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The Loss of Preference: Finding What You Want Again
Kamini Wood addresses the silent but deeply disorienting symptom of surviving controlling or toxic dynamics: the complete loss of personal preference. She explains that freezing or going completely blank when asked simple questions—like where you want to eat or what you want for your birthday—is not a sign of being boring or indecisive, but a protective survival adaptation. When having unique desires historically led to conflict, punishment, or being labeled as selfish, the nervous system learned that keeping a "blank surface" was the safest way to maintain connection and avoid being a…
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