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(#39) HOW TO HAVE A DANGEROUSLY MAGNETIC AURA✨Attract Anything You Want · Alignment With Jenn

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  Hello and welcome to the Alignment with Jen podcast.
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  I am your host, Jen Dizzy. And today we're going to be
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  talking all about how to have a magnetic aura and really how to
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  use your aura and your energetic field to attract in the people,
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  opportunities and experiences that you desire.
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  And I'm super excited to share this with you because we're
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  going to look at it through a more spiritual lens as well as
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  through a more energetic and physical lens, as well as well
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  as the psychology behind it. So I think you're going to
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  absolutely love this. And I think that you will walk
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  away with a lot of clarity on really how your energetic field
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  works and how to attract in the things that you want.
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  And I want to start off with a story about Marilyn Monroe.
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  And you might have heard this story before.
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  And it's a story where she's walking down the street and
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  she's walking with one of her friends and nobody is noticing
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  her, right? Nobody's seeing that she's this
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  beautiful, magnetic woman. She is just very, very ordinary.
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  And then she turns to her friend and she says, do you want to see
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  me be come Marilyn Monroe? And the friend is like, oh,
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  yeah, OK, like, not quite sure what she means.
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  And then suddenly she shifts her energy and everyone starts to
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  notice her. Everybody starts to be drawn
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  toward her. And people begin to come up to
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  her. And they're like, oh, my gosh,
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  it's Marilyn Monroe when a couple of minutes before, they
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  didn't even recognize her. And that is the power of your
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  energy. And that is the power of your
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  ability to command your own energy.
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  And this is so, so, so helpful whether you are dating and you
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  want to meet someone, whether you go to a networking event and
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  you want to attract in the right people to you.
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  I have a friend who is really incredibly good at this.
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  And he tells me that he's like, anytime I go to an event, he's
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  like, I'll go into the room and I'll set my intention of I want
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  to attract XY and Z person, whether it's a certain type of
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  person, whether it's a particular person.
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  And he will just set that intention.
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  And then he kind of just leans back into the energy of it.
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  And every single time he attracts in whatever type of
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  person it is that he's trying to call in.
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  And you have that power as well. We all have that power to use
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  our thoughts and our energy to attract things to us.
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  And I know that you've already experienced this on some level,
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  right? When you think about if you go
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  into the grocery store and you are just before that, you've
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  been in your car and you're kind of vibing the music and you go
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  in and you feel really, really good.
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  Cashiers are friendlier. People want to talk to you,
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  right? Babies are looking at you.
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  It's because you're operating from a different energetic
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  frequency. You're commanding your aura,
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  you're commanding your energetic field.
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  And that's what we want to do and that's what I'm going to
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  teach you to do in this episode. So I'm pretty excited about
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  this. I think it's going to be super
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  cool for you. The thing that I want you to
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  understand as well about magnetism is it is it has
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  nothing to do with looks. So we think that the most
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  beautiful people are because they have a certain cemetery and
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  they have a certain la, la, la, la, la, right?
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  Yes, that does make someone beautiful.
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  But there's so much more to magnetism than just physical
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  beauty. Robert Green talks a lot about
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  seduction, and he has a whole book on it.
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  And he said he's like, typically the most seductive people are
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  not the most attractive people because seduction, attraction,
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  magnetism is all about your energy and how you're showing up
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  and the thoughts and the emotions that you are emitting.
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  Another important thing to know about magnetism, it is, it is,
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  it is not about being the loudest person in the the room.
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  You could literally be completely silent, completely
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  leaned back in your chair and be drawing people to you, being
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  drawing opportunities to you by getting so much coherence in
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  your energetic field. It is also not about chasing.
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  So typically when we are in the mode of chasing, we're actually
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  repelling, right? Think about a deer being chased
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  by a hunter. That is the chase is actually
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  repelling the thing that is wanted.
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  And so when we want to be magnetic, it's about drawing
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  things to US versus going out and trying to make things
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  happen. They're very, very different
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  energies. Your aura.
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  When I say aura, what I mean is your energetic field.
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  And this can be very woo woo, but it also is very scientific
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  and that they can actually measure your aura.
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  They can measure the energetic field around the body.
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  And one of the biggest energetic fields around the body is the
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  result of what is happening within your heart.
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  So our heart has the strongest electromagnetic field around our
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  body and scientists have actually measured it up to five
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  feet away from the body. Can you imagine that someone 5
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  feet away can unconsciously feel what emotions you are feeling,
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  especially if that person is present, right?
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  Not all up in their own business, but they're actually
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  present. They can really feel what you're
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  feeling. And when you begin to use that
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  power by learning to tune into certain frequencies within your
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  heart, you become significantly more magnetic.
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  So I think that's super, super, super cool.
