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Hope Through Community Support · The World Knowledge

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  Speaker 1: Well, good morning, listeners. Thank you for listening to Lament
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  Speaker 1: of Hope podcast, and thank you for listening, watching, whichever
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  Speaker 1: platform you're on. Well, I think that's good, though, because
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  Speaker 1: when I grew up, it was very fearful. Don't do this,
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  Speaker 1: don't do that, it's not going to work. And my
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  Speaker 1: parents meant it in the sense of they were fearful people,
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  Speaker 1: so it was hard for them. They didn't want us
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  Speaker 1: to have to go through hard things and all of
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  Speaker 1: those fears kind of trickle down. And so that's even
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  Speaker 1: something that I wish I was more open to is
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  Speaker 1: being less afraid of failing or less afraid of it
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  Speaker 1: not working, you know, because it, you had this mindset,
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  Speaker 1: at least for me as a kid, that if you failed,
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  Speaker 1: it was done, you know, you were done. You couldn't,
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  Speaker 1: there was no, there was no going back. There was no,
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  Speaker 1: it was so, you were so helpless if something didn't,
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  Speaker 1: you know, if something wrong happened or if you didn't
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  Speaker 1: do something. And so having to rewire and think, no,
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  Speaker 1: like if I do something wrong or if I make
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  Speaker 1: a mistake, you know, I can recover from this. There
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  Speaker 1: can be good that comes out of this. It's not
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  Speaker 1: just all doom and gloom. So I think that's really,
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I think that's very encouraging too. Cause then
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  Speaker 1: if your kids want to do something that's like really extraordinary,
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  Speaker 1: you know, like in the sense of like, dad, I
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  Speaker 1: want to be an artist. You know, if I had
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  Speaker 1: said that to my dad, he'd be like, yeah, you
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  Speaker 1: can do that, but you have to be a doctor first.
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  Speaker 1: And then if you want to be an artist, you
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  Speaker 1: could do it on Saturdays, like for two hours, you know? Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I sympathize with that 100%. That's how I became an engineer, essentially,
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  Speaker 2: because in my time, there were only three careers that
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  Speaker 2: were acceptable to my parents and the whole generation. Either
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  Speaker 2: a doctor or an engineer or an architect. everything else
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  Speaker 2: will not be acceptable. So I completely sympathize with what
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  Speaker 2: you're saying. I think it's a difficult act to balance.
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  Speaker 2: It's not easy as a parent to strike the right balance.
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  Speaker 2: The way I'm trying to do that with my children
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  Speaker 2: is that whenever, for example, if the other day, the eldest,
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  Speaker 2: that is sports day at school, When he came back,
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  Speaker 2: I didn't ask him, did you win the race? I
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  Speaker 2: asked him, did you enjoy running? Did you enjoy the race?
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  Speaker 2: It doesn't matter. I don't even want to know. I'm
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  Speaker 2: not going to ask the question because I got zero
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  Speaker 2: interest in finding out which level of the podium he
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  Speaker 2: ended up with. What's important to me is that you
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  Speaker 2: had a good day, you enjoyed the run, and you
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  Speaker 2: had fun with your friends. I think that doing this...
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  Speaker 2: consistently sort of shifts the focus from the dichotomy failure
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  Speaker 2: or winning to the dichotomy enjoyed or rather not. That,
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  Speaker 2: I think, that takes out a bit of that stigma
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  Speaker 2: that my generation, as far as I understand yours as well,
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  Speaker 2: has got attached to failing or losing. There is nothing wrong.
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  Speaker 2: And the reality actually is that I've had one of
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  Speaker 2: the good things, one of the exceptional things that the
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  Speaker 2: Big Off experience has brought into my life is that
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  Speaker 2: it's given me the opportunity to speak to people that
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  Speaker 2: are really successful. You know, what you would classify as
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  Speaker 2: a celebrity that otherwise I would have never been able
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  Speaker 2: to speak to. And the first thing that's, the one
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  Speaker 2: thing that almost everybody has confirmed is that Yes, they
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  Speaker 2: have made it in life, but for that win that
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  Speaker 2: brought them where they are, they've lost so many battles.
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  Speaker 2: You know, it's a nine to one ratio, if not
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  Speaker 2: larger than that. So the reality is that if you're
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  Speaker 2: not failing enough, it means that you're not trying enough.
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  Speaker 2: And if you're not trying enough, you're going to struggle
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  Speaker 2: to find that, you know, that victory that is going
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  Speaker 2: to lead you to do what you want in life
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  Speaker 2: to your own personal success. But it's difficult.