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366: HD Profile 3/5: Martyr Heretic · Unshakeable with Human Design - A Human Design For Business Podcast

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  Nicole Laino: Welcome to Unshakeable with Human Design, the show dedicated
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  to helping entrepreneurs use human design to shift from hustle to
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  flow without sacrificing results.
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  Come here to become an unshakeable human and build an unshakeable business
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  according to your human design.
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  I'm your host, Nicole Laino.
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  Hello and welcome to Unshakeable With Human Design, everybody.
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  I'm your host, Nicole Lano, and we are here today with another
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  episode in our profile series.
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  I have been enjoying this so much and we've gotten such great feedback from
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  people telling us how much they're loving these episodes on profile, that
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  we're actually going through the entire profile instead of just the lines.
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  People have found that really helpful and we're actually having a contest,
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  so if you wanna share with us.
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  What you love about this show, what you love about this
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  series, what's your profile?
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  Share it on your Instagram tag me.
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  a chance to have a, reading right here on the show, a human design
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  reading or coaching session with me.
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  It's really whatever you want it to be, but you can ask me anything that you want.
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  This is something that I charge a lot of money to do privately, so you
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  can win it absolutely free just for sharing this show with your audience and
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  helping us get the word out about it.
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  But more importantly, what I really love about this series and why profile is
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  such a cornerstone and what I do with human design, whether I'm working with
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  somebody on their business, if I'm working with an entrepreneur, if I'm working
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  with a corporate client on, you know.
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  Elevating their leadership skills.
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  I'm working with somebody with their kids.
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  It is so crucial because profile is really telling you what your process is for
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  living in alignment with your purpose.
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  If you're not in alignment with your profile, then all the purpose
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  work, all of that, wondering who you are and what you're here for.
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  If you just focused on living in alignment with your profile, you would actually
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  probably answer a lot of those questions.
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  It tells you what you are uniquely good at.
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  It tells you what your, I call it your X factor with your profile.
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  I think that that it is your X factor in your brand.
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  It's the thing that makes you you probably more than anything else.
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  It is the flavor of your magic.
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  It makes you so individual in what you do, how you do it, and how you show up.
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  It also tells you a lot about why things work and why some
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  things don't work in your life.
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  It tells you a little bit about what your story is gonna look like and
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  maybe why your story has looked the way that it's looked in the past.
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  Now, that might be that it looks exactly the way that it should have.
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  So in alignment with your type, with your profile, rather, but it also,
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  maybe there are things that you were resisting that caused you more
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  pain and more struggle than if you had just surrendered to what was.
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  And I think today we're gonna be rolling into the three, five, the martyr,
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  heretic, another lovely name for us.
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  Nothing sounds more positive than calling someone a martyr.
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  Heretic, I mean, come on.
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  Now, I think of all the names.
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  This is the, this is the least awesome sounding one.
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  I wouldn't wanna be called a martyr, heretic.
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  I look at them as innovative problem solvers.
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  I think that that sounds a lot better and really speaks to the potential
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  that is in this profile type.
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  So, but let's talk about the, real name, the traditional
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  name and where it comes from.
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  You know, that martyr can come from the three is the martyr.
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  And the reason they call it that is that, you know, that's the shadow.
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  Honestly, it's.
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  The three learns and goes through life down a path of trial and error.
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  You have to be out doing things and when you're out doing things and you're,
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  you know, you're trialing and you are erroring, that can cause you to feel
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  like, oh, can cause you to be pessimistic.
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  It can cause you to feel like nothing works and it can feel that way,
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  especially for threes early in life.
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  But if you have a three five kid.
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  Embracing the fact that they are going to, they're, they're gonna fail a lot
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  and they have to be taught to do that.
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  They have to be encouraged to fail or you will set them up for a lot of struggle
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  in their life if you are upset when they.
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  Drop a glass if you are, yelling at them when they make a mistake,
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  if you are disappointed in them.
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  And I think that we're gonna talk about the three five, and then the
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  next episode is gonna be the three six.
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  So this is, and last episode was the two five.
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  So it might seem like oh 3 5, 2 5, maybe they're the same.
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  No, the five stays the same.
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  Now the 3, 3 5 is a one of those major profiles.
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  Lots of people are three, five.
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  Fewer people are two fives and three sixes.
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  So the two, five, now we're gonna change the personality.
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  We're gonna change this person's like outward expression.
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  That three gonna go from a two.
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  That's a natural.
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  And that's just sort of like kind of finding their talent and their way.
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  And then we're gonna go to the three, which is gonna be breaking stuff.
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  Which is going to be, they're here to find what doesn't work.
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  And that can be hard.
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  It's different than the one three with the three in the unconscious.
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  It's not the part that they identify with as much in the
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  one three, but A three, five.
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  They know they're a three.
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  They feel that they are a three, and the world sees it 'cause it's a very.
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  Demonstrative sort of profile.
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  The three tends to get in some trouble.
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  They might be rebellious, they might be somebody who, like if they're a
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  kid, they might be breaking things.
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  They might be tripping over stuff.
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  They might be seemingly screwing everything up.
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  Now that's not me saying that this is a terrible thing.
