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So You Doing The Bending · We Talk Back

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  Speaker 1: Welcome to We Talk Back Podcast, the production of iHeartRadio
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  Speaker 1: and the Black Effect Network.
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  Speaker 2: We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion who talks.
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  Speaker 1: What's up, y'all, boy, it's your girl A j holiday.
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  Speaker 3: In the.
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  Speaker 1: Yep, y'all, it's Tammy.
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  Speaker 2: I missed, y'all. I love y'all so much. Oh did
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  Speaker 2: I say Tammy? I'm just getting very personal. It's character, Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: stepping out a character. It's Tammy, y'all. Today it's Tammy
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  Speaker 2: and I miss y'all. How's your weekend? Uh, let's start
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  Speaker 2: with yours.
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  Speaker 1: Did you do anything fun? You know how my meet?
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  Speaker 1: My weekend was.
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  Speaker 2: Girl? I had like I did so. I committed to
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  Speaker 2: so much this weekend and I tried to show up
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  Speaker 2: for everything on Friday night. So I don't know if
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  Speaker 2: I told y'all, but I got cast it for a
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  Speaker 2: reality show that we're filming in Charlotte. It hasn't been
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  Speaker 2: picked up yet. It hasn't even finished filming yet. We're
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  Speaker 2: still filming it, but the pilot, yes, I'm filming with.
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  Speaker 2: I had to film with some girls Friday night at
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  Speaker 2: a bar. Then Saturday I had to go to work
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  Speaker 2: and then film again. At a Kentucky Derby party, which
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  Speaker 2: felt like I mean, the people were very nice, let
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  Speaker 2: me just say that. And it was a very diverse crowd,
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  Speaker 2: I will say that as well. But something about that
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  Speaker 2: downstairs felt very get Out like the movie get Out.
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  Speaker 2: Did they play Shawn downstairs? Yeah, I mean that's where
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  Speaker 2: like the downstairs was where all the because they were
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  Speaker 2: batting on the Kentucky Derby, the horse racing, and there
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  Speaker 2: was like a real auctioneer down there, like, you know,
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  Speaker 2: do I have forty? Do I have fifty to fifty
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  Speaker 2: in the corner? Do you have sixty? Like doing all
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  Speaker 2: that shit? And I was like, yeah, they ain't about
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  Speaker 2: to be betting on my nick gas here. Then they
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  Speaker 2: had two great danes that were just like wandering around
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  Speaker 2: the house they lived there. You know, I like dogs,
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  Speaker 2: but I don't like big ass dogs, you know, like
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  Speaker 2: I do them big ass dogs mane too big, too
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  Speaker 2: big to be in a house in my opinion. They
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  Speaker 2: need to be running around in a field somewhere. And yeah,
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  Speaker 2: it's a horse, and she's like, yeah, the weather was
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  Speaker 2: supposed to be bad, so we were going to have
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  Speaker 2: a horse out front, but we changed our mind because
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  Speaker 2: the weather was gonna be bad. I was like, y'all
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  Speaker 2: got too fucking horses in the house went outside for
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  Speaker 2: so then I left that and the salon I work in.
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  Speaker 2: We had been planning a salon potluck since February and
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  Speaker 2: it was that night. So I went to work that morning,
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  Speaker 2: to the Derby party that afternoon, to the potluck that night.
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  Speaker 2: Then one of the girls on the cast just opened
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  Speaker 2: a bar and she had a grand opening that I missed,
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  Speaker 2: and I told her I would come there. So then
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  Speaker 2: I went there after the potluck. Lord. Then the next
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  Speaker 2: day I got up and I had to go to work.
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  Speaker 2: It was just did you sleep? I haven't. I don't
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  Speaker 2: know the last time I slept. That's not good. I'm
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  Speaker 2: tired right now. And now it's sinkle. They DRINKO. As
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  Speaker 2: soon as I fished recording, I committed. I've committed to
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  Speaker 2: drinking and going to see the ever Ware's product. I'm
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  Speaker 2: gonna be in the oh. I did do something this weekend.
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  Speaker 2: I saw you saw it.
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  Speaker 1: I've been forgetting bostuff. I did go see that ship
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  Speaker 1: and I loved it. Of course it wasn't the first
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  Speaker 1: uh version, nothing right, but it was good. Anytime I
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  Speaker 1: watch a movie. I'm like, man, I could have wrote
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  Speaker 1: that ship better every time, Like it just seems like
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  Speaker 1: the climax was rushed.
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  Speaker 2: But I love. I just love.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes.
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  Speaker 2: But you know what, if I go to sleep in
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  Speaker 2: there tonight, which I might, I'll go see it again.
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  Speaker 2: I heard he's falling asleep on Michael. Yeah. Either, It
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  Speaker 2: don't matter what I see tonight, I'm going to sleep
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  Speaker 2: in movie theater. I'm bringing a blanket with me and
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  Speaker 2: everything because I know I ain't gonna make it right.
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  Speaker 1: I did hot yoga Saturday, hot yoga Saturday and Sunday,
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  Speaker 1: and uh, the Saturday class was bad bitch themed. It
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  Speaker 1: was a white woman with green here, okay, and she
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  Speaker 1: was playing trap music and that's what the fuck. We
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  Speaker 1: was doing yoga too and slapping our ass in there.
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  Speaker 1: But it was a good time, and.
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  Speaker 2: It was about to say that sound fun. Yeah, it
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  Speaker 2: was real fun.
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  Speaker 1: But she had like a whole uh full moon ritual
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  Speaker 1: shit plan for a five o'clock good class. First of all,
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  Speaker 1: I'm a witch now, but I'm not doing no motherfucking
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  Speaker 1: magic with.
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  Speaker 2: No white bitches.
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  Speaker 1: We all sacrificed me because I was already the only
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  Speaker 1: black person in the early morning class, so yeah, I'm good.
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  Speaker 2: This time was the class eight fifteen in the morning.
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  Speaker 1: So I did that and then I went to go
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  Speaker 1: see Devil where it's product by myself.
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  Speaker 2: It was fun. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: I cannot stand the movie theaters though, Like I forgot
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  Speaker 1: my lights all. It's just so nasty in there. You
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  Speaker 1: got to touch stuff that other people was touching. And
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  Speaker 1: when they turned the lights on, Like I went in there,
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  Speaker 1: it was already dark, so once they turned the lights on,
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  Speaker 1: I could see how filthy I was. Just this is
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  Speaker 1: why I be waiting for shit to come on TV.
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  Speaker 1: I'll watch that now, yes, all my little website movie
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  Speaker 1: little shit.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, shit. I remember I went to the movies. It
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  Speaker 2: was me and this guy and we had picked the
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  Speaker 2: two perfect little seats, right. They were like off in
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  Speaker 2: the cut, kind of like there were no seats in
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  Speaker 2: front of it. It was a weird set, right. So
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  Speaker 2: I get there and this girl sitting in the sea
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  Speaker 2: and I'm like, I'm sorry, but you're in my seat.
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  Speaker 2: And it's like the movie theater is kind of empty
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  Speaker 2: for the most part, but it's the kind that you
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  Speaker 2: pick your seats right right. She was like, oh, I
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  Speaker 2: farted in the seat. You still, I said, girl, get
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  Speaker 2: your ass up. I know, I see it was warm.
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  Speaker 2: She got up the move She's just one of my seat.
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  Speaker 2: That is so fucking What type of bitch you got?
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  Speaker 4: Be glad you ain't a pink eye. So many people
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  Speaker 4: I'm farting to.
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  Speaker 2: See bitch get shitty booty is shame.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, So apparently a Wisconsin woman faces charges after stabbing
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  Speaker 1: her boyfriend because he allegedly wanted to air fry dinner.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, So.
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  Speaker 1: I mean I feel her because that's the equivalent of
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  Speaker 1: somebody taking my kid to McDonald's. Like, no, I'm scared
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  Speaker 1: of air friars, though I wouldn't stab anybody, but I don't.
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  Speaker 1: I don't use use air friars.
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  Speaker 2: I do use air friar.
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  Speaker 1: So it says a normal evening quickly turned fatal when
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  Speaker 1: a Wisconsin woman, a twenty seven year old Kayla Lacloth,
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  Speaker 1: stabbed her boyfriend Lucas Roche, when he refused to go
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  Speaker 1: out to eat with her and suggested to stay in
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  Speaker 1: and air fire their dinner instead.
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  Speaker 2: He died.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, she's wilding. Yeah, and these people she looks like
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  Speaker 1: she might be, like she could be Caucasian. She could
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  Speaker 1: be Caucasian mixed with Hispanic. That would make sense. You know,
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  Speaker 1: Cauz that Ariba comes outfits is nuts and it's a
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  Speaker 1: white guy, very frail, fragile looking guy. So damn man.
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  Speaker 2: She over wanting to stay in and cook. She wanted
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  Speaker 2: to go on a date. That's why I feel like
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  Speaker 2: it was more.
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  Speaker 1: I know I'm never wrong. Here goes another video and
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  Speaker 1: he's speaking in Spanish because she didn't look white.
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  Speaker 2: She looked like she was.
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  Speaker 1: Like mix with something definitely Hispanic.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, because they will cut you, and that's the stereotype.
