Latest / Finding God at Work / 7: Soul as Relater
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- 0:05(Transcribed by TurboScribe.ai. Go Unlimited to remove this message.) Hi, I'm Chris.
- 0:07This is Finding God at Work.
- 0:14Just a reminder that Finding God at Work
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- 0:27Our current series is wholehearted, becoming healthier Christians
- 0:31at work.
- 0:33I want you to think about a time
- 0:35when you've interacted with someone, and it seems
- 0:38like they don't really care about you, but
- 0:41they have to pretend they care about you
- 0:43to be professional in their job.
- 0:46Me and Katie, when we were engaged, we
- 0:48were really young, we were still in college,
- 0:50we didn't have any credit history, and we
- 0:52knew that once we got married, we were
- 0:53going to rent an apartment together, so it
- 0:55might be helpful to have some credit history
- 0:56for a credit check.
- 0:58So we went to a fifth-third branch
- 1:00and met with a banker there, and I
- 1:03forget his name, but he was very polite,
- 1:05very professional, and he explained to us this
- 1:07concept of a secured credit card, where your
- 1:09credit limit is connected to what's in your
- 1:11checking account, so the bank knows in advance
- 1:13that you can pay it off fully, but
- 1:16you can still start building credit using that
- 1:18secured credit card.
- 1:19So we're like, great, that's a great way
- 1:20to start building credit, let's do that.
- 1:21We want to sign up for one, and
- 1:23then when we said we wanted to sign
- 1:25up for one, it pivoted, and he just
- 1:27really wanted us to sign up for two.
- 1:29He was like, look, someday when you buy
- 1:31a house, people are going to want to
- 1:33see multiple lines of credit, so you should
- 1:35really have multiple lines of credit as you
- 1:38get started here, and it just didn't make
- 1:40sense to us.
- 1:40We were like, we're not trying to buy
- 1:42a house anytime soon, we're just starting our
- 1:44credit history, we only need one, and we
- 1:45like, we stood our ground, we're like, we
- 1:47just want one, but clearly he was he
- 1:48was disappointed.
- 1:49At the time, it just felt awkward to
- 1:50me, I didn't know what was going on.
- 1:52In hindsight, I realized he probably earned a
- 1:54commission for every credit line he sold, and
- 1:57so if we had signed up for two,
- 1:58he would have made more money, and so
- 2:00I don't think it was really a disinterested
- 2:02desire for our well-being to build credit
- 2:05with multiple lines of credit.
- 2:06I think he was chasing that commission for
- 2:08himself.
- 2:09I have a friend who calls this, oh,
- 2:10I smell commission breath, and it never feels
- 2:13good, right, for somebody to interact with us
- 2:16in a way that seems like our best
- 2:18interests are not what they're after, they're after
- 2:20their own interests.
- 2:21They're not loving us in a disinterested way,
- 2:24they're trying to work their own angle, and
- 2:26this is just normal human relationships in the
- 2:29workplace.
- 2:30People pursue their own interests, people try to
- 2:32manipulate each other, people get what they can
- 2:35get from each other.
- 2:36That's the norm, that's how human beings normally
- 2:38relate, and as followers of Jesus, we want
- 2:41to experience and offer something different.
- 2:44We want to figure out how can we
- 2:46actually love other people, and in this series,
- 2:50as we talk about the different aspects of
- 2:51the person with which we can love God,
- 2:54loving God with all our heart and with
- 2:56all our soul and with all our mind
- 2:59and with all our strength, we want to
- 3:01love God with that capacity that we have
- 3:04to relate to God and to other human
- 3:08beings.
- 3:08And I think as we dig into Scripture,
- 3:09we'll see that it's the life that Jesus
- 3:12gives us that redeems and restores our capacity
- 3:17to relate to God and to relate to
- 3:19other people in the workplace with disinterested love
- 3:23for them.
