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- 0:01Speaker 1: Hey, y'all.
- 0:01Speaker 2: Is Laurena Rosa with the latest with Laurna Rosa on
- 0:04Speaker 2: Black Effects and I cannot wait to see you guys
- 0:07Speaker 2: at the fourth Annual Black Effect Podcast Festival. Okay, we're
- 0:11Speaker 2: coming back to Atlanta, Georgia on Saturday, April twenty fifth
- 0:14Speaker 2: at Palman Yards and it's hosted by me alongside DJ
- 0:18Speaker 2: MV and charlottagnea God. We got drink chances of Noriega
- 0:22Speaker 2: and DJAFM. We gotta keep it positive, Sweetye with My Girl,
- 0:25Speaker 2: Christopher N.
- 0:26Speaker 1: Haslin.
- 0:27Speaker 2: We got Reality with the King with My Guide, then
- 0:29Speaker 2: my brother Carlos King, and y'all know he does reality
- 0:32Speaker 2: commentary like nobody can.
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- 1:11Speaker 1: Welcome to We Talk Back Podcast, the production of iHeartRadio
- 1:15Speaker 1: and the Black Effect Network. Talk Talk.
- 1:20Speaker 3: You're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion who
- 1:24Speaker 3: talks back.
- 1:27Speaker 1: What's up? Y'all? Is your girl a j? Holiday? What's up?
- 1:31Speaker 1: Tam bam? Hey, y'all. I love y'all. I missed y'all
- 1:35Speaker 1: so much.
- 1:39Speaker 4: Shut up a j y'all? Just walking right now. How's
- 1:43Speaker 4: your weekend?
- 1:45Speaker 1: You know, same old shit? I do much this weekn No,
- 1:51Speaker 1: I have not been to Costco, y'all.
- 1:52Speaker 5: I've been trying not to spend one thousand dollars on
- 1:55Speaker 5: the fucking weekend. So no, I have not been to Costco.
- 1:59Speaker 5: I just realized went up a lot because I don't
- 2:01Speaker 5: go no fucking wear, and I put a full ta.
- 2:04Speaker 5: I pulled my tank up, and I'm like, what the fuck?
- 2:06Speaker 4: Like so high right now?
- 2:10Speaker 1: It's like about to be five.
- 2:11Speaker 5: Dollars premium gas, So like, when did that happen?
- 2:21Speaker 3: Over the last two weeks, last three weeks, four weeks.
- 2:25Speaker 3: I don't know how long it's been, but was.
- 2:27Speaker 1: I not the last person to put gas in my car?
- 2:29Speaker 5: Because I'm confused. That's how I missed that gas was
- 2:32Speaker 5: that fucking high.
- 2:34Speaker 3: But one of my friends invested and bought two drunk
- 2:38Speaker 3: dump trucks and it will cost eight hundred dollars to
- 2:41Speaker 3: fill it up. Now it's two thousand to fill it up.
- 2:45Speaker 3: So he just did an involuntary reposession on both of them.
- 2:50Speaker 1: Man, I need I want one.
- 2:51Speaker 5: I literally was just having a conversation with somebody because
- 2:54Speaker 5: he drives somebody else and I'm like, hey, I'll go
- 2:58Speaker 5: half with you on a I'M truck.
- 3:00Speaker 3: Not right now, wait to the guest person to go
- 3:03Speaker 3: down because he said he couldn't turn he.
- 3:06Speaker 4: Couldn't turn a profit.
- 3:08Speaker 5: Yeah, these are like six dollars six dollars a gallon
- 3:11Speaker 5: right now, I mean, but you just tack it on.
- 3:15Speaker 5: Well that's the problem then, because like the people, the
- 3:17Speaker 5: brokers ain't trying to pay more on.
- 3:21Speaker 1: The loads, right, m hmm, not the brokers.
- 3:26Speaker 3: But you know, so he got like five hundred thousand
- 3:28Speaker 3: dollars or hoping somebody bottom ships. You know, it's rough
- 3:33Speaker 3: out here. What did I do this, We can.
- 3:37Speaker 4: Work.
- 3:38Speaker 3: I did a wedding. I did the bride. I cried
- 3:41Speaker 3: after I finished curling her hair. I cried because she
- 3:45Speaker 3: looks so beautiful. I want to just get soft the
- 3:48Speaker 3: older I get. I started crying. But I did not
- 3:54Speaker 3: stay for the way. I hate when I go to
- 3:58Speaker 3: do hair for a wedding and can't stay for the.
- 4:00Speaker 1: Oh yeah, they did offer you a little plate.
- 4:04Speaker 4: Oh no, it was that.
- 4:06Speaker 3: This ship around my face. I can't be walking around
- 4:08Speaker 3: there like that. The fuck up out of there, let's
- 4:15Speaker 3: smock out the back shame. And it was a Haitia wedding,
- 4:20Speaker 3: so they had all that good Haitian food.
- 4:22Speaker 1: M hmm.
- 4:23Speaker 4: I missed it, but that was my weekend.
- 4:26Speaker 1: That was it, celebrating love.
- 4:30Speaker 4: Let's get in the sands.
- 4:32Speaker 1: So apparently I've said got shot in the ass last
- 4:35Speaker 1: night or this week. That's the leg.
- 4:40Speaker 5: I saw a video with him sitting in the stretcher
- 4:42Speaker 5: smoking a cigarette outside the hospital. Sitting in a stretch,
- 4:46Speaker 5: I mean it's sitting sitting in a in a wheelchair,
- 4:49Speaker 5: not a stretcher sitting in a wheelchair smoking a cigarette.
- 4:53Speaker 3: So our third day, it was behind beyond, behind a
- 4:56Speaker 3: gambling deck.
- 4:57Speaker 5: Yeah, so I saw it first, like fifty minutes after
- 5:00Speaker 5: the ship must have happened. Angela Stanton posted that she
- 5:04Speaker 5: was at the Hall Rock Cafe in Hollywood, Florida, and
- 5:09Speaker 5: she said she had just walked past Offset and just
- 5:11Speaker 5: said what's up all, And she said he looked up
- 5:14Speaker 5: from herself his cell phone, said what's up? You know,
- 5:16Speaker 5: spoke back and put his head back down in his
- 5:18Speaker 5: cell phone. She said she walked into the hotel five
- 5:21Speaker 5: minutes fucking later, Pop pop.
- 5:26Speaker 1: She did say Low TJ.
- 5:29Speaker 5: The person who was accused of shooting him was indeed
- 5:31Speaker 5: the person standing next to him that she saw as
- 5:34Speaker 5: she was walking into the hotel. So apparently he owes
- 5:39Speaker 5: low TJ ten thousand dollars. But this is the Internet
- 5:45Speaker 5: of saying.
- 5:46Speaker 3: This introduces that TJ was arrested for the altercation that
- 5:51Speaker 3: occurred before the shooting. Yeah, they charged with so early
- 5:55Speaker 3: conduct and operating the vehicle without a license, but he
- 5:59Speaker 3: was not involved in the shooting.
- 6:02Speaker 5: So apparently what the streets is saying or this is
- 6:05Speaker 5: why I saw another video or TJ saying that Offset
- 6:07Speaker 5: to snitch you did some shit in public at a casino.
- 6:13Speaker 5: Apparently they did get into an altercation and somebody who
- 6:16Speaker 5: was with TJ shot offset.
- 6:20Speaker 4: Mm.
- 6:22Speaker 5: Okay, so I don't know these these these kids, like,
- 6:27Speaker 5: what what are.
- 6:29Speaker 4: Y'all doing out here?
- 6:31Speaker 1: These people are retarded?
- 6:34Speaker 3: Speaking of what are y'all doing out here? You see
- 6:38Speaker 3: the Gucci man Bushisty shit the ship that's confusing about that.
- 6:43Speaker 5: I heard about that shit last year, right, and I
- 6:46Speaker 5: thought it was some bullshit, especially because I'd be literally
- 6:48Speaker 5: listening to Gucci main album every fucking day and he
- 6:51Speaker 5: has a line on one of the songs that says, yeah,
- 6:54Speaker 5: Gucci may, but I'm not for Memphis, acting as if
- 6:57Speaker 5: the Gucci Mane that was robbed with somebody else samed
- 7:00Speaker 5: Gucci Mane but from Memphis.
- 7:02Speaker 1: But turned around as your ass that actually got robbed
- 7:05Speaker 1: by Pouschaisty for real, because you didn't hear about that
- 7:09Speaker 1: last year that they were saying that Pouschheisty had had kidnapped,
- 7:13Speaker 1: basically kidnapped Gucci Mane and made him sign his sign
- 7:16Speaker 1: a contract, sign hi out the contract.
- 7:19Speaker 4: I don't know if I hear nothing about that shit.
- 7:21Speaker 3: My ears ain't to the street like that, no more
- 7:24Speaker 3: so I didn't know nothing about it.