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  Speaker 2: But it comes from some place.
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  Speaker 1: I know a couple black men who have been with
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  Speaker 1: Hispanic women and who have also caught DV charges because
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  Speaker 1: they will beat themselves up and call the police on
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  Speaker 1: your ass. I've seen it happen a couple of times.
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  Speaker 1: Then lying between love and hand hate exactly.
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  Speaker 2: You gotta be real crazy to punch yourself in the face.
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  Speaker 1: Or slam your arm in the door, because that's that
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  Speaker 1: bit was doing with like really hurt.
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  Speaker 2: But looking at this girl operas, she looks like she
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  Speaker 2: looks playing the piano. She looked fucking necks and kill
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  Speaker 2: that man. Now she's about to spend the rest of
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  Speaker 2: her life. Now, you ain't gonna there ain't no air
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  Speaker 2: friers in the jail. You ain't gonna be able to
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  Speaker 2: eat nothing. Girl. They be in there making air for them.
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  Speaker 1: Niggas are very creative in prison. I don't know the
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  Speaker 1: female prisons. They be in there making makeup and stuff.
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  Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure they have an air fryer type device
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  Speaker 1: that they are making. Pepper steak they call it. It's
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  Speaker 1: a zip lock bag full of potato, chips, pickle juice,
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  Speaker 1: and whatever else you throw in there. Don't ask me
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  Speaker 1: how I know. I've never been to prison, but I
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  Speaker 1: know some niggas that have been. But they and what
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  Speaker 1: they're doing now.
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  Speaker 2: They put they call it pepper steak.
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  Speaker 1: It's like they take a ziplock bag and put all
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  Speaker 1: these different ingredients in it and it's called pepper steak.
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  Speaker 1: It's not pepper steak. It's a bunch of shit in
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  Speaker 1: a bag. But it's like a jail meal.
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  Speaker 2: Is there?
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  Speaker 1: Of course not? Of course not. I wanted to go ahead.
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  Speaker 2: Sorry, I'm gonna say. I know it was something that
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  Speaker 2: you wanted.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, I wanted to give a quick little
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  Speaker 1: update on Uh not a quick update, but I saw
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  Speaker 1: this very very funny thread. It's obviously sarcasm, but it
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  Speaker 1: still remains very true just based off of the things
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  Speaker 1: we are seeing on social media and how the men
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  Speaker 1: are coming for any women that date men. Essentially, I mean,
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  Speaker 1: that's how I feel, and it's not all men, right,
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  Speaker 1: but there's a large percentage because the Internet, it definitely
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  Speaker 1: is a nice sample size for the bullshit. So this
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  Speaker 1: this user on threads her name is miss Mia Kay.
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  Speaker 1: So is it tweeted when you're thread like? What is
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  Speaker 1: it called?
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  Speaker 2: It's called sewing? I guess Okay.
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  Speaker 1: So it says I've gone ahead and compiled some advice
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  Speaker 1: of some advice that men have given us women coming
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  Speaker 1: out of the Magde Stallion and Clay situation. They are
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  Speaker 1: so helpful in that way, and we thank them for
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  Speaker 1: their services. Number one, it says, first thing the men
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  Speaker 1: said is do not have sex with them if you
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  Speaker 1: have ever have if you have any hope of deserving
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  Speaker 1: their deserving their respect. That's number one, okay. Number two,
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  Speaker 1: Next they said, you are stupid if you believe them
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  Speaker 1: when they say they love you. If they say it,
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  Speaker 1: it's a lie. If they show you with gestures. Under
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  Speaker 1: no circumstances should you interpret love gestures gestures as love.
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  Speaker 1: You should simply not love them back, and you certainly
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  Speaker 1: should not reciprocate any kindness. If you do so, you're
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  Speaker 1: an idiot, according to men. Okay, number three, if the
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  Speaker 1: man has a job, he will cheat, according to the men.
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  Speaker 1: But if they do not have a job, or if
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  Speaker 1: your job is bigger and better than theirs, they.
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  Speaker 2: Will also cheat. Well then number four.
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  Speaker 1: The men have also said, do not play house with them,
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  Speaker 1: don't cook for them, don't celebrate holidays with them, don't
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  Speaker 1: demonstrate any love or care for their families, even if
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  Speaker 1: they invite you to spend the holidays. Don't build a
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  Speaker 1: home with them unless you are married. But assume everything
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  Speaker 1: they say is a lie until the day you get married.
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  Speaker 2: And then after assume it too. Essentially, listener, that makes
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  Speaker 2: me think of this thing that I'll be saying, like
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  Speaker 2: it's two people. I don't trust people in a wheelchair
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  Speaker 2: and people that can walk.
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  Speaker 1: All right, so it says they also said, do not
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  Speaker 1: claim any man publicly, treat them like dirty, treat them
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  Speaker 1: like a dirty little secret. If you dare deal with
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  Speaker 1: them at all, If they hurt you, it's your fault
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  Speaker 1: for being stupid enough to believe them, because you should
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  Speaker 1: have known that they were lying to begin with, according
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  Speaker 1: to the men. Next one says, if you wind up
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  Speaker 1: getting cheated on, you must keep it a secret to
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  Speaker 1: protect their dignity and write to privacy. According to the men,
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  Speaker 1: even though he didn't respect your dignity while cheating, But
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  Speaker 1: remember that was your fault for expecting a man who
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  Speaker 1: told you he was your man to be faithful.
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  Speaker 2: Right because.
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  Speaker 1: Because lastly, if you have sex with a man, that
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  Speaker 1: makes you a terrible woman who deserves to be punished
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  Speaker 1: forever in perpetuity by every subsequent partner you ever have,
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  Speaker 1: and perhaps by men you don't know as well. According
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  Speaker 1: to the men, did I miss anything? Ladies, if you
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  Speaker 1: follow these simple rules, you can survive dealing with a man.
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  Speaker 1: And of course there was some shit that was missed,
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  Speaker 1: somebody said, according to the men, dealing with them loads
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  Speaker 1: of woman's value, so it's best to not deal with
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  Speaker 1: them in any capacity.
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  Speaker 2: Got it?
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  Speaker 1: This actually came from a guy, and it says you need
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  Speaker 1: to lower your standards. The reason that you're alone is
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  Speaker 1: because you keep curving the guy with dirty fingernails in
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  Speaker 1: between jobs and always smells like we twenty four x seven,
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  Speaker 1: Ignore your preferences and give that bum a chance to
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  Speaker 1: show you that he really has what it takes to
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  Speaker 1: absolutely waste your time.
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  Speaker 2: Exactly exactly.
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  Speaker 1: I just thought that was really funny because, I mean,
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  Speaker 1: looking at the comments is like, bitch, you ain't never
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  Speaker 1: supposed to do better?
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  Speaker 2: Right, you never supposed to try to do better? I
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  Speaker 2: literally saw a post that had.
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  Speaker 1: Had Mega Stallion and Klay Thompson and it with xes
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  Speaker 1: across their face? Who else was in a damn thing
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  Speaker 1: that had already broken up? But essentially like these guys
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  Speaker 1: created a collage to show they had Russell, Wilson and
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  Speaker 1: Sierra like the last ones without the X, like they're
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  Speaker 1: up next shit like got the three out? Yeah?
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  Speaker 2: Like what why do y'all want.
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  Speaker 1: These people to break up? A?
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  Speaker 3: Y'all?
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  Speaker 1: Okay, are y'all?
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  Speaker 2: Well?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, no, they don't think the women deserve the lives
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  Speaker 1: that they have, Like they don't think that they don't
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  Speaker 1: think that Sierra deserves to be with Russell four or
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  Speaker 1: five kids later, right because her value plummeted fucking with future,
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  Speaker 1: that's really who they're judging her off of and imagine
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  Speaker 1: that that's y'all homie, y'all love future, that's y'all king,
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  Speaker 1: that's y'all king for real. I don't understand the psychology
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  Speaker 1: of it all.
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  Speaker 2: I don't make sense. It doesn't make any sense why
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  Speaker 2: men were so happy that they broke up. It is weird. Weird. Yeah, okay,
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  Speaker 2: I got one freaking I don't know if y'all saw this,
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  Speaker 2: but Boston Richie's ex girl expos for allegedly being gay
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  Speaker 2: after he dissed her in a new song, and she says,
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  Speaker 2: and I quote, you had me cosplaying as a man
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  Speaker 2: in the bed now, it says in a series of exposual,
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  Speaker 2: explosive social media posts, Tatiana put Boston Richie on blast,
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  Speaker 2: claiming that their private life was far more experimental than
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  Speaker 2: his tough guy persona suggests she shared alleged proof of
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  Speaker 2: her purchasing a dildo for him, and claim that they
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  Speaker 2: engaged in several weird and intimate acts throughout their relationship.
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  Speaker 2: So she was basically saying that like she used to
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  Speaker 2: be pegging him, like she used to wear a strap
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  Speaker 2: and fuck him in the ass, does that make him gay? Though?
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  Speaker 1: Unless she knows he's been with a man.
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  Speaker 2: I don't believe that nothing too too. If you're a
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  Speaker 2: man and there's a woman, I don't believe nothing you
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  Speaker 2: can do together is gay me either.