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  Essentially, the way to kind of think about it is when your
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  aura, your energy field is coherent.
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  What I mean by coherent is, is it is creating a smooth
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  frequency, right? Like think of really calm waves
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  in the ocean. When it is creating a frequency
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  like that, then it is going to be much more attractive to
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  people. We unconsciously will feel it
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  within our own energy fields, right?
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  There's something called neurocoregulation that when we
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  are around someone else, we are actually tuning into their
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  nervous system. And the reason some people can
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  feel very, very exhausting to be around is because their nervous
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  system is all chaotic. And so when we're around them,
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  we're like trying to regulate. And it takes a lot more energy
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  to regulate around somebody who's super chaotic than
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  somebody who is at peace. You know those people who I
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  always think of them as like Jacuzzi people.
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  Like they feel like just being in a warm Jacuzzi because
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  they're so calm. They're so, so peaceful.
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  I think of my friend Alicia. She's really, really calm and I
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  love being around her. And it's because her nervous
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  system is very calm. There's those two different
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  pieces within the nervous system, and one of the ways that
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  you can start to create this more magnetic aura is simply
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  before you enter a room, just placing your hands on your heart
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  and focusing on your heart space and drawing the energy into your
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  heart, calming your breathing. What you are doing is you're
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  actually creating a calm field around your body and people can
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  feel that. People can feel that in the
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  words you say, in your ability to be present, in your eye
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  contact, and they can feel it even if they're not looking at
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  you. Someone can have their back to
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  you and they can feel that field.
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  They may not be aware. Most people are not aware that
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  we can feel at this level because most people haven't
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  practiced feeling into it, but they can feel it on some
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  unconscious level and it can create this magnetism.
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  So that's kind of the foundation of this magnetism is the
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  coherence of your field. So very coherent emotions are
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  things like love, appreciation, gratitude, just feeling very
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  present in your body. One of the ways that I recommend
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  to get really present in your body is just focus on the
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  sensations of your body of how it actually feels to be in your
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  body. So much of the time we're up
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  here in the beta, right? We're like thinking and planning
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  and organizing and problem solving when we can actually
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  drop our energy. And you can consciously imagine
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  yourself dropping your energy into your heart space and
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  feeling into that and feeling what that feels like.
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  Noticing your breath, right? I call it following the journey
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  of the breath, noticing how it feels to breathe in and calm
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  down your nervous system. When you do that before the next
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  event that you go to, say you're going to a dinner, say you're
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  going to a party, whatever it might be, but get yourself into
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  that really coherent state. And it doesn't necessarily have
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  to be relaxed, right? If you're going to go out and
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  you're going to go to a party that's loud and there's a lot
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  going on, there's a possibility of you being in a coherent,
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  relatively calm state while also being in a lot of joy and peace
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  and happiness, right? The two can coexist.
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  And I, I know you've probably felt that before.
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  So it's not necessarily just this meditative state.
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  It's a positive high frequency emotion and it's getting less in
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  our head and more into feeling into our field.
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  And the thing that I think is incredibly cool about this is
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  what research has shown is that we will unconsciously sync up
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  and be drawn to very coherent signals.
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  So this is often times why certain people will rise through
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  the ranks of leadership because they are able to be calm under
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  stress, right? I think of an old boss that I
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  used to have. I honestly wasn't even sure what
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  he did most of the time, but he was always so calm and he would
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  just sit in his office and like sit back and think and he would
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  just think and think. But he was very, very, very calm
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  and regulated. And when something would kind of
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  go crazy at the company, he was always calm and regulated,
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  right? And he's always done very well
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  in his career. And I think part of that is
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  because when things were going crazy, everyone looked to him,
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  right? And we see this, we see this
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  when things start to go a little chaotic, we look to the person
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  who is the most certain and the most regulated.
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  And this is not just because they're certain and regulated.
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  It's literally because we are energetically drawn to that
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  person. They're holding a certain form
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  of magnetism. So I personally am like, that's
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  the coolest thing ever. I think it's so cool.
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  That's kind of the first piece of this magnetism equation.
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  And I, I really think that's actually the most important
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  piece, but I want to give you some more pieces to the puzzle
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  as well. The second piece is our
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  reticular activating system, which is part of our mind and
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  it's really the part of our mind that takes in all of the
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  information and then filters it down so we become aware of what
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  we deem important. It'll essentially throw away,
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  not really throw away, but it won't make you aware of anything
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  that doesn't seem important. So if you are in a state of I
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  need attention, I want attention, I want people to like
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  me. I hope these people like me.
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  What you are going to be filtering your reality by is I
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  hope these people like me. That's not a very powerful
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  magnetic frequency, right? We can kind of feel it when we
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  meet someone and we're like, oh God, I feel like that person
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  like wants something from me, right?
