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987 THE SHOCK CIRCUIT REPLAY🔁 220926 · 987 The Shock Circuit

• 0:03
  Speaker 1: Wake up.
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  Speaker 2: next to
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  Speaker 2: Kicking off your day in the best way. It's Sonia
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  Speaker 2: and Joakim on the shock circuit. Good morning and welcome
• 0:13
  Speaker 2: to a wonderful Tuesday.
• 0:15
  Speaker 1: 2
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  Speaker 1: more days before the start of PSLE. If you know
• 0:19
  Speaker 1: anyone in P6, give them a big
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  Speaker 1: hug today.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, for sure, we would love for you to text
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  Speaker 2: us as well. Why not? We'll give them a shout out.
• 0:25
  Speaker 2: We're going to kick it off with Adele, Singapore's number
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  Speaker 2: one hit music station.
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  Speaker 2: Speaking of illegal, ah, I just came back from the
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  Speaker 2: pantry slash the fridge area, OK, because you know me,
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  Speaker 2: I do bring breakfast things and I do like prepare
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  Speaker 2: my own breakfast and bring it to the office, right?
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  Speaker 1: And the one important thing that you do is you
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  Speaker 1: always write your name. I do write whatever you own.
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  Speaker 2: So if I need to put it in the fridge,
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  Speaker 2: I will write my name for sure, OK.
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  Speaker 2: Just yesterday, I realized that the yogurt that I left
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  Speaker 2: there on Friday because I couldn't finish like my entire breakfast,
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  Speaker 2: so I decided not to open the yogurt at all.
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  Speaker 2: I labeled it and put it in the fridge, OK.
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  Speaker 2: So yesterday when I went to the fridge area, it
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  Speaker 2: was gone.
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  Speaker 2: And this is like the 2nd or 3rd time someone
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  Speaker 2: has taken my breakfast. That was labeled.
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  Speaker 1: At this point, our fridges a
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  Speaker 2: CCTV. I know. So I, so I, I brought a
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  Speaker 2: bunch of stuff today that I thought to myself, I
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  Speaker 2: want to leave in the fridge because I, you know,
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  Speaker 2: so that I can revisit it every day.
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  Speaker 2: Um, but now I'm having second thoughts.
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  Speaker 1: Can I
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  Speaker 1: give you a reverse psychology? Instead of writing your name,
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  Speaker 1: write my name.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, see what happens.
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  Speaker 2: But, but you never put your stuff there. And, but
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  Speaker 2: here's the thing, every time someone gives you something, and
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  Speaker 2: your name is labeled on it, you never eat it.
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  Speaker 2: So it just sits in the fridge, then the auntie
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  Speaker 2: will throw it away.
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  Speaker 1: OK, so write my name and see.
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  Speaker 1: Will the same person steal it? Maybe because this person
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  Speaker 1: sees a, oh, Sonia Chew has this yoga. I'm gonna
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  Speaker 1: take it and show people what she has for breakfast.
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  Speaker 2: What? That makes zero sense. You never know. This is
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  Speaker 2: our own company. I don't think anyone cares what we
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  Speaker 2: have for
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  Speaker 2: breakfast.
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  Speaker 1: There are all sorts of people working for a company
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  Speaker 1: here in Singapore. You never know.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe they see your name, they're like, you're joking.
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  Speaker 2: I think this one expired already. Exactly,
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  Speaker 1: and it'll be still there.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly. OK, good, good strategy. I'm gonna try it. OK, good.
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  Speaker 2: I'll report back.
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  Speaker 1: So you write my name on 4 out of 5 items.
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  Speaker 1: The 5th write your name and see
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  Speaker 2: what happens. I got 2 things
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  Speaker 1: that I never mind
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  Speaker 2: then. We just your name, my name, then we'll see
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  Speaker 2: whether this experiment.
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  Speaker 2: proves anything. OK.
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  Speaker 1: Welcome to Jurong.
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  Speaker 2: OK,
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  Speaker 1: thank you. I'm gonna tell you the chronicles of a
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  Speaker 1: 25 year old art student and music teacher who plays
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  Speaker 1: the cello. So unfortunately for her, the flat below hers, right,
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  Speaker 1: they keep changing tenants.
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  Speaker 2: OK, so it's a rental, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: yeah. So even though she's been
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  Speaker 1: Living there for the last 10 years. Unfortunately, the latest
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  Speaker 1: bunch of tenants, there are 4 students, I think they're
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  Speaker 1: around like 20 to 22 years old. They've been complaining
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  Speaker 1: to the town council or the powers that be that
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  Speaker 1: our neighbor upstairs keeps playing the cello for 4 hours
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  Speaker 1: in the afternoon and we can't rest.
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  Speaker 2: OK, but it's in the afternoon though.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I need to practice and to be fair, I
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  Speaker 1: only played between 1 p.m. and 2 p.m. and I
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  Speaker 1: at most practice for 2 hours and I finish by
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  Speaker 1: 3 or 4
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  Speaker 2: p.m. technically there are, there are rules about this, right?
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  Speaker 2: Like right when it comes to
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  Speaker 2: Your construction of your, your, you know, if you're doing
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  Speaker 2: reno works, for example, they always have a cutoff point.
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  Speaker 2: 9 a.m. to 6 p.m. to 6 p.m. OK, I
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  Speaker 2: also can't remember, like, I suppose it's around that time.
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  Speaker 2: And if you kind of like or your work involves
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  Speaker 2: some sort of sound or music, if you're kind of
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  Speaker 2: also abiding by those similar times, it should be OK,
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  Speaker 1: right? Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Where most people are not,
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  Speaker 1: most
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  Speaker 1: people in the stereotypical sense could be at work or
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  Speaker 1: having a lunch break and all that. It's OK lah, fair.
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  Speaker 1: But so even though there were complaints, the four tenants
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  Speaker 1: and this student met each other face to face, saying, OK,
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  Speaker 1: how can we agree here? Then they said, OK, can
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  Speaker 1: you lower the volume, to which she agreed. For a
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  Speaker 1: while it was OK, and then these 4 tenants complained
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  Speaker 1: again,
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  Speaker 2: yeah.
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  Speaker 2: And what was the problem
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  Speaker 2: now?
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  Speaker 1: Uh, so there was like a mediation meeting which the
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  Speaker 1: art student didn't show up for because she thinks I did,
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  Speaker 1: I didn't do anything.
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  Speaker 2: I didn't do anything wrong. OK.
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  Speaker 1: And, and why is it only these bunch of tenants
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  Speaker 2: complaining only one bunch
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  Speaker 1: don't complain at all, you know what I mean? So
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  Speaker 1: it might be a frustrating situation for her.
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  Speaker 2: Like, OK, for example, if those tenants are working from home.
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  Speaker 2: And they're constantly on calls, for example. Yeah, maybe it's distracting.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, I was gonna say if you want to rest,
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  Speaker 2: then you got to invest in a good pair of
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  Speaker 2: earplugs because that's what I do. Unfortunately, we live in
• 5:02
  Speaker 2: a country where we are mostly in apartments, right? And
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  Speaker 2: in apartment settings, even though, OK, condos generally are supposed
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  Speaker 2: to have a bit better soundproofing, yes, but recently I
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  Speaker 2: know I've got some neighbors as well who are doing
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  Speaker 2: like some construction, ren works to their house.
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  Speaker 2: They could be doing it like 5 floors above me.
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  Speaker 2: Everyone can still hear it. So it gets, it can
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  Speaker 2: get very frustrating. I literally wear my earplugs all the time.
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  Speaker 2: I
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  Speaker 1: mean, the, there is no 100% way to mask the
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  Speaker 1: sounds of drilling and hammering, but maybe for the cello, I,
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  Speaker 1: I guess the next best solution is she invests in
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  Speaker 1: those carpets, then she plays it on it to reduce
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  Speaker 1: the sound that might travel or
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  Speaker 2: stick those the, the sponge, uh, you know, the sponge ball.
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  Speaker 2: Things you see at the studio,
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  Speaker 1: the, the,
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  Speaker 2: yeah, sort of soundproofing. Just get that. I think it's
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  Speaker 2: like a few cents only from the store.
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  Speaker 1: But here's my
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  Speaker 1: take, at least it's the cello. It sounds a lot
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  Speaker 1: lower and easier to digest than an actual violin.
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  Speaker 2: It's
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  Speaker 2: true. It's true. And you know, if I were the
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  Speaker 2: tenants every day I feel like I'm on the set
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  Speaker 2: of Bridgerton, like, OK. True enough. Just before our story,
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  Speaker 2: we do have one shout out coming through for our
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  Speaker 2: PSLE students.