- 7:26Speaker 1: Yeah, I had heard about it, but I thought it
- 7:29Speaker 1: was bullshit.
- 7:32Speaker 4: So it says what.
- 7:33Speaker 3: The circumstances of Pushaiste's arrests were unclear when the news
- 7:37Speaker 3: first broke on Thursday. New details quickly emerged, including words
- 7:41Speaker 3: that the FDO artist was being accused in connection with
- 7:44Speaker 3: allegedly robbery, robbery, and kidnapping said to have targeted Gucci Man.
- 7:50Speaker 3: As first reported by Texas based news outlet twelve News,
- 7:54Speaker 3: the ten to seventeen label founder was the target of
- 7:57Speaker 3: the incident, said to have had occurred in genuine at
- 8:00Speaker 3: a Dallas area studio. Multiple arrests were later made, including
- 8:04Speaker 3: Shakesty and his daddy.
- 8:07Speaker 1: Now what I don't understand last year January Yeah right,
- 8:11Speaker 1: mm hm, whoa.
- 8:16Speaker 3: I'm just so my my flabbers are gastic because.
- 8:21Speaker 1: Why I'm annoyed.
- 8:23Speaker 5: But I'm always annoyed with the street shit. So like
- 8:26Speaker 5: the conversations online because I can't stand seeing white people
- 8:29Speaker 5: or women calling people snitches.
- 8:32Speaker 1: I just don't like it.
- 8:33Speaker 5: Just it just does something to me because y'all ain't
- 8:35Speaker 5: in the streets, and y'all will know what y'all would
- 8:37Speaker 5: do if you was caught up.
- 8:38Speaker 1: In some real nigga shit. I don't really even like
- 8:42Speaker 1: speaking on people like court situations because it should be
- 8:46Speaker 1: going down. You know what.
- 8:48Speaker 4: I just feel like, if.
- 8:49Speaker 3: You're a victim of the crimes, you should be able
- 8:50Speaker 3: to tell the police and that shouldn't make you a snitch.
- 8:54Speaker 1: But apparently Gucci Mean's security is off off duty police
- 8:58Speaker 1: officer or retired police officer. He probably initiated the filing
- 9:03Speaker 1: for this crime that y'all committed in front of him.
- 9:07Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. I know the police don't
- 9:09Speaker 1: always report all incidents, right bo y'all niggas really tried it.
- 9:15Speaker 1: Gucci Ma is a fifty year old fucking man at
- 9:17Speaker 1: this point. Damn there with a family. You damn right.
- 9:21Speaker 1: I'm telling I'm trying to push I see my way
- 9:25Speaker 1: out of my contract with La Fitness release shame. I've
- 9:40Speaker 1: been seeing leaves all week.
- 9:42Speaker 3: He about people try to push I See their way
- 9:45Speaker 3: out of their car contract, out of their least till they.
- 9:48Speaker 1: Caught the nigga name. Isn't poor honesty? Like what did
- 9:53Speaker 1: y'all expect? Who? Honesty is hilarious? Nigga is shy tell
- 10:00Speaker 1: he's living up to his own family.
- 10:03Speaker 5: His mama is so fucking ratchet your his mama, like
- 10:07Speaker 5: she's the one encouraging this ship, like she is, like
- 10:11Speaker 5: she's like the Madam of the I don't know, was
- 10:15Speaker 5: in the Congress.
- 10:16Speaker 4: So I mean, what on the fdo song? He said?
- 10:20Speaker 3: Grandma told me watch the snakes in the grass whole time.
- 10:22Speaker 3: I'm the snake sh.
- 10:26Speaker 1: And my thing is this, No, did did Gucci Man
- 10:28Speaker 1: hold a gun to your head when you sign that
- 10:30Speaker 1: fucking three sixty when you sign that fucked up deal
- 10:33Speaker 1: when you wanted to get that upfront money out of
- 10:34Speaker 1: Gucci Man? Right?
- 10:36Speaker 5: Because I'm pretty like you get up front money, so
- 10:38Speaker 5: you sign a contract and they give you whatever money
- 10:40Speaker 5: you got to recoup the money.
- 10:41Speaker 3: Right?
- 10:43Speaker 5: Did he put a gun to your head to sign
- 10:44Speaker 5: that contract? Did you have an attorney when you sign
- 10:48Speaker 5: the contract? Or you're just signing ship just to sign shit?
- 10:50Speaker 5: Because these niggas would be signing multiple deals with multiple people.
- 10:53Speaker 1: Are not giving a fuck? Right? That the same ship?
- 10:56Speaker 1: Like we're future and what what's that monica baby daddy name?
- 11:04Speaker 4: I don't know people.
- 11:08Speaker 1: What's wanting?
- 11:09Speaker 5: Cut baby daddy like him? And he basically put future on.
- 11:13Speaker 5: Why do I want to say ral is not fucking
- 11:15Speaker 5: Roo Rocco, Rocco, motherfucking Rocco. Big ass had Rocco.
- 11:21Speaker 1: Yeah, Rocco, put Future on and wait until future ass
- 11:24Speaker 1: got big. You signed a contract with Rocco, but you
- 11:27Speaker 1: thought you.
- 11:28Speaker 5: Was just supposed to make millions and I have to
- 11:29Speaker 5: pay this man at all at any point.
- 11:33Speaker 1: So Rocco did with any what any businessman would do.
- 11:37Speaker 1: Took him to court Future talking about all this, nigga
- 11:40Speaker 1: went to the fans and signed paperwork, Like, boy, shut up,
- 11:43Speaker 1: this is not no street ship. This is strictly business. Now,
- 11:45Speaker 1: would you have preferred a nigga to take it to
- 11:47Speaker 1: the streets? A boy his money? What right y'all want? So?
- 11:52Speaker 1: I mean right, I don't think that Gouda means a snitch.
- 12:00Speaker 1: I mean I don't. I just don't. I don't think
- 12:02Speaker 1: he's a snitch.
- 12:05Speaker 3: Feels like if you're the victim of a crime, you
- 12:07Speaker 3: can't be the snitch. I feel in my mind, snitches
- 12:11Speaker 3: are people who get caught doing some ship and start
- 12:13Speaker 3: telling on other motherfuckers to save their self.
- 12:17Speaker 4: That's a snitch to.
- 12:17Speaker 5: Me, yes, or telling them some ship that don't have
- 12:20Speaker 5: to do have nothing to do with why you're fucked up.
- 12:23Speaker 1: So now you're just offering the government or whoever to
- 12:27Speaker 1: get less.
- 12:28Speaker 3: Mine tell me over there getting food stamps and she worked,
- 12:31Speaker 3: you know, ship like that, Like what.
- 12:34Speaker 1: They gotta do with the fuck you're doing? Stupid? Are
- 12:40Speaker 1: you the bitch you got because I need something though
- 12:43Speaker 1: I got the No nobody got food stamps, No boy,
- 12:46Speaker 1: Trump got fucked everybody up.
- 12:48Speaker 5: Girls, I don't got no food stamps. I can't get
- 12:50Speaker 5: no water.
- 12:51Speaker 1: All I used to buy is water, no food stamps,
- 12:55Speaker 1: no game, cry lag and listen. I work at the
- 12:58Speaker 1: hair industry and this is not getting their hair done
- 13:01Speaker 1: as much.
- 13:02Speaker 4: You know that shit slowed down.
- 13:03Speaker 3: I'm out here doing housing inspections, but they trying to
- 13:13Speaker 3: going on.
- 13:15Speaker 1: It's like you got something else you could do? Huh,
- 13:20Speaker 1: I said, at least you got another something else you
- 13:21Speaker 1: could do. Yeah. Shoot, that's a hustling when I tell you.
- 13:25Speaker 4: I got all kind of hustles from every direction right now.
- 13:30Speaker 1: Period.
- 13:30Speaker 3: Like hey, somebody as will call me baby tea, I'm
- 13:33Speaker 3: selling we doing hair podcasting all out the same house.
- 13:37Speaker 4: Period.
- 13:42Speaker 5: Chat Queen So Apparently, the director of the Atlanta Regional
- 13:48Speaker 5: Conference for the aka's hired trick Daddy to perform at
- 13:53Speaker 5: a recent event, and basically essentially they turned that nigga
- 13:58Speaker 5: mic off at some point because they said his lyrics
- 14:01Speaker 5: uh in language was inappropriate. The organization says expectations were
- 14:09Speaker 5: discussed with Trick Daddy and his team beforehand, but claims
- 14:13Speaker 5: those guidelines were not followed during the performance. Trick Daddy
- 14:16Speaker 5: has since responded saying no one should be telling him
- 14:19Speaker 5: what to perform and suggesting the organization send the rest
- 14:23Speaker 5: of his payment. I agree pay that nigga because y'all
- 14:25Speaker 5: know who the trick Daddy is. And if Trick Daddy
- 14:28Speaker 5: come to fucking business meeting of mind, all I want
- 14:31Speaker 5: to hear is anybody want to motherfucking die I come see.
