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Speaker 1: Napoleon Hill. This is an independent edition containing the original
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Speaker 1: Why Men Seldom Succeed Before 40 I discovered, from the
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Speaker 1: analysis of over 25,000 people, that men who succeed in
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Speaker 1: an outstanding way seldom do so before the age of 40,
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Speaker 1: and more often they do not strike their real pace
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Speaker 1: until they are well beyond the age of 50. This
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Speaker 1: fact was so astounding that it prompted me to go
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Speaker 1: into the study of its cause most carefully. carrying the
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Speaker 1: investigation over a period of more than 12 years. This
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Speaker 1: study disclosed the fact that the major reason why the
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Speaker 1: majority of men who succeed do not begin to do
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Speaker 1: so before the age of 40 to 50 is their
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Speaker 1: tendency to dissipate their energies through overindulgence in physical expression
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Speaker 1: of the emotion of sex. The majority of men never
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Speaker 1: learn that the urge of sex has other possibilities, which
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Speaker 1: far transcend in importance that of mere physical expression. The
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Speaker 1: majority of those who make this discovery do so after
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Speaker 1: having wasted many years at a period when the sex
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Speaker 1: energy is at its height prior to the age of
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Speaker 1: 45 to 50. This usually is followed by noteworthy achievement.
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Speaker 1: The lives of many men up to and sometimes well
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Speaker 1: past the age of 40 reflect a continued dissipation of
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Speaker 1: energies which could have been more profitably turned into better channels.
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Speaker 1: Their finer and more powerful emotions are sown wildly to
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Speaker 1: the four winds. Out of this habit of the male
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Speaker 1: grew the term, sowing his wild oats. The desire for
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Speaker 1: sexual expression is by far the strongest and most impelling
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Speaker 1: of all the human emotions. And for this very reason,
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Speaker 1: this desire, when harnessed and transmuted into action, other than
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Speaker 1: that of physical expression, may raise one to the status
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Speaker 1: of a genius. One of America's most able businessmen frankly
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Speaker 1: admitted that his attractive secretary was responsible for most of
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Speaker 1: the plans he created. He admitted that her presence lifted
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Speaker 1: him to heights of creative imagination such as he could
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Speaker 1: experience under no other stimulus. One of the most successful
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Speaker 1: men in America owes most of his success to the
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Speaker 1: influence of a very charming young woman who has served
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Speaker 1: as his source of inspiration for more than 12 years.
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Speaker 1: Everyone knows the man to whom this reference is made,
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Speaker 1: but not everyone knows the real source of his achievements.
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Speaker 1: History is not lacking in examples of men who attain
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Speaker 1: to the status of genii as the result of the
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Speaker 1: use of artificial mind stimulants in the form of alcohol
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Speaker 1: and narcotics. Edgar Allan Poe wrote The Raven while under
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Speaker 1: the influence of liquor, dreaming dreams that mortal never dared
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Speaker 1: to dream before. James Whitcomb Riley did his best writing
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Speaker 1: while under the influence of alcohol. Perhaps it was thus
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Speaker 1: he saw the ordered intermingling of the real and the dream,
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Speaker 1: the mill above the river and the mist above the stream.
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Speaker 1: Robert Burns wrote best when intoxicated, For auld lang syne,
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Speaker 1: my dear, we'll take a cup of kindness yet, for
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Speaker 1: auld lang syne. But let it be remembered that many
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Speaker 1: such men have destroyed themselves in the end. Nature has
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Speaker 1: prepared her own potions with which men may safely stimulate
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Speaker 1: their minds so they vibrate on a plane that enables
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Speaker 1: them to tune in to fine and rare thoughts which
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Speaker 1: come from no man knows where. No satisfactory substitute for
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Speaker 1: nature's stimulants has ever been found. It is a fact
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Speaker 1: well known to psychologists that there is a very close
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Speaker 1: relationship between sex desires and spiritual urges. a fact which
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Speaker 1: accounts for the peculiar behavior of people who participate in
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Speaker 1: the orgies known as religious revivals, common among the primitive types.