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  This is why some people get icked out by salespeople is
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  because some salespeople really feel like they want something
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  from you. And we feel that and we don't
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  like it. But if you go into a situation
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  with these fears around, I hope people like me.
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  I hope that they want to connect with me.
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  Oh my gosh, I hope that my date likes me.
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  Unconsciously, they feel that. But what also happens is we
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  unconsciously filter that interaction for looking for
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  clues that they either like us or that they don't like us
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  rather than just being present, right?
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  Rather than filtering that interaction of I'm so happy to
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  be here, I can't wait to see who I interact with.
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  I'm excited to see what I can share with these people.
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  I'm excited to see what I learned from these people that
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  I'm meeting with. Right.
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  It's a very different frequency than trying to receive
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  something. And our mind is actually
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  filtering that situation in a very, very, very different way.
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  So when you think about being magnetic, you've got to think
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  about what are the beliefs that you're starting from that are
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  determining whether or not people are attracted to you.
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  Because I know that we've all seen incredibly, incredibly
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  beautiful people, men or women. I actually can think of 1
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  specifically. I was at an event and this man
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  was so attractive. He was beautiful.
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  It was like nobody wanted to be around him because his aura was
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  so closed. He was like not really making
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  any conversation with people. He was very much in his head,
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  right? It didn't matter how attractive
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  he was. It mattered that whatever was
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  going on in his belief system, right?
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  And whatever he was filtering reality by, we all felt it.
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  Notice what do you believe about yourself when you go into these
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  social situations? When you go into situations
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  where you want to feel magnetic, the most powerful thing you can
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  believe is just I am magnetic. People want to know me, people
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  want to be around me. People are attracted to me.
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  People like having conversations with me and I like having
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  conversations with them. One of the most attractive
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  things that we can do, the most magnetic, is actually just to be
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  genuinely curious and interested in other people, right?
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  When we have high warmth and we have high interest in other
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  people and we're curious about them, then people are drawn to
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  us naturally. We don't have to perform.
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  We don't have to make them think anything, right?
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  And we can feel that unconsciously, even if we don't
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  realize it. So this is a really interesting
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  one as well. So when we think about
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  magnetism, a lot of it is happening on a very, very micro,
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  very tiny timescale. So what science has shown is
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  that micro expressions, there are expressions that we make
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  that occur in 125th of a second. So it's literally like one tiny,
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  tiny, tiny frame of what we're experiencing.
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  People can have a flicker of an emotion, and that flicker of an
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  emotion shows their underlying beliefs, their underlying
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  thought processes. This is why you can meet someone
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  and you can just be like, I don't know why, but I feel kind
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  of uncomfortable about this person.
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  Part of that's their energy and part of that is we unconsciously
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  pick up on these micro expressions that are happening
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  in a tiny fraction of a second that we could never consciously
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  see, right? We're not going to consciously
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  be like, Oh my gosh, I picked up on this incongruence in that
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  125th of a second. But our subconscious mind is,
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  our subconscious mind notices every single thing, right?
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  This 125th of a second is part of that 99% of what's going on
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  that our mind is filtering. And so when we feel emotions of
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  shame, anxiety, doubt, fear, people are picking up on those
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  on a very, very micro level, even if they're not consciously
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  realizing it, right? It just might unconsciously
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  'cause people to not be as drawn to us.
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  So if we want to attract and we want to become more magnetic,
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  again, it goes back to what I shared earlier of understanding
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  those beliefs and rewiring them at that deeper level, right?
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  That deeper unconscious level. That is what I work on within my
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  larger programs. So if you want to begin to work
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  on those deeper beliefs, so that way you feel confident, you feel
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  magnetic, you feel like you can show up as that best version of
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  yourself and ultimately attract a reality that matches that.
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  Then just send me the word podcast on Instagram at
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  alignment with Jen, and then I'll send you a little video
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  about that program and you can see if it's a fit for you
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  thinking about those micro expressions.
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  And I think it's also helpful for you to just think about them
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  in terms of the interactions, things that you have as well
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  with other people. Because I think sometimes it's
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  very easy for us to be like, oh, I don't know, I just, I don't
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  really trust her, but I don't have a good reason why.
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  So maybe I'll just see if it works out right or this guy
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  makes me feel a little uncomfortable.
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  But I don't want to be judgmental.
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  So I will just kind of ignore it.
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  But what we're ignoring is actually all of this
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  subconscious information that we don't consciously know about,
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  but we know about on a deeper level.
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  There's a book, This book, honestly, I think it changed my
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  life. It's called The Gift of Fear and
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  it is written by, I believe he's an FBI investigator.
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  It's been honestly probably 2 decades.
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  I read it when I was like 10 as I read it a really long time
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  ago. And I, I never forgot it.
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  But there's this story in it of this woman who she goes to her
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  apartment building and she lives in New York.