- 3:25So for the next three episodes, including this
- 3:27one, I'm going to use the word soul
- 3:29to describe different aspects of the person, but
- 3:32again, that Hebrew word nefesh, which is sometimes
- 3:35translated soul, that includes your body.
- 3:38So I don't mean to use the word
- 3:39soul as a way of saying, oh, your
- 3:41body isn't involved in this process, because as
- 3:43we talk about it, your body is definitely
- 3:45involved in all these processes.
- 3:47But I think that in the English language,
- 3:48the word soul has a poetic relevance that's
- 3:51helpful, and it connects to certain words that
- 3:53are used in the Bible as well, because
- 3:55it conveys this idea that there's a hidden
- 3:57aspect to us that's more than our body.
- 4:00It's not visible in the same way that
- 4:02our bodies is.
- 4:02It's not fully encompassed simply by biology.
- 4:06There's more to us and more to it.
- 4:08And the three aspects of it that we're
- 4:10going to be looking at in these episodes
- 4:12are our soul as relater, our soul as
- 4:16integrator, and our soul as receiver.
- 4:19We are meant to relate, integrate, and receive
- 4:23as human beings.
- 4:25That's part of what it means to be
- 4:26human, is to be able to relate to
- 4:28God and others, to be integrated as a
- 4:30whole being, and to receive from God.
- 4:33So we'll dig into all of that in
- 4:35future episodes.
- 4:37So our soul as relater, our relational soul,
- 4:40where do we see this in Scripture?
- 4:42One of the places we see it is
- 4:44in Genesis 2.
- 4:45Now, if you've been tracking with the faith
- 4:47and work conversation, you know Genesis 2 is
- 4:49an important passage for those ideas because of
- 4:53verse 15, which says, the Lord God took
- 4:55the man and put him in the garden
- 4:57of Eden to work it and care for
- 4:59it.
- 5:00That the first thing God does for humanity
- 5:01is give us a job, give us work
- 5:03to do.
- 5:03That's part of our life with God.
- 5:05But an even more foundational verse comes a
- 5:07few verses earlier.
- 5:09This is in verse seven.
- 5:11Then the Lord God formed a man from
- 5:13the dust of the ground and breathed into
- 5:16his nostrils the breath of life, and the
- 5:18man became a living being.
- 5:22So we see here before God can give
- 5:23us a job to do, God has to
- 5:25make us, God creates us, God gives us
- 5:27life.
- 5:28And that life is not just biological life,
- 5:31it's also relational life.
- 5:33We see this in the fact that God
- 5:35has been interacting and talking with humanity as
- 5:38the chapter goes on.
- 5:40So in verse 16, and the Lord God
- 5:42commanded the man, you are free to eat
- 5:44from any tree in the garden, but you
- 5:46must not eat from the tree of the
- 5:47knowledge of good and evil, for when you
- 5:49eat of it, you will certainly die.
- 5:52The Lord God said, it is not good
- 5:54for the man to be alone, I will
- 5:55make a helper suitable for him.
- 5:58So just in those couple of verses, we
- 6:00see God is having a conversation with the
- 6:02man.
- 6:03He's talking about the man's life in the
- 6:06garden.
- 6:06He's giving this warning about the capacity of
- 6:08the man to die.
- 6:10If he departs from this command, he's giving
- 6:12about the tree of life.
- 6:13And then he's saying, it's not good for
- 6:15the man to be alone.
- 6:16The man has a capacity to relate and
- 6:18need someone to relate to.
- 6:20And so then God says, okay, I will
- 6:21make a helper.
- 6:23Now that word helper can get really loaded.
- 6:25Sometimes it's been misinterpreted.
- 6:26Don't have time to dig into that fully
- 6:28here in this podcast episode, but the main
- 6:31use of that word helper in the Bible
- 6:32is to describe God himself.
- 6:34So when it says that God is going
- 6:36to make a helper for the man, the
- 6:38woman helps the man the same way that
- 6:39God helps us.