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Speaker 1: The world is ruled, and the destiny of civilization is
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Speaker 1: established by the human emotions. People are influenced in their actions,
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Speaker 1: not by reason so much as by feelings. The creative
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Speaker 1: faculty of the mind is set into action entirely by emotions,
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Speaker 1: and not by cold reason. The most powerful of all
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Speaker 1: human emotions is that of sex. There are other mind stimulants,
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Speaker 1: some of which have been listed, but no one of them,
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Speaker 1: nor all of them combined, can equal the driving power
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Speaker 1: of sex. A mind stimulant is any influence which will
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Speaker 1: either temporarily or permanently increase the vibrations of thought. The
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Speaker 1: ten major stimulants described are those most commonly resorted to.
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Speaker 1: Through these sources one may commune with infinite intelligence, or enter,
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Speaker 1: at will, the storehouse of the subconscious mind, either one's
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Speaker 1: own or that of another person, a procedure which is
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Speaker 1: all there is of genius. A teacher, who has trained
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Speaker 1: and directed the efforts of more than 30,000 salespeople, made
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Speaker 1: the astounding discovery that highly sexed men are the most
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Speaker 1: efficient salesmen. The explanation is, that the factor of personality
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Speaker 1: known as personal magnetism is nothing more nor less than
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Speaker 1: sex energy. Highly sexed people always have a plentiful supply
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Speaker 1: of magnetism. Through cultivation and understanding, this vital force may
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Speaker 1: be drawn upon and used to great advantage in the
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Speaker 1: relationships between people. This energy may be communicated to others
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Speaker 1: through the following media. The Handshake The touch of the
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Speaker 1: hand indicates instantly the presence of magnetism, or the lack
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Speaker 1: of it, the tone of voice. Magnetism, or sex energy,
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Speaker 1: is the factor with which the voice may be colored
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Speaker 1: or made musical and charming, posture and carriage of the body.
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Speaker 1: Highly sexed people move briskly and with grace and ease.
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Speaker 1: The Vibrations of Thought Highly sexed people mix the emotion
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Speaker 1: of sex with their thoughts, or may do so at will,
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Speaker 1: and in that way may influence those around them. Body adornment.
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Speaker 1: People who are highly sexed are usually very careful about
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Speaker 1: their personal appearance. They usually select clothing of a style
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Speaker 1: becoming to their personality, physique, complexion, etc. When employing salesmen,
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Speaker 1: The more capable sales manager looks for the quality of
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Speaker 1: personal magnetism as the first requirement of a salesman. People
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Speaker 1: who lack sex energy will never become enthusiastic, nor inspire
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Speaker 1: others with enthusiasm. And enthusiasm is one of the most
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Speaker 1: important requisites in salesmanship, no matter what one is selling.
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Speaker 1: The public speaker, orator, preacher, lawyer, or salesman who is
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Speaker 1: lacking in sex energy is a flop. as far as
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Speaker 1: being able to influence others is concerned. Couple with this
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Speaker 1: the fact that most people can be influenced only through
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Speaker 1: an appeal to their emotions, and you will understand the
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Speaker 1: importance of sex energy as a part of the salesman's
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Speaker 1: native ability. Master salesmen attain the status of mastery in
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Speaker 1: selling because they, either consciously or unconsciously, transmute the energy
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Speaker 1: of sex into sales enthusiasm. In this statement may be
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Speaker 1: found a very practical suggestion as to the actual meaning
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Speaker 1: of sex transmutation. The salesman who knows how to take
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Speaker 1: his mind off the subject of sex and direct it
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Speaker 1: in sales effort with as much enthusiasm and determination as
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Speaker 1: he would apply to its original purpose has acquired the
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Speaker 1: art of sex transmutation, whether he knows it or not.
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Speaker 1: The majority of salesmen who transmute their sex energy do
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Speaker 1: so without being in the least aware of what they
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Speaker 1: are doing. or how they are doing it. Transmutation of
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Speaker 1: sex energy calls for more willpower than the average person
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Speaker 1: cares to use for this purpose. Those who find it
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Speaker 1: difficult to summon willpower sufficient for transmutation may gradually acquire
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Speaker 1: this ability. Though this requires willpower, the reward for the
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Speaker 1: practice is more than worth the effort. The entire subject
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Speaker 1: of sex is one with which the majority of people
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Speaker 1: appear to be unpardonably ignorant. The urge of sex has
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Speaker 1: been grossly misunderstood, slandered, and burlesqued by the ignorant and
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Speaker 1: the evil-minded for so long that the very word sex
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Speaker 1: is seldom used in polite society. Men and women who
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Speaker 1: are known to be blessed, yes, blessed with highly sexed natures,
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Speaker 1: are usually looked upon as being people who will bear watching.