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  Speaker 1: You know, I don't know if I'll be with a
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  Speaker 1: man like I'll peg a man, but I'm not about
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  Speaker 1: to be with you as to that, like I'm gonna
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  Speaker 1: treat you like I'm gonna treat you like a dirty bitch.
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  Speaker 2: Honestly, the things to do, I listen.
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  Speaker 1: I don't put my finger in a couple butts in
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  Speaker 1: my lifetime, in my in my twenties, man, I definitely
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  Speaker 1: used to do that ship because you know, just out
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  Speaker 1: here outside and if a nigga thinking he about to
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  Speaker 1: be talking about me, just know you better make sure
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  Speaker 1: you're telling people I fucked you too. And that was
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  Speaker 1: my thing, Like I was gonna try to see if
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  Speaker 1: you're gonna let me do it. I used to do
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  Speaker 1: that to guys and I had a nigga wanting to
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  Speaker 1: fight me one time.
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  Speaker 2: I remember that, mm hmm, remember getting gated community to fight.
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  Speaker 2: You'm definitely taking one of your sayings somebody.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know if I want to strap up and
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  Speaker 1: put it put it on the man like I that
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  Speaker 1: that might be some ship I would never do, you
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  Speaker 1: know what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 2: Like, but pagan isn't not strapping, right.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, Pegging is strapping, putting the strap that when it's
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  Speaker 1: thurteen like a little butt plug. No, pegging is actually
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  Speaker 1: a woman putting a strap on on and going into
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  Speaker 1: a woman's butt.
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  Speaker 2: That is the album.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's what I meant going into. Why do Why
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  Speaker 1: do heterosexual men use the term bussy? It is not
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  Speaker 1: a bussy, it's a butthole.
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  Speaker 2: That's the man bussy man pussy. No, it's not.
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  Speaker 1: It's literally an asshole. Yeah, now you can do to
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  Speaker 1: dress it up.
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  Speaker 2: But it's like, girl, you were complicit in any sexual
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  Speaker 2: acts for many How long were they together? They weren't
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  Speaker 2: together five minutes. It wasn't like he asked you to
• 19:44
  Speaker 2: do it and you were so grossed out and left.
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: Well, she's twenty and he's apparently thirty now or twenty
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: seven or something, so she was she and they've been
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: together for some years. She's saying that like she was
• 19:58
  Speaker 1: seventeen sixteen, they're seventeen when when she got with him,
• 20:01
  Speaker 1: and he would have been like a twenty five year
• 20:03
  Speaker 1: old man at the time.
• 20:04
  Speaker 2: So she was saying that she was groomed by him.
• 20:06
  Speaker 1: Yes, that's what she's saying now, Yeah, and I think
• 20:09
  Speaker 1: the men are missing that part because like all you
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: was down for it, like yeah yeah. And then also
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: we listen, we know money plays a big role in
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: these things. And you know, I personally would not expose
• 20:24
  Speaker 1: a man like this our sexual history or whatever just
• 20:28
  Speaker 1: because just because nothing, Like where's your integrity? Because you
• 20:32
  Speaker 1: was going in that asshole?
• 20:33
  Speaker 2: Girl? So what are you Why are you.
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: Weaponizing like liking to be pegged? Why are you weaponizing that?
• 20:39
  Speaker 2: Right now, let me ask you this. If you with
• 20:42
  Speaker 2: a man of your dreams and he does, he provides
• 20:46
  Speaker 2: you all the things you've ever wanted in life everything.
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: The man of my dreams do not like to get pegged?
• 20:53
  Speaker 5: Yeah, you ain't let me finish, sorry, girl, what I
• 21:00
  Speaker 5: have to say outside of that, I mean, nobody's gonna
• 21:03
  Speaker 5: be perfect, right, But he wants you to stress at
• 21:07
  Speaker 5: least four times a year.
• 21:10
  Speaker 2: Now, you sound like that Black Mirror episode.
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: Having sex with his homeboy be the AI ship once
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: a year?
• 21:20
  Speaker 2: Just did you do it?
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: I'll you know, because I have put fingers in a
• 21:25
  Speaker 1: boyfriend's butt of mine, like somebody was actually in a
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: relationship with I just okay, First of all, I don't
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: have to stamina to sling dick.
• 21:34
  Speaker 2: Be honest with you, like that would be the laziest
• 21:39
  Speaker 2: dick slinger.
• 21:40
  Speaker 1: It wouldn't even be a dick slinger, Like it would
• 21:42
  Speaker 1: be so lazy. I would not be like, and you
• 21:47
  Speaker 1: gotta get like it's not like it's like a woman
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: that can lay on the back and you can hit
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: it like that, like I gotta straddle this big, grown,
• 21:55
  Speaker 1: hairy booty. Come on, man, who the fuck really want
• 21:58
  Speaker 1: to do that?
• 22:00
  Speaker 2: But if I don't want to, So that's a deal
• 22:03
  Speaker 2: breaker for you if that was the person, but everything
• 22:05
  Speaker 2: else in your life was perfect. He was funny, charming, generous, loving, kind, handsome.
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: I just would think that's gonna lead someplace else. So
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: this is why they're calling Boston whatever his name is, gay, right,
• 22:18
  Speaker 1: because people do associate that type of activity, maybe with
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: the woman you know or not. They associate that with
• 22:25
  Speaker 1: like it's like they say, weed is a chain drug, Right,
• 22:28
  Speaker 1: It's gonna lead you to some to some other shit.
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: Sometimes it might sometimes it might not. Like I would
• 22:35
  Speaker 1: need to understand that's the psychology of why why.
• 22:42
  Speaker 2: Yes, because is it going to escalate?
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: We married now and I've been pegging you, and now
• 22:46
  Speaker 1: you want a man because men will escalate. This is
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: why you never do some shit you ain't comfortable with.
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: They will escally, They will keep pushing the envelope to
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: see how much they can get your ass to do.
• 22:58
  Speaker 2: All right, So we're gonna get in today. That's gonna
• 23:01
  Speaker 2: be our topic today because I can't be so ya.
• 23:05
  Speaker 2: We're gonna go to commercial. We get back. We gotta
• 23:07
  Speaker 2: talk about this ship. We'll be right, not this ship literally.
• 23:17
  Speaker 2: All right, we are back, y'all. And I want to
• 23:21
  Speaker 2: ask the question, why do women go against their boundaries?
• 23:27
  Speaker 2: All right, let's get real here. What do you think? Uh?
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: I don't know if can I say fomo like fear
• 23:37
  Speaker 1: and missing out, like going out, fear of missing out
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: on the opportunity with this man possibly And you're you
• 23:44
  Speaker 1: you do mean like in relationships, right, like doing shit
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: you would not normally do, such as little Tatiana that's
• 23:52
  Speaker 1: her name, right, Yeah, So like Tatiana was pegging.
• 23:59
  Speaker 2: What is this nigga? These new rappers?
• 24:01
  Speaker 1: And I love the song Boston Ritchie, I love the
• 24:03
  Speaker 1: song help me, help.
• 24:05
  Speaker 2: Me, help you what nigga, what do you need help with?
• 24:09
  Speaker 4: Yeah?
• 24:10
  Speaker 1: So she basically if she's putting him on blast right now,
• 24:13
  Speaker 1: she absolutely crossed a boundary, right because it wouldn't be
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: nothing to her if it was something she was actually
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: okay with doing, right, So why women do it to
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: keep the relationship going to please their partner per se,
• 24:31
  Speaker 1: that's what they say, right girl?
• 24:35
  Speaker 2: Mm hmm.
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: I don't know.
• 24:38
  Speaker 2: I'm not.
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: Doing something I'm not comfortable with, not at this big age.
• 24:44
  Speaker 2: Or like thinking like this is what he used to,
• 24:46
  Speaker 2: this is what he likes, so I feel like I
• 24:48
  Speaker 2: have to do this if I want to stay in
• 24:51
  Speaker 2: this mm hmm.
• 24:54
  Speaker 1: And some people may think it's the compromise, right, you
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: know how they say you have to compromise in relationships.
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: You kind of conhersing me into that prior to before
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: we went to commercial, like.
• 25:04
  Speaker 2: The what if? But what if? He's everything else?
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: But he just like dick in the booty, Like I'm
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: not think.
• 25:12
  Speaker 2: Though, it's not dick, is it?
• 25:15
  Speaker 5: Not?
• 25:15
  Speaker 2: Like that scrap on was not small but it was
• 25:20
  Speaker 2: a strap?
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: Okay, so it's not a man behind the dick, right,
• 25:25
  Speaker 1: it's definitely still a woman and it's just a harness, right,
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: but it's the act of the thing.
• 25:30
  Speaker 2: And personally, I do not.
• 25:33
  Speaker 1: Think that anything you like you said, anything you do
• 25:35
  Speaker 1: with a woman is considered gay.
• 25:38
  Speaker 2: But I mean.
• 25:41
  Speaker 1: The guy, one of the guys who I had put
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: my finger in his butt before, like I knew he
• 25:47
  Speaker 1: liked it. He had probably never done it before, and
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: though he wanted to kill me at one point, maybe
• 25:53
  Speaker 1: about a year and a half later, we end up
• 25:55
  Speaker 1: in the same class again in college and he was like, man,
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: I miss you, man, And in my mind, I'm like, yeah,
• 26:01
  Speaker 1: I bet you do. Because you can't ask your current
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: bitch to pop that pussy open, pop.