- 6:40So it's not like a subjugation thing.
- 6:42It's part of a vision of disinterested love
- 6:45in community with one another.
- 6:48This is right at the beginning of human
- 6:49life.
- 6:50God creates us, he gives us life, he
- 6:52breathes his life into us, and then he
- 6:55gives us a capacity to relate to him
- 6:56in conversation with him and then to relate
- 6:59to each other.
- 7:01But as you know, as the story goes
- 7:02on, that capacity to relate to God and
- 7:05to relate to other people is disrupted.
- 7:07It's disrupted by sin.
- 7:09And one of the metaphors that the Bible
- 7:11uses for this is death.
- 7:13Just like God said, you will surely die
- 7:15if you die.
- 7:22What does that mean?
- 7:22What does it mean that it's a spiritual
- 7:24death?
- 7:24It's not like their bodies immediately die.
- 7:26Again, this is why the language of soul
- 7:27can be helpful.
- 7:29It's a spiritual death or a soulful death
- 7:31because their capacity to relate to God is
- 7:34now deeply compromised.
- 7:37Their capacity to relate to each other is
- 7:39now deeply compromised.
- 7:41And then in the New Testament, after Jesus'
- 7:43death and resurrection, the disciples of Jesus are
- 7:46reflecting on this idea of death and life,
- 7:48and they realize in the death and resurrection
- 7:50of Jesus, God has redeemed that which was
- 7:53compromised.
- 7:53God has redeemed that ruptured relationship to restore
- 7:57and bring reconciliation.
- 7:59It's just one of many passages that talks
- 8:01about this.
- 8:02Romans chapter 6, starting in verse 8, talks
- 8:04about how as we enter into God's life
- 8:08given through Christ, we become interactive with God
- 8:12again.
- 8:14So Paul says, now if we died with
- 8:16Christ, we believe that we will also live
- 8:19with him.
- 8:20For we know that since Christ was raised
- 8:22from the dead, he cannot die again.
- 8:24Death no longer has mastery over him.
- 8:26The death he died, he died to sin
- 8:29once for all.
- 8:30But the life he lives, he lives to
- 8:33God.
- 8:34In the same way, count yourselves dead to
- 8:36sin, but alive to God in Christ Jesus.
- 8:41So you see what Paul is doing?
- 8:43He's saying Jesus' death and resurrection reverses this
- 8:45rupture.
- 8:46Rather than being dead to God and alive
- 8:49to sin, now, because of Jesus' death, we
- 8:51die with him, and we're dead to sin,
- 8:54and then we rise with him, and we're
- 8:55alive to God.
- 8:56We can be restored in that interactive relationship
- 8:59with God.
- 9:01As usual, Dallas Willard says it best.
- 9:04He kind of gives this idea of what
- 9:05does it mean to have this specific kind
- 9:07of life, this relational capacity, and how does
- 9:11God restore it?
- 9:13This is going to be a longer quote.
- 9:14This is from Dallas' book, Hearing God, which
- 9:17was originally published with the title In Search
- 9:19of Guidance.
- 9:20I'm reading from that older edition of it.
- 9:23And he talks about a cabbage and a
- 9:24kitten and then us to talk about different
- 9:26kinds of life, and I just find it
- 9:27incredibly helpful.
- 9:29Life in its various levels and types is
- 9:32power to act and respond in specific kinds
- 9:35of relations.
- 9:37A cabbage has certain powers of action and
- 9:39response and a corresponding level of life.
- 9:42There is a big difference between a cabbage
- 9:43that is alive and one that is dead,
- 9:45though the dead one still exists.
- 9:47The same is true of a kitten.
- 9:49But even though alive, a cabbage has no
- 9:51response to a ball of string, which is
- 9:53precisely owing to the kind of life that
- 9:55is in it.
- 9:56Though alive as a cabbage, it is dead
- 9:58to the realm of play.