- 14:36Speaker 4: Because that's Daddy, y'all.
- 14:41Speaker 3: Trick Daddy, like that should have been a firm indicator
- 14:46Speaker 3: of who he was about to get. Anyway, you know,
- 14:48Speaker 3: they must have done that.
- 14:48Speaker 5: Niggas better saying, I don't know what does world going
- 14:54Speaker 5: and bring, but that's the easiest. That's the nicest song
- 14:57Speaker 5: that nigga has. Yeah, but that's just one song. They
- 15:01Speaker 5: wasn't paying him to come out there. I remember going
- 15:05Speaker 5: to see Trick Daddy in concert.
- 15:07Speaker 3: This was many many years ago at the Jamil Temple
- 15:10Speaker 3: in Columbia, South Carolina, and I remember clutching my pearls
- 15:14Speaker 3: at that ship. He was like, uh, he was doing
- 15:17Speaker 3: drop the top of Let the Sunshine In, but se
- 15:20Speaker 3: Lo Green wasn't there. He wasn't there to do the chorus.
- 15:24Speaker 3: So during the Sea Lough Green Park, he was like, kill.
- 15:27Speaker 1: That baby, that baby ain't mine.
- 15:28Speaker 4: Kill that baby, that baby ain't mine.
- 15:32Speaker 1: I swear that's what freaky old, sticky old gigky ass
- 15:35Speaker 1: nigga I color green and that'na eat nass nigga bruh.
- 15:38Speaker 1: I was like, that have to be stopped.
- 15:41Speaker 4: Kill that baby, that baby ain't mine.
- 15:44Speaker 1: And y'all all, y'all.
- 15:45Speaker 3: Invited him to do the AKA cofference. Y'all got exactly
- 15:48Speaker 3: what y'all wanted.
- 15:51Speaker 1: But why would that be the feeling kill that baby,
- 15:55Speaker 1: that baby ain't mine. Why would he be chaying that
- 15:58Speaker 1: they don't even go with that song? Damn? What wasnt
- 16:07Speaker 1: for trick Daddy in Columbia at that time?
- 16:09Speaker 5: He probably was telling her ass that shouldn't audience right
- 16:12Speaker 5: because what.
- 16:13Speaker 1: Because what were we talking about this week?
- 16:16Speaker 5: Y'all Aka's y'all found her y'all not founder, y'all director,
- 16:23Speaker 5: y'all need to run Trick Daddy his check. Y'all owe
- 16:25Speaker 5: that man, pay that man, pay that man. He showed
- 16:29Speaker 5: up and he performed, and he was percolating on stage,
- 16:33Speaker 5: and there's no way you could tell Trick Daddy like,
- 16:36Speaker 5: there's really no songs Trick Daddy could sing that wouldn't
- 16:39Speaker 5: be vulgar.
- 16:42Speaker 3: And there's no way to make them not vulgar, you know,
- 16:46Speaker 3: like you just gonna have no lyrics to the song.
- 16:49Speaker 3: At that point, he just instrumentals out there and he's
- 16:52Speaker 3: standing out there because the songs are completely vulgar. Y'all
- 16:56Speaker 3: should have just asked Chance the rapper to come out
- 16:58Speaker 3: there at this point. That's what y'all needed it or look.
- 17:01Speaker 1: Greaty they needed a discount.
- 17:03Speaker 5: I'm trying to figure out how much Trick Daddy was
- 17:05Speaker 5: charging them, because obviously y'all ain't had no budget, and
- 17:08Speaker 5: Trick Daddy, you know, with it was within the budget.
- 17:12Speaker 3: Right because he ain't got had a new song in forever,
- 17:15Speaker 3: so I know he was you know, he wasn't high expensive.
- 17:18Speaker 4: He want you know, Chris Brown prices.
- 17:24Speaker 3: Chris Brow bet y'all, Chris Brown could have came out
- 17:26Speaker 3: there and said whatever the fuck he wanted and they
- 17:28Speaker 3: wouldn't cut his bike off. Yeah, Chris Brown could have
- 17:32Speaker 3: been humping the floor, having six on the floor, pulling
- 17:35Speaker 3: women up on the stage, holding their legs up and
- 17:37Speaker 3: all kind of shit. They wouldn't have stopped Chris Brown
- 17:39Speaker 3: one bit.
- 17:41Speaker 5: That goes to show you, like, yeah, man like it
- 17:43Speaker 5: depends on what that person looking like doing all the
- 17:46Speaker 5: disrespectful shit, because don't nobody want no damn trick Daddy.
- 17:50Speaker 1: I was up there hoping on that stage, girl, sir.
- 17:56Speaker 4: MEI yuck.
- 17:59Speaker 1: To get the minute the motherfuckers would have.
- 18:04Speaker 5: I don't know if I would have, Like as if
- 18:06Speaker 5: I weren't Aka, I don't know that I would go
- 18:08Speaker 5: see Trick Daddy right now like.
- 18:13Speaker 1: Nothing. If I was a peak, I wouldn't go see
- 18:16Speaker 1: Trick Daddy right now. About AKA ship or any great affiliation.
- 18:23Speaker 3: He would have to be on a on a docket
- 18:26Speaker 3: with a lot of other artists for me to go.
- 18:29Speaker 3: Trina need to be there, the city girls, everybody from
- 18:33Speaker 3: my Pretty Ricky, everybody from Miami.
- 18:36Speaker 5: They could have gotten Trina to come. What are we
- 18:38Speaker 5: talking about? They would have bet off been bet off
- 18:41Speaker 5: getting Trina exactly.
- 18:43Speaker 3: That would have made more sense. But it is what
- 18:46Speaker 3: it is what we're talking about this week.
- 18:50Speaker 5: You know, one of me and one of my friends,
- 18:52Speaker 5: and she's a therapist actually, so it's crazy that somebody
- 18:57Speaker 5: told her that there is no such thing as balance.
- 19:02Speaker 1: You know, everybody's always striving for balance in life.
- 19:06Speaker 5: You're trying to balance work, you're trying to balance friends,
- 19:09Speaker 5: you're trying to balance I don't know something, they're going
- 19:13Speaker 5: to headstand everything. And balance just isn't a real thing.
- 19:18Speaker 5: So that's why I wanted to talk about balance.
- 19:20Speaker 1: Is it real? Is it attainable?
- 19:22Speaker 4: Is it?
- 19:22Speaker 5: Is it something you can ever actually acquire in life?
- 19:29Speaker 5: And we'll be back after commercial?
- 19:37Speaker 1: All right, y'all, So we are back and again I
- 19:40Speaker 1: wanted to talk about balance, Tammy.
- 19:41Speaker 5: Do you think that you can actually ever have like
- 19:44Speaker 5: real balance in life? And what would having balance actually
- 19:50Speaker 5: even look like?
- 19:52Speaker 1: You know?
- 19:52Speaker 3: I I want balance in life, But so to me,
- 19:59Speaker 3: balance doesn't To me, balance isn't everything getting equal energy.
- 20:06Speaker 3: I just don't think that's possible. Balance to me is
- 20:09Speaker 3: like a scale, right, and we put the most important
- 20:12Speaker 3: shit on one side of the scale, and then we
- 20:15Speaker 3: put the little shit and stack them up on the
- 20:17Speaker 3: other side of the scale, and it don't tip on
- 20:19Speaker 3: either side. That's in my mind. So it's just like
- 20:23Speaker 3: little pieces that equal all to this thing that makes
- 20:26Speaker 3: my life full and balanced. But that shit don't never work.
- 20:31Speaker 3: It's always one side tipping over. And it seems like
- 20:35Speaker 3: if I'm doing good on one thing, the other thing
- 20:37Speaker 3: is greatly neglected. If I'm making more money on fat,
- 20:41Speaker 3: if I'm in shape.
- 20:43Speaker 1: God, I swear to God.
- 20:50Speaker 5: That shit is fucking real, because that's how I feel
- 20:55Speaker 5: right the fuck now, like I am, i'd be having
- 21:00Speaker 5: shit going on, and I just I cannot find time
- 21:04Speaker 5: to get back into a real routine because at this point,
- 21:08Speaker 5: in order for me to actually seek balance right in
- 21:11Speaker 5: all things, that's finances, health, love, career, I can't go
- 21:17Speaker 5: to sleep.
- 21:19Speaker 1: I would not be able to sleep. Then rest rest
- 21:22Speaker 1: would be out of balance.
- 21:24Speaker 5: Right, So you're always sacrificing something for this imaginary thing
- 21:30Speaker 5: called balance. There is no such thing as balance. There's
- 21:36Speaker 5: prioritizing your life prior. Like you said, so, you wouldn't
- 21:40Speaker 5: have a scale, you would, I mean like you'd have
- 21:44Speaker 5: you You would be prioritizing what's most important. You know,
- 21:49Speaker 5: to the least important, but then when you got a
- 21:51Speaker 5: bunch of least important, smaller things, they make a big thing.