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  Speaker 1: Wanna
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  Speaker 1: say hello to.
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  Speaker 1: Oscar from Kenosha Catholic Primary School. Oscar's in primary 5
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  Speaker 1: and wants to wish all his friends good luck to
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  Speaker 1: those taking the oral this week. All the best to you,
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  Speaker 1: Oscar and
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  Speaker 2: friends. Alright, so wait, this one is not like PSLE, right?
• 6:27
  Speaker 2: PSLE or done already. Yeah, this is normal, yeah, normal examination. OK.
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  Speaker 2: All the best. You're gonna kill it. You're gonna slay it. Anyway, um,
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  Speaker 2: this particular case, I don't know whether to face palm
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  Speaker 2: or shake this guy, OK.
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  Speaker 2: When I tell you the story, I think you're gonna,
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  Speaker 2: you're gonna face palm first. Even though I, I want
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  Speaker 2: so much to empathize with him, but at the same time,
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  Speaker 2: I just like, please be more alert. This guy, he's
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  Speaker 2: in his 40s.
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  Speaker 2: He was chatting with a um what he thought or
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  Speaker 2: who he thought was a Singaporean woman living abroad, OK,
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  Speaker 2: and he chatted with her on and off for 3
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  Speaker 2: years in total. So it's like a bit of an
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  Speaker 2: online relationship almost like he's never seen her in person.
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  Speaker 2: Every time he asks for video calls and stuff, like,
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  Speaker 2: you know, she will make some excuse and say she's
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  Speaker 2: busy or I can't.
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  Speaker 2: I can't do that right now. For 3 years, yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I know. So I'm just summarizing it very quickly for you,
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  Speaker 2: but eventually, she starts asking him to invest in an
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  Speaker 2: online business, OK? And she says like, oh, you know,
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  Speaker 2: you can get like X amount of commission. It's a very,
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  Speaker 2: very good deal, like, so she wrote him gained his
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  Speaker 2: trust already, right?
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  Speaker 2: Then he's like, OK, sure, you know, and she told him,
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  Speaker 2: your role is the middleman, so you have to like
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  Speaker 2: help customers place orders, but he has to pay first.
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  Speaker 2: So he pays first, and then he gets like the
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  Speaker 2: commission later and the money back, which is, uh, to me,
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  Speaker 2: I'm just like, this is a classic scam case. Typical scam.
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  Speaker 2: But he loses nearly $80,000.80 almost $100,000 OK.
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  Speaker 2: Here's the kicker. He decides to get help from a lawyer,
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  Speaker 2: but where does he find a lawyer? Online. He finds
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  Speaker 2: a lawyer for help and he gets cheated by this
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  Speaker 2: online lawyer for another, another $10,000.
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  Speaker 2: To which I'm like, OK, he's not, he's in his 40s.
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  Speaker 2: I wouldn't consider him like gullible or at the age
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  Speaker 2: where you might be easily scammed. Like I worry about
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  Speaker 2: our parents sometimes,
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  Speaker 1: when it comes to scammers, some of them on your
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  Speaker 1: desperation and also some of them prey on your loneliness.
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  Speaker 1: And when we share with you about it here on 987,
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  Speaker 1: it's easy for us to, to make comments like these,
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  Speaker 1: but when you are neck deep in a scam.
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  Speaker 1: It's very
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  Speaker 1: hard to get out.
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  Speaker 2: And this dude, now he's scared to make any sort
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  Speaker 2: of friends online at all, you know, because he's got
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  Speaker 2: two back to back terrible experiences. I think this guy
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  Speaker 2: really needs to be less trusting. And if you're tuning
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  Speaker 2: in right now, and you know, you've got grandparents at
• 9:03
  Speaker 2: home or like, you know, aunties, uncles, or even your parents,
• 9:06
  Speaker 2: just watch out for them sometimes, OK? Yeah, they, they
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  Speaker 2: may not know what they're getting.
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  Speaker 2: And not
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  Speaker 1: just friends online, even in person as well. Yeah. You
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  Speaker 1: never know who could be a scammer, so be careful
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  Speaker 1: and be extra vigilant, especially if someone starts asking you
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  Speaker 1: for money. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: your details, your personal details a question for you before we,
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  Speaker 2: you know, move on. Here we go. Um, in my
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  Speaker 2: next life, do you think I'll be a good scammer
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  Speaker 2: in my life.
• 9:34
  Speaker 2: But next life already, no, not this life.
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  Speaker 1: No, no, no,
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  Speaker 1: no. Why? There will be some elements to you that
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  Speaker 1: will stay
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  Speaker 2: like my bad poker face.
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  Speaker 1: You'll be a good scam victim. Can you
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  Speaker 2: not? I'm already a good scam victim now
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  Speaker 1: and maybe in your next life if Crime Watch is
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  Speaker 1: still ongoing, you could feature as the scam
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  Speaker 1: victim.
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  Speaker 2: Can you, can you please have more faith in me?
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  Speaker 2: I'll be the
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  Speaker 1: poster girl for all those anti-scam in
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  Speaker 2: my next life, can you at least give me something more,
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  Speaker 2: you know, something cooler,
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  Speaker 1: OK.
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  Speaker 1: More height.
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  Speaker 2: Well damn bad.
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  Speaker 2: Only 7 a.m. in the morning roasting me. OK, time
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  Speaker 2: for some boldo crime. We haven't done this in a while.
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  Speaker 2: In case you're new to this. Boldo crime is a
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  Speaker 2: little segment where we make light of a case that's
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  Speaker 2: face palm worthy, but people are not hurt, you know,
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  Speaker 2: it's never that serious. It's more like, why did this
• 10:24
  Speaker 2: person even try to do this?
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  Speaker 1: OK, so do you sing the jingle, Sonia? Yes, let's
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  Speaker 1: go. Here we go.
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  Speaker 2: Bodo crime, crime, crime, crime.
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  Speaker 1: And we're going to
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  Speaker 2: the eccentric streets of East Coast, eccentricities, yeah. OK, anyway, um,
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  Speaker 2: this man decided to break into a house, into a
• 10:48
  Speaker 2: shophouse rather, OK, you know, East Coast, there are a
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  Speaker 2: lot of shophouses, right? So, um, you know, you would
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  Speaker 2: think East Coast Road, East Coast. So around about a
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  Speaker 2: similar area.
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  Speaker 2: Um, so he was arrested for his suspected involvement because
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  Speaker 2: $100 was stolen.
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  Speaker 2: Why
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  Speaker 1: for
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  Speaker 1: $100.
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  Speaker 2: So I wonder, because it's still under investigation right now.
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  Speaker 2: I wonder whether there was an intention to steal more
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  Speaker 2: than $100 in cash, but maybe couldn't find where the
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  Speaker 2: hidden boxes were or like, you know, the the the
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  Speaker 2: valuable items were.
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  Speaker 2: Um, but I, I think it's just crazy that he
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  Speaker 2: only got away with
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  Speaker 2: 100
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  Speaker 1: dollars in cash or digital,
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  Speaker 2: right? So, um, what's happened, what's, what's gonna happen now
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  Speaker 2: is the police, uh, have brought him in for housebreaking
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  Speaker 2: and theft. These are two charges at a shop along
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  Speaker 2: East Coast Road and um.
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  Speaker 2: He was identified and arrested within like 4 hours of
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  Speaker 2: the incident. So, you can't run too far away. Um,
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  Speaker 2: there's a lot of images from police cameras, you know,
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  Speaker 2: surveillance around the area and things like that. Um, this
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  Speaker 2: is still undergoing investigation as to what is his relationship
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  Speaker 2: to this shop or if there even is a relationship.
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  Speaker 2: But this offense carries a jail term of up to
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  Speaker 2: 10 years and a fine. So not worth it, bro.
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  Speaker 1: It's the most expensive 100
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  Speaker 2: dollars for him. And by the sound of it, I
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  Speaker 2: don't even know whether he managed to spend that $100
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  Speaker 2: on anything. I don't think so. And even if he did,
• 12:19
  Speaker 2: they'll seize it or whatever he bought it, right? Anyway, um,
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  Speaker 2: the police are advising all of us, members of the
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  Speaker 2: public and people who own shops and you know, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: maybe you're in a trusting neighborhood, you have been there
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  Speaker 2: a long time, but you never know. So please install
• 12:33
  Speaker 2: an alarm.
• 12:34
  Speaker 2: Um, motion sensor lights, and surveillance cameras, like don't take
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  Speaker 2: things for granted is what the police are telling us.
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  Speaker 2: And
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  Speaker 1: use a door lock. The bicycle chain lock doesn't work anymore.