- 9:59Similarly, a kitten playing with the string has
- 10:01no response to numbers and poetry, and in
- 10:04this sense is dead to the realms of
- 10:05arithmetic and literature.
- 10:07The live cabbage, though dead to one realm,
- 10:09that of play, is yet alive in another,
- 10:12that of the soil and the sun and
- 10:13the rain, and the same can be said
- 10:15of the kitten.
- 10:17Human beings were once alive to God.
- 10:20They were created to be responsive to and
- 10:22interactive with Him.
- 10:24Adam and Eve lived in a conversational relationship,
- 10:27daily renewed, with their Creator.
- 10:30Their mistrust and disobedience toward God cut them
- 10:33off from the realm of the Spirit.
- 10:35Thus they became dead in relation to it,
- 10:38much as the kitten is dead to arithmetic.
- 10:40As God said, in the day that you
- 10:42eat thereof, you will certainly die.
- 10:45And they did.
- 10:46Biologically, they continued to live, of course, but
- 10:49they ceased to be responsive and interactive in
- 10:51relation to God's kingly cosmic rule.
- 10:54It was necessary for God to confer an
- 10:56additional level of life on them and their
- 10:59children through a birth from above, in order
- 11:02for them to once again live unto God,
- 11:05to be able to respond toward and act
- 11:08within the realm of the Spirit.
- 11:12Isn't that beautiful?
- 11:14Like, we don't want to be a cabbage.
- 11:15We don't want to be dead even to
- 11:17something like string.
- 11:18But we also don't want to be a
- 11:19kitten.
- 11:19We don't want to be dead to literature
- 11:21and poetry.
- 11:22We are human beings.
- 11:23We were created to be alive to God
- 11:25Himself and to one another.
- 11:28That's what God restores when we receive what
- 11:30Dallas calls an additional birth, when we are
- 11:33born again or born from above through faith
- 11:36in Jesus Christ and through the waters of
- 11:38baptism.
- 11:39That's what Paul's getting at as well in
- 11:41Romans chapter 5.
- 11:42Now, if we died with Christ, we believe
- 11:44that we will also live with Him.
- 11:48We're back into that realm of interaction and
- 11:51love.
- 11:51But it's not just interaction.
- 11:54It's not just interaction, because obviously, people can
- 11:56interact with each other in all sorts of
- 11:58terrible ways.
- 11:59What God is restoring is our capacity to
- 12:02interact with Him in a way that lets
- 12:04us interact with other people out of disinterested
- 12:07love.
- 12:09God is curing our commission breath.
- 12:11And of course, it's not just commissions.
- 12:13It's the fact that whenever we relate to
- 12:15another human being, we are always tempted to
- 12:17relate to that person as an object to
- 12:20use rather than a person to love.
- 12:23We're always tempted to have that attitude of
- 12:25what's in it for me.
- 12:26So if it's a client and we're a
- 12:28salesperson, it's, I gotta get the sale.
- 12:30I don't really care about them as a
- 12:31person.
- 12:31I care about getting the sale.
- 12:32If it's a coworker, it's, I care about
- 12:34getting this project done.
- 12:35I really care about them as a person.
- 12:36I care about how we have to get
- 12:37this work done together so I can get
- 12:39my paycheck.
- 12:39And so on.
- 12:40It's just so easy to approach other people
- 12:42as means to an end rather than an
- 12:44end in themselves.
- 12:46But when our life with Christ restores our
- 12:48capacity to relate to God and to relate
- 12:50to other people, this changes.
- 12:53And I love how Dietrich Bonhoeffer describes this
- 12:55in his book, Life Together.
- 12:57He's talking about how that restoration with God
- 13:00influences our interactions with each other as Christians.
- 13:05So Bonhoeffer writes, a Christian comes to others
- 13:08only through Jesus Christ.
- 13:10Among men, there is strife.
- 13:12He is our peace, says Paul of Jesus
- 13:14Christ.
