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283 - Human Design Centers: The Throat Center · Unshakeable with Human Design - A Human Design For Business Podcast

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  Welcome to Unshakeable with Human Design, the show dedicated to
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  helping entrepreneurs use human design to shift from hustle to
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  flow without sacrificing results.
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  Come here to become an unshakeable human and build an unshakeable business
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  according to your human design.
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  I'm your host, Nicole Laino.
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  Hello and welcome to Unshakeable with Human Design, everybody.
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  I'm your host, Nicole Laino, and we are here today with the final
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  episode in our centers series.
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  I can't believe it's over!
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  I'm so sad!
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  I really enjoyed this.
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  I love these series that we do.
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  We did the Profiles series back a couple of months ago, which
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  got a really great response.
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  And now here we are, ending our little series for the nine Human Design Centers.
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  I can't believe we're done!
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  And today we are going to talk about the throat center.
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  And the reason I left it for last, is because all roads lead to the throat.
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  All of the energy in the human design body graph is all pushing, trying to
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  make its way to the throat center.
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  So it's so crucial and there's no other center like it.
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  There are groups of centers, there's motor centers, there are awareness
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  centers, the magnetic monopole in the g center, and the throat center
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  are in a category of their own.
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  Separately from each other they have this singular focus that is
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  different than all the other centers.
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  There's nobody that goes into a category with them.
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  So the throat center is an essential part of understanding what your
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  strength is and what you're here to do.
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  In the episodes about the other centers, we've talked about understanding
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  undefined versus defined, defined is going to mean that things are fixed,
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  that they are consistent for you.
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  That's who you're here to be.
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  It's energy you're here to transmit.
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  It's energy that you're here to put out into the world.
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  And the white stuff, the undefined stuff, the open stuff is more what you are meant
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  to receive, what you are meant to feel, what you perceive, where you're meant
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  to be a little bit more leaned back.
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  And this center is no different.
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  Defined throat, you're gonna be a little bit more forceful with your communication.
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  Forceful maybe is not the best word, but you're going to be more
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  outward with your communication.
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  You're probably gonna feel like you have confidence.
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  in the way that you speak, or at least you have the potential to feel that.
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  Because the throat center is the center of manifestation, but as we
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  talk about it in human design, the way we mean manifestation, it's not
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  necessarily drawing things to you like we hear manifestation talked
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  about on Instagram and manifestation programs where we're teaching you
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  how to get into the energy of things.
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  That's a different manifestation, but what we're talking about in human design is
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  manifestation as action, as expression.
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  It is the center of communication, but it's the center of outward action, which
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  is why all the energy in the rest of the chart is trying to make its way to
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  the throat in order to be expressed.
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  So if we have an undefined throat, it might feel like our
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  energy wants to be expressed, but doesn't always feel like there's a
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  consistent path to that expression.
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  About 70 percent of the world has the throat center defined.
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  It's the most defined of all the centers.
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  Most people in the world have a defined throat, but there's a
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  minority that has an undefined throat.
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  And they're gonna be the ones who experience this feeling of like,
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  maybe I can or cannot express myself.
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  I can never count on it.
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  And I think it's in some ways one of the easiest to understand that concept because
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  we can understand feeling like you've got the words and you have confidence
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  that the words will be there and then we understand not having that confidence.
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  Now there's other nuances in here as well.
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  Do you have a clear path from your other energy in your chart to your defined
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  throat if you have a defined throat?
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  Do you have an undefined throat where that energy of the throat
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  center is turning on and off?
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  You have it, then you don't.
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  You feel confident in it, because maybe a transit is activating it, or
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  someone walked into the room, or you're around somebody who has their throat
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  center defined or connects to one of your hanging gates in the throat.
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  There are so many ways that you're going to get to feel it.
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  That's why it's inconsistent.
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  That's why it's variable.
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  When we have something undefined, it doesn't mean
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  that you never have it defined.
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  Of course you do.
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  You're guaranteed to at some point.
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  There's going to be channels that get activated in the transits.
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  The sun and the other planets are going to move into different gates.
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  And those gates are going to connect to different gates that you
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  have that connect to your throat.
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  That will give you definition for a certain period of time.
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  All openness can be defined at different times.
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  So you have it, and then you have it when people are around you.
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  And chances are that if you have an undefined throat, you're going
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  to be around people who have a defined throat at some point.
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  The vast majority of the world has a defined throat.
