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How Do You Bring Up The Conversation of Prenups · Earn Your Leisure

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  Speaker 2: FDIC Financial topic pre num mandatory, How do you bring up?
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  Speaker 2: How do you bring up the conversation of a prenup?
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  Speaker 2: Bringing up a pre nup conversation is almost like.
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  Speaker 3: It ain't the hardest you I do everything back.
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  Speaker 2: It's like it's like asking somebody if they have a
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  Speaker 2: STD Nobody wants to. It's an uncomfortable conversation and most
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  Speaker 2: of the time you're gonna.
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  Speaker 3: I like the hard question.
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  Speaker 2: You You're just gonna say, fuck it, roll the dice
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  Speaker 2: and don't say looks. Listen, guys, y'all, don't say because
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  Speaker 2: condom rates have gone down drastically, like it's almost non existent,
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  Speaker 2: non existent, right, yeah, I mean we have the stats.
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  Speaker 2: They give the number. They gave us the numbers. They
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  Speaker 2: gave us the numbers. So put on condoms heavy heavy,
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  Speaker 2: put some boy on the late tech, the late texts,
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  Speaker 2: late text and shambles, y'all thought those going fell apart.
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  Speaker 4: Boy, I ain't seen a dream with a condom, and
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  Speaker 4: it's wild in fifteen years for real, that is a
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  Speaker 4: puls But I would I would see it when you
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  Speaker 4: wash there.
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  Speaker 2: You go with your like, I ain't see a dude
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  Speaker 2: with a condom. I was hoping you to say, on no,
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  Speaker 3: That would that would have been this season.
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  Speaker 2: It ain't been, Yo.
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  Speaker 3: I was hoping. I'm like, yo, Nah, he.
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  Speaker 2: Ain't gonna go there, he ain't gonna go there. In
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  Speaker 2: the while that you tried to clean it, you tried
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  Speaker 2: to clean it real quick.
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  Speaker 3: Damn. I've been in a free ghost though, damn. Oh man.
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  Speaker 3: But no.
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  Speaker 2: So bringing up the breaking up the conversation of a
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  Speaker 2: pre nup. Right, it's a very because everybody says like,
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  Speaker 2: you know, yeah, I want a prenup.
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  Speaker 3: I don't want to prenup.
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  Speaker 2: Very few people have prenups, which means that you're not
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  Speaker 2: even thinking about the conversation. You're not going through it
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  Speaker 2: because some people will say like it takes the love
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  Speaker 2: out of it, right, like if we madly love and
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  Speaker 2: it's like, hey, look we need to have this conversation.
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  Speaker 2: I need you to sign this contract. You know this
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  Speaker 2: is you know my lawyer. You know, look over it.
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  Speaker 2: See you comfortable with this?
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  Speaker 3: All the tough conversations you got to have in the beginning. Though.
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  Speaker 5: For sure, I may postmine too early, but I get
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  Speaker 5: to them conversations quick. Hey if we get get the
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  Speaker 5: marriage pretting up, this is what I need from you.
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  Speaker 5: If I don't get it, these are the options. If
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  Speaker 5: we argue more than these amount of times, you gotta go.
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  Speaker 5: These are we gotta have boundaries. If you argue how
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  Speaker 5: many more? What's the what's the limit?
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  Speaker 2: Man?
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  Speaker 5: I normally say five, but I've been shortening that down three. Yeah,
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  Speaker 5: like three strikesing you out? What does that argue about?
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  Speaker 5: I'm with you, I don't I don't believe arguments. Oh
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  Speaker 5: my god, see on the same page. Like if I'm
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  Speaker 5: being good, you're being good, were loving each other? What
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  Speaker 5: is it we have a discussion, Hey, tell me a ian,
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  Speaker 5: I don't like when you know that girl was fighting
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  Speaker 5: with you and investmentst and you didn't clean it up.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, cool, I fix it will happen again.
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  Speaker 5: But an argument or like public embarrassment or like clout baby.
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  Speaker 3: Out, baby gotta go.
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  Speaker 2: So I think for me, but.
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  Speaker 3: You gotta have a conversation up front and be like, Hey.