• 26:08
  Speaker 2: That bussy for you.
• 26:10
  Speaker 1: You don't know how to ask her to do it,
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: so something like, I mean, just like dressing.
• 26:16
  Speaker 2: He didn't ask me.
• 26:17
  Speaker 1: I told you, I would just try niggas.
• 26:21
  Speaker 2: And I would do it to niggas.
• 26:22
  Speaker 1: In particular, who I thought were like I actually enjoyed
• 26:26
  Speaker 1: having sex with that dude like I, but it was
• 26:28
  Speaker 1: a secret, like I have roommates. I wasn't even telling
• 26:30
  Speaker 1: them bitches. I was fucking on him. And so when
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: he told people, I'm like, then you he told a
• 26:37
  Speaker 1: mutual good friend of ours, and I'm like, well, used
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: to why did you? Why the fuck did he tell
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: him that? So I was like shit when he asked
• 26:45
  Speaker 1: me about it. When the friend asked me about it,
• 26:47
  Speaker 1: I was like, shit, did he tell you?
• 26:48
  Speaker 2: I fucked him?
• 26:49
  Speaker 1: And that is the purpose of why I used to
• 26:51
  Speaker 1: do that. So whenever nigga will run in his mouth
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: about having had sex with me, make.
• 26:57
  Speaker 2: Sure you tell the whole story, that's all, and then
• 27:01
  Speaker 2: the truth and now you finger banging niggas but it's
• 27:09
  Speaker 2: only a couple, yes, absolutely for leverage and they remember
• 27:14
  Speaker 2: me right here the size you're violating yourself, right, you
• 27:26
  Speaker 2: feel uncomfortable, but don't say anything. So if you find
• 27:32
  Speaker 2: yourself on the bottom of a pole up with two
• 27:35
  Speaker 2: other people having like orgies or bring an other you
• 27:42
  Speaker 2: know what. The most common one that I hear, that
• 27:45
  Speaker 2: I've heard is women having threesomes mm hmm when they
• 27:49
  Speaker 2: don't with other women. Yeah, with other women to please
• 27:52
  Speaker 2: their partner when they don't want to do that. Yeah.
• 27:56
  Speaker 1: I remember we we talked about this before because ray
• 28:01
  Speaker 1: j Ex wife, yeap with you love Princess girl. How
• 28:07
  Speaker 1: the hell I didn't put a whole nother. Yeah, Princess Love.
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: Princess was saying, how you know she even you know
• 28:13
  Speaker 1: she did threesomes with ray J because it's something that
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: he wanted to do, something he obviously always did because
• 28:20
  Speaker 1: he was just on freaky Fridays talk about how he
• 28:24
  Speaker 1: don't have sex with like ten thousand women, How is
• 28:26
  Speaker 1: that even possible? And cam Newton calculated his shit to
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: like one and a half bitches a day for since
• 28:34
  Speaker 1: she was like starting at age thirty type shit. Y
• 28:38
  Speaker 1: J was like, nah, like sometimes we do ten in
• 28:40
  Speaker 1: the day, so it's just compiling. But yeah, Princess Love
• 28:44
  Speaker 1: was saying, how you know she would do those things?
• 28:46
  Speaker 1: And she didn't necessarily, It wasn't necessarily for her. But
• 28:50
  Speaker 1: nothing she did could you know, could conquer the hunger
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: that he had. You know, it's something you can't You
• 28:58
  Speaker 1: can't do anything.
• 29:00
  Speaker 2: Right, You can't satisfy him. It's insatiable, and now you're
• 29:03
  Speaker 2: involving all these sexual acts that you don't even enjoy.
• 29:07
  Speaker 2: The Other one is if you have to drink to
• 29:09
  Speaker 2: get through certain moments, if you gotta get fucked up
• 29:12
  Speaker 2: to have sex with your guys because you know you
• 29:15
  Speaker 2: gotta pay him.
• 29:20
  Speaker 1: Have sex period for some women like gotta be high.
• 29:24
  Speaker 1: You know, sometimes I have to test, like can I
• 29:27
  Speaker 1: have sex without being high?
• 29:30
  Speaker 2: What I mean?
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: I don't prefer it? I like, Okay, I like weeded sex.
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: So I feel like sex is just not that great
• 29:38
  Speaker 1: when I'm not high anymore. And I don't know what
• 29:41
  Speaker 1: it's because sex is just not that great anymore, or
• 29:46
  Speaker 1: or do I just prefer it do sex? Yeah, because
• 29:50
  Speaker 1: I don't smoke otherwise, right, So if I'm smoking, I'm
• 29:54
  Speaker 1: having sex.
• 29:55
  Speaker 2: That's so funny. I'm not just smoking to be high.
• 30:00
  Speaker 2: He smoked to watch comedy movies.
• 30:05
  Speaker 1: Yeah, because I'm not a smoker like that. So I do,
• 30:07
  Speaker 1: like I prefer weeded sex. But am I smoking to
• 30:13
  Speaker 1: have sex?
• 30:15
  Speaker 2: Yeah? That's what it sounds like.
• 30:18
  Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe I want to have sex though I just
• 30:20
  Speaker 1: wanted to be really really good for me.
• 30:22
  Speaker 2: But try it without and see you might not even
• 30:25
  Speaker 2: like the niggas you fucking you better try it without.
• 30:28
  Speaker 3: No, that is not it, because because Listen is not
• 30:36
  Speaker 3: It's not just him, you know what I'm saying, Like
• 30:38
  Speaker 3: this is how this has been going on for years.
• 30:40
  Speaker 1: Like I started getting high to have sex with my
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: ex fianceing and.
• 30:46
  Speaker 2: It was just like a routine.
• 30:48
  Speaker 1: Thing for us to do it.
• 30:49
  Speaker 2: Do you like sex?
• 30:51
  Speaker 1: Yes, I do like sex, but once I experienced it high,
• 30:55
  Speaker 1: I only want to do it high. You see what
• 30:57
  Speaker 1: I'm saying. So, yeah, I like sex, but I like
• 31:02
  Speaker 1: how sex is high. That's all.
• 31:05
  Speaker 2: So I prefer it high. You know who ever done
• 31:09
  Speaker 2: it not high?
• 31:11
  Speaker 1: Yes? I have over the years. Yes, it's not as enhanced.
• 31:17
  Speaker 1: I would prefer to be on a substance.
• 31:21
  Speaker 2: Here's another one. Signs you're violating yourself. You feel embarrassed
• 31:27
  Speaker 2: after intimacy. You've engaged in something and now you feel
• 31:32
  Speaker 2: shame or embarrassed. It's a sign girl, stop doing it.
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: I got another story. So this is not me though.
• 31:42
  Speaker 1: Have you ever been with somebody who like after sex
• 31:45
  Speaker 1: they completely shut down?
• 31:47
  Speaker 2: Have you ever experienced that? Like what do you mean
• 31:49
  Speaker 2: like go to sleep? Yeah? I put them in to
• 31:51
  Speaker 2: sleep period.
• 31:53
  Speaker 1: No, I mean like he's not sleep, but he's not
• 31:57
  Speaker 1: also not talking, no more like he's just so a
• 32:03
  Speaker 1: guy I was dating when I lived in Saint Louis.
• 32:06
  Speaker 1: He was like, uh, you know, I've always been me
• 32:09
  Speaker 1: right as far as like religion and all that shit,
• 32:11
  Speaker 1: Like I've always had you know, just my belief system
• 32:17
  Speaker 1: has always been different, I'll say that, right. So he
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: would go to he was going to church at the time.
• 32:22
  Speaker 1: He was like two years younger than me too, so
• 32:24
  Speaker 1: we would have these like religious arguments all the time.
• 32:28
  Speaker 1: And now he's in a different place because we are
• 32:30
  Speaker 1: still friends and we've had conversations about this thing now
• 32:33
  Speaker 1: in the present, and he just has a different under
• 32:36
  Speaker 1: he has a different now understanding now of religion. Right,
• 32:39
  Speaker 1: but back then he felt like he was committing sin
• 32:42
  Speaker 1: every time he has sex. So, bitch, I want to
• 32:44
  Speaker 1: tell you, we used to be having some blazing ass
• 32:46
  Speaker 1: nasty and I wasn't getting high. Then we used to
• 32:49
  Speaker 1: have some really stupid, nasty sex, and then immediately shortly thereafter,
• 32:55
  Speaker 1: the nigga's not talking to me, like in my room,
• 32:58
  Speaker 1: in my bed, Yes, consumed with guilt. And now he's like,
• 33:04
  Speaker 1: I mean, completely shut down, like we're not cuddling nothing
• 33:08
  Speaker 1: after sex like you was.
• 33:09
  Speaker 2: Just that's how I feel when I watch porn.
• 33:13
  Speaker 1: So, yes, that's saying exactly because I feel the same way.