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  Speaker 1: Trust me on this.
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  Speaker 2: People are getting quite smart now. Be safe, my friends,
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  Speaker 2: especially in the East Coast area. Let's not damage our name.
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  Speaker 2: And
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  Speaker 1: this has been.
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  Speaker 2: The eccentric streets of East Coast.
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  Speaker 2: Just, just kidding. My, my hood is my hood.
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  Speaker 1: Yesterday when our friends over at LTA put out this statement,
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  Speaker 1: and their announcement post on Instagram, everybody went,
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  Speaker 2: yes. There
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  Speaker 2: was a lot of, a lot of comments.
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  Speaker 1: About time and this one involves our public buses and
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  Speaker 1: bus interchanges. So I don't know whether will it also
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  Speaker 1: apply to our MRTs very soon. I think it will.
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  Speaker 1: There are new regulations to address nuisance behavior.
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  Speaker 1: And nuisance behaviors include putting your feet up on any
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  Speaker 1: part of the bus, playing audio at loud volumes, eating
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  Speaker 1: or drinking on board buses, littering, and causing obstruction or
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  Speaker 1: danger to others. So there'll be two steps, disruptive commuters, firstly,
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  Speaker 1: the first step is the bus captain.
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  Speaker 1: Or whoever is an official on board will say, hey,
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  Speaker 1: can you please stop that? They'll give you one warning.
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  Speaker 1: If you want to carry on being naughty, they'll give
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  Speaker 1: you a notification of offense. No.
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  Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, that is the abbreviation.
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  Speaker 1: Whoever planned it, well done. You definitely knew what you
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  Speaker 1: were doing for this, OK? And then once they issue
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  Speaker 1: you a ticket, LTA will step in to conduct an investigation.
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  Speaker 1: So non-compliance will also result in a warning or fine
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  Speaker 1: of up to $500.
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  Speaker 1: For more serious offenses, you could face a fine up
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  Speaker 1: to $5000 and repeat offenders will face higher penalties.
• 14:33
  Speaker 2: So what about that lady that kept putting her feet
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  Speaker 2: on the on the rails? Like what, what, how does
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  Speaker 2: that conclude?
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  Speaker 1: If she still wants to do it and if the
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  Speaker 1: bus captain wants to enforce the no.
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  Speaker 1: She'll be
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  Speaker 1: issued one,
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  Speaker 2: but she's beyond notification of offense. This is like how
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  Speaker 2: many times has she done it?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, so again, repeat offenders will be subjected to a
• 14:54
  Speaker 1: higher penalty, and I want to just, uh, put a
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  Speaker 1: small note here. LT actually put a very big star
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  Speaker 1: on new regulations. The star says commuters with physical or
• 15:04
  Speaker 1: mental conditions will be assessed with discretion. There you
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  Speaker 2: go. Well, that's fair. I think, um, there are quite
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  Speaker 2: a number of them that sometimes I read the news
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  Speaker 2: about these things, right? I feel.
• 15:14
  Speaker 2: I hope that they get the help they need,
• 15:16
  Speaker 1: you know. I want to give a shout out to
• 15:18
  Speaker 1: this TikTok user. If I'm not wrong, I think his
• 15:20
  Speaker 1: name is Joshua, where he's going around giving out free
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  Speaker 1: earbuds
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  Speaker 2: or earphones to
• 15:26
  Speaker 1: people who are blasting the audio from their handphone to
• 15:30
  Speaker 1: the point where he documents them. He blurs out the faces, yeah, yeah.
• 15:32
  Speaker 1: But when he offers, right, immediately the uncle, aunt, sorry, sorry, sorry, sorry,
• 15:37
  Speaker 1: they get the
• 15:37
  Speaker 2: point. No, but I saw, I saw one that was
• 15:40
  Speaker 2: like free one.
• 15:43
  Speaker 2: I think I remember seeing someone asking that, like one
• 15:46
  Speaker 2: of the aunties. Yeah,
• 15:47
  Speaker 1: OK, so I shall be your public transport monitor and
• 15:50
  Speaker 1: let you know if anything
• 15:52
  Speaker 1: were to happen. OK.
• 15:53
  Speaker 2: Were you ever a bus monitor in school? No, no, no,
• 15:56
  Speaker 2: I wasn't. I wasn't either. I
• 15:58
  Speaker 1: was a very bad bus.
• 15:59
  Speaker 2: Oh really?
• 16:00
  Speaker 1: I was quite noisy on
• 16:01
  Speaker 1: board.
• 16:01
  Speaker 2: So you're the one that, oh, I'm the one that.
• 16:03
  Speaker 2: Super quiet and I'm very annoyed with people like you.
• 16:05
  Speaker 1: Yeah, not the loudspeakers putting my feet up, but in
• 16:08
  Speaker 1: terms of, I might be issued with a no.
• 16:13
  Speaker 2: I don't, I think it's beyond that, Joe. I think
• 16:15
  Speaker 2: you just immediately detention back in school. Earlier on a
• 16:19
  Speaker 2: few minutes ago, I asked Joakim like if he would
• 16:21
  Speaker 2: ever move or relocate overseas to which
• 16:25
  Speaker 2: Um, you said in the event that you do, it's
• 16:27
  Speaker 2: most likely gonna be UK or Europe. Yes, for sure.
• 16:30
  Speaker 2: But that being said, um, even places like New Zealand,
• 16:33
  Speaker 2: because I know you like, you know, nature and things
• 16:35
  Speaker 2: like that, these places are not exactly much cheaper than Singapore,
• 16:38
  Speaker 2: to be very honest, especially with
• 16:41
  Speaker 2: The currency exchange.
• 16:42
  Speaker 1: Got to
• 16:43
  Speaker 1: make sure that in parallel life, yeah, I'm doing a
• 16:45
  Speaker 1: very good job, earning well to be able to move
• 16:48
  Speaker 1: there to live abroad for a
• 16:50
  Speaker 1: while.
• 16:50
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I completely agree. Um, so I want to
• 16:53
  Speaker 2: give a big shout out to this Singaporean man. Um,
• 16:55
  Speaker 2: his name is Alden, and he decided to move to
• 16:59
  Speaker 2: Thailand at just 26 years old. OK. Now he's 40.
• 17:03
  Speaker 2: He's been there for over a decade already and he's
• 17:07
  Speaker 2: actually raising his family there in Thailand. Yeah.
• 17:09
  Speaker 2: And he was interviewed because I think people were quite
• 17:12
  Speaker 2: curious about his story. Um, there are quite a number
• 17:15
  Speaker 2: of Singaporeans who have moved overseas for their own reasons,
• 17:17
  Speaker 2: who have been work and all that. Likewise, how Singapore
• 17:20
  Speaker 2: is a very attractive country for other people to want
• 17:22
  Speaker 2: to move here too. Um, he said, would I ever
• 17:25
  Speaker 2: go back to live in Singapore after living in Thailand
• 17:27
  Speaker 2: for more than 10 years? The answer is probably no
• 17:30
  Speaker 2: at this point, because we live a really peaceful, friendly, awesome,
• 17:35
  Speaker 2: slow pace of life outside of the.
• 17:37
  Speaker 2: and things are much cheaper here. I even managed to
• 17:41
  Speaker 2: start a small business and I'm raising my family
• 17:43
  Speaker 2: here.
• 17:43
  Speaker 1: I want to highlight one phrase that people enjoy using
• 17:47
  Speaker 1: when they move abroad, slow pace. It doesn't mean they
• 17:50
  Speaker 1: are lazy or they don't work as hard. It's perhaps
• 17:54
  Speaker 1: maybe less demanding as to what maybe here in Singapore entails,
• 18:00
  Speaker 1: you know what
• 18:00
  Speaker 1: I mean?
• 18:00
  Speaker 2: I wonder whether it's also because, you know, our country
• 18:03
  Speaker 2: is so small and as you know.
• 18:05
  Speaker 2: With our culture, I mean, it is quite an Asian
• 18:08
  Speaker 2: thing that we compare ourselves to each other. Would I
• 18:11
  Speaker 2: even call it an Asian thing? I think it's a
• 18:12
  Speaker 2: human thing.
• 18:13
  Speaker 1: Singapore.
• 18:14
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and it's even worse when we are in a
• 18:16
  Speaker 2: very concentrated area with, you know, um, comparison left, right
• 18:21
  Speaker 2: and center, right? You just want your kids to go
• 18:24
  Speaker 2: to a better school, you want to live in the
• 18:25
  Speaker 2: nicer condo, you want to drive the nicer car, you know.
