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Episode #279: Feel It to Heal It · Tea Time w/Amie & Bev

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  Speaker 1: Hi, everybody, Welcome to tea sign with Amy and Bev.
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  Speaker 2: Hello, top of the day to you the top of
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  Speaker 2: the day.
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  Speaker 3: I'm gonna let you run with that.
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  Speaker 4: It's good with me.
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  Speaker 1: I'm a lot of moving pieces right now in my
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  Speaker 1: head and uh, all good. So, but I know you
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  Speaker 1: have a huge transitioning happening, so want to hear all
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  Speaker 1: about it.
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  Speaker 2: And it's kind of crazy because to start off the transition,
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  Speaker 2: I got a call for my daughter Thursday morning. Friday
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  Speaker 2: morning was Friday morning, and her cat took a turn
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  Speaker 2: and we had to take him to the bet and
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  Speaker 2: send him on his.
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  Speaker 1: All right, so we're starting this off right away.
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  Speaker 2: I'll go through your repeat, take it to the vet
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  Speaker 2: and and we facilitated him leaving this physical body and
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  Speaker 2: going to what crossed the rainbow bridge. So they say so,
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  Speaker 2: But it's interesting because it's a transitional phase. This cat
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  Speaker 2: is a cat that she had in her life that
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  Speaker 2: was with her boyfriend at the time that's no longer
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  Speaker 2: with us, and that was the last cat. She also
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  Speaker 2: had this cat with when Dad was there. There's so
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  Speaker 2: much emotions that are coming through for her feeling right now.
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  Speaker 3: And I say that because a lot of the stuff.
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  Speaker 2: You know, we lose people in our lives and I
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  Speaker 2: say that loosely, but they leave their physical bodies and
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  Speaker 2: then cats and animals do too, and it's it helps
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  Speaker 2: to facilitate our growth. All this stuff is happening for us.
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  Speaker 2: And it's because it's like we're it's opening up in
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  Speaker 2: revealing wounds that we didn't know were there.
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  Speaker 3: So it's and allowing this emotion to come through.
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  Speaker 2: And it's so awesome because my granddaughter is is like
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  Speaker 2: that's her daughter is like.
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  Speaker 3: Totally walking around.
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  Speaker 2: I could hear my daughter talking to me on box
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  Speaker 2: and then I hear my granddaughter she's walking around the house.
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  Speaker 2: She's crying and she doesn't understand why he can't just
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  Speaker 2: be home. She tried to stop him from leaving the house,
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  Speaker 2: like no, you can't take him. And Ariana explained everything
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  Speaker 2: to him, and she's explained a lot of stuff to him.
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  Speaker 2: And she also said, which I thought was so freaking awesome,
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  Speaker 2: is because most of us don't do this. Is note
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  Speaker 2: because Vivy said to her, well, do I have enough
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  Speaker 2: money for us to go get another kitten?
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  Speaker 3: You know?
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  Speaker 2: In her because we think that that's gonna solve our problem.
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  Speaker 2: That's gonna stop the hurt, right, we want to stop
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  Speaker 2: the hurt, but it's okay to fill the hurt.
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  Speaker 3: And then the Arianna says, no, we're gonna go through this.
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  Speaker 2: We're gonna feel this, and it's gonna suck a little bit,
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  Speaker 2: but she says, we're gonna feel these emotions. And I thought,
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  Speaker 2: how honorable, how amazing to teach your daughter.
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  Speaker 4: That that's awesome.
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  Speaker 3: And she says, we'll just go through it together.
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  Speaker 2: So they're walking around the house and they might be crying,
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  Speaker 2: or one of them might not be crying. Any other
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  Speaker 2: one is crying, so they're having a This is healing,
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  Speaker 2: this is the process. And then it's like and amidst
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  Speaker 2: all this, my last day for work was Friday, so
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  Speaker 2: it's that other part of the transition.
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  Speaker 3: What does it look like? I don't know yet right now.
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  Speaker 2: So it looks like someone throw up a bunch of
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  Speaker 2: colors in my office in my office I'm sitting in.
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  Speaker 3: Right now because I've moved everything from there.