- 21:56Speaker 4: Yeah, they turn into one biggest thing by itself. Yeah.
- 22:00Speaker 4: That's why I say that skills always tipping. It never
- 22:04Speaker 4: works out.
- 22:06Speaker 5: So you think that maybe finding balance is something that
- 22:09Speaker 5: people say just to make themselves, like feel better, Like
- 22:12Speaker 5: I'm just trying to find balance, you know, I'm working
- 22:14Speaker 5: on getting finding balanced, like and it's just something you
- 22:19Speaker 5: will never attain.
- 22:21Speaker 3: I think I don't think people say it to make
- 22:24Speaker 3: them self feel better. I think people say it because
- 22:26Speaker 3: they really aspire to that, you know, they really want
- 22:29Speaker 3: that thing that just their life has this perfect balance,
- 22:34Speaker 3: because wouldn't that be great? Do you know anybody that
- 22:36Speaker 3: has said it's people faking like it on social media?
- 22:40Speaker 3: Like that one white lady you had me following. I
- 22:43Speaker 3: know her life is probably hectic as hell, but on
- 22:45Speaker 3: social media it just looks perfect.
- 22:49Speaker 1: Elena whatever her name, the Russian lady. I love her. Okay,
- 22:53Speaker 1: that is like her house, that's my house. Okay, it's
- 22:57Speaker 1: so perfect. I don't know that she has balance.
- 23:01Speaker 5: And I remember I said I sent her page to
- 23:03Speaker 5: my homegirl s Sheenaria too. In Sheary was like, this
- 23:06Speaker 5: bitch is a maniac just because everything is in order.
- 23:11Speaker 5: I believe that's where balance starts at, right, just your
- 23:15Speaker 5: home space, Because I know I've said this before. My
- 23:18Speaker 5: second bedroom in my apartment is a fucking closet. And
- 23:21Speaker 5: sometimes it's organized, and sometimes it's not my closets underneath
- 23:26Speaker 5: my cabinets.
- 23:27Speaker 1: But on the surface, everything is in order. Until you
- 23:30Speaker 1: open up a fucking door.
- 23:32Speaker 3: The.
- 23:34Speaker 1: Out knock you over. Yes.
- 23:36Speaker 5: And sometimes when I'm laying in my bed, because I
- 23:39Speaker 5: know I need to do something with that room, I
- 23:41Speaker 5: see it m hm, and it's like hindering me from
- 23:45Speaker 5: getting to the next thing I need to do.
- 23:48Speaker 3: Right, But instead of going to attack it, I just
- 23:50Speaker 3: go to sleep because it's so stressful.
- 23:55Speaker 1: It's avoid that ship all together. You know what I'm saying.
- 23:59Speaker 1: We really my bad might start with right decluttering.
- 24:04Speaker 3: Yes, get that room together, bru, listen room together. At
- 24:09Speaker 3: one point I had ship in a storage unit in
- 24:13Speaker 3: La shit in New York, shit in Columbia, and ship
- 24:17Speaker 3: in the storage in Charlotte. Like my life was completely
- 24:24Speaker 3: in utter disarray. It was so much do like I'd
- 24:28Speaker 3: be looking for shit and I'd be like that's in LA.
- 24:31Speaker 3: I can't wear that that's in LA. I can't use
- 24:34Speaker 3: that that's not New York like. And now I'm finally
- 24:38Speaker 3: I'm still fucked up.
- 24:40Speaker 1: With the hell y'all don't getting tested. It's still fucked up.
- 24:43Speaker 3: I just moved in a place in Charlotte, and then
- 24:46Speaker 3: a lot of my stuff is still in Columbia, so
- 24:48Speaker 3: I'm slowly transitioning everything to Charlotte. But girl, you set
- 24:54Speaker 3: a mouthful with like decluttering and that I hoard. I
- 24:58Speaker 3: realized that I hoard clothes. And sometimes in the middle
- 25:02Speaker 3: of the night, I'd be like online, like I wake
- 25:04Speaker 3: up out of my sleep and order some shit, and
- 25:07Speaker 3: then when it come I'd be.
- 25:08Speaker 1: Like, why the fuck did I get that?
- 25:10Speaker 3: I had this outfit that was like some shiny ass
- 25:14Speaker 3: hot pink futia tights that had to feed in it,
- 25:18Speaker 3: you know, Like it was like, yeah, they wasn't even
- 25:22Speaker 3: the stir up. We had the whole foot in it, right,
- 25:25Speaker 3: and it was like it had the top to go in,
- 25:27Speaker 3: it had a bodysuit to go in it, and I
- 25:29Speaker 3: was like.
- 25:30Speaker 1: Where the fuck was I gonna like? I would look
- 25:33Speaker 1: like a fucking ooper loop and.
- 25:34Speaker 3: That shit girl the fuck and I ordered and that
- 25:39Speaker 3: ship just in the closet, and it's just so much stuff,
- 25:42Speaker 3: like I just want to have like a maybe a
- 25:46Speaker 3: digital cell where everything is just five bucks and I
- 25:50Speaker 3: just sell all of this shit. And I just been
- 25:53Speaker 3: buying in the middle of the night for no reason.
- 25:57Speaker 5: Yeah, throw that in your story, see if somebody want
- 25:59Speaker 5: to buy it instead of doing posh mark and shit
- 26:01Speaker 5: like that. Matter of fact, I might do that. I
- 26:04Speaker 5: got so much shit with tags on it, you do
- 26:06Speaker 5: it war on one time and never worn like that
- 26:11Speaker 5: might want it.
- 26:12Speaker 3: I ordered it, I said I was going to send
- 26:14Speaker 3: it back, and then missed the threshold to send it back,
- 26:16Speaker 3: and then I just got shipped with tags on it
- 26:18Speaker 3: that I can't fit or just isn't flattering on me.
- 26:21Speaker 1: Mm hmm.
- 26:23Speaker 5: I have like discounts of fashion over shit because I
- 26:25Speaker 5: got a hell of fashion over shit that I couldn't
- 26:27Speaker 5: send back.
- 26:28Speaker 1: So fashion over ship would be.
- 26:29Speaker 5: Super cheap flat feet five ninety nine for shipping, for
- 26:35Speaker 5: chipping and something like that.
- 26:36Speaker 1: I might do that shit too, man.
- 26:38Speaker 3: Yes, I got to get rid of this clutter. I
- 26:42Speaker 3: just feel like I don't have a social life no
- 26:45Speaker 3: more like I used to be outside. I used to
- 26:48Speaker 3: be doing stuff I used to be, you know, and
- 26:51Speaker 3: now I don't know the last time I went and
- 26:52Speaker 3: did anything like fun with the girls.
- 26:58Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean, you know, I always be telling people
- 27:01Speaker 5: invite me places all the time, but I always need
- 27:04Speaker 5: like two weeks notice at least I.
- 27:07Speaker 1: Gotta get my mind situated.
- 27:09Speaker 5: Don't call me like the day before some shit if
- 27:12Speaker 5: you really want me to come kick it, because I
- 27:14Speaker 5: gotta get my mind.
- 27:16Speaker 1: People don't even know I live here. That's so fucking craziness, dog.
- 27:21Speaker 5: Like, I literally only leave my house sometimes I'm not
- 27:23Speaker 5: going out of town. I'm in in the house, and
- 27:26Speaker 5: I only leave the house for real. And when I
- 27:29Speaker 5: say leave the house, I mean like the gym I
- 27:32Speaker 5: go to is five minutes down the highway, or I'll
- 27:35Speaker 5: go to my apartment complex gym.
- 27:37Speaker 1: But when I say like leave the house, I mean
- 27:39Speaker 1: like actually.
- 27:40Speaker 5: Drive down the highway, maybe cross town somewhere and go
- 27:44Speaker 5: to dinner or lunch whatever.
- 27:46Speaker 1: I don't be doing that. I don't leave the house
- 27:48Speaker 1: to go to no events for real.
- 27:49Speaker 3: Like me neither don't. I don't be doing shit but working.
- 27:53Speaker 3: I just feel like I'm just always chasing the next thing,
- 27:56Speaker 3: and it's just like, girl, look at my fingernails. I
- 27:59Speaker 3: got a band aid on both middle fingers because it's
- 28:02Speaker 3: lifting at the bottom, Like I haven't even had a
- 28:04Speaker 3: moment to go get.
- 28:05Speaker 4: My nails done. Like it's just bad.
- 28:09Speaker 5: So I was about to ask you, like what was
- 28:11Speaker 5: suffering in your life right now? It's I guess it's
- 28:13Speaker 5: your two middle fingers.
- 28:16Speaker 1: Not just that I got my coochie harry as hell.