• 33:17
  Speaker 1: That's why I'm me watching porn no more, because it
• 33:20
  Speaker 1: doesn't make you feel like that dirty. Yes, So this
• 33:24
  Speaker 1: is how he would be. I mean even like we
• 33:28
  Speaker 1: may not even have sex. He's just like, can you
• 33:30
  Speaker 1: just sit on my face? I'll do that, and then
• 33:32
  Speaker 1: he just he shut shuts down afterwards.
• 33:35
  Speaker 2: Well that's a form of sex.
• 33:38
  Speaker 4: I know.
• 33:38
  Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying that she used to be.
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: So fucking weird and we completely stop having sex after
• 33:44
  Speaker 1: one Sunday. So one Saturday, we had a we had
• 33:47
  Speaker 1: a lit night and I woke up and did my hair.
• 33:50
  Speaker 1: He woke up and went to church. He comes back
• 33:54
  Speaker 1: to my house and I'm like, well, how I was church?
• 33:55
  Speaker 1: Because the night before we had a whole conversation about
• 33:58
  Speaker 1: and I was telling him how I don't have to
• 33:59
  Speaker 1: go to church to have a relationship with God, Like
• 34:01
  Speaker 1: we literally can do that together tomorrow, just me and
• 34:05
  Speaker 1: you in the living room type shit is the conversation
• 34:07
  Speaker 1: I was having with him. So I asked him how
• 34:10
  Speaker 1: church was that Sunday when he got back to the house,
• 34:11
  Speaker 1: and he was like, oh, it was good. They was
• 34:13
  Speaker 1: talking about how some people feel like they don't need
• 34:15
  Speaker 1: to go to church to have a relationship with God.
• 34:18
  Speaker 2: So he was trying I said, oh, you're trying to
• 34:19
  Speaker 2: take a shot at me.
• 34:21
  Speaker 1: I said, Okay, so you better at me because we
• 34:23
  Speaker 1: was fucking last night and you woke up and went
• 34:25
  Speaker 1: to church.
• 34:26
  Speaker 2: You are the sinner, not me. I'm the gentile.
• 34:29
  Speaker 1: Okay. You are going to be held at a higher
• 34:34
  Speaker 1: standard because you have accepted this thing in your life.
• 34:36
  Speaker 1: This is based on what people believe you know about
• 34:39
  Speaker 1: the religion.
• 34:41
  Speaker 2: You're wrong, not me. I can do this.
• 34:45
  Speaker 1: You're wrong. So from that point on, because I put it, like,
• 34:48
  Speaker 1: because I gave him that perspective, we stopped having sex.
• 34:53
  Speaker 2: Mind you, Yes.
• 34:56
  Speaker 1: He wanted to continue dating and I'm like, no, because
• 35:01
  Speaker 1: I did not sign up to be celibate. You cannot
• 35:04
  Speaker 1: force me into celibacy. Where's my ring if you want
• 35:08
  Speaker 1: to fuck? Because this is why the Bible says final
• 35:11
  Speaker 1: the Bible don't say nothing about finding a wife because
• 35:13
  Speaker 1: you're in love. The Bible says, if you cannot sustain
• 35:16
  Speaker 1: from sex anymore, find a wife. That is the gist
• 35:19
  Speaker 1: of it. So he needed to find a wife or
• 35:22
  Speaker 1: ask me to marry him so we can have sex
• 35:24
  Speaker 1: and he wouldn't be feeling like he's sinning anymore.
• 35:27
  Speaker 2: But he wasn't trying to do that.
• 35:28
  Speaker 1: Niggas don't want it to hang out and they didn't
• 35:30
  Speaker 1: know and damn not living in my house, and I'm
• 35:34
  Speaker 1: not fucking I understand how I didn't feel in them
• 35:38
  Speaker 1: situations where they got their women walking around with her
• 35:40
  Speaker 1: ass out and not giving them any Yeah, well I'm
• 35:44
  Speaker 1: a fuck running. Great, Well, you're gonna get touched in
• 35:53
  Speaker 1: here and get out of here.
• 35:55
  Speaker 2: Standing by your religious convictions if that's what you choose
• 35:59
  Speaker 2: to believe in, But you also have to find someone
• 36:02
  Speaker 2: equally yoked in that manner aligned with you. Yeah. Yeah,
• 36:06
  Speaker 2: so all right, here's another one. You wouldn't tell your
• 36:10
  Speaker 2: friends what you're doing. If you're engaging in sexual acts
• 36:16
  Speaker 2: that you're ashamed to tell your friends as a sign
• 36:19
  Speaker 2: that you probably are violating yourself. Yeah.
• 36:23
  Speaker 1: That guy who I was plugging with my finger, I.
• 36:28
  Speaker 2: Didn't tell my I wasn't telling my friends.
• 36:33
  Speaker 1: I didn't want my friends to know I was smashing him,
• 36:35
  Speaker 1: and not because I was sticking my finger in this.
• 36:36
  Speaker 1: But it's just he was like a country ass nigga.
• 36:40
  Speaker 2: Like.
• 36:41
  Speaker 1: But what I did realize is that I feel like, Okay,
• 36:46
  Speaker 1: if I back then, the niggas that I liked my
• 36:50
  Speaker 1: friends at the time would act like these, was like, like,
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: why are you talking to that nigga. But let me
• 36:57
  Speaker 1: not be around all of a sudden you talking to
• 36:59
  Speaker 1: this nigga.
• 37:00
  Speaker 2: Right. That has happened on several.
• 37:03
  Speaker 1: Occasions, and it was absolutely nothing wrong with this nigga.
• 37:07
  Speaker 1: He was just super country and couldn't dress, That's it.
• 37:10
  Speaker 2: He had his own place.
• 37:12
  Speaker 1: Like we fucking sophomores in college like this nigga had
• 37:15
  Speaker 1: his own place, car, everything, job. He just was fucking
• 37:20
  Speaker 1: swagless country, no swag, and that shit was immaculate.
• 37:26
  Speaker 2: So I didn't want my friends to know.
• 37:28
  Speaker 1: So I wasn't like hiding him, uh because I was
• 37:33
  Speaker 1: putting my finger in his butt though, It's just that
• 37:35
  Speaker 1: I just didn't want nobody to know I was smashing him,
• 37:37
  Speaker 1: that's all. Was I embarrassed by it though, possibly because
• 37:43
  Speaker 1: I knew knew how my friends were right, not because
• 37:47
  Speaker 1: I was embarrassed by him per se.
• 37:51
  Speaker 2: I guess. I mean I get that, especially as a
• 37:56
  Speaker 2: young girl, this big age is like who gives a fun?
• 38:00
  Speaker 2: But yeah, this is my college. I can see that.
• 38:03
  Speaker 1: You know. Yeah, but anything you feel embarrassed about you
• 38:07
  Speaker 1: can't share with you tell your friends everything, But you've
• 38:10
  Speaker 1: engaged in something with this man eating But are you
• 38:15
  Speaker 1: telling your friends.
• 38:17
  Speaker 2: I ain't eating no, But that's what I just not eating.
• 38:20
  Speaker 1: No.
• 38:20
  Speaker 2: But maybe if I've been with somebody like ten fifteen years,
• 38:23
  Speaker 2: I'm trying to spice it up a little bit, you
• 38:25
  Speaker 2: know what I'm saying. But I just can't imagine sticking
• 38:27
  Speaker 2: my tongue in nobody's butt. You're the Gucci neither I
• 38:31
  Speaker 2: look a guc you're right there. I'm not going no
• 38:35
  Speaker 2: further than that.
• 38:36
  Speaker 1: Yeah, niggas be having dingle berries. Man, I'm just so
• 38:39
  Speaker 1: afraid themselves good.
• 38:41
  Speaker 2: Like I'm not looking at And then if you're doing that,
• 38:44
  Speaker 2: like how are you doing it?
• 38:45
  Speaker 3: Like?
• 38:45
  Speaker 2: Are you holding a nigga's hand up his legs about
• 38:48
  Speaker 2: to change his see bent over? And you like it?
• 38:54
  Speaker 1: I don't want like, Okay, so now we're talking about
• 38:56
  Speaker 1: strapping on like you want a man on all fours
• 38:59
  Speaker 1: like bread and his butt cheeks feeed to eat it.
• 39:02
  Speaker 1: That is wild to me. You know, I can't even
• 39:05
  Speaker 1: imagine it. If y'all can see the horror of my face,
• 39:10
  Speaker 1: that shit is fucking wild.
• 39:13
  Speaker 2: If you don't close your ass and get out here.
• 39:19
  Speaker 2: First of all, I don't even want to see nobody
• 39:21
  Speaker 2: I like in that position. It's just going to be
• 39:24
  Speaker 2: for me emasculating in my mind to see in such
• 39:30
  Speaker 2: a vulnerable position. All right, So let's talk about boundaries
• 39:44
  Speaker 2: versus pleasing your partner. So, like, what's healthy is okay,
• 39:51
  Speaker 2: try new things you're curious about, Like, Okay, you know
• 39:55
  Speaker 2: I am into I like anal, maybe I could give
• 40:01
  Speaker 2: it or like anal. No, I'm just saying no, I'm
• 40:07
  Speaker 2: just speaking like as someone who does. Let me just yeah,
• 40:11
  Speaker 2: let me clarify that. No, I'm pretty much approved when
• 40:16
  Speaker 2: it comes to stuff like that. But the unhealthy thing
• 40:19
  Speaker 2: would be doing things you feel pressured into. Like I
• 40:23
  Speaker 2: don't really like anal. I don't want to give anybody anal,
• 40:27
  Speaker 2: but he wants this, and he keeps mentioning it, he
• 40:31
  Speaker 2: keeps talking about it, so I feel like I gotta
• 40:33
  Speaker 2: do it.