• 18:28
  Speaker 2: Things like that. So maybe to him, he, he just
• 18:31
  Speaker 2: feels like this is a good pace of life for him,
• 18:33
  Speaker 2: and I think many Singaporeans might feel the same way.
• 18:36
  Speaker 1: Does it
• 18:36
  Speaker 1: say what he doing in Thailand?
• 18:38
  Speaker 2: He's running
• 18:38
  Speaker 2: his own business. That's all they're saying. And the thing
• 18:41
  Speaker 2: is they didn't exactly, he didn't exactly specify which area
• 18:44
  Speaker 2: in Thailand exactly, but I would hazard a guess to
• 18:47
  Speaker 2: say Bangkok because his kids going to school and stuff
• 18:50
  Speaker 2: like that.
• 18:50
  Speaker 2: So, probably one of the bigger cities. I'm not sure. Yeah.
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: Congratulations to Alden and I'm very sure he's just one
• 18:57
  Speaker 1: of the many stories that we have of Singaporeans living overseas.
• 19:01
  Speaker 2: Yeah, for sure. Look at my group of friends, like
• 19:03
  Speaker 2: when they came back for my wedding,
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: very diverse,
• 19:06
  Speaker 2: yeah, yeah, yeah. Half of them to New Zealand,
• 19:09
  Speaker 1: Mexico, Japan,
• 19:11
  Speaker 2: everywhere the worldwide.
• 19:13
  Speaker 2: I know my friends are very international now, like ever
• 19:16
  Speaker 2: since we graduated from school. So, hey, um, you know,
• 19:20
  Speaker 2: if you are at the age or stage of life
• 19:22
  Speaker 2: where you just want to discover things overseas, so why not?
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: Same question back at you. Why do I feel you
• 19:28
  Speaker 1: pick the US?
• 19:29
  Speaker 2: Actually, you might be surprised at my answer. I don't
• 19:33
  Speaker 2: think I've ever envisioned myself living overseas.
• 19:37
  Speaker 2: Am I surprising you?
• 19:38
  Speaker 1: Yeah, a little bit. Pick one, pick one.
• 19:40
  Speaker 2: If I had to pick
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: for work and all that, if we weren't radio producer
• 19:45
  Speaker 1: presenters and all,
• 19:46
  Speaker 2: you're right, maybe New York.
• 19:48
  Speaker 1: New York there you go.
• 19:49
  Speaker 2: I really like New York. I know that you don't
• 19:50
  Speaker 2: like New York, so no, not,
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: not I don't like it. I was underwhelmed when I
• 19:55
  Speaker 1: went to Times Square. I was like, huh, that's
• 19:57
  Speaker 2: it. OK, but you can't look. New Yorkers won't advise.
• 20:00
  Speaker 2: I
• 20:01
  Speaker 1: know, I know, it's
• 20:02
  Speaker 2: just like.
• 20:02
  Speaker 2: Parisians will say like skip the Eiffel Tower, you know
• 20:05
  Speaker 2: what I mean?
• 20:05
  Speaker 1: But, but I did enjoy Central Park.
• 20:08
  Speaker 2: Yes, it's beautiful.
• 20:09
  Speaker 1: I did enjoy running down the Hudson Bay River River
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: area where it's quite near the One World Trade Center
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: and artichoke pizza. I got to go back with the food,
• 20:18
  Speaker 2: man. Yeah, actually that's so good. Plenty more for you
• 20:21
  Speaker 2: to explore. I think you just didn't live the life
• 20:23
  Speaker 2: there enough. It was just. Yeah, you need to go
• 20:26
  Speaker 2: there for longer. Maybe you will change your mind, but
• 20:28
  Speaker 2: Um, you know, hopefully things are a little bit better
• 20:31
  Speaker 2: now there and a little bit more stable too. I
• 20:34
  Speaker 2: think some of my friends who are based in the
• 20:36
  Speaker 2: US for like work and stuff, they said, yeah, you know,
• 20:38
  Speaker 2: it's up and down. So, as with every country, I guess.
• 20:42
  Speaker 2: I'm quite angry, though, when I heard this story, OK. Um,
• 20:45
  Speaker 2: it's got to do with, uh, one of my oldest,
• 20:48
  Speaker 2: longest friends, closest friends of mine, OK, and um, she
• 20:52
  Speaker 2: is not based in Singapore at this point in time.
• 20:56
  Speaker 2: But um I heard of what happened and it's it's
• 21:00
  Speaker 2: regarding her relationship, OK?
• 21:02
  Speaker 2: So, I don't know if you've ever been in a
• 21:05
  Speaker 2: situation where you were seeing someone that happened to be
• 21:08
  Speaker 2: quite close to their ex. Many times, many times when
• 21:13
  Speaker 2: I was younger that they were still very, very close
• 21:16
  Speaker 2: friends with their ex or what, what did they say?
• 21:18
  Speaker 1: They say close friends lah but little did I know.
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: Yeah, there was more than that.
• 21:23
  Speaker 2: OK, yeah, so see, here's the thing, right? It's always that.
• 21:26
  Speaker 2: The ex that, you know, you, you, you, you always
• 21:30
  Speaker 2: defend and say like, no, no, we're just friends. It's
• 21:33
  Speaker 2: all good, you know, what was that phrase again? The,
• 21:35
  Speaker 2: the ex I told you not to worry about that phrase, right?
• 21:39
  Speaker 2: Super applicable today. Um, wait till I break down this story.
• 21:43
  Speaker 2: I feel really bad for my friend, to be honest,
• 21:45
  Speaker 2: and I would love, you know, our listeners' thoughts on
• 21:47
  Speaker 2: it too, and your thoughts as well.
• 21:50
  Speaker 2: Um, everyone's gonna be anonymous. There's no names here whatsoever. Um,
• 21:53
  Speaker 2: she doesn't even live here, so don't try stalking to
• 21:56
  Speaker 2: find out like who it is.
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: I cannot wait
• 21:58
  Speaker 1: for this girl. I'm set. I'm ready.
• 22:00
  Speaker 2: Joakim wants to be one of the girls, by the way.
• 22:02
  Speaker 2: He's he's just begging for it all the time. Honestly,
• 22:06
  Speaker 2: that girl he told you not to worry about, I think,
• 22:09
  Speaker 2: perfect song to come out of. Could be the
• 22:11
  Speaker 1: other way around as well.
• 22:12
  Speaker 2: The other way around, it could be the other way around, but, uh,
• 22:14
  Speaker 2: for my friend, unfortunately, it was that girl he told
• 22:17
  Speaker 2: her not to worry about, OK. So everyone's anonymous, of course,
• 22:21
  Speaker 2: not going to say who it is, and she's very
• 22:23
  Speaker 2: low-key anyway, not in Singapore at all. So, uh, what
• 22:27
  Speaker 2: happened was this particular relationship, you know, I, I've known
• 22:31
  Speaker 2: them to have gone out together for like
• 22:34
  Speaker 2: Years now, at least 5 years or so, at least, OK, yeah,
• 22:39
  Speaker 2: at least. And I think at one point there were
• 22:42
  Speaker 2: even talks about like, what's going to happen in the future,
• 22:44
  Speaker 2: like if they want to start a family and things
• 22:46
  Speaker 2: like that.
• 22:49
  Speaker 1: Yeah,
• 22:49
  Speaker 2: so we were quite excited for my friend. We were like, oh,
• 22:51
  Speaker 2: that's really, that's really cool, like, you know, we're fully
• 22:54
  Speaker 2: supportive of you. Let us know how we can be
• 22:56
  Speaker 2: there for you or how we can help and yeah, overall,
• 22:59
  Speaker 2: just hey, congrats, new phase of life, you know, that
• 23:01
  Speaker 2: you're considering about.
• 23:03
  Speaker 2: And uh little did we realize, uh, over the years,
• 23:06
  Speaker 2: I mean, she has brought this up to us before
• 23:09
  Speaker 2: about how this guy she's seeing is still quite close
• 23:13
  Speaker 2: to his ex, OK? And, and he always assures her, no, no, no,
• 23:16
  Speaker 2: we're we're still very good friends because we've got a
• 23:18
  Speaker 2: big history. We used to be, um, we used to
• 23:21
  Speaker 2: stay in the same like dorm or something like that.
• 23:23
  Speaker 2: And uh they are also part of like a trio,
• 23:26
  Speaker 2: so it's like the three of them that are very
• 23:29
  Speaker 2: close that used to share a dormitory together back in
• 23:32
  Speaker 2: school or something like that, OK. So then she's like, OK, fine, like,
• 23:36
  Speaker 2: you know, what can I do, right? We're all adults
• 23:38
  Speaker 2: here anyway, so if you want to still continue to
• 23:40
  Speaker 2: be friends with your ex, then so be it. Maybe
• 23:41
  Speaker 2: it's really that kind of platonic friendship.