- 13:15Without Christ, there is discord between God and
- 13:17man and between man and man.
- 13:20Christ became the mediator and made peace with
- 13:22God and among men.
- 13:25Without Christ, we should not know God.
- 13:27We could not call upon him nor come
- 13:29to him.
- 13:30But without Christ, we also would not know
- 13:32our brother, nor could we come to him.
- 13:35The way is blocked by our own ego.
- 13:38Christ opened up the way to God and
- 13:40to our brother.
- 13:42In another passage in the same book, Bonhoeffer
- 13:45talks about Jesus Christ standing between two people.
- 13:48That we don't relate to that person directly,
- 13:51we relate to them through Jesus.
- 13:53That restoration of life with God is the
- 13:56context in which we have restoration of life
- 13:58with them.
- 14:00So now, what does this mean for our
- 14:01relationships in the workplace?
- 14:03The context that Bonhoeffer is speaking to, and
- 14:05the context that Paul is speaking to as
- 14:07well, is of Christians, people who share this
- 14:10redemption in Jesus Christ.
- 14:12So if you have co-workers or clients
- 14:14or others who are Christians who are redeemed,
- 14:18who have placed their faith in Jesus Christ,
- 14:20who have been baptized into the community of
- 14:22faith, there is a special union you have
- 14:25with those people, regardless of how well you
- 14:27know them or not.
- 14:29You are united with them through Jesus Christ
- 14:32in a hidden way that's deeply true.
- 14:35And it's not something you have to manufacture
- 14:37or realize, it's something you can participate in.
- 14:41And so I would say that the way
- 14:42to participate in it, in work relationships, is
- 14:46to appeal to it when necessary.
- 14:49So if you get into a bad conflict
- 14:50with a co-worker and you say something
- 14:51you shouldn't have, you should not only as
- 14:53a good co-worker humble yourself and apologize.
- 14:56You should also, as a sister or brother
- 14:57in Christ, humble yourself and ask their forgiveness
- 15:00as a brother or sister in Christ in
- 15:02the name of Jesus, in the character of
- 15:04Jesus, and receive that forgiveness.
- 15:06And to know that Christ is the one
- 15:08who ultimately can reconcile the two of you.
- 15:12Now sometimes it doesn't work out that neatly
- 15:14entitledly.
- 15:15As we've talked about in a recent episode,
- 15:16sometimes we're not able to always realize that
- 15:18reconciliation in the way we would hope, and
- 15:20we have to trust that love covers a
- 15:22multitude of sins.
- 15:23But this also raises the question, well what
- 15:25about people who aren't Christians at all, right?
- 15:26Like what about my Hindu co-worker or
- 15:28my atheist co-worker or my like kind
- 15:31of quasi-Christian co-worker who doesn't really
- 15:32care that much about their faith as such,
- 15:34but it's more of a cultural thing.
- 15:36What about those relationships?
- 15:37I would say there isn't the same fullness
- 15:40of reconciliation as a deep spiritual reality that
- 15:43has already been accomplished through Christ for those
- 15:45people, although there always remains the potential for
- 15:47that.
- 15:48Every human being can come into union with
- 15:50Christ.
- 15:51They have that potential, and so we can
- 15:53always have that openness to see what God
- 15:55might do to bring somebody into union with
- 15:57himself and then also with us.
- 16:00But one way to think about it is
- 16:01we can still relate to them through Jesus
- 16:05Christ, so to speak.
- 16:06So that image of Christ standing between two
- 16:09brothers or sisters in Christ can also be
- 16:11Christ standing between us and that other person,
- 16:14even if they're not reconciled to God through
- 16:16Christ, because our capacity to love that other
- 16:19person has been restored through Christ.
- 16:21We look at them through Christ.
- 16:23We look at them as someone who has
- 16:25potential for glorious life in Christ.
- 16:28We look at them as somebody who deserves
- 16:31deep love and compassion and understanding in every
- 16:34moment.