• 40:35
  Speaker 1: I saw this post and I don't know what these
• 40:38
  Speaker 1: guys have a podcast, but it's a This guy actually
• 40:40
  Speaker 1: put out two videos on Instagram, and the first one
• 40:42
  Speaker 1: he was just basically talking about how how grape right
• 40:47
  Speaker 1: is a part of American culture essentially right, how men
• 40:52
  Speaker 1: are boys are grouped, are raised basically to coherse women
• 40:57
  Speaker 1: out of the kucci. So when you when a woman
• 41:00
  Speaker 1: tells you no one time, that's the boundary. It's already
• 41:04
  Speaker 1: been set. So anything you do after that, and it's
• 41:08
  Speaker 1: not just for women, for men too.
• 41:09
  Speaker 2: Okay.
• 41:10
  Speaker 1: So I guess if you asks this man for a
• 41:13
  Speaker 1: plane ticket money or a bag, I don't know, light
• 41:15
  Speaker 1: bail money and he say no, no means no, don't
• 41:18
  Speaker 1: ask him again, right because he didn't mean it the
• 41:22
  Speaker 1: first time.
• 41:24
  Speaker 2: A different way for me, because no is the starting
• 41:28
  Speaker 2: negotiating point as far as.
• 41:32
  Speaker 1: No because it's too much, or no like cause just no.
• 41:37
  Speaker 1: When we talk about like sex, that's different.
• 41:39
  Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying.
• 41:40
  Speaker 1: So even can I put the tip in? What does
• 41:44
  Speaker 1: that fucking mean? Can you put the tip in?
• 41:47
  Speaker 2: Right? That is such a dumb request.
• 41:50
  Speaker 1: And I think it gets kind of blurry a little bit.
• 41:52
  Speaker 1: The lines get kind of blurry because there may be
• 41:54
  Speaker 1: some women who want you to try right, They want
• 41:57
  Speaker 1: to act they.
• 42:00
  Speaker 2: Oh, I've been that girl you're talking. You want to
• 42:04
  Speaker 2: give it to him, but you want him to work
• 42:06
  Speaker 2: for it.
• 42:09
  Speaker 1: But that gets confusing for men, right because you can
• 42:12
  Speaker 1: run into somebody else who like, they said no and
• 42:15
  Speaker 1: they meant that shit.
• 42:16
  Speaker 2: Who also says no in the same manner and they're
• 42:18
  Speaker 2: laughing because they're nervous, uncomfortable and uncomfortable and you misconfused,
• 42:25
  Speaker 2: That is that the word misconfused, misconstrued, misconstrue that what
• 42:32
  Speaker 2: Tammy was doing that time. She was like saying no,
• 42:36
  Speaker 2: but he you know, Like, so I guess it is
• 42:40
  Speaker 2: very confusing for anyone, you know, But I guess you
• 42:43
  Speaker 2: should just take no as a no, even at the lyrics.
• 42:46
  Speaker 1: Yeah, So if a woman tells, you know, the only
• 42:50
  Speaker 1: way you should be having sex all of a sudden
• 42:52
  Speaker 1: is if she initiates it.
• 42:54
  Speaker 2: At that point, you're right.
• 42:56
  Speaker 1: You know, like once she says no, just you should
• 42:59
  Speaker 1: be turned off. Because remember, consent is very sexy. Right,
• 43:03
  Speaker 1: So anytime somebody says no, I don't do that, like
• 43:06
  Speaker 1: for you to keep asking that's a problem.
• 43:11
  Speaker 2: Or like have you ever had a guy say, oh, well,
• 43:13
  Speaker 2: let me just eat it? Oh yes, and then you
• 43:16
  Speaker 2: just let him eat it and they send him home? Right?
• 43:19
  Speaker 2: So I did that.
• 43:21
  Speaker 1: Yeah, as a grown woman who has pistols and stuff
• 43:24
  Speaker 1: like that, Yes, I have done that, and I don't
• 43:26
  Speaker 1: I wouldn't do that now, but young when I was younger,
• 43:29
  Speaker 1: and I even remember being even younger and in a
• 43:32
  Speaker 1: bad situation where a dude asked me to eat it
• 43:39
  Speaker 1: and I allowed him to and the next thing I
• 43:41
  Speaker 1: knew he was he done while he was eating and
• 43:43
  Speaker 1: he was putting in a condom.
• 43:45
  Speaker 2: Mm hmm.
• 43:46
  Speaker 1: So now like you coming up like trying to hurry
• 43:48
  Speaker 1: up and seek your dicking me right, that happened to
• 43:52
  Speaker 1: me before.
• 43:53
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you gotta be careful. Just if you don't want
• 43:55
  Speaker 2: to engage in anything, don't let him do anything to you.
• 43:58
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that test strawstro And I keep telling y'all, man,
• 44:02
  Speaker 1: sometimes men cannot control themselves once that should kick in,
• 44:05
  Speaker 1: and until they release, they are beast.
• 44:08
  Speaker 2: They're gonna be a beast.
• 44:09
  Speaker 1: So you cannot play with men in that capacity at all.
• 44:12
  Speaker 1: Don't do it, you know. So if you say no,
• 44:15
  Speaker 1: letting me know, don't be like no and then staying
• 44:19
  Speaker 1: and sticking around. Get out of there, and don't be
• 44:21
  Speaker 1: in close settings with men if you don't want to
• 44:25
  Speaker 1: have sex.
• 44:25
  Speaker 2: I don't go to a.
• 44:26
  Speaker 1: Nigga house at this big grown age unless I'm popping
• 44:28
  Speaker 1: at pussy. I'm not going over there to be in
• 44:31
  Speaker 1: his house sitting up watching TV. We can go someplace
• 44:34
  Speaker 1: else for that. Yeah, I'm not hanging out. Yeah, I'm
• 44:38
  Speaker 1: not hanging out.
• 44:40
  Speaker 2: So you'll only go to a man's house if you
• 44:43
  Speaker 2: already have sex.
• 44:45
  Speaker 1: Or we've already had sex before, why am I over there? Otherwise,
• 44:49
  Speaker 1: you don't just hang out at people's house like you.
• 44:52
  Speaker 1: You go to a man's house, he and he's never
• 44:54
  Speaker 1: taking you out anywhere else, He's never done anything.
• 44:57
  Speaker 2: You don't just want to chill with you. He want
• 44:59
  Speaker 2: to have sex. Oh, they always they want to have
• 45:01
  Speaker 2: sex with you outside.
• 45:03
  Speaker 1: Yeah, right, but you are at least likely to be
• 45:06
  Speaker 1: in a bad situation outside. So I just think women
• 45:10
  Speaker 1: gotta be smarter in that way too, man. And then
• 45:13
  Speaker 1: when you're talking about young girls like these guys act
• 45:15
  Speaker 1: like they don't understand what the fuck women talking about.
• 45:17
  Speaker 1: But when you add their daughters or sisters or mothers
• 45:21
  Speaker 1: in the scenario, not all of a sudden they understand.
• 45:24
  Speaker 1: So y'all problem is y'all like to a violate other
• 45:26
  Speaker 1: people daughters, mothers and mamas. But it can't be yours though,
• 45:32
  Speaker 1: So if everybody just had mutual respect, as if this
• 45:35
  Speaker 1: woman could have could possibly or this this is somebody's child.
• 45:39
  Speaker 2: Always, yeah, always, somebody's shout, somebody's baby.
• 45:44
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I have friends who have have shocked me right
• 45:50
  Speaker 1: just in general conversation, like, yeah, I get my niggat
• 45:52
  Speaker 1: three cent of you out the country on vacation or something.
• 45:54
  Speaker 1: I'm like, what, I'm always like shocked, But it's like
• 45:59
  Speaker 1: more friends is then not be down with.
• 46:02
  Speaker 2: Opp like that? Have you ever done something like that?
• 46:09
  Speaker 1: First of all, I've never had a threesome, and I
• 46:11
  Speaker 1: ain't going out of the country to fuck no random nigga.
• 46:14
  Speaker 1: And I'm definitely not going out the country with my
• 46:16
  Speaker 1: country with my nigga and having a threesome with some
• 46:19
  Speaker 1: fucking ratchet cooschie.
• 46:20
  Speaker 2: It's not happening. I don't know how that works, because
• 46:25
  Speaker 2: are you like putting on different columns every time, like
• 46:28
  Speaker 2: between people or how does what is this?
• 46:33
  Speaker 1: I had a friend of mine and you know this
• 46:35
  Speaker 1: person too, I'm gonna tell you who. They sent me
• 46:38
  Speaker 1: a video before and he was fucking two bitches of
• 46:40
  Speaker 1: Mexico with no condom and I'm like.
• 46:44
  Speaker 2: You're wiling yikes on bikes.
• 46:46
  Speaker 1: I put to that point, I might have wanted that thing.