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Speaker 1: Instead of being called blessed, they are usually called cursed.
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Speaker 1: Millions of people, even in this age of Enlightenment, have
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Speaker 1: inferiority complexes which they developed because of this false belief
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Speaker 1: that a highly sexed nature is a curse. These statements
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Speaker 1: of the virtue of sex energy should not be construed
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Speaker 1: as justification for the libertine. The emotion of sex is
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Speaker 1: a virtue only when used intelligently and with discrimination. It
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Speaker 1: may be misused, and often is, to such an extent
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Speaker 1: that it debases instead of enriches both body and mind.
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Speaker 1: The better use of this power is the burden of
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Speaker 1: this chapter. It seemed quite significant to the author when
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Speaker 1: he made the discovery that practically every great leader whom
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Speaker 1: he had the privilege of analyzing, was a man whose
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Speaker 1: achievements were largely inspired by a woman. In many instances,
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Speaker 1: the woman in the case was a modest, self-denying wife
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Speaker 1: of whom the public had heard but little or nothing.
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Speaker 1: In a few instances, the source of inspiration has been
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Speaker 1: traced to the other woman, Perhaps such cases may not
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Speaker 1: be entirely unknown to you. Intemperance in sex habits is
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Speaker 1: just as detrimental as intemperance in habits of drinking and eating.
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Speaker 1: In this age in which we live, an age which
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Speaker 1: began with the World War, intemperance in habits of sex
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Speaker 1: is common. This orgy of indulgence may account for the
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Speaker 1: shortage of great leaders. No man can avail himself of
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Speaker 1: the forces of his creative imagination while dissipating them. Man
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Speaker 1: is the only creature on earth which violates nature's purpose
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Speaker 1: in this connection. Every other animal indulges its sex nature
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Speaker 1: in moderation and with purpose which harmonizes with the laws
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Speaker 1: of nature. Every other animal responds to the call of
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Speaker 1: sex only in season. Man's inclination is to declare open season.
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Speaker 1: Every intelligent person knows that stimulation in excess through alcoholic
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Speaker 1: drink and narcotics is a form of intemperance which destroys
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Speaker 1: the vital organs of the body, including the brain. Not
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Speaker 1: every person knows, however, that overindulgence in sex expression may
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Speaker 1: become a habit as destructive and as detrimental to creative
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Speaker 1: effort as narcotics or liquor. A sex-mad man is not
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Speaker 1: essentially different than a dope-mad man. Both have lost control
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Speaker 1: over their faculties of reason and willpower. Sexual overindulgence may
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Speaker 1: not only destroy reason and willpower, but it may also
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Speaker 1: lead to either temporary or permanent insanity. Many cases of hypochondria,
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Speaker 1: imaginary illness, grow out of habits developed in ignorance of
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Speaker 1: the true function of sex. From these brief references to
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Speaker 1: the subject, it may be readily seen that ignorance on
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Speaker 1: the subject of sex transmutation forces stupendous penalties upon the
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Speaker 1: ignorant on the one hand and withholds from them equally
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Speaker 1: stupendous benefits on the other. Widespread ignorance on the subject
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Speaker 1: of sex is due to the fact that the subject
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Speaker 1: has been surrounded with mystery and beclouded by dark silence.
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Speaker 1: The conspiracy of mystery and silence has had the same
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Speaker 1: effect upon the minds of young people that the psychology
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Speaker 1: of prohibition had. The result has been increased curiosity and
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Speaker 1: desire to acquire more knowledge on this verboten subject. And,
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Speaker 1: to the shame of all lawmakers and most physicians, By
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Speaker 1: training best qualified to educate youth on that subject, information
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Speaker 1: has not been easily available. Seldom does an individual enter
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Speaker 1: upon highly creative effort in any field of endeavor before
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Speaker 1: the age of 40. The average man reaches the period
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Speaker 1: of his greatest capacity to create between 40 and 60.