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  Speaker 2: A lot of it's in my office here, and then
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  Speaker 2: a lot of it's been put into different places until
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  Speaker 2: I can sort through it. But it's just it's a
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  Speaker 2: fascinating space. It's all of it's kind of fun, and
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  Speaker 2: it's like it happens so fast. Like I always tell
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  Speaker 2: people when things are when things are meant to go
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  Speaker 2: in a certain direction, they just happened so fast. And
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  Speaker 2: leading up to it, I was a little bit scared,
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  Speaker 2: a little bit worried, a little bit excited. I had
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  Speaker 2: all these emotions that were coming through. But I just
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  Speaker 2: sat with the emotions, just like my daughter is doing
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  Speaker 2: with her daughter, which is so amazing.
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  Speaker 4: And that's what I was gonna say.
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  Speaker 1: I would like to kind of stay on this topic
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  Speaker 1: because it's super important for people to understand that is
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  Speaker 1: is it the door closes for one for another door
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  Speaker 1: to open, That other door can also open while you're
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  Speaker 1: in the middle of other things.
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  Speaker 4: However, when you decide to.
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  Speaker 1: Finally close a door because you're ready to walk through
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  Speaker 1: a new one, there's still going to be some some.
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  Speaker 3: Grief.
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  Speaker 1: There's going to feel a sense of loss, a shift
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  Speaker 1: of what was known to the unknown.
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  Speaker 4: There's going to.
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  Speaker 1: Be this energy emotional experience that's that's gonna it's best
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  Speaker 1: if we sit with it and allow that to that
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  Speaker 1: grieving process, no matter how big or small it is.
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  Speaker 1: And the idea that, you know, this change of the
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  Speaker 1: loss of a cat that was a family member and
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  Speaker 1: it's been around for years and now it's not there.
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  Speaker 1: I love that is teaching her kids. No, we're gonna
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  Speaker 1: sit with this because even as adults. I just talked
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  Speaker 1: to a lady the other day who has her her
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  Speaker 1: kids are. She has twins and they just turned They
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  Speaker 1: just graduated and one is went off to college out
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  Speaker 1: of town. The other one's still at home. But in
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  Speaker 1: the middle of that, she lost her younger sister and
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  Speaker 1: then to transitioning. And I was talking to her. I said, well,
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  Speaker 1: she goes, I'm just really concerned about my mom losing
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  Speaker 1: a child and blah blah blah, And it's like, how
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  Speaker 1: are you doing, Like you have a lot going on too,
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  Speaker 1: how are you doing? She goes, You know, with everything happening,
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  Speaker 1: I just I don't feel like she goes. I feel
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  Speaker 1: really heavy, but I don't feel like I've really processed anything.
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  Speaker 1: And that's what we do when we're in the middle
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  Speaker 1: of a lot of things going on. We are in
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  Speaker 1: survival mode. We're just doing what we need to do
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  Speaker 1: to get through whatever it is that's going on. But
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  Speaker 1: we tend to forget also that once we get through
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  Speaker 1: some of these things, that we've got to sit and
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  Speaker 1: let our body, let our nervous system release whatever it
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  Speaker 1: is we've been storing and ignoring. Oh I love that.
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  Speaker 4: Storing and ignoring.
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  Speaker 1: That's a new tagline.
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  Speaker 3: It's nice. I like it, and it's so it's it's
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  Speaker 3: what we've been doing. A lot of people have been
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  Speaker 3: doing it.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, and so even for you, you know you're ending a chapter,
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  Speaker 1: we'll sit with that.
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  Speaker 4: How does that feel to you?
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  Speaker 1: How is that you know you're not going to be
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  Speaker 1: seeing certain people on a regular basis. Maybe it's feeling
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  Speaker 1: it's exciting, You're elated about it because this was an
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  Speaker 1: opportunity to help them shift in a different.
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  Speaker 4: Path, right, find.
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  Speaker 1: Other tools or whatever that might be for them, or
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  Speaker 1: develops a different kind of relationship of connection where you're
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  Speaker 1: coaching them in a different way, not through massage, or
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  Speaker 1: it's you're on a whole new path. Who knows, right, So,
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  Speaker 1: but still, it's all the emotional energy that sitting there
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  Speaker 1: and we haven't done anything with it, and it just
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  Speaker 1: keeps sitting there, and then at some point something triggers
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  Speaker 1: us and we just feel like we're losing our mind
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  Speaker 1: because we go into this maybe a depression or just
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  Speaker 1: a super heaviness of sadness, and then.
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  Speaker 4: We don't understand why.
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  Speaker 1: Well, it's because we just keep compounding all these experiences.
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  Speaker 1: They're creating this emotional heaviness and we're not processing it.
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  Speaker 1: So I think that's, ah, kudos to her. I mean,
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  Speaker 1: if there could have been anything else you would have
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  Speaker 1: said today, that's that just.