• 23:44
  Speaker 2: That I have with one or two of my exes,
• 23:48
  Speaker 2: but I wouldn't consider us like super close.
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: Yeah, every day.
• 23:53
  Speaker 2: No, definitely not all the time.
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: You ask them about their day and all that. Maybe
• 23:56
  Speaker 2: like once in a while if we happen to find
• 23:59
  Speaker 2: ourselves in the same country.
• 24:00
  Speaker 2: Or like, oh, hey, hey, catch up lah, and you
• 24:02
  Speaker 2: know kind of thing, OK, but that I can count
• 24:03
  Speaker 2: with one hand the amount of times we've done that, right?
• 24:06
  Speaker 2: So she kind of expressed her concerns about this ex
• 24:10
  Speaker 2: to us before, like our friends, and she said, Is
• 24:12
  Speaker 2: there anything you think I should be worried about? We're like, well,
• 24:15
  Speaker 2: if he's assuring you and if he's, you know, making
• 24:19
  Speaker 2: sure that he appeases your worries and stuff, then maybe
• 24:22
  Speaker 2: give him a chance, lah, right? You know, he's a
• 24:24
  Speaker 2: nice guy. We met him a couple of times, uh,
• 24:27
  Speaker 2: but turns out, fast forward, um, a couple of years now.
• 24:31
  Speaker 2: Unfortunately, I think this guy has realized he still has
• 24:34
  Speaker 2: feelings for his ex.
• 24:38
  Speaker 2: And we consider us shocked because it's been so long
• 24:42
  Speaker 2: now and we truly will believe this guy when he
• 24:46
  Speaker 2: said that this ex is nothing to worry about.
• 24:49
  Speaker 1: You
• 24:49
  Speaker 1: can be like this. Yeah, and
• 24:55
  Speaker 2: you know, the part that irked me the most was
• 24:58
  Speaker 2: when my friend got uncomfortable about his relationship with the ex, right?
• 25:03
  Speaker 2: She said, do you think it's OK if you remove
• 25:06
  Speaker 2: yourself from this group chat? Like, why do you still
• 25:08
  Speaker 2: need to be part of this chat that's pinging off
• 25:10
  Speaker 2: every single day, and you guys are talking every single day,
• 25:14
  Speaker 2: like more than, more than me, right?
• 25:17
  Speaker 2: And unfortunately, this guy went to tell the ex lah.
• 25:19
  Speaker 2: He said, um, he said, oh, my current partner is
• 25:22
  Speaker 2: not too comfortable with me being in this uh group chat,
• 25:25
  Speaker 2: to which the ex said, oh, she's crazy.
• 25:28
  Speaker 2: And I was like, excuse me, girl, clearly not a
• 25:31
  Speaker 2: girl's girl
• 25:31
  Speaker 1: here. The boyfriend could phrased it.
• 25:35
  Speaker 2: Well, I'm paraphrasing. I'm paraphrasing because I don't know what
• 25:38
  Speaker 2: actually transpired in that conversation, but that's the gist of
• 25:41
  Speaker 2: what happened. So consider us quite mad at him right
• 25:45
  Speaker 2: now for allowing this to happen.
• 25:48
  Speaker 2: And um I think my friend's putting on a strong front,
• 25:50
  Speaker 2: but I really hope that she's OK. It's just that
• 25:52
  Speaker 2: we're not in the same country. We can't comfort her,
• 25:55
  Speaker 2: you know, to
• 25:56
  Speaker 1: judge, but I'm the boyfriend or girlfriend and I had
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: to leave the group chat with my ex and I
• 26:00
  Speaker 1: said something like, oh, my current partner is not happy,
• 26:04
  Speaker 2: you're
• 26:04
  Speaker 2: villainizing your partner.
• 26:07
  Speaker 2: And if it's for a valid reason, then you make
• 26:09
  Speaker 2: it your own decision to remove yourself from the chair.
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: And look, I've been on the receiving end of this
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: as well. Oh my boyfriend isn't too happy that I'm
• 26:16
  Speaker 1: talking to you. I mean, I'm their boyfriend and I'm like, guys,
• 26:19
  Speaker 1: do you not see anything wrong here? and true enough
• 26:22
  Speaker 1: in two months they
• 26:24
  Speaker 1: got together.
• 26:24
  Speaker 2: They were cheating on me.
• 26:27
  Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly, OK, OK, wait, I think
• 26:29
  Speaker 2: I know which one
• 26:30
  Speaker 1: long time ago, yeah, yeah, yeah, a long time
• 26:32
  Speaker 2: ago. I sort of remember
• 26:33
  Speaker 2: this story
• 26:34
  Speaker 1: when when Singapore at the Singapore fireworks show, if you
• 26:37
  Speaker 1: remember that at the
• 26:38
  Speaker 1: Esplanade. No,
• 26:40
  Speaker 2: sorry, I didn't know you back then. You just told
• 26:42
  Speaker 2: me about this story, yes, yes, OK.
• 26:45
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• 26:52
  Speaker 2: You can stay anonymous if you like. Have you ever
• 26:54
  Speaker 2: found yourself in a situation where, you know, you're kind
• 26:57
  Speaker 2: of worried about your partner's ex, and they always say,
• 26:59
  Speaker 2: don't worry, don't worry, don't worry.
• 27:01
  Speaker 2: But it turns out there's something there. Either one of
• 27:04
  Speaker 2: them has feelings for each other, still harboring feelings or something,
• 27:07
  Speaker 2: or maybe you can just tell us what your thoughts
• 27:09
  Speaker 2: are on keeping in touch with your ex at all,
• 27:12
  Speaker 2: especially when you're already in another serious relationship. OK. This
• 27:16
  Speaker 2: I feel super relevant to us.
• 27:18
  Speaker 2: Because we must have had experienced it at least once
• 27:20
  Speaker 2: in our lives.
• 27:21
  Speaker 1: One
• 27:21
  Speaker 1: coming in from WL. Hey guys, I never believe in
• 27:24
  Speaker 1: keeping in contact with an ex because the feelings will
• 27:27
  Speaker 1: definitely come back. Don't get why there's a need to
• 27:30
  Speaker 1: keep in contact, honestly. There are about 6 million people
• 27:32
  Speaker 1: here in Singapore. Why do we need that one person?
• 27:36
  Speaker 2: True, true, but when you look back, you still have
• 27:39
  Speaker 2: one or two exes that you are kind of friends with, right?
• 27:43
  Speaker 1: I want to open up. Um, yes, so the last
• 27:47
  Speaker 1: relationship I was in ended six years ago, but I
• 27:50
  Speaker 1: would still call her a friend. We care for each
• 27:53
  Speaker 1: other but not in that I love you, I want
• 27:55
  Speaker 1: to be with.
• 27:56
  Speaker 1: I think we will always want the best for each other,
• 27:59
  Speaker 1: but there are clear boundaries, you know, we, we don't
• 28:01
  Speaker 1: text each other every day like we're still dating or
• 28:04
  Speaker 1: we don't say things like, oh, I miss you, or
• 28:06
  Speaker 1: I miss how, how it was
• 28:08
  Speaker 2: like. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I get it it's not correct.
• 28:10
  Speaker 2: I think um it's tough when it just happened like
• 28:14
  Speaker 2: the breakup.
• 28:16
  Speaker 2: I understand that you probably need some time to to
• 28:19
  Speaker 2: get to the point where you can fully call that
• 28:21
  Speaker 2: person a friend, and in that period of time, if
• 28:24
  Speaker 2: you're still meeting each other so much, then you'll never
• 28:25
  Speaker 2: be able to let go. Exactly. Yeah, your feelings will
• 28:28
  Speaker 2: still linger for sure.
• 28:35
  Speaker 1: I'm sure there's something there because at some point, especially
• 28:38
  Speaker 1: if it's a good relationship, but you have to split
• 28:41
  Speaker 1: because of differences or you know circumstances in life.
• 28:46
  Speaker 1: That person at some point in time was the closest
• 28:49
  Speaker 1: confidant or
• 28:50
  Speaker 1: closest person to you, yeah,
• 28:51
  Speaker 2: that knows everything. I'm saying hi to Jay. Hey, morning. Um,
• 28:57
  Speaker 2: a relationship with your ex is a big red flag.
• 29:00
  Speaker 2: Can you imagine?
• 29:01
  Speaker 2: Someone that you talk to every day, everything, the person
• 29:03
  Speaker 2: you once trusted the most, then you just become friends. Unbelievable.