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Speaker 1: These statements are based upon analysis of thousands of men
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Speaker 1: and women who have been carefully observed. They should be
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Speaker 1: encouraging to those who fail to arrive before the age
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Speaker 1: of 40, and to those who become frightened at the
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Speaker 1: approach of old age around the 40-year mark. The years
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Speaker 1: between 40 and 50 are, as a rule, the most fruitful.
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Speaker 1: Man should approach this age not with fear and trembling,
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Speaker 1: but with hope and eager anticipation. If you want evidence
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Speaker 1: that most men do not begin to do their best
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Speaker 1: work before the age of 40, Study the records of
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Speaker 1: the most successful men known to the American people, and
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Speaker 1: you will find it. Henry Ford had not hit his
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Speaker 1: pace of achievement until he had passed the age of 40.
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Speaker 1: Andrew Carnegie was well past 40 before he began to
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Speaker 1: reap the reward of his efforts. James J. Hill was
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Speaker 1: still running a telegraph key at the age of 40.
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Speaker 1: His stupendous achievements took place after that age. Biographies of
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Speaker 1: American industrialists and financiers are filled with evidence that the
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Speaker 1: period from 40 to 60 is the most productive age
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Speaker 1: of man. Between the ages of 30 and 40, man
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Speaker 1: begins to learn, if he ever learns, the art of
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Speaker 1: sex transmutation. This discovery is generally accidental, and more often
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Speaker 1: than otherwise, the man who makes it is totally unconscious
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Speaker 1: of his discovery. He may observe that his powers of
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Speaker 1: achievement have increased around the age of 35 to 40,
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Speaker 1: but in most cases he is not familiar with the
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Speaker 1: cause of this change, that nature begins to harmonize the
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Speaker 1: emotions of love and sex in the individual between the
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Speaker 1: ages of 30 and 40, so that he may draw
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Speaker 1: upon these great forces and apply them jointly as stimuli
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Speaker 1: to action. Sex alone is a mighty urge to action,
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Speaker 1: but its forces are like a cyclone. they are often uncontrollable.
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Speaker 1: When the emotion of love begins to mix itself with
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Speaker 1: the emotion of sex, the result is calmness of purpose, poise,
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Speaker 1: accuracy of judgment, and balance. What person who has attained
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Speaker 1: to the age of 40 is so unfortunate as to
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Speaker 1: be unable to analyze these statements and to corroborate them
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Speaker 1: by his own experience? When driven by his desire to
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Speaker 1: please a woman, based solely upon the emotion of sex,
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Speaker 1: A man may be, and usually is, capable of great achievement,
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Speaker 1: but his actions may be disorganized, distorted, and totally destructive.
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Speaker 1: When driven by his desire to please a woman, based
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Speaker 1: upon the motive of sex alone, a man may steal, cheat,
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Speaker 1: and even commit murder. But when the emotion of love
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Speaker 1: is mixed with the emotion of sex, that same man
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Speaker 1: will guide his actions with more sanity, balance, and reason.
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Speaker 1: Criminologists have discovered that the most hardened criminals can be
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Speaker 1: reformed through the influence of a woman's love. There is
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Speaker 1: no record of a criminal having been reformed solely through
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Speaker 1: the sex influence. These facts are well known, but their
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Speaker 1: cause is not. Reformation comes, if at all, through the
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Speaker 1: heart or the emotional side of man, not through his
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Speaker 1: head or reasoning side. Reformation means a change of heart.
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Speaker 1: It does not mean a change of head. A man may,
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Speaker 1: because of reason, make certain changes in his personal conduct
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Speaker 1: to avoid the consequences of undesirable effects. But genuine reformation
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Speaker 1: comes only through a change of heart, through a desire
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Speaker 1: to change. Love, romance, and sex are all emotions capable
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Speaker 1: of driving men to heights of super-achievement. Love is the
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Speaker 1: emotion which serves as a safety valve and ensures balance, poise,
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Speaker 1: and constructive effort. When combined, these three emotions may lift
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Speaker 1: one to an altitude of a genius. There are genii, however,
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Speaker 1: who know but little of the emotion of love. Most
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Speaker 1: of them may be found engaged in some form of
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Speaker 1: action which is destructive, or at least not based upon
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Speaker 1: justice and fairness toward others. If good taste would permit,
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Speaker 1: a dozen genii could be named in the field of
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Speaker 1: industry and finance, who ride ruthlessly over the rights of
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Speaker 1: their fellow men. they seem totally lacking in conscience. The
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Speaker 1: reader can easily supply his own list of such men.