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  Speaker 4: Lights my heart up.
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  Speaker 1: That she's like, we are not going to try to
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  Speaker 1: fill avoid before we process how we're feeling. Right, Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: And I want so many adults to hear that.
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  Speaker 4: Stop trying to fill the void.
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  Speaker 1: Stay busy, keep going, stay in survival mode, and not
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  Speaker 1: let your gets your nervous system. And this is what
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  Speaker 1: people don't understand. It's like, no, I just got to
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  Speaker 1: keep going because if I stay busy, then I'll forget it.
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  Speaker 4: Your body's not forgetting it.
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  Speaker 1: Your body is storing that, and your nervous system is
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  Speaker 1: like it's like an earthquake inside. It is just a
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  Speaker 1: shaking going on.
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  Speaker 5: And then you do things, say things, and you're just
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  Speaker 5: react to things and you wonder why you're doing that
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  Speaker 5: because your body's.
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  Speaker 1: Like listen, bitch, I just can't take none, no more
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  Speaker 1: of your stuff.
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  Speaker 3: We got to release some of this. And then you
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  Speaker 3: think about the earthquake.
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  Speaker 2: When we have the experiences of these traumas now are
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  Speaker 2: neutral might look a little bit different, and so you
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  Speaker 2: might still be in that what you think is neutral,
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  Speaker 2: but now you're carrying that earthquake with you. You're like
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  Speaker 2: you're still having the earthquake. And so you don't ever change,
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  Speaker 2: You don't ever switch. And it's so helpful. So I
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  Speaker 2: know all these things to do, but I never I
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  Speaker 2: have the statist sit with those fillings for myself leaving
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  Speaker 2: my office, I have I've tuned into Ariana, and I
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  Speaker 2: can as soon as I tune into.
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  Speaker 3: Her, I can feel the heartbreak.
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  Speaker 2: And so I'll feel the emotion for her a little
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  Speaker 2: bit and then and then I kind of step up
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  Speaker 2: a step away because I don't want to be This
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  Speaker 2: is her process.
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  Speaker 3: It's not for me to take it. It's for her
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  Speaker 3: to process.
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  Speaker 2: It, for her to walk this walk. But it's I
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  Speaker 2: had to do that when when my husband passed, and
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  Speaker 2: so when he had passed away, I didn't do anything
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  Speaker 2: for a whole month, and people would say, oh, you
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  Speaker 2: just need to get back into work, you need to.
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  Speaker 3: Do this, you need to do that.
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  Speaker 2: And I understood that because I'm a person when something
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  Speaker 2: happens and I don't know how to.
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  Speaker 3: Work. The way I work through things is cleaning my house.
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  Speaker 2: That's all just all of a sudden dive into working,
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  Speaker 2: so distraction instead of just sitting.
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  Speaker 3: In there and feeling the fillings.
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  Speaker 2: But during that time, I couldn't do anything else, and
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  Speaker 2: I knew at that time that I needed to set
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  Speaker 2: with these emotions.
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  Speaker 3: I needed to sit, and I was in that space
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  Speaker 3: for a couple of years. Actually, So you.
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  Speaker 2: Talk about the earthquake and then it's like that was
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  Speaker 2: the earthquake, And so if I knew, zero point was
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  Speaker 2: a different zero point because it was from all this
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  Speaker 2: loss and all this other emotional feelings and regrets and grief,
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  Speaker 2: and the grief was my grief. I mean, honestly, it was.
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  Speaker 2: It was it was all my doings. It was the
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  Speaker 2: stuff that was bringing brought up to me for my
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  Speaker 2: own decisions and choices and just how I was showing
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  Speaker 2: up in life.
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  Speaker 3: And I will say that I showed up the best
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  Speaker 3: way that I could.
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  Speaker 2: But at the time I was walking through this place,
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  Speaker 2: you know, and it took me a long time to
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  Speaker 2: get to where I'm at right.
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  Speaker 1: Now, pausing for a second.
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  Speaker 2: A gateway for it. It was just a catalyst to
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  Speaker 2: help me express all those things. It didn't it didn't stop,
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  Speaker 2: you know, it didn't ever go away because my my,
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  Speaker 2: my neutral, my zero point was a different zero point,
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  Speaker 2: and now it's a totally different point.
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  Speaker 3: Now it's I'm in a different.