- 28:20Speaker 3: My fingernails need to be done, like like it's just
- 28:24Speaker 3: a lot going on, like a self care is what's
- 28:27Speaker 3: missing right now? Okay, I have not had my legs hairy,
- 28:31Speaker 3: like it's just a lot happening, Like I really need
- 28:34Speaker 3: a moment.
- 28:37Speaker 4: For myself.
- 28:40Speaker 1: Man only holes, pussy always ready, Okay, I should be
- 28:44Speaker 1: fucking wolfing, And yes that's where I'm at right now,
- 28:47Speaker 1: but it's about to start getting hot.
- 28:48Speaker 4: I gotta do something about this.
- 28:50Speaker 1: One pussy looked like don king right now, like you
- 28:54Speaker 1: got a little gray streak, girl, fuck you. Nobody wants
- 29:00Speaker 1: to fuck granny's pussy. That's like I listen because.
- 29:09Speaker 5: I know I don't know about y'all, but I be
- 29:11Speaker 5: I'd be looking at my Gucci. I was down there
- 29:13Speaker 5: with a mirror one day and I saw a fucking
- 29:16Speaker 5: gray hair on my lips.
- 29:18Speaker 1: Bitch, I like to fucking die, pluck.
- 29:22Speaker 5: I don't even have gray hair on my head, Like,
- 29:24Speaker 5: why the fuck the tie? I just felt like a
- 29:34Speaker 5: real hole when I saw that gray hair.
- 29:38Speaker 1: Wise old wise one my nigga down there eating like
- 29:48Speaker 1: this nigga younger than me, and it's a fucking gray
- 29:50Speaker 1: hair right there, like no, this big.
- 29:53Speaker 3: Gray hair, So that ain't nothing for real, long time
- 29:58Speaker 3: ago I have.
- 30:00Speaker 1: I saw one strand one time.
- 30:01Speaker 4: You don't have no gray hair on your head, though,
- 30:03Speaker 4: so y'all.
- 30:04Speaker 1: Let me tell y'all.
- 30:05Speaker 5: Had Tammy tried to lie to me one time and
- 30:06Speaker 5: told me I had great hair. Tammy did my hair
- 30:08Speaker 5: one time, y'all, and I remember I was saying, how
- 30:11Speaker 5: I got no gray hair? She was like, yes, you do.
- 30:14Speaker 5: I saw something in the back of your head, Like wait,
- 30:16Speaker 5: what you saw gray hair in the back of my head.
- 30:21Speaker 1: Like a couple of strings.
- 30:22Speaker 4: It wasn't a lot.
- 30:24Speaker 5: You ain't see no fucking gray hair in the back
- 30:26Speaker 5: of my damn head. I had one gray hair in
- 30:28Speaker 5: the front one time in life.
- 30:29Speaker 4: Get back there with a mirror, bitch.
- 30:31Speaker 1: You you did, because once you told me I had
- 30:33Speaker 1: some back there, I went to, look, you have no grit?
- 30:37Speaker 1: No you lied. I did not, Yes you did. I
- 30:41Speaker 1: did not just make you. You wanted me to have
- 30:44Speaker 1: gray hair because you go mad, and I just just like, yeah,
- 30:47Speaker 1: you got great hair back here, beach girl.
- 30:52Speaker 5: You know, and damn well, most gray hair be in
- 30:54Speaker 5: the front first boy for sure, And I usually have
- 30:57Speaker 5: like a gray hair pop out my middle finger, that's it.
- 31:00Speaker 5: So I don't know, flicking niggas off and smashing for
- 31:03Speaker 5: a long time, greight here is just start popping out.
- 31:08Speaker 4: No, I definitely have great hair.
- 31:12Speaker 1: M But yeah, so maybe the problem really isn't like
- 31:16Speaker 1: people needing balance is just prioritizing what you got.
- 31:22Speaker 4: No, I was just pushing the band aid back off
- 31:24Speaker 4: my middle fingers here.
- 31:30Speaker 1: Shit fucked up over here. Okay, I'm getting it together
- 31:32Speaker 1: this weekend. Yeah. Yeah, I don't know. I just feel like.
- 31:42Speaker 5: Anytime like you just feel like you're winning something, something,
- 31:45Speaker 5: something is always going to get fucked up, something somewhere
- 31:49Speaker 5: you're neglecting. So let's just if you're in a relationship
- 31:53Speaker 5: with somebody and you're going hard at all things, that
- 31:57Speaker 5: relationship probably is getting neglected.
- 32:01Speaker 3: That's why a lot of relationships end when people prioritizing
- 32:04Speaker 3: their career over their relationship men and women. You know,
- 32:09Speaker 3: I've seen women who are very successful. I had a
- 32:11Speaker 3: conversation with one of my girlfriends that she's an attorney,
- 32:14Speaker 3: and she's a very successful attorney, and you know, her
- 32:18Speaker 3: husband cheated on her, and she had to take some
- 32:22Speaker 3: accountability for how she had like kind of checked out
- 32:26Speaker 3: of the marriage and had only focused on her career
- 32:30Speaker 3: and she was thriving. She was able to like level
- 32:34Speaker 3: them up in a huge way financially, but he wasn't
- 32:39Speaker 3: getting the love and support that he needed as a
- 32:41Speaker 3: man in a marriage, and he kind of stepped out,
- 32:44Speaker 3: and which don't make it okay. But she was able
- 32:47Speaker 3: to see where her actions played a part in at.
- 32:52Speaker 1: A little bit. I wouldn't be able to a little bit,
- 32:55Speaker 1: you know. Than yeah, I understand that.
- 32:58Speaker 5: I guess that that scenario on the other side, because
- 33:02Speaker 5: remember I had said that, you know, I want a
- 33:06Speaker 5: man who ain't mad that we had sex because we're
- 33:08Speaker 5: chasing goals and shit like that. Like what was he
- 33:12Speaker 5: doing on his end? You know what I'm saying, Like
- 33:15Speaker 5: you had time to smash a whole other woman while
- 33:20Speaker 5: I'm over here grinding for us.
- 33:22Speaker 4: Well, he used to.
- 33:23Speaker 5: Spend a little bit more time, so I don't know,
- 33:26Speaker 5: maybe they if he has time why I guess, I
- 33:28Speaker 5: don't know. I guess women with sex and shit like that,
- 33:31Speaker 5: Like it's not like the top of our priority list, right,
- 33:35Speaker 5: but if you're married to somebody, you need to make
- 33:37Speaker 5: it a priority.
- 33:38Speaker 1: Because that's she would go, that's yeah.
- 33:41Speaker 3: She kept on declining, No, I'm tired, No, I'm tired.
- 33:46Speaker 4: So he eventually got it somewhere else.
- 33:49Speaker 1: Are they still married?
- 33:52Speaker 4: They're happily married.
- 33:54Speaker 1: I was just about to say that they're probably happily
- 33:55Speaker 1: married now, Yeah, I know. I guess maybe that could be.
- 34:01Speaker 5: Like a cure if something is lacking in relationship, maybe
- 34:04Speaker 5: your significant other should just cheat on you, or you
- 34:07Speaker 5: should just cheat on your significant other if they are
- 34:10Speaker 5: lacking balance.
- 34:11Speaker 3: No, that's bad advice, that's good bad advice. Let me
- 34:18Speaker 3: tell you something that say stress me out? Will y'all
- 34:20Speaker 3: invite me to a function? And I want to come?
- 34:23Speaker 3: And did I see y'a gotta wear a certain color?
- 34:25Speaker 1: Girl.
- 34:25Speaker 4: I don't have time for that shit.
- 34:29Speaker 1: I gotta find a blush Dusty Rolls outfit for your event.
- 34:36Speaker 4: I'm not coming.
- 34:38Speaker 1: I don't have to adde for that.
- 34:41Speaker 3: When did that become a thing that we got to
- 34:43Speaker 3: match every fucking time we go out.
- 34:44Speaker 4: I'm so sick of that when I just wear what.
- 34:47Speaker 1: I've already bought.
- 34:49Speaker 5: Yeah, the theme stuff, I mean, you can always do it,
- 34:51Speaker 5: but are you How are you gonna feel when you
- 34:53Speaker 5: get there and everybody is in theme?
- 34:55Speaker 4: Like I mean you I ain't going, Yeah, you know,
- 34:58Speaker 4: I'm gonna miss it?
- 34:59Speaker 3: And then my intentions are always good, like okay, yeah,
- 35:01Speaker 3: I need to go find me a Dusty Rose outfit
- 35:03Speaker 3: before the next weekend. And then the next weeken get
- 35:07Speaker 3: here and I didn't order nothing. Now I'm expressed shipping
- 35:12Speaker 3: some shit for forty five dollars to get here overnight
- 35:15Speaker 3: that don't fit. So now I'm missing the Dusty Rose event.