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Speaker 1: The emotions are states of mind. Nature has provided man
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Speaker 1: with a chemistry of the mind, which operates in a
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Speaker 1: manner similar to the principles of chemistry of matter. It
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Speaker 1: is a well-known fact that, through the aid of chemistry
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Speaker 1: of matter, a chemist may create a deadly poison by
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Speaker 1: mixing certain elements, none of which are, in themselves, harmful
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Speaker 1: in the right proportions. The emotions may, likewise, be combined
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Speaker 1: so as to create a deadly poison. The emotions of
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Speaker 1: sex and jealousy, when mixed, may turn a person into
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Speaker 1: an insane beast. The presence of any one or more
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Speaker 1: of the destructive emotions in the human mind, through the
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Speaker 1: chemistry of the mind, sets up a poison which may
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Speaker 1: destroy one's sense of justice and fairness. In extreme cases,
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Speaker 1: The presence of any combination of these emotions in the
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Speaker 1: mind may destroy one's reason. The road to genius consists
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Speaker 1: of the development, control, and use of sex, love, and romance. Briefly,
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Speaker 1: the process may be stated as follows. Encourage the presence
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Speaker 1: of these emotions as the dominating thoughts in one's mind,
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Speaker 1: and discourage the presence of all the destructive emotions. The
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Speaker 1: mind is a creature of habit. It thrives upon the
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Speaker 1: dominating thoughts fed it. Through the faculty of willpower, one
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Speaker 1: may discourage the presence of any emotion and encourage the
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Speaker 1: presence of any other. Control of the mind through the
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Speaker 1: power of will is not difficult. Control comes from persistence
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Speaker 1: and habit. The secret of control lies in understanding the
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Speaker 1: process of transmutation. When any negative emotion presents itself in
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Speaker 1: one's mind, it can be transmuted into a positive or
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Speaker 1: constructive emotion by the simple procedure of changing one's thoughts.
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Speaker 1: There is no other road to genius than through voluntary self-effort.
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Speaker 1: A man may attain to great heights of financial or
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Speaker 1: business achievement solely by the driving force of sex energy,
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Speaker 1: but history is filled with evidence that he may, and
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Speaker 1: usually does, carry with him certain traits of character which
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Speaker 1: rob him of the ability to either hold or enjoy
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Speaker 1: his fortune. This is worthy of analysis, thought, and meditation,
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Speaker 1: for it states a truth, the knowledge of which may
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Speaker 1: be helpful to women as well as men. Ignorance of
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Speaker 1: this has cost thousands of people their privilege of happiness,
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Speaker 1: even though they possessed riches. The emotions of love and
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Speaker 1: sex leave their unmistakable marks upon the features. Moreover, these
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Speaker 1: signs are so visible that all who wish may read them.
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Speaker 1: The man who is driven by the storm of passion
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Speaker 1: based upon sex desires alone plainly advertises that fact to
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Speaker 1: the entire world by the expression of his eyes and
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Speaker 1: the lines of his face. The emotion of love, when
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Speaker 1: mixed with the emotion of sex, softens, modifies, and beautifies
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Speaker 1: the facial expression. No character analyst is needed to tell
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Speaker 1: you this. You may observe it for yourself. The emotion
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Speaker 1: of love brings out and develops the artistic and the
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Speaker 1: aesthetic nature of man. It leaves its impress upon one's
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Speaker 1: very soul, even after the fire has been subdued by
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Speaker 1: time and circumstance. Memories of love never pass. They linger, guide,
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Speaker 1: and influence long after the source of stimulation has faded.
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Speaker 1: There is nothing new in this. Every person who has
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Speaker 1: been moved by genuine love knows that it leaves enduring
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Speaker 1: traces upon the human heart. The effect of love endures
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Speaker 1: because love is spiritual in nature. The man who cannot
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Speaker 1: be stimulated to great heights of achievement by love is hopeless.