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  So if you live in a house with three people, chances are at least
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  one of them has a defined throat.
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  Doesn't mean all of them.
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  I have two people in my program, they work together.
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  And they both have undefined throats.
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  But they make three throat center connections when they're together,
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  or I think they might even have four connections where four connections
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  are made when they come together.
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  So they have this defined throat when they come together.
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  That's what's so incredible about human design.
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  It tells us why we feel a certain way around certain people.
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  Oh, I feel like I have more access to this.
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  I feel like I can count on this more.
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  That's what definition does, or it's supposed to do,
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  that's what the potential is.
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  That when we're defined somewhere, it gives us the potential to have
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  consistency where we can feel like we can rely on that energy.
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  That's why we are here to be it all the time when we have something defined.
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  But when we have it undefined, it's going to turn on and off so we can feel
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  like we have less confidence there.
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  But that's what this game is about.
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  Because the question always comes up, is it better to have
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  something defined or undefined?
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  And most people think it's better to have it defined.
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  Am I at a disadvantage, or at an advantage to have a defined throat?
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  People typically assume that having an undefined throat means
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  that they are at a disadvantage.
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  And the response I have to that, is always it depends on how you look
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  at it and how you're operating.
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  If you're operating in lack, where you're thinking about how you don't
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  have access to your words, or you don't feel confident, what am I
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  going to say, then you are in the not self of the throat center.
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  I want to get attention.
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  I don't know if I'm going to get attention.
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  Am I going to be able to say it?
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  Are they going to listen to me?
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  Am I going to feel invisible here?
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  Cause the open throat can often feel invisible, can often feel unheard.
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  Even generators and projectors where you don't have the motor to the
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  throat can feel this way at times.
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  I have a lot of people that come into my world and they have defined
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  throats, but they don't feel like they have access to it all the time.
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  Well, what are you putting your focus on?
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  This is what integration is about.
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  This is what it means to start to embody your design and not embody definitions.
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  It's not about understanding.
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  It starts with understanding.
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  That's why I give this away here on my podcast.
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  The understanding part is free.
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  The embodiment part is what people pay me for.
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  Because that's a big, there's a big difference between those two things.
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  And the big difference is the impact it has on your life.
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  Human design is a fascinating thing to learn about.
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  Trust me, I love learning about human design.
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  But it's the living it that changes your life.
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  And in particular for the defined and the undefined throat,
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  understanding what that means.
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  If you have a defined throat, understanding how to work
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  with your defined throat.
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  Me understanding the connections that my throat has, of where my communication
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  power comes from, what I had to surrender to, in actuality, not in my mind, not
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  thoughts, what ways do I communicate?
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  Not just so I know about them, but how can I let myself communicate that way?
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  How can I open that channel?
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  And that's the beauty of what human design shows you.
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  When you start the embodiment process, when you go beyond learning and you step
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  into living, that is where life changes.
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  That's where you're driving the car without thinking about, do
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  I have to turn the wheel here?
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  Do I have to hit the gas?
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  Should I shift gears?
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  What do I do?
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  When you first start driving a car, you're thinking about it.
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  And that's why anyone who's taught a young driver how to drive is like holding
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  on for dear life and worried because they're not one with the car yet, right?
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  They are thinking about, how do I operate this big hunk of machinery?
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  And that's how we are when we first start with human design.
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  We're thinking about it, and we're like, is that my open head?
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  Is that my open throat?
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  She said that my gate 62, that means I need this.
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  That means that I should be focused on details.
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  So, what details do I need to focus on?
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  And it's very rocky when you're driving like that.
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  You really grind in the gears a little bit.
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  It's better than being unaware of everything.
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  But sometimes we get caught in our head.
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  And when we get caught in our head, by definition, we are not in our body.
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  And that is what human design teaches us.
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  How to get into our body.
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  When I was acting, one of the most common notes I used to get from my
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  acting teachers, and they would give it to other people too, during a scene or
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  something, someone would inevitably at some point be told, you're not in your
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  body there, you're thinking about it.
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  You didn't throw away the script, you're thinking about your next line.
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  And everybody can see that.
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  And it's the ones that can throw the script away.
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  The ones that say, screw it.
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  I know what I'm supposed to do and I'm going to let the moment carry me.
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  That's embodiment.
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  I know who the character is.
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  I know pretty much where they're going.
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  I get the intention of the scene.
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  Now my job is to just be so present with what is that I can let go
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  of everything else and trust that everything will take care of itself.