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  Speaker 2: Space, although old patterns are coming forward because now I've
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  Speaker 2: got I'm overwhelmed because there's so much stuff in my
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  Speaker 2: office and I'm not sure what I'm gonna do with
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  Speaker 2: all with with all the some of the stuff, I
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  Speaker 2: just got to.
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  Speaker 3: Look at it differently.
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  Speaker 2: So yesterday I was like so excited it also because
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  Speaker 2: I was like, okay, Angel was like, I don't know
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  Speaker 2: what to do with all this stuff and the way
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  Speaker 2: I'm approaching it, I can't move forward. I'm stuck, so
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  Speaker 2: going out and asking for help. And then they started presenting, well.
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  Speaker 3: What if you did this, and wouldn't that be fun?
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  Speaker 2: You know, like it's just different things for coming forward,
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  Speaker 2: and I thought, well, that's a great idea. And then
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  Speaker 2: also I'm gonna go back to Vivvy walking around the
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  Speaker 2: house and crying.
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  Speaker 3: Like I would call. I would be talking to her
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  Speaker 3: and I would hear Biby crying.
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  Speaker 2: And stuff like that, and talking. She's talking out loud
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  Speaker 2: to herself. I recently was outside and I've been doing
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  Speaker 2: it now on regular practice. People think it's weird to
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  Speaker 2: talk to yourself, and we've talked about this a long
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  Speaker 2: time ago, but now I recognize when we're talking to ourselves.
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  Speaker 2: When I'm walking around outside and I'm talking to myself,
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  Speaker 2: my mind is presenting something and my higher self is
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  Speaker 2: responding to whatever I present. So it's like I'll start
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  Speaker 2: saying this stuff out loud, and then I'll be like, oh, okay,
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  Speaker 2: we think that that's all weird, like oh, that person's
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  Speaker 2: talking to themselves. No, this is how we work our
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  Speaker 2: way through so much stuff. This is the part. This
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  Speaker 2: is part of a process. It's so important getting to
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  Speaker 2: know yourself. It's talking to yourself. This is the most
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  Speaker 2: important person in your whole life. And we don't realize that,
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  Speaker 2: but we've got to stop and look at that.
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  Speaker 3: And it's it's a.
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  Speaker 2: It's not always easy, but it is. And then it's
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  Speaker 2: like not even cared about who's around. I had someone
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  Speaker 2: telling me yesterday because we were kind of talking about
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  Speaker 2: this and she says, yeah.
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  Speaker 3: She says, well, she said I saw a post about that.
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  Speaker 2: Recently, and she said, yeah, I kind of quite doing
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  Speaker 2: that when I walked to our own Walmart because I
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  Speaker 2: was getting looked that funny and I thought, oh, that's hilarious,
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  Speaker 2: Like that's hilarious.
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  Speaker 3: But it's just such a natural thing.
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  Speaker 2: And for me it wasn't natural, but it's comfortable.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, and you can use that tool to help you
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  Speaker 3: process your grief exactly as Viby is doing.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, good friend, how old is she?
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  Speaker 3: She's uh, six six?
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  Speaker 1: She had a six year old little girl walking around
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  Speaker 1: crying and talking out loud about whatever her words are.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know so, but.
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  Speaker 3: She just doesn't understand. I don't understand why can't he
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  Speaker 3: just be here?
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  Speaker 1: So maybe maybe Grandma says he is here always.
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  Speaker 2: That's what Arianna says, you know, that's what she's saying
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  Speaker 2: to her too. But it's it's the same, but it is,
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  Speaker 2: and it's and then I go through my own parts,
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  Speaker 2: so it's like it's like sitting with this stuff. Because
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  Speaker 2: then I felt like, well, I should just go into
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  Speaker 2: town and go over and see Vivy and see how
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  Speaker 2: she's doing. But it's like, no, I need I'm not
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  Speaker 2: being called upon. This is something for them to work through.
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  Speaker 2: So it's not something that I need to fix, because
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  Speaker 2: that's that fixer in me. But from where I'm at
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  Speaker 2: right here, I can send lots of love I can't
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  Speaker 2: And which what does that help me do? It helps
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  Speaker 2: me to focus on my heart. So now it's not
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  Speaker 2: in the doing phase that I would typically want to
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  Speaker 2: go into. It's from the if I have to put
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  Speaker 2: my hand on my heart to remind myself, or I
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  Speaker 2: point at my heart, or I just think about now, okay,
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  Speaker 2: I want to operate through my heart.
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  Speaker 3: And so that's what I've been doing.
