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Season 4 - Episode 245 - How my dad changed his approach · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Hey everybody, welcome to the good morning from the Chicken
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  Coop podcast. My name is Kim Johnson and I am
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  a mastermindset coach, creative strategist, and also happened to
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  be a farmer. This is my chicken coop and I
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  come out here every day to record a podcast to teach
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  distinctions, possibilities, new ways of thinking, and just bring
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  some joy into the world. So welcome to the coop and let's
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  start your day off in a fantastic way.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  And yes, we're out here. It's morning and it's a little
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  bit later, but it's morning. So I could get to do it out here
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  with them in the morning while they're having their breakfast
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  and nice and quiet time in the neighborhood.
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  Today we're talking about resilience and how resilience
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  shows up. And here's what's really
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  interesting. I I have this story from my past
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  about my dad that has stuck with me ever since it happened.
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  So my dad had a heart attack when he was 42 years old and he
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  actually was on a motorcycle having pain down his arm, drove
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  himself to the hospital, walked in and had a heart attack in
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  crazy as that may seem in in the, you know, emergency room,
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  he had the heart attack. So he was in, this happened in
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  the late 70s. So he was in there for quite
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  some time. They didn't have the technology
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  that they do now, but he was in there for quite a bit of time.
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  And, you know, the job he was doing at the time was not a job
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  that he could do when he came out.
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  He was working in nuclear power plants or power plants,
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  depending upon where they sent him, and quite good at his job.
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  He had previously been a contractor.
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  He had done all kinds of stuff. He was a journeyman Carpenter.
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  He was very, very, very mechanically inclined, very much
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  like my son. And he, you know, it was one of
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  those, what do I do now? And when he came out, he had to
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  go through this period of rest where they, you know, told him,
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  oh, it's exact opposite now. But then they wanted him to sit
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  and like, you know, just recover.
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  Now, they would have a moving, they would have different
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  things. But what he decided to do at
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  that point in time, very much to my mother's dismay, was he was
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  going to build himself a kit. He bought a kit to build himself
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  a certain type of gun. He he liked guns.
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  He always had guns. He went hunting, and so he built
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  himself a gun. And during the time he was doing
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  that, he had to figure out what he was going to do next because
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  he couldn't go back to doing that job.
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  And he was so young, and he was not someone that was going to
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  accept being on disability. And again, he was my person.
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  I spent a lot of time with him. So during that time, he would
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  talk and he would just sit and say, you know, yeah, I'm going
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  to be home. I'm getting better.
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  And then I'm going to figure out.
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  I'm figuring out now what I'm going to be doing.
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  And he talked very matter of factly about it.
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  And then he made a decision that he was going to open a car wash.
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  Now, you got to remember there was no Internet.
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  There was no way to search things.
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  You had to buy newspapers and magazines.
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  You had to make actual phone calls.
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  And I distinctly remember them talking about how him and his
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  friend Kenny, Kenny would come over and they would sit at the
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  table and they would talk about this and have coffee and play
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  cards and talk about how they would do it, what they would do.
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  And that eventually they were going to do 1.
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  My dad would have his and Kenny worked for someone that had a
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  car wash. And then Kenny would get his own
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  and they would be able to have a business.
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  And I remember sitting there thinking to myself, oh, that's
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  so fun. We're going to have quarters
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  everywhere because the car wash was always a fun thing to go do
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  and put quarters in. And I would ask questions and he
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  would always answer my questions.
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  And not like I was a little kid, like, you know, I was 10 or 11
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  at the time. And it was, it was just one of
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  those things where he would answer me.
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  He would like actually answer me.
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  I mean, I've been a little bit younger than that, but he would
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  answer me. And the cool part of this whole
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  thing was I never saw him give up.
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  I never saw him say I can't. I don't ever remember my dad
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  saying the words. I can't.
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  And I'm sure he did it sometime about something like I can't go
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  there or I can't do something. But I never remember that.
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  I always saw him be like, all right, let's figure it out.
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  OK, Let let me let me like look into it.
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  And I remember my mother being very upset that he and Kenny
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  were going to drive from Massachusetts to Ohio to pick up
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  all the stuff for this car wash that they were going to build.
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  And she was like worried about them again.
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  No cell phones, can't call, can't chat, can't track, No 360
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  live. And he had had a heart attack.
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  So she was very uncomfortable. But he didn't let her fear stop
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  him. He did it anyway.
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  And I remember him saying to her, you have to let me go.
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  You have to let me do this without feeling that I'm going
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  to cause you a problem. And her anxiety was through the
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  roof. But he dealt with it, and he did
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  what he needed to do because he knew he had to figure out how to
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  take care of his family. And he never gave up.
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  He never gave up. He never gave in.
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  And he never accepted that it was impossible for him to do
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  anything. And that taught me a really big
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  lesson in resilience. So when things don't go the way
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  you think they're going to go, or when things don't go how you
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  want them to go, you have to make a decision about how
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  resilient you want to be. How are you going to throw the
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  towel in? Are you just going to change
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  your approach? Are you going to think of a
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  creative way to get yourself out of it?
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  But that's the key to being resilient.
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  Change the question. Don't rely on yourself to just
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  go back and feel like, oh, I have to throw the towel in.
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  I mean, that's silly. Never throw that towel in.
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  Change the approach. All right, my friends, I hope
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  you have a blessed day and I will see you tomorrow.
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  Bye.