- 35:19Speaker 1: You know, Like right, so, right now, what do you
- 35:23Speaker 1: think is winning in your life? Like?
- 35:26Speaker 4: What is winning mean to me? Or what is winning?
- 35:29Speaker 5: What is so basically what we trying to identify is
- 35:32Speaker 5: what is high on your priority list?
- 35:35Speaker 1: Right now? That's that's that's successful.
- 35:41Speaker 4: I got I'm chasing money. I'm getting more money, you know,
- 35:45Speaker 4: I'm getting more money right now.
- 35:47Speaker 3: Like I said, I got all these kind of different
- 35:50Speaker 3: hustles I got going. I don't want to call them
- 35:53Speaker 3: hustles that sound like I really am baby dy. I
- 35:56Speaker 3: don't sell weed, y'all.
- 35:57Speaker 4: That was a joke.
- 35:58Speaker 1: Yeah, but hu, that's what I'm saying. Niggas who's sell.
- 36:00Speaker 5: Drugs aren't hustlers. Drugs sell theyselves like people who are
- 36:03Speaker 5: able to have multiple businesses, maybe some with employees. And
- 36:07Speaker 5: you got this going, You got real estate, gon all,
- 36:09Speaker 5: that's hustling to me.
- 36:10Speaker 3: Okay, well, then under that context, then I'm definitely hustling.
- 36:15Speaker 3: I just got all these different thing avenues where I'm
- 36:18Speaker 3: making some income, so that's good. But I keep saying
- 36:21Speaker 3: I'm starting seventy five soft.
- 36:23Speaker 4: I ain't.
- 36:24Speaker 3: The only thing soft is my arms on.
- 36:27Speaker 1: Arms so hard to sign.
- 36:29Speaker 3: Yeah, I was gonna go soft because either way, I'm
- 36:33Speaker 3: I got so much on my plate that.
- 36:34Speaker 4: I don't have time for her.
- 36:35Speaker 3: I don't have time to do no two workouts today,
- 36:38Speaker 3: But if I did one workout of day, five days
- 36:40Speaker 3: a week, that's more likely. And I was supposed to
- 36:42Speaker 3: start yesterday, But after I did that apartment those, I
- 36:45Speaker 3: went into ninety seven units yesterday doing those housing and inspection.
- 36:50Speaker 3: All I wanted to do was get in the shower
- 36:52Speaker 3: and lay down after that, so I did not prioritize
- 36:59Speaker 3: my but I felt like my phone, my watch said
- 37:02Speaker 3: I were walk twelve thousand steps.
- 37:05Speaker 5: As far as I concerned, I went to the jail,
- 37:07Speaker 5: you know, for real, because listen, people will be getting
- 37:10Speaker 5: them ten thousand steps in a day. They literally they
- 37:12Speaker 5: definitely be losing weight for sure. I am so sanitary, bitch.
- 37:17Speaker 5: I do not get most days. Let me see how
- 37:21Speaker 5: many times I can walk around his motherfucker right here.
- 37:24Speaker 5: I do not get five thousand steps in most days.
- 37:28Speaker 4: Yeah, so you need the prime the mailbox.
- 37:34Speaker 5: And my watch literally be saying shit like, why don't
- 37:37Speaker 5: you think about taking a walk right now for lunch?
- 37:40Speaker 1: It literally says it just like that, did you think
- 37:43Speaker 1: about taking a walk today? Another watch?
- 37:46Speaker 4: Ask me, did you think about taking a watch.
- 37:51Speaker 1: Or you think about taking a walk today? It says
- 37:53Speaker 1: shit like that, yeah right, hit the button on the side.
- 37:58Speaker 4: Shut up.
- 38:00Speaker 5: But I have time, though, I have time to take
- 38:02Speaker 5: a watch, y'all. Let me tell y'all what I prioritize
- 38:05Speaker 5: too much. When I tell y'all. I keep say I'm
- 38:08Speaker 5: gonna make these T shirts. I love to lay down,
- 38:12Speaker 5: I love to rest. That is what I aspire to have,
- 38:18Speaker 5: very very very slow mornings. So white girl I follow
- 38:22Speaker 5: on Instagram, who'll be doing these high ticket sales promotions
- 38:26Speaker 5: and shit like that? Like that's her whole Instagram shit
- 38:29Speaker 5: and she's always talking about slow mornings.
- 38:31Speaker 1: Bitch.
- 38:31Speaker 5: I love a slow morning. I like to be awake
- 38:35Speaker 5: doing fucking absolutely nothing but rubing my feet on my
- 38:40Speaker 5: sheets underneath the cover and scroll on the internet and
- 38:43Speaker 5: order it shit off Amazon. Like I like that. That
- 38:46Speaker 5: sounds great, and that's my problem.
- 38:49Speaker 3: But that sounds great. That's not a problem if you
- 38:52Speaker 3: can live that type of life. That is such a
- 38:54Speaker 3: lovely existence. I feel like I wake up every morning
- 38:57Speaker 3: like what time is it? That's how I feel like
- 39:01Speaker 3: I wake up every morning. I know, but I try
- 39:04Speaker 3: to set the intention, like I put on a good
- 39:06Speaker 3: song to start today, But I always wake up feeling
- 39:11Speaker 3: like I'm late.
- 39:13Speaker 1: Yeah.
- 39:13Speaker 5: I don't like feeling like I'm hustling.
- 39:16Speaker 1: I don't like I don't like a busy schedule.
- 39:21Speaker 5: I don't like feeling like I got twenty things to
- 39:23Speaker 5: do because with my mind how it's set up. If
- 39:26Speaker 5: I had twenty things to do, I'd end up doing
- 39:28Speaker 5: none of them. Right, So I do. I set realistic
- 39:31Speaker 5: goals right for the extra time I have, and I
- 39:35Speaker 5: do at least one or two of those things that
- 39:37Speaker 5: I need to do.
- 39:38Speaker 1: And that's it, bitch, Because if I say in my mind, okay, today,
- 39:42Speaker 1: I got a whole list of fifteen things I need
- 39:44Speaker 1: to do today, I will.
- 39:46Speaker 5: Literally lay the fuck back down. I get overwhelmed and
- 39:49Speaker 5: I haven't even started yet. So I just know my
- 39:52Speaker 5: psyche and I'm not about to trick myself every I
- 39:56Speaker 5: guess maybe I need to try to trick myself into
- 39:58Speaker 5: doing more because I have a little extra time I
- 40:00Speaker 5: could be doing some shit and I just don't.
- 40:04Speaker 3: I feel like I just I overpacked my schedule with
- 40:07Speaker 3: shit I gotta do every day, and then when it's
- 40:12Speaker 3: time to do it, I'd be like, this is impossible.
- 40:19Speaker 1: But do you push through and do it? Or you
- 40:20Speaker 1: say fuck it?
- 40:22Speaker 3: Sometimes there's you know, the time run out. Sometimes I
- 40:26Speaker 3: push through and say, you know, I get it done.
- 40:28Speaker 3: I'll be like, how the fuck did I do all
- 40:29Speaker 3: of that today? And then some days it'd be like,
- 40:32Speaker 3: you know what the twenty four hours is up, the
- 40:36Speaker 3: day is over. I can't do nothing else. And then
- 40:39Speaker 3: some days I like fuck it.
- 40:42Speaker 5: People get on my nerve and they say, you got
- 40:44Speaker 5: the same twenty four but y'all, nigga's not sleeping.
- 40:46Speaker 1: Your pee is real dark. You don't even drinking enough water? Right,
- 40:52Speaker 1: so you do it all? This is to die fucking
- 40:54Speaker 1: young because you're not taking care of yourself.
- 40:57Speaker 5: That part, my nieces, I love them so much, man, right,
- 41:07Speaker 5: I be feeling like I'm working for them right so
- 41:09Speaker 5: that they can call me on a whim to meet
- 41:13Speaker 5: astronomical amounts of money. Right, they have become a fucking
- 41:17Speaker 5: bill and what I what I have. What I've been
- 41:20Speaker 5: trying to get them to understand, like I have missed
- 41:23Speaker 5: doing a lot of things because I have it right
- 41:26Speaker 5: or either even either I didn't have the finances for
- 41:28Speaker 5: the thing or didn't have the time for the thing.
- 41:31Speaker 1: You cannot do everything. Sometimes you might have to miss
- 41:35Speaker 1: a friend's birthday, you know what I'm saying. You can't
- 41:41Speaker 1: a concert, a trip. You can't do all the things,
- 41:43Speaker 1: especially if you don't got the motherfucking money to do
- 41:46Speaker 1: it right.
- 41:48Speaker 5: And my thing, I just some things I just don't
- 41:50Speaker 5: have the time to do the things, so I might
- 41:52Speaker 5: miss I'm trying to do better. We're not like missing
- 41:55Speaker 5: people birthdays and shit like that now, but I need
- 41:59Speaker 5: a super duper advanced notice. But those are like the
- 42:03Speaker 5: silent sacrifices that people have to make.