• 29:07
  Speaker 2: As a person who loves fully, regardless of how the
• 29:10
  Speaker 2: relationship ends, it's almost impossible to just be friends as
• 29:14
  Speaker 2: if nothing happened before. Very, very on point with that message,
• 29:18
  Speaker 2: I would say.
• 29:19
  Speaker 1: Again, there has to be boundaries. Got a text from
• 29:23
  Speaker 1: Nicholas and Nicholas, I want to say thank you very much.
• 29:25
  Speaker 1: much for opening up and sharing your story with us
• 29:27
  Speaker 1: here on 987. Hey guys, long story short, I was
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: married in 1999, planning for kids, but I had a
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: renal mishap and lifelong dialysis. Continued for many years until
• 29:39
  Speaker 1: I felt my then missus needed to move on and
• 29:42
  Speaker 1: I amicably separated with her. We are still very good
• 29:46
  Speaker 1: pals today. That was a blessing because when I went
• 29:48
  Speaker 1: back to stay with my mom.
• 29:50
  Speaker 1: She had cancer and it was a blessing. I was
• 29:53
  Speaker 1: with her to the end in 2015. In between, I
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: had a transplant and my ex-wife got married again and
• 29:58
  Speaker 1: had a kid, so we both got our gifts in
• 30:00
  Speaker 1: a way. That said, I met a girl in 2014
• 30:03
  Speaker 1: and we are happily married now for almost 10 plus years.
• 30:06
  Speaker 1: God knows what I needed. My current wife knows that
• 30:09
  Speaker 1: I'm still quite pally with my ex-wife, but she trusts.
• 30:12
  Speaker 1: And knows we are like that because my ex-wife saw
• 30:15
  Speaker 1: me through a toughest time and that bond cannot be broken.
• 30:20
  Speaker 2: OK. Thank you so much for sharing.
• 30:24
  Speaker 1: I think on that note, for example, that were to
• 30:27
  Speaker 1: happen to me, I'll be completely understanding, you know what,
• 30:31
  Speaker 1: you saw a very tough time just don't hurt me.
• 30:34
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah. No, I, I completely understand. I mean, I
• 30:37
  Speaker 2: think there are ways to still maintain a friendship with
• 30:40
  Speaker 2: an ex, but yet at the same time, assure your
• 30:43
  Speaker 2: partner in a way where, you know, your partner knows
• 30:46
  Speaker 2: there's nothing else going on, for sure.
• 30:55
  Speaker 2: Start acting suss about it, then maybe that's an issue.
• 30:57
  Speaker 2: But see, that's the thing, it's not so black and white, right? It's,
• 31:01
  Speaker 2: it can be quite a gray area sometimes, but
• 31:03
  Speaker 1: I wanna say hello to anonymous texter number 1 today. Hey, Sojo,
• 31:08
  Speaker 1: please keep me anonymous. When I was together with my
• 31:10
  Speaker 1: ex 5 years ago, he was training to be a
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: personal trainer.
• 31:15
  Speaker 1: And I walked him through every single step of the beginning.
• 31:18
  Speaker 1: I saw him suffer. I saw him struggle with some certifications,
• 31:22
  Speaker 1: but I promised him that when he does become a PT,
• 31:25
  Speaker 1: I'll be his first client. We broke up on amicable terms.
• 31:30
  Speaker 1: We realized we had some personality differences, but when he
• 31:33
  Speaker 1: became a PT, I still became his first client as
• 31:35
  Speaker 1: a small promise to support him, and now he has
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: many clients under his belt. Congrats to
• 31:40
  Speaker 1: him.
• 31:41
  Speaker 2: That's sweet. You know, I, I, I feel like there
• 31:43
  Speaker 2: is a difference sometimes when
• 31:45
  Speaker 2: You keep in touch with your ex because you're still
• 31:48
  Speaker 2: harboring feelings for each other or on the flip side, um,
• 31:52
  Speaker 2: I do have, I can say maybe at least one
• 31:55
  Speaker 2: guy that I used to date, that I still kind
• 31:58
  Speaker 2: of consider him like a bit of a family member
• 32:01
  Speaker 2: kind of, kind of feeling because I got, I was
• 32:03
  Speaker 2: quite close to his family, and I'm still in touch
• 32:06
  Speaker 2: with like his sibling and like sometimes I still run
• 32:08
  Speaker 2: into his mom here and there. So, I do still
• 32:11
  Speaker 2: feel like there's a sense of like a family bond
• 32:13
  Speaker 2: in a way, but nothing more than that.
• 32:15
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and you know my current partner has met him many,
• 32:18
  Speaker 2: many times, just, just running into him outside.
• 32:25
  Speaker 2: So
• 32:25
  Speaker 1: yeah, I think it takes to really see it.
• 32:30
  Speaker 2: But if your gut feeling is telling you something is
• 32:32
  Speaker 2: off about that, right? Sometimes you might be right, you know.
• 32:35
  Speaker 1: And that's what I hate about my guts
• 32:39
  Speaker 2: always worked.
• 32:41
  Speaker 2: Liz, what about you? What are your thoughts? OK, so, uh,
• 32:45
  Speaker 2: me and my husband, we, yeah, we didn't say that, oh,
• 32:48
  Speaker 2: this exes you need to look out for whatsoever. It's
• 32:51
  Speaker 2: just that, uh, we ended up, we end things in
• 32:54
  Speaker 2: a nice way. And then, um, recently, both of our exes, uh,
• 32:59
  Speaker 2: just got married, so we were happy for
• 33:01
  Speaker 1: them
• 33:01
  Speaker 2: and
• 33:01
  Speaker 1: we
• 33:02
  Speaker 2: congratulate them. So yeah. Oh, did you attend their wedding?
• 33:06
  Speaker 1: Uh, no, no, no, no, I think it was,
• 33:08
  Speaker 2: uh, you know, instead of waiting for them, so, yeah,
• 33:11
  Speaker 2: but we, we, we are still friends,
• 33:13
  Speaker 1: so
• 33:13
  Speaker 2: yeah.
• 33:13
  Speaker 1: What, what was the conversation like with your husband and
• 33:16
  Speaker 1: both of you revealed that hey, we're still good with
• 33:17
  Speaker 1: no boundaries are being crossed? What was the like
• 33:21
  Speaker 2: it was just there and then like, you know.
• 33:23
  Speaker 2: OK, you know, I've been with this person and then
• 33:26
  Speaker 2: nothing happened, you know, that kind of thing. So we
• 33:29
  Speaker 2: trust each other and then that's how we, you know,
• 33:32
  Speaker 2: we move forward in
• 33:33
  Speaker 1: life.
• 33:35
  Speaker 2: I love it. And you know what, Liz, you sound
• 33:36
  Speaker 2: so happy. Like your energy is infectious. I love that
• 33:39
  Speaker 2: about you.
• 33:41
  Speaker 2: And we've never met. I'm just hearing your voice from
• 33:44
  Speaker 2: the
• 33:44
  Speaker 1: phone. We're smiling in the studio. Thank you so much.
• 33:46
  Speaker 1: Thank you. Thank
• 33:47
  Speaker 2: you for sharing a different perspective. You have a great day, OK?
• 33:50
  Speaker 2: Take care. You too. Bye-bye. Um, TLDR, in case you
• 33:54
  Speaker 2: just joined us, she was in a relationship for some time,
• 33:57
  Speaker 2: like many years, and, um, her, her now ex-boyfriend always
• 34:02
  Speaker 2: said that, oh, you know, um, my ex is just
• 34:04
  Speaker 2: a friend, you know, we're just very close because we
• 34:06
  Speaker 2: shared a bit.
• 34:07
  Speaker 2: History together. We were roommates at once, at one point, um,
• 34:10
  Speaker 2: but don't worry, there's nothing going on. But guess what?
• 34:12
  Speaker 2: Fast forward years later, it turns out he just admitted
• 34:15
  Speaker 2: that he still has feelings for his ex
• 34:19
  Speaker 2: and,
• 34:19
  Speaker 2: and he basically just carried on with this relationship with
• 34:22
  Speaker 2: my friend for so many years, maybe suppressing his feelings
• 34:26
  Speaker 2: for the ex this whole time.
• 34:27
  Speaker 1: Not, not to defend, right, but if it's a sudden discovery,
• 34:32
  Speaker 1: would you appreciate the honesty?
• 34:35
  Speaker 1: As compared to him hiding it from you?
• 34:39
  Speaker 2: I would. I mean, I would, I'd rather know now
• 34:41
  Speaker 2: than if we like start to plan our future for real.
• 34:46
  Speaker 2: It can be, yeah, it's like how did you realize
• 34:48
  Speaker 2: this time?