• 46:49
  Speaker 2: I'm like, oh, yeah, you high risk. I'm good right
• 46:54
  Speaker 2: out here wild with your penis to just be surprised
• 46:57
  Speaker 2: on what people are you see Boston Rich she and
• 47:00
  Speaker 2: his girlfriend. You never know what people are doing behind
• 47:03
  Speaker 2: closed doors, and.
• 47:04
  Speaker 1: That's like behind closed doors, it should be back there.
• 47:08
  Speaker 1: I don't I don't agree with what she did them,
• 47:11
  Speaker 1: how she's.
• 47:12
  Speaker 2: How she potentially exposed him for his kinks.
• 47:16
  Speaker 1: I didn't listen to the song to see what it
• 47:18
  Speaker 1: was that he said that warranted disresponse from her. But
• 47:23
  Speaker 1: if it was, like I mean, but then we can
• 47:26
  Speaker 1: determine what somebody deems disrespectful either.
• 47:29
  Speaker 2: So right, yeah, keep with you what you said, Keep
• 47:34
  Speaker 2: your regrets to a minimum. Don't be out here pegging
• 47:39
  Speaker 2: niggas if you ain't having three sons.
• 47:43
  Speaker 1: If that's not what you went to, right, I mean,
• 47:46
  Speaker 1: there are some men who like to watch.
• 47:49
  Speaker 2: Listen, Diddy and Cassie, you see what I'm saying. There
• 47:51
  Speaker 2: are some men.
• 47:52
  Speaker 1: Who like to watch other men men have sex and
• 47:57
  Speaker 1: then now years later you want to sit right, but
• 48:02
  Speaker 1: Cassie actually did say, you know, he should be in
• 48:05
  Speaker 1: jail for beating my ass basically, not for all the
• 48:08
  Speaker 1: other things, because she was a willing participant in those things.
• 48:13
  Speaker 1: But it's when she wanted to stop and he wouldn't
• 48:15
  Speaker 1: allow her to stop. It's the problem like he like
• 48:18
  Speaker 1: he owned her.
• 48:19
  Speaker 2: Basically, I just my freak flag don't fly that high
• 48:25
  Speaker 2: like like I like regular sex.
• 48:29
  Speaker 1: And I have had to tell multiplemen on multiple occasions
• 48:33
  Speaker 1: like hey, hey, I am so grown. Anything that I
• 48:37
  Speaker 1: wanted to do, I've already done it, So you're not
• 48:40
  Speaker 1: about to cohurse me into let in some bitch with
• 48:43
  Speaker 1: twenty inch tracks eat my cucci.
• 48:45
  Speaker 2: I'm cool.
• 48:47
  Speaker 1: Why don't you go and get I think men are
• 48:50
  Speaker 1: more wrapped up in getting you to do the thing
• 48:52
  Speaker 1: they want you to do, because men don't like no.
• 48:54
  Speaker 1: They don't like no at all, even.
• 48:56
  Speaker 2: If nobody likes no. I hate no. That's one of
• 48:59
  Speaker 2: my I just special line. I want. I don't mind know,
• 49:04
  Speaker 2: but I'm he'll get something you want.
• 49:05
  Speaker 1: But somebody telling you no, you want to butt plug
• 49:09
  Speaker 1: a dude and he says no, you mad?
• 49:12
  Speaker 2: I don't want to plugger like I want, you know,
• 49:21
  Speaker 2: Like when people say no to the things I want,
• 49:23
  Speaker 2: I don't don't try to take the things I want.
• 49:26
  Speaker 1: The things are reasonable that you probably want, though some
• 49:29
  Speaker 1: of these things and then want are very unreasonable with
• 49:32
  Speaker 1: whomever they're wanting it from, because you can get somebody
• 49:36
  Speaker 1: that that enjoys doing all the.
• 49:38
  Speaker 2: Things you like.
• 49:39
  Speaker 1: So what's turning you on is coheerson somebody who doesn't
• 49:43
  Speaker 1: normally do the thing into doing it. That's the turn on.
• 49:47
  Speaker 1: It's not the act of it.
• 49:48
  Speaker 2: The turn on is control, right, right? No, you can't
• 49:53
  Speaker 2: control me. I'm not I have. I used to be
• 49:56
  Speaker 2: talking to this dude.
• 49:56
  Speaker 1: I think I might have mentioned a couple of weeks ago,
• 49:59
  Speaker 1: like you, he has a girlfriend, and basically he was
• 50:01
  Speaker 1: wanting me to come in. I'm like, first of all,
• 50:03
  Speaker 1: how much money you got for something like this? Because
• 50:05
  Speaker 1: white men when they do polygamy, they had their bitches
• 50:08
  Speaker 1: in different houses. You want me to be in the
• 50:11
  Speaker 1: same kitchen with a bitch. You're out of your mind, right, Okay?
• 50:14
  Speaker 1: So can you afford to fund my whole life while
• 50:19
  Speaker 1: you because that's what that type of shit is for
• 50:21
  Speaker 1: is it is for a nation building? Okay? It is
• 50:24
  Speaker 1: not just for a man to get his rocks off.
• 50:27
  Speaker 1: You just want different women because I don't know, you
• 50:29
  Speaker 1: tied at the current sometimes and you just want like
• 50:32
  Speaker 1: a little outlet, your little own little personal outlet somewhere,
• 50:36
  Speaker 1: or like he wanted to introduce me.
• 50:41
  Speaker 2: These people.
• 50:42
  Speaker 1: It's like because he wanted to be able to openly
• 50:44
  Speaker 1: deal with both of us.
• 50:45
  Speaker 2: Basically, Oh, I've had that. I've had a guy who
• 50:48
  Speaker 2: was like, I want you to be me and my
• 50:52
  Speaker 2: wife's girlfriend, and I would like for you to come
• 50:56
  Speaker 2: to dinner with us so you can meet her. No,
• 51:01
  Speaker 2: he wanted me to go to dinner with just her.
• 51:07
  Speaker 2: Hell no, I am not participating. I do not want
• 51:11
  Speaker 2: to participate.
• 51:13
  Speaker 1: And my question is like, what makes you think I'm
• 51:15
  Speaker 1: gonna like your bitch? If I was into that type
• 51:18
  Speaker 1: of shit, like you like that bitch? What makes you
• 51:21
  Speaker 1: think I'm gonna like her in that way? If I
• 51:24
  Speaker 1: were on that type of time, if.
• 51:26
  Speaker 2: I was on even if I was on that type
• 51:28
  Speaker 2: of time, it would be me and my husband and
• 51:31
  Speaker 2: she coming to meet me. I'm not about to be
• 51:34
  Speaker 2: outside bitch looking in. What do they call that?
• 51:37
  Speaker 1: They call it a unicorn, right, the unicorn.
• 51:40
  Speaker 2: I don't know. I don't subscribe to that ship. That
• 51:44
  Speaker 2: is not what I want.
• 51:46
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I think it's a unicorn, like the other woman
• 51:49
  Speaker 1: like comes into a marriage.
• 51:50
  Speaker 2: Basically, thank you shout these people too grown. I'm too
• 51:56
  Speaker 2: territorial for that. You the boy, Yeah, like, ain't nobody
• 52:02
  Speaker 2: fucking mind nigga.
• 52:03
  Speaker 1: But yeah, you know, I think also like when women
• 52:17
  Speaker 1: do go against themselves to give a man what they want,
• 52:20
  Speaker 1: the man knows it right, because I'm pretty sure she's
• 52:23
  Speaker 1: not like your body probably tending up you. You seem uncomfortable,
• 52:28
  Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. It's no, really, you can't
• 52:29
  Speaker 1: really act like you're into some shit you're not into.
• 52:35
  Speaker 2: I don't know you could pretend now you sleep. I'm
• 52:38
  Speaker 2: so tired, y'all. I've been. I told y'a, I'm burning
• 52:41
  Speaker 2: the candle at both ends. But you can pretend, especially
• 52:47
  Speaker 2: if you have like incentive. You know, I'm sure he
• 52:50
  Speaker 2: was providing her with lifestyle, you know, that could have
• 52:53
  Speaker 2: been incentive to act like she was in And then
• 52:56
  Speaker 2: she and that she went out and purchased the strap.
• 53:00
  Speaker 2: It wasn't like he had it. It was like, surprise,
• 53:03
  Speaker 2: look what I got for you to trow me mm hmmm.
• 53:06
  Speaker 2: So it's kind of like there has to be a
• 53:09
  Speaker 2: little accountabilit accountability there right, a lot.
• 53:14
  Speaker 1: A lot ally, Yeah, no matter that the eight man Listen,
• 53:18
  Speaker 1: I've been running circles around niggas since I was fifteen
• 53:20
  Speaker 1: years old. You're not about to tell me at seventeen,
• 53:24
  Speaker 1: you this person needs you do a thing like I
• 53:27
  Speaker 1: know we say that often, but as grown women now
• 53:30
  Speaker 1: looking at no, we didn't know, we did not have
• 53:32
  Speaker 1: We don't.
• 53:33
  Speaker 2: We didn't have the same minds.
• 53:35
  Speaker 1: We don't have the same minds.
• 53:36
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but you know right from wrong?