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  Speaker 2: That helps me walk through these processes with myself and
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  Speaker 2: then everybody else.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah. Also, yeah, and that the if mom was.
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  Speaker 1: To choose your daughter was to choose to go buy
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  Speaker 1: a kitten, then that would just be being a fixer
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  Speaker 1: to her daughter's emotional discomfort. And so then that the
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  Speaker 1: teaching point is when we experience this emotion, this is
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  Speaker 1: what this is how we fix it, instead of when
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  Speaker 1: we feel this emotion, this is how we process it.
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  Speaker 1: So I hope people can hear that I was sitting
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  Speaker 1: with a lady.
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  Speaker 4: We went to a.
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  Speaker 1: Celebration of life yesterday and it was a pretty good
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  Speaker 1: group of people there. But afterwards, one of the ladies
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  Speaker 1: that was there, her and I were going to have
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  Speaker 1: lunch and going to see a play, and she was
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  Speaker 1: on the fence about staying. She felt bad about leaving
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  Speaker 1: because it wasn't over yet and all this stuff. And
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  Speaker 1: then she's she talked to some people that she had
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  Speaker 1: known who.
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  Speaker 4: Were part of our history, and it triggered.
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  Speaker 1: Some emotions in her because she her husband passed.
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  Speaker 4: Earlier this year, and.
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  Speaker 1: It triggered the emotions in her because of the experiences
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  Speaker 1: she had with this couple that were very significant in
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  Speaker 1: her life years past, and she was like talking about it.
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  Speaker 1: Her and I went to lunch and she was talking
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  Speaker 1: about it and she's getting emotional and she's like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: I'm so sorry, I'm so emotional.
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  Speaker 3: Baah.
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  Speaker 1: Like listen, there's no timeframe, and that's just that's the
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  Speaker 1: beauty about transitioning, about having new experiences, about closing one
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  Speaker 1: door walking through another. There's no timeframe on how long
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  Speaker 1: you grieve. And I think people have heard this over
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  Speaker 1: and over and over, but when that emotion again, Like
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  Speaker 1: you said, you never know when that emotion is going
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  Speaker 1: to come up and surface you. You could be standing
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  Speaker 1: in the grocery store and look at a can of
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  Speaker 1: soup and just start bawling. Right, it's so random, But
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  Speaker 1: it's because that cand of soup triggered a.
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  Speaker 4: Memory in you.
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  Speaker 1: And and and she's just apologized. I said, don't apologize.
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  Speaker 1: There's nothing to be sorry for. There's no time frame.
• 17:00
  Speaker 1: I said, it's still even very fresh to you that
• 17:03
  Speaker 1: this has happened. And it's yeah, stop apologizing for your
• 17:09
  Speaker 1: emotional experience. If you are triggered in some way because
• 17:13
  Speaker 1: of something that has happened, just let the emotion flow,
• 17:18
  Speaker 1: is what I want to want people to hear. So
• 17:21
  Speaker 1: can we just run through some things, kind of reiterate
• 17:26
  Speaker 1: some tools to help people that we've talked about. Maybe
• 17:29
  Speaker 1: there's something else, and then we'll wrap this up.
• 17:33
  Speaker 2: Yeah, therapeutically walking, you know, that's going outside, getting outdoors, walking,
• 17:40
  Speaker 2: going to the gym, working out. But that for me
• 17:42
  Speaker 2: again would be a path of LEAs resistance too. So
• 17:45
  Speaker 2: when you talk about we sometimes you just get emotional.
• 17:48
  Speaker 2: You don't even know where the stuff come from. I
• 17:49
  Speaker 2: could be doing a poll up, like so serious and
• 17:51
  Speaker 2: be working out and all of a sudden something would
• 17:54
  Speaker 2: hit me and I would just start crying.
• 17:55
  Speaker 3: I'd have to go to the bathroom because I'd be
• 17:56
  Speaker 3: crying so much.
• 17:57
  Speaker 2: And it's like, and I understand we had the apologizing
• 18:01
  Speaker 2: thing because that's a childhood trauma because we weren't allowed
• 18:04
  Speaker 2: to feel those feelings.
• 18:04
  Speaker 3: But now we're.
• 18:05
  Speaker 2: Saying to our inner child, it's okay for you to
• 18:08
  Speaker 2: feel these feelings. So we go back to the whole
• 18:10
  Speaker 2: thing writing. You want to write things down, listen to music, dance, sing,
• 18:16
  Speaker 2: talk to somebody else, talk to yourself, talk to somebody
• 18:19
  Speaker 2: that wants that has a good heart and likes to listen.