• 34:50
  Speaker 1: OK, we have anonymous text coming in. Let me start
• 34:53
  Speaker 1: with the very first one. So, I used to be
• 34:55
  Speaker 1: an insurance agent and I dated my colleague. We're in
• 34:59
  Speaker 1: the same group doing sales and all that.
• 35:01
  Speaker 1: But this guy ended up cheating on me with another colleague.
• 35:04
  Speaker 2: Oh
• 35:05
  Speaker 2: scandal.
• 35:06
  Speaker 1: I
• 35:06
  Speaker 1: found out and I confronted him. He broke up with
• 35:09
  Speaker 1: the ex-colleague, or so he says, because that person left
• 35:14
  Speaker 1: the industry and they were still together, the current boyfriend
• 35:18
  Speaker 1: and girlfriend, but with the ex-colleague they were still communicating
• 35:22
  Speaker 1: on a separate handphone,
• 35:24
  Speaker 2: on
• 35:24
  Speaker 2: a separate phone altogether like a burner phone. Yeah,
• 35:28
  Speaker 2: that's dodgy
• 35:29
  Speaker 1: and this anonymous person found out.
• 35:31
  Speaker 1: Confronted him again and broke up.
• 35:34
  Speaker 2: End of story. End of story. OK. Last anonymous texter
• 35:37
  Speaker 1: here. One more coming in. So, what I strongly believe
• 35:41
  Speaker 1: in relationships is transparency. My girlfriend back then was known
• 35:45
  Speaker 1: for having lots of admirers and occasionally she will flip
• 35:48
  Speaker 1: back and forth to the point where they
• 35:50
  Speaker 1: Attached. She's charming. So when I was with her, she
• 35:52
  Speaker 1: would introduce them, people who were her situationships back then,
• 35:56
  Speaker 1: and I would think nothing of it because I believed her, uh,
• 35:58
  Speaker 1: that they're just friends. After a few months of us dating,
• 36:01
  Speaker 1: I found out the real story, and the outcome was
• 36:04
  Speaker 1: not pretty, to say the least. If this was shared upfront,
• 36:07
  Speaker 1: I would have reacted differently.
• 36:09
  Speaker 1: Conclusion is if your partner chooses to be friends with
• 36:11
  Speaker 1: their ex or someone that used to have a thing with,
• 36:13
  Speaker 1: please be transparent about it. It is not fair for
• 36:16
  Speaker 1: both parties.
• 36:17
  Speaker 2: Oh man, I guess she was a Painful. Oh no.
• 36:23
  Speaker 2: Thank you.
• 36:24
  Speaker 2: Thank you so much for opening up and sharing with us.
• 36:25
  Speaker 2: We have plenty of anonymous messages here today, um, some
• 36:28
  Speaker 2: calls as well, so we really appreciate those. But
• 36:31
  Speaker 1: we go from love stories and all that to being petty. Oh,
• 36:35
  Speaker 1: how petty can
• 36:36
  Speaker 1: you be?
• 36:37
  Speaker 2: Um, actually I'm not a very petty person. I'm quite,
• 36:39
  Speaker 2: I let go of things quite quickly. Oh, OK. Yeah, yeah.
• 36:42
  Speaker 1: Good, good, very good. Uh, that means you won't be
• 36:44
  Speaker 1: able to relate to Girls and their management. What's going
• 36:48
  Speaker 1: on with them?
• 36:50
  Speaker 1: Um, I'm gonna show you a classic picture of Girls' Generation,
• 36:54
  Speaker 1: which was posted 22 hours ago, and in the picture,
• 36:59
  Speaker 1: they say the second mini album, Jeannie, the music video
• 37:03
  Speaker 1: has surpassed 100 million views
• 37:07
  Speaker 1: on YouTube.
• 37:11
  Speaker 2: So what, what, where's the pettiness from? What's happening? So,
• 37:16
  Speaker 1: can you please count how many members are there in
• 37:19
  Speaker 1: the picture?
• 37:20
  Speaker 2: 12,
• 37:20
  Speaker 2: 3456712345678. Yeah, OK. Can you, can you, can you see
• 37:29
  Speaker 2: that a little closer? Go,
• 37:30
  Speaker 1: go, go, go.
• 37:31
  Speaker 2: Is it missing someone?
• 37:32
  Speaker 1: You are absolutely right.
• 37:35
  Speaker 2: Wait, are these throwback pictures? Yes, right?
• 37:38
  Speaker 1: from the genie days,
• 37:39
  Speaker 1: yeah.
• 37:40
  Speaker 2: OK, someone here is missing only because I met her before.
• 37:44
  Speaker 2: It's Jessica.
• 37:45
  Speaker 1: You are absolutely right.
• 37:47
  Speaker 2: Jessica Jeong is missing. Jessica
• 37:49
  Speaker 1: Jeong is missing from this picture, and Jeannie was released
• 37:52
  Speaker 1: in 2009. Yeah, OK, Jessica Jeong left Girls' Generation. If
• 37:56
  Speaker 1: I'm not wrong, I think sometime around 2014, 2015. OK,
• 38:00
  Speaker 1: and she has publicly come out.
• 38:01
  Speaker 1: With her displeasure and she's given reasons on why she
• 38:05
  Speaker 1: left it in thorough interviews
• 38:06
  Speaker 2: and to be honest, ever since then she's been doing
• 38:09
  Speaker 2: her own solo stuff. Yeah she made quite a few
• 38:11
  Speaker 2: appearances here in Singapore
• 38:12
  Speaker 1: and also for the Jeannie music video and the Jeanie song,
• 38:16
  Speaker 1: Jessica's vocals
• 38:17
  Speaker 2: she's like one of the main vocals.
• 38:20
  Speaker 1: To leave her out of this picture and erase her completely.
• 38:25
  Speaker 1: How petty can you be? Just put her there.
• 38:28
  Speaker 2: You know, actually, the fact that they, what, what are
• 38:31
  Speaker 2: the comments like now? Obviously everyone's calling it out,
• 38:34
  Speaker 1: Jessica. Yeah,
• 38:34
  Speaker 2: so that's the thing, like the fact that you leave
• 38:37
  Speaker 2: her out is going to cause more unrest in the
• 38:40
  Speaker 2: comments than if you had just put her in. Exactly.
• 38:42
  Speaker 1: So it's not the Streisand effect where people are giving more.
• 38:46
  Speaker 1: Like to Jessica saying, hey, what's going on here? Unless
• 38:50
  Speaker 1: this was planned all along.
• 38:52
  Speaker 2: What to like drive up the interactions or clicks,
• 38:55
  Speaker 1: the rage
• 38:56
  Speaker 1: controversial or maybe on the flip side they suddenly announced, hey,
• 39:00
  Speaker 1: guess who's back for one time only. Jessica.
• 39:04
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but you know, the fact that they're getting so
• 39:06
  Speaker 2: much negative comments already, that alone is not good, not good,
• 39:11
  Speaker 2: but never forget some of their hits.
• 39:17
  Speaker 1: Do you have the
• 39:18
  Speaker 1: GG
• 39:19
  Speaker 1: GG baby
• 39:20
  Speaker 2: baby baby.
• 39:29
  Speaker 2: I never know what they're saying.
• 39:32
  Speaker 2: It's just noises to me. OK, now.
• 39:37
  Speaker 2: Again,
• 39:39
  Speaker 1: girls' generation paved the way so people like 21 and
• 39:43
  Speaker 1: Blackpink can run.
• 39:44
  Speaker 2: They were the
• 39:44
  Speaker 2: OGs. It's they are the OGs.
• 39:50
  Speaker 2: And when it comes down to restaurant reviews and food reviews, right,
• 39:54
  Speaker 2: it can be very tricky and it can cause a
• 39:56
  Speaker 2: lot of trust issues with us consumers when we read
• 39:59
  Speaker 2: these reviews.
• 40:01
  Speaker 1: And you
• 40:02
  Speaker 1: don't know who to truly now,
• 40:03
  Speaker 2: OK? So I'm gonna take you overseas. This did not happen.
• 40:07
  Speaker 2: Here in Singapore, but it could have, it could have.
• 40:09
  Speaker 2: And you know, when it comes to the art of complaining,
• 40:12
  Speaker 2: you know, plenty of humans do it, not just here
• 40:13
  Speaker 2: in Singapore. So this, um, this particular lady left a
• 40:18
  Speaker 2: one-star review on a restaurant, OK, on what I think
• 40:21
  Speaker 2: presumably is in the US looks like it.