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  And so she has to buzz into the apartment and she gets there and
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  there's this man standing outside.
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  And this man is just like kind of waiting there.
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  And he's like, oh, hi. And he starts talking to her.
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  And she's like, I immediately felt uncomfortable, right?
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  Because she's unconsciously picking up on all these subtle
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  cues, these subtle micro expressions, his energy that's
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  so easy to ignore. But she wanted to be polite, so
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  she let him into the building because he was like, oh, you
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  know, I just, I lost my key or whatever it was, whatever his
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  excuse was. Then he gets in the elevator
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  with her and he stands by the buttons and he's like, oh, what
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  floor are you on? And she's like, oh, fifth floor.
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  And he's like, oh, me too. She is feeling more
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  uncomfortable. And she's carrying two big bags
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  of groceries. And he keeps insisting on
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  letting him carry one of those groceries.
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  He's like, oh, don't worry about it.
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  I'll get it. I'll get it, I'll get it.
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  Let me take it to your door for you.
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  And he keeps pushing her and she feels very uncomfortable, but
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  she's ignoring it because she doesn't want to be rude.
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  And then what happens is he ends up going into her apartment, he
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  assaults her. She ends up being OK, she lives.
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  But the gift of fear is that we are unconsciously picking up on
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  all of these cues, negative cues, right, that are things
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  that we don't want to be around other people for and want to
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  protect ourselves from, but also positive cues that create this
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  magnetism. So it goes in both directions,
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  and you can use your ability to unconsciously communicate things
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  to people, to magnetize the things that you want right
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  through your energy, through your micro expressions.
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  And those micro expressions are a result of our unconscious
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  programming. They're a result of what do I
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  believe about myself? What do I believe about other
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  people on a deeper level. And so as you do this rewiring
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  work, that's just an added benefit.
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  The last piece I want to talk about in terms of magnetism is
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  more of the spiritual perspective.
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  So one of the spiritual traditions that I really love is
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  Kabbalah. And something Kabbalah teaches
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  is that essentially our soul is a vessel for the light, the
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  light of the Creator. And when we receive that light,
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  the light is actually the things that we want to manifest, right?
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  So it could be confidence, it could be happiness, it could be
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  peace, it could be abundance. That's what the light is, right?
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  The light of the Creator has everything that we want.
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  And when we grow and we expand our vessel, we are able to hold
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  more light and we grow and we expand our vessel through the
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  healing that we do through the unconscious programming that we
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  change. And that makes us more magnetic.
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  So something that Kabbalah talks about is that the most magnetic
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  people are the people who are whole and complete on their own.
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  They're not the people who need and want something from someone
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  else, right? They're they're not the ones
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  that are chasing and trying to make things happen.
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  They're the ones that can kind of sit back and draw things to
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  them because they know that they are whole and complete on their
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  own. That wholeness, that
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  completeness comes from your connection to your creator, to
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  God, whatever you want to call it.
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  But that connection is what allows you to feel the most
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  whole. And when we are seeking outside
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  of ourself, right, when we're seeking attention, when we're
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  seeking approval, we are not reflecting wholeness.
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  We're unconsciously communicating.
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  I need this from you in order for me to be okay.
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  And that's showing a lack on our own part.
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  But when we cultivate that relationship with something
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  greater than ourselves, we lean back and we know our needs are
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  met. We know that we are attracting
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  in what we need and we don't need to chase.
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  And truthfully, I think that is the most magnetic piece, right?
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  Yes. There's all the science that
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  goes with it. And it's so fun to think about
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  it. And the thing that really makes
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  our aura the most magnetic is when we know that we are whole
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  and complete and we have this deep belief in ourselves that we
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  are worthy regardless of whatever anyone else is
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  reflecting back to us. That also enacts the law of
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  attraction, right? When we believe we are whole,
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  when we believe that we are complete, when we believe that
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  we are attracting and everything that we need and that our needs
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  will always be met, guess what? The law of attraction is going
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  to reflect back to us. It's going to bring other people
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  into our lives who are whole. It's going to bring experiences
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  that reflect back to us. Our wholeness like will always
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  attract light. So I hope that you very much
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  enjoyed this episode. I hope that you got some really
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  interesting good Nuggets from it.
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  And I think the easiest place for you to start is really just
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  begin with that heart centered breathing, right?
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  The more that we can drop into our heart and just really feel
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  into that energy field within our body, the more that we start
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  to feel whole, the more that we start to feel complete and the
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  more that we begin to attract that and become magnetic on an
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  unconscious, effortless level. And if you would like support
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  with this, this is all of the kinds of things.
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  This is like a little micro piece of what I do inside my
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  larger programs. So if you want information on
• 20:56
  that, send me the word podcast on Instagram at alignment with
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  Jen and I will send you a 5 minute video about that.
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  All right, bye.