- 42:05Speaker 1: Sometimes you can't do all the things.
- 42:08Speaker 5: Sometimes when you are you're in your and you're you're
- 42:11Speaker 5: in a building mode, you might even lose friends sametimes.
- 42:17Speaker 5: I can't stand like the people on social media who
- 42:19Speaker 5: say shit like stop calling them today and see if
- 42:24Speaker 5: y'all ever talk again, or shit like that.
- 42:26Speaker 1: Like everybody got shit.
- 42:27Speaker 5: Going on, so I know I can do better at
- 42:31Speaker 5: being the person who initiates the phone calls. Sometimes I
- 42:35Speaker 5: just everybody got life going on. I do appreciate when
- 42:37Speaker 5: people hit me up checking on me, and I can
- 42:39Speaker 5: do better at checking on people. But I'm never mad
- 42:43Speaker 5: at anybody for not checking on me, especially if I
- 42:46Speaker 5: ain't check on them.
- 42:48Speaker 3: Yeah, I definitely have had like friendships that kind of
- 42:53Speaker 3: dissolve because I stopped being the one always reaching out.
- 42:58Speaker 4: It wasn't like.
- 43:02Speaker 3: I don't fuck with you because I only I'm the
- 43:04Speaker 3: only one calling.
- 43:06Speaker 4: But I am gonna like I can't be the only
- 43:11Speaker 4: one calling, you know. Mm hmmm, So is that weird?
- 43:17Speaker 1: I mean, I just so.
- 43:18Speaker 5: Me and one of my friends, we used to talk
- 43:22Speaker 5: every single day for hours. I mean we'd be doing
- 43:24Speaker 5: other shit, but we would be talking at the same time.
- 43:27Speaker 1: Right.
- 43:28Speaker 5: She has since had a baby, I have the podcast,
- 43:32Speaker 5: and I also have a full time job going on
- 43:35Speaker 5: as well, right, and everything else. You gotta squeeze in between.
- 43:38Speaker 5: We don't talk as much, and when we do talk,
- 43:41Speaker 5: we still catch up. And all that said, all that ship,
- 43:43Speaker 5: it is no hard feelings, but her and I both
- 43:46Speaker 5: have friends that we are like kind of on an
- 43:49Speaker 5: outwit because somebody doesn't have enough time. Like I'm not
- 43:52Speaker 5: that needy of a friend, She's not that needy of
- 43:56Speaker 5: a friend. So our friendship relationship work because we are
- 44:01Speaker 5: like minded in that way.
- 44:04Speaker 3: Yeah, I wouldn't say I'm on that out I just
- 44:07Speaker 3: feel like maybe we're not as close anymore. But it's
- 44:13Speaker 3: all love like it ain't no beef, right. But I
- 44:17Speaker 3: used to say to her, if I don't call you,
- 44:19Speaker 3: we ain't never gonna talk. I gotta do better. I
- 44:24Speaker 3: gotta do better.
- 44:26Speaker 1: That's not like me to some people.
- 44:27Speaker 5: But then I know that there are some people that
- 44:29Speaker 5: I prioritize and I make sure I call them right.
- 44:33Speaker 1: And I don't know.
- 44:34Speaker 5: Maybe what they talk Maybe what me and that person
- 44:36Speaker 5: talks about is just more interesting.
- 44:39Speaker 1: Than with me and this other person. Maybe we got
- 44:41Speaker 1: more in common. I don't know what.
- 44:43Speaker 5: It is, but I have prioritized people over other people
- 44:48Speaker 5: because you only have a certain amount of time. There
- 44:50Speaker 5: are some friends I avoid talking to because I know
- 44:52Speaker 5: when I talk to them, it's gonna take four hours
- 44:54Speaker 5: out of my day.
- 44:55Speaker 1: M hm. So we got to schedule to talk.
- 45:00Speaker 3: Where she was like. Her response was like, girl, you
- 45:02Speaker 3: sound like my mama. I don't even talk. I don't
- 45:05Speaker 3: even get a chance to talk to my mama. Like
- 45:07Speaker 3: I don't call my mama. My mama say, if I
- 45:09Speaker 3: don't call you, I ain't gonna hear from you. Yeah,
- 45:12Speaker 3: so she might, I mean, you know, and I know
- 45:15Speaker 3: that about her, So it's all love, but I don't.
- 45:19Speaker 3: I don't talk to her as much because I don't
- 45:21Speaker 3: call as much anymore either. But then also in my life,
- 45:25Speaker 3: I ain't got time to be calling none of you
- 45:27Speaker 3: bitches no more.
- 45:28Speaker 4: Right now, we.
- 45:30Speaker 1: Talk, we talk.
- 45:31Speaker 5: My phone don't ring some days and I'd be good
- 45:33Speaker 5: with it, like if I get a little texts ill
- 45:36Speaker 5: text back, but.
- 45:37Speaker 1: I I'm good with talking on the phone too, you
- 45:41Speaker 1: know what I'm saying.
- 45:43Speaker 3: One of my friends who never I always tell her
- 45:45Speaker 3: the same thing, like if I don't call you, we
- 45:46Speaker 3: don't talk. I got a call from her today actually,
- 45:50Speaker 3: and she said I miss you. I was like, are
- 45:52Speaker 3: you sick? Is somebody sick?
- 45:58Speaker 1: Be meaning the call?
- 45:59Speaker 5: But the day go by so quick, you know what
- 46:01Speaker 5: I'm saying, And then you also considering what the other
- 46:04Speaker 5: person got going on. It's just I don't know, but
- 46:06Speaker 5: you gotta prioritize everything that support and including people, right. Yeah,
- 46:12Speaker 5: but this thing says you have to break down what
- 46:17Speaker 5: season you're in. I would think I am in the
- 46:21Speaker 5: hustling season, but not hustling.
- 46:23Speaker 1: Enough, right.
- 46:25Speaker 5: Or maybe I am doing enough but feeling like you
- 46:28Speaker 5: can Maybe I'm at my capacity and sitting here thinking
- 46:30Speaker 5: I can do more. You know, I said I needed
- 46:35Speaker 5: to get and my boyfriend, he's been on my neck too.
- 46:38Speaker 1: To at least write one hour day. I can do that. Yeah,
- 46:44Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying.
- 46:44Speaker 5: Like, right now I'm gonna eat and lay down and
- 46:47Speaker 5: Twitter looking on Instagram for a while, like I could
- 46:50Speaker 5: have been writing.
- 46:51Speaker 4: But instead of looking at Instagram tonight.
- 46:53Speaker 1: Right, Yeah, that's what I'm gonna do. You're right, You're right.
- 46:59Speaker 3: I ain't shit gonna be on Instagram that you can't
- 47:02Speaker 3: see later. I promise that shit will still be there.
- 47:05Speaker 5: I don't see the whole internet, y'all. The whole internet.
- 47:08Speaker 5: People send me shit and I just laugh at it,
- 47:10Speaker 5: but I don't seen it.
- 47:12Speaker 3: First of all, your algorithm Instagram is next level. The
- 47:17Speaker 3: fuck you be saying to me some of the wildest,
- 47:19Speaker 3: weirdest shit.
- 47:22Speaker 1: Because I've been not seeing all the regular shit that
- 47:24Speaker 1: my algorithm just starts like, bitch, you don't see the
- 47:26Speaker 1: whole internet. You've seen this.
- 47:27Speaker 5: They just start throwing shit out there, and it's just
- 47:29Speaker 5: get crazier and crazier.
- 47:31Speaker 1: How did you find this? Yeah?
- 47:37Speaker 5: I don't know, but y'all, I don't know whatever you
- 47:39Speaker 5: gotta do to try and find balance, I don't know
- 47:42Speaker 5: what that thing is.
- 47:43Speaker 1: I know for sure, balance is just not a real thing.
- 47:46Speaker 5: I mean, And this just goes back to like writing
- 47:50Speaker 5: down goals and shit like that. Try to understand where
- 47:53Speaker 5: you are. So you got to do your current self
- 47:56Speaker 5: assessment right where you are, where you want to be,
- 47:59Speaker 5: what things are most important, and just make small changes
- 48:03Speaker 5: every single fucking day.
- 48:04Speaker 1: That's that's what I'm working on. I don't know.
- 48:08Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm just definitely in a hustling face, but I
- 48:10Speaker 3: also want to I do want a husband's so rough
- 48:15Speaker 3: out here, y'all. Me and that nigga from January broke
- 48:18Speaker 3: up just so y'all know, January baby, they got me
- 48:25Speaker 3: that watch that's so crazy. What a bitch of roles
- 48:28Speaker 3: And they disappear. He ain't disappear, he's still around, but
- 48:32Speaker 3: we just not that anymore.
- 48:36Speaker 1: So what changed it? Just mm hmm.