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  Speaker 2: For sure, for me, it's not so much of like
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  Speaker 2: I don't necessarily I won't say like I say, like y'all,
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  Speaker 2: if I get married, I want a prenump and this
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  Speaker 2: is what I expect, I'll ask them, like, and what's
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  Speaker 2: your views on prenum? So I'm ask you, so if
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  Speaker 2: you get married, you're getting the prenup was a mandatory
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  Speaker 2: at this point in my life, of course. I mean
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  Speaker 2: I've worked my whole entire life to get here, right
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  Speaker 2: to get here, so I know, of course, But like
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  Speaker 2: I said, I bring it like, I'll ask a question,
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  Speaker 2: how do you feel about pronum?
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  Speaker 3: Your your response.
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  Speaker 2: Will tell you tell me what I need to know,
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  Speaker 2: because sometimes you could you could tell somebody like, hey,
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  Speaker 2: I want to get a prenum if I get back,
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  Speaker 2: and they'll go along with it, just because now you've
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  Speaker 2: already told them what you want, right, so now they thinking, okay,
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  Speaker 2: let me just say whatever I gotta say.
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  Speaker 3: And Stephen Jackson move by what he went through. Steven Jackson,
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  Speaker 3: what do you do?
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  Speaker 5: Remember he was about to get married to the girl.
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  Speaker 5: She said he wanted a prenup. She went up until
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  Speaker 5: the day of the weather.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, for sure. So that's my things.
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  Speaker 2: So I'm gonna ask you how you feel about it.
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  Speaker 2: And I feel like, you know, if you say something
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  Speaker 2: to the effect of like, no prenump is terrible, I'm
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  Speaker 2: not doing a prenum. Okay, that lets me know you
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  Speaker 2: know where you stand. But if you say something that
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  Speaker 2: I feel a little bit more reasonable as far as like, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: I think that you know, both people should be protected.
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  Speaker 2: You know, why should anybody be entitled to something that
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  Speaker 2: you haven't contributed to. Then that lets you know you're
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  Speaker 2: a rational person and you're.
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  Speaker 3: Not just in it. Should that be a finesse to or.
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  Speaker 2: It's not a finesse if you when you sign a paperwork.
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  Speaker 3: There's no exception to that rule.
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  Speaker 5: Like what if you met someone who maybe had more
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  Speaker 5: than what you still force the prenup or no.
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  Speaker 2: I just think that for me, the prenump is not
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  Speaker 2: necessarily so much of just money. It's like it's basic
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  Speaker 2: principles and it's things that I've worked for. So pre
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  Speaker 2: nump could be like they could take part of your company,
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  Speaker 2: your company could be not be worth anything, but it's like,
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  Speaker 2: it's still my company. It means something, baby, you know
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  Speaker 2: what I'm saying. It might not mean anything to you,
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  Speaker 2: but it means something to me. I might have an
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  Speaker 2: old school car that that was just my dream to
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  Speaker 2: get a Corvette, a fifty seven Corvette. That might not
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  Speaker 2: mean nothing to you, but out of spite and the divorce,
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  Speaker 2: you might take it right exactly. So it's like, nah,
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  Speaker 2: like this is something that means something to me, a
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  Speaker 2: card collection or whatever. Like you know, I have a
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  Speaker 2: house in West Virginia that my grandmother left to me
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  Speaker 2: and I never even go there, but that means something
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  Speaker 2: to me. I want to just protect that, like you
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  Speaker 2: know what I'm saying. So I feel like, now if
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  Speaker 2: we start from the bottom together and we never had nothing,
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  Speaker 2: and you helped me get to where I am. Of course,
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  Speaker 2: like you know what I'm saying, Like we're business partners
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  Speaker 2: at that point in time, Like you've helped me, I
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  Speaker 2: helped you, Like I'm not going to leave you stranded.
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  Speaker 5: Out the grace the time and my tonality fucked up.
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  Speaker 5: I'm like, no, you're gonna sign prenup? He asked the question,
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  Speaker 5: and then be like, well, what do you think about?
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  Speaker 5: God wants you to be protected as well. It's the
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  Speaker 5: best interest of both of our love. You have earned
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  Speaker 5: my love, but sign this paperwork, baby, please please, Hey respectfully.
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