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why you need to REST · feel your feelings with Ethan Jewell

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  Every time I need to rest, or take a break in order to
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  prioritize my mental health, I find myself overwhelmed by
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  immense feelings of guilt. I tell myself that I don't
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  deserve to rest for that. I'm not mentally ill enough to
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  rest in reality. All I'm doing is exhausting
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  myself even more. Hey there and welcome back to
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  another episode of feel. Your feelings with me, Ethan
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  Jewel. This is a podcast, I started all
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  about Mental health, and mental health awareness.
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  Now, I'm not a doctor, a psychologist or professional in
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  the mental health industry, whatsoever.
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  I'm just a normal guy who is extremely passionate about
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  mental health and wants to start the conversation.
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  So, thank you so much for joining.
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  Me, and as always, let's feel some feelings resting is
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  extremely important to our mental health.
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  It's pretty obvious the same way that, when we become physically
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  tired, we have to rest. When we become mentally, tired,
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  we have Fast as well. And many mental illnesses caused
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  exhaustion depression being the main one.
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  One of the big symptoms is simply feeling unmotivated
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  unable to, even get out of bed. This is something that I've
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  struggled with a lot. There is a period of my life,
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  almost a year where I hardly did anything.
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  The most I could do is have been make music, which was pretty
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  much my lifeline, mental illnesses have a very odd and
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  effective way of making us tie. Tired of making us feel
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  exhausted. So the obvious answer is to
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  rest. The obvious answer is to give
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  yourself a break and to take time off and take care of your
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  mental health to have days where you do the least that you
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  possibly can that you just lay down and prioritize yourself and
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  do things that you love. But the other problem with
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  mental illnesses, is they don't like this either.
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  They don't like it when we take time for ourselves when we take
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  care of ourselves because then they aren't able to Fester.
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  They are able Grow in the shadows, mental illnesses, grow
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  stronger when we ignore them, they grow stronger in the dark,
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  they grow stronger. When we don't pay attention to
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  them, when we don't try to fight them and when we ultimately,
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  don't take care of ourselves and in my personal Journey, as I
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  fought with depression, as I grappled with mental illness, I
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  found that. Every time I tried to rest, I
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  would feel incredibly guilty. There is something in my head,
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  telling me that I didn't deserve to Rest and that I needed to
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  keep moving or else I was useless.
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  And that I wasn't mentally ill enough to feel this way and that
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  other people had it worse and they weren't resting.
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  So why would I? And ultimately the cycle of
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  Shame and guilt led me to be more tired, which led me to be
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  more unmotivated and eventually more depressed.
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  This was a vicious cycle that I was in four years.
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  If this sounds familiar Earlier know that you are not alone.
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  These feelings of guilt and shame that we struggle with.
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  While we're trying to rest and take care of her mental, health
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  are extremely common. This cycle, only allows mental
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  illness to grow, it allows us to grow more and more tired, more
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  exhausted and never be able to take time for ourselves without
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  feeling shame and guilt for it. And remember, if you are feeling
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  shame for resting, you are not really rested.
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  Ting. So what can we do?
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  Unfortunately, our society struggles to promote real Mental
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  Health Care. One Step In Real Mental Health
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  Care is taking plenty of time to rest.
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  However, taking Mental Health Care days, is often seen as a
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  bad thing. We are told to just suck up and
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  keep moving because mental health can't be that
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  detrimental. When in reality, it can be just
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  as detrimental as having a physical illness.
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  Mental illness beats us down and stops us from being able to
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  engage in our Today activities. The biggest root of the problem
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  is the way that our society views, mental illness and Views,
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  rest, and Views, how we take care of our mental health.
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  It is up to us to identify that and change.
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  Our individual views on our mental health.
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  It's up to us to understand that we are allowed to rest.
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  We are allowed to be stagnant. We are allowed to not always be
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  in motion. You can be at a standstill and
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  still be a worthy, human being, you are still worried.
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  We of love, you are worthy of rest.
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  You are worthy of being a person.
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  If you are not moving, you are allowed to be at a standstill.
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  And rest, that is a concept that is very hard to Grapple with.
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  We are told that we have to always be moving, but for those
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  that struggle with mental illness that's unrealistic, it
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  is difficult to move when we are struggling with mental illness,
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  it's difficult to keep going, so please understand.
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  You are allowed to take, rest days, you are allowed to do,
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  absolutely nothing all day long. If it's helping your mental
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  health, do what you can to take care of yourself.
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  If you're tired, if you're burnt out, if you are exhausted rest
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  and do it without shame, do it without guilt, you deserve that
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  you at a minimum deserve that That's going to wrap it up for
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  today's episode. Thank you so much for joining
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  me. Please message me on my
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  Instagram at Jewel, boy underscore, and let me know what
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  you thought about today's episode.
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  If you need help, feeling your feelings, go check out my music.
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  Ethan Jewel, on all platforms and I almost guarantee it'll
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  make you cry. So thank you so much for being
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  here. Be sure to get plenty of
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  guilt-free rest and as always, thank you for feeling your
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  feelings. I'll see you next time.