• 40:24
  Speaker 2: She said, I showed up 10 minutes before closing and
• 40:27
  Speaker 2: the waitress looked angry with me. Honey, if you want
• 40:29
  Speaker 2: to close earlier, then change your hours. The menu had
• 40:32
  Speaker 2: too many options and it stressed me out. They served
• 40:35
  Speaker 2: chips and salsa before the meal. When my food came out,
• 40:37
  Speaker 2: I wasn't even hungry anymore. The waitress said things like
• 40:40
  Speaker 2: no problem instead of you're welcome, lacking basic manners. They
• 40:44
  Speaker 2: must have used warm glasses because the ice in my
• 40:47
  Speaker 2: drink melted so fast and watered down my drink. The
• 40:50
  Speaker 2: portions were too big, I had to get a go
• 40:52
  Speaker 2: to bag.
• 40:53
  Speaker 2: I put it in the back seat and it spilled.
• 40:56
  Speaker 2: My car now smells like food. Not gonna come back
• 40:59
  Speaker 2: unless they fix their attitude and their menu. Lady,
• 41:02
  Speaker 1: why are you
• 41:02
  Speaker 1: so angry?
• 41:04
  Speaker 2: What is going on with that?
• 41:05
  Speaker 1: What's happening here?
• 41:06
  Speaker 1: To which,
• 41:07
  Speaker 2: and I wonder whether this has happened here in Singapore
• 41:10
  Speaker 2: where restaurant owners have decided to clap back. Did
• 41:13
  Speaker 1: a
• 41:13
  Speaker 1: Singaporean leave that comment?
• 41:14
  Speaker 2: It sounds like it, right? That's why I said it
• 41:16
  Speaker 2: could have happened here.
• 41:17
  Speaker 2: So, the owner of the restaurant had the ultimate clap.
• 41:20
  Speaker 2: Are you ready for it? Here we go. Here we go.
• 41:22
  Speaker 2: So he, he leaves a comment saying, hold on, let
• 41:24
  Speaker 2: me get this straight. You're angry because #1, you showed
• 41:28
  Speaker 2: up right before closing and you were upset that our
• 41:31
  Speaker 2: staff looked like they were closing. Secondly, you ate so
• 41:34
  Speaker 2: much free appetizers that you weren't hungry anymore. Number 3,
• 41:38
  Speaker 2: ice melts. Number 4, we gave you too much food.
• 41:41
  Speaker 2: Number 5,
• 41:42
  Speaker 2: We didn't personally escort the two gold box out of
• 41:44
  Speaker 2: your back seat. We're sorry that the loss of time, temperature,
• 41:47
  Speaker 2: and personal responsibility did not work in your favor. Our hours, eyes, manners,
• 41:52
  Speaker 2: and menu will remain unchanged.
• 41:54
  Speaker 1: Beautiful clapback. I love
• 41:57
  Speaker 1: it.
• 41:57
  Speaker 2: When I saw it, I burst out laughing and it
• 41:59
  Speaker 2: has since popped off and gone absolutely viral on TikTok
• 42:02
  Speaker 2: and Instagram, and people are just laughing at this woman
• 42:05
  Speaker 2: right now.
• 42:06
  Speaker 1: of manager and boss I want to work for, but
• 42:08
  Speaker 1: I'm not somebody who will cave in to a simple
• 42:10
  Speaker 1: customer complaint.
• 42:11
  Speaker 2: I wonder
• 42:12
  Speaker 2: if this has happened in Singapore where people dare to
• 42:14
  Speaker 2: actually speak up because I know that especially here in Asia,
• 42:17
  Speaker 2: we always go by the customer is always right mentality,
• 42:20
  Speaker 2: but
• 42:20
  Speaker 1: it's, it's archaic thinking already. Organizations, whether you are a
• 42:26
  Speaker 1: yoga studio or even a restaurant or whatsoever, right.
• 42:30
  Speaker 1: If there's always that one anomaly of a customer or
• 42:33
  Speaker 1: a client that complains, right, you know that he or
• 42:36
  Speaker 1: she is the problem. Stand up
• 42:38
  Speaker 2: for yourself.
• 42:39
  Speaker 1: Don't cave in comments like that. Yeah,
• 42:41
  Speaker 2: and you don't want to absorb all this negative energy.
• 42:44
  Speaker 1: OK, on that topic of Google reviews and all this, right,
• 42:48
  Speaker 1: some restaurants here in Singapore, and I was at one recently,
• 42:51
  Speaker 1: I won't say that, but the food is very good,
• 42:52
  Speaker 1: so I didn't mind doing it, OK.
• 42:54
  Speaker 1: They have this sign that says, leave a Google review,
• 42:57
  Speaker 1: you get a free drink or a free dish that
• 42:59
  Speaker 1: I've seen that before.
• 43:01
  Speaker 2: Yeah,
• 43:01
  Speaker 1: but would you do it?
• 43:03
  Speaker 2: I would do it if I've, you know, eaten the
• 43:06
  Speaker 2: food and I actually think that it's nice and I
• 43:08
  Speaker 2: actually like it because to me, as you know me,
• 43:11
  Speaker 2: I am quite a foodie and uh a meal that
• 43:14
  Speaker 2: isn't nice to me or that is not satisfying can
• 43:17
  Speaker 2: put me in a bad mood. So I am very
• 43:19
  Speaker 2: serious about the food.
• 43:25
  Speaker 1: Yeah, but I feel like some people truly sharing how
• 43:27
  Speaker 1: they feel about the food because you can't leave a one.
• 43:30
  Speaker 1: and say, hey, I want my Coke Zero, please. Yeah,
• 43:32
  Speaker 2: no, no, you can't do that. Yeah, exactly. They want
• 43:34
  Speaker 2: you to leave a good review.
• 43:35
  Speaker 1: So that's why now even for the reviews, right, I
• 43:37
  Speaker 1: take it with a pinch of salt.
• 43:38
  Speaker 2: But then it's up to the restaurant to make sure
• 43:40
  Speaker 2: they have a certain standard of food and service as well, to,
• 43:43
  Speaker 2: to dare to like say that, right? Fair enough. Yeah,
• 43:46
  Speaker 2: so it works both ways I feel. Anyway, here's hoping
• 43:49
  Speaker 2: you have a satisfying meal later
• 43:51
  Speaker 2: today.
• 43:51
  Speaker 1: OK, tomorrow I'll be missing from the show. OK, don't
• 43:54
  Speaker 1: miss me too much.
• 43:57
  Speaker 1: No, but, uh, in the morning, I'll actually be at the,
• 44:02
  Speaker 1: our Tampines hub celebrating 10 years of the SG Secure movement. Oh,
• 44:07
  Speaker 2: you're coming to the east side.
• 44:09
  Speaker 1: Yes, I will be, and I think our Prime Minister
• 44:12
  Speaker 1: will be there as well, giving a small speech about
• 44:14
  Speaker 1: SG Secure, and he'll walk through all the booths. So yeah,
• 44:17
  Speaker 1: it's open to the public if I'm not wrong, at
• 44:20
  Speaker 1: least after the whole.
• 44:21
  Speaker 1: Official opening ceremony from now till 27th of September, our
• 44:26
  Speaker 1: Tampines hub to celebrate 10 years of SG Secure.
• 44:30
  Speaker 2: Wow, I mean, you know, speaking of Tampines, which was
• 44:33
  Speaker 2: an area that I spent a lot of time at
• 44:35
  Speaker 2: when I was a kid growing up, it's a very
• 44:38
  Speaker 2: densely populated place. Like it's huge and there are so
• 44:41
  Speaker 2: many amenities around. Like I think there are new BTOs
• 44:44
  Speaker 2: popping up around.
• 44:45
  Speaker 2: That area as well.
• 44:46
  Speaker 1: I mean, Tampines is very big,
• 44:48
  Speaker 2: very big, yeah.
• 44:49
  Speaker 1: Like I realized that Tampines Safra and Tampines hub were
• 44:52
  Speaker 1: actually not too near each other.
• 44:54
  Speaker 2: It's a bit of a walk, yeah.
• 44:56
  Speaker 2: I wouldn't, I wouldn't say, I almost said that Tampines
• 44:59
  Speaker 2: is like the Jurong of the East in a way because,
• 45:03
  Speaker 2: but Jurong is even bigger, I think. It's even bigger.
• 45:06
  Speaker 2: It's just that Tampines is the most densely populated area
• 45:09
  Speaker 2: of the East. I feel personally, yeah.
• 45:11
  Speaker 1: So yeah, if you're coming down, we'll see you there.
• 45:13
  Speaker 1: If not, I'll be back to the show on Thursday.
• 45:15
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and I'll still be yours solo tomorrow morning.