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Season 3 - Episode 17 - It’s not about having it all nailed down · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  Today I want to tell you something about the fact that we
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  have got to stop the pattern of waiting until we have it all
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  nailed down to begin the process of building.
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  So I am the biggest committer. That's why I'm using the words
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  we right, like I am the biggest committer of struggling with all
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  the characters on my bus. Fact, I'd like to put some of
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  them in a straitjacket back there right now because I'm in
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  the process of planning the farm for the year.
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  Like ordering seeds, ordering chicks, getting everything that
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  I need, deciding am I growing some stuff and starting it
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  inside? Am I putting stuff outside?
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  Am I going to get some things that are already started from
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  the organic herb farm? Like what am I going to, what am
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  I doing? And one of my most just
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  consistent struggles that I have with myself is to constantly
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  argue about, well, I don't have it in my head clear yet, so
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  therefore I have to keep contemplating it because my
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  certainty girl freaks out and she says, well unless we have it
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  completely laid out in our head then we can't go forward.
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  And she and I are in a constant battle about things like this.
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  I had somebody come out to help me.
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  One of my biggest struggles out here is always irrigation
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  watering things. So I said OK, I've got to I've
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  got to handle it this year because last year it was just so
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  time consuming hours and hours of just watering thing.
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  It's just too consuming. So I've got to get somebody to
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  come out and do irrigation. So first thing that comes up in
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  my head her, well, do you, you don't know exactly what you're
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  going to do with the garden, so you can't talk to the irrigation
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  mania. And I start a spiral of stopping
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  myself of moving forward because I'm trying to figure out and
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  have it all nailed before I actually have the conversation.
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  I was like, no, we're not doing that.
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  Thank you for sharing. I thanked her for her certainty
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  driven comments in my head and I said no, we're not doing that.
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  Maybe he has ideas that he can bring to the table that will
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  help me. So sure enough, call him.
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  He comes out such a great conversation and he completely
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  changed the trajectory of what I was going to do because of his
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  idea of how we could do the watering.
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  It was profoundly different than what I thought.
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  And I was, I was shocked. I said OK, so now this changes
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  things because now I can go back to saying, oh, I can separate
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  out the herbs into these containers and the containers
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  can still get watered if he's doing the irrigation this way.
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  And before you know it, I have a solid vision.
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  And it didn't come from me, It came from somebody else because
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  he's an expert in his area. So do you see how this can get
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  so stuck in our heads? Just by us staying in our own
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  little vortex on our own little bus, listening to our own little
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  emotions and our own little anxieties and all these little
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  things showing up, Our thoughts and emotions are driving us
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  crazy and not allowing us to take in thoughts from other
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  people which we know. We actually want somebody to
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  listen to us. If we're on a team, we would
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  want someone to listen to us. We'd say, well, please take in
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  my thoughts because I have something I can contribute to.
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  I watched this man as he was here and I was talking to him
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  and I got so excited about what he was saying.
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  I watched him get excited about it because he felt like I was
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  valuing him, which I was very much.
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  And all of a sudden everything started to click and he was
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  happy and I was happy. And I realized I'm contributing
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  as much to him as he's contributing to me because he
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  was so like, oh, wow, well, I could do this and I could help
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  his. And he figured out a way to help
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  me get water over to the chicken so I don't have to schlep hoses
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  everywhere. I mean, it was just, it was the
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  greatest connection. And it happened so organically
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  because I actually stopped saying to myself, well, I have
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  to have this whole puzzle laid out in my head before I actually
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  talk to somebody. And it put me right back.
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  It kicked me good, hard right in my ass.
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  So that I would say, OK, there you go again another time that
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  the universe is providing you with evidence that whenever you
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  do that it doesn't work, you have to take in other
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  information. You are not, do not have all the
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  answers. I am not the Oracle when it
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  comes to all things on the farm. I am very much a learner and I
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  always tell myself if my identity is that of a learner,
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  then a learner actually has to learn.
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  But you can't stay frozen in the process and say I'm going to not
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  move. I'm going to sit here like a
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  donkey until I have all the answers.
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  So hopefully this will help you. Don't stay stuck my friends.
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  You don't need to focus on that. You have it nailed.
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  Just know what you need. Start the process.
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  Even if it's teeny weeny steps. Do it.
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  I promise you'll be much happier.
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  All right, my friends. I will see you tomorrow.
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  I hope you have a blessed day. Bye.