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Speaker 1: He is dead, though he may seem to live. Even
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Speaker 1: the memories of love are sufficient to lift one to
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Speaker 1: a higher plane of creative effort. The major force of
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Speaker 1: love may spend itself and pass away, like a fire
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Speaker 1: which has burned itself out, but it leaves behind indelible
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Speaker 1: marks as evidence that it passed that way. Its departure
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Speaker 1: often prepares the human heart for a still greater love.
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Speaker 1: Go back into your yesterdays, at times, and bathe your
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Speaker 1: mind in the beautiful memories of past love. It will
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Speaker 1: soften the influence of the present worries and annoyances. It
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Speaker 1: will give you a source of escape from the unpleasant
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Speaker 1: realities of life. And maybe, who knows, your mind will
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Speaker 1: yield to you during this temporary retreat into the world
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Speaker 1: of fantasy, ideas, or plans which may change the entire
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Speaker 1: financial or spiritual status of your life. If you believe
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Speaker 1: yourself unfortunate because you have loved and lost, perish the thought.
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Speaker 1: One who has loved truly can never lose entirely. Love
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Speaker 1: is whimsical and temperamental. Its nature is ephemeral and transitory.
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Speaker 1: It comes when it pleases and goes away without warning.
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Speaker 1: Accept and enjoy it while it remains, but spend no
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Speaker 1: time worrying about its departure. Worry will never bring it back.
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Speaker 1: Dismiss also the thought that love never comes but once.
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Speaker 1: Love may come and go, times without number, but there
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Speaker 1: are no two love experiences which affect one in just
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Speaker 1: the same way. There may be, and there usually is,
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Speaker 1: one love experience which leaves a deeper imprint on the
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Speaker 1: heart than all the others. But all love experiences are beneficial,
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Speaker 1: except to the person who becomes resentful and cynical when
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Speaker 1: love makes its departure. There should be no disappointment over love,
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Speaker 1: and there would be none if people understood the difference
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Speaker 1: between the emotions of love and sex. The major difference
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Speaker 1: is that love is spiritual, while sex is biological. No
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Speaker 1: experience which touches the human heart with a spiritual force
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Speaker 1: can possibly be harmful, except through ignorance or jealousy. Love is,
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Speaker 1: without question, life's greatest experience. It brings one into communion
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Speaker 1: with infinite intelligence. When mixed with the emotions of romance
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Speaker 1: and sex, it may lead one far up the ladder
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Speaker 1: of creative effort. The emotions of love, sex, and romance
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Speaker 1: are sides of the eternal triangle of achievement-building genius. Nature
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Speaker 1: creates genii through no other force. Love is an emotion
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Speaker 1: with many sides, shades, and colors. The love which one
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Speaker 1: feels for parents or children is quite different from that
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Speaker 1: which one feels for one's sweetheart. The one is mixed
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Speaker 1: with the emotion of sex, while the other is not.
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Speaker 1: The love which one feels in true friendship is not
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Speaker 1: the same as that felt for one's sweetheart, parents, or children,
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Speaker 1: but it too is a form of love. Then there
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Speaker 1: is the emotion of love for things inanimate, such as
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Speaker 1: the love of nature's handiwork. But the most intense and
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Speaker 1: burning of all these various kinds of love is that
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Speaker 1: experienced in the blending of the emotions of love and sex. Marriages,
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Speaker 1: not blessed with the eternal affinity of love, properly balanced
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Speaker 1: and proportioned with sex, cannot be happy ones and seldom endure.
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Speaker 1: Love alone will not bring happiness in marriage, nor will
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Speaker 1: sex alone. When these two beautiful emotions are blended, marriage
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Speaker 1: may bring about a state of mind closest to the
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Speaker 1: spiritual that one may ever know on this earthly plane.