- 16:35What this restoration of life allows us to
- 16:37do is to love people disinterestedly, to seek
- 16:40their well-being regardless of what's in it
- 16:43for us.
- 16:45When I worked at the mortgage company, we
- 16:46had a loan officer who was very EQ
- 16:48smart, very sociable, excellent conversationalist, but behind the
- 16:54scenes you could tell if people weren't a
- 16:56source of money for him, you didn't really
- 16:57care about them, and just goes like, oh,
- 16:59you hate that, right?
- 17:00Like you want people who really care about
- 17:02other people.
- 17:02Well, even if you are in sales, again,
- 17:05when you've been redeemed by Jesus Christ, when
- 17:06your capacity to relate to God and others
- 17:08has been restored, you can pursue the sale
- 17:12with a deep regard for the other person
- 17:15as a human being and care more about
- 17:19their well-being than about getting the sale.
- 17:22Now, what does that require?
- 17:24It requires confidence that if you don't get
- 17:26the sale, you will be okay.
- 17:29It requires confidence that if you don't use
- 17:31manipulation, if you don't use dishonesty, if you
- 17:33don't use hard pressure tactics, that God still
- 17:36has your back, that God will take care
- 17:39of you.
- 17:40And then that frees you to not use
- 17:42those kind of tactics that are commissioned, breath
- 17:44stinky, and instead to genuinely seek the other
- 17:47person's best interest in whatever way you can,
- 17:50including selling them something that could really help
- 17:52them, because if you're selling something that's a
- 17:54genuine product or genuine service that meets real
- 17:57needs, then that often in a sales relationship
- 17:59is the best way.
- 18:00You can seek the other person's interest to
- 18:01say like, hey, how many of these do
- 18:02you need?
- 18:03How can I help?
- 18:03But you always do that with the assumption
- 18:05that it's the other person who deeply matters,
- 18:07regardless of whether the sale goes through or
- 18:09not, not just as a posture of pretending
- 18:11that, but as a deep part of how
- 18:13you regard that other person.
- 18:15Just a simple example of this.
- 18:17My brother works out of Walgreens.
- 18:18He's worked at Walgreens for several years.
- 18:20Somebody came in recently looking for nose clips.
- 18:24And my brother was like, oh, you mean
- 18:25like the nose clips for snoring?
- 18:26And they're like, no, no, no, not the
- 18:27ones to keep your nose open, the ones
- 18:28to keep your nose closed, the ones for
- 18:29swimming.
- 18:30And he like looked in the catalog and
- 18:32he's like, we don't have those, but you
- 18:33know, Walmart does.
- 18:35And he sent the person over to Walmart.
- 18:36Really simple example.
- 18:37But my brother in that moment was seeking
- 18:39the well-being of the other person.
- 18:41He wasn't just trying to get the sale
- 18:43done for Walgreens.
- 18:44He was trying to get that person what
- 18:45they needed, even though the business went somewhere
- 18:47else.
- 18:47We should always have that attitude.
- 18:49How can I do what's right for the
- 18:51other person?
- 18:52And of course, sales is just one aspect
- 18:54of all our lives in the workplace.
- 18:56We have a chance to interact with other
- 18:58people dozens of times every day, usually.
- 19:00And in every interaction, because of how God
- 19:03has restored us, we can seek the other
- 19:05person's well-being with disinterested love for them.
- 19:11Lord Jesus, thank you that you do restore
- 19:13our soul, that you bring us back into
- 19:17life through the power of your resurrection, that
- 19:19you give us a capacity to interact with
- 19:21God and with other people in deep, genuine
- 19:24love.
- 19:26We ask that you would do that for
- 19:27us, that we would feel your patience, your
- 19:29gentleness, your compassion for other people as we
- 19:33go about our work day, that we would
- 19:34seek their good.
- 19:36Do your work in us as we do
- 19:37our work with you.
- 19:39Amen.
- 19:44Thanks for listening.
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