• 18:22
  Speaker 2: And they don't have to always fix things because I.
• 18:25
  Speaker 3: Was the fix.
• 18:25
  Speaker 2: You're raising kids to fix. But yeah, but we're just
• 18:29
  Speaker 2: going through the whole process of giving ourselves break, meditation, breath, work.
• 18:36
  Speaker 2: Like there's funny videos, you know, setting yourself up like
• 18:40
  Speaker 2: on your phone to have like all these different things,
• 18:42
  Speaker 2: like you know when you're in this kind of a
• 18:44
  Speaker 2: mood from this that because you know yourself so well
• 18:47
  Speaker 2: that I'm going to listen to this music because it
• 18:48
  Speaker 2: always raises me up or when this happens. I know
• 18:51
  Speaker 2: that if I look at funny kittens and puppies and
• 18:53
  Speaker 2: baby videos, I'll be laughing in no time, and then
• 18:56
  Speaker 2: this I'll be past that emotion.
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: So yeah, I think in almost every video that we've
• 19:08
  Speaker 1: done where we talk about tools, writing is number one.
• 19:12
  Speaker 1: You grab a pen and paper and just start writing
• 19:14
  Speaker 1: it out and just let that emotion move through you.
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: It's an energy that moves from your body through your arm,
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: through a pen, pencil to paper and just let it
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: flow and let yourself cry, let yourself feel it. And
• 19:30
  Speaker 1: the more I feel I know it's helped me. The
• 19:33
  Speaker 1: more you do that, the more you spend time the
• 19:36
  Speaker 1: writing the emotions out when it doesn't have to be
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: every day. Some people like to journal on a daily basis.
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: I do not. I do it when something is weighing
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: very heavy on me and I just can't get past
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: my own head and so I will get a pen
• 19:53
  Speaker 1: and paper and just start writing it out.
• 19:55
  Speaker 4: And then it's.
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: Amazing how things will come to you, like, well, do
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: this or do that, or right your intuitive aside or
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: God speaking to you however you want to refer to it.
• 20:08
  Speaker 1: So take the tools and utilize them to the best
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: of your ability, and one tool may not work all
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: the time. If you feel like it's not working in
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: the moment, then just switch it up or come back
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: to it.
• 20:19
  Speaker 4: It's okay.
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: But I think the most important thing when we're when
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: we're talking about death or transition or change is allow
• 20:28
  Speaker 1: your allow yourself to feel the emotion and move through it,
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: not suppress it.
• 20:35
  Speaker 2: And then when you're going through that emotion, recognize that
• 20:38
  Speaker 2: this too shall pass. Or you can just say it'll
• 20:42
  Speaker 2: pass because some.
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: Okay, okay, we repeat what you said, this too shall pass.
• 20:55
  Speaker 2: But sometimes we're going through the grief and all these
• 20:58
  Speaker 2: moments and we get lost and think it's never going
• 21:02
  Speaker 2: to end. We think it's going to be a constant.
• 21:05
  Speaker 2: But if we remind ourselves it's going to pass. This
• 21:07
  Speaker 2: is going to pass. I'm going to be okay. And
• 21:09
  Speaker 2: that's where we have to talk to ourselves and walk
• 21:12
  Speaker 2: through that process.
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and if you think, like at our age, all
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: the things we've already been through, we're gonna get through
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: this too, so we are. It might suck for a minute,
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: but we're going to get through it. So we're good.
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: All right, friends, you got some amazing information through this,
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: and you probably know people are having these same conversations
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: or having thoughts or needing direction, and so be sure
• 21:40
  Speaker 1: to be resourceful, whether it's through us or other teachers
• 21:44
  Speaker 1: or speakers or influencers, books, podcasts, So be resourceful and
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: share it. We're all here to help one another and
• 21:56
  Speaker 1: we're easy to find.
• 21:58
  Speaker 3: We're on uh.
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: Spree, Spotify, YouTube, Facebook, Instagram, iHeartRadio, and podcast attic, So
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: go to any of those platforms.
• 22:11
  Speaker 4: We're there.
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: So with that, do you have any final words. We're
• 22:16
  Speaker 1: also on TikTok yes, so thank you for saying that.
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: I gotta get used to saying that too, because that
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: is fresh and new. So thanks to Bev and she's
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: got us up and going on there and that's exciting.
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: So anyway, until next time, make it an amazing day
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: and we'll see you later.
• 22:39
  Speaker 3: Bye,