- 48:39Speaker 4: He said I'm too much for.
- 48:40Speaker 3: Him, Like I'm just like my lifestyle is too much
- 48:44Speaker 3: and he's like very simple and he can't live in
- 48:47Speaker 3: the fear of what I'm gonna say on the podcast
- 48:49Speaker 3: every day.
- 48:50Speaker 1: And does he listen to the show he has here?
- 48:54Speaker 1: Why who told him to do that?
- 48:56Speaker 4: I don't know.
- 49:01Speaker 1: I would prefer for my nigga not to listen to
- 49:03Speaker 1: the show. But that's how the fuck we met. So like,
- 49:08Speaker 1: so now I got all typics like he don't got
- 49:11Speaker 1: no excuse, niggas you know exactly exactly who the fuck AJ.
- 49:16Speaker 3: Is right, and then you know, there were things about
- 49:21Speaker 3: him that didn't align for me either. But we still
- 49:25Speaker 3: like tight, you know, like we still we still kick
- 49:30Speaker 3: it and it's cool. But that's not my husband, you know.
- 49:36Speaker 3: So the girls back outside. I guess, just some time
- 49:38Speaker 3: for summer.
- 49:44Speaker 5: The older I get, the less I really care about summer. No,
- 49:50Speaker 5: I'm a fucking Gemini. I love summer. I'm throwing out
- 49:53Speaker 5: right down. No, the less I care about, like, I
- 49:57Speaker 5: don't know. I'm not scared of nogging married. I'm not
- 50:01Speaker 5: scared of not having a kid.
- 50:03Speaker 1: I'm just not.
- 50:04Speaker 3: Yeah, that's how I'm starting to feel the same way.
- 50:05Speaker 3: But I would like that. I don't even know if
- 50:08Speaker 3: I want marriage per se. I just want like some
- 50:11Speaker 3: real companionship, I think, and a lot of money.
- 50:18Speaker 1: That I mean. Okay, So now.
- 50:22Speaker 5: I guess now you start prioritizing things more because you're
- 50:25Speaker 5: in a hustling phase and you get all the money,
- 50:27Speaker 5: right then you might start focusing even more, like on
- 50:31Speaker 5: relationship and shit like that. Like at what age most
- 50:34Speaker 5: people don't get to the m and shit like that
- 50:37Speaker 5: until right now in the forties. Okay, it's just statistics. Okay,
- 50:45Speaker 5: so most if you're in your twenties and thirties, like
- 50:48Speaker 5: looking at Instagram thinking you behind, you are not, I
- 50:51Speaker 5: promise you. Forties and fifties is when you really focus
- 50:54Speaker 5: and hone in on getting a fucking bag, I promise.
- 50:57Speaker 5: And anybody else is an anomaly, you know what I'm saying.
- 50:59Speaker 5: There's a lot of anomalies right now, but they're fucking scamming.
- 51:03Speaker 4: Okay, right.
- 51:06Speaker 3: And you know, like so, y'all, I told y'all I
- 51:09Speaker 3: was doing like the housing inspections for the hood homes
- 51:13Speaker 3: and the building that we were in was a senior facility. Y'all,
- 51:18Speaker 3: please start putting money into your IRA, Please start saving
- 51:21Speaker 3: for your retirement. I know you're young and you got
- 51:26Speaker 3: the whole life ahead of you, but shit can get
- 51:29Speaker 3: different real fast. Looking at those people, those elderly people
- 51:34Speaker 3: living in these conditions that you know, some were very unfavorable.
- 51:40Speaker 3: It's sad and it ain't got nobody to take care
- 51:43Speaker 3: of them. The money that they get from the government
- 51:46Speaker 3: is not that much and they just living like like
- 51:51Speaker 3: It just makes you realize how important it is to
- 51:54Speaker 3: prepare for your retirement, to prepare for your later season
- 52:00Speaker 3: is a life because ain't nobody gonna take care of
- 52:03Speaker 3: you unless you got children. And sometimes a lot of
- 52:07Speaker 3: those people probably have children too. That's barely trying to
- 52:10Speaker 3: take care of themself. You know, they can't take care
- 52:12Speaker 3: of their parents. So save for that shit.
- 52:16Speaker 4: Baby. I got out there and said, somebody to buy
- 52:18Speaker 4: eye already quick?
- 52:20Speaker 1: Like is it mostly old men?
- 52:24Speaker 5: Because you know they say we we be the ones
- 52:26Speaker 5: dying alone and shit like that, but we know the
- 52:29Speaker 5: old folks.
- 52:30Speaker 1: Homes and hospice be full of men.
- 52:33Speaker 3: It was both. It was women and men. It was,
- 52:37Speaker 3: but honestly, a lot of the women had partners. I
- 52:41Speaker 3: will say that it wasn't a lot of women by theyself.
- 52:45Speaker 3: It was more men by themself. But they were still
- 52:49Speaker 3: living in living in you know, poor as hell together.
- 52:53Speaker 3: Don't sound for either ship, you know, hm hmmm. I mean,
- 53:00Speaker 3: I guess it's nice to have companionship, but as I
- 53:04Speaker 3: was just aspiring to, but I don't want. I don't
- 53:07Speaker 3: like it. Like, just save your money, guys, that's I
- 53:09Speaker 3: would say that. Yeah, it's just getting tough.
- 53:12Speaker 5: I mean, I feel like millennials we got the short
- 53:14Speaker 5: end of the stick, right because we are in uh
- 53:19Speaker 5: mortgage loan debt, college student loan debt, Like you gotta
- 53:26Speaker 5: find you gotta have multiple things you're doing that's generating
- 53:30Speaker 5: income so that you can have the money to invest
- 53:33Speaker 5: in these things and have money to live. It's just
- 53:36Speaker 5: it's tough, right, But that should be at the top
- 53:40Speaker 5: of your priority list, right the future.
- 53:44Speaker 1: The future should be at the top.
- 53:45Speaker 5: I know, I bow shit it for the last decade,
- 53:48Speaker 5: like I did what the fuck I wanted to do,
- 53:51Speaker 5: and now I gotta yeah, because not evenly play ketchup,
- 53:56Speaker 5: cause it ain't like like I mean, it wasn't too
- 53:58Speaker 5: fucking bad.
- 53:59Speaker 1: I was still living.
- 54:00Speaker 5: Yeah, but I'm talking about like investing and thinking about
- 54:05Speaker 5: a kid that I might have, Right, what am I
- 54:08Speaker 5: going to have for them?
- 54:08Speaker 1: Leave for them? Like, yeah, you gotta set that type
- 54:10Speaker 1: of shit.
- 54:11Speaker 5: And my mama got a vanilla fold on all of us, John,
- 54:14Speaker 5: and she got her whole life set up to where
- 54:16Speaker 5: I can just hand somebody some shit.
- 54:20Speaker 1: We're good.
- 54:21Speaker 5: That's how I want. I don't want to have to,
- 54:23Speaker 5: you know, have a kid to having a headache if
- 54:25Speaker 5: I die, Right, that part is what I'm working on
- 54:28Speaker 5: the future.
- 54:29Speaker 1: The future me we half way out of here, who speak,
- 54:35Speaker 1: It was probably gonna let's about ninety five. But that's like,
- 54:38Speaker 1: bitch is halfway. It's fucking halfway.
- 54:42Speaker 4: I'm about to be two hundred and thirty seven years old.
- 54:46Speaker 1: What not?
- 54:46Speaker 5: Just like you will come back, I ain't coming back.
- 54:50Speaker 5: This is my last shit. I'm out of here, man.
- 54:52Speaker 5: This ship is fucking ghetto. I ain't never coming back
- 54:55Speaker 5: to this planet. Fuck fuck Earth. All right, y'all. We
- 55:03Speaker 5: about to get the fuck up out of here.
- 55:04Speaker 1: All right, y'all.
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- 55:29Speaker 3: but we will be at the Podcast Festival in Atlanta, Georgia, Atlanta, Georgia,
- 55:33Speaker 3: excuse me, at Pullman Yards April twenty fifth. Y'all should
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- 55:44Speaker 1: We might be doing so.
- 55:46Speaker 3: We'll see, maybe we create some content with you guys.
- 55:48Speaker 3: Probably should have did a fucking after party.
- 55:51Speaker 4: Oh that would have been fun.
- 55:52Speaker 1: We still got time, bitch. What we doing. We're doing
- 55:56Speaker 1: hour the benefit off the Black Podcast Festival because they don't.
- 56:01Speaker 4: Never have no after party for real, not no real one.
- 56:04Speaker 1: Mm hmmm. You might at looking to do that. We
- 56:06Speaker 1: gotta talk of weeks.
- 56:07Speaker 3: We'll see, all right, y'all. I love y'all. Remember speak now.
- 56:13Speaker 1: And never hold your balance. I don't know bye making
- 56:19Speaker 1: no ship. They know it's bullshit too.
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