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  It's their process.
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  It's how they learn.
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  And I know that a lot of three fives know that.
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  I still see them.
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  In my experience working with three fives, I still see so many
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  of them resisting the trial because they are afraid of the error.
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  So when I have a three five that comes to me, or any three, but I see this, the
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  three fives have the hardest time with this, and I'll tell you why in a second.
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  But the three fives have the biggest trouble.
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  With really going after things.
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  If they're in the shadow of this three, they are bumping up against
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  themselves because they are afraid of making an error of it not going right,
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  of some experience from their past.
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  Like a mistake that went horribly wrong.
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  And they have never forgiven themselves for it coming in and making them
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  feel like a failure all over again.
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  And I get it.
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  there's trauma a lot of times in the threes, but A three five also
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  has that five on the other side.
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  That's the projection field, the five on the unconscious side.
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  People are looking at them being like, I bet you could fix things for me.
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  I bet you're the person who can help me.
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  And then they choose you or your parent sees this potential in you.
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  'cause the five is gonna be what other people see in you, what other people feel.
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  That projection field is going to pull people in and then
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  you are gonna make a mistake.
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  Something might not work.
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  Then they're disappointed.
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  The projection was not fulfilled.
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  I thought you would be this, but you turned out to be that.
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  And I'm not happy now.
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  And the three is just going, the three five is just going,
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  I, I am just, I'm just being me.
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  I'm doing everything I told you I would do.
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  I'm being who I am.
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  And this is what's so interesting about conscious and unconscious energy.
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  Unconscious energy is you can't escape it.
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  It's always there.
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  You can't do anything about it, and you can't do anything
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  about the five line projection.
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  You can't do about anything, about any of the projection fields.
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  They're always there.
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  So you have to learn to fortify yourself from that.
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  And I look at my husband is a three five.
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  And he's a very successful 3 5, 3 5.
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  I've talked about him on the show before, but I'm gonna do it again
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  because I think that he is a great example of somebody who has lived as
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  an unapologetic three, as somebody who has never been afraid to fail.
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  It's just not part of his DNA.
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  He's not scared of failure.
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  He's not scared of not being, he's not scared to suck at something.
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  Really not scared.
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  And when I look at the other famous three five, so as I was putting this
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  together, I was like, who's a three five?
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  Kate Winslet is a three five.
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  I think she has a very resilient, powerful nature to her.
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  She definitely seems like somebody who is daring, who, shows up to her work,
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  willing to do lots of different things.
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  She's known for that in her work, that working with her, she's open for anything.
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  She's very in the creative process, and that's the potential that threes
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  sometimes quit before they reach to really be able to figure out how things work.
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  And they, honestly, they have, they are known to have the greatest potential for
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  success if they can overcome their stuff.
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  I see this with three fives where they're so afraid to make that mistake.
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  They're so afraid to get their hands dirty.
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  They're so afraid to do anything.
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  Then if I have a three five who's a generator or a manifesting generator
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  where you have to purpose fulfilled through doing generators, you can't
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  live your purpose if you aren't doing stuff, if you aren't following your
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  yeses and listening to those nos.
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  Doing the work that feels good for you, building the
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  things that feel good for you.
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  So that's double for you.
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  It's gonna be your type, you have to do stuff.
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  And then the three that says, I just gotta do it.
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  I'm probably gonna break it, but you know what?
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  I'm gonna learn something from breaking it.
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  That is the key.
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  My husband never had that fear.
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  He was never afraid to break something.
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  And then I look at the other three fives that I found in like my research,
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  Bruce Springsteen three, five.
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  He's someone who mastered the guitar and never afraid to, now he's a manifester.
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  So a different way of showing up there.
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  But never was afraid to not play well.
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  He knew that in order to play to be great, he had to suck first, get to
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  be sucking a little bit less, and then get to be kind of good, and then
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  get to be pretty good, and then get to be good, and then get to be great.
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  That's the process we have to go through that.
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  For threes, you really have to go through it.
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  Twos, you're not probably gonna have to go through it.
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  It's gonna be your, your natural talent.
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  You're just gonna pick something up.
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  There's gonna be things that are your thing.
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  You're gonna pick 'em up and they're just gonna kind of work for you.
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  Little magic like that with the two, it is a harder one.
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  Lesson for the three.
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  The three has got to dare to break stuff.
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  Then once they do, once the three break stuff, it goes, oh, I get
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  it now and I get it differently than everybody else gets it.
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  'cause other people might be able to follow a process, okay, if I do this and
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  then this and then this, it'll all work.
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  But what happens if you do that, that you follow the steps and it doesn't work?
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  Or we need to come up with a new solution, or we need to come up
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  with a new way to look at this.
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  Then you're probably gonna need a three.
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  You're probably going to need a three that can go.
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  Yeah.
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  I'm not afraid to get in there, play with it and see what else we could do.
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  'cause the three loves new stuff.
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  The three is resilient at its highest.
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  And then we've got that five on the back end.
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  If you are resilient, if you are trial and erroring, if you are messing around
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  and getting to know the things that you do digging in, you will be able to
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  provide innovative solutions for people.