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  That's embodiment.
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  That's being in your body.
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  It's when you feel something bigger carrying you.
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  That's what happens when we surrender to our design versus
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  thinking about it all the time.
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  And with the throat center, I think that this is the one that causes a
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  whole lot of stickiness for people.
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  With defined throats, there's a lot of people holding back.
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  That's a big problem that I see with people with defined throats.
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  A lot of power in the throat, but yet they still feel like they're not able
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  to access it, or they're holding back.
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  They're afraid they're too much, they're afraid they'll say the wrong
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  thing, and then they hold back, and they end up saying nothing.
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  So some of the people who are stuck the most are the ones who
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  are afraid to say the wrong thing.
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  I want to start a podcast, but I'm afraid that I won't know what to say.
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  I'm going to run out of things to say.
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  So they hold back.
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  And then the undefined throats.
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  They just don't have confidence because it's there and it's not.
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  I don't know, will it be there when I need it to be?
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  And what embodiment teaches us, really embodying your design,
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  is getting very present and surrendering to exactly what you are.
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  Exactly what you are.
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  So as an undefined throat, You have a different job.
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  You're not meant to have all the words all the time.
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  You're meant to listen.
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  You're meant to be present.
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  You're meant to feel.
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  You're meant to receive.
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  So I understand that fear of, will I have something to say every time
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  I go to hit record on my podcast?
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  And the answer is yes, if you approach it the right way, you will.
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  As long as you are using the energy that you do have, the consistency
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  that you do have, when you're working with your design the way that you are
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  actually designed, not with some mental construct of how you think it should
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  come out, or how you think you should show up, or what you think it should
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  feel like, be like, or come out like.
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  That's what we teach.
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  It's a different way of life.
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  And honestly, we're being called to a different way of life now.
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  That's why a lot of people are saying, I'm looking for my own authenticity.
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  I want to stand out.
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  I'm looking to live life as an individual and not like everybody else.
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  Why do you think there's been this boom of personal development, people going inward?
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  Because we're being called up to something bigger.
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  And embodiment is a huge piece of that.
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  Because if you keep looking at the outside world, and the outside
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  world is changing so much, you're going to feel really unstable.
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  Because the world is shifting.
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  There's going to be a lot of crazy things that are happening.
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  And if you don't have the power within you, if you're not unshakeable,
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  as I call it, I'm not telling you terrible things are going to happen.
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  It's just not going to be as fun.
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  You're not going to be as able to go through life and enjoy it,
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  because you're worried all the time.
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  Or you feel like you're being turned around, or you can feel like you're
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  being attacked by circumstance.
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  And for those of you who want to coach people, teach people, hold
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  other people, your grounding is more important than anyone's.
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  Because how can you possibly hold somebody if you can't hold yourself?
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  I taught a workshop recently called Activate Your Magnetism, which is
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  all about making the shift from knowing to being, from learning about
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  things to embodying them, and talking to you about how magnetism works.
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  Because magnetism, honestly, it's an overused term that I think it's been a
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  bit bastardized because we've associated it with some of the things that it's not.
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  Magnetism is really about pulling what's correct for us to us.
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  Not necessarily, this is how you make a million dollars.
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  Although you can, if that's right for you, if that's your path.
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  We get to choose certain things, but magnetism is about being in the energy
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  of what you want, but being in the energy of what's right for you and
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  responding to the correct things.
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  Following certain things so that you get what's right for you, that
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  ultimately when we look at it from a human design perspective, it's pulling
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  you on the path to your purpose.
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  You're magnetizing the purpose that you were born to fulfill.
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  And that's really fun.
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  If you want to join that workshop, it is still available for free for a moment
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  and it will be going to a paid workshop.
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  So get in for free while you can.
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  But get in for free while you can.
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  Thank you for making it all the way to the end of this episode.
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  I hope you've enjoyed the series.
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  I hope you enjoyed the episode.
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  Hope this gave you a clearer understanding of your throat center
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  and what your activation is like.
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  And can you tell whether you're in a high expression of your
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  defined or undefined throat?
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  Can you start to feel the difference when different people are around you?
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  All of these things are so interesting to understand.
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  And when you start to feel it, then you start to be it.
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  So I hope you enjoyed this.
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  I hope that this opened up some doors for you.
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  I appreciate you.
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  And remember, in order to have an unshakeable business, you must
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  first become an unshakeable human.
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  So thanks for letting us help you become unshakeable with human design, everybody.
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