which is really pretty fun. And, but nobody is really
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taught them formally, leadership itself. Now with the athletes.
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The coaches have taught them leadership itself, but they
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haven't called IT leadership of self. In fact, the coaches have
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set the foundation, and all I do is take it that next level up
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and show it, show them how it applies to be successful in the
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real world. You know, they're teaching them how to be
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successful at their sport. And so it's a bit it's an easy
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transition to now take it maybe at a little more scientific
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level and a lot more a little more formalized and show them
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how to apply it in the real world. But again, leadership
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itself ultimately comes down to your morning routine. percent.
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Yeah. And so that's the power of it. So I hope we got through to
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everybody today and let him
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Kelly Hatfield: hear people people
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John Mitchell: know, probably Apple podcast is gonna go you
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know, those two, you don't want to listen to that, that think
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it'd be at the podcast. Those two are just abusing their
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audience. We've got to get them off the air. Okay, until next
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time, we'll see you.
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Kelly Hatfield: Thanks for listening today. If you've had
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your own aha moment from today's episode, send me or John an
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email. We'd love to share your epiphany with our audience. So
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email us at Kelly@thinkitbeit.com or
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John@thinkitbeit.com. In the meantime, live the exceptional
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life