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  You will have amazing ideas.
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  You'll be able to lead My husband is self-taught.
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  He is a, computer programmer, architect, web architect, and completely self-taught.
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  And in his company, he works for a big company and he has people
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  who went to MIT and Princeton and Yale and these very fancy schools.
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  And, and he did not, and some of them are very good.
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  I'm not gonna, I'm not ragging on people that he works with.
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  But there are also people there that whenever they have a problem, and this
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  has been his kind of what he's known for, if you've watched Pulp Fiction,
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  there's Harvey Cartel's character in Pulp Fiction where he helps John
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  Travolta and Samuel l Jackson's character clean up the dead guy in
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  their car, and they called him the wolf.
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  Because the wolf was the fixer, Mr. Wolf would come and fix everything.
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  That's what I called my husband, because when nobody else can fix it, when it's
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  broken and nobody else has any idea, and they're all panicking and they're
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  all freaking out because they're so used to things going to plan that when
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  something doesn't go to plan, they don't know what to do, or they have
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  their three things that they can do because they've tried those before.
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  They can't, they're not resourceful like that where they
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  can just go in and fix anything.
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  That's my husband, that's how he made his mark in his company, and he has
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  risen through the ranks because of that.
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  Because when all else fails, you call in the wolf, you call in the
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  guy that when it's all breaking, he just says, give me a sandbox.
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  I'll play around.
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  They're like, do you wanna do a meeting?
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  We can, brief you.
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  And he is like, no, give me a sandbox.
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  I'll play.
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  Which is like a little area for where you're not, you're not messing
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  with the code in any production.
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  You're just, you're in like a, playground basically to go and mess with the code
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  and not screw up anything else further.
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  Gimme a sandbox and I'll play.
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  And he figures it out.
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  Sometimes this is things that they're working on for weeks.
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  In like half a day, he figured it out because he can follow the breaking, he
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  can follow what happened, and if he finds what's broken, he might find something
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  else that's broken and he can follow that.
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  He's so used to it not going well.
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  He's so used to having to figure it out that he's better at figuring it
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  out than anybody else in the company in that, division that he's in.
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  So that's the potential.
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  Sarah Blakely is another three five.
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  She famously has that story about her father, how he taught her to
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  fail that asked her and her brother, what did you fail at every day?
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  And if they said nothing, that was the only time he was disappointed.
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  That's being a fabulous, fabulous parent to a three because.
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  She was able, the resilience that she had to be able to keep going
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  back after prototype, after prototype after prototype did not work.
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  You'll hear her in interviews talk about how everybody told her.
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  No.
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  How everybody told her it wouldn't work, that she went to factories with men who
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  had been doing things for ages and just said, you're never gonna be able to create
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  this product that you're talking about.
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  She just never said, took no for an answer.
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  She never accepted that, and now she's the founder of a billion
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  dollar company from the ground up.
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  That's remarkable.
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  the resilience of the three.
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  That's the five that tried girdles and corsets and other
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  things and said, no, no, no, no.
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  That doesn't work.
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  That doesn't work.
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  That doesn't work.
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  That doesn't work.
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  I have a solution.
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  I have an idea that's the potential of the three five, but they often
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  quit and give up before they get to reach that potential because I'm not
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  going to lie and say that it's easy.
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  To be a three five.
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  It's not, I think some people handle it.
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  Really.
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  I don't think my husband's bothered by it at all.
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  I don't know.
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  I think Sarah Blakely was raised in a way that she was conditioned to be okay with
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  the more challenging part of her design.
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  but ultimately from what I see with people that I work with, the three
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  fives definitely have a tough time.
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  They can have a struggle and one of the first things that we work
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  on, what I'm saying to them over and over again, you are a three.
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  You have to dare to fail.
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  You won't figure it out.
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  That five wants to figure it out.
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  Step five is trying to like logically put it together and wants to save everybody.
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  The three, five, who wants to put out a program or a product
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  or something, but they haven't really figured out what they do.
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  That's the five.
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  Pushing its way to the front being like, I want to lead, but you've got nothing
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  to lead with if you haven't failed yet.
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  The failure is where your genius is found and most people
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  are too scared to go there.
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  But again, like I said, the three is here to be resilient, brave.
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  We have to be brave first before we can be resilient.
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  Because we're resilient.
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  Because we've been brave, and brave and brave over and over and over
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  again, and we keep getting up and we keep doing it and we keep going.
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  The three five is also going to know when it's time to quit, when it is
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  time to move on, what are the things that you're meant to really trial with?
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  You have to follow your strategy and authority into that, but
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  there's so much potential in this type, in this particular profile.
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  There's so much potential for success.
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  To really be somebody who's different and that's your magic.
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  But if you aren't really embracing this profile and you're learning
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  about human design and you're getting readings and you're buying the books,
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  but you aren't going out there and doing the thing, you probably will
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  not find your purpose, the path.
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  Is through the trial and error.
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  The leadership, that's the potential of the five, can't be found until you
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  collect a bunch of broken stuff and you say, I tried all of these things.
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  They don't work.
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  So I came up with something new.
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  That's what it's about.
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