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Speaker 1: When the emotion of romance is added to those of
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Speaker 1: love and sex, the obstructions between the finite mind of
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Speaker 1: man and infinite intelligence are removed. Then a genius has
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Speaker 1: been born! What a different story is this than those
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Speaker 1: usually associated with the emotion of sex. Here is an
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Speaker 1: interpretation of the emotion which lifts it out of the
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Speaker 1: commonplace and makes of it potter's clay in the hands
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Speaker 1: of God, from which he fashions all that is beautiful
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Speaker 1: and inspiring. It is an interpretation which would, when properly understood,
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Speaker 1: bring harmony out of the chaos which exists in too
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Speaker 1: many marriages. The disharmonies, often expressed in the form of nagging,
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Speaker 1: may usually be traced to lack of knowledge on the
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Speaker 1: subject of sex. Where love, romance, and the proper understanding
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Speaker 1: of the emotion and function of sex abide, there is
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Speaker 1: no disharmony between married people. Fortunate is the husband whose
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Speaker 1: wife understands the true relationship between the emotions of love, sex,
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Speaker 1: and romance. When motivated by this holy triumvirate, no form
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Speaker 1: of labor is burdensome, because even the most lowly form
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Speaker 1: of effort takes on the nature of a labor of love.
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Speaker 1: It is a very old saying that a man's wife
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Speaker 1: may either make him or break him, but the reason
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Speaker 1: is not always understood. The making and breaking is the
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Speaker 1: result of the wife's understanding, or lack of understanding, of
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Speaker 1: the emotions of love, sex, and romance. Despite the fact
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Speaker 1: that men are polygamous, by the very nature of their
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Speaker 1: biological inheritance, it is true that no woman has as
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Speaker 1: great an influence on a man as his wife, unless
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Speaker 1: he is married to a woman totally unsuited to his nature.
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Speaker 1: If a woman permits her husband to lose interest in
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Speaker 1: her and become more interested in other women, it is
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Speaker 1: usually because of her ignorance or indifference toward the subjects
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Speaker 1: of sex, love, and romance. This statement presupposes, of course,
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Speaker 1: that genuine love once existed between a man and his wife.
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Speaker 1: The facts are equally applicable to a man who permits
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Speaker 1: his wife's interest in him to die. Married people often
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Speaker 1: bicker over a multitude of trivialities. If these are analyzed accurately,
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Speaker 1: the real cause of the trouble will often be found
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Speaker 1: to be indifference or ignorance on these subjects. Man's greatest
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Speaker 1: motivating force is his desire to please woman, The hunter
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Speaker 1: who excelled during prehistoric days, before the dawn of civilization,
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Speaker 1: did so because of his desire to appear great in
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Speaker 1: the eyes of woman. Man's nature has not changed in
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Speaker 1: this respect. The hunter of today brings home no skins
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Speaker 1: of wild animals, but he indicates his desire for her
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Speaker 1: favor by supplying fine clothes, motor cars, and wealth. Man
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Speaker 1: has the same desire to please woman that he had
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Speaker 1: before the dawn of civilization. The only thing that has
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Speaker 1: changed is his method of pleasing. Men who accumulate large
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Speaker 1: fortunes and attain to great heights of power and fame
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Speaker 1: do so mainly to satisfy their desire to please women.
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Speaker 1: Take women out of their lives, and great wealth would
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Speaker 1: be useless to most men. It is this inherent desire
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Speaker 1: of man to please woman which gives woman the power
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Speaker 1: to make or break a man. The woman who understands
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Speaker 1: man's nature and tactfully caters to it need have no
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Speaker 1: fear of competition from other women. Men may be giants
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Speaker 1: with indomitable willpower when dealing with other men, but they
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Speaker 1: are easily managed by the women of their choice. Most
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Speaker 1: men will not admit that they are easily influenced by
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Speaker 1: the women they prefer, because it is in the nature
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Speaker 1: of the male to want to be recognized as the
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Speaker 1: stronger of the species. Moreover, the intelligent woman recognizes this
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Speaker 1: manly trait and very wisely makes no issue of it.
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Speaker 1: Some men know that they are being influenced by the
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Speaker 1: women of their choice, their wives, sweethearts, mothers, or sisters,
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Speaker 1: but they tactfully refrain from rebelling against the influence because
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Speaker 1: they are intelligent enough to know that no man is
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Speaker 1: happy or complete without the modifying influence of the right woman.
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Speaker 1: The man who does not recognize this important truth deprives
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Speaker 1: himself of the power which has done more to help
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Speaker 1: men achieve success than all other forces combined. You have
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