• 53:39
  Speaker 1: Yes, we essentially the same people today. I remember all
• 53:44
  Speaker 1: the bullshit. Okay, so she was just seventeen, she's only twenty,
• 53:50
  Speaker 1: so they ain't no difference between who you were then
• 53:54
  Speaker 1: and twenty years old.
• 53:55
  Speaker 2: Girl.
• 53:55
  Speaker 1: Cut it out. Not much, not much, but yeah, so
• 54:02
  Speaker 1: I don't think did he force you or you know,
• 54:05
  Speaker 1: he just pretty much just benefited off you not having any.
• 54:08
  Speaker 2: Boundaries, right, exactly, That's what it is.
• 54:13
  Speaker 1: And you mad now because you probably did some disgusting
• 54:16
  Speaker 1: things supposedly out of love when they make your partner happy,
• 54:22
  Speaker 1: but then now you're using it against them. You never
• 54:25
  Speaker 1: loved that person. It was all to me. It seems transactional, right.
• 54:31
  Speaker 1: I agree, he was paying for butt play.
• 54:36
  Speaker 2: And now he's gonna have all the butt play he
• 54:38
  Speaker 2: wants because you don't put it out there is everybody
• 54:40
  Speaker 2: in his dems Like, if that's what you like, I
• 54:43
  Speaker 2: got you I'm here for it, but I feel sad
• 54:50
  Speaker 2: for her too though, because I do feel like she is, like,
• 54:56
  Speaker 2: although she needs to be accountable, there is a little
• 54:58
  Speaker 2: victimization there, and that I didn't listen to the song
• 55:02
  Speaker 2: so I can't hear what he said about her. Yeah,
• 55:04
  Speaker 2: I gotta go. I'm gonna go find him.
• 55:06
  Speaker 1: Maybe we should have done that prior to the episode,
• 55:09
  Speaker 1: right because I want to know, Like, I guess, nothing
• 55:12
  Speaker 1: to me, nothing warrants what's happening right now? Yeah, you know,
• 55:16
  Speaker 1: unless you want to expose him for being I don't
• 55:20
  Speaker 1: know if you feel toping to young girls. Yeah, if
• 55:22
  Speaker 1: she feels abused, but do you really like you?
• 55:25
  Speaker 2: You?
• 55:26
  Speaker 1: You look like he was having a whole life up
• 55:28
  Speaker 1: until recently.
• 55:31
  Speaker 2: And here's the thing, you might she might even be
• 55:33
  Speaker 2: back with him, you know, relationships don't. It takes as
• 55:38
  Speaker 2: long as to end as it did to start half
• 55:40
  Speaker 2: the time, you know.
• 55:42
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean she's trying to ruin his career, right
• 55:45
  Speaker 1: because no rapper, even though a lot of them are homosexual, okay,
• 55:50
  Speaker 1: they don't want that label on them unless they're like
• 55:53
  Speaker 1: out for real. So she's she's trying to ruin his career. Basically,
• 55:59
  Speaker 1: why always gay dudes be coming from boss Man Dilo?
• 56:02
  Speaker 1: You don't really be feeding into it, But why did they?
• 56:05
  Speaker 2: Like I always say funny online, I love him. I
• 56:11
  Speaker 2: mean I'll be finding myself talking like him. I'll say
• 56:13
  Speaker 2: some ship and I just be like, no, not, no,
• 56:18
  Speaker 2: that's not boss Man Delo.
• 56:19
  Speaker 1: Girl, you talk about finest two times crazy?
• 56:21
  Speaker 2: You know, yes, I'll just be walking down the street.
• 56:25
  Speaker 2: I'll be like, no murder. Nobody said no girl, you
• 56:37
  Speaker 2: talking about Finess? Well what did? I don't even know
• 56:41
  Speaker 2: nothing about him.
• 56:42
  Speaker 1: No, It's been a couple of like gay boys come
• 56:45
  Speaker 1: out and and and claim like somebody I remember, like
• 56:48
  Speaker 1: last year and I was like, dlo, like the nigga
• 56:51
  Speaker 1: name is Delo on a download, Like somebody came out
• 56:55
  Speaker 1: last year and was uh claiming that they were messaging
• 56:58
  Speaker 1: back and forth on Instagram. He said the ship with
• 57:00
  Speaker 1: some bullshit. But just recently somebody else came out again.
• 57:03
  Speaker 1: So I don't know.
• 57:05
  Speaker 2: I don't even care. We need I think, uh, women
• 57:10
  Speaker 2: don't care.
• 57:11
  Speaker 1: These niggas care. The only thing we care about is
• 57:13
  Speaker 1: you being honest, So we not we don't get caught
• 57:15
  Speaker 1: in across fire of some bullshit.
• 57:17
  Speaker 2: Right, Just be honest with who you are, because it's people.
• 57:20
  Speaker 2: It's I promise you there's somebody out there that's into it, but.
• 57:26
  Speaker 1: They don't want to be out with it because they
• 57:28
  Speaker 1: don't they don't want to have to face the homeboys.
• 57:30
  Speaker 1: It has nothing to do. And this, this is a
• 57:33
  Speaker 1: prime example of how men men are always vulnerable with women.
• 57:36
  Speaker 2: It's your friends.
• 57:37
  Speaker 1: You can't be vulnerable with something lying on us all
• 57:39
  Speaker 1: the damn time. Mm hm, ship, we know you, we
• 57:43
  Speaker 1: know your deepest, darkest, deepest darkest secrets, nigga, just like
• 57:48
  Speaker 1: that booty hole, Okay, quit playing with us.
• 57:54
  Speaker 2: So yeah.
• 57:55
  Speaker 1: So basically, when the relationship ends, then now all the
• 57:58
  Speaker 1: truth comes out.
• 58:00
  Speaker 2: And that's whack. Yeah. I think that's whag too.
• 58:04
  Speaker 1: Yeah, because now she feels used. She she ignored herself
• 58:08
  Speaker 1: and her boundaries and now you're reclaiming your power and
• 58:12
  Speaker 1: all this bullshit. Girl, cut it out.
• 58:14
  Speaker 2: Or like when a friendship is and one of the
• 58:16
  Speaker 2: friends start telling all the business of the other friend.
• 58:20
  Speaker 2: Don't like that. Yeah, I'm like, we're going to keep
• 58:23
  Speaker 2: the secrets even if that's why.
• 58:25
  Speaker 1: That's why I don't like when friendships and that shit
• 58:27
  Speaker 1: bothered me more than break up with men, because bitch,
• 58:30
  Speaker 1: you just walk around this planet with my secrets because
• 58:34
  Speaker 1: we tell our friends a lot of shit over the years.
• 58:37
  Speaker 1: Imagine fifteen years of friendship gone and you just walk
• 58:41
  Speaker 1: around ready to do a tell all. When I hit
• 58:43
  Speaker 1: this billy, bitch, I'll beat you up. All right, y'all, listen,
• 58:54
  Speaker 1: My last last is, don't do no shit you don't
• 58:56
  Speaker 1: want to do. Don't do no shit to where you
• 58:58
  Speaker 1: can't look at yourself and mirror cut it out. You
• 59:01
  Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. Like these men, they will use
• 59:06
  Speaker 1: you up. There is nothing you can do to satisfy
• 59:09
  Speaker 1: some men, So don't even try satisfy you. That's all
• 59:14
  Speaker 1: that matters.
• 59:16
  Speaker 2: I agree. If it's not making you happy and you're
• 59:19
  Speaker 2: not fulfilled by it, don't participate. And if you are
• 59:22
  Speaker 2: participating in that shit, stop today. You don't have to
• 59:25
  Speaker 2: do it no more. You can set those boundaries right
• 59:28
  Speaker 2: now for yourself. My good sister, our brother, you still
• 59:33
  Speaker 2: ask eat it though. Once you eat ask once. I
• 59:35
  Speaker 2: only ate your ass because I get you nothing for
• 59:37
  Speaker 2: your birthday. Okay, remember that, all right, y'all.
• 59:50
  Speaker 1: So your boundaries are not something you navigate for love,
• 59:54
  Speaker 1: the right person will never require you to become somebody
• 59:57
  Speaker 1: you don't recognize, just to be with them. Get out
• 1:00:00
  Speaker 1: of there, all right, y'all tell me I'm gonna buy
• 1:00:07
  Speaker 1: you one of those fucking little cocky' No. I can talk,
• 1:00:11
  Speaker 1: I can talk match be right at one hour. I
• 1:00:14
  Speaker 1: can keep going. But anyway, y'all enjoyed this episode?
• 1:00:17
  Speaker 2: What did I say? All? Tell what I said to
• 1:00:20
  Speaker 2: you right before we started?
• 1:00:22
  Speaker 1: Can we please try to keep us in forty five minutes?
• 1:00:25
  Speaker 1: You just want to give y'all a little hard forty
• 1:00:27
  Speaker 1: five you know, I.
• 1:00:28
  Speaker 2: Just always end up going over. I apologize, She's like, yeah, sure,
• 1:00:33
  Speaker 2: and then we go to an hour and change every
• 1:00:35
  Speaker 2: mother time.
• 1:00:38
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  Speaker 1: We need to start having these bitches calling. That's what
• 1:01:14
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• 1:01:17
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• 1:01:26
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• 1:01:46
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